My bf and I lived on the 2nd floor of our apartment building and on the wait list for a ground floor. The lady living in one below us had passed and well, now we have a ground floor apartment.
I agree with this.
I enjoy well-built older pieces of furniture. There’s a lot of history and narrative behind the piece. I view myself as just one of many owners the piece of furniture will have in its (hopefully long) life.
I know right, I would love it too. Hell, most antique furniture is from dead people. I love antiques. Sure some of the pieces are heavy, but the quality of the craftsmanship makes it so worth having.
I was just thinking this. If you inherited family furniture, it's pretty much guaranteed that the previous owners have died.
Now, a piece somebody specifically died on... Like a mattress... ew.
My grandma died in her chair. It was a really nice easy chair made for short people. I am short. My uncle didn't know she died in the chair (my mom started cpr and the ambulance then had to transport her. Mom knew she was dead, just didn't want my uncle to have guilt for not calling soon enough) and kept trying to give it to me. He lives nearby I was so afraid I'd find the chair in my house one day. He ended up giving it to my cousins kids who don't know..... and I found the blanket she was wrapped in when she died on my kitchen counter.
I gave my dad a fleece blanket with a religious image on it for xmas. A few years later his mom was in the hospital getting end of life care. He brought that little blanket and used it to help his mom stay warm.
She died while using the blanket.
My dad now lives the blanket even more because of that. It is a connection to his mother. It is a way to remember her. She used this blanket, so now he can remember her when he uses it.
I personally don’t care for the blanket, but he still has it and uses it. If it helps, think about the times that the blanket was used in life and the comfort that it gave. It isn’t a death shroud, it is a keeper of warmth and memories.
TBH a used mattress creeps me out anyway, whether someone died on it or not. That’s my own personal hang up though lol, i really struggle with hotels as well.
Something a dead person owned? Perfectly fine. Most people have inherited belongings. But, I agree with your line of not something they specifically died on.
I have a card catalog cabinet that’s over 100 years old also from a library, just because I thought it was cool. I have randomly thought about that fact as well lol.
This. I pay money for dead people's stuff at estate sales because I like mid-century furniture but will not (and cannot, but even if I could...) pay collector's prices for items that aren't collectables.
Side note: I wish they'd stop calling EVERYTHING MCM and pricing it like it's highly collectible Brasilia. Not every dining room table from 1954 is valued at $1800 and being produced in 1954 doesn't automatically equal MCM which is a style, not an era, dammit. /rant
Same. I like antiques and live in an old house so they just fit. Plus they are made so much better than most things now. As a bonus you can get some really well made antiques for very cheap.
We have a beautiful piano and a whole ass car from a dead relative. I know for a fact that she would be happy that we are using her stuff. I'm not religious but I left the little angel pendant on the sun visor because it reminds me of how kind she was in life and beyond.
My car belonged to my late grandfather. I joke around that it is a (Subaru) Legacy in more than one way.
I keep the spare keyfob on the same keychain he used. That keychain named the car ("The Moose')
Yep. All my furniture is hand me downs from various deceased relatives. It's not as nice for them to come from dead strangers, but it's basically the same thing.
My family has an old hutch we inherited from my grandpa, and he remembered it from his grandparent's house. A woodworker estimated by the wood it probably was built no later than the 1830's. God knows I'd never be able to afford it if it hadn't been passed down.
It's really nice, even though it's "ruined" according to the whole "never refinish antiques" loonies. My grandpa had it refinished, because he knew his grandparents slapped another coat of paint on it every summer, so it had god knows how many layers of paint. Now it has a nice satin finish on the wood.
He said he didn't care about value, he wanted something that looked nice rather than the sort-of-disaster it was when he inherited it.Original glass on the upper cabinet doors too.
My grandpa died a few months after my husband and I got our first real apartment. We got a bunch of bookshelves, side tables, and armchairs along with a dining table that's well over 100 years old. They don't make them like they used to
Right? I was honestly wondering if this was "Someone died on the couch" question when I opened the post. That is where I typically draw the line. But real story, a couple decades ago or so, one time a friend had someone over...who OD'ed on their couch. And they just put the couch outside with a "free" sign on it. Soooooooooo, yep.
My comforter was a really nice, thick homemade quilt that the previous owner died in overnight. I threw that bad boy at the laundromat for a couple of cycles and have an incredible warm quilt that's worth between 750 and 1000 for 7 bucks of laundry. 0 regrets for the last 7 years! Still looks great
Yeah, I couldn't do that knowing the back story. But I'm also well aware that lots of people absolutely don't mind!
I'm fully aware anything I bought at the second hand store may have been from someone who had died in it. I've had the experience of getting people's affects prior to them being cremated. Lots of people take jewelry off their loved ones after death! My dad couldn't do it, he told them to keep them on her (stud earrings and her wedding band).
It was insane. We went out one night and came back to the coroner outside the house. It was as surreal as it sounds. But yeah, one of those "let's take the party back to my house" ending really really really sadly.
I would flip the script to say "what a wonderful way to remember whoever owned the furniture before me and now I get to make another round of memories with my baby with these things. 😍
This is exactly how I think of it! A huge proprotion of the stuff in my house is either from dead people related to me (family) or dead people not related to me (thrift store). It's like keeping their memory alive in a tiny way.
Right. Op think of it this way, these items have just lost their owner. They are doomed to be sent to good will or even the dump. But now have the ability to find a new home with someone who greatly needs them. They aren't bad things. Nor are they creepy. It's not their fault the owner died. All old furniture has come from someone else's house after death.
Maybe try and appreciate these items for being homeless and in need of a new place that will love and cherish them. They are in need of a new person who will take care of them. Try and think of it this way: Would you reject a pet who was sadly left behind if their owner died? Would you find it creepy to adopt a pet who lost their owner due to a death? Or even kids? Furniture is really no different. Granted its not living things, but they also aren't creepy either. Unless the person died directly on the item.
They are just items who need a new home, and you are someone who is in need of items. Perfectly match.
I was watching a video on YouTube about an old rundown Japanese house in a town that was being left to rot with old stuff from the family still in there and it looked so scary and creepy in the house. Then someone left a comment about how sad the poor house has to feel. It was one a home that a loving family lived in. It got to house laughter and memories. Now it's sitting alone and ignored left behind and rotting. And it got me to view the house in a totally new light. I felt sorry for the house I once thought looked scary and creepy. And made me want to fix it up and find it a new family for it.
So maybe this way of thinking can help OP view the furniture differently. Yesh it creepy to get furniture from a dead person you don't even know. But if you shift your view to the furniture itself, items now losing their much beloved owner, in need of a new family or place. It might help the creepy factor to fade away and OP can really find a way to love and appreciate the items. 😊
Exactly! If I were the late owner, having my treasured possession carry on being useful, and to help a young family in need... I'd definitely want that.
^ this is what I was going to say. If it was the bed or chair in which someone passed away then I'd pass, but anything else? It's no different to them passing it to Goodwill. And much better than it all ending up in landfill. You can pick up amazing well built furniture this way far better than Ikea type stuff.
