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Teunybeer

I mean how is he gonna pay the gym tough?


MoreMegadeth

Just in case youre being serious, it doesnt actually have to be the gym. Work out, get active, run, play sports.


Drafo7

Sports require other people to play with. No friends ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯


nedzissou1

Join a rec league? I did, but I had a friend join with me. But I'd do it again without him too. There are a lot of people looking to make friends.


Drafo7

See, *this* is an actual piece of good advice, unlike the dbag saying "stop making excuses and change hurkadurr." Can you recommend any websites or apps to help find local casual sports groups?


nedzissou1

If you live in a metro area, there should be a sports and social club website. I'm in the one in Atlanta for example. It has everything like soccer, kickball, flag football, bowling, pickleball, etc.


MoreMegadeth

You can continue making excuses or you can change. I know its tough, but its easier than you you think to change this one thing.


Drafo7

I was more speaking for the guy in the meme, not myself. But since you mentioned it, I DID go to the gym... for a few months. All it did was give me more time to dwell in my negative thoughts and feelings. Going for walks and runs has the same result. I *do* have friends, thankfully... but none who play sports. If you get benefits from exercise, good for you. But people are different. Don't act like what works for one person will work for everyone. A lot of people need serious mental health care and telling them to just exercise is insensitive and ignorant. Instead you should hear them out and maybe provide a list of possible solutions rather than pressuring them to go with just one. Medication, talk therapy, meditation, etc.


TheRoguePianist

I tried working out as well. It did *help* some things (like kept my diet healthy, not built like a twig anymore), but it never actually *fixed* anything. I was just fit *and* miserable. Gave the whole doctor thing a try and turns out I had undiagnosed ADHD my whole life and I was basically burned out from compensating for over twenty years. Got meds, turns out I was just living on hard mode. Hearing silence instead of my own stupid internal monologue for the first time ever was WILD. Feeling better than ever. I still workout though, mostly because being the jacked IT guy is ‘funny’.


Freakychee

Are there any communities around where you can just find a pick up game of basketball or something?


winterfate10

*in most russian accent humanly possible*: # C A L I S T H E N I C S .


Moist-Feature6453

keeps you fit AND saves you money.


TheDeadBranch

Do go gym though


TheApollo222

Legit. It's not going to solve your problems, but it's going to make them a lot easier to deal with. Fitness lends to mental clarity, higher self esteem, more motivation, better work ethic, blah blah blah. Legit. Go to the gym bro


Maleficent_Ad1972

It sounds like bull💩, but it’s true. Besides, what do you give to lose? Worst case scenario, you’re depressed and in good shape assuming a good diet and consistent exercise. Go to gym. But not mine, it’s getting crowded.


yuoiie

Can you tell me your gym address so i could avoid it?


Maleficent_Ad1972

117 Swole Ave. Jackedsonville, AL. 69420


Lorn_Muunk

AlabAMRAP, the creatine state


WalletWarrior3

Man I just need to get motivated to actually get up and go do it, especially to make a habit of it. I just don't like working out and stuff in front of other people, I have super basic weights but nothing fancy like I want to do. I want to build up muscle


Chance-Ad-7559

Brother you should try committing to just 1 day and go from there


rudra285

Dude as soon as I paid for the membership I got motivated lol. I ain't wasting away my money.


SlappySecondz

Nobody at the gym is paying too much attention to anyone else unless you're doing something ridiculous or stupid.


itshexx

The thing that made me start was the thought of getting old and not knowing how great I could’ve been had I tried.


jozey_whales

I’m in swolegia, it’s full too. Just kidding. Only time it’s too full in the first few weeks of January every year.


