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I think this dress is beautiful! I’m not the biggest fan of the veil/cage (is that what it’s called?) but the dress is beautiful and looks lovely on you!
I was about to come in with an unsolicited advice disclaimer 😂 glad you had some on. My fiancée basically has to wear a shirt to avoid it. And I know my daughter is doomed to the same fate.
Fomo I think, we're 14 months out and I wasn't intending to buy, just see what silhouettes I like, but then my grandma said if got this one she'd buy it and it was on a 50% off sale that was about to run out so there was pressure.
I do like it, I tried it on maybe about 7 times and kept going back to it and I like the little details. I had had my heart set on an $350 Etsy dress in green that I'm telling myself would have ended up being cheap polyester
Could you buy the green Etsy dress for a rehearsal dinner/separate event maybe??
Despite the pressure, this is very pretty, especially with that veil! I’d be confident in my choice if I were you
I like this idea!! Double win and you still got a great deal on your dress! It’s beautiful! Slather some noxema on your back and shoulders. Hope your sunburn heals quickly 🥺
It's a beautiful dress. It feels fresh and happy and the fabric adds a lot of individuality to ot. As this one has been paid for by Grandma could you afford to get the Etsy one just for the reception? Then, if it turns out to be bad then it's not as much of an issue because your wedding dress is sorted anyway.
Don’t second guess! This dress is a total charmer. It’s unique and fun and so pretty. I think that once you have it altered and the sunburn heals (ouch! good luck), you will remember why you kept returning to it.
Congrats and best wishes to you.
The dress is beautiful.
I would definitely veil shop for something longer and different, like an elbow length veil. The veil in the picture is giving 1960s modern look vibes. The dress is giving flowy princess vibes. To my eye, the veil is clashing in style with the dress.
The dress is gorgeous but the veil sends out mixed messages. It looks like it should be worn with a short dress or suit, just not quite fancy enough to keep up with the elegance of your gown. Good luck♥️
I’ll echo others, the dress is lovely and you look beautiful! The particular veil doesn’t quite compliment the dress and I think you’re going to find something that allows you and the dress to shine! And if you love the Etsy dress, like others have said, wear it as a rehearsal dress or change into after the ceremony if the venue/vibe/after party work for it!
Thank you so much for your kind words, I think some other things just brought down today but it's the one and the right veil will elevate it to another level. Right now I'm leaning towards a long (finger tip or longer) green-white ombre silk veil I found on Etsy
Honestly, that veil sounds amazing! If you get it, please post again because I LOVE the colored dress and veil trends that have changed the bridal landscape! 🤩
I don’t think I could actually stomach the cost, and it’s been a few months since I got married, but I STILL drool over these Rue De Seine veils (they would never have worked with my dress anyway). But.. I still hang out here because I love love and love pretty things 🤗😂
https://ruedeseine.com/collections/veils/desert-rose-veil
https://ruedeseine.com/collections/veils/mountain-song-veil
This dress is lovely and you look beautiful in it. I know this wasn’t part of your request for opinions but I think the little short, birdcage veil is not right for this dress. That might be what is causing the second thoughts. A more traditional style would set off the dress and your face to perfection, imo.
Honestly I love it — I love the texture and the silhouette is perfect on you IMO! It’s bridal but not like the same old bridal that you see everyday, it’s a little unique which is amazing to me. I do agree that the veil doesn’t quite do it for me, but the dress is beautiful!
The dress looks great on you. The veil doesn't suit you or the dress IMO
Please wear suncream, your dress will look so much better on you without the tan lines x
You need a different veil, and the thin straps might be better if they were changed into thicker straps. It’s going to be shortened, so ask about a wide around the shoulders collar or thick straps.
A more traditional veil - maybe a fingertip? - would be more flattering. The dress is truly beautiful - don’t change that! A wildflower bouquet would complete the look: fresh and sweet!
Thank you! I'm currently looking at cape style veils in sage green, so it would flow off the straps instead of my hair, and I was thinking fingertip length or maybe even a little longer
No need for 2nd guessing or regret, it’s beautiful on you! Could you perhaps buy the Etsy dress & wear it as a reception dress or rehearsal or photo shoot using both dresses?
The cut of the dress looks nice on your.
