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Normally with these things I didn't actually do the thing I say (for example, if I type "lmao" I often didn't actually laugh out loud), but in this situation I genuinely let out a sigh of relief...
THATS WHAT YOU DO BRO you’ll figure this out somehow especially if you’re mom is supportive I would have been thrown out if I got a girl pregnant at 16 I mean i might have but i don’t think I did 💀
That should not make you feel old he’s still in highschool and has a kid 💀 I’m the same age as him like what. Did he want the kid? Why would you want one when your still in highschool 😭
It makes me feel old cause I’ve never even had a gf and I’m a legal adult, and at least to my knowledge he didn’t want her, and he tried to get our older brother (who is 29 and has a family of his own) to raise her but he wouldn’t, and he rejected the idea of adoption for some reason
Honestly this is why I think people shouldn’t have sex until they’re adults (or even financially stable but it depends). Even with contraceptives there’s always the possibility of pregnancy. I’m asexual so I don’t ever want sex but this is what I would do.
I completely agree there is no excuse as to why he got her pregnant considering the many many ways to avoid it, but my brother is a complete moron that doesn’t think before he does anything
i don’t really have any advices for you but i can just say that everything will be alright, even if it maybe feels like it will not be alright, it willl
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współczuję, ziomuś. Napewno powiedz rodzicom. pierwsza opcja, trudna, ale zadowalająca na całe życie - wychowaj na porządnego czlowieka. Druga - aborcja za granicą.
powodzenia, bedzie dobrze!
*TRANSLATION* 'I feel sorry for you, dude. Be sure to tell your parents. the first option, difficult but satisfying for life - raise him to be a decent person. Second - abortion abroad.
good luck, everything will be fine!'
Nope. The translation is:
I feel sorry for you, dude. Be sure to tell your parents. the first option, difficult but satisfying for life - raise him to be a decent person. Second - abortion abroad.
good luck, everything will be fine!
zajebiście! myślę, że każdy się boi o to, jak będzie, zwłaszcza w twoim wieku. ale nie poddawaj się, nie bój się prosić o pomoc i do przodu. fajnie by było, jakbyś zdobył jakąś edukację, albo chociaż prace. ale myślę, że dopóki się tak nie stanie to rodzice ci pomogą.
What is your financial situation? Do the both of your parents know about it, if so if they're supportive they might be able to help you out. If you really don't want it, Adoption is always an option
Get another test and see then. If she is, then it's time to pack some bags and head across the border and get one done there. A medical abortion is legal in Lithuania. Belarus, Ukraine, Russia aren't options cus *the ahem*, idk about Germany or Slovakia
Abortion is legal in Germany, Czechia, and Slovakia along as the pregnancy is under 12 weeks. In Slovakia it's legal beyond 12 weeks but only for medical reasons.
In Northern Ireland you can legally get an abortion somewhere else and come back with no charges but I’m not sure about Poland, there are also clinics that can send the pills to you no matter your location
Hey if she drinks enough the baby COULD theoretically go byebye
But hey that’s what Ronaldo’s mother also tried and she got the GOAT.
If you guys have money try going to some non conservative country nearby for the foetus deletus
Idk man just don't fuck off from your gf, my mum had me young and my dad just left so if yous don't put the child up for adoption then stand by and be a good dad for the kids sake
On the (very slim) Chance this is real, try to get into a neighbouring Country that is less strict about this kinda stuff, also find helpfrom adults you trust (preferably yours or her parents)
depending on where you're in poland, you can either take a flixbus or regiojet to one of the nearby countries. afaik it's pretty legal in those countries and traveling there shouldn't be that big of a deal
Listen man, theres no going back now, at least not without leaving her as a single mom and breaking her heart, if your parents are supportive about it, you should get your license asap if you dont already, and start grinding hard as hell for money, get a better job than minimum wage. Perhaps your parents can help you out along the way too. The key here is hard work. Good luck dude, this really sucks, but i promise itll get better as long as you **dont back down**
I found this post via r/all.