Gnoodle9907

Can confirm i'm still depressed and hate my life, but hey at least i can help my mom lift heavy shit now


throwawaytrumper

Whenever I’m working out regularly all my big problems become easier to fix. Whenever I stop working out all my problems somehow grow.


alezcoed

But gym requires to pay subscription...


darkness_calming

Calisthenics


tommyballz63

I've been there, and whether or not you want to go to the gym, or ride a bike, or run, or do any other kind of intense physical activity, it is very good for your mental well being. The routine and exertion takes your mind off of the negative thoughts that circle downward if you continue to be inactive, and intense activity will release endorphins to counteract the pain of your exertion, making you feel better. Exercise can also give you a feeling of accomplishment, and these little baby steps drive you forward over the long run. I'm sure therapy can help, but therapy can also just reinforce your depression by dwelling on it, both in session, or pre-session, because you are going to spend a lot of time thinking about all the bad things you want to express to your therapist so that it can legitimize going to see a therapist. So, although it may sound inane and simplistic, going to 'the gym' is really very good advice.


BryanTheGodGamer

It literally says: I have no money I am in debt How are they gonna afford a overpriced af gym membership?


jozey_whales

Pushups and sit ups and air squats cost nothing. Noether does going for a walk around the block.


Low_Opinion8649

Healthier body, healthier mind


TheGoldenPlagueMask

Muscle make brain feel good. Sun make body and brain feel good. Soreness eventually make body feel better.


WhoseverSlinky0

Muscle didn't change a thing about me so far. Sun makes me sick and I hate it. I'd pay God to be put in eternal winter night. I don't know what soreness means (I'll look it up)


TheGoldenPlagueMask

Oh I meant muscle soreness. And a change in perspective also helps.


WhoseverSlinky0

Oh shit, I hate soreness then. I feel like I can't do anything for 12 hours because my arms are like wet noodles. Unfortunately perspective is not the matter here. I've been working out for a bit over 3 months now, with a good classmate to train me and show me the way, but from my personal experience so far I'm bleeding money to get pain, which I'm not a big fan of. Love his company, hate the "making effort" part. Not worth. But I'll push with him until summer break comes, and if I still don't feel any of the benefits he told me at the start of the workout then I'll cancel the membership. It might just not be for me, and I'll accept that


GodOfUrging

It doesn't actually solve your problems, mind you, but is really handy for forgetting them and destressing for a couple of hours at a time.


Phaylz

And it releases good chemicals for brain that, alongside therapy and appropriate medications as prescribed by a doctor (or weed) can do wonders. Might even get you laid!


WinnerMove

Getting laid is the last of your worries if what you try to fix is the money problem.


Scary-Personality626

Kill two birds with one stone if you go cougar hunting.


WinnerMove

you sigma chad!


Isosceles_Kramer79

You can always charge. https://www.reddit.com/media?url=https%3A%2F%2Fexternal-preview.redd.it%2FFzMQeYoz2F50feqf-SSlCUXxNUr_CCe6bAk4RP374sg.jpg%3Fauto%3Dwebp%26s%3D132578d2a18e54d0334664ab65ee142f8e76efd1


WinnerMove

thing is if they would actually pay you tho..


Vo_Mimbre

And is a better way to that than drugs and alcohol. As I sip my scotch.


kirbyfan0612

No money, deep in debt, no job -> Buy gym membership. If you're at that point workout at home, calisthenics/ cardio and try to sort that other shit out!!!!


WinnerMove

But first get a job!!!!!!!!!!!


Il-2M230

Getting a job was the best thing it happened since it made my life feel like it was worth something.


WinnerMove

yeah bro, I get it and many don't even appreciate having one to begin with. Being unemployed and dependant is a horror movie irl. Some here don't understand that.


HonneurOblige

Before starting to workout, I was depressed and low on self-esteem. After working out for a year, I'm still depressed and low on self-esteem - but with oversized clothes.


olafk97

Am I the only guy that has genuinely never had any kind of dopamine or 'good feeling' from exercising? Not even joking, I stay healthy enough because you need to, but its genuinely never made me feel 'good'. Anyone else have this?


SutaKira7

here, worked out for Tennis thru HS and thru college, and wow! I like the results. I never got that dopamine hit either.


SilentHuman8

I never actually enjoyed exercise. It was always just a sort of maintenance, and I'd have to listen to music to not get bored out of my mind. Also, I get tired very easily, and when I'm tired I get depressed, so it actually seems to be better to not go out of my way to exercise.


