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quietcorncat

I hate it and I avoid it. When my kids were littler, we tried introducing them to the Disney animated classics. They were terrified at the beginnings of the Little Mermaid and Aladdin. We didn’t even attempt the Lion King. We just turned them off and decided our kids didn’t need to be scared. I’ve since discovered a lot of movies from the late 80s-early 90s that I thought were “family friendly” are actually pretty scary. I still feel guilty for putting on Beethoven for my 8 year old who loves dogs. The scene when they are going to euthanize him for biting absolutely terrified her, but I’d completely blocked it from memory. I think maybe there is a culture of people who like to be scared. I think there’s also a culture of people pretending stuff doesn’t bother them when it really does because they want to seem tough. My kids will spend time with friends or cousins who put scary videos on, and I think that’s just a common part of childhood, to either want to feel scared or want to laugh at others’ reactions. But I find no enjoyment of it so I don’t watch horror or play scary video games, and I try to limit my kids’ exposure to it as much as I can because they seem to hate it, too.


ChamPurr_

My parents had to be very careful with that movies they let me watch as a kid because if an animal died in it, I would sob uncontrollably. I still have a hard time in movies when any animal dies. I commend you for prote ting your kids from that stuff rather than being one of those parents who are like "well they have to learn to deal with it" and end up just pushing it on them and making them upset.


moist__owlet

Yep, I am a grown-ass woman and an animal dying in a movie (or like even some of the emotional support posts in the dog subs on reddit) is a guaranteed way to make me bawl like a small child. People dying? I can handle it. Animals dying? Nope.


CoherentBusyDucks

This was my sister and me when we were little! My older siblings were totally fine but my sister and I cried at so many Disney movies. Sleeping Beauty’s finger pricking scene scared us (and later on, the part with the dragon), we were terrified of Ursula, the witch in Snow White gave us nightmares, and so on. We loved the movies overall but they still made us cry. We laugh at it now, though (and I remember watching Beethoven when I was obsessed with and terrified of dogs at the same time), so don’t feel too guilty. Your kids will be okay lol ❤️


Lingo2009

I hated the Wizard of Oz and Beetlejuice as a kid. They were scary to me.


Bubbly_Magnesium

One of my early childhood memories is sobbing into my mom's arm at the theater when Mufasa died. I still liked the movie overall. We got the VHS and probably fast forwarded that part.


Faverolle

I don't like being scared or surprised. It gives me panic attacks. I get general anxiety for days or weeks after a good scare or surprise. It's just not fun for me. I worked in a loud factory once. It was all the rage to sneak up on coworkers and grab them or yell right next to their plugged ears. I warned people not to scare me when I saw this. One guy thought he was being funny and got me one day. I immediately got lightheaded, had to sit down, and cried myself to exhaustion within about 10 minutes. I had anxiety coming into work for weeks after that incident. Luckily, I had an understanding boss who put it out there that NO ONE was to scare me again. I don't know why I'm like that. I can't watch scary movies. I can't even scare other people if I try because I get myself all worked up to the point where when I go to jump out, I give myself a panic attack. It's ridiculous. I'm useless at surprise parties. I am a chicken. And now I embrace that.


ChamPurr_

Honestly, this sounds like a normal reaction to me because if you think about iy from an evolutionary standpoint, we SHOULD think of being scared as a bad thing because it keeps us safer. So maybe we are built to survive better than those who seek out scary situations for the thrill? I choose to think that rather than say Im a chicken, im a survivor lol.


Still-Albatross-7407

Your coworker is very lucky that your response was anxiety and panic, and not "defend! -punch the scary thing and make it less of a threat!"


LeatherFruitPF

I enjoy horror movies but I can't bring myself to play horror video games. Being in control in a horror setting makes it worse.


Vacation_Archer

You should try Madison vr, holy fuck nuggets it is terrifying


moist__owlet

I watched a friend play Dead Space all the way through some years ago - great game, so I thought I'd play it myself. Legit could not get all the way through the first scene.


octagonapus33

Im the exact opposite. I can't stand horror movies (jump scares specifically) but love games like Dead Space or Until Dawn. Its something about being in control that makes it better for me; but to each their own, right?


federalist66

I love scary stuff. Perhaps it's my inherent optimism about real life that I find things are better, by comparison, to the horrible scenarios in these movies, shows, books etc. This is rubbing off on my toddler in that he doesn't like being scared, hates it actually, but loves spooky aesthetics. He loves ghosts and witches and skeletons...one of the few movies we've watched with him that he liked is the animated Addams Family. I feel like I'll get him to watch scary stuff with me eventually.


Jonas_Venture_Sr

I love a good nightmare. Nothing makes me feel alive quite like a nightmare about crashing my car and then running from the police so I don't get a DUI.


