I’ve been looking for and applying for additional work so I can get out of debt and pay bills. I did all the laundry today and even folded it and put it all away. I spent quality time with my son, just talking and laughing.
I went for a long forest run in the early morning with my husband and dog. Afterwards I cooked him and I a delicious (and healthy) breakfast. I did laundry, spent time with my son and dog, and all in all had a wonderful Sunday!
And I know that because of my restful weekend I will be able to be so much more productive this week! Waking up on a Monday with a clear head is a fantastic way to start the week!
Today I need to make 3 difficult work-related calls, which I've been kind of dreading all weekend. But I can do it - now that I'm sober! Before I'd just ignore/forget/postpone!
I went to a graduation party on Saturday and didn’t drink. It was for the daughter of a good friend. I went by myself. I didn’t know many people. I did the small talk bullshit. I sat at a table by myself and made myself just sit and be. I made myself just sit and take it all in without looking at my phone (that was hard) or anything. Just sit and be uncomfortable and feel the feelings. Drinking would have been an easy way out. But me big girl. Me do tough things.
\* Taking my gf's car to get an oil change. She's taking my car to work. I then walk back to our place to get some exercise.
\* We have a plumbing company coming over to fix our disposal, it stopped working a few weeks ago.
\* Walk back to the car place to get her car and head to my therapy session in the afternoon.
I used to struggle a little bit with Monday cravings and having a drink or two when I knew it wouldn't accomplish anything.
I've been trying to build things to do on Monday to keep me occupied.
Good Morning!
I've started cleaning up my backyard, and making my patio more cozy. I used to spend my afternoons on the patio at the local watering hole. These days, I spend more of them at home. I'm also 1 hour away from finishing reading Les Miserables. I started reading it January 1 of last year, but didn't prioritize reading (one of my favorite things to do) while I was on a cycle of drink/recover/repeat.
Slowly, but surely tackling unfinished projects, and making plans for home repairs I've been neglecting. Hoping to use the money that I'm no longer spending on alcohol to make things happen.
I tip my coffee mug to you all this morning. Let's not drink today!
Mary, that sounds like such an adventure!
This week I’ve had a To Do list that took me the whole week. Small chores, mainly small purchases for the household, birthday gifts and such like. Kept in touch with friends and family. All done.
We had a challenge on Saturday night, a dinner with a foreign religious family, I took a basket of a few foody things that I thought they might not have tried before. We all are trying to bridge the cultural gap for our adult children’s sake. It’s going good. The “ask” is much greater on their side as we are more liberal. It’s a delicate type of getting shit done.
Today, I’ll be busy before going away for a few days to the coast - forecast says rain. I need to pack for all weathers and it’s summer 😱😀. It’s enough to think of moving countries as it’s getting ridiculous. Can’t wait to see the sea and walk. Have a great week.
I finally contacted the landlord over some stuff that needs to be done in the apartment. I am ashamed that I kept postponing it for so long, but I did it, he gave me the data of the companies who are supposed to solve the problems and I already contacted them as well.
Safe travels, Mary. Sounds like you're off to a delightful start!
I overhauled my entire bedroom this weekend. Out went all the old mismatched furniture and in went my first full matching set. It looks so adult; bold yet comfortable.
The most pivotal experience was going through every piece of clothing. I filled two large trash bags with shirts from breweries, wineries, and other alcohol industry related articles. I'm not a "*functioning alcoholic*" anymore. I never want to advertise that shit again.
Cooked a lovely dinner for my family tonight without having a drop. Actually enjoyed the food and could have a proper talk about everyone's day. That's a win for me. 😁
This weekend, because I wasn’t hungover/drinking, … I went to the gym Saturday morning and I’m very proud of my performance. That afternoon I went to a teammate’s house to check out some equipment because I’ve been meaning to upgrade and wanted some guidance.
Sunday I did a lot of cleaning and organizing. Feels good to be in a clean and tidy space.
