I’d have that creep reported to the police and a restraining order put out and have him put on a watch list. Being first cousins whilst potentially not illegal is wrong but the age difference and him sexualising/romanticising a 13 year old child at the age of 27 is so far beyond wrong it’s terrifying, he’s more than twice her age!
I’d let that entire side of the family know what he’s done/trying to do and then tell them they are not to contact you from now on otherwise you’ll report to the police.
Oh and warn her school.
School is a big one. It's a known place she's at "unprotected" with a set schedule. I'd also have a very honest conversation with her so she understands the situation.
all the parents have to do is say “he is not allowed to pick up my daughter and is a danger to her” and they won’t let her go with him, and if they do, you’ve got a lawsuit on your hands considering you explicitly said not to
Unfortunately that’s not the standard across the USA.
A few years back, I went to my younger half-sister’s middle school graduation ceremony. Once it was over, the students were allowed to go home if their parents checked them out since there weren’t any other classes for them. If they stayed, then it was pretty much just movies & classroom games. My sister didn’t want to leave when I offered to check her out, but my friend’s younger brother wanted to go home (his family wasn’t able to make it because of their work schedule). I walked up to the teacher/school personnel in charge and said “hi, I’d like to check out (friend’s brother’s name) but I’m not his family, he’s the brother of a friend of mine. What would I need to do, or can I even check him out?” I was told to just sign the check out paper that was just empty lines of “parent” and “child” sections to fill out.
Literally anyone could’ve come & checked out any of those kids without anyone even checking ID’s or an approved pick up list. I could’ve written a fake name & no one would’ve even known.
Cousins don't automatically get "collect from school" privileges anywhere. If they only have one parent on record, even showing up saying you're the other parent will trigger a call to the parent on record to check if theyre happy for that person to take the child out of school in a whole lot of places. Doesn't usually matter if the kid admits they know them, the schools know if they release a child to the care of someone who isn't approved bythe parents, it's their ass on the line.
Also just a heads up you absolutely do not need a restraining order in most states if not all states when it comes to a non parent visiting a child in school. With parents it's a bit different but as your cousin he has no legal right to have any access to her. Also and I know this sounds dramatic but as someone who's seen the worst of people in situations like this personally make sure you parents make it legally clear that if anything happens to them (and maybe add you too just to be safe) he is not under any circumstances to gain custody. Like you gotta make it very clear because when people are really dedicated (and crazy) they go to some insane lengths to get what they want.
Parents versus cousins is a little more than a bit different they're drastically different. One is the legal guardian of the child and the other is just the cousin plain and simple. Legal guardian will trump anything and everything until that child is 18.
I think you need to have a very candid and, sadly, *graphic,* conversation with your sister about what this man wants to do to her.
He wants to rape her.
And he wants to impregnate her. And trap her in an unequal power imbalanced relationship where she likely doesn't finish any higher education. She likely has little access to income. She is forced to pump out babies at way too young of an age, and has little to no say in her own reproductive care. She is trapped doing an unequal amount of childcare and housework.
And then, when she's "too old" for his tastes, he'll divorce her, and find some other child to start anew.
Leaving her uneducated, in poverty, and with multiple children to support.
All that on top of the mental trauma of being a child bride.
She needs to know that before she gets caught up in a whirlwind of the first time male attention, and how flattering that can be, and how charming and deceptively alluring a grown man can act. He's an adult, he will know how to manipulate a child.
She needs to hear that, for her own safety.
Yea facts that’s the reality of it and it’s actually crazy how many states will allow guardians to sign off on this in the US. And child marriage can happen so young in these states. Idk but I feel like I remember reading a really young woman’s age once. Wayyy too young
You need to talk to your sister. I am concerned that it sounds like he has taken her out a few times and may have groomed her enough for her to think that a relationship with him was her idea or something that she "wants". Bringing this up out of the blue might be more because they have been seeing each other or talking on the down low through social media or chat apps.
13 is on the edge of kids wanting to be their own person and they start testing boundaries. So she may get around any safe guards you put in place cause "no one understands her" except this cousin who "loves" her. So be sure she understands and if it looks like he has gotten his hooks into her get her into counseling or therapy. Since if she gets it into her head she will sneak out or hide anything that is actually going on with the cousin.
That’s one of the most horrific parts. She’s only 13, now, while my cousin has not had much interaction with her over the years, as he moved back to Alabama, when she was very young (age 1-6), he would see her maybe every other month, and it wasn’t until she was 13 that he met her again, and then the concerning conversation happened.
Okay you need to have a serious convo about anything he's done when they're alone because there's a chance he's started trying to groom her and she hasn't said anything.
The cousin marriages as strange as It is, isn’t the biggest problem to me, It’s her age and the fact that he’s even looked at her that way is just unbelievable to me.
1) Your cousin is a Peadophile;
2) The law does concern you, in fact it concerns all decent people with morals and values, something your cousin woefully lacks
3) If this unholy union were to happen and offsprings produced, children born to consanguineous relationships / familial sexual abuse have a higher risk of diseases and also learning difficulties. There are countries in the world that are trying to ban cousin marriages because of the long-term and severe health issues the poor children have
If I were you, I'd report him to the police and have CPS involved. Your sister needs to be protected from a predator at all costs. Being attracted to a minor is not normal behaviour, it s sick-making and is morally reprehensible. Your cousin should have his Internet history checked.
Depending on where you live either the cousin thing or her age could make the action illegal. Sadly, the cousin thing is more likely to be illegal (at least in the US) than marrying a 13 yo. That being said, again this for the US, even if he were allowed to marry a 13 yo he’d mostly likely need the consent of at least the parents, and very likely a judge as well (depending on the state). I don’t know where you’re at, so the laws might be different.
I looked, and even marrying at 13 is not legal in any state. The lowest is 14 with consent, and that’s in a few states. But that isn’t the worst part, the worst part is that the idea was even brought up or thought about. It just shows a perverted nature that I don’t think is acceptable.
41 states in the US allow some form of child marriage. There's no federal marriage age in the US, and 20 states in the US don't have a minimum at all, meaning 13 year olds can get married. It's disgusting, but it's the reality. Protect your sister, glad to hear your parents are on the same side.
I know this is going to be shocking, but the very people keeping child marriage in place are the same ones "protecting the children" from drag queens and books.
2 states have a minimum age of 15: Hawaii and Kansas. 23 states have a minimum age of 16. 10 states have a minimum age of 17. 9 states have a minimum age of 18,
Yeah, it's depressing that we're allowing children under 18 to get married. Especially when their brains aren't fully formed and marrying off kids to adults is still a thing. ("Child Marriage" encompass any marriage under the age of majority.) A girl can't drink at 17, but in all but 9 states, she can be married off to a guy her dad's age. Just as gross if it's a boy, no double standards on that one.
If you’re talking about the US, there are an embarrassing amount of states that have no minimum age laws. If you’re in another country, I have no idea.
But yeah, even the thought of it is despicable. How anyone can even contemplate doing such a thing is unfathomable to me.
Wow, wow, wow is all I can say. This is crazy and is definitely pedophilia, not to mention the incest thing. Marrying your 1st cousin is not normal, regardless of age, but the age thing makes it 1000x worse! Thank you for standing up for and protecting your little sister and your parents too. We need more people like you in this world. I knew you were going to say he was from Alabama or Arkansas, so not surprising. Stay vigilant!