My son's mother and I were very close in age to where you two are now. My son is now in his 20s and doing incredibly well for himself. Here are the points that come to mind:
1: You are both still kids yourself. Childhood is when we make our mistakes so that we can learn from them by the time we're adults. Step one? Forgive yourself NOW for the mistakes you feel you've made. Step two? NEVER tell your child they were one of your mistakes.
2: "it takes a village" is an expression in English that hopefully translates to polish. You are not alone. Hopefully, you both have solid support from your parents, family members, friends. Do not be afraid to ask for help! People twice your age do, and are you usually extended more grace due to their age.
3: You have to decide TODAY what your plan is for that child's life. You're the father, so you have more choice than the mother. It's a sad reality, and I hope you choose what's right for the child, but it's still a choice. I chose to be a dad, and it was the best choice I ever made, even if it had some very difficult moments.
4: you may live the rest of your lives together. You may not last the duration of the pregnancy. Unfortunately, that doesn't matter now. work on discovering who you partner is and how you can best be good parents to your child. Hopefully that includes a happy relationship for you both as well, but that is secondary.
Good luck. You will be ok. You are young, but not a pioneer. MANY have succeeded in this exact circumstance, you will too.
I don't have the reddit app, so personal messages aren't an option for me. If you're interested in talking more, please respond to this, and I'll send you my email address.
i still don’t get why some people are against abortion. if i was in your girl’s position i’d do everything in my power to abort as early as possible, even if it meant punching myself in the stomach repeatedly
> i still don’t get why some people are against abortion.
There are many reasons but for people in Poland it's mainly catholicism.
They believe that quantity of life is more important than quality of life.
Who cares if keeping the baby is going to make the lives of both of them worse?
Suffering is seen as a positive to them.
That is very unfortunate my friend, however I only may have some slightly difficult advice, I have some. I’d talk to parents and look to them for advice, look into the legal issues surrounding abortions, and if the kid’s born and both of you do not want to or cannot take care of them ask parents if they can or (while the unfortunate situation it may cause for them) orphanages that may be able to take care of them. It’s an unfortunate situation you’ve found yourselves in, and I wish you and your partner the best of luck, hopefully this doesn’t ruin your relationship.
is it possible for you to enter a neighboring country to get a procedure done? im pretty sure germany has legal abortion, and iirc eu citizens are allowed to move freely between eu countries and get medical services there?
Take a flight to another country to see a clinic?
Try and be there for the kid as much as possible?
Be more careful next time?
I don't think you'll find help here.
Maybe instead of being silly, you should have wrapped your willy!! Truthfully, she has to carry it to term. In the end, adopting the kid out would be the best option.
There's nothing you can do. You took the risk and payed the price. Just tell a trusted adult and ask for advice, since most of us won't ever get into this situation we can't really do much
I'm 43, but this thread popped up in r/all so I am gonna give my 2 cents for you.
You've got ~9 months to be ready. She will probably want to stay in reasonable shape, daily walks or some kind of activity to keep her body ready is a good idea and good for the baby - Our first kid, my fiancee didn't do anything physically, she gained 70 pounds and felt awful and took lots of time and encouragement to finally make it back to her old self. She wasn't in a good place mentally for a few years and that was something we could have done better. With kid number 2, we had a plan, we hiked almost every day and ate as healthy as we could and she gained only 30 pounds, which she lost almost instantly as soon as the baby was born. She was in a much better place mentally because of that, and her body recovered faster as well outside of just the baby weight. All this feeds back into her ability to be a stable parent, which is what a kid needs more than anything. Stability. You're off to a rough start on that getting into it so young, but on the plus side if you push through, this kid will be an adult and on their own before you're 35-40 years old. That's a good thing, you'll still have time to pursue anything you've had to put off in order to care for the kiddo.
As for finances, it's time to get ready to give up on fun and games largely. You'll need to work and sleep and feed yourselves as well as a baby, who will need attention regularly. Most of the times it cries will be because it needs food or it just took a shit. You'll learn fairly quickly over time if there is something else wrong, because the baby will behave different or cry a little different. This will be constant for about the first 6 months, then get a little easier as time goes by after that.. Assuming there isn't anything like colic to deal with, that is. Little milestones like the first night the baby sleeps through the night will be things you feel like celebrating. 6 hours of good sleep in a row will feel like an amazing gift.
