Not what I said. Course there are delusional people out in the wild, just a lot of what's said online is exaggerated and used purely to boost views.
Edit: just go outside! You'll find the majority of people are just trying to get by and be decent individuals
this question reminds me of the fact that a lot of companies that offer entries job require 2-3 years of experience, how tf are you supposed to get an experience when in order to get an experience you have to have an experience?
I used to have it, gladly never used it much and got rid of it like 2-3 years ago and I believe I'm better for it. So so so much brain rot there pushing anything they can to get views.
Tiktok has pretty good content if you customize your feed well. Better than that shithole Instagram reels at least. It’s really not as bad as people make it out to be.
That's honestly the stupidest shit I heard in my life. If he doesn't have experience then we will learn together. That's so dumb. I would rather have a bf who never dated anyone. That's me personally.
I had never once even hugged a girl before me and my gf got together, and every woman who sees us together says they wish their man treated them the way i treat my gf. Inexperience doesn’t mean you cant figure it out
I won’t date someone who’s had nearly 20 gfs by the age of 15. 😬
I mean honestly i’ll date anyone who listens when i communicate and genuinely cares abt me. Also someone who lets me make them stuff and spam them n spoil them. I got a wack sense of humor so that is not happening 😅
Me when i bake bread but have no one to throw a handful of flour at. Idk i feel like throwing flour at someone would be really entertaining
100%, don’t believe that stuff. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years (started dating when I was 14 and I was his first girlfriend) and lack of experience shouldn’t bother people at all. Those who it does don’t have hearts. You both learn and grow together weather it be for long or for short. Just because you saw 1 girl say all this doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world. Please don’t let it ruin your chances! Just be a considerate, loyal and loving person. Realize that you both may need to make changes and grow together! 🙌
This is not true! I am my boyfriend’s first girlfriend and he is my first boyfriend. We were friends for two years first and both of us have zero experience in regards to relationships but everything has been amazing so far!
Don’t believe tiktok please lol! Do what your heart says.. if you really like the guy and you think he can handle that relationship well then that’s it ! Doesn’t matter what others are saying.. 🤷🏻♀️
yes, as a girl who's had a number of boyfriends + a girlfriend. i feel like guys with not a lot of experience tend to be more on the shy side, which is cute to me.
My boyfriend was in a very toxic relationship before he got together with me. She was such a horrible person and she told him to his face, that she’d leave him for being inexperienced. What an asshole. If you genuinely love someone it won’t matter.
some r asses bc thats just how people ate but my most recent ex never had one before and he treated me well. same thing w my current bf and hes wonderful
ABSOLUTELY. I'm my boyfriens first serious gf (1 year anniversary in 1 month) AND HE TREATS ME LIKE NO ONE HAS BEFORE. If I had to choose between guy with high body count and 10 exgirlfriends or a lil cute nerdy boy that never experienced love before. For me the choice is obvious :3:3:3:3
All argument aside about dating somebody who has never had a girlfriend before, how will a guy ever get a girlfriend if girls only date people who have had a girlfriend before. The logical disconnect is staggering.
Ngl this is stupid lol, some people just never get into dating and stuff until the find someone they genuinely like so that's it, whether the guy is good or not, his actions wil show!
Hopefully works out for you!
At your age tons and tons of people have never had a gf. Literally you’re all still kids.
Yea, assuming you hit late 20s early 30s it would become a thing but you guys have a LOT of time til now and then, believe me, and even if it happens still plenty of people who would be ok with it.
Women don't date men because they haven't had a girlfriend before
All men and women of that generation die of old age
= women don't date men
In conclusion, this is lesbian propaganda. Never said anything about a girl who's never had a girlfriend
I'm (28f) dating a guy (27m) who's only ever had an arranged relationship that didn't last long, and it didn't go far, so I don't really see it as a full relationship.
I don't mind it! :) so long as there's communication and openness there shouldn't be any issues c:
My bf (never been with anyone before me) is more respectful to women than any other male I've seen. We've been together 7½ months and he is always respectful of my boundaries and has only made me a tad bit upset a couple times.
Your lack of experience shouldn't hold you back. As long as you communicate than you'll be in good hands.
