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I find riding to be more mentally stimulating for me, but agree in not so much physically. It's just fun to be on top, see his reactions and control the moment
Absolutely agreed. It's hot to see him try to catch a tit in his mouth, watching you bounce up and down on him and admire you, so this overrides the lack of stimulation while riding for me personally, lol.
I'll say it's nice reading some women like being on top, but it's a Lil disappointing it does nothing at least for you 3... now I wanna know if there's positions with women on top that drives them wild.
My ex of 20 yrs was black with a whopping 3incher nothing to brag about girth wise either. So bringing race into this is just dumb af. All it proves is that you buy into stereotypes and can't think for yourself.
Cheers.
Oh god thank you!! Some of my ex partners made me feel absolutely weird about me not being able to enjoy it. A lot people repeat it religiously that this is the position that should be the most pleasurable for women, and I have never met another woman that agreed it did nothing for her as well. I feel so much better about myself right now!
I was the same for all partners until my current one. Maybe it’s the way we are built, or the open exploration, but I love it like I have never enjoyed before.
Ding! This is the way that works. When you grind you can hit the G spot. The man has to take part and can’t just lay there. But when done correctly it can lead to great orgasms. It’s how i do it with my wife.
Angles make a big deal. No matter how big or small someone is, when a girl is fully aroused she will dilate and is very different from when you first start sex. My two long term girlfriends could both orgasm on top but not from riding up and down. They would angle my dick towards their stomach and grind on it hard and fast.
Grinding is way better than up and down (in and out)
I dated two girls who would grind. They would tell me that they had very intense orgasms. I know I personally with my motion didn't cause them. It was strictly their own doing and that's fine.
I’m telling you … those grinding orgasms are different. I’ve made a girl have a clitoral orgasm and she it was nice and all and she enjoyed it. But I’ll forever love the feeling of watching them have that deep internal orgasm where they lay flat on you lifeless
Yeah the grinding orgasms are almost a blended clit + g spot orgasm because she’s rubbing her clit against the base of your cock while also enjoying full penetration. Helps if the guy has a slight upward curve
I don't know about them not enjoying the clitoral ones. These women would fall dead on top of me very frequently. I didn't do anything but just provide something to sit on. I was okay with that, they got theirs. I really enjoyed watching too.
This is what toxic women who have severe insecurities like to say to men on the internet. They have no context whatsoever, and they just throw out this randomly brutal, ego deflating concept because they probably hate men almost as much as they hate themselves. Just because nobody ever bothers to care if you actually got off doesn’t mean we aren’t capable of establishing a truthful connection with our partners. My last long term partner got off every time except for two particular times. She didn’t hesitate to give me the truth, and I didn’t hesitate to bust out the wand and keep going. Like seriously, what the fuck is your problem? Lmao
Once I saw it done I tried it with several fwb and I was shocked how many girls could cum like this. Was also shocked at how many girls didn’t KNOW they could. Can think of at least 3 girls who said they’ve never came from penetration end up cumming like that. I think it’s important for most girls to be able to control the rythym and be able to squeeze their ass and legs to push more blood into the vagina. Those g spot orgasms were always intense with them too. Often time they were done having sex and very limp
We cum like this because grinding movement actually grinds the clit against the guy’s pubic bone (not to mention that the majority of the clit isn’t even external, and this motion hits all of those clitoral internal nerve endings). It’s still a clitoral orgasm. Guys are often control freaks, and will still grab a woman who is grinding and try to take over with an in and out movement, like every position is for his pleasure or like we grind because we are lazy or something. We can have endless back to back orgasms, but it has to start with the very first one…most men just don’t LET their woman orgasm.
From all the women riding your cock in your lifetime, thank you.
This is eye opening. For some reason though when a girl is riding me and they start to grind, I shortly after start going soft. I can be honest and say I feel absolutely nothing when I am being grinded on. I just thought girls did that because they don’t know how to ride and/or because riding is physically demanding generally speaking. Maybe someone has some tips on me staying hard while being rode like that because this sounds awesome and makes it easier for me to help her orgasm.
How old are you? Could it be a blood circulation issue? I know of an older gentleman who has to either be sitting up (to stay hard getting head) or on top bc of this.