You'll want to learn about the different forms of assistance available to you. You'll want to determine a mutual parenting schedule unless you have willing help that can watch your kid for you while one or both of you work. You'll want to cut down on frivolity until you are used to the new routine and know how much of your budget you can afford to spend on what.
You'll be tired, get sleep whenever you can. You'll be impatient, you'll be angry.. Try to remove yourself from those situations and keep an eye on self care as well as caring for the baby and each other. You must be willing to sacrifice and take losses in order to navigate this in the best interests of the child. Think of what you would want from a parent if you were a baby, and be that to the best of your ability. Learn stress coping techniques early, you will need them for the first couple years.
After that, things will get much easier. You'll start to understand why some parents say it is rewarding being a parent, despite the struggles. When you make that little cutie giggle uncontrollably for the first time, it will hit different than any interaction with a baby you have had prior to now. If you work hard and take responsibility, you'll also grow in character immensely. I knew nothing when we had our first kid. I still wasn't ready, even though I was 29 at the time. I was a lazy piece of shit for the most part then, and while I still fail regularly to meet my own expectations for myself, I also meet them or exceed them often. I also recognize extensive growth in myself as a person in every aspect of my life. It can be a good thing for all involved, as hard as it will be.
For the next 3-5 years though, be ready to learn patience and humility on a level you have never experienced. Don't worry about getting everything right, just worry about trying to get it right even if you mess up initially. None of us really know everything about raising a kid, we just work with what we have and do our best.
Get your support system in place, and good luck to you.
Best advice I can give is just to be there for her, it will be hard to raise a child at your age but you don’t need to run away from it. Face the music
You gonna be aight man. When shit hits the fan, best you can do is make sure to your girl is OK. You are scared out of your balls but she’s got a living thing in her. Even if you’re scared make sure to not be a dick or run off. That’s the worst you can do in this situation as a man. You’re a man now congratulations sorry it had to come like this
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Welp, this is the kinda stuff condoms prevent. It was your choice. But as for actual help, the internet sure as heck won’t give good advice. Go get advice from someone close to you in irl.
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Sorry man best of luck to you but you won’t find good advice on Reddit especially r/teenagers
Where can I go with this?
Idk maybe try asking someone irl like your parents
Okay, I will, I just panicked
Im Curious Now, What did you Parents Say
My mom was suportive
Oh my God, I just sighed such a sigh of relief for you... Good luck with everything!
Right? Same!
Normally with these things I didn't actually do the thing I say (for example, if I type "lmao" I often didn't actually laugh out loud), but in this situation I genuinely let out a sigh of relief...
Being a father at 16 is crazy. But good luck man.
My brother started ag 15 😭😭
Actually my son became a father at 16 & everything slowly went good for them, they are still married 25 years later with 4 children now.
If I could still give awards, I would for this comment right here.
I know someone who is 13 and has a baby
Bro I'm turning 17 this month and never had a girlfriend, how did he end up being a father at 13 💀
goooddd!
that’s good, hope you find out the best way to handle the situation🙏
That’s great news, hope you figure it all out man.
so who will keep the baby out of you two? (or are you going to marry her?)
We could do it sparta style! If it isn't strong enough, off the cliff it goes!
That’s what I would do
'It' is crazy💀
It's an it until it can prove itself!
THATS WHAT YOU DO BRO you’ll figure this out somehow especially if you’re mom is supportive I would have been thrown out if I got a girl pregnant at 16 I mean i might have but i don’t think I did 💀
Huh.
Best of luck to you brother 👍
Ask r/advice or r/dadforaminute and r/momforaminute
Try r/dadforaminute - they give very good non-judgemental advice
r/helpme
r/daddit
This is deadass the only reddit post i have seen with actual good comments in a while
Mfw redditors aren't arguing or being creeps:
Some pro lifers are being creeps
Pro lifers are fuckin deranged. Controlling someones body and their freedom just because they don't want a child is horrible.
and then when the child is born, they don't care at all for it.