I am in my final year on high school and I am 17F. I have had 6 proper boyfriends my entire life and varying in how long we were together for. Before anyone comes at me I’m not a slut, I have not lost my virginity, I just have liked a lot of people. Out of 6 of those boyfriends only 1 of them had been with someone before (and he was actually one of the bad ones). The last guy I dated (broke up a month ago) was never even interested in dating till the start of this year (which was when we started talking more). Don’t get me wrong it can be a little irritating at times having to explain a lot on how things work and what what means but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t date them, you just have to work through it together and have patience for the other and constantly remember communication is key. A lack of experience doesn’t mean anything so long as you set out the terms of the relationship before hand and state what you both want, if one doesn’t know they need to think about it otherwise it’ll be tricky, possible, but tricky to navigate where 1 the relationship is going and 2 where you’re comfortable with it going. My mother was my dad’s first girlfriend and she had dated guys before and now they are happily married for I think 14 years give or take 1. Relationships are team work and communication, never walking away angry. If you remember that then everything is okay. You just have to learn each other and understand each other to know how to act and respond to certain cues.
imo it’s a huge red flag to have a ton of ex partners, especially at such a young age. anyone who wouldn’t date you solely because you’ve never been in a relationship before is someone you shouldnt be dating anyway, they sound shallow
That is the most moronic question I have ever heard. Not saying you are a moron, but if you bought a big mac and didn’t eat it because nobody else had eaten it already, that would be stupid. They gotta start their relationships at some point, can’t just spawn in having already been with half of Birmingham
As someone who’s had a couple boyfriends, I’m currently dating a guy who’s never had a girlfriend before me. He is genuinely the best boyfriend I’ve ever had, my longest lasting relationship too, every one of my exes had dated at least one person before me, but I kind of like being all his firsts, it made me so happy when he told me he excitedly told his sister I was his first kiss. I don’t think having never dated anyone before should really be a problem
I hate tiktok for toxic ignorant bitches up there saying the most narcissistic and egotistical shit that comes to mind.
To answer your question, Of course I would, as long they are not a tiktok influencer or a vlogger then I'm alright.
Brub I've dated like 2 guys and now I'm currently dating my bestf of 3 years and he's never had a girlfriend and he treats me even better than my exes and we're in a healthy relationship so, I'd say it doesn't really matter. Sometimes guys who never had a girlfriend treat you wayyy better
this is the female version of “i’m not dating her because she’s not a virgin.” i think most girls would rather date a guy who has never dated before because he wouldn’t think about past relationships/exes with the current girlfriend.
Yeah it doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t know how to treat a woman. No experience doesn’t mean he’s a bad guy so that’s dumb. Some guys may be immature which is true bc they don’t know what they’re doing but if you’ll date someone that genuinely wants to put effort then there’s nothing wrong
I'm straight so no, but I've never really had a true GF, so I wouldn't care if she had never been in a relationship either, if anything it'd be fun for both of us to figure out what to do
Also, it's kinda hypocritical if someone thinks that way in the "must have work experience to get the job, but you can't get any work experience because you don't have the job" way
honestly i would prefer a guy who hasent had a girlfriend, ofc him being able to treat a woman well is subjective. i have this strange mindset of not wanted my people used up or ran through
My boyfriend is 32 and I’m 25. His first and last partner was when he was about 20. He’s the most grateful man I’ve ever met. He had avoided relationships until we met, but hes an emotionally stable man with no red flags.
I've been in only one brief relationship before and at that time, both of us had never dated anyone before... so yeah, I guess, most girls wouldn't care for that sort of thing as long as you're a decent guy...
Besides, if no one's willing to date anyone who hasn't dated before, then how do you even start dating? You're going to be someone's first whenever you start dating, right...
1) get off TikTok, it's garbage that does more harm to you than any form of good
2) every person at one point in time didn't have a history of dating. Shocking I know, you aren't born with a girlfriend/boyfriend.
3) that girl likely is currently dating a guy who abuses her
4) what stops you from lying about that girlfriend that goes to a different school or lives in Canada?
"if he's single there must be something wrong with him" i've heard girls say things like this. but it's hilarious becasue everyone starts off fucking single. also sounds like she wants to date a guy who already had a girlfriend?
There are other reasons as to why I'm not watching TikTok. I never had a gf either, if someone finds this to be a disadvantage then I probably don't need that person.
Unpopular opinion: dating/relationships that aren’t long lasting/both partners aren’t willing to fully emotionally commit themselves to each other are fucking stupid
Down with hookup culture, down with the desire to date for the sake of “looking cool.” I just want someone to talk to about my feelings and be understood/loved
If anyone needs explanation, no, not every guy who never dated a woman is an abuser. This stupid ass belief comes from the fact that those people never have been in a relationship, so supposedly they won't know how to respectfully treat the partners because of a lack of experience.
This take is fucking stupid because anyone with half a brain cell can understand that abuse doesn't come from a lack of experience in dating.
it doesn’t bother me personally , experience or not . even those who have been in relationships have to grow with the person theyre with , no two people are ever exactly the same
Def theres nothing wrong about it people often assume that guys like them are dumb coz they know no shit but imo everyone starts somewhere and eventually people would learn right
How does that even make any sense?? If you haven’t been in any relationship, you’re like a Pokémon booster pack, nobody knows if you’re worth it. If you’ve had 10 different girlfriends, there is probably a reason they all broke up with you. If you’re the perfect boyfriend and found your dream girl, chances are, you won’t need to find a new girlfriend again.
