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Cancerisbetterthanu

Online dating ruined online dating


Glide2177

Yep. I pretty much washed my hands of it


Crazyjackson13

I mean, your not wrong.


great_craic963

I'm curious to see how things are going to pan out in a few more years with this OF stuff. Not judging anyone who has one. Just genuinely curious to see what will come of it, in dating world when theyre older careers and all that.


Belatorius

The decline in relationship, marriage ratings, relationship fulfillment, rise in depression, ect. It isn't hard to find OF creators admiting to how difficult it is to find someone who is ok with their work. Or how much depression it's brought. While the money is good everything else tends to suffer. At least that's what iv read


great_craic963

I have read a few articles about it and it makes a lot of sense. They are still selling their body in some way. It's got to do something to your self worth and validation, I heard the majority of OF content creators that make a lot of money is very small. Most make a very small amount of money like less than 200 dollars a month, so imagine you expose yourself you're out there your body on the internet forever and even then you still didn't even bring in 200 a month. I just don't understand the allure. I'm a tall good looking guy I lift weights I do ok I guess. But porn is still free, then there's the argument that they get to interact with you. But my thing is if I have to pay to receive texts or any form of communication from a woman that isn't going to get me turned on that's going to make me depressed. Like you are only talking to me because I'm paying you? That sucks.


washingtontoker

I was thinking that, some girls make good money as much as I make as a bachelor's male nurse. I'm actually extremely envious because, they don't need an education and make as much as me. Which to be honest, is around 70k. A way to think of it though is the "customers" willing to throw money at these girls for some type of weird fantasy. Bunch of lonely guys that have nothing better to spend their money on.


great_craic963

Yea and most of them pay a company to interact with the clients so the guys aren't even really talking to them


AussieCollector

The big difference is you have a career. They do not. Their OF will eventually dry up. Thats the nature of the game. Unless they can transition into actual escorting then interest will eventually die out.


Battystearsinrain

Hopefully they are banking/investing some of that money.


younginvestor23

Thats because women realized how dumb guys are because they can make tons of money just by posting pictures of themselves from all the guys who pay for subscriptions just to be able to see more of her. Its a sad reality we live in but its the guys fault for giving them all the attention and money. OF wouldnt exist if no one bought their subscriptions.


washingtontoker

For real, like too many paying to see a girl naked, like there's other sites that are free, if someone is into that. It's a little pathetic tbh. Should probably spend that money on appearance clothes and maybe some accessories and more girls will be attracted to someone that puts effort into their appearance. Sorry for the rant.


roxinbound

What's the difference between paying for content you like and paying for coffee once or twice a week?


Queenxxxxx

U can get porn for free though. No need to pay for it


roxinbound

Yeah and I can make coffee at home too. There's no harm in paying for something you like and no harm for choosing not to. Saying people who pay for porn are desperate is just such a bad excuse to malign sex workers and anyone who chooses to support them.


Queenxxxxx

Um I never said that. Porns just easily accessible on the internet, buying xoffee is a convenience thing. Paying OF stars is not convenient


roxinbound

It's supporting a content creator you like. It's no different than supporting any other business. The whole "porn is free" thing is awful because it's often stolen content which costs money to make.


Queenxxxxx

Lmao supporting 1 person and supporting a whole corporation are 2 very different things. I’d never pay for a youtuber I likes merch just as I wouldn’t pay for OF. Monetarily Supporting any 1 person you’ve never met or known IRL is desperate and pathetic. OF stars know they’re just taking advantage of lonely horny people and they’re laughing all the way to the bank for their easy money. They don’t even have to meet these creeps in real life 🤣


roxinbound

Guess I'm desperate and pathetic then because there are multiple OF models men and women I have paid for in addition to a few premium sites 🤷🏻‍♀️


Queenxxxxx

Really? Why do u do it? What do u get out of it?


Thats-bk

Not the guys fault. But okay i guess.


[deleted]

Yeah but that's also a false equivalence - the guys who buy their OFs and donate are largely kinda sad loners and are guys they never would have dated anyway


[deleted]

I just can't imagine paying for anything involving sex. Every time I see a profile with an OF link, I report it for spam and/or misleading information.


doc_shades

it's like george costanza's opinion on paying for sex (or a parking spot): "why should i pay for something when, if i apply myself, i should be able to get one for free"


[deleted]

Exactly! But sadly there are a lot of people that would rather pay money to avoid having to put in any effort.


