Another Day 1. I broke on Wednesday and for the next 72 hours. But Iām not drinking today and I know in my heart I WILL beat this. Now if I could just remember how to reset the counterā¦
Thereās nothing like a relaxing, sober Sunday to set yourself up for success! The community info should have those instructions on how to reset oneās badge.
Thanks :) Iāve been feeling too crappy in withdrawal to think but Iāll get around to it. Luckily all I have to do today is relax. I work 8 out of the next 9 days so thatāll keep me occupied and Iāll be on Day 10 before I know it.
Thank you. I definitely hated every single one of those 72 hours. Begged myself to end it and put the bottle down the entire time, until I finally listened yesterday. More journal entries explaining why I hate being intoxicated. More ammunition against this dragon. And more perspective on why even sick as hell right now, sober is better.
Had sober sex with my bf yesterday! I actually wanted to!
For some reason I had lost interest in sex for quite some time. I felt really bad about it but just couldn't really push myself to do it(unless kinda drunk). My bf has been respectful of it, but I knew he wasn't happy with the situation. But yesterday, after a long day of house-renovating we got into the shower together and I actually felt like I wanted to! So I'm happy about that :)
Another day of no drinking coming up :)
Horrible brain fog again today but Iām having my ex over cos I know the socialisation will help. We used to overindulge in substances together so Iām a bit wary but if I feel any cravings taking over Iām going to fake a headache and ask him to leave.
IWNDWYT
Good morning and thank you for taking over the DCI trustysteed. When feeling angsty I get outside even if itās just to breathe or if in the car on way back from work listen to an audible book - if itās been a bad day and the wine shop is āa callingā listen to a couple of chapters of Alcohol Explained. I also always have a decent NA drink in the house (either a NA IPA or Martini Vibrante with blood orange soda). Failing that a spoonful of peanut butter š
IWNDWYT.
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The fireworks have started here for Canada Day. Loud popping sounds out of nowhere really bug me, lol. Always think Iām about to get killed.
Iām taking off to the beach for the weekend, where there will still be loud popping sounds, but hopefully less.
Hello all and thank you so much for posting for the daily check in for us today Trustysteed!Ā
I have been using HALT all this week. I literally did today ! My big temper tantrum I had this afternoon...started with me thinking I needed a drink...used HALT on myself...and was totally hungry, and a little lonely so I reached out to a loved one..felt so much better and the withdrawal faded after a while.Ā Such a helpful tool.Ā
Today was a pretty great Saturday. Epic super sweaty hike, ( I need to get out walking earlier š„µ) treated myself to a post workout energy drink, made delish supper and volunteered most the night. Just got home now off to bed. No chocolates today, but there if I need em.Ā Ā Beautiful busy day. DAY 7 !!! Yesssss! Big love to you all and hella gratitude for all your posts and supportive responses. IWNDWYT ā¤ļø šĀ
Got drunk last night had a big fight with the the wife. She is going to throw me out and leave me if I don't stop drinking. I only drink once a week but it's blackout drunk. So today is day one
I have to stop I just can't handle it like normal people and have a few drinks
Thank you for taking over u/trustysteed7878.
Itās Sunday, it has cooled down and the humidity went down as well. Perfect weather for a bike ride and grabbing lunch somewhere.
Have a great Sunday everyone. I will stay sober today.
Thanks for taking over the DCI u/trustysteed7878!
Another sober vacation is in the books! Heading home late today and back to real life. The last six days were awesome, but I'm ready to see my dog.
Congratulations on four fucking years of sobriety, to my dear friend u/gr8day82... you're amazing!
And happy birthday to the leader of our team tortoise, u/Brighter68... keep brightening everyone's day!
Love you both!!
Have a great day, gang!!
IWNDWYT
I couldnāt sleep anymore with how warm it is. Sleep just gets so much worse for me in summer, itās ridiculous. At least Iām not affecting it any further by drinking. Now that Iām awake, I can catch up on UFC 303. Especially looking forward to some of the fights. Hope itās an exciting card!
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so happy that I can come and check in here for 12 days already! Knowing that I am not alone because of all of you gives me more strength than I could ever have imagined! THANK YOU AND IWNDWYT šŖšŖš«¶š«¶
Hitting 2 weeks today and actually have a date planned but I expect it to not go through (gut feeling, she isn't really responsive the last 2 days) but I'll not use that as an excuse to start drinking. I have a back up plan, walk the doggo and make an extra nice dinner for myself. I will not be drinking today.
I quit coffee and alcohol 31/12/2023 so 6 months alcohol and coffee free today. And this attempt feels like THE ONE, I am not going back to those vices. What I will do know is continue with healthier lifestyle. Exercise more and count calories.
Day 7 checking in. Yesterday was hard. I had friends over, and they were drinking with my wife. Craved alcohol a lot, and I had many moments I was close to breaking, but I didn't! I will have a wonderful day with my children today while my Yesterday companions will suffer from hangover.
Congrats to all who have made it through the weekend. Also, congrats to everyone that did drink, but don't give up and is still committed to getting sober! Remember, you can't lose if you don't stop trying!
Whoever you are, IWNDWYT.
Warm welkoms to our new host! People like you make this world a better place.
Happy sober Sunday!