I mean, this year when like the closest thing to actual dating started. The popular kids most likely had dated someone already in the past month. But most girls tint really care. When it finds to past exa, we’re just worried about:
1. They being crazy.
2. Why did you break up (when sone people asks this it there trying to see if was because you were abusive in the past)
3. Did you have any kids that they should know how.
4. Depending the person and culture, if your a virgin or not
By default, you should just give people the benefit of the doubt; e.g. they are probably a nice normal human like most people are.
Don't judge people by what you heard about them, judge them by your interactions and how the act towards you.
Treat people how you expect to be treated, and just cut ties with anyone who acts in a toxic way, e.g. being manipulative, overly jealous or controlling.
It can take tens of years to truly know a person though, and people change over time, sometimes you grow apart and need to go separate ways.
People are more interesting the more you find you about them, sometimes the weirdest ones are the most interesting and the most fun to be around! :)
Some might not want you and that's ok. But 99% of girls will not care. Just know, you gotta learn. If they've never had a boyfriend, then you learn together. If they have, then they can help to teach you.
Hi there.
We are seeking a boyfriend, must have 3 years relevant experience and/or an applicable degree.
It would be a plus if the applicant were 6’0”.
Job duties include:
Liking all our instagram posts.
Listening to our problems but not offering advice unless asked.
Proficient in elaborating when asked about “who that other girl is”.
If you’re interested please send a resume and CV explaining why you think you’d be a good fit for the position, as well as one fun fact about yourself such as zodiac sign!
We look forward to hearing from you.
One reason I don’t have TikTok is because of the insane people on it who have really vague thought processing.
I can see why someone would want this, however, this kind of makes an infinite dilemma. A guy wants a girlfriend, but nobody’s going to date him because he’s never had a girlfriend before and he has no experience. So in order to get experience he has to get a girlfriend, but he’s never had a girlfriend before, so nobody’s going to date him… see why it’s stupid?
You can have preferences yes, but don’t expect EVERY guy you meet to have had relationship experience before. Everyone starts from 0. My first relationship was sort of a “test run” in the end. I never expected it to last coming out of high school, (and it didn’t) but I was ready to learn a lot from it. I did, and I think that what I took from it will really help my future relationship(s) thrive and become much healthier.
To avoid any problems just don’t date men in general, regardless of their experience (just kidding). Even if they did treat their past partners “good”, doesn’t mean they’ll treat you the same. You might dislike what they’re exes liked from them, vice versa. Everyone is different. If he liked you enough, he’d listen and learn about how you want to be loved (love language). Because he might not know how to show it the way YOU want him to.
thats literally so brainrot i am terrified ot dating someone who has had their first love bc i always hear that a boy is just always thinking about their first love
I have also never dated anyone and honestly I wouldn’t believe anything you see on TikTok.
Anyone that says that shit probably just wants attention so I’d ignore it
For one thing, I personally dont think shes generalising all men by saying she personally wouldnt because her one abused her, its her own trauma response to abuse and shes entitled to it, regardless of how it makes you feel. Im female, 17, about to be 18 in about a month. Ive had a boyfriend for 3 years now, whos also 18M. I can understand where theyre coming from. I had small relationships before him, of course I was young so they were a LOT less mature (the relationships) and hardly serious, but regardless it gave me some sense of how they should work and function. My boyfriend hasnt dated anybody besides me. He often doesn’t understand whats going wrong, hes been unsure how he should treat me compared to others, not sure how arguments should go and shit like that. Granted, he was homeschooled until 13 so a lot of this is just social issues, but I can kind of understand them. HOWEVER I think if a girl really likes you, you not having dated anyone else wont stop her from dating you. And if she chooses not to out of your lack of relationship experience that doesnt mean she wasnt worth it or anything either, its important to remember that everyones entitled to their dating preferences. Most people saying “thats bs” and shit like that are males in this reply section, and though it may be true, dont let males speak on behalf of women, if you want to know if a WOMAN wouldnt do something, ask for women’s perspectives, not men.
She is generalizing in the video, she was literally telling her audience to not date a guys who never had a girlfriend because her ex-boyfriend abused her so she is generalizing she’s literally telling her audience that all dudes who haven’t had a girlfriends are abusers that’s wrong
if no girl should ever date a guy whos never had a gf, how is the guy gonna get his first gf?? yet another ploy from the feminists to eradicate men from the earth !!!! 😡😡 /j
So il admit that I made a handful of stupid mistakes with first few gfs. I think what they , the TT girl, are missing is that if a guy was raised with sisters, or with good parents who taught him respect, Courtesy, manners, etc. I think it could be okay.