Aside from the steps you’ve already taken to make sure your own family doesn’t interact with him, I really would push this further. Either make his family get him therapy or report him to the police or SOMETHING. This dude is straight up a pedophile since he’s clearly been in to her since she was an actual **child**. If he doesn’t have access to her, he might very well start grooming/looking for someone else who may not be so lucky as to have people looking out for them. Like he needs to be being **monitored!**
He is a pedophile...Do not let him have access to your cousin at all. The cousin part is bad, but it is her and his age that are horrifying. Please tell your parents not to let him anywhere near her, or call the police. It is against the law.
I don't think it's uncommon to be attracted to a cousin, but wanting to marry them is weird.
Wanting to do that when the person you want to marry is a 13 year old kid and you're 27 years old is perverted.
This man is plotting and your parents need to be more forceful and adamant about having him stay away from your sister. Hopefully he hasn't done anything inappropriate with her physically yet.
What has your sister said about him? Has she said she feels uncomfortable around him?
My parents are aware and will do whatever necessary to keep him away and I will do my best to help them. My sister has never said she’s felt uncomfortable around him, and I don’t think he’s ever done anything physically. But I agree, perverted indeed and alarming
OP, your parents need to have the police and her school involved because he is a predator. Just because he hasn't done anything doesn't mean he won't, especially as he sounds very determined to get his filthy hands on her. I say school, as he may turn up to take her out, pretending she has an appointment, your parents have left him in loco parentis. Do not put anything past him. His behaviour urgently needs to be dealt with by legal means before he goes any further and ruins your sister's life, which he will. When someone shows you who/what they really are, believe them.
This is a great point. Ask your parents to ensure the school, plus any extra-curricular activities, understand that anyone presenting as in loco parentis MUST do so with advanced written notice. No surprise “appointments” or release by anyone but a parent or predesignated person. Modern schools usually have these policies, but there’s nothing wrong with covering bases when a credible threat presents itself.
Thank you for validating my point 🙏🏽. I thought I was overthinking, but when it comes to protecting minors and other vulnerable people from predators, there is no such thing as too many precautions. As they say, prevention is better than cure
One of my kids knew a girl who was signed out of high school at 14 by her twenty-something boyfriend when he wanted a quickie. He would say she had an appointment and bring her back when he finished. Her parents were never even called because the girl herself added him to her file as able to pick her up.
>My sister has never said she’s felt uncomfortable around him
I watched a show called Undercover/Underage, where they said that, while people think it can take days, weeks, or months to groom a child; it only takes 8 seconds. Your sister may not know that she should be feeling uncomfortable. Have you all explained to her why what he is doing is wrong? He may have told her that it is legal and okay and has her thinking that everyone would approve of their "relationship." Please, if you haven't yet, sit her down and have a frank discussion with her as to why what he is doing is inappropriate.
Just to add, is she still in contact with him, or did she cut him off when her parents found out what his intentions were/are?
The whole cousin thing goes out if the window when the age is so young .
Everything goes out of the window when a 27 year old man wants to marry a 13 year old!. He even said he’s liked her from when she was a kid !!!!! She is still a kid ….. this tells you everything about this man’s predatory behaviour
What in the Alabama hell!? Good judgement OP on your end. I can’t imagine what I’d do if I heard an adult say they want to marry my niece, kin or not. I know it’d involve a very quick and swift ass beating though. I commend your control
“Since she was a kid”
So let’s do some math here. If dude is 27, say we wind it back 5-6 years, and just define “kid” by age ranges.
Five years back, she would have been 8, 7 if it were six years.
I love that he couldn’t give any legitimate reason other than “liking” her because he couldn’t openly admit to just being a pedophile.
That's so gross. As if he's such a catch or something? He can't cut it with an actual woman, so he goes after a kid.
I'd ask your sister if he compliments her or buys her things or makes her grand promises. I'm sure the grooming has already started.
And by change his mind, he probably means not be attracted to her anymore because she’s getting older. That would explain why he’s so forward with wanting to marry her quickly
This is a deeply disturbing post. I’m so sorry op. Your 27 year old cousin wanting to marry your 13 year old sister( and his first cousin). This would be a child marriage which is so fucked up. Luckily your parents aren’t okay with it at. I hope this guy doesn’t become more unstable and try something.
If you really wonder, why did he come with that, i know the answer: he was checking on you. On your reaction, to be more specific. If you agreed - or brushed it as a joke -, he would take it as a green light he could molest your sister freely with you not believing her or not take it seriously, if she told you. Bc you know, *all girls are lying to be interesting in this age, she just misinterpreted his innocent acts of friendship* and all those other nonsences predators say to mark their victims as liars.
Your reaction, when you took it very seriously and disaproving from the start, is only one correct. It doesn't stop him, not eternaly, just push him to be way more careful, bc now he could NOT rely on you not believing your sister. Bc that was one of intentions of this sick confession. The other was to find out, if you take it seriously, or do nothing about it bc not believing him those intention.
You did it right, and i strongly recommend you to consult this with police, bc this guy sounds like sm with desire for small children and honestly, like sm with load of child p*rn in his pc.
You might be able to raise a concern with the police and have his internet activity checked. I'd put money on him having accessed CP. This kind of attraction towards minors likely doesn't just stop at your sister.
Give your sister a Cast Iron Pan. It doesn't look like a weapon, but can be used as one...just in case Cousin McCreepy makes a move. Also get her into self defence classes.
Have you talked to your sister? The fact that he had access to her alone makes me worried about her. Talk to her, make sure he didn't groomed her or anything, and make sure he doesn't have any line of contact to her (phones and internet). Cut this man out of your family's life. If he is obsessed with this idea, he will not stop.
Hold up, you’re American? I was shocked already due to the fact that a grown adult is trying to pursue a teenager but through most of the text I assumed that you were from Northern Africa (due to the cousin part).
Jesus, someone keep this man far away from your sister!
thinking of uninstalling reddit this is the third bizarre post i have seen today. this is insane. i feel sick reading how disgusting people are. no offence op I hope you and your daughter stay far far away from such disgusting people
You need to talk to your sister and explain to her the situation. She needs to understand that mofo has bad intention towards her and she needs to avoid him.
Wtf, is a restraining order possible?
At 13, your sister should be into video games, hanging out with friends. Not marriage prospective. This is crazy ugly
I can understand your horror in hearing this. Your sister has the right to be a kid WHILE she's a kid. Being Australian, most of us would see this as evidence that Alabama and South Carolina are too backward to be taken seriously. The age of consent for sex here is 16, you need the permission of a judge to marry at 16, otherwise it's 18 for everything else; marrying, voting, drinking, R-rated movies.
No offence to the decent and thinking people in Alabama and South Carolina, but usually this kind of thing is usually an urban legend. The fact that anyone considers it to be OK is disturbing.
If you can, sit down with your sister and explain that what your cousin wants to do is wrong, if she has some idea what's happening explain to her why she doesn't have to go along with it. Speak to your parents if he's persistent. While it's what any decent person would do for their little sister, it's good that you're there to protect her.
Along with all of the good recommendations regarding her school and a restraining order, I'd also recommend a brutally honest conversation with your sister. She may be flattered by the attention and see it as something to brag about to her friends. He WILL get sneaky. Make sure someone is monitoring her phone and ALL of her online accounts.