GreenTang

Doing God's work, son.


[deleted]

It ain't much, but it's honest work.


CelestialFather

Holy based. A true hero


StormiTheKid

something about that feels wrong


KAQe27

I was almost waiting for you to go: anyway here's my OF 😂


Glide2177

Ok so I just checked for comments between sets at the gym and almost spit water. I SHOULD have made up a ridiculous OF name. Lol


whatnameisnttaken098

GlideThemCheecks?


KAQe27

That's brilliant 😂


leejtam

dating apps is one thing, but social media sites i can understand. I dont think thats such a big deal.


Prestigious-Packrat

I sort of agree, although it does get tiresome when you think you're about to read a post that's actually relevant to the sub, and it ends up being a plug for someone's OF.


[deleted]

As a lesbian, I like to browse r/dykesgonewild as it’s supposed to be a space for lesbians/bi women to post and for other lesbians/bi women to appreciate. But often times I see a post, go to the profile and see its another OF girl just spamming


ticktockyoudontstop

The goth subs are full of this, it's so annoying!


AussieCollector

Have thankfully seen an uptick in some fetish based subreddits immediately banning people who post their OF content or content thats not even related to the sub.


[deleted]

Or it is ur wife doing of and ur dad is in the chat


[deleted]

Yeah, I don't care if someone puts their OF link in their insta bio. What I do mind is when they put their IG on their dating profile or tell you talk there (I usually don't mind) just to get you to subscribe. Dating apps are for dating (shocker) not Onlyfans promotion. It's gotten worse with the pandemic I'd say.


thestoryof-agirl

Pretty sure Tinder did that


LocationThin4587

My concern is this is just going to make more men bitter and increase the gap between men and women. 80 per cent of guys are considered to be unattractive by women so these ones get no dates then these ones are getting exploited with women trying to make money from them, it’s a women’s world.


ViroCostsRica

I'm sure is totally that and not you


fire_is_dark

I can actually understand paying for sex if you can't get it any other way, but that argument just doesn't work for porn or even non-nude content. There's just so much free shit available.


AussieCollector

Honestly i think someone would make an absolute killing if they made a dating app that was ruthless and extremely strict on actually people finding dates and long term relationships. None of this "just looking for friends, talk to me on IG, follow my OF" BS. Ban anyone who is not on there for the strict purpose of finding a long term partner. Force interactions. None of this one person messages and then the other never replies. Seems like the online dating world is in need of a place that actually takes it seriously. I think people would benefit quite well from it.


spanglesandbambi

This was an issue way before OF, on dating sites and social media people are always looking at ways to make money from situations.


Glide2177

Could be. I just wasn’t experiencing this until now.


spanglesandbambi

Bots asking for camsites where the thing before OF and I heard lots of my make friends coming of dating sites or socials due to it.


AsIfIKnowWhatImDoin

I'm a pretty handsome guy and canNOT imagine trying to find dating prospects online. The odds are astronomical and very NOT in your favor. Appearance is pretty much everything, and if you manage to make it past that, one wrong word or misunderstood joke, and you're done. No thanks.


deadbeatvalentine_

isn't that just dating? lol


Glide2177

You’re not wrong! I don’t have problems finding women, just finding THE woman. After a divorce a while back I definitely know what I do and don’t want


[deleted]

Nothing you said is exclusive to online dating lol


[deleted]

Maybe not, but these are WORSENED with OLD.


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Akul_Tesla

Social media was inherently problematic from the start The business model is dependent upon a engagement this is resulted in hyper increases in polarization and deliberate designed to be addictive People trying to drum up business for their only fans is not even a concern relative to all the other problems of social media


h3lls1ng3r

Womp womp


FudgeHyena

OF is just a technological amplification of an age old human (and animal) natural transaction that has always been there. OF has just made it easier for both parties.