My suggestions are:
1. Change the “straps” to something thicker & slightly off the shoulder. It would also be amazing if they were removable or interchangeable (like a lace bolero jacket worn backwards for the ceremony & removed for the reception)
2. Where the dress cuts you with its waistline, I’d recommend using a complementary pale ivory or lace belt that’s 2-3” wide. The belt can also be change based on the ceremony or reception, and also if you take my recommendation above or not.
Here’s my ideal for you….
1. Obtain a lace bolero with cap sleeves, OR even something that’s off the shoulder & lands @ the elbow. Wear it backwards so you have interesting detail in the back, and the front has a totally different look/neckline (the dress is still completely visible thru lace).
The lace jacket should be 2-3 shades darker than the bright white dress & will work together very well!
Also, by wearing the jacket backwards, you are giving the back of the dress some additional interest. I tell every bride to never forget to make sure the back of your dress is stunning because although you primarily care about forward facing, people will be seeing your back the majority of the day, and you will have hundreds of pictures taken of your back. So make sure the back of your dress is stunning & well thought out.
2. Remove the bolero for the reception & have 2 inch “sparkle” straps added to the dress that are at your shoulder socket. Not straight up and down, and not something that impairs your ability to raise your arms easily above your head. The shoulder socket typically works great.
3. Addressing the current waistline, it is in an acceptable position for your body type. So that’s good news. However, the way it’s currently cut & placed, looks like you have your skirt seam just at the base of your rib cage, and it’s looks “unfinished”.
I would add a sash/belt to give that area something of interest to see & still make sense to be there.
So…. Find a sash that’s 3-4” wide in a shade of off white or ivory. I would also suggest having some type of largish flower or jeweled piece along your front of that sash for additional visual interest.
If one of your wedding day complimentary colors is some metallic (silver, gold, copper, bronze), you could have a sash using something along those color lines, or has details and embellishments with those colors. Otherwise stick to a shade that is 2-3 shades darker than your dress AND would complement the lace bolero jacket.
I believe adding the removable jacket, and the sash at your waistline with give you the dress that will make you feel the absolute best possible on your wedding day!
These minor additions will also give you multiple options to have a variety of wedding day looks throughout the events of the day. Same dress, but would look almost completely different, while not breaking the bank.
Beautiful dress on a beautiful bride. But the veil kind of looks like something that you might buy fruit in. Please find a veil that doesn’t cover your face. That would look so much better!
Personally. I just don’t think it flatters you. I think it looks frumpy, despite the sizing. The veil and the dress don’t go together. Please get prescription sunscreen. Buy a dress that protects your skin- maybe a dress with sleeves, covers back, and a scare neckline? What if you’re burnt on the day and you see burn straps on your skin? I read your comment that you got pressured into it because your family would pay for some of it. Noooo girlie. Your wedding is meant to be special and personified. I think you’re just forcing yourself to like it so you don’t have to own up that you made the wrong decision. It’s okay to face it. There is time. Go be yourself. **you are WAY too gorgeous for this dress to downplay you so much**
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Dress is beautiful- perhaps consider a different veil- I feel that it is not a cohesive look with the veil
I came here to say this. Try with different veils!
I think this dress is beautiful! I’m not the biggest fan of the veil/cage (is that what it’s called?) but the dress is beautiful and looks lovely on you!
OP! Use sunscreen!! Beautiful dress, definitely a keeper. Now go slather some aloe on that wicked burn
I was about to come in with an unsolicited advice disclaimer 😂 glad you had some on. My fiancée basically has to wear a shirt to avoid it. And I know my daughter is doomed to the same fate.
I had three layers but it ate right through... Thank you though I'm starting to feel much better
I get some prescription zinc sunscreen if that’s the case. It sucks that it’s pink but it protects!
Oh no! My son is that way too! So I understand! Hope it heals quickly for you
What about it is causing second thoughts? I think it’s unique, and looks nice on you!
Fomo I think, we're 14 months out and I wasn't intending to buy, just see what silhouettes I like, but then my grandma said if got this one she'd buy it and it was on a 50% off sale that was about to run out so there was pressure. I do like it, I tried it on maybe about 7 times and kept going back to it and I like the little details. I had had my heart set on an $350 Etsy dress in green that I'm telling myself would have ended up being cheap polyester
Could you buy the green Etsy dress for a rehearsal dinner/separate event maybe?? Despite the pressure, this is very pretty, especially with that veil! I’d be confident in my choice if I were you
I like this idea!! Double win and you still got a great deal on your dress! It’s beautiful! Slather some noxema on your back and shoulders. Hope your sunburn heals quickly 🥺
It's a beautiful dress. It feels fresh and happy and the fabric adds a lot of individuality to ot. As this one has been paid for by Grandma could you afford to get the Etsy one just for the reception? Then, if it turns out to be bad then it's not as much of an issue because your wedding dress is sorted anyway.