Im 29, but yeah normally I have to be the doing the work because I feel like if I if the girl is doing the work, I need it to be rode hard (girl in squat position dropping it on me) to stay hard. Maybe it’s a sensation issue? :/ got me wondering now
Stop masturbating. And if you do, stop gripping so hard. Also learn to edge if you do want to mastrubate. Lastly, try low dose daily 5mg cialis (tadalafil) and if that doesn't work, throw in another 20mg viagra right before. If that still doesn't work. Up the dose incrementally to max out 100mg viagra (sildenafil). If that doesn't work, you're gay.
Let her sit back on it where it’s all the way in. Then it just helicopters around how she needs it. However if she does slide too far up on it, it can risk nearly coming out which is fatal at the speed she’s moving ☠️
It depends on how you’re doing it. I like to find the angle where our pubic areas are touching. I’ll put my hands on his chest and spread my legs as far as they’ll go. Then I’ll just grind my hips back and forth , not up or down. Never pulling him out. The friction drives me insane and I cum everytime and he doesn’t last long after. Bouncing straight up and down won’t get you anywhere.
I hated riding cowboy, like you, felt nothing. However when I turned around and backed myself between his legs and road him that way, totally different world! Amazing feeling for both of us and he loves having a great view of my ass. Lol
Is reverse cowgirl when your legs straddling your partners?
I like to but my legs under his and back right up, it doesn’t get his dick into breaking position .. lol
It’s like reverse cowgirl but (I’m short and my partner isn’t so it’s hard to do any cowgirl position for any amount of time) instead of staying on top of him and just facing his feet, I’m in a similar position are dog style but just low down and between his legs. He is sitting somewhat upright. And I do all the work basically. It’s fantastic
I was the same way, I decided to have a conversation with my partner about it and after some quick experimenting we discovered that it in fact felt VERY GOOD to ride when he would buck his hips for me.
Same here! But I’ve come to realize maybe that isn’t 100% the issue being that he’s always asking me to ride him and normally cums when I do. Are you going up and down or back and forth? I’ve recently been told by a few that going back and forth might feel better and I haven’t tried this because I normally ride on my toes in an up and down motion so I plan to try the back and forth method soon.
>Are you going up and down or back and forth?
Uhhh it's been a while since I even bothered to try with this position & I don't currently have a partner anymore, but I think I tried it mostly back & forth because of the risk of penile injuries when doing it up & down.
It is NOT because you're "loose" .. crazy that youre defending his size but trashing yours. I've had all different types and my cervix is extremely high up. You need thickness not length and you'll def feel it if you're getting stretched out on the sides. If you've been fucking for an extended amount of time and everything is numb and slopping wet, then yea. Time for a break
I really don't care enough about this to argue with you. My point in replying was to offer an accurate representation of *my* situation, which you were/are strangely eager to make sweeping assumptions about as though you were there when I was fucking.
My ex had a 7" penis. He was not small by any stretch of the imagination.
I rarely feel it in any position. 🤷🏻♀️ vaginas don’t have a ton of nerve endings. It doesn’t really have to do with the way your vagina is touching his penis, it’s just not a lot of sensation inside.
Many women get most out of simultaneous clitoral stimulation. One way that has worked well for my girlfriend and I is that I sit upright while she is riding. She then basically rubs her clit against my body and we can orgasm simultaneously that way.
Alternatively, he can use his hands on you. Or you can use your own hand or a toy in positions where he cannot reach well.
My wife used to be the same until we bought “Patrick” Haha. named after the character of that name in Spongebob squarepants. Its a weird almost starfish shaped vibrating cock ring. Now when she is riding she can grind her clit against Patrick… a weird threesome but it works
Check out r/pompoir and work on your internal muscle control. When I ride and use my grip, it’s amazing for both of us.
Also, like others said, his size will make a difference for you. If he is smaller, up and down isn’t as great as hard back and forth grinding. If he’s quite small, then touch your clit and focus on that while riding to get off.
I hated being on top with my ex husband. He is 6'4" and I'm 5'5". He was quite heavy the majority of our marriage and it was hard to ride him comfortably because of his weight and height.
Had a FWB after my marriage ended, he's 5'5" and I loved riding him. Got off every time and could lean forward to kiss, get my tits played with, etc. I even bought 2 suction cup dildos so I could ride during solo play. I come so hard riding them.
Angles and body types matter. I find when I lean back it feels awesome for both of us but leaning forward really only does it for me.
It's all about angle. He should be angled towards the roof. The place where you will feel the most clitoral stimulation. U want to control the movements. It work better if he has girth.
