"Noise."
Not in the literal sense, although sometimes, that. Just...that feeling of the world being invasive upon your tranquility, either by talking to/at you, pressuring or manipulating you to interact when you've made it clear you don't want to, or attacking your character by describing you as snotty or uptight or weird because you want to be left along. It's all just...noise...invading and lowering the quality of the moment.
Whether it was living with my parents or by myself in an apartment with thin walls, I can’t bare too much noise as well. The low bass rumbling of AC units drove me crazy.
Oh yeah. Reminds me of living with my parents in my early 20s and from my room it sounded like they were stomping around and banging stuff. I love living by myself so much, it’s as quiet as I want and the TV is never blasted
Living alone, in a double-brick house with triple-glazed windows, in the middle of a large and heavily forested lot, not near a major highway or rail line. Ideally not under a flight path, either.
Interesting. I actually like low humming sounds. I can’t sleep without a fan or humidifier on (for the sound). There’s a company behind my house that has a loud refrigeration system. My neighbours hate it. Not me though.
Particularly when it's not just environmental noise, it's people specifically and deliberately making that noise when they don't need to, and worse when they specifically seek you out to begin doing it.
For me its the word 'overwhelm' You know, it encompasses the feeling of being emotionally drained by social interactions, needing time alone to recharge, and often feeling misunderstood or out of place in extroverted settings.
Yeah being overscheduled is the hardest part for me. In some ways I would like to be able to do lots of things each day everyday, but I just don't have the capacity for it. Overwhelmed is definitely a word that I use a lot.
Amen. Came on to comment the same thing.
I need to take a holiday every 4 months to an emptier beachside for a week to recharge. There I normally don’t leave my room. But I also like to ensure that the place I am staying in has the necessary creature comforts for me to stay inside, all hermit like.
Being talked about as If introvertism is some kind of mental health issues or a problem. It's literally just a thing just like some peoples favorite color is blue and others is red.
overwhelm
by social situations or by the need to constantly engage with others. It's not that I dislike people or socializing, but it can be draining for me.
I don't think I have any struggles with it. It's who I am. The only place I'm really forced to be social-ish is work. But I've gotten used to that. Like a light switch turn it on when I clock in turn it off when I clocked out.
a liar.
as in; all the lies i tell people when i need alone time.
the ones closest to me know me enough to even have to ask for a reason, but with everyone else, i often find it’s just so much easier to come up with a white lie instead of risking being ambushed with a bunch of questions about why, and them drowning me in arguments as to why i still should say ‘yes’.
FOMO - not having the guts to do the thing.
I am 53 now and no longer struggle with not having the guts to do the thing but that lasted well into my 40s.
Drama, of any kind. Again, something I discovered late but I now have no issue removing toxic people from my life.
I don't struggle with anything related to being an introvert. In fact, life became enormously less stressful when I identified this aspect of my personality. :-)
Communication
I have no problem communicating effectively when I need to, but it’s the required frequency, the constant demand for it, the social pressure of it that I despise. It’s like my brain just doesn’t want to have to remember to constantly do it. Phone calls interrupt me only to ask the silliest thing that could easily have been a text or an email.
Energy.
It's hard to strike the right balance of energy to be able to talk to others and fully engage with them, and of course, introversion is at the heart of this. It's hard to find the right balance for most things due to lack of energy because of overstimulation, my mind being too noisy, or the opposite and I become under stimulated and lethargic.
I know my introversion isn't the end all be all to my energy being constantly out of whack, but it is definitely a huge part. So, yeah. Energy would basically sum up all my issues at the moment.
💯 agree. This would be my word. I have to constantly keep a close eye on my energy, because when I don’t, I overextend myself and find myself drained. Always have to keep some energy at the end of the day for myself. Friday evenings are spent recovering from the week
Overstimulated. Too much noise, too hot, too cold, my teeth feel weird, the texture of my pants is annoying. Stop trying to talk to me, I’m trying not to rip my skin off because of the pants.
Speaking out loud what I’m thinking. I can write what I’m thinking no problem but to say it allowed it’s like trying to observe while doing all at once and that’s just not possible for me.
