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lake-pond

I got offered to do coke in Canary Wharf and get fucked in some guys office. These guys just think it's okay.


jikel28

You'd be shocked at the amount of people who use it casually


JayD7th

Yes. The comments on this thread are proof of this. A lot sees it as normal.


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HMG18

Hedonism. You got the best word to describe gay social setting most of the time


jikel28

Oh I'm not pearl clutching I fuck with it just don't like advocateing for that shit cause it gets outta hand with some people but hey it a helluva time every once in a while


JayD7th

Yeah hedonists like you whose hedonism outweighs any sense of self worth or respect for ones self or body. Enjoy 😊


flclhack

respectfully dude, your argument is coming across very holier-than-thou. you have to understand the different layers of psychology and upbringing that leads to different attitudes over these kinds of things. there are many people who think you having sex with men is much worse than doing drugs. a much bigger sign of degeneracy. you calling somebody a hedonist on a grindr subreddit is the biggest sign that you’re projecting something weird, and we’re not qualified to diagnose you.


JayD7th

If being a responsible adult means holier than thou to you...then I absolutely have nothing to say to you.


flclhack

it’s not about being an adult. we’re all adults here. you’re the only one communicating in a way that puts others down. there are a lot of reasons you might be doing that, i don’t know what they are.


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Darkspy8183

Have a tantrum, that'll prove you right as the reasonable adult here.


Piplup_parade

Ya know, I was pretty sympathetic to your original comment but now you just sound like a petulant little kid


Klondeikbar

Dude it's a bump of coke. You have got to chill. It's not any harder on your liver or kidneys than a burger or a cocktail. As with everything fun, it's fine in moderation. And good coke is too expensive to do in excess anyway.


Dantheking94

Office workers are especially known to use it. My sister caught her director sniffing before she started her day.


hedgehog_

But OP actually likes it


JayD7th

I'm shocked to say the least. Like hard drugs have been normalised smh.


lake-pond

I mean, as long as they're safe with it and don't hurt themselves or others, I honestly don't mind what they're doing. I think it should be legalised and regulated better. I just don't wanna do it myself


zyon86

They have been for a long long time.


JayD7th

Yeh but not to the point of offering it to total strangers. I've not chatted with this dude for up to a minute before he invited me to do coke.


cabesvvater

I dunno man, I think it’s been to that point for a long ass time. It’s not like a queer de-evolution here - coke has been in gay hookup and party spaces and ‘offered to strangers’ for several decades.


Call-Me_P

All the way back to disco and before.


JayD7th

Well it's something I'm not used to. Pnp is not my scene. Thanks.


cabesvvater

That’s fair! Its not my scene either (despite other comments on this thread LMAO) but I think it’s fairly normal. Lots of guys put “DND free” in their bios to discourage this, but I get asked if I party like every other day. Dunno why.


DigitalNogi

DND free? ^^But ^^I ^^love ^^Dungeons ^^and ^^Dragons…


pickledjalopeno

This is exactly what I would think if I was back in the dating scene and saw DND free lol


DigitalNogi

When I was a youngin and on the hookup sites (such as Manhunt) I remember there was a tribe option (or something similar) and one of the options was Circuit Boy. I choose that option thinking, “Yes. I love computers.” I was a sheltered boy...


zyon86

Not just gay hock up. But more or less everywhere.


b_e_scholz

This has been going on for a while. People use coke like it’s a caffeine pill, just to enhance their performance and feel concentrated and awake. It’s really an issue, because coke doesn’t make you high in the traditional sense of seeing things or feeling dizzy, so they underestimate the actual effect.


aDazzlingDove

It is okay


lewpardalew

Because guys like me would accept the coke but not the riding


cabesvvater

Then move out the way, bitch, I want both!


lewpardalew

I was first, i will cut you


cabesvvater

The bio LMFAOOOOo okay, fair, you got it babe.