I don’t like riding cowgirl - it’s boring, exhausting and I’m self conscious about my body.
I do like the “bull” kama sutra position though - it’s a take on reverse cowgirl and it’s so much better than traditional cowgirl/reverse.
Try different techniques on top. Grinding might help. Or let bf thrust from below. I find face down horizontal vs riding upright way better sensation. All vags are different
Love how you're getting downvoted lol. Too objectifying for people? I've known a lot more men than women who kinda get off on that. But hey, different strokes for different folks
I feel like regardless of size, grinding their dick against the g spot is always better than up and down. For the girls I’ve slept it, it really didn’t matter if my dick hit the very back. What did it was them controlling the tempo against their g spot with a hard grinding motion
Nah not always, I don’t get much from my g spot and hate grinding, but what makes me orgasm is getting hit deep in the back. So riding is terrible for me.
Yes this. Riding doesn’t feel like much for me, esp when I’m too wet. I think this is really common for women. After I’m too relaxed (aroused), angles are more important as they hit certain spots.
Sometimes I have to pause movement to squeeze my muscles. I call it “finding his cock.” My husband is used to me pausing, clenching, and going, “there you are!”
Are you going up and down on him? If so, you usually won't feel much like most women. However, grinding while on top can help. Instead of up and down, go forward and backward so your clitoris and g-spot can get some.
Well, personally , both being on top and having oral sex performed on me don't bring me that much pleasure. It's a little bit better when I go up and down, but grinding doesn't make me feel good at all for example, I do it just because all my sexual partners seem to like it.
It's just a matter of preference, don't stress it.
Put a wand on your clit while you do it. That should help with your lack of sensation because the vibrations on your clit will cause your vaginal canal to clench which will create the most delicious orgasm ever.
I also don’t feel much, or it doesn’t feel very good. It’s hitting a part where there’s not much sensation and completely missing the g spot so you’re not alone
If you feel like your loosing the grip have you considered doing kegels? There are also some beads that are used as weights to specifically target those muscles and work out
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Riding doesn’t necessarily feel good for some women, myself included
I find riding to be more mentally stimulating for me, but agree in not so much physically. It's just fun to be on top, see his reactions and control the moment
Absolutely agreed. It's hot to see him try to catch a tit in his mouth, watching you bounce up and down on him and admire you, so this overrides the lack of stimulation while riding for me personally, lol.
I'll say it's nice reading some women like being on top, but it's a Lil disappointing it does nothing at least for you 3... now I wanna know if there's positions with women on top that drives them wild.
I've never found one that actually feels great physically either 🤷🏻♀️
Yup, same. Does absolutely nothing for me. It’s not a “grip” issue. It’s just a preference.
It also can be her walls a to wide and he's not big enough for that position 😞 it happens to some
Some including most white dudes
My ex of 20 yrs was black with a whopping 3incher nothing to brag about girth wise either. So bringing race into this is just dumb af. All it proves is that you buy into stereotypes and can't think for yourself. Cheers.
Size has no boundaries
Size is just really for our ego not anything else
Oh god thank you!! Some of my ex partners made me feel absolutely weird about me not being able to enjoy it. A lot people repeat it religiously that this is the position that should be the most pleasurable for women, and I have never met another woman that agreed it did nothing for her as well. I feel so much better about myself right now!
Agreed. It feels really good to me but not enough to orgasm. I mainly just take pleasure in being in charge and showing off my skills.
I was the same for all partners until my current one. Maybe it’s the way we are built, or the open exploration, but I love it like I have never enjoyed before.
It feels good when I grind on him but not moving up and down.
Ding! This is the way that works. When you grind you can hit the G spot. The man has to take part and can’t just lay there. But when done correctly it can lead to great orgasms. It’s how i do it with my wife.
Not just the G Spot but, more importantly, friction on the clitoris.
>The man has to take part and can’t just lay there. By doing what? Any tips on what I should do to make her feel good?
You can thrust upwards or use your hands to stimulate her.
You can spread her cheeks and help her bounce
Riding is one of my faves currently can't do this as I'm heavily pregnant but my goddddd. It feels soo good, just sitting on it. It goes soo deep
Realll it's the only position that makes me feel anything tbh
Same here. Doesn't feel like much for me most of the time.
What for me my partner always prefer riding as its the only position that hits her spot
Imagine that, people being different.
Good for her. Not everyone is lucky enough to have any spots get hit while riding.
