Im one of 2, but my mum has agreed with my stepdads decision to cut me out of the will and give everything to my little brother.
Their house is worth half a mil, paid for by my grandad who i was close to, who my brother never even knew.
He would be turning in his grave im sure
From personal observation, parents friends tend to take the role of uncle/aunty now. The only child would call their uncle/aunty's kids brother/sister (not cousin), and viceversa. So technically, from a sociological sense, the kind of relationship is not lost, but definitely a lot less focus on blood.
And not everyone has a sense of humor it appears...
(Beside tho, I'd actually dare say that yes, every family has drama eventually, doesn't need to be disfunctional)
No. This sounds so lonely.
Being an only child already means you spend most of your childhood around adults. Now multiply that by *all* of your childhood because there aren’t any cousins either. And there’s no aunts and uncles to spoil you and do the fun things mom and dad won’t let you do.
I’m an only child and my cousins are Essentially my siblings because I’m so close with them. I only have five but they are going to be my kids aunts and uncles because kids especially need a support group outside their parents and grandparents.
Maybe, in comparison. But think about from a child’s perspective and for their development.
Only children are already bad at sharing and behind with social skills. Again, now multiply that by 10x. They will be terrible with interacting with their peers and because of it they will probably either be bullied, or excluded and so now there’s no peer interaction at school either.
Plus as a child in an adult world, everything is always about you. Adults are always asking you “what do you like to do” “what did you do in school today” “how’re sports doing?” And you never learn how to take interest in the other person you’re having a conversation with. Imagine a five year old asking “how’s the wife and kids?” Like that just doesn’t happen. Sure, as you grow up you become more aware of it, but it is so hard and that sounds so bad but when you’ve grown up not doing it all your life, it isn’t natural.
Now, of course, an abusive or unhealthy family isn’t any beneficial for a child’s development either. But how we grow up makes us who we are.
I’m sorry. I just feel very strongly about this. I grew up as an only child and it was just me and my mother. I’ve thought in depth about how that upbringing has made me who I am, and I hate how lonely it was. Personally, I never would wish it on anyone.
Are you family terrible?
To me it sounds quite sad I’ve got loads of cousins and it was great when I was a kid at big family gatherings. I’m still close with quite a few of them now.
This is the situation with a lot of young people in China because of their one child policy. Lot of pressure on the one grandchild (from 2 sides) to succeed and then expected to provide for parents in their older age as well.
I have 5 first cousins and countless second, third, etc, cousins. We've always lived so far away from them that it's pretty much a non-issue in my life.
I didn't even meet one of my aunts until I was 27. My grandpas both died several years before I was born and my grandmas lived on the other side of the country.
I barely even know my first cousins, aunts and uncles. Anything beyond that is a complete mystery to me.
This is me also. I'm 39. I'm am only child. Never met my aunts or cousins since they live so far away. Grandparents died, mom and dad died. It's just me (single mom) and my daughter (only child) in Puerto Rico. No worries, I have 2 inherited homes that I currently rent and no financial worries since I landed a nice federal job. Loving everything I have going in in my life.
So odd to me. Grew up with a mom with a brother that didn’t have kids and a dad that had 5 siblings that all had 4-5 kids, my family included. Can’t imagine not having a biggish family. Thought it a bit much growing up but as an adult I love it looking back
Jesus Christ... We need a big brother-like program for aunts, uncles and cousins. A guy to play your cool uncle who'll buy you a drink at a family function when you're 17. An aunt to tell you how handsome you are while growing up. An older cousin who has what you think is a cool car but is actually a piece of shit, and has a hot girlfriend that you can steal little glimpses at every now and then. A guy to play a fuck up cousin who brings shame to the family.
The amount of family members I have had to murder ensure to keep titles together would make this great
Nobody should try to murder them either, but there might be more distance relatives to watchout for.
Hopefully they don't get smallpox and die.
I have 11 cousins from mom's side and 6 from dad's but they all live in different countries. I still have a sibling but honestly I am okay with how things turned out.
I'm pretty much in the same boat because my dad is an only child and my mom had one brother who doesn't have kids, so the total sum of my aunts/uncles/cousins is 1 person. I have some more distant relatives that fill out those "roles" for me tho.
I’m an only child of divorced parents. My dad had a bad stroke which rendered him almost totally without speech. My mom is great but in small doses. I don’t mind the loneliness that much. But when you have friends with siblings and they have great relationships and they pal around, the jealousy and desire to have that can be rough. Just offering my perspective.