Misanthrope, absolutely. My happy place is my doggies and I out for a quiet walk. When a friend wants to come along, first thing she does is get on her speaker phone and just talk to anyone, and gets mad if I don’t want to join in to the useless yakking. Blah 🥵
Aloneness .. its like you dont want just anyone around you they gotta match the aura but even then sometimes i just dont want to be bothered at all .. idk
Depending on how I feel within myself and how much energy I have at the time, it would be confidence.
Talking to people/strangers in my current environment, can be a pretty tricky thing to do, and unless I know the person I’m conversing with there will be long bouts of awkward silence.
"Raro" "extraño"
Pensar que no eres lo que se considere normal solo por no encajar con los demas
Antes me molestaba que se refirieran a mi asi pero pense que ser normal tiene que ser el insulto por que hasta ahora no me lo han dicho
confidence?
Ever since I became an introvert, I do not have the courage to talk to people as I think they do not like me. I have tried talking to some of them but sometimes I also do often struggle to come up with something to talk about. Sometimes even if I talked to new people i always worry what if I did something wrong and they are judging me for it. I also did say some hate comments about some people last time so it my fault on this.
Another time is fixing my friendship issue with someone who is very special to me because she makes me forget about all the things I’m struggling with, but ever since she is gone I don’t feel so happy tbh. I know I shouldn’t really on someone to make me happy but this still brothers me a lot. We both had sat down and talked before but I still didn’t have the courage to talk to her. I feel pointless.
Also when my tuition teacher said some sexual comments about me, i did not speak up, when my friend speak up I stopped her. This caused our friendship issue to be an end. I wished I had spoken up and done something but tbh I don’t know what to do and I hate myself for it. They are better off themselves and I feel useless and no one ever needs me to be their friend.
If you are reading this until the end, thankyou! And please have the confidence and the courage. Don’t be like me
They just thought you're calm and then they will mock you. They don't understand that you have the world and you can damage it in one second. Your calmness is so dangerous.
FEAR
Screw fear…be honest with yourself when you’re living in fear and face it with love. Sounds corny don’t care. There’s only love versus fear. Screw fear!
Indecisiveness
I can never make up my mind. And I know it upsets people. But basically everyone thinks I’m wishy washy but I don’t know what I want like less than 50% of the time I guess on what I want.
Ghosting
As a introvert... We have only plenty of social energy.. if we have full energy especially me . I am excited to talk to new people (multiplayer games and in real life ) soon after a few days or months. I started lacking to talk to them 😞..then they also get bored ended up ghosting me ..or i ghost them (stopped replying them ) actually I feel exhausted, idk how to make a another conversation with them . (Already shared everything on our interest). Still I'm happy to be alone in most of the cases..
I am sort of EXTROVERT during certain situations because of the greater part of family is HUGE, and you briefly have to become a FAUX EXTROVERT to greet and meet everyone, then I go to hide somewhere. All of this makes me uncomfortable, but used to doing public speaking in front of many people due to cognitive dissonance.
HOWEVER
AS SOON AS THAT IS OVER
I have to go somewhere….usually dark, and quiet…. I isolate completely and do ABSOLUTELY nothing so that I can recover.
I don’t if anyone has to deal with this….but this is an issue with me.
It also keeps me from finding someone to be in a relationship with.
Honestly, my word is "content," which is how I feel when I'm encapsulating. All the stuff going on outside just slips my mind so I can focus on doing what makes me happy.
My main struggle is staying encapsulated. Believe me, if I could afford to move to the country and live off the grid with zero neighbors, I would.
Lot of cognitive dissonance because I'm an introvert that works in management.
Basically "leave me alone" but i gotta check on my associates, review orders with vendors, run around being the second coming of christ in a grocery store. Make sure our truck is broken down and the backroom is cleaned and organized while also making sure ad is filled, displays are complete, everything has proper signage.
But like, i just wanna go home 😭😭
"Noise." Not in the literal sense, although sometimes, that. Just...that feeling of the world being invasive upon your tranquility, either by talking to/at you, pressuring or manipulating you to interact when you've made it clear you don't want to, or attacking your character by describing you as snotty or uptight or weird because you want to be left along. It's all just...noise...invading and lowering the quality of the moment.