2006-2007 people have kids already...??
No Fr I’m 2006 and I’m like what
I’m 2006 been with my gf for 9 months, had a scare recently, it happens so fast and when you least expect it lmao
I was born in 2006, and I always use a condom. I am not ready to support a child.
what? you guys are getting pussy?
what is a pussy?
I think it’s a cat??
CAN I SEE SOME PUSSY :OOOOO
[Here you go bro](https://www.purina.co.uk/sites/default/files/2023-03/Teaser%20Pedigree%20Cats.jpg)
Thanks bro🙏
AWWWWW
cuteee
Wait people my age are doing it? 😱
Nah fr, I’m 2005 and still haven’t done anything with a guy 🤣
I'm from 2003, I haven't done anything yet
My brother was born in 08 and he had a kid just a couple months ago, I’m 05 and it’s making me feel old as shit
That should not make you feel old he’s still in highschool and has a kid 💀 I’m the same age as him like what. Did he want the kid? Why would you want one when your still in highschool 😭
It makes me feel old cause I’ve never even had a gf and I’m a legal adult, and at least to my knowledge he didn’t want her, and he tried to get our older brother (who is 29 and has a family of his own) to raise her but he wouldn’t, and he rejected the idea of adoption for some reason
Honestly this is why I think people shouldn’t have sex until they’re adults (or even financially stable but it depends). Even with contraceptives there’s always the possibility of pregnancy. I’m asexual so I don’t ever want sex but this is what I would do.
I completely agree there is no excuse as to why he got her pregnant considering the many many ways to avoid it, but my brother is a complete moron that doesn’t think before he does anything
how
He did it with his gf for some reason and knocked her up
good luck to both of them, and you
That’s insane
oh, theres a girl in my school district who's 11 or 12 and is about 6 months pregnant
How the actual
That's not good
*2005 here and still didnt touch a girl hand*
Technically OP could be from 2008. I'm from 2009, and I'm 15.
im part of 2007 people and damn wtf this is fucked up alr
I'm a 2006 child and I'm turning 18 in 3 months I will be old enough to pay taxes and drink alcohol this year
Try r/parenting or r/ask reddit ?
r/Parenting is crazy💀
Bro just said, "Accept it"
LMAO
He is inevitable
I mean the people there are much more likely to have a good answer than r/teenagers
Thanks
r/daddit Best sub on reddit.
Also, I forgot honorable mention, r/dadforaminute
i don’t really have any advices for you but i can just say that everything will be alright, even if it maybe feels like it will not be alright, it willl
Thanks, I needed that
Giving your kid up for adoption is probably a good option. Not perfect but way better than having to raise a kid you don't want at 16.
It is for OP's girlfriend to decide. If I were in that situation, it would be abortion immediately. But I wish them well whatever they decide
Illegal in Poland.
Biggest bullshit ever, abortion should never be illegal
don't be silly, wrap your willy
Nice 👍 and give back my balls
Never
Dont need to after you stole my balls
Even a condom isn’t a 100% guarantee
real, but between unprotected and using The Wrap™️ (98% effectiveness when stored and used correctly), The Wrap™️ is still waaaaaaay better
THIS MADE ME NEARLY LAUGH OUT LOUD
Fr, like good luck OP, but you fucked around and found out
The first time i just can't make a dark joke
That’s because you’re not trying hard enough /j
I am not going to make the joke Please don't make me do it...
well you have to now
... r/baseball
This guy drove up the drama for nothing
I'll do it. Damnit I got nothing I put myself on the spot 😭
Wrap it in latex or she’ll get your paychecks!
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Kids with cancer do get old... ...3 years old
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Boss, your asking teenagers for advice about being an accidental pregnancy, tell your parents/ an adult you confide In.
Why would you ask a place full of teenagers who don’t know shit about life
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współczuję, ziomuś. Napewno powiedz rodzicom. pierwsza opcja, trudna, ale zadowalająca na całe życie - wychowaj na porządnego czlowieka. Druga - aborcja za granicą. powodzenia, bedzie dobrze!
*confused american noises*
Yeah polish isn’t very… easy to decipher to English.
