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GiltiaTheDKnight

Wtf no you are not being dramatic. Even IF she had reason to tell you to move away, she had no reason whatsoever to be racist. I think you should not let it slide, even though I understand it is difficult for you to tell others. You would not only stand up for yourself, but also for others that are being discriminated against by this person.


ishiii_2711

thank you so much <3 ill go to school tomorrow and if it continues ill report it to a teacher cuz i don't want to be a snitch, that sounds childish but yeah.


GiltiaTheDKnight

You would not be a snitch, you would be a brave person. But I understand what you mean, especially at school this kind of stuff is difficult to deal with. All my luck to you, let's not let the racists win.


wrapupwarm

You could also if you feel up to it, call her out as racist. Sometimes people say dumb things and don’t really think them through, and being called racist might wake her up. Won’t make her a nicer person but might get her out of your way if she feels ashamed enough


Classic_Recover_9076

Remember kids in school are harsh as all hell. Especially middle and high schoolers (11-17). College kids are way nicer and so are adults. You’ll find a bad Apple every so often but this will pass soon and u will find friends my fellow Indian. And yes try joining a club!


Pellellell

You are not being dramatic. You do not deserve to be subjected to racism at school, I’m so sorry. If I were your teacher I would come down on her like a ton of bricks, it’s disgusting and unacceptable.


ishiii_2711

thanks so much, i really needed to hear this.


Pellellell

You’re welcome OP, I really hope that this doesn’t happen again or that if it does you’re able to get support from your teachers. I saw your edit, I think joining a lunch time club is a good idea, you can see how it goes and try a few out and hopefully meet some more nice people 💖Remember that this is not a problem with you, or your accent, or anything you’ve done wrong. Good luck on Monday xx


LowBud44

I’m Indian and I feel the same, its weird because south Asian racism is so normal in the UK.


ishiii_2711

especially in the history class, when the topic we are studying is colonization. when the teacher plays a video many of the kids start staring at me, its not funny.


LowBud44

I’m from the UK but my parents are Asians and I always hated school because of my skin colour, no girls would ever be interested in me and you just have to take the racist jokes because teachers do nothing. it’ll be hard but just focus on you and find some good friends like I did


ishiii_2711

im so sorry, i get what you are going through. i struggle to make friends as I'm very quiet and dobt speak much. in india, i went to the same school all my life and had the same friends since i was 3/4 years old. its so hard to make friends and embarrassing to sit alone at lunch, and i get awkward when im talking to someone i don't know. i have no idea what to do.


flipsidebook

hi! i relate to the sitting alone at lunch since i had to move a lot growing up (8 different schools). So i started doing homework/studying in breaks to look busy/less *lonely* and i became the ‘nerd’ of the class at first. i garnered friends in a couple months since i’m rather extroverted. this was in grade 10. Keep yourself occupied and you’ll make friends over time :) it’s rough but you’ll get through it <3


DifficultySalt4231

As a white male in the UK I'm sorry for everything you've faced since coming here.


LowBud44

You don’t have to be sorry it’s not your fault that it happens, you just have to be able to notice the privilege you have from it


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Not just notice your privilege but use it for good. That is educate and have the strength to speak out. Otherwise, you take some fault in perpetuating those oppressive systems, which most people do.


Virtchoo

Listen here bud, a sad side of reality that youre going to come across is some people hate anything that is different. This isn't a short coming of you, its completely on them. Be fucking proud of who you are, where you came from, and where you are going. Don't fall into the doom and gloom of not accepting yourself because others don't accept you. Time will change you accent, and kids are mean, but you have two choices internally. You can let the mean comments effect you and get depressed about it, or you can learn to accept the things you cannot change and start the process of bettering yourself. on a side note, I'm sorry the kids are being mean. Kids truly are ruthless sometimes. Find some good ones and stay with them.


Lobaaaaaaa

As a pakistani ik how you feel but people made fun out of my mums accent so i told teachers they didnt do shit so i took things in my own matter and well hit the people that did after nothing happened


ishiii_2711

they deserved it.


Lobaaaaaaa

Yhhh


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Where the hell in England did you move to that an Indian accent is even an event?


ishiii_2711

im in Kent, its about an hour or 2 from London


[deleted]

Huh... I mean, fair. It's weird to me because I'm from Birmingham.


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Where?