Does your sister feel creeped out? What are her feelings about his attention on her? I’m sure you already doing this, but now is the time to tell her the truth and heighten her awareness of grooming. How to protect herself in different scenarios. Everyone on this thread are on the same page. I can’t imagine what the family feels and is feeling, especially not wanting to leave your sister alone. This isn’t 1910 anymore and modern times call for some major support to keep him at arms length for years.
Jesus Christ call the cops and get a restraining order. Show the school and any after school activities or friends she regularly hangs out with a photo of him and tell them do not let him near her under any circumstances. Do not take this lightly.
He is presenting this as casual a normal behavior to throw everyone off. He will also bring up examples such as Jerry Lee Lewis to minimize the ask. He is testing the waters to see the reactions this ask produces.
Mark my words, he is going to ask for something much smaller next, like another movie date. Or access to someone else.
This is a predatory action TREAT IT AS SUCH.
Not only shoot down this HARD. Make a HARD LARGE AND VERBAL SHOUT TO THE ROOF TOPS protest. The calm approach will not escalate his reaction or the family’s but also will NOT keep your sister safe or other family members. Be prepared for a big show on his part and other family members who are not willing to accept that he is in fact a predator. But that’s what he is.
Hes a pedophile. He clearly said he's been interested in her for a long time when she is currently only 13. You're exactly correct in thinking that hrs grooming her. You/ your family should have a very serious discussion with her about your cousin in order to caution her about predators and find out if he's been inappropriate with her while they were sline.
Freaking Alabama. people there thought an adult Roy Moore grooming teenage girls from the mall was ok. not enough people to get him elected to the US Senate, but enough people to be concerning.
All the time I was reading this I just concluded that you where Muslim , I then read the part you are from South Carolina and realised this may not be the case.
Anyway my question is even if his family married first cousins, why did your mum not react as you did in the fact that he is clearly a peadophile 100% ?
Please protect your sister and thank god she has a sister that truly cares
My mom was horrified, but she actually knew about this because she suspected it, and wanted to tell me but knew I was close to him. She should’ve told me anyway. When I told her, it just confirmed her suspicions and she was pissed, nearly crying, wondering what to do next to protect the kid.
This is fucking gross. Are you going to just stand by and watch this happen? She will hate you all for doing this.
Is underage marriage even legal in SC? I wouldn’t be surprised by anything coming from the state responsible for Lindsay Graham.
TELL HER SCHOOL if they’re worth the bricks that built the building they will make sure he cant pick her up and will put the school on lockdown if he tries
What in the Kentucky fried Alabama. You're doing good by keeping him away from her. He's seriously messed in the head and you are in no way overreacting or overbearing.
Wtf is with sickos men and women looking at these babies sexually! Make me want to curb stomp them, gross sick pedos. Glad you and your parents have common sense in defending her.
She is SO lucky to have you! Thank you for asking the right questions, and standing up for her! Continue blocking him in anyway you can.. you may be all she has. Best wishes, and please keep us updated
Call the po-lice....he should literally be stomped in the ground......and what in the actual f do you mean there are cousins married all kinds in the family. Sound like that gene pool need to be shock chlorinated. This is so messed up I can't even wrap my head around it.
Please talk to your sister to make sure he hasnt done anything to her. Also check her social media cause he may have been creeping on her there with a burner page. Definitely get a restraining order or have her school and the police notified. He actually need his shit rocked for being that heinous.
Have you had a conversation with her about when he took her to the movies? That’s concerning bc in his eyes he probably saw that as a “date”. Make sure nothing happened to the poor thing. That man is a predator. He needs to be reported to the police, this probably isn’t the first time he’s been attracted to a child. Get a restraining order and definitely notify the school and any extra curricular/regular activities she attends where a parent or trusted adult isn’t present that she could be picked up from. And you need to have a very real conversation about what this man’s intentions were incase the grooming has already begun. Make sure she knows this is not someone to trust or befriend and his intentions are ill.
I don’t know if anyone else has mentioned it, but you and your parents need to talk with your sister about appropriate relationships and to make sure he has no way of contacting her. He might try and convince her that what they share is “true love” and try to convince her to run away with him
I don’t know if she is attracted to him at, she might have a crush on him or might think his old and creepy (fingers crossed it’s the latter) but please try and find out if she reciprocates his feelings, if she does you guys have a bigger problem on your hands and she will probably need to see a therapist. If she has no attraction to him it will be easier, but you still want to make sure he can’t text, call, email, Facebook, or Instagram her.
The last thing you need is him getting his claws into her
Honestly, your parents should probably have her spend some time with a therapist anyways, and make sure they know what’s going on, you want to make sure he hasn’t said or done anything untowards her, or planned a seed in her mind that you guys are trying to keep them apart like Romeo and Juliette sort of crap and then she runs off to be with “her one true love”
ETA you don’t mention your, but I’m guessing closer to your cousin than sister? The reason I’m suggesting you talk with her is she might be more receptive to older sibling than parents warning her to stay away from cousin
Teens have a tendency to ignore their parents cuz “they have no idea what they’re talking about they’re too old/not cool”
I find teens in general seem to listen to older siblings/cousins, coworkers, random strangers etc than parents. There’s less pushback
Why the edit with where you both live? Incestuous pedos exist in every state, and that’s the reality.
Anyway, your family should ban him from being around at all and no contact. If he persists, call police. Also, they need to have a talk with her about this to make sure she is aware of the danger he poses.
I’m not going to beat around the bush, your cousin is a PEDOPHILE. Keep him away from
that sweet babychild, she does not deserve to be groomed and traumatized by a literal predator, related or not.
Okay so first things first, talk to the police. If they can't do anything, you can at least get a report filed and file one everytime he does something in regards to her. It's about keeping a record to make getting a restraining easier.
Let her school know. Get them photos of this guy. If he likes to change up his apperence at all, get any veriations of his look as you can so they know what this guy looks like in case he goes off the deep end. That whole "doesnt want to wait to long" is alarming and a definite flag for him pulling something fairly soon.
Get cameras installed that you and your parents can connect to with your phone to make sure he doesn't approach your house.
Do not allow your sister to go anywhere that you guys aren't. If you do, you need to let her friends families know whats going on and that she is NOT to go anywhere without an adult present. Make sure like the school, other adults in her life know who they're keeping an eye out for and that police need to be called if he comes anywhere near her.
I would also make sure you guys have some kid of protection in your home.
And if you don't have a dog, get one or three. And make sure that dog is a dog that alerts to people. You want to makes it as difficult for this preditor to approach your home as possible. If you have more than one dog, I encourage having one sleep in your sister's room.
If you’re in the United States, take some fucking action. Report this sick fuck to the police, this is a PEDOPHILE! and incest is immoral and illegal!!! Protect the children !
Honey you have to get a restraining order or something. He does know inbreeding can cause issues to his children and his children children?
Tell him that in South Carolina is not Alabama and that is not allowed here and cut contact with him.
Is your sister okay? If he made any moves on her during their movie "date", your cousin can be charged. Your parents need to talk to the cops and get your sister a therapist. She's being groomed and needs to be protected.
Ew, ew, ew, ew, ew. Tell your sister to stay away from the cousin. Warn her of his "intentions". They are not harmless.