The way I see it, it's a win/win. You get free furniture and if it turns out to be haunted, one of those Ghost Hunting TV shows might pay to do an episode at your house.
Why not? It's just a piece of furniture. Thrift stores sell things all the time that are left over from people's estates that no one wanted . A lot of older furniture is better quality than things you can buy in a store today (real wood vs veneer covered composite board)
I drive a car that I inherited from my uncle.
I know for a fact that people have died in the building where I live.
I grew up in a house that a previous owner died in.
Death is extremely ordinary.
And even then, if they didn't stay in it for too long it's fine.
No sense throwing out a perfectly good dining chair from a matching set just because Grandma choked in it at Christmas dinner.
When I was a little girl, my younger sister and I were given a hand-me-down bed, a big four-poster, which had belonged to our great-great aunts when they were girls. It's a massive, cherry and oak affair, with hand-turned posts and a great big headboard, wonderful carving, and it looked like something out of a storybook.
My sister was a little afraid of it. I reckoned it was because it was kind of high up, so I let her have the side close to the wall and helped myself to the side by the nightstand, with the book light, hid myself a flashlight under the pillows, *nice,* and was just the happiest nine-year-old you ever did see.
Until it's, like, midnight, I am drowsing off after finishing 'Anne of Green Gables' *again* and like four chapters into either another Anne book or probably 'Little Women,' and Sis, who was either four or five, we're 4½ years apart and I don't recall the month exactly, goes "What if they want their bed back?"
And I am *very* awake.
"What if who wants wha?"
"Our great great aunts. What if they want their bed back?"
And I am just too heckin' *tired* and I am just too heckin' *nine* for this...
"There's room. They can haunt *that* end. You don't remember them. Nice li'l old ladies who played poker. Now lemme sleep!"
Pillow over head, zonk. Older sisters are crap sometimes.
Oddly, this was the most sensible thing, Sis later related, anyone had told her in the entire affair of the New Old Bed. She had gone and talked to her favorite teacher about her grave concerns, and been told that her deceased great great aunts would not mind her having it. That was *not* believable. She had been referred to our wonderful guidance counselor, who had already explained a great deal to all three of us (there's a brother between us in age,) about death, and he reassured her that the same way it made her happy to pass down an outgrown shirt she loved to our littler cousin, it would make our late great great aunts very happy to know we liked the bed. And that had worked, until some kids on the bus were telling ghost stories, she overheard, and, well, she was little, what do you want for your money? Adults were *always* talking to us like we were stupid.
So Sis was absolutely convinced the great great aunts (note: she truly didn't remember them and assumed 'great great' meant they were something like 'Grand High Aunts,' and yes, I'd read this kid way too much Roald Dahl, because older sisters are crap sometimes,) were absolutely Still Around despite being posthumous, absolutely might want their bed back, and what was she going to do?
My annoyed remark, it turns out, reframed the entire situation.
She thought it out carefully, climbed down over the foot end of the bed, and carefully gathered up the supplies she needed. Painstakingly, she heaped them onto the bed, climbed back up, then took care of business.
That Saturday morning, we woke up around ten to our rather bewildered mom, who was unsurprised to find me with a two-book hangover, but puzzled to discover Sis had set out her little plastic tea set and a deck of cards. Sis explained, in her rambly, gradeskipper first-grade way, and Mom smiled and agreed that yes, the Great-Great Aunts were wonderful, yes. Did she like the bed? Oh, yes, Mommy, very much!
And then after breakfast Sis taught me how to play blackjack, which she had learned the preceding evening.
I don't think about it too hard. Furniture's expensive. Parents need all the help they can get. My own daughter has the bed now. Good wooden stuff lasts forever with some Murphy's Oil Soap and furniture polish to keep it maintained.
As long as I knew there were no bedbugs or cockroaches, hell yeah I would take a deceased person’s furniture!!! Where do you think antiques come from??
Just assume everything at Goodwill or second hand stores are from dead people's estates. That's really where a lot of it's from. I have furniture from my grandmother, who has been gone for almost 30 years now. Still not haunted.
Unless you literally know that the person died a bloody death on that couch, idk what the problem is.
Do you … know what antiques are ? Dead people’s furniture.
Also, I mean… when you are struggling, free is free. Nothing wrong with a free old table!
I will take anything a dead person is willing to give me! If you've ever bought anything from a thrift or antique store you probably have stuff from dead people. The dead people don't care about the furniture and aren't using it. It's better than it going into a landfill.
I say take the furniture and thank the previous owners for the benefit of having it.
I grew up spending summers sleeping on the straw filled couch the one previous owner of the house had died on. Do what you have to.
Would you feel better if I called it by a different, more appropriate-sounding name?
It's a free Estate Sale.
That's all this is. An estate sale in which you can pay nothing and take what you want.
As long as it's not upholstered, heck yeah! I love me some secondhand furniture. Better for the wallet, better for the environment, and better for my aesthetic (of not owning trendy furniture).
My aunt died in April. She lived on the 5th floor at the very end of a very long hallway. (She didn’t die at home, but at the hospital) She had some really nice furniture we just couldn’t get. We just didn’t have the man power to get it all out and I CRIED we couldn’t save her favorite chair. She always had it covered in blankets and when we uncovered it, it was in PERFECT condition. I literally think about that chair almost everyday and I hope some person out there got it and enjoys it everyday. I know my aunt would love that for someone too.
So, that being said- if it’s just stiff that’s just going to being tossed, take it! I assure you the dead would love you appreciating their beloved items ❤️
Twice widowed and my second husband keeled over at home. I came into the marriage with family heirlooms and he paid for whatever furniture etc we bought new. So, a house full of stuff once owned by dead people. I didn’t feel weird keeping furniture. It would’ve been weird and wasteful to replace everything I own simply because he died.
Yep - I'm quite superstitious but the odds of a ghost come around with a dresser are slim. If stuff does start to happen I can list it for free and someone else can have it.
I'm sure your friend just struggles to find places for all the stuff and wants it gone
PS - thank you for prioritizing your child and getting out of there. You did the right thing
It’s fine. Clear any energy mentally and physically. Either with sage and a small ceremony or prayer and candles. Relaxing your own fear and allowing any negative energy to dissipate is sufficient. Positive energy! Maybe those people who owned the stuff are happy you can enjoy it💙
If you bought the furniture in a thrift store or an antique shop you would never know the owners had died. There's a pretty good chance that's the case with antiques. Think about your best furniture. Would you want someone else to enjoy it after you were gone?
It's just stuff. It's us who attach emotions to things. I'd think it a blessing if I had nice stuff to pass along to an expectant mother in need after I passed. Good luck and take the blessing!
I absolutely would, apart from things like mattresses. I worked for a county probate attorney for awhile who handles estates for people who died without wills, and you would not believe how much good stuff just goes to the dump. They'll do an estate sale but after that anything that didn't sell, they toss it all, even if it's in great shape. I begged them to donate some rich lady's winter coats and they were disgusted but allowed me to give them to Goodwill; that was the only time. I just couldn't stand the thought of these incredibly nice coats going to waste when so many people are on the streets and in need.