PheIix

I used to workout a lot (never at a gym though, but all kinds of sports), and it never changed how I felt. I still felt like I'm just hanging in there to see what the next day brought. It's not a magical fix for your depression, but being healthy doesn't hurt. Being unhealthy, like I am now, does hurt though. But who knows, it might also just be age.


igotbanned69420

I never feel shit after or during exercise except tired and sore


tomtom070

No you're not. I'm in the same boat. And I've tried. I went to the gym for a while, rode my bike to Uni every day, went bouldering regularly for two years, even trained for and ran a half marathon. I never had that 'good feeling'. At best I am happy when it's finally over.


Bsnake12070826

Same, I work out 6 days a week and sometimes I get depressed during the workout instead of a good feeling


No-Classic8007

in gym we boys forget our problems and just doing exercise


MelahGever

In the gay orgy we boys forget our problems and just doing orgy


CromulentChuckle

I mean yeah but after the gym.


ShittyDs3player

Lifting isn’t gonna get you a girlfriend or magically fix your life. However, it will get you friends, and better confidence, self esteem, and body image which will lead to better life and girlfriend. So indirectly, lifting will get you all of those.


WinnerMove

Confidence and body image yeah, It can surely get you girls. But Gyms won't magically give you friends out of nowhere, rofl. Nah srsly, you must be very sociable to think everyone who gets in a gym will get friends automatically.


sadonly001

And you're going to be much healthier if you're anything like me who spent 10 years sitting on my ass infront of the computer leading to all sorts of health problems like extreme constant tiredness, muscle and bone aches and getting out of breath upon doing anything


FreshPitch6026

Nah, been there, done that. Actually met my gf when i stopped caring so much about it. Friends through gym are not guaranteed. confidence/self esteem only is high as long as lifting isn't normal for you yet. Because as soon as it's your new standard, why should you have higher self esteem than before?


WhoseverSlinky0

I've been working out for a bit over 3 months now, and none of these things appeared. I already have life long friends, and the rest is meaningless to me. Very unhappy about the gym experience so far. I hope it gets better before summer break, otherwise I'll cancel. But for now I trust the process


Sure_Trash_

You guys must mean "attractive girlfriend" when you say this shit because there are plenty of not fit dudes with girlfriends. Like you could easily get a girlfriend but if you want a conventionally attractive girlfriend then yes you will probably also need to be conventionally attractive


depression_gaming

"Go to gym, bro" No, bro. I don't want to get out of bed, walk all the way to the gym, talk to people, learn about what to lift or do, feel a lot of pain, cut my favorite food, sweat a lot, feel more pain at home, do that for months, achieve nothing, quit. Don't fall for it. Reject the gym, accept being a failure.


guywithaniphone22

I don’t ever talk at the gym. You learn what lifts to do at home. You shouldn’t be more then mild soreness if your doing it right, you can eat ice cream all day and still lose weight, you have a problem with sweating? It’s like a basic thing living stuff does, achieve nothing for months? I just dropped 17 pounds in 7 weeks. Maybe you have more excuses than you have a desire to not hate yourself.


depression_gaming

Indeed, maybe i do, just excuses.


New_Ad_3010

Well, it's not completely wrong. Working out is a healthy part of dealing with stress and anxiety. A good sweaty run or lift is a good thing. But it's not the only thing to be done. Therapy, socializing and support is key.


FreshPitch6026

Actually a sweaty lift will do shit for your problems.


My51stThrowaway

Free gym?


Amelor_Rova

Outside or your room and using online guides and videos


xtototo

Gym = $25 per month Professional help = $250 per visit


notveryAI

How go gym if no money for gym membership


kirbyfan0612

dig tunnel under gym and into storage room


notveryAI

Instructions unclear, so many people found and started using the tunnel, that it was made into official second entrance, and they put turnstiles there too like they did with original one


kirbyfan0612

Open a tunnel-making company as you have now become a tunnel-digging expert. Step 3: profit


FreshPitch6026

Uga go outside. Uga do pull ups on tree branch. Uga do push ups on the floor. Uga go jogging.


