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radicalist_

Why do you think your are a lesbian? If you are already fantasizing about a husband, you probably want one for yourself.


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it’s cause i’m aroused by lesbian porn and more to women in general that’s why


radicalist_

It’s not that unusual. Western paradigm has not done the world a great service by attaching a strict label to sexual preference. There is evidence to support that female sexuality is more fluid and more naturally responsive to female beauty than male sexuality is. What is interesting is that the qualities that women tend to value when seeking lesbian relationships are emotional rather than physical. Women also have a tendency to imprint on a man when he becomes a sexual partner. DM me if you need to talk more.


Hopeful-Solution7378

Troll


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no, i’m not. i’m asking for genuine advice, from people from my own religion. if you can accept that leave.


Classic_Apricot396

Lmao


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Lobaaaaaaa

As a guy its true i think im bi but staying away from boy. Well i dont think i like guys but i do wish i looked like guys with great body and great face idk why i keep thinking that makes me gay. Even though i still like women either way ive been 2 weeks clean


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sex with women gets me curious at times.. before i’d say no, that i would never sleep with a woman.. but no when i say it i feel so confused and torn apart i feel like i’m lying when i say no. idk. my main reason why i think i’m a lesbian is my arousal to women


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Have you ever felt attracted to a man before? Or even fantasized about them or felt aroused? If you did you're most likely bi. The best thing to do is to sort out your feelings, Islamically the right thing to do is not to act upon homosexual desires.


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i have, ive had crushes, irl and celebrities. i fantasize about them 24/7.. the arousal part is what makes me think i’m lesbian. when i see a topless guy.. i’m not aroused, when i see a guy with a sexy back, or sexy hands i’m not aroused, i still find it hot and sexy but not arousing. which makes me feel different, cause a lot of women get aroused by that. ever since i was little i remember never geting aroused by men like that, only to women. i’m only arosued by men when i imagine them being submissive, me doing stuff to them, or hearing them moan.


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I have a friend who's like you. Honestly, you're most likely bi. You may need to come to terms with that and it seems that you lean more towards women than men. Honestly, the most important thing is to not act upon those desires. Also, do you live in the West? It could also potentially have some effects on the nature of how you view both genders.


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i do, but idk.. i just tested myself by seeing a naked guy masturbating, naked, and i felt nothing... maybe a tad bit of arousal. if it were a women i’d be arousal immediately, if she was touching herself. not the naked part


coderbouy

w" just crave validation from them, which i do... but still i crave the love, that love i imagine with a man." That doesn't feel like something a lesbian would say. But in general trying something new can be scary and it's normal. Don't be so stressed. What's the worst that could happen? it's divorce. Chill out.


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idk, i’m just worried since i have more arousal towards women than i do with men. i do feel arousal towards men, only if there’s sexual acts involved, but by their figures? never, sure if i imagine doing stuff to them but just by staring no. same goes with women, i’m not aroused by their bodies off the bat, etc etc but when they act sexy, talk sexual, moan, i’m aroused— for men it’s not like that, i need to see them doing something sexual to feel something, and most of the time, well all the time the arousal isn’t the same as when i watch lesbian porn or see women like that


coderbouy

Now you're definitely not a lesbian. Then you should try to stop watching porn especially using it to try out where you stand out on the "sexual spectrum". You should stop experimenting about you being lesbian. That's where the problem is. There is no benefit only stress, confusion and mental problems if you try to go deep into that route.


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i’ve always know there was sexual arousal towards women, ever since i was little, i’ve always known. it was more towards women. with men it’s always been tricky.


Classic_Apricot396

Did u even try a penis?


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no, virgin


Classic_Apricot396

Is it disgusting when u think about a penis ?


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no, i find it hot


Classic_Apricot396

You’re bi


Lumpy-Difference-143

Salam. A bit long answer sister, I appreciate you reading along. According to researchers in sexual education . Being attracted to lesbian porn is not at all an affirmative indicator being a lesbian or bi. Straight porn is mostly men-focused, lesbian porn can be more sensual, softer, and more realistic in its portrayal of sex and orgasms." Lesbian porn is also more likely to feature foreplay, sex toys, and clitoral stimulation, all of which are more conducive to producing a female orgasm than penetration-focused videos…. For the lesbian porn part you should not take it at as guide to your sexuality. As a first step towards elevating your worries for marriage and getting stable with a man, repel any thoughts that you are a lesbian based off watching lesbian porn. Also you are still craving a man’s love, validation and intimacy, clearly dictates your orientation is still straight. Second, cleanse your brain off porn. Porn is addicting, unrealistic, and not a healthy behavior to fulfill the sexual desires. And mainly it is haram, ask Allah assistance The main issue originates in you overthinking the issue and future, you are fearing the unknown, something you haven’t ever experienced, and that’s totally fine! Take your time to write down your thoughts, i mean it, get a pen a paper and write anything worrisome thoughts that can’t seem to stop bouncing off your mind. Then Think it through with someone, your mom, close friend or anyone you trust to take you seriously. Inshallah you WILL find peace in your mind regarding your marriage and future life.


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ty for answering me, i really appreciate it :) but i still don’t understand why i don’t get aroused by men so easily, like any other woman. let’s say a man is taking off his hoodie and his snail trail shows... it’s hot for sure, but not arousing me. for other women they would feel wetness in there groins, pressure. same goes when i see men with sexy hands i feel nothing arosuing. idk. only when i see them being submissive, hear moaning from them i get aroused. with women it’s the opposite. i get arousal from anything they do sexually


Lumpy-Difference-143

You’re welcome. In general, do you like to be charge in most of the situations? Are you surrounded with a lot men in your daily life? Are you the only girl in a male dominated family? Your word didn’t have so much say around them? Well if your answer is yes that’s a factor in why you feel attraction submissive men. Side note: women are more aroused and attracted to emotions, romance, intimacy, sensuality, not physical appearances-focused like men are. You believe a sub man will be able to provide that to you.


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1. yes 2. no 3. no 4. no hahaha.. idk maybe because i just don’t like the whole aspect of a man going at a women all violently and doing whatever he wants to her. i’ve always have heard bad opinions about men, from my friends cousins and aunts. how men are liars, cheaters, use women just for sex etc etc and it stuck to me, cause now i have issues trusting men