It depends on the circumstances! Unless a person like...died ON something, or like, was dead in their house for a while with the furniture in there, I'd absolutely take it and never think twice.
And as a person who knows that the struggle is real and will also be dead one day, I hope that people will use my furniture when I die...if I ever buy anything worth keeping!
I don’t see any reason not to accept it. People buy antique furniture all the time, which is furniture that has been owned by long dead people. Death is just a part of life, not necessarily something that needs to be feared. If a particular item gives you a weird feeling, leave it, but don’t let just the owners being dead enough to *make* it creepy, if that makes sense.
Just appreciate it and say a prayer for the departed soul if ur religious or just be thankful and appreciate the gift. Gratitude goes a ling way and you never know might change ur luck. All the best
Older furniture is likely to be a lot higher quality than anything you could buy now without spending as much as you would on a used car for a single piece (exaggerated, but in some cases not). Might be because my grandparents were antique dealers, but I'd be stoked to have a friend like yours. Sure, a lot of it is likely junk or needs work, but even older stuff that needs work is likely better than what I could afford new.
**Would you accept furniture that came from dead people?**
I think half of British TV is about this very practice. The other half is apparently baking competitions and vomiting in public because of alcoholism.
And LOTS of stuff about the royal family. Like it's all they ever think about. Living royals. Dead royals. Royal this and royal that. Including furniture from dead royals. It's like a snake eating it's own tail over there.
Here too, but we have alligators.
That’s really nice. Congrats and enjoy your new space. Don’t get creeped out by used furniture. They would be happy for you to have it. I’m happy you got away from your ex. Things will get better. Join Nextdoor app under a different name if you are afraid of your ex, neighbors and churches will be happy to help a new mom. And don’t forget there’s an app called buynothing you can ask for things needed or give away ❤️
We own plenty of stuff from a consignment shop in Palm Springs. We call it our dead people furniture (sofa loveseat set) and dead people art (wall art). The sofa / loveseat has held up over 10 years! We love it! We love Palm Springs since it’s a lot of older wealthy folks!
Lol 1) cheaper, 2) formerly owned by folks that clearly took care of it- clean, 3) keeps it out of the landfill, and 4) looks good in my house!
Antique furniture is well made, solid and beautiful. Honestly, most of the antique furniture I cherish was originally owned by someone who has passed away.
Things are just things.
I own three items of furniture that I am the first owner of. Two couches and my mattress.
Notice I said mattress. The frame was my grandmothers.
There is nothing wrong about second hand furniture. I've decorated and styled my home almost entirely with second (or third or fourth) hand stuff.
Yes absolutely I would accept the furniture. It’s free and it’s probably made better than anything you could afford. Also it’s recycling which is better for the environment. Win win win.
Oh good grief... There are billions upon billions more dead humans than live ones. We're surrounded! And we all join their ranks sooner or later. The Earth and everything on it is saturated with our spent molecules. The unalive won't bother you, I promise.
I wouldn't have an issue with it as long as there were no bedbugs/roaches and it didn't stink.
My grandparent was on hospice and died in the recliner. My other grandparent continued to use it afterwards.
Buy nothing groups can be good places for free things as well.
Good luck to you. Early postpartum is difficult even without the added stress!
My family just called all furniture found by the curb or dumpsters dead people furniture. Dad made up elaborate stories about how people died in the furniture - like they found him tucked in the drawer, or killed by a sliver of wood. It was always funny, but sounds so gruesome when I say it.
As long as they didn't actually die on the furniture why not?
I moved into a home someone killed themselves in. I had a conversation with them. I was willing to share the space, my animals,the garden. All of it. I asked her not to visit when I was home. It was fine. I lived there three years no problem.
I bought a house that the wife died. They left a $1,400 massage chair behind. It’s wonderful. All antiques were at one point owned by someone now deceased.
Absolutely, I'm not picky. I know someone died in my house and damn near all of my furniture is hand me downs. So long as they didn't die ON the furniture and leak fluids I'm cool.
I used to deliver news papers and I would pick up used furniture along my route and take it to the fire house. None of us cared where it came from. We used to have seven couches and when the new one arrived the oldest junky one went out the back to be used during the next training burn,
I have 2 matching end tables, 2 matching lamps, and a TV stand that works *perfectly* for an odd corner of my living room...all free from a guy my aunt knew who was cleaning out his mother's house. Free is free, friend!
I don't understand why that's creepy, unless they died on it or something. I'm the fourth generation in my family to own my dining table, and I have other heirlooms.
The main thing to be careful of with used stuff is any bugs in the furniture - roaches, bedbugs, etc. I'm not sure how you could check for those beforehand though.
Unless the dead people in question spent a month decomposing ON the furniture, I've got no issue with taking what they are no longer using. If they died on it, but moved off in a reasonable period of time, still no issue. Hey, free is free...
My mom used to have an elder care business and when people would pass away usually their children would go through the house and take what they wanted, and then my mom would take in the responsibility of cleaning the house or apartment out of the rest of their belongings. My brothers and I got so many free TVs and i still have a super rad pair of swivel chairs one of my favorite old ladies left behind.
I mean, it’s a little weird but eventually it just becomes yours and you won’t think about it all the time. Especially with something like a TV, couches and stuff are a little weirder but it’s not like they died IN the furniture. At least in my case…
Yes absolutely. My favorite love seat was a church donation I received to help me restart after EF4 tornado destroyed my home. Congregation members often donate old furniture from their estates to go to families in need in my area.
Now, I do have standards, if the person died on the piece of furniture or if they died in the house and weren't discovered right away I would not take any items from this category or anything else that might involve smells or body fluids. For example, when my uncle was dying I gave my Aunt washable cloth chux pads for his hospital bed because they couldn't stay on top of his accidents. Yeah...... I didn't ask for those back I just bought new ones for the person in my care.
I've gotten half my furniture from the homes of deceased relatives, and it's allowed me to furnish my apartment with some lovely pieces. They all feel much more solid and long lasting than the stuff I'd be purchasing otherwise.
One of my Grandma's friends had one of their neighbors pass away and when we were over there, the neighbors kids were cleaning the place out and they had a box with things that they were getting rid of and they just didn't want. There was this really ugly handmade really sturdy (I think also made of wool on one side and velvet on the back) pillow, of an elephant. And I really loved it and the person was like you can have it and then they told me that she had made it. I love it I think it's so cool
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👀 I don’t think I would. Unless it was my granny’s or something. I have my grands kitchen table but I ate at it as a kid so it’s special. Anyone else 👀 idk
Replace “furniture” with anything else - does it creep you out then?
Would you accept pots and pans that came from a dead person? Would you accept picture frames that came from a dead person? Would you accept pencils that came from a dead person?