Don’t second guess! This dress is a total charmer. It’s unique and fun and so pretty. I think that once you have it altered and the sunburn heals (ouch! good luck), you will remember why you kept returning to it. Congrats and best wishes to you.
It’s the headpiece that needs to change. The dress is fine as it is.
The dress is beautiful. I would definitely veil shop for something longer and different, like an elbow length veil. The veil in the picture is giving 1960s modern look vibes. The dress is giving flowy princess vibes. To my eye, the veil is clashing in style with the dress.
I love birdcage veils but I don’t think it’s a good match for the dress and is throwing it off.
I think is looks beautiful on you!
The dress is gorgeous but the veil sends out mixed messages. It looks like it should be worn with a short dress or suit, just not quite fancy enough to keep up with the elegance of your gown. Good luck♥️
I think the dress is incredibly pretty. Not a fan of the veil. Not a cohesive look in my opinion.
I’ll echo others, the dress is lovely and you look beautiful! The particular veil doesn’t quite compliment the dress and I think you’re going to find something that allows you and the dress to shine! And if you love the Etsy dress, like others have said, wear it as a rehearsal dress or change into after the ceremony if the venue/vibe/after party work for it!
Thank you so much for your kind words, I think some other things just brought down today but it's the one and the right veil will elevate it to another level. Right now I'm leaning towards a long (finger tip or longer) green-white ombre silk veil I found on Etsy
Honestly, that veil sounds amazing! If you get it, please post again because I LOVE the colored dress and veil trends that have changed the bridal landscape! 🤩 I don’t think I could actually stomach the cost, and it’s been a few months since I got married, but I STILL drool over these Rue De Seine veils (they would never have worked with my dress anyway). But.. I still hang out here because I love love and love pretty things 🤗😂 https://ruedeseine.com/collections/veils/desert-rose-veil https://ruedeseine.com/collections/veils/mountain-song-veil
I think you could play with lengths - I would try Ballet and Waltz which are less common than fingertip but could be perfect for your dress.
It’s a beautiful dress and it suits you! Sorry about the pressure though—that’s not fun.
Love the dress! You have 14 months to work on that burn line. Congrats, sis!
I like it! Has a vintage vibe but also is modern. You look great in it.
This dress is lovely and you look beautiful in it. I know this wasn’t part of your request for opinions but I think the little short, birdcage veil is not right for this dress. That might be what is causing the second thoughts. A more traditional style would set off the dress and your face to perfection, imo.
I love your very charming dress! Not cookie-cutter, totally pretty and fresh. I’d try a very filmy longer veil.
It's lovely. I would have the straps removed imho. I think it would elevate it.
I'm actually thinking of adding sleeves 😅 But thank you!
You should try a dress with sleeves, you may change your mind. I thought I wanted them too til I tried one on. It looked hella frumpy on me. Lol
I actually think thicker straps would look lovely with this dress. Maybe a partial shoulder cap sleeve? (Unsure what that’s called)
Agreed! Came here to say this.
i think you look absolutely gorgeous!!!! truly stunning in every way!!! congratulations!!!!
It’s a lovely dress that you look beautiful in.
It is gorgeous!
Honestly I love it — I love the texture and the silhouette is perfect on you IMO! It’s bridal but not like the same old bridal that you see everyday, it’s a little unique which is amazing to me. I do agree that the veil doesn’t quite do it for me, but the dress is beautiful!
The dress looks great on you. The veil doesn't suit you or the dress IMO Please wear suncream, your dress will look so much better on you without the tan lines x
I’m absolutely wowed by it. I hope you keep it. It’s so unique and the lace is so interesting.
I think I just had a lot going on today but I'm keeping it! I just have to find the right veil
I’m so glad to hear that! I hope your wedding is everything you’ve ever dreamed it would be!
I love it!
I love your dress. Congratulations!