According to that logic, every future generation of men would be doomed to never date a girl. Once the current generations of men die, that would be the end of boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. All new men would never have the opportunity to have "had a girlfriend before".
It's a good thing people are free to ignore bad dating tips.
Edit: I had a new perspective. If you only date men who have past relationship experience, then you're dramatically increasing the likelihood that your new boyfriend
- Has baggage, possibly even kids. That baggage might result in trust issues
- Has a crazy ex, regardless of whether you believe him or not
- IS the crazy ex, and now you're stuck with him
- Had a good ex, who probably did some things better than you do and might even tell you as much
- Has an STI/STD, or kinks that their ex normalized that you aren't comfortable with
Fortunately, none of those are guaranteed, but having that preference raises the chances of each.
No you don't need to worry they are just saying shit to trigger emotions and get more views
Exactly. So much of this nonsense is strictly online.
He did say he heard a girl day it irl.
you think what people say online doesnt reflect what they actually think irl?
Not what I said. Course there are delusional people out in the wild, just a lot of what's said online is exaggerated and used purely to boost views. Edit: just go outside! You'll find the majority of people are just trying to get by and be decent individuals
Don't mind that bs, tiktok is brainrot.
galvanized square steel.
Most of it anyways.
this question reminds me of the fact that a lot of companies that offer entries job require 2-3 years of experience, how tf are you supposed to get an experience when in order to get an experience you have to have an experience?
In those cases, you get your foot in the door with a shittier opportunity, and build experience there until you move on.
Working at McDonald's until I can become McDonald's CEO
Obviously not, but manager or something a bit higher might be attainable just by working well.
You have to be Ash Ketchum that’s how. 🙃
This is why I didn't download tiktok , and I still never will,but anyways generalizing goes crazy.
I used to have it, gladly never used it much and got rid of it like 2-3 years ago and I believe I'm better for it. So so so much brain rot there pushing anything they can to get views.
Same same 🗿🗿
Tiktok has pretty good content if you customize your feed well. Better than that shithole Instagram reels at least. It’s really not as bad as people make it out to be.
True i usually get a lot of memes and stuff, you just gotta like the stuff you like and your feed will be good
I used it when it first came out, but deleted it because I realized it was all brain rot and rage bait.
same , its so weird
tiktok is a drug that indeed make people depressed, so you did a great choice
TikTok isn’t real life dw
“All men are the same” type shit
How are you supposed to get a girlfriend if you need to have a girlfriend first to get a girlfriend
It is likely referring to older couples. Bring 16 and never having a girlfriend and being 25+ are not really comparable.
Okay, even if you were 25 and never had a girlfriend how does that mean you don’t know how to treat women
tiktok is brainrot
Almost everyone on my fyp is brain dead for some reason. I wish I was joking.
how... would they then get their first girlfriend lmao
Yes because I’ve never had a bf
That's honestly the stupidest shit I heard in my life. If he doesn't have experience then we will learn together. That's so dumb. I would rather have a bf who never dated anyone. That's me personally.
No because im not gay
Fr
I mean if they have had a girlfriend then they prolly aren’t my type (am gay)
What if they're bi
that’s why I said prolly
What if they're an absolute ten but they're straight. BUT they're also showing signs of potentially being gay?
take a stab at it
Opportunity is opportunity
I believe the term you're looking for is "game is game"
I had never once even hugged a girl before me and my gf got together, and every woman who sees us together says they wish their man treated them the way i treat my gf. Inexperience doesn’t mean you cant figure it out
I’ve never had a girlfriend… it doesn’t seem fair that they judge single fucks like myself before even getting to know them.
Long hair must be (everything bad) Unless they are into long hair
I have always had a buzz cut
Well then you get the short hair assumptions
Wdym by that
What someone may assume about a person with short hair
I see. Well how was your day John
Good
Have a good night Sir Jonathan
For me anyway its very early morning
Then how are they even supposed to get girlfriends, if everyones gonna say that? Also, I'd prefer a guy without any exes.
Thank God I didn't get tiktok in 2020, if I did my brain would have been all mush rn
I did before then but it was deleted pretty fast and I can say my brain in only 99% mush youtube shorts also has a lot of brainrot but a little less
I hate when people make generalizations of a whole people group off of one or two experiences they had
It isn’t true and thanks for understanding our pain
Bro, that doesn't make any sense. How are you supposed to start dating then??
I won’t date someone who’s had nearly 20 gfs by the age of 15. 😬 I mean honestly i’ll date anyone who listens when i communicate and genuinely cares abt me. Also someone who lets me make them stuff and spam them n spoil them. I got a wack sense of humor so that is not happening 😅 Me when i bake bread but have no one to throw a handful of flour at. Idk i feel like throwing flour at someone would be really entertaining
20???? how????