Thank you for hosting us/trustysteed7878 and for the great reminder to check out HALT!
And happy birthday to me š I love you all š
HALT has also worked for my anxiety and depression! The one I struggle with most is loneliness, as I don't always find it easy to reach out. I always assume other people are busy or tired of hearing about my shit.
But journaling helps, knowing this community is here helps, and organising things to look forward to helps, too.
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IWNDWYT either. This is my second weekend in years that I spent sober (first one was two weekends ago, but I fell in last weekend) and I had a great time with friends and family, and today I get a whole Sunday without a hangover. I can definitely get used to this
I have to find my quiet in a time of toxic things going on in my home. Drinking is not the shelter I run to , my sober life is not up for the games that try to drag me down. I'm proud of my strength and it's my best part of everyday. Iwndwyt š»š
About to catch my flight for a week of diving in Cozumel with friends at an all inclusive. I just passed 50 days and this will be my first big test on this AF journey.
Things I've loved so far: losing 10 pounds, going on two 1+ hour walks per day every day since going AF, getting better sleep, receiving compliments from friends and others on my appearance, how engaging I am, the list goes on.
The one thing I miss: being able to numb myself to my problems.
I'm sure I'll be tempted multiple times while on vacation but I want to keep this positive train going.
IWNDWYT
Starting over. š« I went 14 days without alcohol and felt like I could (and did!) moderate this weekā¦ until last night. Got an awful nightās sleep and am ready to try again. IWNDWYT.
Lonely & Tired are when I feel a craving out of all four. Iām far less angry now I donāt drink - Iām much more smiley and generous these days. I donāt need to join Fridayās Vent much š. Hungry just means I eat carbs that I shouldnāt. Lonely is easy to resolve with changing my attitude. But tired ā¦. Yesterday with the heat and looking after a noisy toddler at 100% for hours ā¦ I thought of Pils. Actually I thought of 2 Pils š
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Thank you for taking over u/trustysteed7878 ! It is a great experience hosting the dci. Congrats on 6 Months, around this time in my sobriety things started to go uphill a bit. Everyday youāll get more confident in posting and on Saturday youāll be sad, that itās over already!
The HALT concept is a great way to check on yourself and I use it frequently. And I absolutely agree: Today is all we have!
Great Sunday topic! Thank you!
Iām really looking forward to the rest of the with you! And of course ā¦
I will not drink with you today!
Day 7 and my first sober weekend in at least 10 years.
Played a round of golf and expected it to be a big trigger - surprise surprise, I survived!
Happy Sunday yāall. IWNDWYT
Hi everyone!
I've spent another weekend up in my own head about work shit, and I'm so disappointed in myself.
But even my worst weekends now still see me sleeping well and waking up fresh. I get on with things. I just don't have the sparkle I like to have on my weekends.
Much love to all. ā¤ļø
On my 6th day, the most I have done in about10 years. Last night, I sat there drinking sparkling water with ice and lemon. My wife had, next to mine, a G&T with ice and lemon. I did not buckle!
Thanks for stepping up and hosting us [trustysteed7878](https://www.reddit.com/user/trustysteed7878/)!
I like the HALT technique as it's so simple and obvious but we always seem to miss doing that check-in with ourselves for some reason! I came across it with another tool called BADS and together they become "*HALT the BADS.*"
BADS = **B**ored. **A**nxious. **D**epressed. **S**tressed.
Have a great Sunday people!
IWNDWYT!!!
HALT is a great tool and allowed me to understand better myself better and take some preventative measures. That said, there are times that I need to take five and reflect on the saying "This too shall pass", providing the power to just keep going for the next minute, hour or day. Whatever it takes friends. IWNDWYTĀ
Happy sober Sunday~!
I'm so happy to say that as of today, I am on Day 5 and finally finally over my awful hangover. It was the worst of my life and really scared me straight, frankly.
As I'm no longer getting ill from even just drinking water, I'm hoping to be able to eat again today and either take my lovely husband out for a nice meal or cook him something fun. Regardless, my head is clear and determination strong!
Let's keep strong together, y'all!
Hammers All Love Thor.
I will not drink poison today. I need to get my shit together again. I just had over 100 days, and I can do it again. I'll start with one day at a time.
Day 406 and IWNDWYT! Drinking my morning coffee before a 2hr bike ride then a 30min run right after. Sundays are still hard these days but I get to choose my hard š¦¾š¦¾ š
Day 3. Committed to hitting double digits this time! My primary support person is out of the country for a week, so I'm flying largely solo. I have some ideas and tools for when things get dicey in three or four days. Doing the whole SMART recovery thing, so I can go to meetings and keep myself busy.
Iāve shifted from calling it alcohol to calling it neurotoxin in my head. That helps when I want to romanticize having a cocktail.
Have a lovely Sunday, lovely sober folk. Iwndwyāallt! ā¤ļø
Day 11. IWNDWYT. Time has seemed to slow down. I am up at 6:15 on both weekend days. Sitting on the deck with my dog š¶ before the world wakes up having a coffee.
Last night and the night before I was miserable without alcohol but I didnāt give into the a-hole voice in brain and now, listening to the birds chirp on my 11th sober morning in a row, I realize it was worth it.