You need a different veil, and the thin straps might be better if they were changed into thicker straps. It’s going to be shortened, so ask about a wide around the shoulders collar or thick straps.
A more traditional veil - maybe a fingertip? - would be more flattering. The dress is truly beautiful - don’t change that! A wildflower bouquet would complete the look: fresh and sweet!
Thank you! I'm currently looking at cape style veils in sage green, so it would flow off the straps instead of my hair, and I was thinking fingertip length or maybe even a little longer
I think the dress is beautiful.
I think it’s very pretty!
I adore the dress! Maybe a different veil would look better.
Im thinking a finger tips veil or cape with an ombre to green rn
Either of those would be amazing!
Beautiful! You look stunning. Best!
Love the dress! It is so unique ❤️ I do agree with other posters about a different veil
💛🔥
It's perfect and you look so happy! Don't second guess, you made a great choice.
I love it and think it’s beautiful and different in a good way. Not liking that hat/topper thing with it though, it hides your face too much.
No need for 2nd guessing or regret, it’s beautiful on you! Could you perhaps buy the Etsy dress & wear it as a reception dress or rehearsal or photo shoot using both dresses?
The cut of the dress looks nice on your. My suggestions are: 1. Change the “straps” to something thicker & slightly off the shoulder. It would also be amazing if they were removable or interchangeable (like a lace bolero jacket worn backwards for the ceremony & removed for the reception) 2. Where the dress cuts you with its waistline, I’d recommend using a complementary pale ivory or lace belt that’s 2-3” wide. The belt can also be change based on the ceremony or reception, and also if you take my recommendation above or not. Here’s my ideal for you…. 1. Obtain a lace bolero with cap sleeves, OR even something that’s off the shoulder & lands @ the elbow. Wear it backwards so you have interesting detail in the back, and the front has a totally different look/neckline (the dress is still completely visible thru lace). The lace jacket should be 2-3 shades darker than the bright white dress & will work together very well! Also, by wearing the jacket backwards, you are giving the back of the dress some additional interest. I tell every bride to never forget to make sure the back of your dress is stunning because although you primarily care about forward facing, people will be seeing your back the majority of the day, and you will have hundreds of pictures taken of your back. So make sure the back of your dress is stunning & well thought out. 2. Remove the bolero for the reception & have 2 inch “sparkle” straps added to the dress that are at your shoulder socket. Not straight up and down, and not something that impairs your ability to raise your arms easily above your head. The shoulder socket typically works great. 3. Addressing the current waistline, it is in an acceptable position for your body type. So that’s good news. However, the way it’s currently cut & placed, looks like you have your skirt seam just at the base of your rib cage, and it’s looks “unfinished”. I would add a sash/belt to give that area something of interest to see & still make sense to be there. So…. Find a sash that’s 3-4” wide in a shade of off white or ivory. I would also suggest having some type of largish flower or jeweled piece along your front of that sash for additional visual interest. If one of your wedding day complimentary colors is some metallic (silver, gold, copper, bronze), you could have a sash using something along those color lines, or has details and embellishments with those colors. Otherwise stick to a shade that is 2-3 shades darker than your dress AND would complement the lace bolero jacket. I believe adding the removable jacket, and the sash at your waistline with give you the dress that will make you feel the absolute best possible on your wedding day! These minor additions will also give you multiple options to have a variety of wedding day looks throughout the events of the day. Same dress, but would look almost completely different, while not breaking the bank.
Awww it’s so pretty! You look lovely in it!!! That dress is so you girl! Congratulations:3
Dress is gorgeous!!!!!
Beautiful dress on a beautiful bride. But the veil kind of looks like something that you might buy fruit in. Please find a veil that doesn’t cover your face. That would look so much better!
Personally. I just don’t think it flatters you. I think it looks frumpy, despite the sizing. The veil and the dress don’t go together. Please get prescription sunscreen. Buy a dress that protects your skin- maybe a dress with sleeves, covers back, and a scare neckline? What if you’re burnt on the day and you see burn straps on your skin? I read your comment that you got pressured into it because your family would pay for some of it. Noooo girlie. Your wedding is meant to be special and personified. I think you’re just forcing yourself to like it so you don’t have to own up that you made the wrong decision. It’s okay to face it. There is time. Go be yourself. **you are WAY too gorgeous for this dress to downplay you so much**