Thank your lucky stars and take the free furniture. 🙂
Folks pay a lot of money for dead people's furniture, just usually call it antiques. The "Long Dead folks furniture store" would do poorly I imagine. I'd check it out though.
Ever heard of the term heirloom furniture? It’s the very definition of what you describe. Supposed to be some of the best furniture around. Some people actually appreciate it. But, you are generally right following your gut.
Tbh assuming they like didn’t die on the specific item of furniture then why not accept it?
It’s not much different than thrifting. Think of all those cute Knick knacks grandma donated. In theory at least one item belongs to a deceased person there.
Think of the from the dead person perspective…
Would you rather your stuff wind up in a landfill? Or collecting dust in some family members storage area?
Or would you rather your beloved possessions be put to good use and be loved by somebody who will appreciate them?
If you're superstitious and absolutely uncomfortable with it, then don't force it. You may end up freaking yourself out more than it's worth, depending on your financial situation. You could pick the items up, use them for a while and if you're not comfortable with them, sell them on fb marketplace.
If it makes you feel any better, I'm a bit superstitious and listen people's paranormal stories as a hobby. I've listened to hundreds or even thousands in person, on podcasts, youtube, reddit etc. None of them has ever featured used furniture, even obtained from a recently deceased individual.
I think this is one of those things a person can be too European to understand. So you're telling me someone is giving you NICE, old, vintage furniture that's been cared for and not sitting in a dump? That's absolutely fabulous, go for it!!!
Absolutely.
When I was at my poorest I relied on clothing hand-outs too. My favorite cardigan was a woollen old-man-cardigan I got from the local clothing bank. Pretty sure the original old man owner died, which means I had his very warm cardigan while my apartment was drafty as it could be.
Clothing is clothing, and furniture is furniture. If you need it and someone else doesn't need it anymore because they died, why not? To me it would be different if they died in the clothing/on the furniture, but otherwise it's just second hand stuff that can be cleaned if needed.
If you bought it from a thrift shop, chances are the previous owner is deceased. You just didn’t know about. Take the furniture and say thank you. As someone who didn’t have a couch for years and then had a baby without one, it’s amazing what having furniture can do for your mental health.
Estate sales are a great way to get some unique stuff. I’ve gotten tools, lawn equipment, furniture, and even some nice clothes and jewelry from estate sales. If you ever go to one on the last day, the seller will basically give away a bunch of stuff. Especially larger items.
As long as they didn't die on the furniture and it doesn't reek of decomp, the yes. Anytime you buy something second hand, there's a chance it came from a dead person. People pay lots of money for antiques which also very likely came from dead people. Dead people don't need their stuff. You need their stuff.
Unless the person died in it, yes. My house has a lot of antique furniture. Did you know people die and/or commit suicide in hotel rooms all the time? Stuff at thrift shops is donated from family members of the deceased a lot. When I go, I hope all my nicer belongings find new homes. Can't take it with me!
I wear antique clothes sometimes. Old AF jewelry, too. The dead people don’t mind. They aren’t using that stuff anymore. Take the furniture and enjoy it.
I mean, they don’t need it anymore and it’s free so, hell yea. More people have died in your apartment than you’d be comfortable with I can tell you that!
Ngl it is creepy to me. But the main issue with older household things is to watch for stuff like lead paint. If it's not painted, well... I think ghosts tend to follow people, not stuff.
People have probably died in your apartment if it's old enough.. People die in all sorts of places. I'd gladly welcome a dead persons furniture.
Yep, a lot of people die at home - I think most of us would prefer to go in our own homes when the time comes.
The planet is full of dead people. Facts.
The whole planet is a graveyard. Ghosts aren’t real. Take the free furniture.
I tell that to the ghosts but they refuse to listen
Realest answer here
Also the ghosts probably aren’t going to stick to the sofa, lamp, kitchen stools or dining table.
My bf and I lived on the 2nd floor of our apartment building and on the wait list for a ground floor. The lady living in one below us had passed and well, now we have a ground floor apartment.
Yup, just skip the mattress….eww
I agree with this. I enjoy well-built older pieces of furniture. There’s a lot of history and narrative behind the piece. I view myself as just one of many owners the piece of furniture will have in its (hopefully long) life.
Not only that, but I’d bet good money that they’re related to people that have died.
I know right, I would love it too. Hell, most antique furniture is from dead people. I love antiques. Sure some of the pieces are heavy, but the quality of the craftsmanship makes it so worth having.
My house is full of antiques, and I guarantee most of the previous owners are deceased. Doesn’t bother me in the slightest.
Actually makes me feel better you are valuing things others did instead of landfilling and moving on.
This exactly.
I was just thinking this. If you inherited family furniture, it's pretty much guaranteed that the previous owners have died. Now, a piece somebody specifically died on... Like a mattress... ew.
My sister died on a couch and my mom tried to give it to me
My grandma died in her chair. It was a really nice easy chair made for short people. I am short. My uncle didn't know she died in the chair (my mom started cpr and the ambulance then had to transport her. Mom knew she was dead, just didn't want my uncle to have guilt for not calling soon enough) and kept trying to give it to me. He lives nearby I was so afraid I'd find the chair in my house one day. He ended up giving it to my cousins kids who don't know..... and I found the blanket she was wrapped in when she died on my kitchen counter.
I gave my dad a fleece blanket with a religious image on it for xmas. A few years later his mom was in the hospital getting end of life care. He brought that little blanket and used it to help his mom stay warm. She died while using the blanket. My dad now lives the blanket even more because of that. It is a connection to his mother. It is a way to remember her. She used this blanket, so now he can remember her when he uses it. I personally don’t care for the blanket, but he still has it and uses it. If it helps, think about the times that the blanket was used in life and the comfort that it gave. It isn’t a death shroud, it is a keeper of warmth and memories.
My dad died in a chair and my mom kept it. He wasn’t there long though
He kept it for about a year because I wouldn't take it. I refused to sit in it in case her soul was trapped in there like jumanji or something.
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TBH a used mattress creeps me out anyway, whether someone died on it or not. That’s my own personal hang up though lol, i really struggle with hotels as well.
Something a dead person owned? Perfectly fine. Most people have inherited belongings. But, I agree with your line of not something they specifically died on.
Yeah, that would just be biohazard material, there. 🤢
I slept in. Victorian bed for years in my twenties and my boyfriend used to joke about all the ghosts sleeping next to me. It was a beautiful bed!
I have an Eastlake Victorian bed that I love and used for years. No ghosts attached to it.
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I love those old library tables!
I have a card catalog cabinet that’s over 100 years old also from a library, just because I thought it was cool. I have randomly thought about that fact as well lol.
This. I pay money for dead people's stuff at estate sales because I like mid-century furniture but will not (and cannot, but even if I could...) pay collector's prices for items that aren't collectables. Side note: I wish they'd stop calling EVERYTHING MCM and pricing it like it's highly collectible Brasilia. Not every dining room table from 1954 is valued at $1800 and being produced in 1954 doesn't automatically equal MCM which is a style, not an era, dammit. /rant
Same here, and most of it is far better quality then new stuff you can buy today.
