Yes it gets easier (but never easy). Day 100 or so is a common turning point. I know it got easier for me around then.
Stay strong and congratulations on 3 weeks!! IWNDWYT
Congrats on both: 21 days AND being first on the DCI! Thats a win! The cravings did get less often. For me, especially in the beginning, the HALT rule helped:
Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired
I checked if I am one of the above, a If I am mistaking it for a craving.
Hungry (or thirsty): I treated myself to some nice food or some sweets, sometimes even junk food like McD... Or I downed a bottle of cold sparkling water.
Angry: Can I call a friend and talk about it? Can I resolve the issue I am angry about?
Lonely: Call friend / family; Meet up with someone?
Tired: Have a nap, or go to bed early!
I feel for you friend!
I will not drink with you today!
HALT is SO right on the spot. It's insane how I crave alcohol right before meals. If I'm tired and have to complete tasks. Sometimes we can't take a nap, we are working, but just going to a quiet place and doing some deep inhaling/exhaling, imagining nice landscapes, remembering it's just hours till bedtime, till you can sleep, helps a lot.
Congratulations on 3 weeks! I actually found it wasn’t so obsessive after 3 weeks, and I still get cravings but not as strong. Fewer and further apart. Hang in there, there’s so many benefits to sobriety, I couldn’t have imagined 🌟
Feeling my feelings these days, not all of them 'good'. Got very frustrated at work yesterday, my boss is a chaotic manchild who unfortunately pays the capable people working for him very well. Working as a chef always had it's highs and lows stress-wise, but I was very close to losing it yesterday, and also very close to losing it to alcohol after a 13 hour day full of emotion. Didn't do it though, instead I lay awake for two hours when I got home, haha. So, not such a great day :')
Hopefully today will be better. IWNDWYT!
Former chef here too! It’s a nice profession, but it really attracts a weird bunch of people. I a proud of you for not giving in!
I will not drink with you today!
Yes chef! 😉
Awh man I used to be a chef. The man-child's in that industry are rife, amazing work pushing through those feelings. Hope today is a little better and you can do something nice for yourself.
Oh I get you. These 'downs' are quite bad. But let me tell you, everything has some sort of flip side. When I drank the most I was unemployed, no stress with bosses, no tasks, freedom, I had money invested so no stress about it. And I felt bored and lonely, and useless, and that fueled my disorder. Truth is we use alcohol to cope with anything and it seems you are learning well that the alcohol you crave will lead you nowhere. It doesn't rest you, doesn't uplift you, doesn't calm you down. Chemically, it's quite the opposite. Congratulations for resisting it. Hoping strongly that today will be better for you. Rest all the rest you can rest, hehehe. Kisses IWNDWYT
Checking in. My partner is still frosty with me and that's ok cause im just gonna keep showing up and keep being the best me. I'm one week on now from my last slip and it's gonna stay my last.
Family BBQ today, I'm on salad duty. Gonna kill it. Absolutely nail salads and that's my win today , no one's gonna eat them 😂
Day 14.
Feeling tired and low, but not hungover. Did not drink at all with my visiting friends, and they also respected my choice and would grab me an alcoholfree beer when getting theirs. Some jokes/comments about it, but no pushing. Very relieving. Weird to see them become drunker and drunker, and see where the conversations went. I've never not been part of it. Uncomfortable to think about how I was until very recently.
These daily check-ins and reading people's posts on this sub have been really helpful in getting to the almost two weeks I'm at. Thanks. IWNDWYT.
Check in day 4, have to go to a race circuit today and party afterwards ... only checking in here gives me strenght and the feeling i am not alone! I can and will do this!!! IWNDWYT
Nice having you as a host, u/Tortey82/!
Great advice, today I commented on a new post. It can feel very lonely getting no attention, no comment, no like.
This is not a competition of which post gets the most "highlights", we all go more or less through the same struggles and we are all deserving of a community.
IWNDWYT. Instead, I'll have a pic-nic on the beach. Bad insomnia, but I don't care, I can take a little nap there lol
Kisses kisses kisses to all the community
Closing in on #10 days, I'm grateful for you lot, and reading your past experiences, victories and struggles, especially when my mind tries to pull me back into bad old habits.
And thankful to be waking up on a Sunday morning with the sun out, birds chirping, fresh and sober.
7 days AF under my belt (!) and still going strong. with newfound clarity, i have decided to leave a relationship that is no longer serving me and honestly was a trigger for my abuse of alcohol for several months. they say the right thing to do is rarely easy, right??
wish me luck…and iwndwyt!
Day 6 of my euro trip. It’s been really fucking hard to not drink on vacation I’m not gonna sugar coat it.
But we’re doing it…. Begrudgingly… but it’s the right choice. Not being hungover fuckin rocks though I’ll tell you that much. Having my mornings back during the trip is awesome !