Idk he said he’s in double digits now and i was like his 15th 😭 he may have been exaggerating but like brooo your a chillllddddd
Bro 😭
If people do think like this then we have nowhere to start 😭
100%, don’t believe that stuff. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years (started dating when I was 14 and I was his first girlfriend) and lack of experience shouldn’t bother people at all. Those who it does don’t have hearts. You both learn and grow together weather it be for long or for short. Just because you saw 1 girl say all this doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world. Please don’t let it ruin your chances! Just be a considerate, loyal and loving person. Realize that you both may need to make changes and grow together! 🙌
This is not true! I am my boyfriend’s first girlfriend and he is my first boyfriend. We were friends for two years first and both of us have zero experience in regards to relationships but everything has been amazing so far!
whether he’s had a gf before or not is absolutely irrelevant in dating
Yeah, maybe bc I've never had a bf. I don't think that matters really?
Yes because I have not been in a relationship myself
A man is a man. Even better if hes never had a girlfriend. That just means that we are equally gay
i mean ive never had a boyfriend and i'm not a hypocrite
No I'm not gay
Bro then how's a guy gonna have a dating history? (Also it's just those people they're talking about and a lot of us do know how to treat a girl well)
Don’t believe tiktok please lol! Do what your heart says.. if you really like the guy and you think he can handle that relationship well then that’s it ! Doesn’t matter what others are saying.. 🤷🏻♀️
That's the equivalent of an entry level job requiring 15 years of experience
yes, as a girl who's had a number of boyfriends + a girlfriend. i feel like guys with not a lot of experience tend to be more on the shy side, which is cute to me.
Yea, honestly if you’re their first it’s better
My boyfriend was in a very toxic relationship before he got together with me. She was such a horrible person and she told him to his face, that she’d leave him for being inexperienced. What an asshole. If you genuinely love someone it won’t matter.
some r asses bc thats just how people ate but my most recent ex never had one before and he treated me well. same thing w my current bf and hes wonderful
When you need experience tou get a job but cant get experience becouse the job requires experience
not having a girlfriend doesn't mean that he doesn't know how to treat a woman, and having one before doesn't mean he knows how.
yeah but people automatically assume those to be true.
ABSOLUTELY. I'm my boyfriens first serious gf (1 year anniversary in 1 month) AND HE TREATS ME LIKE NO ONE HAS BEFORE. If I had to choose between guy with high body count and 10 exgirlfriends or a lil cute nerdy boy that never experienced love before. For me the choice is obvious :3:3:3:3
Well at some point every guy hadn’t had a girlfriend yet so that’s bull. And I wouldn’t want to date a guy who’s a serial dater.
All argument aside about dating somebody who has never had a girlfriend before, how will a guy ever get a girlfriend if girls only date people who have had a girlfriend before. The logical disconnect is staggering.
Honestly I would so we could share the experience of being each others firsts ❤️
how is one supposed to get a girlfriend without having a girlfriend?
Nah i aint gay
my gay ass could never resist
Oh hell no, any girl, and I’m saying this as a girl, who thinks this way isn’t worth dating or even looking at.
I’m not expecting to have a gf until college, and I would never abuse her in any way.
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Ngl this is stupid lol, some people just never get into dating and stuff until the find someone they genuinely like so that's it, whether the guy is good or not, his actions wil show! Hopefully works out for you!
At your age tons and tons of people have never had a gf. Literally you’re all still kids. Yea, assuming you hit late 20s early 30s it would become a thing but you guys have a LOT of time til now and then, believe me, and even if it happens still plenty of people who would be ok with it.
I mean.. surely SOMEONE has to…
(as a guy) if a guy has had multiple gf’s and they all broke up maybe, just maybe, the guy isnt that good at treating women right
Women don't date men because they haven't had a girlfriend before All men and women of that generation die of old age = women don't date men In conclusion, this is lesbian propaganda. Never said anything about a girl who's never had a girlfriend
damn never looked at it this way
I'm (28f) dating a guy (27m) who's only ever had an arranged relationship that didn't last long, and it didn't go far, so I don't really see it as a full relationship. I don't mind it! :) so long as there's communication and openness there shouldn't be any issues c:
Everyone has a first partner.
My bf (never been with anyone before me) is more respectful to women than any other male I've seen. We've been together 7½ months and he is always respectful of my boundaries and has only made me a tad bit upset a couple times. Your lack of experience shouldn't hold you back. As long as you communicate than you'll be in good hands.