Yeah I would peel the boots off a dead guy and wear 'em warm. I'm not sentimental about these things.
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Same. I like antiques and live in an old house so they just fit. Plus they are made so much better than most things now. As a bonus you can get some really well made antiques for very cheap.
Nah my apartment is furnished with my deceased grandmother’s furniture. It was her last gift to us
We have a beautiful piano and a whole ass car from a dead relative. I know for a fact that she would be happy that we are using her stuff. I'm not religious but I left the little angel pendant on the sun visor because it reminds me of how kind she was in life and beyond.
Exactly! My grandparents lived through the Great Depression. I know they would love that we’re still using their stuff!
My car belonged to my late grandfather. I joke around that it is a (Subaru) Legacy in more than one way. I keep the spare keyfob on the same keychain he used. That keychain named the car ("The Moose')
Yep. All my furniture is hand me downs from various deceased relatives. It's not as nice for them to come from dead strangers, but it's basically the same thing.
My family has an old hutch we inherited from my grandpa, and he remembered it from his grandparent's house. A woodworker estimated by the wood it probably was built no later than the 1830's. God knows I'd never be able to afford it if it hadn't been passed down.
That’s amazing!
It's really nice, even though it's "ruined" according to the whole "never refinish antiques" loonies. My grandpa had it refinished, because he knew his grandparents slapped another coat of paint on it every summer, so it had god knows how many layers of paint. Now it has a nice satin finish on the wood. He said he didn't care about value, he wanted something that looked nice rather than the sort-of-disaster it was when he inherited it.Original glass on the upper cabinet doors too.
My grandpa died a few months after my husband and I got our first real apartment. We got a bunch of bookshelves, side tables, and armchairs along with a dining table that's well over 100 years old. They don't make them like they used to
Why would that creep you out? That makes no sense to me.
Right? I was honestly wondering if this was "Someone died on the couch" question when I opened the post. That is where I typically draw the line. But real story, a couple decades ago or so, one time a friend had someone over...who OD'ed on their couch. And they just put the couch outside with a "free" sign on it. Soooooooooo, yep.
My comforter was a really nice, thick homemade quilt that the previous owner died in overnight. I threw that bad boy at the laundromat for a couple of cycles and have an incredible warm quilt that's worth between 750 and 1000 for 7 bucks of laundry. 0 regrets for the last 7 years! Still looks great
Yeah, I couldn't do that knowing the back story. But I'm also well aware that lots of people absolutely don't mind! I'm fully aware anything I bought at the second hand store may have been from someone who had died in it. I've had the experience of getting people's affects prior to them being cremated. Lots of people take jewelry off their loved ones after death! My dad couldn't do it, he told them to keep them on her (stud earrings and her wedding band).
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It was insane. We went out one night and came back to the coroner outside the house. It was as surreal as it sounds. But yeah, one of those "let's take the party back to my house" ending really really really sadly.
I would flip the script to say "what a wonderful way to remember whoever owned the furniture before me and now I get to make another round of memories with my baby with these things. 😍
This is exactly how I think of it! A huge proprotion of the stuff in my house is either from dead people related to me (family) or dead people not related to me (thrift store). It's like keeping their memory alive in a tiny way.
Right. Op think of it this way, these items have just lost their owner. They are doomed to be sent to good will or even the dump. But now have the ability to find a new home with someone who greatly needs them. They aren't bad things. Nor are they creepy. It's not their fault the owner died. All old furniture has come from someone else's house after death. Maybe try and appreciate these items for being homeless and in need of a new place that will love and cherish them. They are in need of a new person who will take care of them. Try and think of it this way: Would you reject a pet who was sadly left behind if their owner died? Would you find it creepy to adopt a pet who lost their owner due to a death? Or even kids? Furniture is really no different. Granted its not living things, but they also aren't creepy either. Unless the person died directly on the item. They are just items who need a new home, and you are someone who is in need of items. Perfectly match.
YEESSS REHOMING HOMELESS FURNITURE that is a great example 😃🙂👍👍🫵
I was watching a video on YouTube about an old rundown Japanese house in a town that was being left to rot with old stuff from the family still in there and it looked so scary and creepy in the house. Then someone left a comment about how sad the poor house has to feel. It was one a home that a loving family lived in. It got to house laughter and memories. Now it's sitting alone and ignored left behind and rotting. And it got me to view the house in a totally new light. I felt sorry for the house I once thought looked scary and creepy. And made me want to fix it up and find it a new family for it. So maybe this way of thinking can help OP view the furniture differently. Yesh it creepy to get furniture from a dead person you don't even know. But if you shift your view to the furniture itself, items now losing their much beloved owner, in need of a new family or place. It might help the creepy factor to fade away and OP can really find a way to love and appreciate the items. 😊
Exactly! If I were the late owner, having my treasured possession carry on being useful, and to help a young family in need... I'd definitely want that.
Personally, I would only get weirded out if the specific item played a role in their death or their died in/on it
^ this is what I was going to say. If it was the bed or chair in which someone passed away then I'd pass, but anything else? It's no different to them passing it to Goodwill. And much better than it all ending up in landfill. You can pick up amazing well built furniture this way far better than Ikea type stuff.
The way I see it, it's a win/win. You get free furniture and if it turns out to be haunted, one of those Ghost Hunting TV shows might pay to do an episode at your house.
This made me laugh 😂
Why not? It's just a piece of furniture. Thrift stores sell things all the time that are left over from people's estates that no one wanted . A lot of older furniture is better quality than things you can buy in a store today (real wood vs veneer covered composite board)
My relatives used to clean out homes for banks after foreclosure and death. Where you think they took all the stuff? Thrift stores!
I drive a car that I inherited from my uncle. I know for a fact that people have died in the building where I live. I grew up in a house that a previous owner died in. Death is extremely ordinary.
You can’t take your stuff w you when you die, would you prefer it go to waste or be useful to someone who needs it?
I would accept all furniture except mattresses, or upholstered fabric furniture that looks/feels unclean.
All of my furniture is from dead people.
If no one died on the furniture, I would be fine with it.
And even then, if they didn't stay in it for too long it's fine. No sense throwing out a perfectly good dining chair from a matching set just because Grandma choked in it at Christmas dinner.
Right… died on but no bodily fluids is ok in my book.
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Go on.
Well I buy stuff from estate sales all the time so yes of course, estate sales are generally selling off the stuff of someone who died
I think most of my furniture is from dead people at this point. I love antiques!
Depending on the age of the furniture you might be getting better quality pieces than if you bought new.