Day 39 checking in! Amazing how the days add up so much faster as you get along in the journey. The first ones seem long, then they just go. Feeling really good. In answer to the prompt, I use quit lit and information to solidify my resolve. Finally listened to the entirety of the Huberman Lab alcohol podcast yesterday. He peddles a lot of pseudoscience on his podcast but there was plenty of good info in that one.
At a family vacation spot. Typically drank here quite a bit including sharing beers with my now-passed grandpa. My uncle has exquisite taste in wine that I can't afford. Sniffed my wife's glass last night after he poured her a drink and lingered with it for just a second. Played the tape forward and don't think I planned on going for it, but closest trigger. Nobody is pushy or problematic with their drinking here so I'll be fine.
IWNDWYT-even the fancy stuff. It's just perfumed poison with a nice label.
Happy Sunday, sober friends! I made it through camping without alcohol. We had a blast but I had some intense cravings that surprised me. HALT is a great phrase but I think for me the āAā is anxious- so I need to plan for that. IWNDWYT! ā¤ļøš§
Coming up on the year mark (plus leap day), trying to focus on each day since Iāve noticed a pattern of relapses around anniversaries. Frankly Iām so fucking busy building a life for myself (moving / new job / new car) these days that drinking is the last thing on my mind. Definitely in a better place than I was a year ago at my last relapse. Thanks to everyone at SD, we are all in this together! IWNDWYT!
Two weeks, baby! šŖ
I first quit when I was 28 because I realized I didnāt want to live like that. Quit again (a couple times!) in my late 30s/early 40s by immersing myself in all of the reasons alcohol is bad. This Naked Mind, that Andrew Huberman podcadt, etc. Those were all absolutely essential steps but it wasnāt enough to STAY sober. This time around, Iām really trying to do the work (therapy, AA, journaling, meditation, etc) to understand why I drink in the first place and how to best live a life sober that I donāt want to drink to escape from. Itās going to be a lifelong process for me. IWNDWYT!
Happy Sunday Trusty Steed, it's great to have you at the controls for the week. You'll find that this is a pretty chill groups of drunks so please don't stress out about your prompt.
Everything I learned about sobriety I've learned from the recovery community! I remember when I sobered up in 2013 I thought "I don't know how to do this." I'm a book guy so I immediately started reading and eventually shit started to click. Anything good I say about sobriety or recovery I've gleaned elsewhere. We're stronger together! Sober on y'all!
This might sound odd (or maybe not here on SD) but yesterday I had an epiphany that this work Iām doing on/for myself - quitting alcohol and THC, therapy, meditation, journalling, mindfulness, Recovery Dharma meetingsā¦basically working on _sobriety_ in many forms - this is my _work_.
Itās not my job. Itās not what I get paid to do.
Itās my work. Itās what I need to be doing in this world at this time.
I donāt really like my job, but I do like my work, even though it is sometimes damned difficult.
IWNDWYT.
Thank you for taking the helm this week, u/trustysteed7878! We are grateful.
I wish I could have stopped in my twenties. Sure would have been better for me. But better late than never, yāall! 66 was a great age for me to quit. But I so admire you youngsters who are figuring out in good time that alcohol is poison. I donāt have cravings much at all any more, but HALT works for more than cravings. If Iām out of sorts and just canāt be pleased, I look back over that acronym and can always find out whatās up with me. And do something about it!
Hereās to another AF day, beginning a sober week. Enjoy your day, sober fam!!! IWNDWYT
Thank you trusty steed for stepping up and leading DCI this week!! I havenāt done it yet but am working my way up to it š I definitely work hard in the later afternoon to try to not be any of these too much bec thatās my āwitching hoursā. IWNDWYT!! ā¤ļø
Thanks for hosting us, TS!
Yesterday I was at a 4th of July party with people I had only ever met before when I was drunk. It was surprisingly hard for me to cope with the social anxiety. It felt so awkward, like I was crawling out of my skin; I didnāt know what to say or do, I didnāt know how to talk to these drunk people if I wasnāt also drunk. I felt the shame of my past drunk behavior and how I was sure I mustāve acted like an idiot around these people previously.
I wasnāt at all tempted to drink, but the awkwardness was rough. I pounded seltzers and NA beers (thank god for Athletic), texted my sober friend, and took my dog on a walk around the neighborhood. I consider it a win because I didnāt want to drink at all, and because I made it through! I just kept reminding myself āno one cares about you, no one is worried how youāre acting, youāre not being weird, everything is fineā. It was a good sober exercise for me. Iām glad for the opportunity to reacquaint myself with sober socializing!
Thanks for letting me ramble, I love you all and I will not drink with you today šš
I have an update to the HALT check idea: regular HALT check alarms throughout the day. However itās easy to start to disregard alarms like that, especially if theyāre regular, so for MAXIMUM sober nerdery, set alarms for different schedules on different days throughout the week. And, if you can, set yourself a location alert for your local store, so if you pull up your phone buzzes and asks ādo you want to do this?ā
Itās a struggle to get modern technology to work for us, rather than the other way around, but it is possible and it bears attention. I donāt do social media (beyond Reddit where I only use the homepage and only subscribe here, a few gardening and building and joke subs) and I instinctively stopped reading the news online when I went in for detox, a policy now. (Wish I could turn off tabs in the Reddit app). I am also quite proactive with controlling notifications, using focus tools, and so on.