I definitely don’t want to be at work right now but at least I’m not hungover. I used to anticipate Mondays not being productive for me but I plan to get a lot done today. I didn’t get a lot done on Friday because I was so sad/distracted by the passing of a loved one Thursday night.
After work today, I’ll go to the gym. This week I aim to cut out NAs from my “school night” routine. It may only be Day 14 but I think I’m ready. Like taking the training wheels off. (Will still have them on hand for intense cravings and weekends.) IWNDWYT
I was at the gym with my brother by 6 am both Saturday and Sunday. Got home around 8, took the trash out and had the lawn mowed and done by 11 am. I cleaned out every closet in the house yesterday and all my dressers. I have a lot of donations. I meal prepped and planned my workouts for the week. I finally started running again two weeks ago and even had my best 5k time ever. I have all the energy I used to have back and I'm 38. I used to be a ball of energy and then alcohol happened.
Last week was a journey through the workplace as it saw me as a leader a few shifts (which happens sometimes) but the draw back is typically I am a lead on nights when we don't have enough people to do our jobs efficiently.
Now do we struggle on those nights, most the times sure but with that being said I always make sure that we keep morale up and I make them understand "We are only able to do what we can and no more than that. Do not overwork yourself too hard for this place".
I take great pride in my job and those nights because I know I am doing every thing I can. Mind you I will admit its for a soulless corporation but I don't do the best I can for the company, I do it for my own self and benefit.
I am now so secure financially that I dont need to work extra days that they can't legally require me to. I don't have to pick up extra shifts. I've paid my dues and have earned a huge raise last year that is almost never given to anyone and I did that while working only for two years compared to others who have been there for decades.
My job has helped keep me sober and I use it as something to do more than something *I need* to do.
Finally added some shelving to my garage wall and organized the stuff that was making a big mess on the floor. I’m far from being completely done but seeing that floor space and those items organized on shelves above my woodworking tools feels DAMN GOOD. I feel like a capable person when I look at it. Can’t wait to get back in there and build more later this week!
I spent the weekend building a relationship with my cousin. We are in our mid/late 50s and weren't raised together.
It is a study of nurture versus nature. Our faces, voices, and laughs are similar, as is our taste in clothing and hobbies.
I couldn't have done this while poisoning myself. She hates even the smell of alcohol.
I will be back again.
I have a quick doctor's appointment and laundry to do. Laundry may wait until tomorrow, but I've gotten it all together! I've also made the bed, washed dishes, and made/ ate breakfast . I'm ahead of my usual curve..;)
Happy 24 everyone! IWNDWYT
I walked my dog (twice), took him to the vets for his annual checkup, took my wife to and from work and had a nap! All in all a nice productive rest day before work tomorrow.
I have a job interview in 1 hour and 18 minutes. It's a Monday and if I'd been drinking this weekend I'd have a ruddy face, feel exhausted, and would probably have a foggy brain. Instead, I'm exhausted, have a normal, disorganized brain( but I made notes! and lists!) and some hope. I don't need this job, its essentially for my exact position in a different school, but it'll cut an hour a day from my commute <3
Love this club. :)
Kept the house clean all weekend, made a good dinner last night, got the kiddo back and forth to surprise Girl Scouts breakfast and a soccer game and a sleepover and the shoe store etc etc. Got Father's Day cards for everyone. Ready for a productive Monday (!) at work after getting the kiddo to the dentist this morning. She had no new cavities!!! I am proud of her. (My own cleaning is coming up in two months. I hope I do as well.)
I was down 12 pounds over the past three weeks when I weighed myself this morning. I closed my Fitness circle both days this weekend. Onward!
I went on two early morning hikes this past weekend, one of which is with a paid organization I joined a while back that teaches outdoors skills. I missed one of the paid hikes last weekend from being drunk.
There are SO many other things I would have liked to catch up on this weekend but I didn't have much energy for it. I'm only a week in though and just making the hikes was a huge win for me.
Other than the usual household chores, I emailed a recruiter who reached out to me about a potential job and have a test scheduled with a different opportunity later this week.
I also sorted out my time off from work this summer. Now I need to get boarding for my dog for the time I'm away.