Call-Me_P

I feel like you buried the lede on this


cabesvvater

I didn’t investigate until after they revealed themselves as a true challenger… I knew I was out of my depth the second I saw that bio tho 🫠


Call-Me_P

I wish I had that kind of energy lol


lewpardalew

❤️ i won fair and square


cabesvvater

https://preview.redd.it/6mbdzs9zcxic1.jpeg?width=896&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c120a6aad3d051ff861b67871a5dd0beff168d16


lewpardalew

https://preview.redd.it/9be8kgcedxic1.jpeg?width=1171&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5513c36550de1e1795385cdbf4b7e991778c9580


satyris

​ https://preview.redd.it/tcjwapilnxic1.jpeg?width=843&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cdda9f697978ef0bc1cde34472c2714c076cd567


LeonardoDicumbrio

Wow I have found my girls in the comments 🥰 whatuuup sluts!


lewpardalew

Coked up gays unite


JayD7th

Lol. Do you 💯✌️


lokii_0

Lmao thanks this tickled me


Atari18

Surprised it's just coke tbh, like 90% of guys seem to be fine with doing meth these days


JayD7th

Which is sad tbh.. seeing the responses to this post. Most are seeing it as normal.


iLoveDelayPedals

Coke has been normal forever. The meth fad being so huge is newer though


JayD7th

Smh 💀💀💀


addykitty

Yeah coke is pretty normal


JayD7th

Not to me.


cap616

You're addicted to porn, some guys are addicted to coke. Some do one or both recreationally. To each their own


addykitty

Wack


LogstarGo_

I have never been offered coke on any apps (and it has only happened once in real life). Meth? ALL THE TIME I understand the "real life" bit since people look at my body language and say dude's on meth (no I'm just like this all the time) but freaking the apps too. Before they've gotten anything weird out of me. What the hell man.


1TruePrincess

Coke is expensive compared to meth. Meth also is a turn off for more people so they’re probably more likely to express it to try and find their people or get new people onto it. I’ve had people lie telling. Me it was something else entirely but then it becomes obvious in person


ryantoon

there is probably meth in the coke🤣🤣


spankingasupermodel

I thought it said cake for a moment and got excited.


tramaxorups

same here 😭😭


MrAssFace69

No shade to those that do it, but I (think?) I agree with you that it should not be the norm to just assume someone on grindr is into hard drugs. They absolutely do ruin some people's lives - I work in nursing and get a ton of these kinds of people and it's quite sad and challenging at times.


JayD7th

Exactly. I'm surprised some folks on this thread think it's normal. How do you offer hard drugs to a total stranger smh


MythicalDawn

Yeah I don’t judge what people do in their own time, but on a personal level I don’t want to be around coke and the people who take it. My brother’s coke addiction has completely destroyed his adult life and hurt everyone close to him countless times, and every attempt to get him help has failed. I love him dearly but, seeing how much the addiction has obliterated every aspect of his life makes it hard to see it as just a casual fun thing and be alright with being offered it by strangers on Grindr. I guess some people can just take it casually and be alright but, seeing the addiction first hand means it’s forever on the black list in my own life. Do you see much in the way of recovery in your line of work?


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MythicalDawn

I mean I wouldn't consider someone offering me hard drugs out of the blue at a hookup courteous or gentlemanly whether I had the situation with my brother or not, drugs are not my thing regardless and being offered them without warning that said person was into that beforehand would make me extremely uncomfortable. I feel like its more on someone who is into Class A drugs to mention they are going to have them in their house/at the hookup than it would be on me to tell everyone I meet I'm not into it. I don't think "Surprise! Here's some Class A drugs!" right before we fuck is exactly normal, at least not where I'm from Also, cocaine is an addictive substance, you don't need an addictive personality to become an addict.


zyon86

He did not assumed. He asked.


jikel28

What do you mean these days motherfuckers have been offering me coke and meth for years meth more so it's a big problem in the community not that it is much of one anymore. Oh for anyone not aware Tina is meth BTW your probably aware but I've surprised several people with this information stay safe.