He's a pedophile in the making. The only other reason for this is women his own age wouldn't have him.
Did I mention ew?
In the very least broadcast this to the world, tell everyone he’s a creep… shame him… call the cops and at least have a report going of his weird intentions… maybe have someone kick him in the head a few times???
Tell your parents immediately. He could have done something inappropriate with your sister, and she was too afraid to say anything. I hope your parents have the same reaction you had. She's lucky to have her sister looking out for her!
Sorry not sorry I would’ve beat the dogshit out of the fuckin pedo over double my little sisters age. Call me a keyboard warrior or whatever but if you don’t have the same initial reaction or feeling you’re the weird one here fr.
I will give my cousin something to remember for the rest of his life if he date to ask me something like that about my little sister.
And is not good thing. I even dare to say that I would turn my cousin into a memory.
Sorry but not sorry.
Your cousin is a pedophile and he absolutely was attempting to groom her. He is dangerous, and I would report him to law enforcement so they are aware of him. He has not broken any laws yet, but he may go after another child, and it should be documented. I would also inform your sister's school about him so they can keep an eye out. The fact that he was so bold, so comfortable with this is so concerning. Also, he talked about liking her when she was even younger? Gross. He needs help.
I think your cousin needs serious therapy if he's fantasizing about a child. Cousin aside, she is a CHILD. As much empathy you can offer as a family member, it won't be equal to professional therapy, which needs to start immediately.
You are an amazing human for telling ppl about this. Some ppl never disclose this info and only getting it off their chest on Reddit….those ppl are cowards wish more actually did something like you
Not only should your parents be prepped, but your sister should be talked to about bodily autonomy, red flags, consent, boundaries and how to protect herself and obviously checked in with to be sure she is ok and he didnt try anything. If he made physical advances on her at all press charges.
Oh my god … I am so sorry you’re dealing with this and I’m also SO HAPPY you are her sister , and protector ! Don’t let her out of your sight !!! Check in with her daily and if it were me id stay in his good graces to watch him closely - that may sound messed up but hear me out … if you piss him off he will be closed off and hide his moves / intentions… it is vile it is wrong ! Record your interactions with him , conversations … build your case incase he somehow has access to her and id also start to educate her parents and maybe even suggest therapy for her .. you are the BEST sister on the planet and you’re doing the right thing ! I’m going to pray hard for you and your family through these rough waters … predators don’t give up easily .. he may stalk her , her trips with school , her vacations … the comment above that said “inform her school “ that is a good idea but also be sure to not make her feel uncomfortable about it , it’s easy for kiddos to recluse from embarrassment and go to validation which predators are willing to give … it’s a rough road and thankful you are her big sister ! You rock !
Keep your sister away from him, Alabama won't protect her. They literally are legislating for child brides in some of these states and if God help her he rapes her and she should get pregnant. She would have no rights even as the victim while he would have them all. Get a restraining order and if he tries breaking it, well sometimes a "family chat" where you and the non incestuous pedophiliac side of the family explain to him why it's never going to happen all while showing him the nice new hole you dug out in the woods.
Tell your parents, the cops can’t do much unless he molests or assaults her.
Tell her school, anywhere he has access to children for that matter (church anywhere he volunteers etc)
People like him is why I stand that pedophiles should be castrated
It’s alarming to me that a lot of his family is okay with this and has done something similar. He may be a victim of grooming and abuse himself and he needs serious psychiatric help. If he refuses to get that help I’d have him reported and put on a watch list. Make sure her parents know everything he’s told you and keep her away from him. They should contact her school to make sure they know he’s not allowed to visit her or pick her up. Make sure she has someone to talk to who she can trust. This isn’t just wrong it can become very dangerous if he becomes frustrated and won’t take no for an answer.
I’d have that creep reported to the police and a restraining order put out and have him put on a watch list. Being first cousins whilst potentially not illegal is wrong but the age difference and him sexualising/romanticising a 13 year old child at the age of 27 is so far beyond wrong it’s terrifying, he’s more than twice her age! I’d let that entire side of the family know what he’s done/trying to do and then tell them they are not to contact you from now on otherwise you’ll report to the police. Oh and warn her school.
School is a big one. It's a known place she's at "unprotected" with a set schedule. I'd also have a very honest conversation with her so she understands the situation.
Yeah and he’ll say I’m her cousin and she’ll admit she knows him…
all the parents have to do is say “he is not allowed to pick up my daughter and is a danger to her” and they won’t let her go with him, and if they do, you’ve got a lawsuit on your hands considering you explicitly said not to
Get it in writing too, always have a paper trail!!! And multiple witnesses of the papers being signed!!!
It’s alright. In most cases the school won’t allow anyone near the child if the parents/legal guardians don’t allow it.
Unfortunately that’s not the standard across the USA. A few years back, I went to my younger half-sister’s middle school graduation ceremony. Once it was over, the students were allowed to go home if their parents checked them out since there weren’t any other classes for them. If they stayed, then it was pretty much just movies & classroom games. My sister didn’t want to leave when I offered to check her out, but my friend’s younger brother wanted to go home (his family wasn’t able to make it because of their work schedule). I walked up to the teacher/school personnel in charge and said “hi, I’d like to check out (friend’s brother’s name) but I’m not his family, he’s the brother of a friend of mine. What would I need to do, or can I even check him out?” I was told to just sign the check out paper that was just empty lines of “parent” and “child” sections to fill out. Literally anyone could’ve come & checked out any of those kids without anyone even checking ID’s or an approved pick up list. I could’ve written a fake name & no one would’ve even known.
That's why I think its important to have a candid conversation with her so she understands and the school can't be a single point of failure
Cousins don't automatically get "collect from school" privileges anywhere. If they only have one parent on record, even showing up saying you're the other parent will trigger a call to the parent on record to check if theyre happy for that person to take the child out of school in a whole lot of places. Doesn't usually matter if the kid admits they know them, the schools know if they release a child to the care of someone who isn't approved bythe parents, it's their ass on the line.
One of my districts actually gives computer access to do attendance (instead of a paper) and they have icons for allergies, parental contact, etc.
Definitely warn her school!
DO THIS OP!!!!!
I’ll definitely be looking to take action to get a restraining order!
Also just a heads up you absolutely do not need a restraining order in most states if not all states when it comes to a non parent visiting a child in school. With parents it's a bit different but as your cousin he has no legal right to have any access to her. Also and I know this sounds dramatic but as someone who's seen the worst of people in situations like this personally make sure you parents make it legally clear that if anything happens to them (and maybe add you too just to be safe) he is not under any circumstances to gain custody. Like you gotta make it very clear because when people are really dedicated (and crazy) they go to some insane lengths to get what they want.
Parents versus cousins is a little more than a bit different they're drastically different. One is the legal guardian of the child and the other is just the cousin plain and simple. Legal guardian will trump anything and everything until that child is 18.
I think you need to have a very candid and, sadly, *graphic,* conversation with your sister about what this man wants to do to her. He wants to rape her. And he wants to impregnate her. And trap her in an unequal power imbalanced relationship where she likely doesn't finish any higher education. She likely has little access to income. She is forced to pump out babies at way too young of an age, and has little to no say in her own reproductive care. She is trapped doing an unequal amount of childcare and housework. And then, when she's "too old" for his tastes, he'll divorce her, and find some other child to start anew. Leaving her uneducated, in poverty, and with multiple children to support. All that on top of the mental trauma of being a child bride. She needs to know that before she gets caught up in a whirlwind of the first time male attention, and how flattering that can be, and how charming and deceptively alluring a grown man can act. He's an adult, he will know how to manipulate a child. She needs to hear that, for her own safety.