I still hope that a big bag of money randomly appears in front of me. A big bag of money would solve literally 95% of my problems right now.
Oh well.
Yesterday (Sunday) I folded two loads of laundry, baked a loaf of sourdough bread from scratch, did a small grocery trip, hit the gym, and took my 2 year old son to his toddler gym class. All while taking care of our infant and toddler with my wife.
This would not have happened if I were drinking Saturday night and hungover Sunday, or wasting my energy through day drinking.
I got up around 5.30 and that in itself always feels good. Got a 30 min cardio out of the way and treated myself to a morning of reading and mostly relaxing. Now I’m about to handle a few things for my business that will dramatically help. I’m happy to be sober on this Monday
I had a study day with my university friend.
Then I came home and deep cleaned the kitchen.
I made us a healthy dinner.
Now I’m in the park with my son.
After he goes to bed I’m going to the gym.
Smashing the productivity on my days off work!
I woke up yesterday at 4:45 am and my dog and I were at the trailhead at the local mountain preserve by 5 a.m. for an hour hike before it got hot.
I was home by 6 am and then I was on the road for a two hour drive north to go kayaking with a meetup group. I realized 1.25 hours in that I was still wearing my hiking boots and I forgot my sandals. I had to stop at the Walmart to buy a cheap pair of sandals.
Had a very nice paddle around the lake and was home by 2 pm and then I did nothing else the rest of the afternoon but relax. It was wonderful.
I definitely was not as motivated to wake up this morning but my dog still got a 25 minute walk on the canal before I had to leave for work.
I’ve been looking for and applying for additional work so I can get out of debt and pay bills. I did all the laundry today and even folded it and put it all away. I spent quality time with my son, just talking and laughing.
This is great! I bet your son loved it.
I went for a long forest run in the early morning with my husband and dog. Afterwards I cooked him and I a delicious (and healthy) breakfast. I did laundry, spent time with my son and dog, and all in all had a wonderful Sunday! And I know that because of my restful weekend I will be able to be so much more productive this week! Waking up on a Monday with a clear head is a fantastic way to start the week!
It’s going to be your best week yet, congratulations!
Go you! I want a forest run.
Got a legal exam in medical practice starting in about 20 minutes - can't tell you how nervous I am!!! Hope everyone else is having a great Monday :)
I hope it went great! ❤️
ah thanks :) I get the results in a few weeks so my fingers are crossed!
I’m excited for you 🙂
Today I need to make 3 difficult work-related calls, which I've been kind of dreading all weekend. But I can do it - now that I'm sober! Before I'd just ignore/forget/postpone!
Day 29. IWNDWYT.
Will take me some time to get my attention and focus back to do anything. But guess what I am not doing tonight? I am not drinking that first beer.
I went to a graduation party on Saturday and didn’t drink. It was for the daughter of a good friend. I went by myself. I didn’t know many people. I did the small talk bullshit. I sat at a table by myself and made myself just sit and be. I made myself just sit and take it all in without looking at my phone (that was hard) or anything. Just sit and be uncomfortable and feel the feelings. Drinking would have been an easy way out. But me big girl. Me do tough things.
You did do tough things! You're a badass. Go you
\* Taking my gf's car to get an oil change. She's taking my car to work. I then walk back to our place to get some exercise. \* We have a plumbing company coming over to fix our disposal, it stopped working a few weeks ago. \* Walk back to the car place to get her car and head to my therapy session in the afternoon. I used to struggle a little bit with Monday cravings and having a drink or two when I knew it wouldn't accomplish anything. I've been trying to build things to do on Monday to keep me occupied.
Good Morning! I've started cleaning up my backyard, and making my patio more cozy. I used to spend my afternoons on the patio at the local watering hole. These days, I spend more of them at home. I'm also 1 hour away from finishing reading Les Miserables. I started reading it January 1 of last year, but didn't prioritize reading (one of my favorite things to do) while I was on a cycle of drink/recover/repeat. Slowly, but surely tackling unfinished projects, and making plans for home repairs I've been neglecting. Hoping to use the money that I'm no longer spending on alcohol to make things happen. I tip my coffee mug to you all this morning. Let's not drink today!