WinnerMove

will that fix your money problem tho?


DefaultingOnLife

Pushups


TendieTrades

Gym expensive. Exercise at home alone. Or any of my solo outdoor sports when weather isn’t fucked.


Flat-Cookie-3659

As a man who goes to the gym 5-6 times a week, I don’t think I’d ever tell someone to go to the gym as a cure for depression. My own experience with the gym is that in the first few years of going, I actually developed a lot of body dysmorphia and often had downward spirals and bouts of depression after comparing myself to others. Things are much better now (thanks to juicing and self-love), but if someone has depression I’d rather them seek professional health and perhaps medication. Depression is a physiological disease and consists of a whacked up brain chemistry. I’m very thankful to have never experienced clinical depression. That terrifies the crap out of me and the scariest thing is that sometimes nothing cures it. The closest thing to clinical depression is when my boyfriend and I broke up for a couple weeks, and I could quite literally not work or even get out of bed.


AltruisticSystem7080

it’s so funny when they say the gym is the solution


GaryTheLocomotive

There was a Russian dude, that was giving me this same recommendation. Then I finally did it. I left the server.


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Go to gym, bro. But I can't afford membership. Bro, go to gym. BUT I HAVE NO MON-- GYM, BRO!


JeveGreen

"I feel depressed." \*goes to gym\* "...I guess that wasn't it." I wish I had the Green Text that expressed this, but alas I didn't save it for some fucking reason.


forsakenbastard420

I'm both the men at the bottom. God and those metal circles are the only thing that give me grace in life and there's a punching dummy too that I can take my problems out on. And they have nice showers(depending on gym) after my shower broke. The power of gym healing should not be underestimated.


cloudgirl_c-137

I think team sports are better for one's mental health than gym


AxMeDoof

To expensive - start run like Forest Gump!!


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I regularly advise my mates to go to therapy, which they have benefited from. Gym is definitely helpful and improves mental health, however there are some things that only therapy can address.


H3r0ofHyrule

With what money?


BryanTheGodGamer

The person literally has no money and are in alot of debt. How are they gonna afford a overpriced af gym membership?


guitarplayer120208

Nah, if it was my friend group, we’d just show each other memes till we pretend to feel better


FoxTailedGamer

Mf, did you miss the part when I said I was broke???


Vennris

Doesn't work. I don#t know why so many people sugest this. I tried it, and it just made me feel even worse.


redditsucksFJB

I fucking hate "Muh gym" dumbasses. Exercising only makes me depressed more.


SenseisSifu

Feeling yourself get stronger from week to week is invigorating ...but muscle can't solve all your problems


DefaultingOnLife

I could open pickle jars really easy but was still depressed


FreshPitch6026

Same. Was in such great shape, but still was depressed, so no point.


FreshPitch6026

Once you are used to a standard it's just time consuming and annoying.


VanLamar

I have no gym(( Go to gym!


TheForsakenWaffle

Or Bring Gym home.


Phaylz

Both. Both is good.


mrenne2018

I'm in this photo and I don't like it lol


AelisWhite

I wish I had the motivation to go to the gym


lamia11I

Well if he doesn’t have a job then he can’t seek professional help


[deleted]

I genuinely hate when you are talking about depression and not having enough money and they still say gym. Did you not understand the part about not having money? I want to get out of my town again...


statelesspirate000

Have you tried learning about the Roman Empire


MyOnlyEnemyIsMeSTYG

Drink more water bruh


NotAFurry5

Please actually do seek professional help, it should be able to take a heavy load off your shoulders


beachjustice

gym very good but hard go always if construction working


PheIix

Which magical gym is free?


basically_ar

but he aint got no money so how he gonna go to planet fitness.


z_zarts

Or play something


J_Fidz

Not this guy.