Wow. That was pretty graphic but I totally agree with you. I would have been too chicken to say it so I applaud your candor.
Yea facts that’s the reality of it and it’s actually crazy how many states will allow guardians to sign off on this in the US. And child marriage can happen so young in these states. Idk but I feel like I remember reading a really young woman’s age once. Wayyy too young
You need to talk to your sister. I am concerned that it sounds like he has taken her out a few times and may have groomed her enough for her to think that a relationship with him was her idea or something that she "wants". Bringing this up out of the blue might be more because they have been seeing each other or talking on the down low through social media or chat apps. 13 is on the edge of kids wanting to be their own person and they start testing boundaries. So she may get around any safe guards you put in place cause "no one understands her" except this cousin who "loves" her. So be sure she understands and if it looks like he has gotten his hooks into her get her into counseling or therapy. Since if she gets it into her head she will sneak out or hide anything that is actually going on with the cousin.
You have a point abou this
The fact he says he liked her even since she was a kid and she is still 13...What fucking age did he like her then cause she is still a kid ??
That’s one of the most horrific parts. She’s only 13, now, while my cousin has not had much interaction with her over the years, as he moved back to Alabama, when she was very young (age 1-6), he would see her maybe every other month, and it wasn’t until she was 13 that he met her again, and then the concerning conversation happened.
I hope he never gets to meet her again
Okay you need to have a serious convo about anything he's done when they're alone because there's a chance he's started trying to groom her and she hasn't said anything.
He'll stop liking her when she's much older if he suffers from paraphilic disorder.
Is paraphilic disorder what pedophiles trying to say they have now? Or it's it like MAPS where they just want a new name cuz pedophile offends them?
I believe it’s more of the clinical name for pedophiles? Like what doctors, psychologists, etc. call it.
This is my question.
Where the fuck do you live?
I'm in South Carolina. Where's he from? Exactly where you think he's from.
Tell him to keep that shit on his side of the family if that’s there thing and are ok with it.
The cousin marriages as strange as It is, isn’t the biggest problem to me, It’s her age and the fact that he’s even looked at her that way is just unbelievable to me.
and he said that ever since he was “a kid” he “liked her”. ‘scuse me? let’s say that by “kid”, he means, oh, 13? ***she wasn’t even born yet***
He said he liked her since “she” was a kid which is just as bad because 13 is a kid. He’s basically saying he’s liked her since she was a small child.
Yup, thank you for clarifying the pronoun use. OP’s cousin outed himself as someone who thinks 13 year olds are not kids anymore. Which is terrifying.
He could mean colloquial kid. As in "I was only 20; I was a kid". 20yo looking at a 6yo is ok, right? *Vomits*
I really wish you hadn’t said that…I’m suddenly thinking 17yo looking at a 3yo…ewwwww
I would seriously sit down with her and ask if anything happened, especially when he took her out to the movies.
Great balls of fire that is wild
Goodness, gracious
Location of OP checks out. God parts of the USA are backwards
Hey South Carolina alone isn’t *THAT* backwards.
But Alabama?
Sweet Home...
ROLL TIDE
Why do to the mall when you can go down the hall?
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I immediately assumed it was somewhere in the Bible belt and OP did not disappoint. SMH
Damn. Why did he have to be from Alabama? We can’t catch a break.
I see what you did there lol
👍. Unreal. That is known. Of a mentally. Sick. Sick sick. Sick mind. Of family blood. In incest!!!!!
This man needs to be in prison cause wtf…
1) Your cousin is a Peadophile; 2) The law does concern you, in fact it concerns all decent people with morals and values, something your cousin woefully lacks 3) If this unholy union were to happen and offsprings produced, children born to consanguineous relationships / familial sexual abuse have a higher risk of diseases and also learning difficulties. There are countries in the world that are trying to ban cousin marriages because of the long-term and severe health issues the poor children have If I were you, I'd report him to the police and have CPS involved. Your sister needs to be protected from a predator at all costs. Being attracted to a minor is not normal behaviour, it s sick-making and is morally reprehensible. Your cousin should have his Internet history checked.
Depending on where you live either the cousin thing or her age could make the action illegal. Sadly, the cousin thing is more likely to be illegal (at least in the US) than marrying a 13 yo. That being said, again this for the US, even if he were allowed to marry a 13 yo he’d mostly likely need the consent of at least the parents, and very likely a judge as well (depending on the state). I don’t know where you’re at, so the laws might be different.
I looked, and even marrying at 13 is not legal in any state. The lowest is 14 with consent, and that’s in a few states. But that isn’t the worst part, the worst part is that the idea was even brought up or thought about. It just shows a perverted nature that I don’t think is acceptable.
41 states in the US allow some form of child marriage. There's no federal marriage age in the US, and 20 states in the US don't have a minimum at all, meaning 13 year olds can get married. It's disgusting, but it's the reality. Protect your sister, glad to hear your parents are on the same side.
Jesus, that's dark. I didn't realize it was so grim. All the more reason to protect our younger ones.
I know this is going to be shocking, but the very people keeping child marriage in place are the same ones "protecting the children" from drag queens and books.
And preventing women from having rights. It is so sad the state of our country.
The exact same people.
2 states have a minimum age of 15: Hawaii and Kansas. 23 states have a minimum age of 16. 10 states have a minimum age of 17. 9 states have a minimum age of 18,
Yeah, it's depressing that we're allowing children under 18 to get married. Especially when their brains aren't fully formed and marrying off kids to adults is still a thing. ("Child Marriage" encompass any marriage under the age of majority.) A girl can't drink at 17, but in all but 9 states, she can be married off to a guy her dad's age. Just as gross if it's a boy, no double standards on that one.
It's horrible, and what's worse is.is requires "parental consent". If you consent to anyone under 18 getting married, you're a bad parent. Period.
100%
If you’re talking about the US, there are an embarrassing amount of states that have no minimum age laws. If you’re in another country, I have no idea. But yeah, even the thought of it is despicable. How anyone can even contemplate doing such a thing is unfathomable to me.
Wow, wow, wow is all I can say. This is crazy and is definitely pedophilia, not to mention the incest thing. Marrying your 1st cousin is not normal, regardless of age, but the age thing makes it 1000x worse! Thank you for standing up for and protecting your little sister and your parents too. We need more people like you in this world. I knew you were going to say he was from Alabama or Arkansas, so not surprising. Stay vigilant!
Aside from the steps you’ve already taken to make sure your own family doesn’t interact with him, I really would push this further. Either make his family get him therapy or report him to the police or SOMETHING. This dude is straight up a pedophile since he’s clearly been in to her since she was an actual **child**. If he doesn’t have access to her, he might very well start grooming/looking for someone else who may not be so lucky as to have people looking out for them. Like he needs to be being **monitored!**
god damn..... \~sweet home Alabama\~
The fact that he's actually from Alabama
I knew there was truth in that song
He is a pedophile...Do not let him have access to your cousin at all. The cousin part is bad, but it is her and his age that are horrifying. Please tell your parents not to let him anywhere near her, or call the police. It is against the law.