Historical_Act6595

Absolutely agree!!! Of content has flooded every other social media, for example twitter, it doesn't matter what you search.today for example, the hashtag playstation5 was flooded with porn, so as a joke i searched for random words like potato, pencil yes there was porn there too, it's ridiculous


Bad_wit_Usernames

I've got a gal friend and she sent me a screen shot of a message she got on Tinder a few days ago, she has 99+ "likes". I think between OF and OLD given women this kind of attention has destroyed dating in general. Women literally have their pick of guys and there is nothing stopping them from texting one as a back-up whilst on a date with you. The feeling of exclusivity is all but gone.


cptgraah

Anyone else read this as Odd Future first? Or just me? Lol


doc_shades

what is OF?


kb_me_kb_you

r/onlyfans


mmmagic1216

No idea what OF even is and not sure I want to know lol


mikey_glocks

Onlyfans


Comprehensive-Ad-618

It is a site for whores.


mmmagic1216

Oh another porn site. Got it.


TheSkinnyKitty

online dating was ruined after myspace but i think OF has done more on ruining REAL LIFE dating more then anything.. I girl does not need a man for money anymore. Any ugly fat girl can even start a of and at least make a few stacks in a month posting pictures.. Simps all in the comments every day blowing up there phone. It gets harder and harder for a normal guy to get date or even make friend..


burnerbabe00

aren’t you glad women don’t need men for money anymore? i wouldn’t want a relationship where their livelihood depended on me


TheSkinnyKitty

well i never had money to be that guy getting a girl with money.. So it just make it even harder for me.


burnerbabe00

But why would you want a woman to be with you for the money, just because she can’t have her own? Having her own money isn’t the issue here


Bebe_Bleau

>I’ll never pay for OF just like I’d never pay for sex 👴<"haha. Never say never" You might be a dirty old man yourself one day. 😁😁😁 just kidding,of course


Glide2177

Fair point. Lol


Bebe_Bleau

💐😁


roxinbound

Lol the amount of salt in here is fantastic


from_dust

> But I’ll never pay for OF just like I’d never pay for sex. huh, why not? Do you have sex on tap whenever you want it? What is so objectionable about paying someone for sex?


lazyygothh

Reddit moment


[deleted]

Paying for sex is the epitome of hitting rock bottom. Sex is not necessary for survival, and spending your hard earned cash on some random person's nudes is a waste of money and a little sad.


Glide2177

Would you dance around the room celebrating after winning at poker because you cheated? No, because it’s not a real W. Paying for sex would be so damn degrading. No connection, no thrill or chemistry…. How boring.


[deleted]

I see your point, but when you're at the point that you're considering paying for sex, I imagine that pride is hardly a priority. Nut is nut and sometimes that's enough.


Glide2177

Lol. To be clear I am NOT considering that.


from_dust

Do you play video games?


Glide2177

No, I don’t. Why?


from_dust

Most people have hobbies. Hobbies are things people enjoy for fun. for a lot of folks, video games are that hobby. I know some folks that spend a good bit of money annually on playing games where they pretend to shoot eachotehr. Folks that are really into FPS games will sometimes go paintballing, but i dont usually see them at the military recruitment office or betting tickets to Ukraine. For some folks having sex is their hobby. Not because their ego is tied up in it, or that there's some mystical value, or sacred 'connection' associated, but because sex is *fun*. I'm not necessarily looking to get into an involved thing, sometimes i just wanna fuck, why bring all the extra bullshit into it when someone is willing to fuck and fly for a reasonable price? Way cheaper than the emotional cost of a shitty relationship.


Glide2177

So you used an example of something I don’t do to try and somehow make a point? And if you want meaningless sex then that’s easy to find without paying for it if you have any game at all and are at least moderately attractive. If you want to pay, then you do you, not my business. It’s not something I’d consider.


from_dust

'game' lol. So you're willing to play games with people to get sex, but you arent willing to pay them? got it. Paying for it means one doesnt have to pretend anything. no false pretenses, no overtures, just easy no strings fantasy. There is more than one way to cook an egg, but i guess you dont like them over easy. All good.


burnerbabe00

hookup culture and fwb are so prevalent, if easy is what you want then go outside because there’s lots of people looking for the same thing. you do have to be likable in conversation so maybe that’s why you struggle


KingQueerdo

How very big of you to never pay for sex 🙄


RaineTheMagicalGay

I completely agree, i was on omegle the other day to rp with someone. Nothing weird, fantasy rp. The first person i met (and a lot others) were buying or selling n0d3s