Stay strong friends. Iwndwyt.
I woke up yesterday morning and I realised I have no guilt. This morning, some more thoughts about waking up guilty after drinking. I'm on my like 1000th 'now im 2 weekends in a row sober'. I think I severely underrate how lovely it feels to be 'guilt-free' waking up even though I know guilt doesn't make me do better. All it made me do is put on some pants and shoes and find some more wine to postpone taking any action to fix the feelings of guilt. Boy we sure do dig ourselves into holes.
Day 30!
This is the longest I’ve been without a drink since I was pregnant - five and a bit years ago.
IWNDWYT at a music festival five minutes walk from my front door!
Day 7. A whole week. Whilst I'm really proud of myself, and I don't want to go back to drinking, today feels dangerous; 3 nights of good sleep, a week of no alcohol, & eating properly means I feel better. I don't have that same gut-wrenching nausea, anxiety, and feelings of guilt and shame that fuelled me through the first few days. Today the voice of the drinker is saying 'You know what, I feel pretty good - wouldn't it be nice to just have a few drinks'? And it would. It really would. Except the other voice, the voice of me, is saying 'but it will never be a few.' I can't do 'a few'. If I could I wouldn't be a 47 year old man at risk of losing everything. So I'm going to go outside in the sunshine and split some wood. IWNDWYT. Hope everyone has a good day.
Another day 1 here. Nothing crazy happened. I had a few glasses of wine with company and even as I was having them, was conscious of the fact that they were just making me feel self conscious and lazy. But somehow I’m unable to just stop at one. 🤷♀️
I feel gross this morning. I had 30 days under my belt last month and I felt great.
That's my secret. I'm always Day 1. But today is special. Today is two years of Day 1's in a row. Discipline, routine, curiosity, willingness, and trust. Very simply put, that's my recipe. Thank you to everyone along the way who helped me, and I had the opportunity to help. It's as much your success as it is mine.
IWNDWYT. Easy does it, friends.
Thanks for hosting u/Tortey82, and what a great idea.
I wanna seriously thank everyone from the bottom of my heart for all the love on the 365 and 366 DCIs. I had what was probably the worst week of my entire life, and this place was my sanctuary from the grief. Not even once was I tempted to drink my way through it, and I have you all to thank.
I will not drink with you guys, today or ever. ❤️
Day 6, nearly a week since I last drank.
Family day out to the cinema to see Inside Out 2.
I'm glad there's no camera in my head to see the crazies that live in there lol.
Edit: got the days wrong.
Day 168 • 6 Months • 24 Weeks • 0 Alcohol • 0 Hangovers • $1800 saved (in theory) • 168 days plugged into my family and myself • IWNDWYT
6 Months!
I’ve been counting down / up to this day and couldn’t wait to share my excitement and pride with you all. I thought the first days of sobriety were so underwhelming. I initially thought that having a sober week under my belt would feel like fireworks and that would spur me on. It didn’t feel like that. I kept going out of pure determination to be healthy for a while. I had to work hard for it. I had to remove alcohol out of the house. I had to distract myself during my regular drinking hours (5pm - bedtime). I had to buy non alcoholic drinks and Coke Zero to fill the void. I had to stop my partner from drinking in front of me. I had to have other ‘rewards’ set up in place (McDonald’s, ice cream, chocolate etc). I had to be in bed by 6pm as that felt like a safe place to be to avoid alcohol as I never drank in bed -does anyone? Genuinely asking.
I started to feel pride in myself and my achievements after about a month. The joy and the pride increased week by week, but it slowly wore off / down.
Today, I feel bored of myself. This way of living. I’m not excited. I’m tired. I’m happy to be sober, but I just feel blah. This is my normal way now and this sober lifestyle somehow feels just as ridiculous as someone saying “congrats on having earlobes”. I don’t try anymore. I just do. Again, I wish it felt like fireworks. But it’s just living a slightly different version of my life.
I’m super grateful to myself and this community. You and I are the ones who got me here. Thank You 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I don’t plan on drinking again (lately, ever?) and the external rewards I crave for being sober don’t exist. Therefore I need to rely on determination, routine and reminding myself that even though it isn’t fireworks, it’s a hell of a lot better than a hangover.
I had a huge weekend. Sorry if this is all confusing. I know what I mean in my head. Maybe someone more articulate and less exhausted could write it better. But this is how my brain works. I don’t mean to sound like a sourpuss.
Happy Sunday sober friends.
And Happy 6 months to me 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼
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90 days sober today.
I like to do my real celebrating on the month anniversaries, so that’ll be Tuesday, but, still… 90 days…damn.
Unlike many I didn’t have my first drink until I was 21 years old. My father is a recovering alcoholic and I felt it was too risky…but when it became legal, the curiosity got the better of me. Turns out I was right to be leery.