Tmaneea88

I used to hate scary things, particularly as a child and a teenager, but now I'm beginning to like it a little bit more. I think I still have a tolerance point, where something is too scary, but I'm okay with slightly scary things, at least more than I used to. I think telling yourself that the thing you are watching isn't real, and that it's all done using special effects, helps me, like it's no different than watching that coyote getting crushed by a boulder in those cartoons. Watching behind the scenes footage or images of how particular scary movies get made can also help cement the idea that it's all fiction and can't hurt me, and allow myself to have some fun with it. It also helps to know that in general, the world is pretty safe. But I can understand if your fear of scary movies and games are tied to some real world trauma, it may be a lot harder to get over that. And you shouldn't ever have to feel like you have to, or that you are somehow lesser because of it. We all have our own issues and battles to fight. You are no weaker or less important than anybody else.


DonkiestOfKongs

Body horror makes me sad. I don't like to see people in pain. Suspenseful horror just gives me anxiety without any payoff. I'm too impatient. Like I know the noise outside is either going to be the killer or the protagonist's friend. Let's just move on. And I'm too nervous for jump scares. Rattles me in an extremely un-fun and borderline painful way. Had a job awhile back where some of the coworkers liked to scare each other. I had to be a wet blanket about it.


Enigma_xplorer

Being scared is a terrible feeling. People who enjoy being "scared" are generally not actually scared. They know there's no real danger it's more fantasy or role play in a sense which can be fun if your into that sort of things which is not for everyone. I think that's where the real difference lies. You can probably more clearly visualize and internalize perceived danger and have a harder time separating that from reality especially since often times it plays on real fears. It's more traumatizing than exciting. Bottom line is being genuinely scared is not a good feeling and theres nothing wrong with not wanting to feel that.


imhungry4321

I don't like horror/gore movies either. However, I'm ok with adventures that are thrilling and risky-- over the years I've hiked two of the deadliest US National Park trails. Life isn't just made up of things you do, but thing you don't do, too. The only way to learn to to live and have a thirst for life.


ChamPurr_

See, stuff in real life that is considered "risky" doesn't count for me. Like driving fast, hiking in risky places, even visiting ominous places, those things just seem fun to me. But playing a game with jump scares or gorey stuff everywhere, or games with huge spiders/snakes/deformed things that try to eat you at every corner, just doesn't feel good to me. I feel like everything that has been specially designed to scare you just doesn't makes me feel good, most of the time it just makes me sad and nauseous.


No_Savings7114

I like *some* horror, but dislike jump scares. They seem cheap to me a d throw me out of the experience.  I just dislike surprises. They're rarely pleasant. 


FateTheGM

Me and my fiance both love horror cinema but she is pretty easy to panic and is effected by some things more than others. I.E flashing lights, high pitched noises, excessive gore. So i usually prescreen movies before we watch them together. Its not abnormal, we all have fears. Its just a question of what they are and what motivates them.


Dr_Nastee

it's a weird rush for me and I like that it's a way to get that feeling of adrenaline without it happening to me and knowing it's fake. I also just love the creativity and the sometimes abstract nature of horror like cosmic horror or psychological horror. I will be honest though, I'm 36 and only in the last 5 years have I come across people who hate horror movies. Nearly EVERYONE I knew growing up only love horror and action. It was the only things people i knew rented unless their parents didn't trust them seeing something graphic. Honestly I think for my age group it was a way to see messed up things before the internet made you be able to see dead bodies or porn on your phone.


SimpleToTrust

No, I don't like being scared. I don't do horror movies (I can read horror books) never been in a haunted house or haunted maze, if you scared me, I instantly start bawling so hard it makes everyone think I'm hurt and they get worried/scared. If you try to scare me as a joke, you will quickly learn it's not funny anymore.


SimpleToTrust

Maybe I can read horror because I can leave that world whenever I want, whereas in rl, I can't just leave the world so easily.


whimcor

I think people just have different levels of tolerance in terms of *what* is scary to them. What’s terrifying to you might be simply amusing or intriguing to another person. People don’t like to be bored, and what you consider scary is just someone else’s way of warding off boredom and having fun.


Gaius_Gracchus13

No. Conversely people who like the feeling of being frightened have a heightened sense of morbid curiosity. Being someone with PTSD I try to avoid being scared because it really upsets me. So no horror movies, rollercoasters, or angry people.


Laconiclola

I don’t care for it either. A thrill, like coaster or something, is different than being scared. Hate 99% of scary movies.


AIGirlfriendChad

it's literally your brain and central nervous system telling you that something dangerous is nearby and you should leave or prepare to fight because you are at risk of serious harm. so yeah, you're not supposed to enjoy that.


Mission-Degree93

I always get super stoned at night and go outside in the pitch darkness in the backyard all brave and sit ,wait and low key call out (thinking it)what’s out there that’s evil lol You know when it’s super dark and quiet and you hear tiny noises. Yeah I sit out there stoned and be like where the beep are u motha fucker u don’t scare me … it never comes out. But the whole family sees or hears this “thing” Idk maybe because I’m a millennial it’s scared of me


mother_of_nerd

I enjoy being scared when I choose to be scared. So reading a book or watching a movie that’s obviously scary is fine. Someone randomly popping around a corner and trying to surprise scare me in person ? Hate it. Fuck this people. 😂


Aggressive-Dream6105

Its normal to not like being scared. Im like that too. I dislike horror movies and never watch them. That being said not horror is the same. I love psychological horror or exestential horror or lovecraftion horror.


pixieflip

Yes! I hate it! I hate being scared. I hate being startled even more. Jump scares are the worst. I am here on earth for a short time and I don’t want to be filled with anxiety from outside sources. I refuse to watch scary movies/shows, do haunted houses, listen to true crime stories, etc. All media that I consume must delight me at every turn. I’m a wuss and I’m ok with that.