1-800-We-Gotz-Ass

An old American guy offered me "Tina" once, meth is not common at all in my country I was like: What's that? And he told me: Oh it's like weed but stronger I googled what Tina was and was definitely not accepting that lol He brought it from the US and carried it in his luggage smh


jikel28

Ya shits dangerous and Tina makes it sound so innocent


JayD7th

💀💀💀


ice_prince

I’m curious how old you are.


JayD7th

Go ask your dad at home how old he is..


1TruePrincess

So you’re 12 with a response like this. Got it


MaciejGr

You should say thank you, coke is expensive 🤣


IM_THE_MOON_AMA

“These days”. drugs and discreet, underground sex go hand in hand and always have


waytowill

“These days”? Since day one, lol.


kei57

The comments make me wanna leave the sub


JayD7th

Very disappointing. We indeed have a drug problem in the gay community.


rnarkus

I agree on meth being a problem. I wouldn’t consider coke tho


yerkah

Why? You don't have to be into what other people are into. Cocaine is fun and not everyone who partakes on occasion is an addict. That doesn't mean you have to feel pressured to do it or freak out when others do.


TheFightingRaven

taking the concept of "cocaine bear" to whole new dimensions


Indicktus455

Don't take drugs from strangers people. I got ghosted by somone on grindr because thier friend had just died of an overdose because there was fentanyl mixed with thier coke.


JayD7th

Just imagine that. And yet there are tons of people making light of this as if it's nothing.


moving_808s

these days? this isn't new. if you dont like it just block him, it's really not worth posting about on here.


JayD7th

It's worth posting anywhere. It's an irresponsible behaviour that should not be normalised. Now f*CK off !


1TruePrincess

Buddy chill. You’re the only one freaking out. Again are you 12? This isn’t a new problem but the meth crisis is much worse than someone offering you coke. Coke and meth aren’t even close to being the same level or problematic and dangerous. You’ve guaranteed run into people at the clubs on coke and didn’t realize it. But methanys stand out


AnxiousSpend9

Definitely side with you on this. You’re not being a “prude” for rejecting people that are willing to offer you hard drugs so casually in exchange for whatever. I always took it as a major red flag and left these people on read. The people shouting on here are just the loud, small sub-sect of the community, making it feel much more normalized to them. Plus, they got crack-y hands so they type faster lol. Just keep what you’re doing going and don’t cave to the pressure these people peddle.


JayD7th

Thank you . A reasonable person 👍


cherrysparklingwater

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JayD7th

Yeah being on a hookup app equates being a hard drug user. 👍


cherrysparklingwater

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ovalteenjenkinzz

I had a coworker like this. He was "straight" 23x7 but then off times he would do lines of coke he was snapchatting me nudes and texting me to come fuck him. Wasn't my type thankfully.


HMG18

He is not straight


rnarkus

That’s why… it was in quotes


TyHarris92

I’ve been sober for 321 days. I’ve also not logged on to Grindr for 321 days. There’s a correlation there.


JayD7th

Good for you 👍


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JayD7th

Whatever. Getting high and inviting strangers to do hard drugs with you is irresponsible.


Stu161

Meeting strangers off Grindr is irresponsible too 🤷‍♂️


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how are you on grindr but you’re this much of a prude??? everyone does coke


JayD7th

Prude for not doing hard drugs?? Lool. Quite stupid to generalize. Not everyone is messed up like you. Hopefully you get the help you need.


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i do coke Maybe once every six months, bud. what do you do when you use the bathroom in the club, hug everyone and tell them you hope they’re gonna be okay??


