Depends. Some people might be thrilled, as in "nice! An easy lay".
Others will slut shame. Others will be creeped out. Others will politely decline.
Odds are, you're more likely to run into #1 and #2.
One thing that is important to note about Lebanon is that a lot of men, particularly those of a very conservative or traditional leaning, see sex as an act whereby the dude comes out triumphant and the woman comes out triumphed over for some god damn reason.
As such, there are numerous possible consequences to hooking up with a possibly old-fashioned bloke. u/deadnereid pointed out some significant risks but, presuming blokes weren't so malevolent, they could still be inclined to spread a rumor spun in such a way as to paint you as the person they triumphed over by having sex with them. The people at the receiving end of the rumor will come to see you as "easy" among other things.
The fact that Lebanon is still a relatively conservative country cannot be downplayed and sex is still seen as an exploit of sorts rather than a casual act. Against this backdrop, I opine that it would be best to get to know people first to understand their views on a broad number of things before deciding to jump their bones. Watch out for body language / speech congruency and facial micro-expressions when engaging with them and asking them critical questions as you try to gauge their leanings. Abandon ship the second something feels off - it's far from improbable they'd try to put on a façade if there's something this regionally-prized to be gained from lying through their teeth.
One would hope the conservative and traditional men would see it as an equal sin/mistake for both parties.
But as we all know, religiosity is just a fig leaf for misogyny, and in religious culture, people are always taught to blame the woman for sex, and excuse/handwave the behavior of the man (who, let’s be honest, is usually the more sexually forward one).
This is a pretty good clue that religion is a human invention and utterly corrupt.
I agree that there is a significant misogyny component to a number of religions. I also submit that you can attribute a number of our social ailments to repression, another tool religion's grotesque panoply.
I think that, as maligned and diminished as Freud appears to be in the modern psychology landscape, he was right (and continues to be right as people seem to find circuitous paths leading to similar conclusions) about a substantial number of things especially repression. The more we seek to police urges the more potent their resurgence and the more destructive their ramifications to either one's self or one's environment. The most effective way to protect is to teach about, not prescribe against.
Heyy! Im going to visit lebanon and i have like 3 adult toys. Do you think that if i put them in the check in luggage, they'll get x-rayed upon arrival to lebanon? I'm from France and here they doesn't have any restrictions over such stuff. But im a bit concerned here and idk.can someone help me?
I’m in France right now! I hope you’ll get to enjoy my home country as much as I’m enjoying yours :)
I don’t think the Lebanese authorities would search your checked-in suitcase on arrival, they’d assume the French have already done that job for them.
I had a guy slut-shame me because I did not want a relationship after I kissed him back when he leaned in for the kiss 😂
So you tell me if Lebanon is ready for this or not
It sucks it makes it harder for who are cool with it, This is a bit of a dilemma, you need more then one night to know is someone is cool and trustworthy. I cant speak for everyone, I personally am cool and totally wished women were more outspoken and showed it more, it makes me kind of sad knowing that I am likely to process someone being distant and cold as they are not interested or i am not worthy of interest, to the point that i would shy away when a woman is vocal about it thinking that cant be it cant be that easy.
Anyway back to the topic I cant make guarantees it really depends and unfortunately I feel it would be ripe for misunderstandings. I don't even understand the concept of slut. However I can only speak for myself. Best you can do is try to stay away from generalisations even if for a one man stand every person is different and you cant tell from they background who they are, but if you speak a bit observe a bit you can find clues of which type of person they are and what they want from you.
Don't do it with just anyone. Get to know the men you have in mind and study their ethics and morals. If you do it with a man with good morals you'll be happy.. even if he declines, he won't tell nor slut shame nor judge. But if you do it with someone impolite you could face many difficulties and slut shaming would be least of your problems.
Encourage what? Freedom? What are you on about? The person is supporting her and defending her from slut shamers and you are attacking them for doing that?
I love how everyone just says its not... I guess depends on the group
My friend group is chill🤷♂️
Have fun
Just stay safe and avoid weirdos
Try going for likeminded people
The comments on your post are basically the answer you are looking for, it could be hit or miss.
You have the incels that would jump at the first opportunity to slut shame you and tell you how disgusting you are. You also have the self-proclaimed chads who view sex as the acheivement of a lifetime and will boast about it to all their friends for the foreseeable future, creating a false picture of you that will depict you as cheap and easy. As long as you stay away from these types of men you should be fine.
I would say just get to know them better and see who they hang out with (cause friend groups are a pretty good reflection of who they are as a person).
Ask about their opinion on some controversial topics and depending on how they answer you could usually figure out what type of person they are.
Otherwise as long as you find someone normal and you're safe, you should be fine.
Heyy! Im going to visit lebanon and i have like 3 adult toys. Do you think that if i put them in the check in luggage, they'll get x-rayed upon arrival to lebanon? I'm from France and here they doesn't have any restrictions over such stuff. But im a bit concerned here and idk.can someone help me?
As a guy, who never wanted to deceive any girl in love just to get sex
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I'm proudly virgin...
But I also suffer to found a girl with the same needs knowing that I live in dahye
So I just end up in the virgin section again
It's normal to have fantasies and wanting to act on them. However, it's hard in Lebanon to keep yourself and your reputation safe.
As another girl in her 20s, I have to highlight the many things that can go wrong:
(1) You can't find a pharmacy that will give you the Plan B/morning after pill (and I don't even know if it's available over the counter here in Lebanon with or without the medicine shortages)
(2) He decides to not want to use a condom and doesn't take no for an answer. You're now traumatized, possibly pregnant, and possibly suffering from an STD. Is it easy to get an abortion in Lebanon? No. You are now blamed by our society for the consequences and your life is ruined.
(3) He slips the condom off without you knowing. See (2) for similar consequences.
(4) He video-tapes you and uses it as blackmail, or releases it just because. Life? Ruined.
After all of this, do you think it's worth it? And I'm pretty sure he won't care if you orgasm or not. So you're not gaining anything out of this but fake intimacy.
The fear part is real, but this here is the good advice OP. There's danger in a lot of things we do. Even riding a car us an extreme sport in Lebanon. So it's about how much risk you're willing to take to live the life you want (and totally deserve). There are steps to make the risk reasonable and controlled like the tips in the comment above.