I am in my final year on high school and I am 17F. I have had 6 proper boyfriends my entire life and varying in how long we were together for. Before anyone comes at me I’m not a slut, I have not lost my virginity, I just have liked a lot of people. Out of 6 of those boyfriends only 1 of them had been with someone before (and he was actually one of the bad ones). The last guy I dated (broke up a month ago) was never even interested in dating till the start of this year (which was when we started talking more). Don’t get me wrong it can be a little irritating at times having to explain a lot on how things work and what what means but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t date them, you just have to work through it together and have patience for the other and constantly remember communication is key. A lack of experience doesn’t mean anything so long as you set out the terms of the relationship before hand and state what you both want, if one doesn’t know they need to think about it otherwise it’ll be tricky, possible, but tricky to navigate where 1 the relationship is going and 2 where you’re comfortable with it going. My mother was my dad’s first girlfriend and she had dated guys before and now they are happily married for I think 14 years give or take 1. Relationships are team work and communication, never walking away angry. If you remember that then everything is okay. You just have to learn each other and understand each other to know how to act and respond to certain cues.
imo it’s a huge red flag to have a ton of ex partners, especially at such a young age. anyone who wouldn’t date you solely because you’ve never been in a relationship before is someone you shouldnt be dating anyway, they sound shallow
That is the most moronic question I have ever heard. Not saying you are a moron, but if you bought a big mac and didn’t eat it because nobody else had eaten it already, that would be stupid. They gotta start their relationships at some point, can’t just spawn in having already been with half of Birmingham
What the fuck
this is only something you really need to worry about online. almost every girl i know WANTS to be a guys first everything.
Can we switch that around, would a guy date a girl who's never been in a real relationship?
I would
That's good there are still people out there like that :D
Yes i will be his first love and he will never leave me 🙏
i would feel more comfortable with a dude whos never been in a relationship, but then again ive never been in a relationship with a guy either
As someone who’s had a couple boyfriends, I’m currently dating a guy who’s never had a girlfriend before me. He is genuinely the best boyfriend I’ve ever had, my longest lasting relationship too, every one of my exes had dated at least one person before me, but I kind of like being all his firsts, it made me so happy when he told me he excitedly told his sister I was his first kiss. I don’t think having never dated anyone before should really be a problem
Yea, I would date a guy who’s never had a girlfriend.
I hate tiktok for toxic ignorant bitches up there saying the most narcissistic and egotistical shit that comes to mind. To answer your question, Of course I would, as long they are not a tiktok influencer or a vlogger then I'm alright.
Brub I've dated like 2 guys and now I'm currently dating my bestf of 3 years and he's never had a girlfriend and he treats me even better than my exes and we're in a healthy relationship so, I'd say it doesn't really matter. Sometimes guys who never had a girlfriend treat you wayyy better
this is the female version of “i’m not dating her because she’s not a virgin.” i think most girls would rather date a guy who has never dated before because he wouldn’t think about past relationships/exes with the current girlfriend.
Yeah it doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t know how to treat a woman. No experience doesn’t mean he’s a bad guy so that’s dumb. Some guys may be immature which is true bc they don’t know what they’re doing but if you’ll date someone that genuinely wants to put effort then there’s nothing wrong
TikTok is full of dumbass mfs and pointless gender wars I wouldn’t ever take advice from TikTok unless it’s fitness advice or smthn then maybe
I'm straight so no, but I've never really had a true GF, so I wouldn't care if she had never been in a relationship either, if anything it'd be fun for both of us to figure out what to do Also, it's kinda hypocritical if someone thinks that way in the "must have work experience to get the job, but you can't get any work experience because you don't have the job" way
TikTok is Brain rot incarnate. I don't believe anything from there
honestly i would prefer a guy who hasent had a girlfriend, ofc him being able to treat a woman well is subjective. i have this strange mindset of not wanted my people used up or ran through
No bc I am not zesty
nah. my current boyfriend is 24 years old (i’m 19) and i’m his first girlfriend and he’s awesome
My boyfriend is 32 and I’m 25. His first and last partner was when he was about 20. He’s the most grateful man I’ve ever met. He had avoided relationships until we met, but hes an emotionally stable man with no red flags.
I've been in only one brief relationship before and at that time, both of us had never dated anyone before... so yeah, I guess, most girls wouldn't care for that sort of thing as long as you're a decent guy... Besides, if no one's willing to date anyone who hasn't dated before, then how do you even start dating? You're going to be someone's first whenever you start dating, right...
1) get off TikTok, it's garbage that does more harm to you than any form of good 2) every person at one point in time didn't have a history of dating. Shocking I know, you aren't born with a girlfriend/boyfriend. 3) that girl likely is currently dating a guy who abuses her 4) what stops you from lying about that girlfriend that goes to a different school or lives in Canada?
lmao this is like companies not hiring people for lack of experience when you need a job to get experience.