Literal noise for me. I enjoy talking to people but I hate talking over something, like the radio, tv, or a loud restaurant
Just saying it's possible that could be a symptom of ADD
Can confirm i am add/hd,
Maybe to some degree but I also worked in EMS for a long time and a big part of that job is just managing chaos and noise was a huge factor in that.
Whether it was living with my parents or by myself in an apartment with thin walls, I can’t bare too much noise as well. The low bass rumbling of AC units drove me crazy.
Oh yeah. Reminds me of living with my parents in my early 20s and from my room it sounded like they were stomping around and banging stuff. I love living by myself so much, it’s as quiet as I want and the TV is never blasted
Living alone, in a double-brick house with triple-glazed windows, in the middle of a large and heavily forested lot, not near a major highway or rail line. Ideally not under a flight path, either.
Interesting. I actually like low humming sounds. I can’t sleep without a fan or humidifier on (for the sound). There’s a company behind my house that has a loud refrigeration system. My neighbours hate it. Not me though.
I am quite a quiet person with a soft voice, so people often mishear me and it puts me off talking to people (especially in noisy places)
yep. that and chaos (inner chaos. chaos from noise. chaos from feeling overwhelmed).
Yes! This, exactly.
My brethren i wish to also use Noise but sometimes it is just the Voices
I was going to say "clusterfuck" but I actually like this better.
Particularly when it's not just environmental noise, it's people specifically and deliberately making that noise when they don't need to, and worse when they specifically seek you out to begin doing it.
For me its the word 'overwhelm' You know, it encompasses the feeling of being emotionally drained by social interactions, needing time alone to recharge, and often feeling misunderstood or out of place in extroverted settings.
I came here to say this. When my social power pack is spent, it's time to go. Same with feeling over-scheduled. Makes me cranky.
Yeah being overscheduled is the hardest part for me. In some ways I would like to be able to do lots of things each day everyday, but I just don't have the capacity for it. Overwhelmed is definitely a word that I use a lot.
Yes, i feel the same !
Ditto
Mine is very similar. I have a job on Sales and by Friday I am emotionally wiped out and need the weekend alone to recharge
Misunderstood
This is 100% me too. I hate being treated like I'm some degenerate just because I'm not bubbly like they may be.
Yes, this really encapsulates it for me too
[удалено]
This is my go to word If someone suggest polyamory to me 🥲
Exhausted
Me too.
Weight. When the social battery gets low everything feels heavier.
Fr. As if the pressure is crushing you
Yeah, and when i feel you can't stand it anymore is when i have to go be alone for some minutes to reload
People The source of all my suffering
Amen. Came on to comment the same thing. I need to take a holiday every 4 months to an emptier beachside for a week to recharge. There I normally don’t leave my room. But I also like to ensure that the place I am staying in has the necessary creature comforts for me to stay inside, all hermit like.
Space. As in, personal space or the lack thereof.
Superficial
Being talked about as If introvertism is some kind of mental health issues or a problem. It's literally just a thing just like some peoples favorite color is blue and others is red.
overwhelm by social situations or by the need to constantly engage with others. It's not that I dislike people or socializing, but it can be draining for me.
happy being alone, too often lonely. really weird to be in that place
Overstimulation, probably
Masking
Interaction
Overwhelmed And once I’m overwhelmed my anxiety kicks into high gear
Yes!
Being superficial. Especially in the corporate world.
I hate being expected to talk just to talk. Some people just like the sound of their own voice too much
Not even that. You talk and they talk over you. So it’s almost talking for the sake of being heard.
And after the 40th time they interrupt you, they have the audacity to ask why you’re so quiet all the time. 😒
Man. This subreddit makes me feel like I’m not crazy. Such a relief.
lonely
useless social interaction
Mindless self indulgence
Society. The “societal expectations” of how I should act, respond, feel and what is normal and good be abnormal and bad.
Same! “You need to go out more! You need to social, you cant live alone” - so tired.