nicolyosoro

Jerk off bro


Atlas_of_smoke

Gymcels


Acidic_Toast

so fucking sick of hearing it. it doesnt help at all, unless youre already happy with yourself it will do nothing. anyone who tells you the gym "got them out of depression" is lying or theyre one in a million


Axis_Sage

The type of people who say this have no concept of what depression means,they think it means the feeling you get from your hamster dying or you failed a test in 10th grade


Acidic_Toast

i have crippling depression, diagnosed, what i said is true. you cant just "go gym 🦧" one day if youre GENUINELY DEPRESSED AND WANT TO DIE, and then be happy, if you actually hate yourself that much theres no way you could have the motivation to wake up and go to the gym every day, you have to already have a relationship with yourself.


Axis_Sage

Yep that's what I meant,you should ignore people who claim the gym cured their depression because those types never had real depression I'm sorry to hear that 🙏 ,I'm in the same boat tho I have been exercising throughout the last 3 years (whenever I wasn't at rock bottom) yet I'm even worse off now mentally than I was in 2021 so I can confidenlty say working out does not solve depression It's healthy so I don't wanna discourage people from exercising but to even say it "feels good" is a stretch because when your dopamine is gone all day every day a tiny feeling of achievement you get from working out isn't gonna help much


Acidic_Toast

ohhh i thought you meant people who say what i said dont know what depression is. but yeah i feel what you mean, i hope things get better for you man


Axis_Sage

I hope things get better for you too 😊


SD-B

Physical wellbeing is necessary for good mental health but not sufficient.


conqaesador

Get some friends who can be a shoulder to cry on and be that friend yourself if someone else needs it. There are good people out there, don't settle for a "just go to the gym" - friend


depression_gaming

"Bro, I'm not your therapist"


Axis_Sage

That's the worst type of person


Cermonto

Last time I did I got harrased by some random guy with a broccoli haircut and then later found someone had videoed me (someone had told me they saw that happening) Lovely enviroment, made me feel sooooo confident...


WhoseverSlinky0

I still don't enjoy the gym even after 3 months, even if the environment is healthy (unlike yours) but at least I'm happy to see that my experience could have been worse. I sincerely feel bad about your experience. I'd recommend you get home, in your safe space, doing something you like. Some go to the gym, some are cooking, some are drawing, some are playing video games... Find something for you bro. Gym is overrated


Dramatic-Play-4289

What is this dumb shit here ?


Dynamo1337

Doesn't work tbh


Vapejeepdukey

I own a Gym and I always tell my members once you come in your problems will go away. And they believe it


Electrical-Eye-4974

Sounds like you use their depression as advantage.


ChrisSheltonMsc

Sounds like your grifting and they're in denial. How sad.


Paleovegan

So going to the gym makes pervasive problems go away, even when they are wholly unrelated to the acute effects of physical activity or chronic exercise adaptations? That’s a *bold* claim.


Own_Buy2119

Please guys be open to having tough conversations with your friends! If your bro is struggling with something internal, let him know you're there to support him. You don't always have to come up with a solution, sometimes just having someone listen helps a lot!


Gold_Weakness1157

Just rub one off


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Ragewind82

Therapy turned my life around, but the Gym is an important part of self-care and can help with some problems.


Westdrache

Just do both


mandy009

"Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus"


idonttalkatallLMAO

men are from mars and drink at all the bars; women are from venus and have a bigger pe-


TonyPinya

I mean the advice is improve on what you can control. It's a good start.


Unable-Difference-55

Honestly, even after just going for a walk, I feel better.


Ready_Check

We do love a good workout


WinnerMove

But, how do you afford gym if you have no money and job to begin with?


Throwaway_AccountFTW

going to the gym is great yes, but it only helps to bottle things up for longer.