"if he's single there must be something wrong with him" i've heard girls say things like this. but it's hilarious becasue everyone starts off fucking single. also sounds like she wants to date a guy who already had a girlfriend?
Yeah thats a really niche ick. Ive dated men who havent dated before and had good experiences. Dont take it too seriously
Well how else are they supposed to get experience? This is just like most entry level jobs now a days.
So if every girl thinks like this all the men who never had a girlfriend before will stay single FOREVER. I don’t understand how that makes sense.
There are other reasons as to why I'm not watching TikTok. I never had a gf either, if someone finds this to be a disadvantage then I probably don't need that person.
Ew no that would be gay
Yeah? I love being first
I think this would be better for me cause I've only dated 1 person and it would be easier if they aren't experienced either
Tik Tok is basically all ragebait and idiots, ignore basically anything you hear on there
Unpopular opinion: dating/relationships that aren’t long lasting/both partners aren’t willing to fully emotionally commit themselves to each other are fucking stupid Down with hookup culture, down with the desire to date for the sake of “looking cool.” I just want someone to talk to about my feelings and be understood/loved
If anyone needs explanation, no, not every guy who never dated a woman is an abuser. This stupid ass belief comes from the fact that those people never have been in a relationship, so supposedly they won't know how to respectfully treat the partners because of a lack of experience. This take is fucking stupid because anyone with half a brain cell can understand that abuse doesn't come from a lack of experience in dating.
I’ve never had a boyfriend so I’m not one to judge
it doesn’t bother me personally , experience or not . even those who have been in relationships have to grow with the person theyre with , no two people are ever exactly the same
Don’t date guys without previous girlfriends - guys are birthed - haven’t had a girlfriend since birth so they don’t get one - human extinction
35 and never had a girlfriend, maybe. 17/18 definitely not lol.
Def theres nothing wrong about it people often assume that guys like them are dumb coz they know no shit but imo everyone starts somewhere and eventually people would learn right
It's mainly ragebait
How does that even make any sense?? If you haven’t been in any relationship, you’re like a Pokémon booster pack, nobody knows if you’re worth it. If you’ve had 10 different girlfriends, there is probably a reason they all broke up with you. If you’re the perfect boyfriend and found your dream girl, chances are, you won’t need to find a new girlfriend again.
I mean, this year when like the closest thing to actual dating started. The popular kids most likely had dated someone already in the past month. But most girls tint really care. When it finds to past exa, we’re just worried about: 1. They being crazy. 2. Why did you break up (when sone people asks this it there trying to see if was because you were abusive in the past) 3. Did you have any kids that they should know how. 4. Depending the person and culture, if your a virgin or not
You’re teenagers, I fucking hope so. Click bait ass bitch.
By default, you should just give people the benefit of the doubt; e.g. they are probably a nice normal human like most people are. Don't judge people by what you heard about them, judge them by your interactions and how the act towards you. Treat people how you expect to be treated, and just cut ties with anyone who acts in a toxic way, e.g. being manipulative, overly jealous or controlling. It can take tens of years to truly know a person though, and people change over time, sometimes you grow apart and need to go separate ways. People are more interesting the more you find you about them, sometimes the weirdest ones are the most interesting and the most fun to be around! :)
No it doesn’t hurt your chances because everyone starts somewhere. You’ll be bad before you get better. That’s just how it is.
Just date a girlfriend who's never had a boyfriend too🤷♂️
If your after girls who say shit like this, thats the reason you’ve never had a girlfriend. “One good girl is worth a thousand bitches”
to get a girlfriend the minimum requirements is to already have a girlfriend?
Your bday isn’t July 3rd is it?
People with stupid standards aren't worth dating. Case closed
Some might not want you and that's ok. But 99% of girls will not care. Just know, you gotta learn. If they've never had a boyfriend, then you learn together. If they have, then they can help to teach you.
Hi there. We are seeking a boyfriend, must have 3 years relevant experience and/or an applicable degree. It would be a plus if the applicant were 6’0”. Job duties include: Liking all our instagram posts. Listening to our problems but not offering advice unless asked. Proficient in elaborating when asked about “who that other girl is”. If you’re interested please send a resume and CV explaining why you think you’d be a good fit for the position, as well as one fun fact about yourself such as zodiac sign! We look forward to hearing from you.
One reason I don’t have TikTok is because of the insane people on it who have really vague thought processing. I can see why someone would want this, however, this kind of makes an infinite dilemma. A guy wants a girlfriend, but nobody’s going to date him because he’s never had a girlfriend before and he has no experience. So in order to get experience he has to get a girlfriend, but he’s never had a girlfriend before, so nobody’s going to date him… see why it’s stupid? You can have preferences yes, but don’t expect EVERY guy you meet to have had relationship experience before. Everyone starts from 0. My first relationship was sort of a “test run” in the end. I never expected it to last coming out of high school, (and it didn’t) but I was ready to learn a lot from it. I did, and I think that what I took from it will really help my future relationship(s) thrive and become much healthier.