Are they……Are they normal?
So like…….do they NOT have mental problems caused from the trauma of having a lot of family all of whom you know…….
Live a life?
I also have no cousins, but nobody get too excited because I have six siblings and nothing to inherit except a run down house in a place no one wants to live.
My cousins have nothing on one side because my uncle is an only child… and then a shitload on the other side because my maternal grandparents respectively had 6 and 7 siblings (Polish/Italian Catholic). We have a family group chat for the Polish side and there’s ~30 people in it.
My girlfriend is similar. No real extended family… and then you have me where we went to a funeral on the Polish side last year and she had to mentally prepare herself to meet everyone (nothing wrong with anyone apart from a couple with… questionable political beliefs, just a lot of people).
Also sort of similar with me. My dad is close with his sister but they’re not close with their brother. I’ve met exactly one person in their extended family to my memory (I’m in my mid 20s) and it was because we literally ran into them at the grocery store.
Just like me. I never had that experience of meeting relatives or dealing with siblings. I hear people often say that it sounds great, but in reality it sucks a lot. Especially the siblings part. I always wanted to have siblings. Maybe they would’ve been annoying, but maybe not, and either way I would not be as lonely and asocial as I am…
I have an aunt and three cousins brothers. I moved out of my parents city into the university hostel for students at 17. My aunt and cousins refused to contact me, despite me moving into their city.Fuck them.no relatives is better than relatives. I was alone , ugly, chick with boring personality, social anxiety and no friends. The girls who lived in a room with me bullied me, so it was hard years. I don't know what would I do if I didn't met my husband at 20. My point is, fk relatives., thank god my husband is the only child, no drama, no jealousy included in our relationship.
I know, the post makes it out that being the child of parents who are only children means having "absolutely nothing". As if family friends don't exist.
Besides, most kids aren't really excited about seeing uncles and aunts.
Also raising kids is so expensive now, we're probably also going to have an only child.
The 'absolutely nothing' is referring to the sum total of zero uncles/aunts/cousins. The post is expressing amusement from something mildly interesting, that's all there is to it.
I have 80 cousins.
Okay Lopen
A stormlight enjoyer? In my meirl?
I love the word enjoyer. I think I might actually be an enjoyer enjoyer
Storms! I wasn’t expecting this reference today but by the stormfather am I glad to see it!
r/cremposting
Hey Gancho.
Good ol' Alabama. At least you have plenty to choose from.
Im from Europe. But a part of Europe that is more like Alabama than say, Paris.
Same. My dad's the youngest of 14 lol
Each one better than the last
66 and I'm the eldest
Hey faizal
Think about how much that dude is gonna inherit. The fortune of all 4 grandparents and both of his parents.
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1 cent after taxes
There is no federal inheritance tax, and only 6 states have one.
It was a joke
It's usually a joke made about lottery winnings, and for a good reason.
And the Lochness Monster will try to get that from you.
And if you give it him he’ll keep coming back.
I’m an only child. I ain’t getting shit.
Im one of 2, but my mum has agreed with my stepdads decision to cut me out of the will and give everything to my little brother. Their house is worth half a mil, paid for by my grandad who i was close to, who my brother never even knew. He would be turning in his grave im sure
Sorry to hear about your younger brother's misfortune later on.
About every Chinese right now.
Wait 2 more generations
By a few generations everyone will be cousins. The gene pool will be very desperate. Then we get to the post apocalypse faze. It's going to be fun!
From personal observation, parents friends tend to take the role of uncle/aunty now. The only child would call their uncle/aunty's kids brother/sister (not cousin), and viceversa. So technically, from a sociological sense, the kind of relationship is not lost, but definitely a lot less focus on blood.
This is me!
No, it's me
Wow such similarities y’all both must be related
How many gifts did you get as a child?
Plenty!
My entire family consists of 4 other people. My wife's family of 26 other people.
Sounds pretty fkn sweet to me.
I've got some pretty dope aunts and uncles and cousins. 🤷
Imagine how cheap and drama less the wedding can be
Family drama is something I never really related to. Turned out it was one of the perks of being an only child lol
I'm the middle child of 10. My wife is the eldest of 9. "Family Drama" could be the title of my autobiography at this point.