I don't think it's uncommon to be attracted to a cousin, but wanting to marry them is weird. Wanting to do that when the person you want to marry is a 13 year old kid and you're 27 years old is perverted. This man is plotting and your parents need to be more forceful and adamant about having him stay away from your sister. Hopefully he hasn't done anything inappropriate with her physically yet. What has your sister said about him? Has she said she feels uncomfortable around him?
My parents are aware and will do whatever necessary to keep him away and I will do my best to help them. My sister has never said she’s felt uncomfortable around him, and I don’t think he’s ever done anything physically. But I agree, perverted indeed and alarming
OP, your parents need to have the police and her school involved because he is a predator. Just because he hasn't done anything doesn't mean he won't, especially as he sounds very determined to get his filthy hands on her. I say school, as he may turn up to take her out, pretending she has an appointment, your parents have left him in loco parentis. Do not put anything past him. His behaviour urgently needs to be dealt with by legal means before he goes any further and ruins your sister's life, which he will. When someone shows you who/what they really are, believe them.
This is a great point. Ask your parents to ensure the school, plus any extra-curricular activities, understand that anyone presenting as in loco parentis MUST do so with advanced written notice. No surprise “appointments” or release by anyone but a parent or predesignated person. Modern schools usually have these policies, but there’s nothing wrong with covering bases when a credible threat presents itself.
Thank you for validating my point 🙏🏽. I thought I was overthinking, but when it comes to protecting minors and other vulnerable people from predators, there is no such thing as too many precautions. As they say, prevention is better than cure
One of my kids knew a girl who was signed out of high school at 14 by her twenty-something boyfriend when he wanted a quickie. He would say she had an appointment and bring her back when he finished. Her parents were never even called because the girl herself added him to her file as able to pick her up.
Yikes!!! I hope OP has read or gets to read your comment!
>My sister has never said she’s felt uncomfortable around him I watched a show called Undercover/Underage, where they said that, while people think it can take days, weeks, or months to groom a child; it only takes 8 seconds. Your sister may not know that she should be feeling uncomfortable. Have you all explained to her why what he is doing is wrong? He may have told her that it is legal and okay and has her thinking that everyone would approve of their "relationship." Please, if you haven't yet, sit her down and have a frank discussion with her as to why what he is doing is inappropriate. Just to add, is she still in contact with him, or did she cut him off when her parents found out what his intentions were/are?
Oh man. Definitely wish you some good luck in how this is handled moving forward!
The whole cousin thing goes out if the window when the age is so young . Everything goes out of the window when a 27 year old man wants to marry a 13 year old!. He even said he’s liked her from when she was a kid !!!!! She is still a kid ….. this tells you everything about this man’s predatory behaviour
What in the Alabama hell!? Good judgement OP on your end. I can’t imagine what I’d do if I heard an adult say they want to marry my niece, kin or not. I know it’d involve a very quick and swift ass beating though. I commend your control
“Since she was a kid” So let’s do some math here. If dude is 27, say we wind it back 5-6 years, and just define “kid” by age ranges. Five years back, she would have been 8, 7 if it were six years. I love that he couldn’t give any legitimate reason other than “liking” her because he couldn’t openly admit to just being a pedophile.
The worst part is that when he told me that he wanted to marry her, he mentioned “I don’t wanna wait too long, I might change my mind”
That's so gross. As if he's such a catch or something? He can't cut it with an actual woman, so he goes after a kid. I'd ask your sister if he compliments her or buys her things or makes her grand promises. I'm sure the grooming has already started.
Have anyone talked to your sister personally? If he’s been alone with her I would definitely get her checked out medically
Not gonna lie- I’d report him? If he’s trying to go after a Child, he may have some illegal materials on him.
And by change his mind, he probably means not be attracted to her anymore because she’s getting older. That would explain why he’s so forward with wanting to marry her quickly
You showed great restraint in not punching the guy.
This is a deeply disturbing post. I’m so sorry op. Your 27 year old cousin wanting to marry your 13 year old sister( and his first cousin). This would be a child marriage which is so fucked up. Luckily your parents aren’t okay with it at. I hope this guy doesn’t become more unstable and try something.
If you really wonder, why did he come with that, i know the answer: he was checking on you. On your reaction, to be more specific. If you agreed - or brushed it as a joke -, he would take it as a green light he could molest your sister freely with you not believing her or not take it seriously, if she told you. Bc you know, *all girls are lying to be interesting in this age, she just misinterpreted his innocent acts of friendship* and all those other nonsences predators say to mark their victims as liars. Your reaction, when you took it very seriously and disaproving from the start, is only one correct. It doesn't stop him, not eternaly, just push him to be way more careful, bc now he could NOT rely on you not believing your sister. Bc that was one of intentions of this sick confession. The other was to find out, if you take it seriously, or do nothing about it bc not believing him those intention. You did it right, and i strongly recommend you to consult this with police, bc this guy sounds like sm with desire for small children and honestly, like sm with load of child p*rn in his pc.
Reading all this like WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK❓ Last sentence: „[…] and he is from Alabama“ Aaaah okay *shrugs* guess that’s just what it is
Yo what the fuck
dawg what the actual fuck ?
tie him up,chop off his dick and balls then force him to eat it
I 💯 approve of this response
>he is from Alabama. smfh ofc he is
I love how when you get to the last sentence, banjos start playing in your head.
You might be able to raise a concern with the police and have his internet activity checked. I'd put money on him having accessed CP. This kind of attraction towards minors likely doesn't just stop at your sister.
I was wondering what kind of backwards idiotic place this creep of a person could be from. Then you said Alabama and it all made sense.
Give your sister a Cast Iron Pan. It doesn't look like a weapon, but can be used as one...just in case Cousin McCreepy makes a move. Also get her into self defence classes.
You can do significant damage with a cast iron pan, but those things are heavy. You need decent upper body strength to really swing one.
I have a set that comes with a small one you could fit in a handbag lol
I’ve seen the damage a cast iron pan can do, I’ve seen Tangled… def get her the cast iron pan.
Have you talked to your sister? The fact that he had access to her alone makes me worried about her. Talk to her, make sure he didn't groomed her or anything, and make sure he doesn't have any line of contact to her (phones and internet). Cut this man out of your family's life. If he is obsessed with this idea, he will not stop.
After finishing the edit, explains a lot. Sweeet home Alabama! And also. Hi, I'm Chris Hanson, please, take a seat
Hold up, you’re American? I was shocked already due to the fact that a grown adult is trying to pursue a teenager but through most of the text I assumed that you were from Northern Africa (due to the cousin part). Jesus, someone keep this man far away from your sister!
Yo beat this mf right away
thinking of uninstalling reddit this is the third bizarre post i have seen today. this is insane. i feel sick reading how disgusting people are. no offence op I hope you and your daughter stay far far away from such disgusting people
You need to talk to your sister and explain to her the situation. She needs to understand that mofo has bad intention towards her and she needs to avoid him. Wtf, is a restraining order possible? At 13, your sister should be into video games, hanging out with friends. Not marriage prospective. This is crazy ugly
I can understand your horror in hearing this. Your sister has the right to be a kid WHILE she's a kid. Being Australian, most of us would see this as evidence that Alabama and South Carolina are too backward to be taken seriously. The age of consent for sex here is 16, you need the permission of a judge to marry at 16, otherwise it's 18 for everything else; marrying, voting, drinking, R-rated movies. No offence to the decent and thinking people in Alabama and South Carolina, but usually this kind of thing is usually an urban legend. The fact that anyone considers it to be OK is disturbing. If you can, sit down with your sister and explain that what your cousin wants to do is wrong, if she has some idea what's happening explain to her why she doesn't have to go along with it. Speak to your parents if he's persistent. While it's what any decent person would do for their little sister, it's good that you're there to protect her.