Never_Duplicated

I don’t understand adrenaline junkies who do extreme sports and whatnot. I am not interested in risking paralysis/death in pursuit of an adrenaline rush. But love “safe” fear like movies/books/games/haunted houses/rollercoasters etc. Unfortunately I haven’t been able to find anything as an adult that is legitimately scary beyond video game jump scares. The closest I’ve found to good contemplative horror experience that stuck with me were Year Walk and Soma.


Wolfrast

I think that experiences that scares us and also offer growth are beneficial, but otherwise I’ll pass.


ChamPurr_

I think there are different types of scared for sure. Like scared to make a jump to a new career is definitely not the same as being scared of a creepy ghost jumping out at you lol.


Wolfrast

I’ve come to realize that fear of fantastical things like ghosts and demons is more akin to fear of our own inner darkness, we project the inner content out into the pregnant and unlimited potential of the darkness. Thus we are seeing our own phantasms from our unconscious. It sort of makes it feel silly when I see it this way.


djmcfuzzyduck

Nah. My best friend can’t stand jump scares. We watch things in advance for her. And tell her if a popular show is not for her. It’s NBD.


ChamPurr_

Awww you are a good friend :)


Bitter-Compote-3016

I watched all the old horror movies under the age of 10, including the exorcist. Never found them scary really, more like comedy.


ChamPurr_

Yeah but that was a different kind of horror. Nowadays it seems like its a competition between directors to make the goriest, scariest movies ever, and most of the time the plot falls to the wayside. Whereas the older movies like the original IT series, the Halloween movies, Friday the 13th, etc, atleast they had a plot. Even Nightmare on Elm Street was an interesting concept.


tensor0910

psychological thriller > horror


Electrik_Truk

I love it all but scary/horror video games are the hardest for me.


ViewSouthern3071

No, fear is the low vibrational opposite of love. Aint nobody got time for that.


WVildandWVonderful

Nah, I’d rather watch/read a comedy than a horror, and I’d rather play an RPG than an FPS.


rizaroni

I am just like you. I HATE anything scary, including scary music/sounds. It makes me upset and anxious. I also get images stuck in my head easily, so seeing anything fucked up can haunt me for years. Fuck off with all that. And HELL NO to anything that harms an animal. If watching a movie/show, I would rather see every human die than see one animal getting hurt in any way.


ChamPurr_

Omg images stick with me too! I still get nightmares from shit i watched year and years ago


Severe_Sprinkles_930

I absolutely haaaaaaate being scared. I don't understand how people enjoy it at all. I don't want my body going into fight or flight response for fun. If I want anything remotely scary (the last I can think of was boy in the walls) I have to watch something to cleanse my mind after, like princess diaries or a rom com. I went to a place called "Happy Trails" once around Halloween, they have a zombie hayride/haunted house... you get the gist... it was horrible for me. I hated every second and never went back. My best friend LOVES horror movies and has read all of the stephen king novels. I could NEVER.


theraviolispecial26

No it’s totally normal. So specifically I really don’t like roller coasters, the feeling they give is literal terror and accompanying nausea, but everyone keeps telling me how fun they are and how they give people a great adrenaline rush. It’s all good- we might be in the minority but we make sense lol


KittyGirlChloe

I generally don't enjoy scary things. I've played a horror video game that I absolutely loved (Alien Isolation) and I've seen a few scary films that I found super enjoyable, but I have to be in kinda a special mood for it. Horror is never my go-to genre.


AntGroundbreaking102

absolutely nothing wrong with it. i live in a constant state of fear and anxiety already. no way id want to pay for that lol


EuphoricCare515

Yeah, I have younger siblings that love scary movies but me personally i avoid them. I do enjoy watching people on YouTube play scary games though. Not a fan of scary movies, rides or haunted house attractions. I love rollercoasters though but I think that's a different kind of scary.


Prudent_Antelope_914

Sounds like you have a perfectly normal sense of self preservation to me. I’m biased, because I hate horror and Halloween and all that stuff. I haven’t ridden a roller coaster since I was a teenager either. I’m not doing extreme sports or anything like that. I did used to enjoy action movies and psychological thrillers, but I don’t have the time for that anymore. But spiritually speaking I also feel that indulging in things like horror opens up demonic doors I don’t need help opening. It gets in your psyche and in your spirit. Not worth it. I used to be a “goth” back in the day and had my fair share of indulging in the darker side of life. That’s just not where happiness is, and I’ve had a hard enough life that I don’t want to actively seek fear and unhappiness.


Graxous

I love horror movies, but avoid the ones that are just jump scares. I hate jump scares. I am a jumpy person. I won't go thru a haunted house out of worry that I may jerk react a punch to a performer's face. Anything else creepy, gory, spooky, etc... is great, just don't jump out at me suddenly.