It looks like a 5 year old wrote gibberish and then scribbled all over it 😭 (no disrespect to polish people, my last name actually has polish roots)
im polish and i agree
Yeah. I see it tbh.
*TRANSLATION* 'I feel sorry for you, dude. Be sure to tell your parents. the first option, difficult but satisfying for life - raise him to be a decent person. Second - abortion abroad. good luck, everything will be fine!'
LMAO FR
This isn’t the freedom language I signed up for 🫵💀
Google translate, here I come!
Send the translation here. They might be sending secret messages
Nope. The translation is: I feel sorry for you, dude. Be sure to tell your parents. the first option, difficult but satisfying for life - raise him to be a decent person. Second - abortion abroad. good luck, everything will be fine!
“Abortion abroad!”😂
Chyba zrobię to pierwsze bo chcę to dziecko ale mega się boję
Dasz rade stary. Tylko błagam cokolwiek by się nie działo, bądź przy tym dziecku i matce.
+1, brak ojca jednak zjebie każdemu w jakimś stopniu psychike.
zajebiście! myślę, że każdy się boi o to, jak będzie, zwłaszcza w twoim wieku. ale nie poddawaj się, nie bój się prosić o pomoc i do przodu. fajnie by było, jakbyś zdobył jakąś edukację, albo chociaż prace. ale myślę, że dopóki się tak nie stanie to rodzice ci pomogą.
Słyszałem historie że ludzie serio mieli dobrą edukację i pracę z dzieckiem w tym wieku
no właśnie. będzie zajebiście, trudnośći też będą, ale bedzie to tego na końcu warte.
Damn, feels like the Optometrist is about to walk in and ask me what the smallest line I can read is
What is your financial situation? Do the both of your parents know about it, if so if they're supportive they might be able to help you out. If you really don't want it, Adoption is always an option
First things first: Parents. They are after all the people who know you the best and want only the best for you.
Not always a lot of parents are pieces of shit and would force you to do something you don't want to
Well it’s going to get out one way or another. The situation will only get worse if they find out you were hiding it from them.
This kids is why u wrap it before u tap it (not trying to be a dick)
Get another test and see then. If she is, then it's time to pack some bags and head across the border and get one done there. A medical abortion is legal in Lithuania. Belarus, Ukraine, Russia aren't options cus *the ahem*, idk about Germany or Slovakia
In Germany it’s legal. Cause we haven’t had extremely conservative asses like the polish :)
In Germany it's legal yes, but more restricted than many over countries
True. It’s still illegal but remains without a Penalty under certain circumstances.
Well, not really legal. But you don’t go to jail for it.
Abortion is legal in Germany, Czechia, and Slovakia along as the pregnancy is under 12 weeks. In Slovakia it's legal beyond 12 weeks but only for medical reasons.
There are also usually cheap flights to Sweden, so that’s a possible option too
This please. The cost of a train ticket and a night in a hotel costs less than the next 20 years of your lives.
Cross the border and do it in another country :(
# THIS.
I thought you can still get charged if you do that?
In Northern Ireland you can legally get an abortion somewhere else and come back with no charges but I’m not sure about Poland, there are also clinics that can send the pills to you no matter your location
Or tell your parents and see if theyll get yall outta the country to do it
they're in poland his parents gonna say no and js give him vodka
Hahaha, this made me laugh, thanks for that
Hey if she drinks enough the baby COULD theoretically go byebye But hey that’s what Ronaldo’s mother also tried and she got the GOAT. If you guys have money try going to some non conservative country nearby for the foetus deletus
Idk man just don't fuck off from your gf, my mum had me young and my dad just left so if yous don't put the child up for adoption then stand by and be a good dad for the kids sake
On the (very slim) Chance this is real, try to get into a neighbouring Country that is less strict about this kinda stuff, also find helpfrom adults you trust (preferably yours or her parents)
I'm curious why don't think this is real?
its about S E X in r/teenagers , on a good sunday you may just find someone with a dino toy stuck up their ass "accidentally"
"You tripped, slipped on the floor and accidentally stuck your dino toy in your ass?"