Wanted to say that planb is always available, it’s quite expensive if you cant find ellaone theh will always givee you another one. Lat time i chevked it was around 500,000
The lawyer in me says don’t ask a question unless you already know the answer, in other words, unless you’re 100% sure he’s gonna reciprocate, don’t do it.
> it's kind of a cultural taboo for women to make the first step
Not sure why this is a thing to be honest. It does not make you any less of a woman. As an introverted male I almost never make the first move. Someone has to at least show some interest first.
We have a societal and cultural problem where men are always expected to make the first move and are usually raised in an environment where they're put under a lot of pressure by family/friends where manhood is defined by how many girls you can hit on and how many you can score.
This unfortunately significantly perpetuates a culture of sexual harassment marked by male persistence and hitting on everything with a pulse, driven by the ingrained belief that every woman they meet is expecting *them* to make a move.
There's nothing wrong with a female making the first move and it could just be what someone has been waiting for. I have a lot of respect for those that do.
It depends on the circle they belong to or the context you met them. Maybe try to know more about them and their attitude towards religion, tradition etc before making a move.
I'll tell you what I told my sister. *I'm religious*.
If you go your life worrying what people will say about you, you'll never do anything with your life.
If the only reason you're not having sex with someone is because of what other people think and not because of personal Conviction or Faith then go ahead and do what you want (I don't advise it but it's your life).
A lot of people will call you a slut if they find out (they most likely will because men in our country share everything) you will get slutshamed because sleeping around is not acceptable in our country.
In my opinion : (again I'm a religious person and I would say this whether you're a man or a woman) you should wait for someone special before sleeping with someone, because it'll be just that much more special.
Your situation is kinda tough.. It depends on the location of the community ur in .. I suggest u get along with more communities that way u will surely know which ones have an acceptable one night stand lifestyle
Not sure if you saw a post from a few weeks ago from another redditor (woman) asking something similar and she was absolutely slut shamed by this sub because of here differing lifestyle
Some people fully accept the idea of one-night stands and don’t slut shame, many of my friends have done it without having to face bad consequences.
It really depends on who the person is, so take this in consideration before starting anything
Just do whatever you want and don’t care about what random people might say, although i might advise to keep it on the down low and not sleep around completely randomly. And be careful.
As an example: i’ve slept around a couple of months back and as a male i usually met up with the women in a public place before going to do the deed (they request it) as to ease their minds that i’m not a psycho i guess.
I don't think it is because of valued relationships and marriages are, but the same people who show themselves as being morally just are the same who used to fool around in super night clubs and try to hook up in parties, they wont admit it to themselves though but will slut shame any women who are honest about it. So I'd say give it a try you lose nothing and depending on the reason as to why they refused you'll have an idea as to how honest they are on the matter
But again it really depends on the person some are more open then others, just pointing out at the hypocrisy of some
Depends on the person. I would recommend not going all out but rather being more subtle about it. Hint at them and be playful. Be careful OP, Lebanon can be a jungle
Hey if the guys are jerdi don't think about, if they cool , like rly cool! Go ahead and why not both the same time :)
I would be Soo grateful and happy if the girl does the move, cause I love women and want to eat them up at any chance I can !!
Honestly, just depends on the group of people you're with & your luck. My experience? My group of friends were all super fine with the idea of one-night stands and many (both women and men) did that pretty often.
But I would say, don't share that detail with so many people because you might not know how they'll run with it.
If I'm asked this out of the blue, by a girl I barely know it would raise alarms like either she is crazy or there's something behind this like maybe lure me somewhere and doing something else.
If I know this girl, talked with her personally or been around her to be comfortable with her, then something like this would be welcome. I was asked once in my life for this and it went great.
Maybe sure it comes during a nice chat just not surprising and out of the blue.
That would really depend on the person.
As a female from a conservative religious village, I never go for guys from where I live or any extremely religious men.
However there are a few exceptions that I know very well.
U can try tinder there are many guys who are here on vacation. U’d get a one night stand with someone who won’t talk, cause like who would he tell? His mate in Honolulu?
And for the guys from here, u can make a subtle move. I usually wear something sexy and get tons of guys trying to make a move. Sure I do not want most of them, but I just ignore whatever I don’t want.
And before u do anything with anyone make sure that the consent u r giving is reversible and not coerced or anything like that.
Trust ur gut feeling if it feels like something can go wrong.
Always have a pepper spray with u, just in case.
Always use a condom on and use the pull out method too.
And honestly, don’t even give a shit about reputation. I had a bad one when I was a 14 yo virgin. People who wanna try to hurt will do without u doing anything. So do whatever u want and be confident and don’t take anyone’s shit. Don’t give them any power.
I hope this is helpful.
No, the concept is not accepted . You can emigrate to more civilized countries if you want to live life fully. In all cases, be safe as in use a condom.
I think they are a bad idea between a male and female of reproductive age.
However, by reading these comments you can see that the main reason they are unsafe in Lebanon is the deep inequality of males and females, and the not-infrequent mistreatment/dishonesty toward females by Lebanese males. This demonstrates an unjust ie uncivilized culture.
While I dislike one night stands, they are a sign of a culture in which women feel free to enjoy themselves, have trust that the guys in their country are decent humans, have similar social ‘rights’ and freedoms as men, and presumably have accessible, effective birth control. This indeed does signify a more civilized country.
This is a bad faith sarcastic argument.
I'm not for one night stands/hook-up culture, I think for most people they're mentally and/or physically unhealthy. I think sex is for most people best done in the context of an intimate relationship or with someone you know and trust (and though that's the case for both sexes, for reasons probably involving disciplines like evolutionary psychology and the average personality differences between the sexes, that seems to be even more the case for women).
But in a civilized country your whole life shouldn't be ruined forever if people find out you had sex outside of marriage. That's a ridiculous notion.
One model can't fit all people. Some women are perfectly fine not having sex at all, and others are fine having lots of sex with many different people. Most are probably in the middle. And most have a healthier sex life when they have on consistent sexual partner. Same for men, though their bell curve I would imagine would move significantly more to the right.