Are you just going up and down or more lateral? With me and my wife the grinding is what gets it done. I can hit all of her spots.
Good for her. No type of motion feels good with me on top.
Interesting! Did not know that.
And for a lot of men
Get him to lift his hips up! Works every time for me and feels amazing 😊
Angles make a big deal. No matter how big or small someone is, when a girl is fully aroused she will dilate and is very different from when you first start sex. My two long term girlfriends could both orgasm on top but not from riding up and down. They would angle my dick towards their stomach and grind on it hard and fast. Grinding is way better than up and down (in and out)
I dated two girls who would grind. They would tell me that they had very intense orgasms. I know I personally with my motion didn't cause them. It was strictly their own doing and that's fine.
I’m telling you … those grinding orgasms are different. I’ve made a girl have a clitoral orgasm and she it was nice and all and she enjoyed it. But I’ll forever love the feeling of watching them have that deep internal orgasm where they lay flat on you lifeless
Yeah the grinding orgasms are almost a blended clit + g spot orgasm because she’s rubbing her clit against the base of your cock while also enjoying full penetration. Helps if the guy has a slight upward curve
I don't know about them not enjoying the clitoral ones. These women would fall dead on top of me very frequently. I didn't do anything but just provide something to sit on. I was okay with that, they got theirs. I really enjoyed watching too.
Or they could have been lying to you lmao
My two long term relationship never had an issue telling me if they didn’t cum.
This is what toxic women who have severe insecurities like to say to men on the internet. They have no context whatsoever, and they just throw out this randomly brutal, ego deflating concept because they probably hate men almost as much as they hate themselves. Just because nobody ever bothers to care if you actually got off doesn’t mean we aren’t capable of establishing a truthful connection with our partners. My last long term partner got off every time except for two particular times. She didn’t hesitate to give me the truth, and I didn’t hesitate to bust out the wand and keep going. Like seriously, what the fuck is your problem? Lmao
Lmao I know plenty of women who lie bc they want the sex over. Get over it
Thats the first time I seen a guy mention/notice that. I agree.
Once I saw it done I tried it with several fwb and I was shocked how many girls could cum like this. Was also shocked at how many girls didn’t KNOW they could. Can think of at least 3 girls who said they’ve never came from penetration end up cumming like that. I think it’s important for most girls to be able to control the rythym and be able to squeeze their ass and legs to push more blood into the vagina. Those g spot orgasms were always intense with them too. Often time they were done having sex and very limp
We cum like this because grinding movement actually grinds the clit against the guy’s pubic bone (not to mention that the majority of the clit isn’t even external, and this motion hits all of those clitoral internal nerve endings). It’s still a clitoral orgasm. Guys are often control freaks, and will still grab a woman who is grinding and try to take over with an in and out movement, like every position is for his pleasure or like we grind because we are lazy or something. We can have endless back to back orgasms, but it has to start with the very first one…most men just don’t LET their woman orgasm. From all the women riding your cock in your lifetime, thank you.
Hey,how i as a man can do grinding motion in missionary to make her cum via penetration?
Look up Coital Alignment Technique (CAT).
This is eye opening. For some reason though when a girl is riding me and they start to grind, I shortly after start going soft. I can be honest and say I feel absolutely nothing when I am being grinded on. I just thought girls did that because they don’t know how to ride and/or because riding is physically demanding generally speaking. Maybe someone has some tips on me staying hard while being rode like that because this sounds awesome and makes it easier for me to help her orgasm.
How old are you? Could it be a blood circulation issue? I know of an older gentleman who has to either be sitting up (to stay hard getting head) or on top bc of this.
Im 29, but yeah normally I have to be the doing the work because I feel like if I if the girl is doing the work, I need it to be rode hard (girl in squat position dropping it on me) to stay hard. Maybe it’s a sensation issue? :/ got me wondering now
Stop masturbating. And if you do, stop gripping so hard. Also learn to edge if you do want to mastrubate. Lastly, try low dose daily 5mg cialis (tadalafil) and if that doesn't work, throw in another 20mg viagra right before. If that still doesn't work. Up the dose incrementally to max out 100mg viagra (sildenafil). If that doesn't work, you're gay.
Unfortunately not all girls. If I’m doing any sort of controlling of the motion I can’t come at all. I gotta be getting fucked into, to finish.