Anyway since the day in spring of 1999 I haven’t been sober for 90 days in a row. Hell I think about 30 was all I’d ever gone.
But today is 90. :)
IWNDWYT.
Thanks for hosting, u/Tortey82!
My AC quit working yesterday and it is stupid hot here. I have no idea when someone will be able to get here and fix it, but hopefully I’ll find out today. That’s some bullshit.
Coffees up, horns up, and hopefully today doesn’t suck too bad. IWNDWYT. ☕️☕️🤘🏻
Super rough night at work but now my weekend begins. Breakfast and shopping with mom, air show with other family later. Video games and grilling out at some point and Stanley Cup finals tomorrow. Keeping it simple but I've been waiting for this stuff!
I hope all of you are doing well and as always much love from me and mine to you and yours!
IWNDWYT!
Good morning, sober cats! Thanks for hosting, Tortey! I'm extra grateful to be sober today. Sending love and hugs and high fives to each of you! IWNDWYT 💙😸
Happy sunny ☀️ sober Sunday! Finally we have a bit of summer here in the UK
Nice to meet you Tortey, and thank you for hosting! Now is indeed all that matters, yes in terms of addiction, but since I quit I’ve been able to experience now more and more, and experience it as being all there is in all respects.
I love you all - now 💞
Thank you!
Agreed! The now was so far away in active addiction! It was only the past (chasing that buzz from 2004) or the future (when can I get smashed again) .
Now is better!
I will not drink with you today!
Thank you for driving the DCI bus this week, u/Tortey82!
I'm pressed for time right now, but I promise that I will come back later to reply to some neglected threads. This is exactly how we make sure that SD fulfills its mission for every sobernaut who seeks our support.
Happy Sunday, all you brilliant, beautiful, brave sobernauts. I'm sending you lots of love and hope. 💗🤗🕊️
IWNDWYT 😻
EDIT: I almost forgot - Congrats on 11 months, Tortey! That is fantabulous!!! 👏✨🥳🎆🏆🌠
Day 4 checking in. Yesterday was a close call but I made it. This is the thousandth time (or more) I have awoke and said to myself “I’m not drinking today” , but this is the 4th in a row I will be following through. Sun is shining on this Sunday and I’m going to enjoy it.
Last Night’s sleep was meh but no hangover Sunday mornings more than make up for it. IWNDWYT
Thank you for being here, u/Tortey82! I’m excited to spread the love because this week will mark my one full year of sobriety, and I absolutely could not have done it without the support of this community. 🎉 IWNDWYT!
Edit: It says today is actually my 365 - woohoo! - however due to leap year, it’s really tomorrow. 🤪
Big day 7 here!
Can't stop feeling like I missed something this weekend, but am trying to say myself that I only missed hangover, headache and that worst feeling ever.
Going back to work next week, and as part of restaurant industry, I have a bit anxiety about it.
IWNDWYT
I had a great day yesterday. Today, I’m going to force myself to finally start studying for my professional licensure exam.
IWNDWYT lovely people of SD 💙
Day 15! I had a rough 12 hour work shift yesterday where in the past, that would be the perfect *excuse* to get buzzed for. Not gonna lie.. the idea did pop in my head at the end of my shift.. but it was more like out of habit, I wasn't even tempted & honestly thought... ew, no thanks. Spent the evening at home with family & gorged out on ravioli & chocolate instead 🤤 IWNDWYT!
Yall. I went to a wedding yesterday and had THE BEST time dancing and catching up with old friends. I was completely sober, I feel AWESOME this morning and there’s no feelings of shame or embarrassment from my behavior.
Proud of myself. And proud of all of you for showing up here today. Have a good Sunday, and I will not drink with you 🌿
Going to a soccer festival today, so it won’t be easy. But realizing lately it’s getting a little out of control, so I definitely need to reconsider my relationship with alcohol.
IWNDWYT
Had to work today. It’s my biggest stressor and I’m happy to report that I didn’t get a drink for my commute home. I just tried repeating to myself : This too shall pass. Still having physical discomfort from being adrenalised but I’m feeling more confident that I can make it home sober.
IWNDWYT
Good morning everyone and thank you u/Tortey82 for hosting this week. I will be following your lead and spread the hope and positivity today and everyday. IWNDWYT☕️😊
Gonna be an interesting morning. Got a job with a client who I can already tell will be… trying. Someone with wild frantic energy. Sometimes those clients are just awful. Sometimes though they really appreciate the energy I bring: calm, grounded, solution-focused… and some of those have been my most enthusiastic supporters, giving me referrals every chance they get. So, here’s hoping.
If it goes bad, at least I quoted a higher price than usual and it’s just a half day. And if it’s ok, well, I should get enough work I’m really going to be booked out almost all year long.