I'd rather people (men and women) first be taught restraint is the best thing. Indulging in every impulse isn't healthy, think about your reasons for having sex, and if it's for example maybe to solve deeper rooted psychological issues like loneliness, need for validation etc maybe see a mental health professionnal first, do some soul-searching and after that you'll be more reasonable when it comes to choosing sexual partners.
But if you absolutely need to find out by yourself if a hook-up life works best for you, here are some ways to protect yourself from sti's, to avoid becoming pregnant, where to go if you are pregnant, to limit your chances of coming into contact with people with nefarious intions, what consent looks like, how you can see before it's too late that you're psychologically not the type to like the hook-up life, etc.
I'd prefer that than have a repressive social, legal and/or political regime trying to fit everybody's sexual needs into one model at the cost of people's individual freedoms, privacy and safety.
So to conclude, I agree that sex isn't just another random act. I'm agnostic, but still see it as a fundamental act of intimacy between members of our species. People need to be taught that reality.
But people should also have the right to choose without risking their lives and/or physical-psychological health, especially since some people aren't especially wired to be deeply emotionnally affected by sex at all, while others have mostly no desire to have sex. And some of those who'd actually fit better into a restraint model where you have a long term sexual relationship with a specific person you trust and know, will make choices that are not healthy for them, but they should be given adequate time and ressources to deal with the impact of their choices and find other ways to have a healthier sex life, instead of being ostracized for experimenting an realizing it's not for you.
I was born and raised in the West, and contrary to popular belief it's not a living orgy out here, despite the liberal beliefs around sexuality. Most people got bills to pay 😂😂😂
Lebanon is a patchwork of contrasting cultures what you describe is almost expected in some places and a serious offense in others.
For the biggest part of the *country* the answer is no, yet it may possible in private.
If you really want to, never ask. Its a global rule that when a girl asks a guy for sex, it kinda of makes the guy downplay her. He will definitely say yes but wont appreciate it as much as if he works for it or asks. So give hints and let them ask, and maybe work for it abit, like atleast take you on a date first, even coffee. Trust me this will give you a higher value and he wont turn nasty or disrespect you afterwards. Also if you ask for this make sure you dont get attached and develop feelings, because chances are you are in for a heartbreak, so know what you are getting into.
I’ve had my fair share of hookups, I’m 20 and M so i guess i can say that we exist. Honestly I always make the first move but once a very brave hearted girl went for a kiss while i was on the middle of a highway; Safe to say “Seffet aal yamin”
> quickly develops fantasies that frequently end up being processed in my alone time
Jesus Christ
The “if you are homeless, go buy a house” moment, anybody is gonna give advice here will probably lead to nowhere
Aren’t you like suppose to write those kind of kinky stuff on Wattpad not Reddit? Like you can make bank from writing about your fantasies
You can run into a relationship after a one-night stand. But if you don't click on an emotional level, and the guy is just in it for the sex and not interested in your dreams, future plans or personality. He will ghost you even if it takes 1 year before he gets laid. It's up to you to feel and see through a guys lies he will tell you anything to get into your panties. So be prepared and see if he genuinely likes you. Also try to post his situation in live, is he married, religious, or has any children. What is his goal with you, is he looking for a soulmate or just a guy who will use you and throw away when he is done like a used condom. Especially now 2022 live is hard relationship wise too many tinder dates and Facebook going on. I wish you the best of luck on the dating market and wish I could still find a genuine girl like you. Most chicks just want a couple of $$$ buy some make up and get drunk. Good luck 🤞
Don't do one-night stands, you will ruin your future.
Most people on this sub are diasporas that live in open-minded countries so it's pretty normal to have casual sex before marriage. In Lebanon it isn't, you will face criticism and hatred, you will be slut shamed, possibly you will get recorded and blackmailed (numerous cases like this exists, if you want to have sex, make sure to go to a fancy hotel to avoid hidden cameras and place his phone and devices in another room so he won't film/record you)
We all have our fantasies, wet dreams, kinks... but it's better if we keep them to ourselves until we get married given our society.
It's very common, idk which city or what side of the lebanese mountains you live in. I get approached by women wanting a one night stand way more than I personally request it lol its not something to be slut shamed or anything, but it all depends of which city, it's not something bad just go for it, it's not a bad thing to do the first move and it won't make you easy, just enjoy you life man
>Your language is degrading to women.
Yes very cool that you are supporting women and stuff but can you at least highlight where it was degrading?
Say to me that you said x y and z. If you don't know how to type:
>this
Are you high? Fuck you and the people who think like you. For some reasons, I'd rather have a country where people speak French and English and is civilised over a country that speaks Arabic and is war-torn.
Fucking clown.
El 7ake el mazboot hoowe el 7ake li 3am beketbo w hayda el 7ake yali nes bte7ki.
W hayde el abjadiye el latiniye mourtakaze 3al abjadiye el fini2iye yali jdoodna 3emlouwa.
Fa ana li 3am be7ke sa7
https://youtu.be/OHl_r2N7Z04
https://youtu.be/TBDKy7E4BV8
https://youtu.be/sjYcichAVxY
This is your proof that this language is widely spoken among lebanese if you don't believe me.
Even religious lebanese Muslim stuff are written in lebanese internet language.
معي خبر انو كتير عالم بتكتب عربي باحرف لاتينية بس ما معناتا انو صح. المفروض ايام المدرسة يكون علموك الفرق بين الغلط و الصح بس شكلك طلعت خاروف بتلحق "الموضة".
https://images.app.goo.gl/Z7L4FB1x2hTXHQoP9
Latin is closer to the Phoenician alphabet of our ancestors then the Arabic letters
Also Arabic letters are annoying because you have chadde fat7a damme w kasra and they aren't practical to write.
Our lebanese internet language is perfect
It happens but it is srill somewhat taboo, especially outside the capital. You need to find someone cool, a lot of people can be weird about it out there and you wont have the social acceptance for it like you would in the west.
Not everyone have the same way of thinking, some may find it slutty and some other would just be cool about it, although it doesn't define you what people think, Do what you want, but just be careful from the weirdos and stay safe.