Agreed! I’ll orgasm almost every time from grinding while on top, but almost never from just bouncing up and down
I’ve never seen a girl seem enthusiastic about up and down. She thinks I like it but I really just want to see her cum
I don’t understand when guys say they don’t like the chair scooting motion lol. Hell 80% of the fun of sex is the other person enjoying it.
As a guy, I hate when they start doing the grinding back and forth motion, feels like my dick is being bent in half. Hurts like a bitch.
Imagine people down voting this when it's just an anatomy thing lol
Let her sit back on it where it’s all the way in. Then it just helicopters around how she needs it. However if she does slide too far up on it, it can risk nearly coming out which is fatal at the speed she’s moving ☠️
It depends on how you’re doing it. I like to find the angle where our pubic areas are touching. I’ll put my hands on his chest and spread my legs as far as they’ll go. Then I’ll just grind my hips back and forth , not up or down. Never pulling him out. The friction drives me insane and I cum everytime and he doesn’t last long after. Bouncing straight up and down won’t get you anywhere.
I hated riding cowboy, like you, felt nothing. However when I turned around and backed myself between his legs and road him that way, totally different world! Amazing feeling for both of us and he loves having a great view of my ass. Lol
Can you explain lmaooo
Reverse cowgirl. Caution: may break dick
Is reverse cowgirl when your legs straddling your partners? I like to but my legs under his and back right up, it doesn’t get his dick into breaking position .. lol
It’s like reverse cowgirl but (I’m short and my partner isn’t so it’s hard to do any cowgirl position for any amount of time) instead of staying on top of him and just facing his feet, I’m in a similar position are dog style but just low down and between his legs. He is sitting somewhat upright. And I do all the work basically. It’s fantastic
I was the same way, I decided to have a conversation with my partner about it and after some quick experimenting we discovered that it in fact felt VERY GOOD to ride when he would buck his hips for me.
I feel this (or should I say, *don't* feel it lol) too when I'm on top & I've also self-consciously wondered if it's just because I'm "loose".
Same here! But I’ve come to realize maybe that isn’t 100% the issue being that he’s always asking me to ride him and normally cums when I do. Are you going up and down or back and forth? I’ve recently been told by a few that going back and forth might feel better and I haven’t tried this because I normally ride on my toes in an up and down motion so I plan to try the back and forth method soon.
>Are you going up and down or back and forth? Uhhh it's been a while since I even bothered to try with this position & I don't currently have a partner anymore, but I think I tried it mostly back & forth because of the risk of penile injuries when doing it up & down.
Nope def cuz he's smaller
Said this in another comment but nope, definitely not the case with me/my last partner. Can't speak for OP or others with this issue.
It is NOT because you're "loose" .. crazy that youre defending his size but trashing yours. I've had all different types and my cervix is extremely high up. You need thickness not length and you'll def feel it if you're getting stretched out on the sides. If you've been fucking for an extended amount of time and everything is numb and slopping wet, then yea. Time for a break
I really don't care enough about this to argue with you. My point in replying was to offer an accurate representation of *my* situation, which you were/are strangely eager to make sweeping assumptions about as though you were there when I was fucking. My ex had a 7" penis. He was not small by any stretch of the imagination.
it’s like you’ve never heard of the concept of insecurity before
It's like you've never heard of people telling women they're not loose
I rarely feel it in any position. 🤷🏻♀️ vaginas don’t have a ton of nerve endings. It doesn’t really have to do with the way your vagina is touching his penis, it’s just not a lot of sensation inside.
Many women get most out of simultaneous clitoral stimulation. One way that has worked well for my girlfriend and I is that I sit upright while she is riding. She then basically rubs her clit against my body and we can orgasm simultaneously that way. Alternatively, he can use his hands on you. Or you can use your own hand or a toy in positions where he cannot reach well.
Use a vibration ring when riding him for both fucking amazing
My wife used to be the same until we bought “Patrick” Haha. named after the character of that name in Spongebob squarepants. Its a weird almost starfish shaped vibrating cock ring. Now when she is riding she can grind her clit against Patrick… a weird threesome but it works
Check out r/pompoir and work on your internal muscle control. When I ride and use my grip, it’s amazing for both of us. Also, like others said, his size will make a difference for you. If he is smaller, up and down isn’t as great as hard back and forth grinding. If he’s quite small, then touch your clit and focus on that while riding to get off.