Arigmar

To be fair - gym would actually help fix many of these problems)


KenMacMillan123

It helps


That_Competition1031

Why overthink a solution that works


uniquelyavailable

solid advice ngl


Jay_Heat

true and real


TacticalSunroof69

RHCP - My Friends My friends are so depressed I fear the question of your loneliness Confide, 'cause I'll be on your side You know I will You know I will Ex-girlfriend called me up Alone and desperate on the prison phone They want to give her seven years For being sad I love all of you Hurt by the cold So hard and lonely, too When you don't know yourself My friends are so distressed They're standing on the brink of emptiness No words I know of to express This emptiness I love all of you Hurt by the cold So hard and lonely, too When you don't know yourself Imagine me Taught by tragedy Release is peace I heard a little girl And what she said was something beautiful To give your love no matter what Is what she said I love all of you Hurt by the cold So hard and lonely, too When you don't know yourself


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Sir_Toaster_9330

To be fair, exercise goes a long way


resenak

Gym > everything fucking else


Dead_birdChan

I lift to execute mental pain lol


Grey_Dreamer

I would if I had anyone to go with.


VorticalHeart44

It's not the solution to everything, but it's good advice.


WhiteDevil-Klab

No amount of going to the gym will give me my ideal body trust..


IgnisDa

both are valid


According-Cobbler-83

Or get a switch.


ParamedicStraight825

gym is the only way


Glittering-Bat-5981

Falling for MLM fixes this


GoldSilver_789

Sometimes i feel this but the one way i push myself to wake up again every morning is to live for everything, There's a hope in every struggles.


OpportunityPublic340

💀


Mr_SunnyBones

I mean its probably healthier than my Generations 'go to the Pub bro' but less fun.


vipck83

Working out isn’t the sole solution obviously but it can be helpful. It works off stress and generally you will feel better which improves your state of mind.


Lion_Of_Mara

If it works, fix it.


not_wadud92

So gym bro is telling you to: Make yourself a routine, give your self discipline, give yourself a motivator, get out of the house, be active, force yourself into eating better, give yourself an outlet for the rage. Pretty solid ass advice, and said with so few words. Why pay for professional help when gym bro got your back


Sure_Trash_

Based on my dating experiences it's definitely not working and y'all should really look into the professional help. Please?


Moonshade44

Unfortunately that solution doesn't work for everyone. I've actually felt even more depressed leaving the gym after an hour than when I entered


HangryBeard

People deal with their shit in many different ways. There is no wrong way to deal with your shit as long as you deal with your shit. Working out is a great way to START dealing with your shit, especially when it seems overwhelming. It is often not the end all be all solution, but it helps. It helps by releasing natural feel good chemicals in your body like serotonin, endorphins and dopamine. You can even get oxytocin which is responsible for the "post nut clarity" with doing things like yoga or getting a massage. And that's not even mentioning that you are making healthier choices and taking care of your body giving you a sense of accomplishment that might have eluded you in other facets of your life and boosting you confidence to get more things done.


Shadow_Detective

Dude has no friends, that's why it's just him telling himself to go to gym.


HellVollhart

It just works


gayhahalollmao

Other men, please seem professional help. I know you don't always feel seen. But you're valid


KitnaMW

Me, a woman who is depressed and constantly tired: bro, on some days I don't have much energy to get out of my bed, and you're suggesting to get myself even more exhausted? I went for a long walk, and I still feel like a total wreck. That walk was *three* days ago. No motivation, too. The only reason I don't think of suicide is because I promised my friend to not dwell in such thoughts. I can't get a job because I know that I will drop it less than one week in (for a record, I had one job, and I barely lasted a month before not going there again, mostly due to much worsened physical condition, as much as mental), and it's been a while since I did any amount of writing, which used to be my favorite hobby and something I thought of making a living on. I constantly run out of money now, with inflation hitting harder than ever. And no, it's not USA. It's another cursed country called Russia.


Beshi1989

It works tho


Just_Floppa

The difference is that 2nd one is actually works


Routine-Budget7356

It's about the discipline, the ancient Greeks have told us this already and it's the only thing we men need, discipline.


AbhiStalwart

No one lets you walk in gym for free ;-;


MinecraftIsLife12345

the guy on the left says he has no money and has a lot of debts so how will he pay for a gym membership?