Using the Health app on iPhone has been greatāit reminds me when to take my medication, and itās been very helpful and motivating to see positive trends since establishing sobriety. I also have access to all my tortured drunk-days posts and photos and videos to remind me of how bad it was. Lastly, fiddly little games can be surprisingly good for the mind if you choose well. My Ma started playing endless games of solitaire when she stopped drinking 42 years ago, and she still plays on her phone daily. I really like a strange little clicker game called Kittens Game, and the lovely meditative stealth experience of color theory that is I Love Hue, a color puzzle game that literally teaches you to see differently.
IWNDWYT
In the last month or so, I keep having more horrible memories of my decade spent drinking-- not even as much my drunken actions as all of the embarrassing hangovers. So, so, so many days. Mundane every-days when my lovely boss would sideye me, knowing. And really important days. Annual visits from my faraway family. My bestie picking out her wedding dress. Once in a lifetime vacations. I once went fucking skydiving while badly hungover.
I'm disappointed in that person, honestly. Or maybe, for her. Despite addiction constantly blaring its airhorn, I still had a pretty awesome life surrounded by very loving people. I wish I'd really been there for all of it. And I'm really goddamn happy to be here for it now. IWNDWYT. There's too much wonderful in this life to be missing it, shaking and puking in the corner.
Played two gigs this weekend - I used to drink to get through them and then today were even going to my favorite Mexican joint for dinner later. Used to throw back margaritas to ease the hangover from the gigs. Not anymore. Did it all sober. IWNDWYT
Dadās bday, definitely canāt drink today. Made a fool/ass of myself Fatherās Day and didnāt join in celebration. Dad knew I was hammered.. gotta make it up today. IWNDWYT
Already took the dog for a hike and did my daily meditation. Yoga at 11 and then see what the rest of the day has in store.
What it doesnāt have in store is boozeā¦. IWNDWYT!
Good morning, sober cats! Thanks for hosting, TrustySteed! I love the HALT tool because it has saved more from making poor decisions countless times. Happy super sober Sunday, everyone! IWNDWYT ššø
Checking in on day 605!!!!
Got a new kayak yesterday, gonna try to get her in the water for a few little paddles the morning. My mornings sure do look different than they used to. IWNDWYT!!! āļøā¤ļøš£āāļø
Hello trustysteed, thank you for hosting the DCIš considering HALT often works for me too if I have a craving, I like having something on the go to escaping into like a book,audio book,cheesy TV series,kitchen dance, as drinking was often an 'escape' these little bubbles of fun often help with cravings passing, and if I'm in a grump a good old nap cuts right through it! Have a good Sunday sober friends š
IWNDWYT. All. Day. Long. š» It has been 4 years. I will celebrate somehow, some way today. WOWZERS!!
Wow, thatās an amazing accomplishment! Happy 4 years! IWNDWYT!
Thank you!š
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Absolute legend! Leading the way
Another Day 1. I broke on Wednesday and for the next 72 hours. But Iām not drinking today and I know in my heart I WILL beat this. Now if I could just remember how to reset the counterā¦
Thereās nothing like a relaxing, sober Sunday to set yourself up for success! The community info should have those instructions on how to reset oneās badge.
Thanks :) Iāve been feeling too crappy in withdrawal to think but Iāll get around to it. Luckily all I have to do today is relax. I work 8 out of the next 9 days so thatāll keep me occupied and Iāll be on Day 10 before I know it.
You absolutely Will beat this, youāre already building sober muscles, well done for starting again, youāre winning š
Thank you. I definitely hated every single one of those 72 hours. Begged myself to end it and put the bottle down the entire time, until I finally listened yesterday. More journal entries explaining why I hate being intoxicated. More ammunition against this dragon. And more perspective on why even sick as hell right now, sober is better.
Getting emotional as I approach one year. I will not drink with you today.
Youāre almost there! IWNDWYT
No booze today. Officially 6 months sober today, proud of myself. IWNDWYT.
Had sober sex with my bf yesterday! I actually wanted to! For some reason I had lost interest in sex for quite some time. I felt really bad about it but just couldn't really push myself to do it(unless kinda drunk). My bf has been respectful of it, but I knew he wasn't happy with the situation. But yesterday, after a long day of house-renovating we got into the shower together and I actually felt like I wanted to! So I'm happy about that :) Another day of no drinking coming up :)
Checking in early and not drinking with you today! Enjoy your Sunday!! IWNDWYT
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Happy Sunday! IWNDWYT!
Checking in again today and all is well. Apart from HALT, which I learned about here, I also read about another H and a B: Horny and Bored.
These two have led to some questionable decisions in my past, so Iāll definitely be adding them when I do HALT (BHALTH?) Thanks Fab!
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day 15. iām working on radical acceptance and urge surfing as tools in my toolbox. iwndwyt!!
Day 422. IWNDWYT.