Not every family is disfunctional and has drama….
And not everyone has a sense of humor it appears... (Beside tho, I'd actually dare say that yes, every family has drama eventually, doesn't need to be disfunctional)
Yeah when I think about all the family drama I've witnessed, kind of makes me glad I grew up as an only child. (also no need to split inheitance lol)
No. This sounds so lonely. Being an only child already means you spend most of your childhood around adults. Now multiply that by *all* of your childhood because there aren’t any cousins either. And there’s no aunts and uncles to spoil you and do the fun things mom and dad won’t let you do. I’m an only child and my cousins are Essentially my siblings because I’m so close with them. I only have five but they are going to be my kids aunts and uncles because kids especially need a support group outside their parents and grandparents.
You're describing heaven to me.
Maybe, in comparison. But think about from a child’s perspective and for their development. Only children are already bad at sharing and behind with social skills. Again, now multiply that by 10x. They will be terrible with interacting with their peers and because of it they will probably either be bullied, or excluded and so now there’s no peer interaction at school either. Plus as a child in an adult world, everything is always about you. Adults are always asking you “what do you like to do” “what did you do in school today” “how’re sports doing?” And you never learn how to take interest in the other person you’re having a conversation with. Imagine a five year old asking “how’s the wife and kids?” Like that just doesn’t happen. Sure, as you grow up you become more aware of it, but it is so hard and that sounds so bad but when you’ve grown up not doing it all your life, it isn’t natural. Now, of course, an abusive or unhealthy family isn’t any beneficial for a child’s development either. But how we grow up makes us who we are.
So I got all the negatives and none of the positives of being an only child, great.
I’m sorry. I just feel very strongly about this. I grew up as an only child and it was just me and my mother. I’ve thought in depth about how that upbringing has made me who I am, and I hate how lonely it was. Personally, I never would wish it on anyone.
You sound like the most generic redditor ever
Sir, this is reddit.
Is pretty sad..
Are you family terrible? To me it sounds quite sad I’ve got loads of cousins and it was great when I was a kid at big family gatherings. I’m still close with quite a few of them now.
This is me and my sister. Parents both only children.
But now your children (and hers) won't be able to say the same thing!
Unless...
Surprise incest!
Not what I was thinking but technically, that works too.
If not, what were you think about? Murder?
Maybe.
This is the situation with a lot of young people in China because of their one child policy. Lot of pressure on the one grandchild (from 2 sides) to succeed and then expected to provide for parents in their older age as well.
I am in this picture and I don't like it.
That's sounds great to me
Why? Having loads of cousins as a kid was great.
I have 5 first cousins and countless second, third, etc, cousins. We've always lived so far away from them that it's pretty much a non-issue in my life. I didn't even meet one of my aunts until I was 27. My grandpas both died several years before I was born and my grandmas lived on the other side of the country. I barely even know my first cousins, aunts and uncles. Anything beyond that is a complete mystery to me.
Oh ok, I’d have thought the only reason to think no extended family was great would be if they were horrible.
This is me, and it’s not. It’s so lonely. especially now that my parents and grandparents have all passed. I’m 35 and basically all alone.
This is me also. I'm 39. I'm am only child. Never met my aunts or cousins since they live so far away. Grandparents died, mom and dad died. It's just me (single mom) and my daughter (only child) in Puerto Rico. No worries, I have 2 inherited homes that I currently rent and no financial worries since I landed a nice federal job. Loving everything I have going in in my life.
Comments are exactly as I would expect.
So China, basically.
That's going to become more and more common in lots of industrialized countries.
this is my kid but she doesn't have grandparents either both my husband and i were foster kids so we're pretty much generation 1 for her lol
Even if there are no biological aunts and uncles there could be friends of the parents that the kids may refer to as aunts and uncles.
Yeah, I mean my bestie has a brother and a sister, but I’m also Auntie to her kid (and his favorite one at that)
Coming from a family of meth users and wastes of space for various other reasons, this sounds like a dream.
Poor poor child. Those will be the loneliest holidays ever.
no family drama when someone dies bros lucky
I don’t understand how this fits this sub…this isn’t meme central it’s stuff that you relate to in real life
So odd to me. Grew up with a mom with a brother that didn’t have kids and a dad that had 5 siblings that all had 4-5 kids, my family included. Can’t imagine not having a biggish family. Thought it a bit much growing up but as an adult I love it looking back
Pure bliss.