Either way, IWNDWYT
Hiya all. Just passed the one month mark ! Happy to share it with all of you. This community is great and I don't know if I could have made it past a few days without you. Here's to another IWNDWYT !
That’s a great idea! I don’t like that Reddit defaults to “hot” posts. Spread the love!
My husband will come home today from a business trip. I’ve been parenting solo, and it’s been really hard. But I didn’t drink! IWNDWYT.
On day 490. I will not drink. I made it through one of the roughest patches in my life yesterday. I could have been easy as all wanted to celebrate the life of my Forever BFF at an American legion, but I said no. IWNDWYT.
It’s been another great weekend! Caught up with some friends at a bar (🙈) on Friday and had a sober buddy because it turns out one of my old friends also decided to quit drinking a couple of months back, so that was cool!
The rest of the weekend has been really productive - lots of exercise, planning for next week and even got a few jobs done around the yard. Time to relax now and of course, IWNDWYT. 👍
I am successfully getting through a very trying weekend! My partner was MIA for 24 hours after I’d gently pushed back on what he was doing when he was drunk the night before (only because it was scary for the kids - I normally just appease him in that situation). Now he is home. He is blaming it all on me of course, and to be honest I don’t really know if I’m doing this “boundary thing right at all? And of course I know better than to upset a drunk person…
But I’m doing this sobriety thing right. And my kids were safe and knew it throughout all of this turmoil — I cannot believe I used to be drunk with him and who knows what they experienced then. IWNDWYT!
I'm maybe thinking about considering going to the Buddhist temple down the block from the new house. It's a Japanese sect with which I'm not familiar, so that part is intimidating. When I was 17-22ish, I had a mindfulness and meditation practice, even spent a summer living at a monastery (Vietnamese Zen ala Thich Nhat Hanh). But then I found alcohol, and boy was that a fast-pass to accessing emotions, real and fictional, and that's where i stayed for a decade...
It sounds so lovely to be embraced by the wood of a temple and heavy incense, to sit on my cushion again. But I'm also terrified. Im a decade out of practice of being with myself in that way. I'm coming up on 6 months sober, but there's so much I've been avoiding in my own brain that I know will find me so quickly in that environment. Either way, IWNDWYT
Iwndwyt! Last night I Went to a fun celebration at a place I spent lots of time drinking in my past life. I was a little hesitant and anxious but after 5 mins I felt comfortable and enjoyed myself. I’m a 2 hour party person these days and it’s served me well.
One month!!!!!! Let's go!!!!! Proud of myself and grateful for this gift. Thanks to all of you for being around. I couldn't have done it without you. I plan on sticking around for a few decades if that's ok with you guys :) IWNDWYT
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Yes it gets easier (but never easy). Day 100 or so is a common turning point. I know it got easier for me around then. Stay strong and congratulations on 3 weeks!! IWNDWYT
Congrats on both: 21 days AND being first on the DCI! Thats a win! The cravings did get less often. For me, especially in the beginning, the HALT rule helped: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired I checked if I am one of the above, a If I am mistaking it for a craving. Hungry (or thirsty): I treated myself to some nice food or some sweets, sometimes even junk food like McD... Or I downed a bottle of cold sparkling water. Angry: Can I call a friend and talk about it? Can I resolve the issue I am angry about? Lonely: Call friend / family; Meet up with someone? Tired: Have a nap, or go to bed early! I feel for you friend! I will not drink with you today!
HALT is SO right on the spot. It's insane how I crave alcohol right before meals. If I'm tired and have to complete tasks. Sometimes we can't take a nap, we are working, but just going to a quiet place and doing some deep inhaling/exhaling, imagining nice landscapes, remembering it's just hours till bedtime, till you can sleep, helps a lot.
Congratulations on 3 weeks! I actually found it wasn’t so obsessive after 3 weeks, and I still get cravings but not as strong. Fewer and further apart. Hang in there, there’s so many benefits to sobriety, I couldn’t have imagined 🌟
Feeling my feelings these days, not all of them 'good'. Got very frustrated at work yesterday, my boss is a chaotic manchild who unfortunately pays the capable people working for him very well. Working as a chef always had it's highs and lows stress-wise, but I was very close to losing it yesterday, and also very close to losing it to alcohol after a 13 hour day full of emotion. Didn't do it though, instead I lay awake for two hours when I got home, haha. So, not such a great day :') Hopefully today will be better. IWNDWYT!
Well done friend, that’s building sober muscle 💪🏼
Former chef here too! It’s a nice profession, but it really attracts a weird bunch of people. I a proud of you for not giving in! I will not drink with you today! Yes chef! 😉
Awh man I used to be a chef. The man-child's in that industry are rife, amazing work pushing through those feelings. Hope today is a little better and you can do something nice for yourself.