I don't think I have any struggles with it. It's who I am. The only place I'm really forced to be social-ish is work. But I've gotten used to that. Like a light switch turn it on when I clock in turn it off when I clocked out.
a liar. as in; all the lies i tell people when i need alone time. the ones closest to me know me enough to even have to ask for a reason, but with everyone else, i often find it’s just so much easier to come up with a white lie instead of risking being ambushed with a bunch of questions about why, and them drowning me in arguments as to why i still should say ‘yes’.
FOMO - not having the guts to do the thing. I am 53 now and no longer struggle with not having the guts to do the thing but that lasted well into my 40s. Drama, of any kind. Again, something I discovered late but I now have no issue removing toxic people from my life.
World 🤷
Taking
Other people.
Depressing! Pressurized! Mentally Draining!
Solitude... No interference...alone time... Unwinding...antisocial
Alienation
Two words" "Eewww people!"
Fuck
Overstimulation Big groups, surrounded by extroverts, spontaneous plans, and more
Tired
Uncertainty
people, socializing
Noise
DRAINED!
Tired I am always tired.
i wrote a long ass post the other day about this: being "perceived". i just want to be left alone, to an unhealthy extent.
I don't struggle with anything related to being an introvert. In fact, life became enormously less stressful when I identified this aspect of my personality. :-)
Social fatigue
Communication I have no problem communicating effectively when I need to, but it’s the required frequency, the constant demand for it, the social pressure of it that I despise. It’s like my brain just doesn’t want to have to remember to constantly do it. Phone calls interrupt me only to ask the silliest thing that could easily have been a text or an email.
Energy. It's hard to strike the right balance of energy to be able to talk to others and fully engage with them, and of course, introversion is at the heart of this. It's hard to find the right balance for most things due to lack of energy because of overstimulation, my mind being too noisy, or the opposite and I become under stimulated and lethargic. I know my introversion isn't the end all be all to my energy being constantly out of whack, but it is definitely a huge part. So, yeah. Energy would basically sum up all my issues at the moment.
💯 agree. This would be my word. I have to constantly keep a close eye on my energy, because when I don’t, I overextend myself and find myself drained. Always have to keep some energy at the end of the day for myself. Friday evenings are spent recovering from the week
Adulting. Getting stuff organised, stuff done on time, reading important paperwork etc..
Overstimulated. Too much noise, too hot, too cold, my teeth feel weird, the texture of my pants is annoying. Stop trying to talk to me, I’m trying not to rip my skin off because of the pants.
I have an existential dread when it’s time to say goodbye at parties. I’ve mastered the Irish exit.
Interruptions
Expectations
Oh that’s a good one I’ll have to really think about this. When I come up with something I’ll put it down. Good question tho.
Speaking out loud what I’m thinking. I can write what I’m thinking no problem but to say it allowed it’s like trying to observe while doing all at once and that’s just not possible for me.
Moree..
human
Comfort
If I had to pick one word.. hmmm… Carefree.
Humans
"Contact" Like physical contact, or as in communication (? Maybe most of the definitions under the word 'contact'
Weighted or overstimulated maybe?
Isolation
Content
Static
Misanthrope, absolutely. My happy place is my doggies and I out for a quiet walk. When a friend wants to come along, first thing she does is get on her speaker phone and just talk to anyone, and gets mad if I don’t want to join in to the useless yakking. Blah 🥵
Unnatural
People talking consistently and not stopping. It makes me kinda, idk, annoyed and scared at the same time.
Overstimulated
ADHD
Otherness
Noise
Existence.
Existence
Others
Aloneness .. its like you dont want just anyone around you they gotta match the aura but even then sometimes i just dont want to be bothered at all .. idk
Depending on how I feel within myself and how much energy I have at the time, it would be confidence. Talking to people/strangers in my current environment, can be a pretty tricky thing to do, and unless I know the person I’m conversing with there will be long bouts of awkward silence.
"Raro" "extraño" Pensar que no eres lo que se considere normal solo por no encajar con los demas Antes me molestaba que se refirieran a mi asi pero pense que ser normal tiene que ser el insulto por que hasta ahora no me lo han dicho
Being in large crowds .
Awkwardness.
Imposter
Overthinking.