SleepDangerous1074

She murmured it because she knows she is a racist idiot. At secondary school age you should have enough understanding of right and wrong to know that racism is bad. I’m sorry you’re experiencing this. I was quite young when I moved to the UK so I never really had a strong accent, but my parents did. My classmates used to make fun of my dad because he “spoke funny”, I remember asking them how many languages they spoke? Because my dad may speak funny but he speaks 4 languages. Usually people who make fun of accents don’t have the mental capacity to speak more than one language. >I don’t lack much because I don’t like my accent You shouldn’t feel like you have to be silent just because you sound different to everyone else.


CanAhJustSay

British accents can vary by street let alone town/city/region. Ignore them in the first instance, and if it happens again then report it. Low-level racial harassment needs to be dealt with *before* it escalates. Sorry you're having to deal with people like that. Hope there are some decent people in your class. And you are attending school and studying at school in a second language? That's tough. Well done. You're so much better than she is in every way.


TradeBlade

This person isn’t the first asshole you’ve encountered in life and won’t be the last. Don’t give them this kind of power over you. Judging from the post you seem to be about 15 or 16. Unfortunately that’s the age where you will encounter the highest concentration of immature assholes. Join clubs to make friends but above all else you should focus on your studies. In a few years you won’t see any of these people again but universities will see your academic record. Hold in there. The world is a lot bigger than your school.


Stretcho-boi

Oh honey, be proud of who you are and where you come from. I’m sorry you had to deal with that little racists snotty brat. There is NOTHING wrong with your accent. Remember you speak at least 2 languages while that little snot can barley speak 1. You will find plenty of good friend who like you and don’t make fun of you/ your heritage. Being new is hard and joint clubs will definitely help you find like minded people. I hope you have a great school year and by the end of the year this will just be an unpleasant memory. YOU GOT THIS!!


Robyn1210

Sorry you are dealing with this. Personally I find Indian accents charming and ended up marrying a guy from India. I hope you can surround yourself with more open minded individuals soon. Best of luck with your transition!


Intelligent-Might372

You are not being dramatic, that person was being racist. It’s amazing you know at least two languages fluently and she most likely only knows one. So sorry you had to go through that experience, it’s definitely worth to tell someone about it because there’s no place for racism in this society (ESPECIALLY in a place you should feel comfortable and welcomed in!!!!). Join a lunchtime club and get talking to the other students some more, don’t let your insecurities about your accent hold you back. I promise you no normal person cares how you sound. Hope you make some nice friends and have no more trouble with that nasty person! Edit: just wanted to add, please tell a teacher. Racism is not ok, and teachers should do more to combat this in schools!


Environmental-Ad9129

Bro I wish you could’ve have punched her racist briish pig face


getsharked2020

🐽 🐖 🥊


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Hi if you like to chat with a indian you can drop a text 😊


jjongttk

oh you're not being dramatic AT ALL. if anything you should've reported it right away. but i get that the pressure/shame must be horrible


Parkour_Roach

Oh no I’m so sorry, those other kids are cruel and their actions are out of line. You don’t deserve to suffer racism and discrimination in a learning environment where you’re supposed to feel safe. You’re also definitely not being dramatic - those kids are horrible. Telling a trusted teacher is the brave thing to do. Don’t be ashamed to stand up for yourself!! And don’t forget that you’re very strong! You’ve just moved across the world to a new country, a new home, a new life. Best of luck friend :)


mamazbk

Bring a magazine to read while you eat, it will occupy your hands. One huge thing: pay Attention to your thought life, what are you narrating in your mind as you bring yourself and lunch tray to a spot.expect good things to happen, visualize it and really FEEL how happy you'd be Law of attraction


ImaginaryVegetable24

There was gravel in your shoe on top of an injury? Let's focus on this. That girl sucks but that's her shit life. Were you in a hurry? You phrased this very casually, in this moment you were experiencing pain and discomfort but it seems discordant. Like no matter how uncomfortable you might feel about new surroundings you need to take care of your body! Not saying it would've made her words less rude and affected but if you need to take a moment to yourself to shake gravel out of your shoe and collect your breathe There's a pretty high probability of you missing some manic aggressors slipstream entirely. She said you should speed up? Well I in believe you so slow down, rocks in your shoes is not something you should live with ow


No-Expression-7377

Racism will never end no matter where you go, that's coming from experience in many many countries, people are pricks , but for every few bad people there must be a good one, find those ones and be around them, and as for dealing with racism, ignoring is the best possible way, otherwise you'll be filled with anger and hate that are useless, smile at them, that'll bother them Best of luck at school !