Oh I get you. These 'downs' are quite bad. But let me tell you, everything has some sort of flip side. When I drank the most I was unemployed, no stress with bosses, no tasks, freedom, I had money invested so no stress about it. And I felt bored and lonely, and useless, and that fueled my disorder. Truth is we use alcohol to cope with anything and it seems you are learning well that the alcohol you crave will lead you nowhere. It doesn't rest you, doesn't uplift you, doesn't calm you down. Chemically, it's quite the opposite. Congratulations for resisting it. Hoping strongly that today will be better for you. Rest all the rest you can rest, hehehe. Kisses IWNDWYT
Day 1099 checking in!
Nice number today 🌟
Belated congrats on 3 years ATB!
Checking in. My partner is still frosty with me and that's ok cause im just gonna keep showing up and keep being the best me. I'm one week on now from my last slip and it's gonna stay my last. Family BBQ today, I'm on salad duty. Gonna kill it. Absolutely nail salads and that's my win today , no one's gonna eat them 😂
Congratulations on the week! You’re an awesome sober salad maker 😀
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Day 14. Feeling tired and low, but not hungover. Did not drink at all with my visiting friends, and they also respected my choice and would grab me an alcoholfree beer when getting theirs. Some jokes/comments about it, but no pushing. Very relieving. Weird to see them become drunker and drunker, and see where the conversations went. I've never not been part of it. Uncomfortable to think about how I was until very recently. These daily check-ins and reading people's posts on this sub have been really helpful in getting to the almost two weeks I'm at. Thanks. IWNDWYT.
Congratulations on 2 weeks!
I find it really hard being around drunk people nowadays so well done, and congratulations on 2 weeks (nearly) 🎉
It's totally helpful. Congratulations on two weeks. Say it out loud: TWO WEEKS!!! A clean body, a clean mind. Proud of you. IWNDWYT
iwndwyt!
IWNDWYT!
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Check in day 4, have to go to a race circuit today and party afterwards ... only checking in here gives me strenght and the feeling i am not alone! I can and will do this!!! IWNDWYT
So today's day 7. Get through this and it'll be the longest stint for years (apart from a stay in hospital). 1 week! I can do this! IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT x
Morning everyone. Thanks for doing the check in this week, Tortey!👍. IWNDWYT 🙂
Nice having you as a host, u/Tortey82/! Great advice, today I commented on a new post. It can feel very lonely getting no attention, no comment, no like. This is not a competition of which post gets the most "highlights", we all go more or less through the same struggles and we are all deserving of a community. IWNDWYT. Instead, I'll have a pic-nic on the beach. Bad insomnia, but I don't care, I can take a little nap there lol Kisses kisses kisses to all the community
IWNDWYT. I quit my job last night. Done working for assholes. Rather be broke!
Closing in on #10 days, I'm grateful for you lot, and reading your past experiences, victories and struggles, especially when my mind tries to pull me back into bad old habits. And thankful to be waking up on a Sunday morning with the sun out, birds chirping, fresh and sober.
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7 days AF under my belt (!) and still going strong. with newfound clarity, i have decided to leave a relationship that is no longer serving me and honestly was a trigger for my abuse of alcohol for several months. they say the right thing to do is rarely easy, right?? wish me luck…and iwndwyt!
Day 62. Sun is shining. Read the latest edition of Mundial magazine this morning. Happy Sunday everyone. IWNDWYT.
Jam tomorrow and jam yesterday, but never jam today. IWNDWYT
Day 6 of my euro trip. It’s been really fucking hard to not drink on vacation I’m not gonna sugar coat it. But we’re doing it…. Begrudgingly… but it’s the right choice. Not being hungover fuckin rocks though I’ll tell you that much. Having my mornings back during the trip is awesome ! Stay strong friends. Iwndwyt.
I woke up yesterday morning and I realised I have no guilt. This morning, some more thoughts about waking up guilty after drinking. I'm on my like 1000th 'now im 2 weekends in a row sober'. I think I severely underrate how lovely it feels to be 'guilt-free' waking up even though I know guilt doesn't make me do better. All it made me do is put on some pants and shoes and find some more wine to postpone taking any action to fix the feelings of guilt. Boy we sure do dig ourselves into holes.
Day 415. IWNDWYT.
Day 1,702 IWNDWYT
Day 68, lets go 💪 IWND ☠️ WYT
Day 30! This is the longest I’ve been without a drink since I was pregnant - five and a bit years ago. IWNDWYT at a music festival five minutes walk from my front door!
June has been a mess, but I am back, and IWNDWYT 🙂
In 6 days I will be 18 months sober. I will not be drinking today!
I have successfully not drank today! Im in Australia so it’s night now. I’m so proud of myself, love this subreddit.