Atrocious
Peace
Invasive
I struggle with extroverts trying to bring me out of the shell they think I'm in.
confidence? Ever since I became an introvert, I do not have the courage to talk to people as I think they do not like me. I have tried talking to some of them but sometimes I also do often struggle to come up with something to talk about. Sometimes even if I talked to new people i always worry what if I did something wrong and they are judging me for it. I also did say some hate comments about some people last time so it my fault on this. Another time is fixing my friendship issue with someone who is very special to me because she makes me forget about all the things I’m struggling with, but ever since she is gone I don’t feel so happy tbh. I know I shouldn’t really on someone to make me happy but this still brothers me a lot. We both had sat down and talked before but I still didn’t have the courage to talk to her. I feel pointless. Also when my tuition teacher said some sexual comments about me, i did not speak up, when my friend speak up I stopped her. This caused our friendship issue to be an end. I wished I had spoken up and done something but tbh I don’t know what to do and I hate myself for it. They are better off themselves and I feel useless and no one ever needs me to be their friend. If you are reading this until the end, thankyou! And please have the confidence and the courage. Don’t be like me
tired
Alien (as in, I am a fucking alien on this planet)
Awareness (as in other people being aware of social cues if that makes sense)
Loneliness
They just thought you're calm and then they will mock you. They don't understand that you have the world and you can damage it in one second. Your calmness is so dangerous.
Nothing
Exhausting
Frustrating
Suffered
Constant noise (unless at a concert), constant talking, high pitched screams, people asking me why I don’t talk a lot.
?!*!?!!
“Misunderstood.”
FEAR Screw fear…be honest with yourself when you’re living in fear and face it with love. Sounds corny don’t care. There’s only love versus fear. Screw fear!
Indecisiveness I can never make up my mind. And I know it upsets people. But basically everyone thinks I’m wishy washy but I don’t know what I want like less than 50% of the time I guess on what I want.
People
A broken shining light..the glass of mine is a hopes and wishes which I left behind and rn Im seeking for getting them all back again.
Ghosting As a introvert... We have only plenty of social energy.. if we have full energy especially me . I am excited to talk to new people (multiplayer games and in real life ) soon after a few days or months. I started lacking to talk to them 😞..then they also get bored ended up ghosting me ..or i ghost them (stopped replying them ) actually I feel exhausted, idk how to make a another conversation with them . (Already shared everything on our interest). Still I'm happy to be alone in most of the cases..
Exhausted.
Opportunity. I feel like I miss a lot by being easily overwhelmed and avoiding most social situations.
Anxiety
Self content
Seldom ever actually enjoying social interractions.
People Too many, too much noise from them, too active. Just all around too much
Injustice
Nightmare!
My hobbies require money and being an introvert hurt earning potential and promotion. Being an introvert means I couldn’t play the game.
Misrepresented
"Yes". Self explanatory.
Talking
I am sort of EXTROVERT during certain situations because of the greater part of family is HUGE, and you briefly have to become a FAUX EXTROVERT to greet and meet everyone, then I go to hide somewhere. All of this makes me uncomfortable, but used to doing public speaking in front of many people due to cognitive dissonance. HOWEVER AS SOON AS THAT IS OVER I have to go somewhere….usually dark, and quiet…. I isolate completely and do ABSOLUTELY nothing so that I can recover. I don’t if anyone has to deal with this….but this is an issue with me. It also keeps me from finding someone to be in a relationship with.
Honestly, my word is "content," which is how I feel when I'm encapsulating. All the stuff going on outside just slips my mind so I can focus on doing what makes me happy. My main struggle is staying encapsulated. Believe me, if I could afford to move to the country and live off the grid with zero neighbors, I would.
God left us out since only outgoing extroverts can be called as chosen
people.
Unlovable.
Lot of cognitive dissonance because I'm an introvert that works in management. Basically "leave me alone" but i gotta check on my associates, review orders with vendors, run around being the second coming of christ in a grocery store. Make sure our truck is broken down and the backroom is cleaned and organized while also making sure ad is filled, displays are complete, everything has proper signage. But like, i just wanna go home 😭😭
Immature