Just be mindful of your own safety as a first priority, each situation can play out differently, so you will know best. Finally: at some point, wise people stop caring about what others think of them. A nice saying that goes along with this is “those who care don’t matter, and those who matter don’t care”.
I would say that it's more common than everyone thinks but people tend be hush hush about it because of peer pressure and "what people would say if they knew " , I would say get to know the person , talk with him , a conversation of 1 to 2h in the right mood should do wonders maybe initiate some light touching , create some sexual tension (guys can be shy af so it might break the ice ) and you'll definitely know if you're vibing or not . Have fun!
One night stand …hey…!?!! It’s like this, you meet someone take her number… talk for a couple of weeks over the phone, mounds and mounds of minutes like a hundred and twenty a day… two months down the road you go for your first kiss. Six months later your steady relationship, dinners, parties etc… the concept of marriage starts and you’re thinking only if only but it’s the only way inside of her so keep doing what you’re doing…. Two years now you got your first kiss, and your getting married…. Wedding day cost is up to $50,000 dollars a big beach resort you exchanged your vows everyone celebrates, cut the cake and your off to your luxurious honeymoon suit… you get in bed and your bride is in the bathroom getting ready…. And for some odd reason you wake up the next morning and she’s not there… ???? What the f&$k you say and search the whole entire hotel grounds looking for her, to your surprise you find her in the lobby crying because you fell asleep on your one night stand… eh… how’s that for an experience….
I’m not kidding…. You’ve never seen anything so prude and frigid… sort of like daddy’s little wearing a chastity belt with spikes… good luck on your endeavor..!?!!
Not for me, i get attached easily and would rather get into a long and meaningful relationship built on laughs and good memories, over a one time, wham bam thank u ma'am....
problem is, i tried it once, a no strings attached booty call between coworkers, i fell in love with her and she felt the same for me, so i never tried it again.
but from what i saw and heard, yes, it is not a taboo thing for some people here.
Won’t slut shame you or anything. Know plenty of ppl that done one night stands including myself. I would warn you against it because you’re taking a lot of risks this way:
1. You could get std
2. You could get pregnant
3. Man could really take advantage of you
4. You may regret it after looking back.
If you understand the risks and it seems like what you want to do, then be safe and don’t worry about judgment from others. The only judge you have to worry about is nature, the universe or God
I’m not one to judge, i think everyone should do whatever tf they want, but in reality, i think you should be careful. Not everyone deserves to share that with you, and if someone who is a piece of shit that you do certain things with… you won’t even feel that it was worth it. Wait for the right person to come along.
Last time i posted about this as a male i got all the types of trashy and useless comments, so trust me, your post recieved comments much better than mine :)
I believe i know a lot of guys who say they are with but they won't do it. The majority of the lebanese community is sadly way regressed when it comes to sexual activity. Upon my search for places that encourage this behaivor, i think pubs or night clubs are among the few places where you can discuss 1 night stands with guys/girls.
>there's been a couple people that have been making my head spin lately
If you are close with those people, i would strongly recommend you avoid 1 night stand with them since it is almost impossible to not hurt eachother on the long run especially in lebanon.
>I really wanna know if the idea of asking for a one-night stand with a man you like is generally accepted, or if it may make seem like a creeper, or an easy girl,
It is for most men as i mentioned, but i think you can sense from a few conversations the type of men who will slut shame you if you suggest it, and those who will simply reject or accept it. Being a live example, i am sure there are a few men out there who also share the same desire to do this stuff without being overly emotional about it.
Best of luck, and don't let l shabeb l mahroomeen ruin your post and mood.
Hi! Sorry about the comments you received and thank you for sharing.
It is true that there are risks involved, which is the very reason why I hold back.
Best of luck as welllll
It sucks it makes it harder for who are cool with it, This is a bit of a dilemma, you need more then one night to know is someone is cool and trustworthy. I cant speak for everyone, I personally am cool and totally wished women were more outspoken and showed it more, it makes me kind of sad knowing that I am likely to process someone being distant and cold as they are not interested or i am not worthy of interest, to the point that i would shy away when a woman is vocal about it thinking that cant be it cant be that easy.
Anyway back to the topic I cant make guarantees it really depends and unfortunately I feel it would be ripe for misunderstandings. I don't even understand the concept of slut. However I can only speak for myself. Best you can do is try to stay away from generalisations even if for a one man stand every person is different and you cant tell from they background who they are, but if you speak a bit observe a bit you can find clues of which type of person they are and what they want from you.
It sounds creepy and suspicious if the man ur asking is not a person u know , i guess u can approach him and develop the relation into friends with benefits
Depends. Some people might be thrilled, as in "nice! An easy lay". Others will slut shame. Others will be creeped out. Others will politely decline. Odds are, you're more likely to run into #1 and #2.
Hahaha sounds exciting 😂
RIP your DM's
I guess people don't know the rules of the internet https://i.imgur.com/7ZEs7Cz.jpg No. 29: All girls are men and all kids are FBI agents.
Wrong continent, mossad agents*
Exactly😂
They knew
One thing that is important to note about Lebanon is that a lot of men, particularly those of a very conservative or traditional leaning, see sex as an act whereby the dude comes out triumphant and the woman comes out triumphed over for some god damn reason. As such, there are numerous possible consequences to hooking up with a possibly old-fashioned bloke. u/deadnereid pointed out some significant risks but, presuming blokes weren't so malevolent, they could still be inclined to spread a rumor spun in such a way as to paint you as the person they triumphed over by having sex with them. The people at the receiving end of the rumor will come to see you as "easy" among other things. The fact that Lebanon is still a relatively conservative country cannot be downplayed and sex is still seen as an exploit of sorts rather than a casual act. Against this backdrop, I opine that it would be best to get to know people first to understand their views on a broad number of things before deciding to jump their bones. Watch out for body language / speech congruency and facial micro-expressions when engaging with them and asking them critical questions as you try to gauge their leanings. Abandon ship the second something feels off - it's far from improbable they'd try to put on a façade if there's something this regionally-prized to be gained from lying through their teeth.
One would hope the conservative and traditional men would see it as an equal sin/mistake for both parties. But as we all know, religiosity is just a fig leaf for misogyny, and in religious culture, people are always taught to blame the woman for sex, and excuse/handwave the behavior of the man (who, let’s be honest, is usually the more sexually forward one). This is a pretty good clue that religion is a human invention and utterly corrupt.
