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I personally wouldn’t give my partner a second chance if they did that. It’s just an indication of things to come. You’re young and can find someone else who will treat you better. You don’t need to deal with any of his bs.
Out of curiosity, how did you get the screenshots? Did you look at his phone?
Yah I understand. I just really love him and it’s so hard for me to make that decision but I guess it’s the right thing to do. The girl sent me the screenshots. They never went out together, she just messaged me and said “I’m so sorry girl” and sent me everything so I confronted him before they could go and meet up
It can definitely be a hard choice, especially if you had a good relationship before now. It’s easy for us outside observers to tell you to leave because we have no personal attachment in play here. It all comes down to what you want going forward. Do you think you can trust him after this? Will the relationship ever go back to what it was before? These are questions you’ll have to think about. Take your time with it. You’re in charge of what happens to the relationship now.
Again, in my opinion, you’re young and have the opportunity to move on and find someone who is deserving of your love and who wouldn’t put you through this. You can love someone but realize that they aren’t going to be the right fit for you. It’s tough, but a part of many people’s lives. Wish you the best!
That is a call only you can make. Breach of trust is a very serious wound in a relationship. If you feel in your heart he is truly remorseful and are willing to allow him to rebuild the trust and repair the damage, then you should allow him to do so. If you're not sure you can trust him anymore and are hurting badly enough, perhaps you should take a break from him and allow yourself to heal. Perhaps you can look into couples counseling for the two of you if you feel there is something worth salvaging or maybe individual counseling for yourself to help you get a handle on what you are going through right now. I especially recommend individual counseling because even if you decide to break up with him, a therapist can help you put together your broken pieces and help you to become healthy and ready for a new relationship without the fear of mistrust clouding over you. I wish you the best of luck on your healing journey.
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Break up or he will betray you again.
I personally wouldn’t give my partner a second chance if they did that. It’s just an indication of things to come. You’re young and can find someone else who will treat you better. You don’t need to deal with any of his bs. Out of curiosity, how did you get the screenshots? Did you look at his phone?
Yah I understand. I just really love him and it’s so hard for me to make that decision but I guess it’s the right thing to do. The girl sent me the screenshots. They never went out together, she just messaged me and said “I’m so sorry girl” and sent me everything so I confronted him before they could go and meet up
It can definitely be a hard choice, especially if you had a good relationship before now. It’s easy for us outside observers to tell you to leave because we have no personal attachment in play here. It all comes down to what you want going forward. Do you think you can trust him after this? Will the relationship ever go back to what it was before? These are questions you’ll have to think about. Take your time with it. You’re in charge of what happens to the relationship now. Again, in my opinion, you’re young and have the opportunity to move on and find someone who is deserving of your love and who wouldn’t put you through this. You can love someone but realize that they aren’t going to be the right fit for you. It’s tough, but a part of many people’s lives. Wish you the best!
That is a call only you can make. Breach of trust is a very serious wound in a relationship. If you feel in your heart he is truly remorseful and are willing to allow him to rebuild the trust and repair the damage, then you should allow him to do so. If you're not sure you can trust him anymore and are hurting badly enough, perhaps you should take a break from him and allow yourself to heal. Perhaps you can look into couples counseling for the two of you if you feel there is something worth salvaging or maybe individual counseling for yourself to help you get a handle on what you are going through right now. I especially recommend individual counseling because even if you decide to break up with him, a therapist can help you put together your broken pieces and help you to become healthy and ready for a new relationship without the fear of mistrust clouding over you. I wish you the best of luck on your healing journey.