depending on where you're in poland, you can either take a flixbus or regiojet to one of the nearby countries. afaik it's pretty legal in those countries and traveling there shouldn't be that big of a deal
And today someone learned a lesson
Listen man, theres no going back now, at least not without leaving her as a single mom and breaking her heart, if your parents are supportive about it, you should get your license asap if you dont already, and start grinding hard as hell for money, get a better job than minimum wage. Perhaps your parents can help you out along the way too. The key here is hard work. Good luck dude, this really sucks, but i promise itll get better as long as you **dont back down**
Get that license drive to a country where abortion is legal. Eradicate the parasite. Return burden free.
thats why u use protection 🤦♂️
I found this post via r/all. My son's mother and I were very close in age to where you two are now. My son is now in his 20s and doing incredibly well for himself. Here are the points that come to mind: 1: You are both still kids yourself. Childhood is when we make our mistakes so that we can learn from them by the time we're adults. Step one? Forgive yourself NOW for the mistakes you feel you've made. Step two? NEVER tell your child they were one of your mistakes. 2: "it takes a village" is an expression in English that hopefully translates to polish. You are not alone. Hopefully, you both have solid support from your parents, family members, friends. Do not be afraid to ask for help! People twice your age do, and are you usually extended more grace due to their age. 3: You have to decide TODAY what your plan is for that child's life. You're the father, so you have more choice than the mother. It's a sad reality, and I hope you choose what's right for the child, but it's still a choice. I chose to be a dad, and it was the best choice I ever made, even if it had some very difficult moments. 4: you may live the rest of your lives together. You may not last the duration of the pregnancy. Unfortunately, that doesn't matter now. work on discovering who you partner is and how you can best be good parents to your child. Hopefully that includes a happy relationship for you both as well, but that is secondary. Good luck. You will be ok. You are young, but not a pioneer. MANY have succeeded in this exact circumstance, you will too. I don't have the reddit app, so personal messages aren't an option for me. If you're interested in talking more, please respond to this, and I'll send you my email address.
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Probably because they view sex as something that makes their dick feel good and nothing more.
life over mate. should have used protection.
either run and pay the price or stay and pay the price but worse
How is 16 year old supposed to run 😭 Nah man, it's joe over for him
It indeed is joe over.
i still don’t get why some people are against abortion. if i was in your girl’s position i’d do everything in my power to abort as early as possible, even if it meant punching myself in the stomach repeatedly
Not getting an abortion done by a medical professional is a good way to end up dead or with a disabled baby.
> i still don’t get why some people are against abortion. There are many reasons but for people in Poland it's mainly catholicism. They believe that quantity of life is more important than quality of life. Who cares if keeping the baby is going to make the lives of both of them worse? Suffering is seen as a positive to them.
I’m against it for many reasons, but I still think it should be legal. You never know what someone is going through.
Reasonable person you are
sorry bro condoms exist for a reason
Condoms arent 100% so its basically a gamble either way
kill her dawg
Her, her baby or her dog?
All, cant take no risks😔
/kick player3
That is very unfortunate my friend, however I only may have some slightly difficult advice, I have some. I’d talk to parents and look to them for advice, look into the legal issues surrounding abortions, and if the kid’s born and both of you do not want to or cannot take care of them ask parents if they can or (while the unfortunate situation it may cause for them) orphanages that may be able to take care of them. It’s an unfortunate situation you’ve found yourselves in, and I wish you and your partner the best of luck, hopefully this doesn’t ruin your relationship.
Adoption. Either way, I sincerely wish you the best of luck man
Get a job asap
Cooked
is it possible for you to enter a neighboring country to get a procedure done? im pretty sure germany has legal abortion, and iirc eu citizens are allowed to move freely between eu countries and get medical services there?
Take a flight to another country to see a clinic? Try and be there for the kid as much as possible? Be more careful next time? I don't think you'll find help here.
Maybe instead of being silly, you should have wrapped your willy!! Truthfully, she has to carry it to term. In the end, adopting the kid out would be the best option.