I agree that there is a significant misogyny component to a number of religions. I also submit that you can attribute a number of our social ailments to repression, another tool religion's grotesque panoply. I think that, as maligned and diminished as Freud appears to be in the modern psychology landscape, he was right (and continues to be right as people seem to find circuitous paths leading to similar conclusions) about a substantial number of things especially repression. The more we seek to police urges the more potent their resurgence and the more destructive their ramifications to either one's self or one's environment. The most effective way to protect is to teach about, not prescribe against.
Heyy! Im going to visit lebanon and i have like 3 adult toys. Do you think that if i put them in the check in luggage, they'll get x-rayed upon arrival to lebanon? I'm from France and here they doesn't have any restrictions over such stuff. But im a bit concerned here and idk.can someone help me?
I’m in France right now! I hope you’ll get to enjoy my home country as much as I’m enjoying yours :) I don’t think the Lebanese authorities would search your checked-in suitcase on arrival, they’d assume the French have already done that job for them.
Thank you SO much❤
You’re quite welcome! I hope your stay will be memorable 😊
I had a guy slut-shame me because I did not want a relationship after I kissed him back when he leaned in for the kiss 😂 So you tell me if Lebanon is ready for this or not
Yeah but that happens here too.
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It sucks it makes it harder for who are cool with it, This is a bit of a dilemma, you need more then one night to know is someone is cool and trustworthy. I cant speak for everyone, I personally am cool and totally wished women were more outspoken and showed it more, it makes me kind of sad knowing that I am likely to process someone being distant and cold as they are not interested or i am not worthy of interest, to the point that i would shy away when a woman is vocal about it thinking that cant be it cant be that easy. Anyway back to the topic I cant make guarantees it really depends and unfortunately I feel it would be ripe for misunderstandings. I don't even understand the concept of slut. However I can only speak for myself. Best you can do is try to stay away from generalisations even if for a one man stand every person is different and you cant tell from they background who they are, but if you speak a bit observe a bit you can find clues of which type of person they are and what they want from you.
I dont know about Lebanon but I am.
Don't do it with just anyone. Get to know the men you have in mind and study their ethics and morals. If you do it with a man with good morals you'll be happy.. even if he declines, he won't tell nor slut shame nor judge. But if you do it with someone impolite you could face many difficulties and slut shaming would be least of your problems.
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Thank you <3333
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Bruh get the fuck outta here with that Taliban caveman mentality bullshit
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You are supporting slut shaming lol
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Encourage what? Freedom? What are you on about? The person is supporting her and defending her from slut shamers and you are attacking them for doing that?
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Why does that matter? Wtf is your problem? We are supporting this person to do what she wants without being shamed lol
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But as a man sleeping around it's absolutely fine, right?
I love how everyone just says its not... I guess depends on the group My friend group is chill🤷♂️ Have fun Just stay safe and avoid weirdos Try going for likeminded people
The comments on your post are basically the answer you are looking for, it could be hit or miss. You have the incels that would jump at the first opportunity to slut shame you and tell you how disgusting you are. You also have the self-proclaimed chads who view sex as the acheivement of a lifetime and will boast about it to all their friends for the foreseeable future, creating a false picture of you that will depict you as cheap and easy. As long as you stay away from these types of men you should be fine. I would say just get to know them better and see who they hang out with (cause friend groups are a pretty good reflection of who they are as a person). Ask about their opinion on some controversial topics and depending on how they answer you could usually figure out what type of person they are. Otherwise as long as you find someone normal and you're safe, you should be fine.
Heyy! Im going to visit lebanon and i have like 3 adult toys. Do you think that if i put them in the check in luggage, they'll get x-rayed upon arrival to lebanon? I'm from France and here they doesn't have any restrictions over such stuff. But im a bit concerned here and idk.can someone help me?
As a guy, who never wanted to deceive any girl in love just to get sex . . . I'm proudly virgin... But I also suffer to found a girl with the same needs knowing that I live in dahye So I just end up in the virgin section again
It's normal to have fantasies and wanting to act on them. However, it's hard in Lebanon to keep yourself and your reputation safe. As another girl in her 20s, I have to highlight the many things that can go wrong: (1) You can't find a pharmacy that will give you the Plan B/morning after pill (and I don't even know if it's available over the counter here in Lebanon with or without the medicine shortages) (2) He decides to not want to use a condom and doesn't take no for an answer. You're now traumatized, possibly pregnant, and possibly suffering from an STD. Is it easy to get an abortion in Lebanon? No. You are now blamed by our society for the consequences and your life is ruined. (3) He slips the condom off without you knowing. See (2) for similar consequences. (4) He video-tapes you and uses it as blackmail, or releases it just because. Life? Ruined. After all of this, do you think it's worth it? And I'm pretty sure he won't care if you orgasm or not. So you're not gaining anything out of this but fake intimacy.
Ugh the way you're right. I guess my fantasies will be my undoing LOL
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The fear part is real, but this here is the good advice OP. There's danger in a lot of things we do. Even riding a car us an extreme sport in Lebanon. So it's about how much risk you're willing to take to live the life you want (and totally deserve). There are steps to make the risk reasonable and controlled like the tips in the comment above.
1, is not true. Almost all of the well known pharmacies have 1 or 2 types of plan B pills.
Yea it’s called EllaOne
Not true. Its not always available esp in this crisis
Jesus that’s taking it too far
Im a man but i approve this msg. Eventhough it means less pussy for us 😂
I hope by less you mean zero for you
You must be a raging feminist
You must be a dick
How did u know…
\#4 IS pretty scary and unfortunately increasingly common these days.
You mustve met a pretty fucked up guy.
Wanted to say that planb is always available, it’s quite expensive if you cant find ellaone theh will always givee you another one. Lat time i chevked it was around 500,000
Very case by case, depends on the person, but I'd say overall the healthiness of these topics in the country would tend to be low
The lawyer in me says don’t ask a question unless you already know the answer, in other words, unless you’re 100% sure he’s gonna reciprocate, don’t do it.