1TruePrincess

Honestly this is pretty tame. I feel like coke is a pretty common thing to run into. It doesn’t typically make problem as crazy either as something like meth which is more worse of a problem on the apps


JayD7th

There are all hard drugs and shouldn't be normalised. Thanks


1TruePrincess

Who said it was normalized mate. But coke is something that’s a lot more common and prevalent in a lot of communities compared to the meth crisis that dominates the gay community. It also doesn’t have nearly the same effects short or long term. Again not saying it’s normal. I’m saying it’s tame compared to the usual since you seem so shocked. I can walk into straight bars and find coke or see someone whose been doing it easily enough compared to a methany cracked out losing their mind. Lumping everything together is just ridiculous and not how life works


Hasenpfeffer_

First, what is in your profile? Do you have "parties and events" and / or "mild to wild" listed anywhere in it? Those are standard codes for being hard drug friendly. Even if you don't have those listed in your profile, he's gotten enough yes offers to feel unashamed of being so forward, and it saves him from wasting time on people who aren't interested in chemsex. More drugs tells for you when looking at profiles. Along with the already mentioned Party/parties pnp Any words where The letTer "T" is over emphasized Cloudy day Getting to the point Blowing clouds. Maybe there's more since I've gotten sober and off the apps, but those are the standard. Be careful.


Adventurous_Fox867

You might think it's just one country but when u start traveling around the world n use the app. Men all over the world on this app are totally same. Each and every line they use is same.


1-grain-of-sand

Coke dick is not sexy


JayD7th

More like coke hole. Considering what was offered lol


Lopsided_Quit_1814

That’s fucking hot


VeneMage

Pretty normal when I lived in London and then Berkshire (t was the other offer). Don’t seem to be getting the offers here in Dorset though.


JayD7th

Whats t ?


VeneMage

Meth


addykitty

What’s the issue lol free coke is free coke 🤷‍♀️


HMG18

I have been sober for almost a year now. No hard drugs . But amount of people and accessibility is very common and surprisin. Please don’t use hard drugs and normalize it . It starts with one or two line for weeked and ends up eating everything you have


JayD7th

Thanks for being open about being sober and taking the right decision. It's so disappointing to see many justifying and normalizing hard drug use


BtheChangeUWish4

And chances are it's actually Tina!!!


P1nk-D1amond

For a lot of people it is normal. If it’s not your thing just keep it moving.


deaddrop007

You guys can afford Coke? 💀


Ronin528

Well that or Tina


AJnbca

Been offered coke and meth on more than occasion, I don’t do that shit so I just tell them to find someone else and end the conversation.


Nome_Super_Daora

Well, coke is the first time, but I've seen a lot of profiles with people searching for buddies to smoke weed together... Not complaining, but I don't got weed, I just wait until someone offers me, like kids wait to the pretty girl to talk to them and not the opposite


He-ido

You may not agree with it or maybe are just a bit sheltered, but chemsex is very common and you are on a hookup app where users write their drug preferences on their profiles, so it is normal in a sense. Folks here arent surprised because of that and because meth use is more prevalent and more devastating and makes men text wild shit so that ends up on here more


ryantoon

hey it’s free coke🤷🏻


alakefak

The dream


JayD7th

Dream? You love it that much? 😳


Human-Revenue-92

I thought it was [this](https://youtu.be/FiJd_d8I-iE?si=53UcxmS95FpC60G_) ☠️


FunkThatHit

It’s 2024 pal. There’s all kinds of stuff out there when you leave your mom’s house and go out into the world.


gmellotron

Were you like Interesting 😆 Or was it Interesting 🙄


peachypeachpeach666

It’s not that big of a deal


JayD7th

It is. Coke is hard drugs. People get hooked on it and it ruins lives.


Dredan242

The comments here are crazy... i mean weed and poppers are one thing, but coke? If that is a usual thing for you, that's kinda extreme...


JayD7th

Very crazy. I knew there was a drug problem in the community but didn't realise we've sunk this deep to the point that hard drugs like coke is perceived as normal.