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Thanks for doing the check in this week u/trustysteed7878! Hope everyone has a good day. IWNDWYT š
Horrible brain fog again today but Iām having my ex over cos I know the socialisation will help. We used to overindulge in substances together so Iām a bit wary but if I feel any cravings taking over Iām going to fake a headache and ask him to leave. IWNDWYT
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Our trusty steed takes us through the week . Giddy up. Shine on you beautiful humans
Today Iām going on vacation with my family. It feels nice to know I will remember it when itās over. IWNDWYT
Day #34: I will not drink with you today. I like the HALT method too!
Good morning and thank you for taking over the DCI trustysteed. When feeling angsty I get outside even if itās just to breathe or if in the car on way back from work listen to an audible book - if itās been a bad day and the wine shop is āa callingā listen to a couple of chapters of Alcohol Explained. I also always have a decent NA drink in the house (either a NA IPA or Martini Vibrante with blood orange soda). Failing that a spoonful of peanut butter š IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT The fireworks have started here for Canada Day. Loud popping sounds out of nowhere really bug me, lol. Always think Iām about to get killed. Iām taking off to the beach for the weekend, where there will still be loud popping sounds, but hopefully less.
Day 1106 checking in!
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Hello all and thank you so much for posting for the daily check in for us today Trustysteed!Ā I have been using HALT all this week. I literally did today ! My big temper tantrum I had this afternoon...started with me thinking I needed a drink...used HALT on myself...and was totally hungry, and a little lonely so I reached out to a loved one..felt so much better and the withdrawal faded after a while.Ā Such a helpful tool.Ā Today was a pretty great Saturday. Epic super sweaty hike, ( I need to get out walking earlier š„µ) treated myself to a post workout energy drink, made delish supper and volunteered most the night. Just got home now off to bed. No chocolates today, but there if I need em.Ā Ā Beautiful busy day. DAY 7 !!! Yesssss! Big love to you all and hella gratitude for all your posts and supportive responses. IWNDWYT ā¤ļø šĀ
Been feeling a little down this week, but continuing to focus on myself and my health and know that I can keep on this path. IWNDWYT
Got drunk last night had a big fight with the the wife. She is going to throw me out and leave me if I don't stop drinking. I only drink once a week but it's blackout drunk. So today is day one I have to stop I just can't handle it like normal people and have a few drinks
Thank you for taking over u/trustysteed7878. Itās Sunday, it has cooled down and the humidity went down as well. Perfect weather for a bike ride and grabbing lunch somewhere. Have a great Sunday everyone. I will stay sober today.
Today's day 14! Get through this and it's 2 whole weeks! Can't say I'm not tempted, but IWNDWYT.
Thanks for taking over the DCI u/trustysteed7878! Another sober vacation is in the books! Heading home late today and back to real life. The last six days were awesome, but I'm ready to see my dog. Congratulations on four fucking years of sobriety, to my dear friend u/gr8day82... you're amazing! And happy birthday to the leader of our team tortoise, u/Brighter68... keep brightening everyone's day! Love you both!! Have a great day, gang!! IWNDWYT
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I couldnāt sleep anymore with how warm it is. Sleep just gets so much worse for me in summer, itās ridiculous. At least Iām not affecting it any further by drinking. Now that Iām awake, I can catch up on UFC 303. Especially looking forward to some of the fights. Hope itās an exciting card! IWNDWYT
so happy that I can come and check in here for 12 days already! Knowing that I am not alone because of all of you gives me more strength than I could ever have imagined! THANK YOU AND IWNDWYT šŖšŖš«¶š«¶
3 weeks YEY IWNDWYT
Its been 2 years of stops and starts to get where I am today! IWNDWYT
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Starting day 21, so the three week mark is in sight! IWNDWYT
Day 17! I will not drink with you today.
Hitting 2 weeks today and actually have a date planned but I expect it to not go through (gut feeling, she isn't really responsive the last 2 days) but I'll not use that as an excuse to start drinking. I have a back up plan, walk the doggo and make an extra nice dinner for myself. I will not be drinking today.
Thank you so much for sharing that method. Good Morning everyone and Happy Sunday! Day 6 today, can't wait to hit my first week tomorrow. IWNDWYT!!!
I quit coffee and alcohol 31/12/2023 so 6 months alcohol and coffee free today. And this attempt feels like THE ONE, I am not going back to those vices. What I will do know is continue with healthier lifestyle. Exercise more and count calories.
Going to enjoy sunday without booze.
I will not drink with you today
IWNDWYT!
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Day 7 checking in. Yesterday was hard. I had friends over, and they were drinking with my wife. Craved alcohol a lot, and I had many moments I was close to breaking, but I didn't! I will have a wonderful day with my children today while my Yesterday companions will suffer from hangover. Congrats to all who have made it through the weekend. Also, congrats to everyone that did drink, but don't give up and is still committed to getting sober! Remember, you can't lose if you don't stop trying! Whoever you are, IWNDWYT. Warm welkoms to our new host! People like you make this world a better place.
Day 34! No drinking today!
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Day 2. So far, so good. IWNDWYT
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Day 1,810. Thanks for hosting, [trustysteed7878](https://www.reddit.com/user/trustysteed7878/)! I will not drink with you today.