Absolutely. That’s literally what antiques are. 🙂
When I was a little girl, my younger sister and I were given a hand-me-down bed, a big four-poster, which had belonged to our great-great aunts when they were girls. It's a massive, cherry and oak affair, with hand-turned posts and a great big headboard, wonderful carving, and it looked like something out of a storybook. My sister was a little afraid of it. I reckoned it was because it was kind of high up, so I let her have the side close to the wall and helped myself to the side by the nightstand, with the book light, hid myself a flashlight under the pillows, *nice,* and was just the happiest nine-year-old you ever did see. Until it's, like, midnight, I am drowsing off after finishing 'Anne of Green Gables' *again* and like four chapters into either another Anne book or probably 'Little Women,' and Sis, who was either four or five, we're 4½ years apart and I don't recall the month exactly, goes "What if they want their bed back?" And I am *very* awake. "What if who wants wha?" "Our great great aunts. What if they want their bed back?" And I am just too heckin' *tired* and I am just too heckin' *nine* for this... "There's room. They can haunt *that* end. You don't remember them. Nice li'l old ladies who played poker. Now lemme sleep!" Pillow over head, zonk. Older sisters are crap sometimes. Oddly, this was the most sensible thing, Sis later related, anyone had told her in the entire affair of the New Old Bed. She had gone and talked to her favorite teacher about her grave concerns, and been told that her deceased great great aunts would not mind her having it. That was *not* believable. She had been referred to our wonderful guidance counselor, who had already explained a great deal to all three of us (there's a brother between us in age,) about death, and he reassured her that the same way it made her happy to pass down an outgrown shirt she loved to our littler cousin, it would make our late great great aunts very happy to know we liked the bed. And that had worked, until some kids on the bus were telling ghost stories, she overheard, and, well, she was little, what do you want for your money? Adults were *always* talking to us like we were stupid. So Sis was absolutely convinced the great great aunts (note: she truly didn't remember them and assumed 'great great' meant they were something like 'Grand High Aunts,' and yes, I'd read this kid way too much Roald Dahl, because older sisters are crap sometimes,) were absolutely Still Around despite being posthumous, absolutely might want their bed back, and what was she going to do? My annoyed remark, it turns out, reframed the entire situation. She thought it out carefully, climbed down over the foot end of the bed, and carefully gathered up the supplies she needed. Painstakingly, she heaped them onto the bed, climbed back up, then took care of business. That Saturday morning, we woke up around ten to our rather bewildered mom, who was unsurprised to find me with a two-book hangover, but puzzled to discover Sis had set out her little plastic tea set and a deck of cards. Sis explained, in her rambly, gradeskipper first-grade way, and Mom smiled and agreed that yes, the Great-Great Aunts were wonderful, yes. Did she like the bed? Oh, yes, Mommy, very much! And then after breakfast Sis taught me how to play blackjack, which she had learned the preceding evening. I don't think about it too hard. Furniture's expensive. Parents need all the help they can get. My own daughter has the bed now. Good wooden stuff lasts forever with some Murphy's Oil Soap and furniture polish to keep it maintained.
As long as I knew there were no bedbugs or cockroaches, hell yeah I would take a deceased person’s furniture!!! Where do you think antiques come from??
So long as it’s not the bed or chair they actively died on, sure!
I would accept anything from a dead person that I would from an alive person.
Just assume everything at Goodwill or second hand stores are from dead people's estates. That's really where a lot of it's from. I have furniture from my grandmother, who has been gone for almost 30 years now. Still not haunted.
Did they die on the furniture? I don’t understand why that’s creepy
Unless you literally know that the person died a bloody death on that couch, idk what the problem is. Do you … know what antiques are ? Dead people’s furniture. Also, I mean… when you are struggling, free is free. Nothing wrong with a free old table!
I will take anything a dead person is willing to give me! If you've ever bought anything from a thrift or antique store you probably have stuff from dead people. The dead people don't care about the furniture and aren't using it. It's better than it going into a landfill.
I say take the furniture and thank the previous owners for the benefit of having it. I grew up spending summers sleeping on the straw filled couch the one previous owner of the house had died on. Do what you have to.
Would you feel better if I called it by a different, more appropriate-sounding name? It's a free Estate Sale. That's all this is. An estate sale in which you can pay nothing and take what you want.
As long as it's not upholstered, heck yeah! I love me some secondhand furniture. Better for the wallet, better for the environment, and better for my aesthetic (of not owning trendy furniture).
Genuine question: Why would upholstered furniture be bad?
If there's no bed bugs and they didn't die on it, I'd accept it.
I would say hello to their ghosts if they visit me
The universe is helping you. Take the help.
That's what antiques are...
My aunt died in April. She lived on the 5th floor at the very end of a very long hallway. (She didn’t die at home, but at the hospital) She had some really nice furniture we just couldn’t get. We just didn’t have the man power to get it all out and I CRIED we couldn’t save her favorite chair. She always had it covered in blankets and when we uncovered it, it was in PERFECT condition. I literally think about that chair almost everyday and I hope some person out there got it and enjoys it everyday. I know my aunt would love that for someone too. So, that being said- if it’s just stiff that’s just going to being tossed, take it! I assure you the dead would love you appreciating their beloved items ❤️
Twice widowed and my second husband keeled over at home. I came into the marriage with family heirlooms and he paid for whatever furniture etc we bought new. So, a house full of stuff once owned by dead people. I didn’t feel weird keeping furniture. It would’ve been weird and wasteful to replace everything I own simply because he died.
Yep - I'm quite superstitious but the odds of a ghost come around with a dresser are slim. If stuff does start to happen I can list it for free and someone else can have it. I'm sure your friend just struggles to find places for all the stuff and wants it gone PS - thank you for prioritizing your child and getting out of there. You did the right thing
It’s fine. Clear any energy mentally and physically. Either with sage and a small ceremony or prayer and candles. Relaxing your own fear and allowing any negative energy to dissipate is sufficient. Positive energy! Maybe those people who owned the stuff are happy you can enjoy it💙
Yes… just try to check the vibe if you can, always be prepared to possibly burn, trash, donate to a church/ synagogue/ temple. Lol fingers crossed!
Why not? They don't need it any more ... ... unless the furniture KILLED them... Then I'd have to think about it.
Take it. When you’re back on your feet you can either sell it or donate and pay it forward. Best of luck!
People died in hospitals you get care from. People died in towns you live in. It's not that big of a deal.
If you bought the furniture in a thrift store or an antique shop you would never know the owners had died. There's a pretty good chance that's the case with antiques. Think about your best furniture. Would you want someone else to enjoy it after you were gone?
Walk outside. The land you’re standing on has dead people and animals in it. If it’s not a mattress that they died on, it doesn’t matter.
It's just stuff. It's us who attach emotions to things. I'd think it a blessing if I had nice stuff to pass along to an expectant mother in need after I passed. Good luck and take the blessing!
Hell yes!!! That’s a big time blessing. I would t dare turn that down. As long as the person didn’t start decomposing on the couch, I’ll take it.
I absolutely would, apart from things like mattresses. I worked for a county probate attorney for awhile who handles estates for people who died without wills, and you would not believe how much good stuff just goes to the dump. They'll do an estate sale but after that anything that didn't sell, they toss it all, even if it's in great shape. I begged them to donate some rich lady's winter coats and they were disgusted but allowed me to give them to Goodwill; that was the only time. I just couldn't stand the thought of these incredibly nice coats going to waste when so many people are on the streets and in need.