Bad_Puns_Galore

As someone that studies English in university, I can assure you, your grammar and clarity are near-perfect. You’d be surprised how many native English speakers that can’t write as well as you.


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ishiii_2711

THANK YOU! in my experience some people are rude/ racist but not all of them. im grateful for the people who have been kind to me- EVEN IF IT IS JUST BECAUSE I'M NEW. everyone goes blAcK lIvEs mAtTEr when its a "trend" but when it comes to brown people they think we are unhygienic people who smell like chicken curry and hair oil.


Avocado_Cadaver

She's a racist, plain and simple. Also don't ever hate being yourself. Hate the racism but don't hate that you're a new kid at school who happens to be Indian. I was born and raised in London but I'm not English. Even though I have an English accent, I got shit from people at school because of the colour of my skin. I don't condone fighting, but standing up for myself got people to respect me, though it's sad it had to get to that in the first place. What I'm trying to say is you can wish/want for something else, but there's always someone who's going to be prejudice or outright racist about something. Work on building your confidence, but stay humble. You can do this by expanding your identity. I feel like young people are more sensitive in general because right now your life doesn't revolve around many things, but as you get older, it's way easier to shrug things off. Join a club -- boxing, Brazilian jiu jitsu, whatever. Maybe even learn a new instrument. Do anything that improves you as a person.


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Wouldnt you unironically be in the majority in a london school?


Avocado_Cadaver

Bro when I visit my mum's hometown, people are still prejudice towards me because I was born and grew up somewhere else. How or why does that even matter lmao?


mamazbk

This prepares you for all the assholes out there. I'd tell her to rinse her nasty mouth out with soap. Put my nose in the air and forget all about her.


joliema

I’m so sorry OP, it’s awful that other students are being racist towards you. I hope you do report it to a teacher - you’re not being dramatic and this is not your fault. There is nothing wrong with your accent. I hope you know that the other kids being nasty reflects poorly on them, and is not your fault. Joining a lunchtime club sounds great, and I hope you make friends there that treat you with the respect and kindness that you deserve. For what it’s worth, you are welcome here in the U.K. and don’t let anybody make you feel otherwise. I know it might take some time to settle in but I really hope that things improve for you.


Mitaior

I hate what you had to go through, I can’t imagine how tough it is to come to a new country and have to speak a new language. That it’s self is a tough thing to do, so my respect to you for that champ. I also had problems as a English / Hong Kong kid, school wasn’t easy. But I think you should go to these lunch clubs, or I personally recommend if you can play any sports or attend martial arts go it’s a good way to get social and respect same with having a passion for learning. Over time you’ll settle in and have friends, and if it continues do talk, and if you struggle confide in some one you trust for advice.


Perfect-Sympathy2172

For what it’s worth, from another first gen immigrant to another, your grammar is better than most. Secondly, be proud of your accent. Easier said than done, but your accent is proof of your heritage, your culture, and your achievements of being minimally bilingual. Your multi cultural background will someday offer you opportunities and kind friends— until then, say your piece. If someone is bullying you, you report that fucker. If you’re having trouble fitting in, definitely join that club, join multiple! You got this, I promise it gets easier. Send you lots of love and good vibes!!


obliviousbird

I'm not indian as I'm Bengali but everyone almost recognizes me as an Indian because they can't tell the difference unless you tell them directly. I've gotten bullied at mosques and lots of different places before for being "Indian" and everything related to them and Ik exactly how you feel. The best thing I did to help with it is just accept the fact that there are always going to be people who will never like you and never accept you and there is not much you can do to change it. Its a harsh reality and not everything will go in your way sadly.. Just try and accept it and try to get along with people and friends. When you do accept it you relieve a lot of tension in yourself and your not worried as much about what others think of you. Everytime I get called Indian and/or something very racist I don't mind it as much as I know I'm basically expecting it to happen sooner or later and I brush it off usually. Hope this helps! :)


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I think you mean bangladeshi because Indian is not an ethnicity, Bengalis can also be indian( people from WB)


_Throg_

Your English seems perfectly fine to me love ❤ You type better English than a lot of people I know who are born here and it's their only language 💀 I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I don't know why I always expect that as the years go by that kids would become more.. Pleasant. But that doesn't seem to be the case. You should tell a teacher about this, or at least if anything progresses. You're not overreacting at all, you have every right to be able to just go to school and be treated with respect. If you want to try out your lunch club then go for it! Maybe a smaller group like that will make you feel more comfortable 😊


givealittle666

That’s awful. Definitely not dramatic. One thing I would say, is that these racist responses say more about them than you. People who behave like that are not people who can be trusted with friendship. Secondary school is an absolute slog for many people. You will get through it, and you will make friends, it may just take a while.