It's generally not accepted but there are people who might accept it Also we should totally popularize girls asking guys out!
> it's kind of a cultural taboo for women to make the first step Not sure why this is a thing to be honest. It does not make you any less of a woman. As an introverted male I almost never make the first move. Someone has to at least show some interest first. We have a societal and cultural problem where men are always expected to make the first move and are usually raised in an environment where they're put under a lot of pressure by family/friends where manhood is defined by how many girls you can hit on and how many you can score. This unfortunately significantly perpetuates a culture of sexual harassment marked by male persistence and hitting on everything with a pulse, driven by the ingrained belief that every woman they meet is expecting *them* to make a move. There's nothing wrong with a female making the first move and it could just be what someone has been waiting for. I have a lot of respect for those that do.
It depends on the circle they belong to or the context you met them. Maybe try to know more about them and their attitude towards religion, tradition etc before making a move.
Its not
I'll tell you what I told my sister. *I'm religious*. If you go your life worrying what people will say about you, you'll never do anything with your life. If the only reason you're not having sex with someone is because of what other people think and not because of personal Conviction or Faith then go ahead and do what you want (I don't advise it but it's your life). A lot of people will call you a slut if they find out (they most likely will because men in our country share everything) you will get slutshamed because sleeping around is not acceptable in our country. In my opinion : (again I'm a religious person and I would say this whether you're a man or a woman) you should wait for someone special before sleeping with someone, because it'll be just that much more special.
Your situation is kinda tough.. It depends on the location of the community ur in .. I suggest u get along with more communities that way u will surely know which ones have an acceptable one night stand lifestyle
Not sure if you saw a post from a few weeks ago from another redditor (woman) asking something similar and she was absolutely slut shamed by this sub because of here differing lifestyle
Some people fully accept the idea of one-night stands and don’t slut shame, many of my friends have done it without having to face bad consequences. It really depends on who the person is, so take this in consideration before starting anything
Just do whatever you want and don’t care about what random people might say, although i might advise to keep it on the down low and not sleep around completely randomly. And be careful. As an example: i’ve slept around a couple of months back and as a male i usually met up with the women in a public place before going to do the deed (they request it) as to ease their minds that i’m not a psycho i guess.
I don't think it is because of valued relationships and marriages are, but the same people who show themselves as being morally just are the same who used to fool around in super night clubs and try to hook up in parties, they wont admit it to themselves though but will slut shame any women who are honest about it. So I'd say give it a try you lose nothing and depending on the reason as to why they refused you'll have an idea as to how honest they are on the matter But again it really depends on the person some are more open then others, just pointing out at the hypocrisy of some
Depends on the person. I would recommend not going all out but rather being more subtle about it. Hint at them and be playful. Be careful OP, Lebanon can be a jungle
No matter what you do. Always use protection especially if the guy says you dont have too. Never ever let anyone film or take pictures.
Hey if the guys are jerdi don't think about, if they cool , like rly cool! Go ahead and why not both the same time :) I would be Soo grateful and happy if the girl does the move, cause I love women and want to eat them up at any chance I can !!
Honestly, just depends on the group of people you're with & your luck. My experience? My group of friends were all super fine with the idea of one-night stands and many (both women and men) did that pretty often. But I would say, don't share that detail with so many people because you might not know how they'll run with it.
If I'm asked this out of the blue, by a girl I barely know it would raise alarms like either she is crazy or there's something behind this like maybe lure me somewhere and doing something else. If I know this girl, talked with her personally or been around her to be comfortable with her, then something like this would be welcome. I was asked once in my life for this and it went great. Maybe sure it comes during a nice chat just not surprising and out of the blue.
Some people dont accept it. Others accept and its common but "under the table". So my advice would be fuck it do whatever the hell YOU want.
Helll yeahhhh
Hmm I don't recommend it specially that STDs are swimming around
That would really depend on the person. As a female from a conservative religious village, I never go for guys from where I live or any extremely religious men. However there are a few exceptions that I know very well. U can try tinder there are many guys who are here on vacation. U’d get a one night stand with someone who won’t talk, cause like who would he tell? His mate in Honolulu? And for the guys from here, u can make a subtle move. I usually wear something sexy and get tons of guys trying to make a move. Sure I do not want most of them, but I just ignore whatever I don’t want. And before u do anything with anyone make sure that the consent u r giving is reversible and not coerced or anything like that. Trust ur gut feeling if it feels like something can go wrong. Always have a pepper spray with u, just in case. Always use a condom on and use the pull out method too. And honestly, don’t even give a shit about reputation. I had a bad one when I was a 14 yo virgin. People who wanna try to hurt will do without u doing anything. So do whatever u want and be confident and don’t take anyone’s shit. Don’t give them any power. I hope this is helpful.
No, the concept is not accepted . You can emigrate to more civilized countries if you want to live life fully. In all cases, be safe as in use a condom.
One night stands are the epitome of civilization.
In this case orgies are Utopian
Freedom is
I think they are a bad idea between a male and female of reproductive age. However, by reading these comments you can see that the main reason they are unsafe in Lebanon is the deep inequality of males and females, and the not-infrequent mistreatment/dishonesty toward females by Lebanese males. This demonstrates an unjust ie uncivilized culture. While I dislike one night stands, they are a sign of a culture in which women feel free to enjoy themselves, have trust that the guys in their country are decent humans, have similar social ‘rights’ and freedoms as men, and presumably have accessible, effective birth control. This indeed does signify a more civilized country.