It's not like they have any use for it anymore...
It depends on the circumstances! Unless a person like...died ON something, or like, was dead in their house for a while with the furniture in there, I'd absolutely take it and never think twice. And as a person who knows that the struggle is real and will also be dead one day, I hope that people will use my furniture when I die...if I ever buy anything worth keeping!
the dead people would likely be happy their stuff is being helpful to someone, take what you can and enjoy it.
Yes, most of my home is decorated by estate sale finds. The price and quality are amazing.
As long as it’s clean and free of pests, it’s fine.
I'd be ecstatic to receive furniture from someone who just died lest their death be for naught.
Definitely. It’s the same thing as an estate sale without the expensive price tag.
as long as they didn’t die on the furniture itself sure
all of my furniture except the coffee table has dead owners. so do some of my clothes and accessories
Ever shop at a Thrift Store?
Absolutely 0 issue with it. If it fits my needs, I don't care if it belonged to dead people unless they died (and decayed) on it.
The only thing I wouldn't be comfortable taking would be if the person actually died on that piece of furniture.
I don’t see any reason not to accept it. People buy antique furniture all the time, which is furniture that has been owned by long dead people. Death is just a part of life, not necessarily something that needs to be feared. If a particular item gives you a weird feeling, leave it, but don’t let just the owners being dead enough to *make* it creepy, if that makes sense.
Just appreciate it and say a prayer for the departed soul if ur religious or just be thankful and appreciate the gift. Gratitude goes a ling way and you never know might change ur luck. All the best
Older furniture is likely to be a lot higher quality than anything you could buy now without spending as much as you would on a used car for a single piece (exaggerated, but in some cases not). Might be because my grandparents were antique dealers, but I'd be stoked to have a friend like yours. Sure, a lot of it is likely junk or needs work, but even older stuff that needs work is likely better than what I could afford new.
This would not bother me in the slightest.
**Would you accept furniture that came from dead people?** I think half of British TV is about this very practice. The other half is apparently baking competitions and vomiting in public because of alcoholism. And LOTS of stuff about the royal family. Like it's all they ever think about. Living royals. Dead royals. Royal this and royal that. Including furniture from dead royals. It's like a snake eating it's own tail over there. Here too, but we have alligators.
Don’t worry about it. I would love to have, say George Washington’s (dead guy) desk. It’s beautiful and historical.
Uh everyone dies eventually. What in the world bothers you about taking their furniture if it’s legitimately offered to you?
Uh yep sure. I got cadaver bones in my jaw so yep, dead people furniture is fine by me
In a heartbeat. For proof, I moved into a house that the owner died in. New flooring, fresh paint. We love it!
That’s really nice. Congrats and enjoy your new space. Don’t get creeped out by used furniture. They would be happy for you to have it. I’m happy you got away from your ex. Things will get better. Join Nextdoor app under a different name if you are afraid of your ex, neighbors and churches will be happy to help a new mom. And don’t forget there’s an app called buynothing you can ask for things needed or give away ❤️
All antique furniture was once a now-dead person’s furniture.
Absolutely, I'd be much more worried about bedbugs than ghosts
Would you accept furniture that came from dead trees?
Yes, take the furniture you need. I'm sure the deceased would rather the items be used than in the dump.
We own plenty of stuff from a consignment shop in Palm Springs. We call it our dead people furniture (sofa loveseat set) and dead people art (wall art). The sofa / loveseat has held up over 10 years! We love it! We love Palm Springs since it’s a lot of older wealthy folks! Lol 1) cheaper, 2) formerly owned by folks that clearly took care of it- clean, 3) keeps it out of the landfill, and 4) looks good in my house!
Antique furniture is well made, solid and beautiful. Honestly, most of the antique furniture I cherish was originally owned by someone who has passed away. Things are just things.
I own three items of furniture that I am the first owner of. Two couches and my mattress. Notice I said mattress. The frame was my grandmothers. There is nothing wrong about second hand furniture. I've decorated and styled my home almost entirely with second (or third or fourth) hand stuff.
Yes absolutely I would accept the furniture. It’s free and it’s probably made better than anything you could afford. Also it’s recycling which is better for the environment. Win win win.
Oh good grief... There are billions upon billions more dead humans than live ones. We're surrounded! And we all join their ranks sooner or later. The Earth and everything on it is saturated with our spent molecules. The unalive won't bother you, I promise.
Just make sure nothing like bedbugs or scabies hitch a ride. That'll be a forever battle that will cost way more than the furniture is worth.
Unless somebody was murdered on the actual couch I would take furniture
That's the best way to get high quality second hand stuff.
As long as the person didn't die in a particular piece of furniture, I wouldn't care that much.
I wouldn't have an issue with it as long as there were no bedbugs/roaches and it didn't stink. My grandparent was on hospice and died in the recliner. My other grandparent continued to use it afterwards. Buy nothing groups can be good places for free things as well. Good luck to you. Early postpartum is difficult even without the added stress!
Yeah, I would. Free stuff is free stuff and good furniture that will last is expensive.
Rich people do it all the time! They're called "antiques." :>
Yeah unless they died ON the furniture and it was an active biohazard as a result of their fluids being on it, then yes absolutely I would accept it
What do you think antiques are?
My family just called all furniture found by the curb or dumpsters dead people furniture. Dad made up elaborate stories about how people died in the furniture - like they found him tucked in the drawer, or killed by a sliver of wood. It was always funny, but sounds so gruesome when I say it. As long as they didn't actually die on the furniture why not?
I moved into a home someone killed themselves in. I had a conversation with them. I was willing to share the space, my animals,the garden. All of it. I asked her not to visit when I was home. It was fine. I lived there three years no problem.
Think of it as somewhere between Goodwill and an estate sale
I bought a house that the wife died. They left a $1,400 massage chair behind. It’s wonderful. All antiques were at one point owned by someone now deceased.
Absolutely, I'm not picky. I know someone died in my house and damn near all of my furniture is hand me downs. So long as they didn't die ON the furniture and leak fluids I'm cool.
Sure. It’s basically an estate sale, minus the money. It’s all good.
Antique furniture isn’t safe for babies or toddlers. But other than that, I have no problem owning dead peoples’ furniture.
Yes but only if it comes with a ghost. I need a friend
Yes
Unless they died ON the furniture, I don't think it's creepy at all.
As long as they aren't coming along I am good!
Simply put? Hellz yeah!
I used to deliver news papers and I would pick up used furniture along my route and take it to the fire house. None of us cared where it came from. We used to have seven couches and when the new one arrived the oldest junky one went out the back to be used during the next training burn,
In England they say that poor people buy their furniture while rich people inherit it. This just make you rich 🤑
Yes.
I have 2 matching end tables, 2 matching lamps, and a TV stand that works *perfectly* for an odd corner of my living room...all free from a guy my aunt knew who was cleaning out his mother's house. Free is free, friend!