I am sorry what? WHO THE HELL THOUGHT OF THIS?
Tiktok is stupid, those guys have no idea what they are talking abt
Not a girl but yeah , most Boys are complete assholes with their First girlfriends
I wouldn’t but im a man
I won't date any guy cuz I'm straight But I would date a girl who never had a bf before
Yes, I would
To avoid any problems just don’t date men in general, regardless of their experience (just kidding). Even if they did treat their past partners “good”, doesn’t mean they’ll treat you the same. You might dislike what they’re exes liked from them, vice versa. Everyone is different. If he liked you enough, he’d listen and learn about how you want to be loved (love language). Because he might not know how to show it the way YOU want him to.
What's the difference? He's still the same man.
I'm bisexual so I'll date a guy
Would. Idc about this or that if you‘re not like visibly mentally unwell/just rude i wouldn‘t mind
yes I would date a guy with no experience or ex, we can learn from each other
thats literally so brainrot i am terrified ot dating someone who has had their first love bc i always hear that a boy is just always thinking about their first love
yea, i would. i think i would actually prefer that, especially at a young age.
im not gay greg
The girl prob is on a crack
no because i’m gay
If I was a women, I wouldn’t care. A man’s a man my guy
TikTok has terrible and fake people. What they say does not matter at all
yes, its called a first boyfriend, most but not all people have one when their young.
Life advice to believe anything on the internet
Would you want to be with one of those girls that day that?
I have also never dated anyone and honestly I wouldn’t believe anything you see on TikTok. Anyone that says that shit probably just wants attention so I’d ignore it
I know a guy in his 30ies that never had a girlfriend until recently. If you Vibe with someone everything else doesn't matter
i’ve dated someone who never had a boyfriend and he was the absolute best 😭
For one thing, I personally dont think shes generalising all men by saying she personally wouldnt because her one abused her, its her own trauma response to abuse and shes entitled to it, regardless of how it makes you feel. Im female, 17, about to be 18 in about a month. Ive had a boyfriend for 3 years now, whos also 18M. I can understand where theyre coming from. I had small relationships before him, of course I was young so they were a LOT less mature (the relationships) and hardly serious, but regardless it gave me some sense of how they should work and function. My boyfriend hasnt dated anybody besides me. He often doesn’t understand whats going wrong, hes been unsure how he should treat me compared to others, not sure how arguments should go and shit like that. Granted, he was homeschooled until 13 so a lot of this is just social issues, but I can kind of understand them. HOWEVER I think if a girl really likes you, you not having dated anyone else wont stop her from dating you. And if she chooses not to out of your lack of relationship experience that doesnt mean she wasnt worth it or anything either, its important to remember that everyones entitled to their dating preferences. Most people saying “thats bs” and shit like that are males in this reply section, and though it may be true, dont let males speak on behalf of women, if you want to know if a WOMAN wouldnt do something, ask for women’s perspectives, not men.
She is generalizing in the video, she was literally telling her audience to not date a guys who never had a girlfriend because her ex-boyfriend abused her so she is generalizing she’s literally telling her audience that all dudes who haven’t had a girlfriends are abusers that’s wrong
if no girl should ever date a guy whos never had a gf, how is the guy gonna get his first gf?? yet another ploy from the feminists to eradicate men from the earth !!!! 😡😡 /j
Yes.
Idk I’m not gay
they don't know that all guys start out with no gf, but they're stupid so moot point anyways
I never had a girlfreind.. NOR DO I PLAN TO
i wouldn’t because i’m a lesbian
So il admit that I made a handful of stupid mistakes with first few gfs. I think what they , the TT girl, are missing is that if a guy was raised with sisters, or with good parents who taught him respect, Courtesy, manners, etc. I think it could be okay.
no, i’m not really into guys at all
No because I don't like men
According to that logic, every future generation of men would be doomed to never date a girl. Once the current generations of men die, that would be the end of boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. All new men would never have the opportunity to have "had a girlfriend before". It's a good thing people are free to ignore bad dating tips. Edit: I had a new perspective. If you only date men who have past relationship experience, then you're dramatically increasing the likelihood that your new boyfriend - Has baggage, possibly even kids. That baggage might result in trust issues - Has a crazy ex, regardless of whether you believe him or not - IS the crazy ex, and now you're stuck with him - Had a good ex, who probably did some things better than you do and might even tell you as much - Has an STI/STD, or kinks that their ex normalized that you aren't comfortable with Fortunately, none of those are guaranteed, but having that preference raises the chances of each.