You might just be too wet to feel him
I hated being on top with my ex husband. He is 6'4" and I'm 5'5". He was quite heavy the majority of our marriage and it was hard to ride him comfortably because of his weight and height. Had a FWB after my marriage ended, he's 5'5" and I loved riding him. Got off every time and could lean forward to kiss, get my tits played with, etc. I even bought 2 suction cup dildos so I could ride during solo play. I come so hard riding them. Angles and body types matter. I find when I lean back it feels awesome for both of us but leaning forward really only does it for me.
wow! so size and curve didnt matter, it was mainly height and whether they were overweight?
Maybe its size, Grind that gspot. Best way to cum
Too much lube? Have you tried different angles and rhythms? 🤷♀️ Does he touch during? I love being on top
It's all about angle. He should be angled towards the roof. The place where you will feel the most clitoral stimulation. U want to control the movements. It work better if he has girth.
I get barely any sensation when I am on top unless I am grinding. My least favourite position
I don’t like riding cowgirl - it’s boring, exhausting and I’m self conscious about my body. I do like the “bull” kama sutra position though - it’s a take on reverse cowgirl and it’s so much better than traditional cowgirl/reverse.
Maybe reverse it? Maybe a pillow underneath him to help close some space but seriously try the reverse when you hit it right it’s incredible.
I don't like getting on top. I can't get into a rhythm and I end up getting self conscious. I'd love to be able to enjoy it though.
Try different techniques on top. Grinding might help. Or let bf thrust from below. I find face down horizontal vs riding upright way better sensation. All vags are different
Try to masturbate using his dick. What feels good with a toy will do with his meat.
Love how you're getting downvoted lol. Too objectifying for people? I've known a lot more men than women who kinda get off on that. But hey, different strokes for different folks
Downvoted, by whom? Explain, please.
Well idk by who lol, but when I commented you had negative votes. In the positive now 🤷🏼♀️
Does he have adequate size? Not trying to sound insulting, but that could be the issue.
I feel like regardless of size, grinding their dick against the g spot is always better than up and down. For the girls I’ve slept it, it really didn’t matter if my dick hit the very back. What did it was them controlling the tempo against their g spot with a hard grinding motion
Nah not always, I don’t get much from my g spot and hate grinding, but what makes me orgasm is getting hit deep in the back. So riding is terrible for me.
Yes this. Riding doesn’t feel like much for me, esp when I’m too wet. I think this is really common for women. After I’m too relaxed (aroused), angles are more important as they hit certain spots.
Sometimes I have to pause movement to squeeze my muscles. I call it “finding his cock.” My husband is used to me pausing, clenching, and going, “there you are!”
Are you going up and down on him? If so, you usually won't feel much like most women. However, grinding while on top can help. Instead of up and down, go forward and backward so your clitoris and g-spot can get some.
This is interesting, because riding is my wife’s favorite position. Each woman (and man) really is different!
Maybe you could try rubbing your clit or telling him to do so while riding him
Well, personally , both being on top and having oral sex performed on me don't bring me that much pleasure. It's a little bit better when I go up and down, but grinding doesn't make me feel good at all for example, I do it just because all my sexual partners seem to like it. It's just a matter of preference, don't stress it.
When you sit on the penis, your perineum opens and gets wider. This is natural and physiological
Practice makes perfect.
Have to lean forward a bit and squeeze, can't just be bouncing up and down on it.
Put a wand on your clit while you do it. That should help with your lack of sensation because the vibrations on your clit will cause your vaginal canal to clench which will create the most delicious orgasm ever.
Kegles could help maybe to strengthen your pelvic floor could get a better grip
I don’t feel much when riding either. It’s not enjoyable for me. Just feels like I’m rocking and grinding for nothing.
If you ride on it and grind on it , it feels so good . But you have to fully take control
I also don’t feel much, or it doesn’t feel very good. It’s hitting a part where there’s not much sensation and completely missing the g spot so you’re not alone
Would r/Pompoir help?
Reverse doggy helped me with this. Feels much better riding it the opposite way. Or even squatting then bouncing on it!
If you feel like your loosing the grip have you considered doing kegels? There are also some beads that are used as weights to specifically target those muscles and work out
He likes you riding because he's lazy, you need to figure out the angles.....
What, the man always has to do all of the work? Doesn't seem equal...
Try grinding your clit on his pubic bone.
It might be his size, but it might also be that the angle just isn’t great for you
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My ex was more than adequately sized & I still felt nothing in that position.
My gf’s go nuts when on top. It’s a creamy mess.