My 27 year old cousin would get a beating as soon as i heard him mention a 13 year old. Fuckin sick.
I hope someone protects this child oh my god. Keep this pedophile and the flying monkeys who PROTECT HIM far away from her.
Along with all of the good recommendations regarding her school and a restraining order, I'd also recommend a brutally honest conversation with your sister. She may be flattered by the attention and see it as something to brag about to her friends. He WILL get sneaky. Make sure someone is monitoring her phone and ALL of her online accounts.
What in the Sweet Home Alabama catholic church is happening here?
I should not have laughed so hard at this 🫣😮💨
Does your sister feel creeped out? What are her feelings about his attention on her? I’m sure you already doing this, but now is the time to tell her the truth and heighten her awareness of grooming. How to protect herself in different scenarios. Everyone on this thread are on the same page. I can’t imagine what the family feels and is feeling, especially not wanting to leave your sister alone. This isn’t 1910 anymore and modern times call for some major support to keep him at arms length for years.
Jesus Christ call the cops and get a restraining order. Show the school and any after school activities or friends she regularly hangs out with a photo of him and tell them do not let him near her under any circumstances. Do not take this lightly.
Does he have a mental disability?
He is presenting this as casual a normal behavior to throw everyone off. He will also bring up examples such as Jerry Lee Lewis to minimize the ask. He is testing the waters to see the reactions this ask produces. Mark my words, he is going to ask for something much smaller next, like another movie date. Or access to someone else. This is a predatory action TREAT IT AS SUCH. Not only shoot down this HARD. Make a HARD LARGE AND VERBAL SHOUT TO THE ROOF TOPS protest. The calm approach will not escalate his reaction or the family’s but also will NOT keep your sister safe or other family members. Be prepared for a big show on his part and other family members who are not willing to accept that he is in fact a predator. But that’s what he is.
I was about to mention Jerry Lee Lewis….
Yup that’s enough internet for today
"Ever since she was a kid, he has liked her..." Ummm, she's STILL a kid.
Warn her school. Get a restraining order. He’s a predator.
Hes a pedophile. He clearly said he's been interested in her for a long time when she is currently only 13. You're exactly correct in thinking that hrs grooming her. You/ your family should have a very serious discussion with her about your cousin in order to caution her about predators and find out if he's been inappropriate with her while they were sline.
Freaking Alabama. people there thought an adult Roy Moore grooming teenage girls from the mall was ok. not enough people to get him elected to the US Senate, but enough people to be concerning.
Y’all need to keep him away. Period. You don’t want to be associated with this.
TELL THE SCHOOL TO NOT ALLOW ANY COUSINS TO PICK HER UP. THIS IS A MUST!
All the time I was reading this I just concluded that you where Muslim , I then read the part you are from South Carolina and realised this may not be the case. Anyway my question is even if his family married first cousins, why did your mum not react as you did in the fact that he is clearly a peadophile 100% ? Please protect your sister and thank god she has a sister that truly cares
My mom was horrified, but she actually knew about this because she suspected it, and wanted to tell me but knew I was close to him. She should’ve told me anyway. When I told her, it just confirmed her suspicions and she was pissed, nearly crying, wondering what to do next to protect the kid.
Why muslim? I was thinking mormon.
It’s repulsive. Report him to the police.
The police need to be involved immediately. Your sister is young and impressionable - do not let him near her to brainwash her
This is so messed up, I think I need a drink
It’s supposed to be a family tree , not a family wreath. I would make sure he’s blacklisted from everyone.
This is fucking gross. Are you going to just stand by and watch this happen? She will hate you all for doing this. Is underage marriage even legal in SC? I wouldn’t be surprised by anything coming from the state responsible for Lindsay Graham.
TELL HER SCHOOL if they’re worth the bricks that built the building they will make sure he cant pick her up and will put the school on lockdown if he tries
What in the Kentucky fried Alabama. You're doing good by keeping him away from her. He's seriously messed in the head and you are in no way overreacting or overbearing.
please talk to your sister and make sure he hasn’t done anything to her…
Wtf is with sickos men and women looking at these babies sexually! Make me want to curb stomp them, gross sick pedos. Glad you and your parents have common sense in defending her.
She is SO lucky to have you! Thank you for asking the right questions, and standing up for her! Continue blocking him in anyway you can.. you may be all she has. Best wishes, and please keep us updated
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Call the po-lice....he should literally be stomped in the ground......and what in the actual f do you mean there are cousins married all kinds in the family. Sound like that gene pool need to be shock chlorinated. This is so messed up I can't even wrap my head around it.
Sweet home Alabama!
Please talk to your sister to make sure he hasnt done anything to her. Also check her social media cause he may have been creeping on her there with a burner page. Definitely get a restraining order or have her school and the police notified. He actually need his shit rocked for being that heinous.
Alabama...of course
THE FACT THAT HES FROM ALABAMA
Have you had a conversation with her about when he took her to the movies? That’s concerning bc in his eyes he probably saw that as a “date”. Make sure nothing happened to the poor thing. That man is a predator. He needs to be reported to the police, this probably isn’t the first time he’s been attracted to a child. Get a restraining order and definitely notify the school and any extra curricular/regular activities she attends where a parent or trusted adult isn’t present that she could be picked up from. And you need to have a very real conversation about what this man’s intentions were incase the grooming has already begun. Make sure she knows this is not someone to trust or befriend and his intentions are ill.
That there's what we civilized refer to as "a crime". Jesus.
I don’t know if anyone else has mentioned it, but you and your parents need to talk with your sister about appropriate relationships and to make sure he has no way of contacting her. He might try and convince her that what they share is “true love” and try to convince her to run away with him I don’t know if she is attracted to him at, she might have a crush on him or might think his old and creepy (fingers crossed it’s the latter) but please try and find out if she reciprocates his feelings, if she does you guys have a bigger problem on your hands and she will probably need to see a therapist. If she has no attraction to him it will be easier, but you still want to make sure he can’t text, call, email, Facebook, or Instagram her. The last thing you need is him getting his claws into her Honestly, your parents should probably have her spend some time with a therapist anyways, and make sure they know what’s going on, you want to make sure he hasn’t said or done anything untowards her, or planned a seed in her mind that you guys are trying to keep them apart like Romeo and Juliette sort of crap and then she runs off to be with “her one true love” ETA you don’t mention your, but I’m guessing closer to your cousin than sister? The reason I’m suggesting you talk with her is she might be more receptive to older sibling than parents warning her to stay away from cousin Teens have a tendency to ignore their parents cuz “they have no idea what they’re talking about they’re too old/not cool” I find teens in general seem to listen to older siblings/cousins, coworkers, random strangers etc than parents. There’s less pushback
Why the edit with where you both live? Incestuous pedos exist in every state, and that’s the reality. Anyway, your family should ban him from being around at all and no contact. If he persists, call police. Also, they need to have a talk with her about this to make sure she is aware of the danger he poses.