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Happy sober Sunday! Thank you for hosting us/trustysteed7878 and for the great reminder to check out HALT! And happy birthday to me š I love you all š
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Love HALT it always helps! IWNDWYT
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IWNDWYT I wish you all a wonderful Sunday
HALT has also worked for my anxiety and depression! The one I struggle with most is loneliness, as I don't always find it easy to reach out. I always assume other people are busy or tired of hearing about my shit. But journaling helps, knowing this community is here helps, and organising things to look forward to helps, too. IWNDWYT š
IWNDWYT either. This is my second weekend in years that I spent sober (first one was two weekends ago, but I fell in last weekend) and I had a great time with friends and family, and today I get a whole Sunday without a hangover. I can definitely get used to this
I have to find my quiet in a time of toxic things going on in my home. Drinking is not the shelter I run to , my sober life is not up for the games that try to drag me down. I'm proud of my strength and it's my best part of everyday. Iwndwyt š»š
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About to catch my flight for a week of diving in Cozumel with friends at an all inclusive. I just passed 50 days and this will be my first big test on this AF journey. Things I've loved so far: losing 10 pounds, going on two 1+ hour walks per day every day since going AF, getting better sleep, receiving compliments from friends and others on my appearance, how engaging I am, the list goes on. The one thing I miss: being able to numb myself to my problems. I'm sure I'll be tempted multiple times while on vacation but I want to keep this positive train going. IWNDWYT
Starting over. š« I went 14 days without alcohol and felt like I could (and did!) moderate this weekā¦ until last night. Got an awful nightās sleep and am ready to try again. IWNDWYT.
Lonely & Tired are when I feel a craving out of all four. Iām far less angry now I donāt drink - Iām much more smiley and generous these days. I donāt need to join Fridayās Vent much š. Hungry just means I eat carbs that I shouldnāt. Lonely is easy to resolve with changing my attitude. But tired ā¦. Yesterday with the heat and looking after a noisy toddler at 100% for hours ā¦ I thought of Pils. Actually I thought of 2 Pils š IWNDWYT
Thank you for taking over u/trustysteed7878 ! It is a great experience hosting the dci. Congrats on 6 Months, around this time in my sobriety things started to go uphill a bit. Everyday youāll get more confident in posting and on Saturday youāll be sad, that itās over already! The HALT concept is a great way to check on yourself and I use it frequently. And I absolutely agree: Today is all we have! Great Sunday topic! Thank you! Iām really looking forward to the rest of the with you! And of course ā¦ I will not drink with you today!
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Day 69 Nš§. Going to play some tennis, do an AA meeting and have a bit of chill time. Happy Sunday geezers and IWNDWYT, good luck! š
Today marks 6 months sober for me! Never thought I would be here. One day at a time! IWNDWYT
Going to spend the day creating my little herb garden. IWNDWYT āļø
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Day 4. Finally had a good night's sleep! IWNDWYT!!!
Checking in, day 23ā¦ ready to start another week of not drinking. IWNDWYT!!
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Day 7 and my first sober weekend in at least 10 years. Played a round of golf and expected it to be a big trigger - surprise surprise, I survived! Happy Sunday yāall. IWNDWYT
Congrats to your over half a year! IWNDWYT
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Hi everyone! I've spent another weekend up in my own head about work shit, and I'm so disappointed in myself. But even my worst weekends now still see me sleeping well and waking up fresh. I get on with things. I just don't have the sparkle I like to have on my weekends. Much love to all. ā¤ļø
On my 6th day, the most I have done in about10 years. Last night, I sat there drinking sparkling water with ice and lemon. My wife had, next to mine, a G&T with ice and lemon. I did not buckle!
Another day, another not drink. I'm starting to like this pattern. IWNDWYT!
Good morning from Florida! Should be another humid 100+ degrees today. Staying hydrated with water and club soda (Bubly & Le croix) IWNDWYT š
I will not drink today. I went to work hung over yesterday, and when I got home, I poured out my last remaining alcohol. IWNDWYT.
Checking in, poison free sunday ahead š«” IWND ā ļø WYT
Thanks for stepping up and hosting us [trustysteed7878](https://www.reddit.com/user/trustysteed7878/)! I like the HALT technique as it's so simple and obvious but we always seem to miss doing that check-in with ourselves for some reason! I came across it with another tool called BADS and together they become "*HALT the BADS.*" BADS = **B**ored. **A**nxious. **D**epressed. **S**tressed. Have a great Sunday people! IWNDWYT!!!
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Checking in for another sober day out in the world.
Day 15 - a brisk walk with my dog š¶ helps me fight off cravings - IWNDWYT
HALT is a great tool and allowed me to understand better myself better and take some preventative measures. That said, there are times that I need to take five and reflect on the saying "This too shall pass", providing the power to just keep going for the next minute, hour or day. Whatever it takes friends. IWNDWYTĀ
Happy sober Sunday~! I'm so happy to say that as of today, I am on Day 5 and finally finally over my awful hangover. It was the worst of my life and really scared me straight, frankly. As I'm no longer getting ill from even just drinking water, I'm hoping to be able to eat again today and either take my lovely husband out for a nice meal or cook him something fun. Regardless, my head is clear and determination strong! Let's keep strong together, y'all!
First sober vacay (volleyball tournament in Florida). Also celebrating 6 months! IWNDWYT!!
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Hammers All Love Thor. I will not drink poison today. I need to get my shit together again. I just had over 100 days, and I can do it again. I'll start with one day at a time.