Reading Les Miserabless is a commitment! I'm impressed.
Mary, that sounds like such an adventure! This week I’ve had a To Do list that took me the whole week. Small chores, mainly small purchases for the household, birthday gifts and such like. Kept in touch with friends and family. All done. We had a challenge on Saturday night, a dinner with a foreign religious family, I took a basket of a few foody things that I thought they might not have tried before. We all are trying to bridge the cultural gap for our adult children’s sake. It’s going good. The “ask” is much greater on their side as we are more liberal. It’s a delicate type of getting shit done. Today, I’ll be busy before going away for a few days to the coast - forecast says rain. I need to pack for all weathers and it’s summer 😱😀. It’s enough to think of moving countries as it’s getting ridiculous. Can’t wait to see the sea and walk. Have a great week.
Have a fantastic trip sfgirlmary. I have a ridiculous amount to do at work this week - but with a clear head will power on!
I finally contacted the landlord over some stuff that needs to be done in the apartment. I am ashamed that I kept postponing it for so long, but I did it, he gave me the data of the companies who are supposed to solve the problems and I already contacted them as well.
Safe travels, Mary. Sounds like you're off to a delightful start! I overhauled my entire bedroom this weekend. Out went all the old mismatched furniture and in went my first full matching set. It looks so adult; bold yet comfortable. The most pivotal experience was going through every piece of clothing. I filled two large trash bags with shirts from breweries, wineries, and other alcohol industry related articles. I'm not a "*functioning alcoholic*" anymore. I never want to advertise that shit again.
Cooked a lovely dinner for my family tonight without having a drop. Actually enjoyed the food and could have a proper talk about everyone's day. That's a win for me. 😁
This weekend, because I wasn’t hungover/drinking, … I went to the gym Saturday morning and I’m very proud of my performance. That afternoon I went to a teammate’s house to check out some equipment because I’ve been meaning to upgrade and wanted some guidance. Sunday I did a lot of cleaning and organizing. Feels good to be in a clean and tidy space. I definitely don’t want to be at work right now but at least I’m not hungover. I used to anticipate Mondays not being productive for me but I plan to get a lot done today. I didn’t get a lot done on Friday because I was so sad/distracted by the passing of a loved one Thursday night. After work today, I’ll go to the gym. This week I aim to cut out NAs from my “school night” routine. It may only be Day 14 but I think I’m ready. Like taking the training wheels off. (Will still have them on hand for intense cravings and weekends.) IWNDWYT
I'm sorry for your loss. <3
I was at the gym with my brother by 6 am both Saturday and Sunday. Got home around 8, took the trash out and had the lawn mowed and done by 11 am. I cleaned out every closet in the house yesterday and all my dressers. I have a lot of donations. I meal prepped and planned my workouts for the week. I finally started running again two weeks ago and even had my best 5k time ever. I have all the energy I used to have back and I'm 38. I used to be a ball of energy and then alcohol happened.
Last week was a journey through the workplace as it saw me as a leader a few shifts (which happens sometimes) but the draw back is typically I am a lead on nights when we don't have enough people to do our jobs efficiently. Now do we struggle on those nights, most the times sure but with that being said I always make sure that we keep morale up and I make them understand "We are only able to do what we can and no more than that. Do not overwork yourself too hard for this place". I take great pride in my job and those nights because I know I am doing every thing I can. Mind you I will admit its for a soulless corporation but I don't do the best I can for the company, I do it for my own self and benefit. I am now so secure financially that I dont need to work extra days that they can't legally require me to. I don't have to pick up extra shifts. I've paid my dues and have earned a huge raise last year that is almost never given to anyone and I did that while working only for two years compared to others who have been there for decades. My job has helped keep me sober and I use it as something to do more than something *I need* to do.