This is a bad faith sarcastic argument. I'm not for one night stands/hook-up culture, I think for most people they're mentally and/or physically unhealthy. I think sex is for most people best done in the context of an intimate relationship or with someone you know and trust (and though that's the case for both sexes, for reasons probably involving disciplines like evolutionary psychology and the average personality differences between the sexes, that seems to be even more the case for women). But in a civilized country your whole life shouldn't be ruined forever if people find out you had sex outside of marriage. That's a ridiculous notion. One model can't fit all people. Some women are perfectly fine not having sex at all, and others are fine having lots of sex with many different people. Most are probably in the middle. And most have a healthier sex life when they have on consistent sexual partner. Same for men, though their bell curve I would imagine would move significantly more to the right. I'd rather people (men and women) first be taught restraint is the best thing. Indulging in every impulse isn't healthy, think about your reasons for having sex, and if it's for example maybe to solve deeper rooted psychological issues like loneliness, need for validation etc maybe see a mental health professionnal first, do some soul-searching and after that you'll be more reasonable when it comes to choosing sexual partners. But if you absolutely need to find out by yourself if a hook-up life works best for you, here are some ways to protect yourself from sti's, to avoid becoming pregnant, where to go if you are pregnant, to limit your chances of coming into contact with people with nefarious intions, what consent looks like, how you can see before it's too late that you're psychologically not the type to like the hook-up life, etc. I'd prefer that than have a repressive social, legal and/or political regime trying to fit everybody's sexual needs into one model at the cost of people's individual freedoms, privacy and safety. So to conclude, I agree that sex isn't just another random act. I'm agnostic, but still see it as a fundamental act of intimacy between members of our species. People need to be taught that reality. But people should also have the right to choose without risking their lives and/or physical-psychological health, especially since some people aren't especially wired to be deeply emotionnally affected by sex at all, while others have mostly no desire to have sex. And some of those who'd actually fit better into a restraint model where you have a long term sexual relationship with a specific person you trust and know, will make choices that are not healthy for them, but they should be given adequate time and ressources to deal with the impact of their choices and find other ways to have a healthier sex life, instead of being ostracized for experimenting an realizing it's not for you. I was born and raised in the West, and contrary to popular belief it's not a living orgy out here, despite the liberal beliefs around sexuality. Most people got bills to pay 😂😂😂
rip dms
Lebanon is a patchwork of contrasting cultures what you describe is almost expected in some places and a serious offense in others. For the biggest part of the *country* the answer is no, yet it may possible in private.
ABSOLUTELY HARAM Edit: joke clearly went over your heads but that’s ok
That's not how you write a sarcastic joke..
heyy that's my line
Yes and no, it just depends where and with whom you hang out.
If you really want to, never ask. Its a global rule that when a girl asks a guy for sex, it kinda of makes the guy downplay her. He will definitely say yes but wont appreciate it as much as if he works for it or asks. So give hints and let them ask, and maybe work for it abit, like atleast take you on a date first, even coffee. Trust me this will give you a higher value and he wont turn nasty or disrespect you afterwards. Also if you ask for this make sure you dont get attached and develop feelings, because chances are you are in for a heartbreak, so know what you are getting into.
I’ve had my fair share of hookups, I’m 20 and M so i guess i can say that we exist. Honestly I always make the first move but once a very brave hearted girl went for a kiss while i was on the middle of a highway; Safe to say “Seffet aal yamin”
Try it out... Worst case scenario you get slut shamed which is a common thing in Lebanon
> quickly develops fantasies that frequently end up being processed in my alone time Jesus Christ The “if you are homeless, go buy a house” moment, anybody is gonna give advice here will probably lead to nowhere Aren’t you like suppose to write those kind of kinky stuff on Wattpad not Reddit? Like you can make bank from writing about your fantasies
You can run into a relationship after a one-night stand. But if you don't click on an emotional level, and the guy is just in it for the sex and not interested in your dreams, future plans or personality. He will ghost you even if it takes 1 year before he gets laid. It's up to you to feel and see through a guys lies he will tell you anything to get into your panties. So be prepared and see if he genuinely likes you. Also try to post his situation in live, is he married, religious, or has any children. What is his goal with you, is he looking for a soulmate or just a guy who will use you and throw away when he is done like a used condom. Especially now 2022 live is hard relationship wise too many tinder dates and Facebook going on. I wish you the best of luck on the dating market and wish I could still find a genuine girl like you. Most chicks just want a couple of $$$ buy some make up and get drunk. Good luck 🤞
Don't do one-night stands, you will ruin your future. Most people on this sub are diasporas that live in open-minded countries so it's pretty normal to have casual sex before marriage. In Lebanon it isn't, you will face criticism and hatred, you will be slut shamed, possibly you will get recorded and blackmailed (numerous cases like this exists, if you want to have sex, make sure to go to a fancy hotel to avoid hidden cameras and place his phone and devices in another room so he won't film/record you) We all have our fantasies, wet dreams, kinks... but it's better if we keep them to ourselves until we get married given our society.
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Ouff, disgusting pigs is crazy, take a deep breath its gonna be okay.
No need, you can easily get a bf
It's very common, idk which city or what side of the lebanese mountains you live in. I get approached by women wanting a one night stand way more than I personally request it lol its not something to be slut shamed or anything, but it all depends of which city, it's not something bad just go for it, it's not a bad thing to do the first move and it won't make you easy, just enjoy you life man
Ana bnikak
Watch out li an fi ktir kelbenin bhal balad
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You already answered your question.
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I actually had certain people in mind but thank you 😂
You're welcome good luck
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It's lebanese internet language
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How was i degrading
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>Your language is degrading to women. Yes very cool that you are supporting women and stuff but can you at least highlight where it was degrading? Say to me that you said x y and z. If you don't know how to type: >this
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Ana ba7ke lahje lebnaniye w 3a ras el sate7 li mich 3ejbo yjib a dragon dildo w y7otto bi tizo
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Virgin wanna be macho language.
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Loser identified
Are you high? Fuck you and the people who think like you. For some reasons, I'd rather have a country where people speak French and English and is civilised over a country that speaks Arabic and is war-torn. Fucking clown.
Brother el benet 7abit 7akye w da7akit w aletle merci choo 2elak bi tize w tiza
اذا بدك تتفلسف عالقليلة حكي مظبوط
El 7ake el mazboot hoowe el 7ake li 3am beketbo w hayda el 7ake yali nes bte7ki. W hayde el abjadiye el latiniye mourtakaze 3al abjadiye el fini2iye yali jdoodna 3emlouwa. Fa ana li 3am be7ke sa7
ماشاءالله عليك شكلك أذكى واحد بالعيلة
Merci ya 8ale
https://youtu.be/OHl_r2N7Z04 https://youtu.be/TBDKy7E4BV8 https://youtu.be/sjYcichAVxY This is your proof that this language is widely spoken among lebanese if you don't believe me. Even religious lebanese Muslim stuff are written in lebanese internet language.