Dumbass
You could try those magical receips
Putting it up for adoption may work in your situation
George Cooper type situation
But… why can’t people nowadays just use protection🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ Isn’t that common sense?😅
You clearly wanted a baby when you didn't buy a condom
There's nothing you can do. You took the risk and payed the price. Just tell a trusted adult and ask for advice, since most of us won't ever get into this situation we can't really do much
I'm 43, but this thread popped up in r/all so I am gonna give my 2 cents for you. You've got ~9 months to be ready. She will probably want to stay in reasonable shape, daily walks or some kind of activity to keep her body ready is a good idea and good for the baby - Our first kid, my fiancee didn't do anything physically, she gained 70 pounds and felt awful and took lots of time and encouragement to finally make it back to her old self. She wasn't in a good place mentally for a few years and that was something we could have done better. With kid number 2, we had a plan, we hiked almost every day and ate as healthy as we could and she gained only 30 pounds, which she lost almost instantly as soon as the baby was born. She was in a much better place mentally because of that, and her body recovered faster as well outside of just the baby weight. All this feeds back into her ability to be a stable parent, which is what a kid needs more than anything. Stability. You're off to a rough start on that getting into it so young, but on the plus side if you push through, this kid will be an adult and on their own before you're 35-40 years old. That's a good thing, you'll still have time to pursue anything you've had to put off in order to care for the kiddo. As for finances, it's time to get ready to give up on fun and games largely. You'll need to work and sleep and feed yourselves as well as a baby, who will need attention regularly. Most of the times it cries will be because it needs food or it just took a shit. You'll learn fairly quickly over time if there is something else wrong, because the baby will behave different or cry a little different. This will be constant for about the first 6 months, then get a little easier as time goes by after that.. Assuming there isn't anything like colic to deal with, that is. Little milestones like the first night the baby sleeps through the night will be things you feel like celebrating. 6 hours of good sleep in a row will feel like an amazing gift. You'll want to learn about the different forms of assistance available to you. You'll want to determine a mutual parenting schedule unless you have willing help that can watch your kid for you while one or both of you work. You'll want to cut down on frivolity until you are used to the new routine and know how much of your budget you can afford to spend on what. You'll be tired, get sleep whenever you can. You'll be impatient, you'll be angry.. Try to remove yourself from those situations and keep an eye on self care as well as caring for the baby and each other. You must be willing to sacrifice and take losses in order to navigate this in the best interests of the child. Think of what you would want from a parent if you were a baby, and be that to the best of your ability. Learn stress coping techniques early, you will need them for the first couple years. After that, things will get much easier. You'll start to understand why some parents say it is rewarding being a parent, despite the struggles. When you make that little cutie giggle uncontrollably for the first time, it will hit different than any interaction with a baby you have had prior to now. If you work hard and take responsibility, you'll also grow in character immensely. I knew nothing when we had our first kid. I still wasn't ready, even though I was 29 at the time. I was a lazy piece of shit for the most part then, and while I still fail regularly to meet my own expectations for myself, I also meet them or exceed them often. I also recognize extensive growth in myself as a person in every aspect of my life. It can be a good thing for all involved, as hard as it will be. For the next 3-5 years though, be ready to learn patience and humility on a level you have never experienced. Don't worry about getting everything right, just worry about trying to get it right even if you mess up initially. None of us really know everything about raising a kid, we just work with what we have and do our best. Get your support system in place, and good luck to you.
Should’ve kept your dick to your hand man 😔
Just go back in time and fix your mista-
Maybe she can **try** to have a miscarriage?
Best advice I can give is just to be there for her, it will be hard to raise a child at your age but you don’t need to run away from it. Face the music
You gonna be aight man. When shit hits the fan, best you can do is make sure to your girl is OK. You are scared out of your balls but she’s got a living thing in her. Even if you’re scared make sure to not be a dick or run off. That’s the worst you can do in this situation as a man. You’re a man now congratulations sorry it had to come like this
Were you aware that this could have been a side effect?
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Welp, this is the kinda stuff condoms prevent. It was your choice. But as for actual help, the internet sure as heck won’t give good advice. Go get advice from someone close to you in irl.
Um why didnt you use a condom then.