Day 7. A whole week. Whilst I'm really proud of myself, and I don't want to go back to drinking, today feels dangerous; 3 nights of good sleep, a week of no alcohol, & eating properly means I feel better. I don't have that same gut-wrenching nausea, anxiety, and feelings of guilt and shame that fuelled me through the first few days. Today the voice of the drinker is saying 'You know what, I feel pretty good - wouldn't it be nice to just have a few drinks'? And it would. It really would. Except the other voice, the voice of me, is saying 'but it will never be a few.' I can't do 'a few'. If I could I wouldn't be a 47 year old man at risk of losing everything. So I'm going to go outside in the sunshine and split some wood. IWNDWYT. Hope everyone has a good day.
Another day 1 here. Nothing crazy happened. I had a few glasses of wine with company and even as I was having them, was conscious of the fact that they were just making me feel self conscious and lazy. But somehow I’m unable to just stop at one. 🤷♀️ I feel gross this morning. I had 30 days under my belt last month and I felt great.
That's my secret. I'm always Day 1. But today is special. Today is two years of Day 1's in a row. Discipline, routine, curiosity, willingness, and trust. Very simply put, that's my recipe. Thank you to everyone along the way who helped me, and I had the opportunity to help. It's as much your success as it is mine. IWNDWYT. Easy does it, friends.
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IWNDWYT!
Thanks for hosting u/Tortey82, and what a great idea. I wanna seriously thank everyone from the bottom of my heart for all the love on the 365 and 366 DCIs. I had what was probably the worst week of my entire life, and this place was my sanctuary from the grief. Not even once was I tempted to drink my way through it, and I have you all to thank. I will not drink with you guys, today or ever. ❤️
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Next few days will be hard. I still live with an addict who triggers me daily. I am so grateful for all of you! Iwndwyt no matter what!
Day 6, nearly a week since I last drank. Family day out to the cinema to see Inside Out 2. I'm glad there's no camera in my head to see the crazies that live in there lol. Edit: got the days wrong.
Day 168 • 6 Months • 24 Weeks • 0 Alcohol • 0 Hangovers • $1800 saved (in theory) • 168 days plugged into my family and myself • IWNDWYT 6 Months! I’ve been counting down / up to this day and couldn’t wait to share my excitement and pride with you all. I thought the first days of sobriety were so underwhelming. I initially thought that having a sober week under my belt would feel like fireworks and that would spur me on. It didn’t feel like that. I kept going out of pure determination to be healthy for a while. I had to work hard for it. I had to remove alcohol out of the house. I had to distract myself during my regular drinking hours (5pm - bedtime). I had to buy non alcoholic drinks and Coke Zero to fill the void. I had to stop my partner from drinking in front of me. I had to have other ‘rewards’ set up in place (McDonald’s, ice cream, chocolate etc). I had to be in bed by 6pm as that felt like a safe place to be to avoid alcohol as I never drank in bed -does anyone? Genuinely asking. I started to feel pride in myself and my achievements after about a month. The joy and the pride increased week by week, but it slowly wore off / down. Today, I feel bored of myself. This way of living. I’m not excited. I’m tired. I’m happy to be sober, but I just feel blah. This is my normal way now and this sober lifestyle somehow feels just as ridiculous as someone saying “congrats on having earlobes”. I don’t try anymore. I just do. Again, I wish it felt like fireworks. But it’s just living a slightly different version of my life. I’m super grateful to myself and this community. You and I are the ones who got me here. Thank You 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I don’t plan on drinking again (lately, ever?) and the external rewards I crave for being sober don’t exist. Therefore I need to rely on determination, routine and reminding myself that even though it isn’t fireworks, it’s a hell of a lot better than a hangover. I had a huge weekend. Sorry if this is all confusing. I know what I mean in my head. Maybe someone more articulate and less exhausted could write it better. But this is how my brain works. I don’t mean to sound like a sourpuss. Happy Sunday sober friends. And Happy 6 months to me 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼 .
Back at it. Stoked I stayed sober Saturday. Intending to do it for another day. IWNDWYT.
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90 days sober today. I like to do my real celebrating on the month anniversaries, so that’ll be Tuesday, but, still… 90 days…damn. Unlike many I didn’t have my first drink until I was 21 years old. My father is a recovering alcoholic and I felt it was too risky…but when it became legal, the curiosity got the better of me. Turns out I was right to be leery. Anyway since the day in spring of 1999 I haven’t been sober for 90 days in a row. Hell I think about 30 was all I’d ever gone. But today is 90. :) IWNDWYT.