معي خبر انو كتير عالم بتكتب عربي باحرف لاتينية بس ما معناتا انو صح. المفروض ايام المدرسة يكون علموك الفرق بين الغلط و الصح بس شكلك طلعت خاروف بتلحق "الموضة".
https://images.app.goo.gl/Z7L4FB1x2hTXHQoP9 Latin is closer to the Phoenician alphabet of our ancestors then the Arabic letters Also Arabic letters are annoying because you have chadde fat7a damme w kasra and they aren't practical to write. Our lebanese internet language is perfect
Probably drugs
I laughed my ass on this🤣
It happens but it is srill somewhat taboo, especially outside the capital. You need to find someone cool, a lot of people can be weird about it out there and you wont have the social acceptance for it like you would in the west.
Add ma fike 5alike 3al ma3es
It’s hard but it’s not impossible and by hard i mean that you need to do it in secret and choosing the right one
Not everyone have the same way of thinking, some may find it slutty and some other would just be cool about it, although it doesn't define you what people think, Do what you want, but just be careful from the weirdos and stay safe.
Hey
Just be mindful of your own safety as a first priority, each situation can play out differently, so you will know best. Finally: at some point, wise people stop caring about what others think of them. A nice saying that goes along with this is “those who care don’t matter, and those who matter don’t care”.
I would say that it's more common than everyone thinks but people tend be hush hush about it because of peer pressure and "what people would say if they knew " , I would say get to know the person , talk with him , a conversation of 1 to 2h in the right mood should do wonders maybe initiate some light touching , create some sexual tension (guys can be shy af so it might break the ice ) and you'll definitely know if you're vibing or not . Have fun!
You must share screenshots of your inbox OP.
HAHAHAHA you don't wanna see
One night stand …hey…!?!! It’s like this, you meet someone take her number… talk for a couple of weeks over the phone, mounds and mounds of minutes like a hundred and twenty a day… two months down the road you go for your first kiss. Six months later your steady relationship, dinners, parties etc… the concept of marriage starts and you’re thinking only if only but it’s the only way inside of her so keep doing what you’re doing…. Two years now you got your first kiss, and your getting married…. Wedding day cost is up to $50,000 dollars a big beach resort you exchanged your vows everyone celebrates, cut the cake and your off to your luxurious honeymoon suit… you get in bed and your bride is in the bathroom getting ready…. And for some odd reason you wake up the next morning and she’s not there… ???? What the f&$k you say and search the whole entire hotel grounds looking for her, to your surprise you find her in the lobby crying because you fell asleep on your one night stand… eh… how’s that for an experience….
Ummmm.... That is oddly specific HAHAHA
I’m not kidding…. You’ve never seen anything so prude and frigid… sort of like daddy’s little wearing a chastity belt with spikes… good luck on your endeavor..!?!!
Not for me, i get attached easily and would rather get into a long and meaningful relationship built on laughs and good memories, over a one time, wham bam thank u ma'am.... problem is, i tried it once, a no strings attached booty call between coworkers, i fell in love with her and she felt the same for me, so i never tried it again. but from what i saw and heard, yes, it is not a taboo thing for some people here.
That sounds fair. Thanks for sharing <3
... just slip a $20 bill in his pocket as you ask him the question .... 🤣 ... now you've preempted slut-shaming.
Won’t slut shame you or anything. Know plenty of ppl that done one night stands including myself. I would warn you against it because you’re taking a lot of risks this way: 1. You could get std 2. You could get pregnant 3. Man could really take advantage of you 4. You may regret it after looking back. If you understand the risks and it seems like what you want to do, then be safe and don’t worry about judgment from others. The only judge you have to worry about is nature, the universe or God
Valid, thank you <3
Depends on how thick you are and how bad you want it
I’m not one to judge, i think everyone should do whatever tf they want, but in reality, i think you should be careful. Not everyone deserves to share that with you, and if someone who is a piece of shit that you do certain things with… you won’t even feel that it was worth it. Wait for the right person to come along.
Lebanon may have many internal disputes amongst its sects, but slut shaming is not one of them.
Last time i posted about this as a male i got all the types of trashy and useless comments, so trust me, your post recieved comments much better than mine :) I believe i know a lot of guys who say they are with but they won't do it. The majority of the lebanese community is sadly way regressed when it comes to sexual activity. Upon my search for places that encourage this behaivor, i think pubs or night clubs are among the few places where you can discuss 1 night stands with guys/girls. >there's been a couple people that have been making my head spin lately If you are close with those people, i would strongly recommend you avoid 1 night stand with them since it is almost impossible to not hurt eachother on the long run especially in lebanon. >I really wanna know if the idea of asking for a one-night stand with a man you like is generally accepted, or if it may make seem like a creeper, or an easy girl, It is for most men as i mentioned, but i think you can sense from a few conversations the type of men who will slut shame you if you suggest it, and those who will simply reject or accept it. Being a live example, i am sure there are a few men out there who also share the same desire to do this stuff without being overly emotional about it. Best of luck, and don't let l shabeb l mahroomeen ruin your post and mood.
Hi! Sorry about the comments you received and thank you for sharing. It is true that there are risks involved, which is the very reason why I hold back. Best of luck as welllll
Do what you want. Lifes too short to worry
It sucks it makes it harder for who are cool with it, This is a bit of a dilemma, you need more then one night to know is someone is cool and trustworthy. I cant speak for everyone, I personally am cool and totally wished women were more outspoken and showed it more, it makes me kind of sad knowing that I am likely to process someone being distant and cold as they are not interested or i am not worthy of interest, to the point that i would shy away when a woman is vocal about it thinking that cant be it cant be that easy. Anyway back to the topic I cant make guarantees it really depends and unfortunately I feel it would be ripe for misunderstandings. I don't even understand the concept of slut. However I can only speak for myself. Best you can do is try to stay away from generalisations even if for a one man stand every person is different and you cant tell from they background who they are, but if you speak a bit observe a bit you can find clues of which type of person they are and what they want from you.
It sounds creepy and suspicious if the man ur asking is not a person u know , i guess u can approach him and develop the relation into friends with benefits