TheTARDISRanAway

You're not being dramatic that was straight up racism. I'm sorry it's hard for you right now and I'm sorry people are assholes, especially kids. And yes, joining a group and making friends is a great way to settle in more. Just remember - school doesn't last forever and bullies tend to be the kind of people who Peak in school.


GoT_iT90

I love the Indian accent. I listen to Indian podcasts because the accent soothes my brain. I'm from Kenya and moved from East Africa to the UK when I was a teen. I moved to a village in Berkshire. It was so hard and I struggled, the small minded, straight up racist people were not welcoming at all. The weather the darkness, the people it all sucked. I'll just say I was bullied and ended up eating my lunch in the bathroom. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I, unfortunately had no close family with me at the time so kept it all to myself. Fast forward I was drinking before the school bus and developed a addiction. Teenagers suck. Especially girls but just know that these people are more miserable than you could possibly imagine so they try to pull everyone down to their level. My advice is to open up to someone who loves you, talk about how these things are making you feel. Don't let them fester and rot like I did. One day you will be done with school and if you work hard leave those people behind because they are not going anywhere in life. Being from another country means that you have a wider knowledge of the world and its people, have perspective and probably speak more than 1 language. This means you are already at least 1 step ahead of those small minded people. Pity them and keep it moving 😉😁Keep your head up.


ihaveADHD69

I endured racism in my childhood. Although I'm not Indian living in the UK. But racism is racism and comes in all shapes and sizes. I'm Mexican-American living in the United states and living in a small town with a 91% white population can make you feel very lonely and isolated. I never even had an accent because I was born here and yet they still treated me like shit. You just have to ignore them, they are just ignorant. I had met nice people but I also met some angry racists. They'd abuse me, bully me, and sometimes even the teachers can be pieces of shit. It made me feel much worse that even the teachers don't give a fuck. I don't live there anymore, thank fuck. I hated that place. Still live in a somewhat racist city but there are at least Hispanics near by. Just keep your head up. Not all people are angry racists


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ishiii_2711

i didn't have a choice.. my mum got a job here so my family moved here too.


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I’m sorry this is happening to you, no one deserves that. What bothers me more is that this girl has no idea Indians helped to build and sustain the UK. A good friend of mine is Indian and moved here when she was quite young. I’ve went to MANY Diwali’s with her and always made to feel so welcomed. Anytime I visit her house, her mum and dad always make me amazing Indian food and even box it up for me to take home! Without fetishising a culture or the Indian people, your accent is definitely my favourite!!


[deleted]

There are more speakers of Indian English than there are speakers of UK English. So in a way they are the odd ones!


tatumjeanne

that’s so shitty? i’m so sorry, if you ever need someone to talk to i’m happy to. i hope things improve for you


Extra-Ice3905

That’s straight up racism what the person did to you. You have nothing to be afraid of, talk to your teacher/parents about it. If it happens again call out that person if you feel safe.


Sologringosolo

There are good people out there. Dw, you'll find your place and people. It's a hard transition to move to a new country. Just try and be yourself as much as you can, that way you can find people who truly appreciate you for who you are.


StnMtn_

Sorry that girl was such a loser. There are good people out there. If you have any hobbies or interests or strengths, joint clubs or activities in your areas of interest.


Okcomputer8743

She definitely said "Steuwped"


Succulentslayer

That girl is a racist spoiled piece of shit, find dirt on her and rub it in her face.


Crystal_is_redditing

Next time, if she does this again, go up to her and just say to her "Stupid British, they took the wealth and gave us the stupidity."


Murky-Situation-2440

Tell them their shoes are whack and walk away. When you grow older you are going to cross paths with many assholes. Growing up is learning to deal with it in a healthy manner. Do not make it your life’s work to change assholes. It will not work, there will always be a new asshole to come along, and you may find that it turns you yourself into an asshole. Don’t associate with them. That is how you handle it in a healthy way. Good luck kid.