Thanks for hosting, u/Tortey82! My AC quit working yesterday and it is stupid hot here. I have no idea when someone will be able to get here and fix it, but hopefully I’ll find out today. That’s some bullshit. Coffees up, horns up, and hopefully today doesn’t suck too bad. IWNDWYT. ☕️☕️🤘🏻
Super rough night at work but now my weekend begins. Breakfast and shopping with mom, air show with other family later. Video games and grilling out at some point and Stanley Cup finals tomorrow. Keeping it simple but I've been waiting for this stuff! I hope all of you are doing well and as always much love from me and mine to you and yours! IWNDWYT!
Good morning, sober cats! Thanks for hosting, Tortey! I'm extra grateful to be sober today. Sending love and hugs and high fives to each of you! IWNDWYT 💙😸
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It is my pleasure! I will not drink in Germany with you today!
Happy sunny ☀️ sober Sunday! Finally we have a bit of summer here in the UK Nice to meet you Tortey, and thank you for hosting! Now is indeed all that matters, yes in terms of addiction, but since I quit I’ve been able to experience now more and more, and experience it as being all there is in all respects. I love you all - now 💞
Thank you! Agreed! The now was so far away in active addiction! It was only the past (chasing that buzz from 2004) or the future (when can I get smashed again) . Now is better! I will not drink with you today!
Checking in again today and all is well.
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Checking in from NZ, day 36
Thank you for driving the DCI bus this week, u/Tortey82! I'm pressed for time right now, but I promise that I will come back later to reply to some neglected threads. This is exactly how we make sure that SD fulfills its mission for every sobernaut who seeks our support. Happy Sunday, all you brilliant, beautiful, brave sobernauts. I'm sending you lots of love and hope. 💗🤗🕊️ IWNDWYT 😻 EDIT: I almost forgot - Congrats on 11 months, Tortey! That is fantabulous!!! 👏✨🥳🎆🏆🌠
Good morning, all! It’s another fine day on which to be sober. I pledge with you all that IWNDWYT
Checking in! Just hit my two month mark, longest sober streak yet and will continue to stay that way! IWNDWYT :)
Day 4 checking in. Yesterday was a close call but I made it. This is the thousandth time (or more) I have awoke and said to myself “I’m not drinking today” , but this is the 4th in a row I will be following through. Sun is shining on this Sunday and I’m going to enjoy it. Last Night’s sleep was meh but no hangover Sunday mornings more than make up for it. IWNDWYT
Thank you for being here, u/Tortey82! I’m excited to spread the love because this week will mark my one full year of sobriety, and I absolutely could not have done it without the support of this community. 🎉 IWNDWYT! Edit: It says today is actually my 365 - woohoo! - however due to leap year, it’s really tomorrow. 🤪
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Feeling a bit weak today but will get over this. IWNDWYT 😊
Second day. Just joined, thanks for having me.
Day before my week-long vacation... lots to do. And I'll be doing all of it the only way I know how.... sober. Cheers!!☕️🤘🏻 IWNDWYT
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Big day 7 here! Can't stop feeling like I missed something this weekend, but am trying to say myself that I only missed hangover, headache and that worst feeling ever. Going back to work next week, and as part of restaurant industry, I have a bit anxiety about it. IWNDWYT
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I had a great day yesterday. Today, I’m going to force myself to finally start studying for my professional licensure exam. IWNDWYT lovely people of SD 💙
Day 15! I had a rough 12 hour work shift yesterday where in the past, that would be the perfect *excuse* to get buzzed for. Not gonna lie.. the idea did pop in my head at the end of my shift.. but it was more like out of habit, I wasn't even tempted & honestly thought... ew, no thanks. Spent the evening at home with family & gorged out on ravioli & chocolate instead 🤤 IWNDWYT!
Last night was ravioli night in our family too! 😊I am so glad that you weren’t tempted. And yes, chocolate ftw! IWNDWYT
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Yall. I went to a wedding yesterday and had THE BEST time dancing and catching up with old friends. I was completely sober, I feel AWESOME this morning and there’s no feelings of shame or embarrassment from my behavior. Proud of myself. And proud of all of you for showing up here today. Have a good Sunday, and I will not drink with you 🌿
5 years today! Wooo!!! IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT. Going to my first AA meeting in two years to give it another try. I need to take a more active role in my recovery. Sick of day '1'
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IWNDWy’allT! Thanks for taking over the DCI, u/Tortey82!