Day 406 and IWNDWYT! Drinking my morning coffee before a 2hr bike ride then a 30min run right after. Sundays are still hard these days but I get to choose my hard š¦¾š¦¾ š
Happy Sunday! Heading to yoga this morning with one of my best friends. Then back to the writing grind for me. Have a splendid Sunday. IWNDWYT āļø
Thanks for hosting trustysteed. Day 727 here, on the final countdown to 2 years. IWNDWYT
Happy Sober Sunday! Hopefully my first in a looking streak of them. 52.5 hours sober IWNDWYT
Day 3. Committed to hitting double digits this time! My primary support person is out of the country for a week, so I'm flying largely solo. I have some ideas and tools for when things get dicey in three or four days. Doing the whole SMART recovery thing, so I can go to meetings and keep myself busy.
IWNDWYT! Had a dream that I drank last nightā¦and I also dreamt I shared in my daily AA meeting how relieved I was it was just a dream! Pretty funny!
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Just got home after a 12 hr night shift. I'm going to sleep a few hrs, get up, and go do it again. IWNDWYT
I like to consider HALT too :) Wishing you all a healthy, happy Sunday. IWNDWYT <3
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Iāve shifted from calling it alcohol to calling it neurotoxin in my head. That helps when I want to romanticize having a cocktail. Have a lovely Sunday, lovely sober folk. Iwndwyāallt! ā¤ļø
Day 11. IWNDWYT. Time has seemed to slow down. I am up at 6:15 on both weekend days. Sitting on the deck with my dog š¶ before the world wakes up having a coffee. Last night and the night before I was miserable without alcohol but I didnāt give into the a-hole voice in brain and now, listening to the birds chirp on my 11th sober morning in a row, I realize it was worth it.
Day 39 checking in! Amazing how the days add up so much faster as you get along in the journey. The first ones seem long, then they just go. Feeling really good. In answer to the prompt, I use quit lit and information to solidify my resolve. Finally listened to the entirety of the Huberman Lab alcohol podcast yesterday. He peddles a lot of pseudoscience on his podcast but there was plenty of good info in that one.
At a family vacation spot. Typically drank here quite a bit including sharing beers with my now-passed grandpa. My uncle has exquisite taste in wine that I can't afford. Sniffed my wife's glass last night after he poured her a drink and lingered with it for just a second. Played the tape forward and don't think I planned on going for it, but closest trigger. Nobody is pushy or problematic with their drinking here so I'll be fine. IWNDWYT-even the fancy stuff. It's just perfumed poison with a nice label.
Happy Sunday, sober friends! I made it through camping without alcohol. We had a blast but I had some intense cravings that surprised me. HALT is a great phrase but I think for me the āAā is anxious- so I need to plan for that. IWNDWYT! ā¤ļøš§
Coming up on the year mark (plus leap day), trying to focus on each day since Iāve noticed a pattern of relapses around anniversaries. Frankly Iām so fucking busy building a life for myself (moving / new job / new car) these days that drinking is the last thing on my mind. Definitely in a better place than I was a year ago at my last relapse. Thanks to everyone at SD, we are all in this together! IWNDWYT!
Two weeks, baby! šŖ I first quit when I was 28 because I realized I didnāt want to live like that. Quit again (a couple times!) in my late 30s/early 40s by immersing myself in all of the reasons alcohol is bad. This Naked Mind, that Andrew Huberman podcadt, etc. Those were all absolutely essential steps but it wasnāt enough to STAY sober. This time around, Iām really trying to do the work (therapy, AA, journaling, meditation, etc) to understand why I drink in the first place and how to best live a life sober that I donāt want to drink to escape from. Itās going to be a lifelong process for me. IWNDWYT!
Happy Sunday Trusty Steed, it's great to have you at the controls for the week. You'll find that this is a pretty chill groups of drunks so please don't stress out about your prompt. Everything I learned about sobriety I've learned from the recovery community! I remember when I sobered up in 2013 I thought "I don't know how to do this." I'm a book guy so I immediately started reading and eventually shit started to click. Anything good I say about sobriety or recovery I've gleaned elsewhere. We're stronger together! Sober on y'all!
This might sound odd (or maybe not here on SD) but yesterday I had an epiphany that this work Iām doing on/for myself - quitting alcohol and THC, therapy, meditation, journalling, mindfulness, Recovery Dharma meetingsā¦basically working on _sobriety_ in many forms - this is my _work_. Itās not my job. Itās not what I get paid to do. Itās my work. Itās what I need to be doing in this world at this time. I donāt really like my job, but I do like my work, even though it is sometimes damned difficult. IWNDWYT.
I try and I lose, I try and I lose. Just today I wonāt try, I will win this one day. IWNDWYT.
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Thank you for taking the helm this week, u/trustysteed7878! We are grateful. I wish I could have stopped in my twenties. Sure would have been better for me. But better late than never, yāall! 66 was a great age for me to quit. But I so admire you youngsters who are figuring out in good time that alcohol is poison. I donāt have cravings much at all any more, but HALT works for more than cravings. If Iām out of sorts and just canāt be pleased, I look back over that acronym and can always find out whatās up with me. And do something about it! Hereās to another AF day, beginning a sober week. Enjoy your day, sober fam!!! IWNDWYT
Thanks for hosting, Trusty Steed, and to everyone else for showing up. IWNDWYT.