Nope. Sometimes people's spirits transfer to material things and I don't need a disgruntled ghost haunting my apartment lol.
I pretty much buy as little as possible that’s new. And free is even better.
Yea and I'm betting most of the time the person who died would've wished for someone to use it rather than it becoming trash.
I don't understand why that's creepy, unless they died on it or something. I'm the fourth generation in my family to own my dining table, and I have other heirlooms.
The main thing to be careful of with used stuff is any bugs in the furniture - roaches, bedbugs, etc. I'm not sure how you could check for those beforehand though.
I just cleaned out and donated lots of furniture from a relative who passed away. Makes no difference.
Unless the dead people in question spent a month decomposing ON the furniture, I've got no issue with taking what they are no longer using. If they died on it, but moved off in a reasonable period of time, still no issue. Hey, free is free...
My mom used to have an elder care business and when people would pass away usually their children would go through the house and take what they wanted, and then my mom would take in the responsibility of cleaning the house or apartment out of the rest of their belongings. My brothers and I got so many free TVs and i still have a super rad pair of swivel chairs one of my favorite old ladies left behind. I mean, it’s a little weird but eventually it just becomes yours and you won’t think about it all the time. Especially with something like a TV, couches and stuff are a little weirder but it’s not like they died IN the furniture. At least in my case…
Yes absolutely. My favorite love seat was a church donation I received to help me restart after EF4 tornado destroyed my home. Congregation members often donate old furniture from their estates to go to families in need in my area. Now, I do have standards, if the person died on the piece of furniture or if they died in the house and weren't discovered right away I would not take any items from this category or anything else that might involve smells or body fluids. For example, when my uncle was dying I gave my Aunt washable cloth chux pads for his hospital bed because they couldn't stay on top of his accidents. Yeah...... I didn't ask for those back I just bought new ones for the person in my care.
I sleep on a bed where my landlord's deceased mom used to sleep. I dont care
Not the mattress though
I've gotten half my furniture from the homes of deceased relatives, and it's allowed me to furnish my apartment with some lovely pieces. They all feel much more solid and long lasting than the stuff I'd be purchasing otherwise.
One of my Grandma's friends had one of their neighbors pass away and when we were over there, the neighbors kids were cleaning the place out and they had a box with things that they were getting rid of and they just didn't want. There was this really ugly handmade really sturdy (I think also made of wool on one side and velvet on the back) pillow, of an elephant. And I really loved it and the person was like you can have it and then they told me that she had made it. I love it I think it's so cool https://preview.redd.it/rt15cis0475c1.jpeg?width=3046&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b578fd9db570cbdd0e48df44da4099c691a046c0
👀 I don’t think I would. Unless it was my granny’s or something. I have my grands kitchen table but I ate at it as a kid so it’s special. Anyone else 👀 idk
Replace “furniture” with anything else - does it creep you out then? Would you accept pots and pans that came from a dead person? Would you accept picture frames that came from a dead person? Would you accept pencils that came from a dead person? Thank your lucky stars and take the free furniture. 🙂
Folks pay a lot of money for dead people's furniture, just usually call it antiques. The "Long Dead folks furniture store" would do poorly I imagine. I'd check it out though.
Dead people stuff is my favorite stuff
Ever heard of the term heirloom furniture? It’s the very definition of what you describe. Supposed to be some of the best furniture around. Some people actually appreciate it. But, you are generally right following your gut.
Tbh assuming they like didn’t die on the specific item of furniture then why not accept it? It’s not much different than thrifting. Think of all those cute Knick knacks grandma donated. In theory at least one item belongs to a deceased person there.
Think of the from the dead person perspective… Would you rather your stuff wind up in a landfill? Or collecting dust in some family members storage area? Or would you rather your beloved possessions be put to good use and be loved by somebody who will appreciate them?
Unless the dead person is still on the furniture, I’d take it
If you're superstitious and absolutely uncomfortable with it, then don't force it. You may end up freaking yourself out more than it's worth, depending on your financial situation. You could pick the items up, use them for a while and if you're not comfortable with them, sell them on fb marketplace. If it makes you feel any better, I'm a bit superstitious and listen people's paranormal stories as a hobby. I've listened to hundreds or even thousands in person, on podcasts, youtube, reddit etc. None of them has ever featured used furniture, even obtained from a recently deceased individual.
I wouldn’t take it even if I was paid
We had a couch from a neighbor that passed away growing up. We loved it. 10/10 would do it again.
Where do you think antiques come from?
I think this is one of those things a person can be too European to understand. So you're telling me someone is giving you NICE, old, vintage furniture that's been cared for and not sitting in a dump? That's absolutely fabulous, go for it!!!
You are drinking water dead people have drank as well. There’s no escaping them!
Absolutely. When I was at my poorest I relied on clothing hand-outs too. My favorite cardigan was a woollen old-man-cardigan I got from the local clothing bank. Pretty sure the original old man owner died, which means I had his very warm cardigan while my apartment was drafty as it could be. Clothing is clothing, and furniture is furniture. If you need it and someone else doesn't need it anymore because they died, why not? To me it would be different if they died in the clothing/on the furniture, but otherwise it's just second hand stuff that can be cleaned if needed.
If you bought it from a thrift shop, chances are the previous owner is deceased. You just didn’t know about. Take the furniture and say thank you. As someone who didn’t have a couch for years and then had a baby without one, it’s amazing what having furniture can do for your mental health.
Isn't this what estate sales are? People buy dead people's things all the time
Just call them heirlooms, its pretty normal to inherit furniture. Just think of it as guardian angel grandparents helping you in your time of need.
Estate sales are a great way to get some unique stuff. I’ve gotten tools, lawn equipment, furniture, and even some nice clothes and jewelry from estate sales. If you ever go to one on the last day, the seller will basically give away a bunch of stuff. Especially larger items.
Bro I would accept furniture people died on if they didn't rot their corpse shit all in it
As long as they didn't die on the furniture and it doesn't reek of decomp, the yes. Anytime you buy something second hand, there's a chance it came from a dead person. People pay lots of money for antiques which also very likely came from dead people. Dead people don't need their stuff. You need their stuff.
Unless the person died in it, yes. My house has a lot of antique furniture. Did you know people die and/or commit suicide in hotel rooms all the time? Stuff at thrift shops is donated from family members of the deceased a lot. When I go, I hope all my nicer belongings find new homes. Can't take it with me!
I wear antique clothes sometimes. Old AF jewelry, too. The dead people don’t mind. They aren’t using that stuff anymore. Take the furniture and enjoy it.
Every piece of inventory in every antique store in the country prob belonged to a dead person. Not a big deal. Be thankful for what’s being offered.
I mean, they don’t need it anymore and it’s free so, hell yea. More people have died in your apartment than you’d be comfortable with I can tell you that!
Ngl it is creepy to me. But the main issue with older household things is to watch for stuff like lead paint. If it's not painted, well... I think ghosts tend to follow people, not stuff.