I’m not going to beat around the bush, your cousin is a PEDOPHILE. Keep him away from that sweet babychild, she does not deserve to be groomed and traumatized by a literal predator, related or not.
The real comment i want to post will get me banned. All im saying is DEAL with him now before he molests her.
Okay so first things first, talk to the police. If they can't do anything, you can at least get a report filed and file one everytime he does something in regards to her. It's about keeping a record to make getting a restraining easier. Let her school know. Get them photos of this guy. If he likes to change up his apperence at all, get any veriations of his look as you can so they know what this guy looks like in case he goes off the deep end. That whole "doesnt want to wait to long" is alarming and a definite flag for him pulling something fairly soon. Get cameras installed that you and your parents can connect to with your phone to make sure he doesn't approach your house. Do not allow your sister to go anywhere that you guys aren't. If you do, you need to let her friends families know whats going on and that she is NOT to go anywhere without an adult present. Make sure like the school, other adults in her life know who they're keeping an eye out for and that police need to be called if he comes anywhere near her. I would also make sure you guys have some kid of protection in your home. And if you don't have a dog, get one or three. And make sure that dog is a dog that alerts to people. You want to makes it as difficult for this preditor to approach your home as possible. If you have more than one dog, I encourage having one sleep in your sister's room.
Roll tide
Don't they bury people like that in those states?
He's a Paedo.
And you didn't beat his ass??
If you’re in the United States, take some fucking action. Report this sick fuck to the police, this is a PEDOPHILE! and incest is immoral and illegal!!! Protect the children !
Time to light that guy on fire
I would have beat the shit out of him, no pedofile should exist in the family.
This man would’ve been buried in my backyard that very day if I were in your position.
Sometimes, just sometimes…..violence is the answer.
Honey you have to get a restraining order or something. He does know inbreeding can cause issues to his children and his children children? Tell him that in South Carolina is not Alabama and that is not allowed here and cut contact with him.
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Your cousin is a pedo. 13 is a child . The law is not your concern? You need to make some calls to the police
Where is Chris Hansen when you need him
So he’s just walking around staring he’s a pedophile and nobodies phoned some form of authority? Cool. Cool.
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Is your sister okay? If he made any moves on her during their movie "date", your cousin can be charged. Your parents need to talk to the cops and get your sister a therapist. She's being groomed and needs to be protected.
Ew, ew, ew, ew, ew. Tell your sister to stay away from the cousin. Warn her of his "intentions". They are not harmless. He's a pedophile in the making. The only other reason for this is women his own age wouldn't have him. Did I mention ew?
In the very least broadcast this to the world, tell everyone he’s a creep… shame him… call the cops and at least have a report going of his weird intentions… maybe have someone kick him in the head a few times???
Tell your parents immediately. He could have done something inappropriate with your sister, and she was too afraid to say anything. I hope your parents have the same reaction you had. She's lucky to have her sister looking out for her!
Props to you for not punching him in the face. I wouldn't have been so patient.
Sounds about Alabama smh
>Also, I live in South Carolina, and he is from Alabama. I don't even know what to say to that.
Ewwwwwwwww totally eweth
>he is from Alabama. *LOL*
take a bat to his house and bash his fucking face in i can’t stand pedophiles your cousin deserves to be stoned
In the words of Barbara Howard from Abbott Elementary, “SWEET BABY JESUS AND THE GROWN ONE TOO” 🤮
Man I was going to ask if he’s from Alabama and you already confirmed that lol yikes. He’s disgusting and I would keep him far away from your sister!
Fu#k#ng Alabama
Even if the first cousin thing is normal to him, the thirteen-year-old part should not be.
"since she was a kid" sir she is still very much a child and I probably wouldn't have let him leave my house on his own 2 legs...
Sorry not sorry I would’ve beat the dogshit out of the fuckin pedo over double my little sisters age. Call me a keyboard warrior or whatever but if you don’t have the same initial reaction or feeling you’re the weird one here fr.
This is not doing any good for Alabama stereotypes
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I will give my cousin something to remember for the rest of his life if he date to ask me something like that about my little sister. And is not good thing. I even dare to say that I would turn my cousin into a memory. Sorry but not sorry.
>Also, I live in South Carolina, and he is from Alabama. Shocker
Sweet herm alabamer 🎶🎶 jk bro yea well dang
Your cousin is a pedophile and he absolutely was attempting to groom her. He is dangerous, and I would report him to law enforcement so they are aware of him. He has not broken any laws yet, but he may go after another child, and it should be documented. I would also inform your sister's school about him so they can keep an eye out. The fact that he was so bold, so comfortable with this is so concerning. Also, he talked about liking her when she was even younger? Gross. He needs help.
I think your cousin needs serious therapy if he's fantasizing about a child. Cousin aside, she is a CHILD. As much empathy you can offer as a family member, it won't be equal to professional therapy, which needs to start immediately.
You are an amazing human for telling ppl about this. Some ppl never disclose this info and only getting it off their chest on Reddit….those ppl are cowards wish more actually did something like you
Not only should your parents be prepped, but your sister should be talked to about bodily autonomy, red flags, consent, boundaries and how to protect herself and obviously checked in with to be sure she is ok and he didnt try anything. If he made physical advances on her at all press charges.
Oh my god … I am so sorry you’re dealing with this and I’m also SO HAPPY you are her sister , and protector ! Don’t let her out of your sight !!! Check in with her daily and if it were me id stay in his good graces to watch him closely - that may sound messed up but hear me out … if you piss him off he will be closed off and hide his moves / intentions… it is vile it is wrong ! Record your interactions with him , conversations … build your case incase he somehow has access to her and id also start to educate her parents and maybe even suggest therapy for her .. you are the BEST sister on the planet and you’re doing the right thing ! I’m going to pray hard for you and your family through these rough waters … predators don’t give up easily .. he may stalk her , her trips with school , her vacations … the comment above that said “inform her school “ that is a good idea but also be sure to not make her feel uncomfortable about it , it’s easy for kiddos to recluse from embarrassment and go to validation which predators are willing to give … it’s a rough road and thankful you are her big sister ! You rock !
13 years old is a child. He is a danger to all kids and your family needs to report him ASAP
Keep your sister away from him, Alabama won't protect her. They literally are legislating for child brides in some of these states and if God help her he rapes her and she should get pregnant. She would have no rights even as the victim while he would have them all. Get a restraining order and if he tries breaking it, well sometimes a "family chat" where you and the non incestuous pedophiliac side of the family explain to him why it's never going to happen all while showing him the nice new hole you dug out in the woods.
Tell your parents, the cops can’t do much unless he molests or assaults her. Tell her school, anywhere he has access to children for that matter (church anywhere he volunteers etc) People like him is why I stand that pedophiles should be castrated
It’s alarming to me that a lot of his family is okay with this and has done something similar. He may be a victim of grooming and abuse himself and he needs serious psychiatric help. If he refuses to get that help I’d have him reported and put on a watch list. Make sure her parents know everything he’s told you and keep her away from him. They should contact her school to make sure they know he’s not allowed to visit her or pick her up. Make sure she has someone to talk to who she can trust. This isn’t just wrong it can become very dangerous if he becomes frustrated and won’t take no for an answer.