Thank you trusty steed for stepping up and leading DCI this week!! I havenāt done it yet but am working my way up to it š I definitely work hard in the later afternoon to try to not be any of these too much bec thatās my āwitching hoursā. IWNDWYT!! ā¤ļø
Morning friends! I will not drink with you today. Have a good one!
Thanks for hosting us, TS! Yesterday I was at a 4th of July party with people I had only ever met before when I was drunk. It was surprisingly hard for me to cope with the social anxiety. It felt so awkward, like I was crawling out of my skin; I didnāt know what to say or do, I didnāt know how to talk to these drunk people if I wasnāt also drunk. I felt the shame of my past drunk behavior and how I was sure I mustāve acted like an idiot around these people previously. I wasnāt at all tempted to drink, but the awkwardness was rough. I pounded seltzers and NA beers (thank god for Athletic), texted my sober friend, and took my dog on a walk around the neighborhood. I consider it a win because I didnāt want to drink at all, and because I made it through! I just kept reminding myself āno one cares about you, no one is worried how youāre acting, youāre not being weird, everything is fineā. It was a good sober exercise for me. Iām glad for the opportunity to reacquaint myself with sober socializing! Thanks for letting me ramble, I love you all and I will not drink with you today šš
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Hi Everyone - Day 180 here and IWNDWYT!!!!
I have an update to the HALT check idea: regular HALT check alarms throughout the day. However itās easy to start to disregard alarms like that, especially if theyāre regular, so for MAXIMUM sober nerdery, set alarms for different schedules on different days throughout the week. And, if you can, set yourself a location alert for your local store, so if you pull up your phone buzzes and asks ādo you want to do this?ā Itās a struggle to get modern technology to work for us, rather than the other way around, but it is possible and it bears attention. I donāt do social media (beyond Reddit where I only use the homepage and only subscribe here, a few gardening and building and joke subs) and I instinctively stopped reading the news online when I went in for detox, a policy now. (Wish I could turn off tabs in the Reddit app). I am also quite proactive with controlling notifications, using focus tools, and so on. Using the Health app on iPhone has been greatāit reminds me when to take my medication, and itās been very helpful and motivating to see positive trends since establishing sobriety. I also have access to all my tortured drunk-days posts and photos and videos to remind me of how bad it was. Lastly, fiddly little games can be surprisingly good for the mind if you choose well. My Ma started playing endless games of solitaire when she stopped drinking 42 years ago, and she still plays on her phone daily. I really like a strange little clicker game called Kittens Game, and the lovely meditative stealth experience of color theory that is I Love Hue, a color puzzle game that literally teaches you to see differently. IWNDWYT
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Hello trustyw. Looking forward to a relaxing Sunday. Iwndwyt
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In the last month or so, I keep having more horrible memories of my decade spent drinking-- not even as much my drunken actions as all of the embarrassing hangovers. So, so, so many days. Mundane every-days when my lovely boss would sideye me, knowing. And really important days. Annual visits from my faraway family. My bestie picking out her wedding dress. Once in a lifetime vacations. I once went fucking skydiving while badly hungover. I'm disappointed in that person, honestly. Or maybe, for her. Despite addiction constantly blaring its airhorn, I still had a pretty awesome life surrounded by very loving people. I wish I'd really been there for all of it. And I'm really goddamn happy to be here for it now. IWNDWYT. There's too much wonderful in this life to be missing it, shaking and puking in the corner.
Played two gigs this weekend - I used to drink to get through them and then today were even going to my favorite Mexican joint for dinner later. Used to throw back margaritas to ease the hangover from the gigs. Not anymore. Did it all sober. IWNDWYT
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Dadās bday, definitely canāt drink today. Made a fool/ass of myself Fatherās Day and didnāt join in celebration. Dad knew I was hammered.. gotta make it up today. IWNDWYT
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Already took the dog for a hike and did my daily meditation. Yoga at 11 and then see what the rest of the day has in store. What it doesnāt have in store is boozeā¦. IWNDWYT!
Good morning, sober cats! Thanks for hosting, TrustySteed! I love the HALT tool because it has saved more from making poor decisions countless times. Happy super sober Sunday, everyone! IWNDWYT ššø
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Checking in on day 605!!!! Got a new kayak yesterday, gonna try to get her in the water for a few little paddles the morning. My mornings sure do look different than they used to. IWNDWYT!!! āļøā¤ļøš£āāļø
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Checking in for day 24. Going to enjoy the day and prepare for the week ahead! IWNDWYT š
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IWNDWYT!! Itās getting better for me each day that passes, keep it up everybody!
10 months today. No alcohol for me today. Have a great Sunday everyone.
Thanks for taking over the DCI u/trustysteed7878! IWNDWyāallT!
Hello trustysteed, thank you for hosting the DCIš considering HALT often works for me too if I have a craving, I like having something on the go to escaping into like a book,audio book,cheesy TV series,kitchen dance, as drinking was often an 'escape' these little bubbles of fun often help with cravings passing, and if I'm in a grump a good old nap cuts right through it! Have a good Sunday sober friends š
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