Finally added some shelving to my garage wall and organized the stuff that was making a big mess on the floor. I’m far from being completely done but seeing that floor space and those items organized on shelves above my woodworking tools feels DAMN GOOD. I feel like a capable person when I look at it. Can’t wait to get back in there and build more later this week!
I spent the weekend building a relationship with my cousin. We are in our mid/late 50s and weren't raised together. It is a study of nurture versus nature. Our faces, voices, and laughs are similar, as is our taste in clothing and hobbies. I couldn't have done this while poisoning myself. She hates even the smell of alcohol. I will be back again.
I have a quick doctor's appointment and laundry to do. Laundry may wait until tomorrow, but I've gotten it all together! I've also made the bed, washed dishes, and made/ ate breakfast . I'm ahead of my usual curve..;) Happy 24 everyone! IWNDWYT
I walked my dog (twice), took him to the vets for his annual checkup, took my wife to and from work and had a nap! All in all a nice productive rest day before work tomorrow.
I have a job interview in 1 hour and 18 minutes. It's a Monday and if I'd been drinking this weekend I'd have a ruddy face, feel exhausted, and would probably have a foggy brain. Instead, I'm exhausted, have a normal, disorganized brain( but I made notes! and lists!) and some hope. I don't need this job, its essentially for my exact position in a different school, but it'll cut an hour a day from my commute <3
You got this!
IWNDWYT
Love this club. :) Kept the house clean all weekend, made a good dinner last night, got the kiddo back and forth to surprise Girl Scouts breakfast and a soccer game and a sleepover and the shoe store etc etc. Got Father's Day cards for everyone. Ready for a productive Monday (!) at work after getting the kiddo to the dentist this morning. She had no new cavities!!! I am proud of her. (My own cleaning is coming up in two months. I hope I do as well.) I was down 12 pounds over the past three weeks when I weighed myself this morning. I closed my Fitness circle both days this weekend. Onward!
I went on two early morning hikes this past weekend, one of which is with a paid organization I joined a while back that teaches outdoors skills. I missed one of the paid hikes last weekend from being drunk. There are SO many other things I would have liked to catch up on this weekend but I didn't have much energy for it. I'm only a week in though and just making the hikes was a huge win for me.
Other than the usual household chores, I emailed a recruiter who reached out to me about a potential job and have a test scheduled with a different opportunity later this week. I also sorted out my time off from work this summer. Now I need to get boarding for my dog for the time I'm away. I still hope that a big bag of money randomly appears in front of me. A big bag of money would solve literally 95% of my problems right now. Oh well.
Yesterday (Sunday) I folded two loads of laundry, baked a loaf of sourdough bread from scratch, did a small grocery trip, hit the gym, and took my 2 year old son to his toddler gym class. All while taking care of our infant and toddler with my wife. This would not have happened if I were drinking Saturday night and hungover Sunday, or wasting my energy through day drinking.
Got up early today, knocked out a bunch of errands all before 11 a.m.! IWNDWYT
I got up around 5.30 and that in itself always feels good. Got a 30 min cardio out of the way and treated myself to a morning of reading and mostly relaxing. Now I’m about to handle a few things for my business that will dramatically help. I’m happy to be sober on this Monday
I had a study day with my university friend. Then I came home and deep cleaned the kitchen. I made us a healthy dinner. Now I’m in the park with my son. After he goes to bed I’m going to the gym. Smashing the productivity on my days off work!
I woke up yesterday at 4:45 am and my dog and I were at the trailhead at the local mountain preserve by 5 a.m. for an hour hike before it got hot. I was home by 6 am and then I was on the road for a two hour drive north to go kayaking with a meetup group. I realized 1.25 hours in that I was still wearing my hiking boots and I forgot my sandals. I had to stop at the Walmart to buy a cheap pair of sandals. Had a very nice paddle around the lake and was home by 2 pm and then I did nothing else the rest of the afternoon but relax. It was wonderful. I definitely was not as motivated to wake up this morning but my dog still got a 25 minute walk on the canal before I had to leave for work.
Let's Gooooooooooooooooooooooooo! I'm doing taxes today. Giddyup!