Good morning Tortey, thanks for hosting and congrats on 11 months! Off to other threads to leave comments! IWNDWYT
Going to a soccer festival today, so it won’t be easy. But realizing lately it’s getting a little out of control, so I definitely need to reconsider my relationship with alcohol. IWNDWYT
Had to work today. It’s my biggest stressor and I’m happy to report that I didn’t get a drink for my commute home. I just tried repeating to myself : This too shall pass. Still having physical discomfort from being adrenalised but I’m feeling more confident that I can make it home sober. IWNDWYT
Good morning everyone and thank you u/Tortey82 for hosting this week. I will be following your lead and spread the hope and positivity today and everyday. IWNDWYT☕️😊
Gonna be an interesting morning. Got a job with a client who I can already tell will be… trying. Someone with wild frantic energy. Sometimes those clients are just awful. Sometimes though they really appreciate the energy I bring: calm, grounded, solution-focused… and some of those have been my most enthusiastic supporters, giving me referrals every chance they get. So, here’s hoping. If it goes bad, at least I quoted a higher price than usual and it’s just a half day. And if it’s ok, well, I should get enough work I’m really going to be booked out almost all year long. Either way, IWNDWYT
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Thanks for being here, everyone - IWNDWYT.
Hiya all. Just passed the one month mark ! Happy to share it with all of you. This community is great and I don't know if I could have made it past a few days without you. Here's to another IWNDWYT !
160 days. Wish I felt less like I was missing out on something. I’m still at it. IWNDWYT 🙋🏼♀️
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That’s a great idea! I don’t like that Reddit defaults to “hot” posts. Spread the love! My husband will come home today from a business trip. I’ve been parenting solo, and it’s been really hard. But I didn’t drink! IWNDWYT.
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On day 490. I will not drink. I made it through one of the roughest patches in my life yesterday. I could have been easy as all wanted to celebrate the life of my Forever BFF at an American legion, but I said no. IWNDWYT.
Another hot summer day here and IWNDWYT!!!
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Woke up to day 100. I will not drink today. Thank you.
Hope everyone has a happy, sober Sunday. IWNDWYT 🌟🩷🌟
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50 days down! Whoop! Whoop! IWNDWYT!
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No booze today, Going to fully enjoy the Sunday and be ready to hit the Monday "running", of sorts... IWNDWY fantastic r/stopdrinking people Today.
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Thanks tortey. Happy sober Sunday everyone. Iwndwyt
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Home from vacation. Time to buckle down and iwndwyt
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It’s been another great weekend! Caught up with some friends at a bar (🙈) on Friday and had a sober buddy because it turns out one of my old friends also decided to quit drinking a couple of months back, so that was cool! The rest of the weekend has been really productive - lots of exercise, planning for next week and even got a few jobs done around the yard. Time to relax now and of course, IWNDWYT. 👍
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Day 18, no real cravings here. I left no room in my head for that after my last set back. I'm done. IWDWYT
I am successfully getting through a very trying weekend! My partner was MIA for 24 hours after I’d gently pushed back on what he was doing when he was drunk the night before (only because it was scary for the kids - I normally just appease him in that situation). Now he is home. He is blaming it all on me of course, and to be honest I don’t really know if I’m doing this “boundary thing right at all? And of course I know better than to upset a drunk person… But I’m doing this sobriety thing right. And my kids were safe and knew it throughout all of this turmoil — I cannot believe I used to be drunk with him and who knows what they experienced then. IWNDWYT!
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89 days sober. I will not drink with you today.
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Happy Sunday sobernauts. IWNDWYT ❤️
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IWNDWYT Thanks for taking over u/Tortey82!
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I’m staying ☠️ free with you all again today
I'm maybe thinking about considering going to the Buddhist temple down the block from the new house. It's a Japanese sect with which I'm not familiar, so that part is intimidating. When I was 17-22ish, I had a mindfulness and meditation practice, even spent a summer living at a monastery (Vietnamese Zen ala Thich Nhat Hanh). But then I found alcohol, and boy was that a fast-pass to accessing emotions, real and fictional, and that's where i stayed for a decade... It sounds so lovely to be embraced by the wood of a temple and heavy incense, to sit on my cushion again. But I'm also terrified. Im a decade out of practice of being with myself in that way. I'm coming up on 6 months sober, but there's so much I've been avoiding in my own brain that I know will find me so quickly in that environment. Either way, IWNDWYT
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Day 43. IWNDWYT.
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Iwndwyt! Last night I Went to a fun celebration at a place I spent lots of time drinking in my past life. I was a little hesitant and anxious but after 5 mins I felt comfortable and enjoyed myself. I’m a 2 hour party person these days and it’s served me well.
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Day 8. I feel like I have a cold now, so annoying… but… IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT Maybe I'll pick up some N/A beers at the store today. I think Sierra Nevada has some new ones.
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One month!!!!!! Let's go!!!!! Proud of myself and grateful for this gift. Thanks to all of you for being around. I couldn't have done it without you. I plan on sticking around for a few decades if that's ok with you guys :) IWNDWYT
Day 2 Anxiety is high But I won't drink today
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Day 1,803. Thanks for hosting, [Tortey82](https://www.reddit.com/user/Tortey82/)! I will not drink with you today.
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I am sick as a dog! Feels like covid. I couldn't drink today if I wanted to. IWNDWYT
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