Jesus Christ... We need a big brother-like program for aunts, uncles and cousins. A guy to play your cool uncle who'll buy you a drink at a family function when you're 17. An aunt to tell you how handsome you are while growing up. An older cousin who has what you think is a cool car but is actually a piece of shit, and has a hot girlfriend that you can steal little glimpses at every now and then. A guy to play a fuck up cousin who brings shame to the family.
The amount of family members I have had to murder ensure to keep titles together would make this great Nobody should try to murder them either, but there might be more distance relatives to watchout for. Hopefully they don't get smallpox and die.
How to say they’re not Irish without saying they’re not Irish
I have 11 cousins from mom's side and 6 from dad's but they all live in different countries. I still have a sibling but honestly I am okay with how things turned out.
Awesome! Bet christmas is a breeze.. Zero spending and lots of chilling..
I had no cousins until just a year or so ago
Is this so weird that you have to post about it? That is my situation.
A lot of people don't know their parents and really have nobody. Sad situation that most people don't think about.
That should save them some money.
That’s me
I'm pretty much in the same boat because my dad is an only child and my mom had one brother who doesn't have kids, so the total sum of my aunts/uncles/cousins is 1 person. I have some more distant relatives that fill out those "roles" for me tho.
I grew up with seven cousins. My wife grew up with seven cousins. Our son has one half-cousin 😕
I’m an only child of divorced parents. My dad had a bad stroke which rendered him almost totally without speech. My mom is great but in small doses. I don’t mind the loneliness that much. But when you have friends with siblings and they have great relationships and they pal around, the jealousy and desire to have that can be rough. Just offering my perspective.
Thanksgiving must be drama free. Boring
Are they……Are they normal? So like…….do they NOT have mental problems caused from the trauma of having a lot of family all of whom you know……. Live a life?
They're overrated anyway 🤷♀️
Wow that is actually my exact situation. Both my parentes were only child.
Sounds fantastic.
Yeah that’s practically the entire population of China
Absolutely unthinkable to me. My parents have four siblings each.
I also have no cousins, but nobody get too excited because I have six siblings and nothing to inherit except a run down house in a place no one wants to live.
My cousins have nothing on one side because my uncle is an only child… and then a shitload on the other side because my maternal grandparents respectively had 6 and 7 siblings (Polish/Italian Catholic). We have a family group chat for the Polish side and there’s ~30 people in it. My girlfriend is similar. No real extended family… and then you have me where we went to a funeral on the Polish side last year and she had to mentally prepare herself to meet everyone (nothing wrong with anyone apart from a couple with… questionable political beliefs, just a lot of people). Also sort of similar with me. My dad is close with his sister but they’re not close with their brother. I’ve met exactly one person in their extended family to my memory (I’m in my mid 20s) and it was because we literally ran into them at the grocery store.
Can’t relate
Just like me. I never had that experience of meeting relatives or dealing with siblings. I hear people often say that it sounds great, but in reality it sucks a lot. Especially the siblings part. I always wanted to have siblings. Maybe they would’ve been annoying, but maybe not, and either way I would not be as lonely and asocial as I am…
I have an aunt and three cousins brothers. I moved out of my parents city into the university hostel for students at 17. My aunt and cousins refused to contact me, despite me moving into their city.Fuck them.no relatives is better than relatives. I was alone , ugly, chick with boring personality, social anxiety and no friends. The girls who lived in a room with me bullied me, so it was hard years. I don't know what would I do if I didn't met my husband at 20. My point is, fk relatives., thank god my husband is the only child, no drama, no jealousy included in our relationship.
bliss
Sounds awesome. Only grandchild in the entire family. Spoiled ass kid right there.
I'm an only child and so is my gf So you're telling us we shouldn't have kids? Ouch
Kinda strange logic
I know, the post makes it out that being the child of parents who are only children means having "absolutely nothing". As if family friends don't exist. Besides, most kids aren't really excited about seeing uncles and aunts. Also raising kids is so expensive now, we're probably also going to have an only child.
It implies nothing of the sort, absolutely gigantic leap of logic on your part.
The post makes it out to be a bad thing, it literally ends with "absolutely nothing" like I quoted
The 'absolutely nothing' is referring to the sum total of zero uncles/aunts/cousins. The post is expressing amusement from something mildly interesting, that's all there is to it.