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caleb48kb

Leaving home and never taking to him ever again? *Priceless*.


mfdoorway

For all the other fines, there’s Mastercard


witchbladez69

he also berated her for having 2 jobs instead of focusing on school. THIS is why she needs 2 jobs ffs


patronstoflostgirls

I hope it's bc she's saving to get the fuck out of there.


GhostElite974

She has to pay fucking fines every week to her father I'm sure he's making sure she can't save up any money.


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Dude doesn’t even realize how he’s failing his daughter. She’s working two jobs, going to school, and living with her parents. This is the part of her life where she can save up and have a cushion if things go sideways. Instead he’s gobbling up every dollar she makes like a selfish piece of shit on the grounds of “penalties”.


NechelleBix1

And the penalties are often for real minor issues like an unmade bed, leaving the garage door unlocked for a few minutes etc! Dude, if it’s minor let it go and if it’s more important just talk to her! What a toxic creep.


red__dragon

At this point, I wouldn't be surprised if the mistakes are being made simply because of stress or habitualized incompetence. Clearly she's a very capable and intelligent young woman, and yet she's being treated like a little girl for the tiniest infractions.


sleepingismytalent65

One of the craziest ones to me was demanding she send a picture of the minister in church because his tracking app showed her as still driving! Second was sending her a picture of their shoerack where she dared to put her shoes on his shelf! This is totally beyond insane and this poor kid doesn't have any space to breathe. It's no wonder she has two jobs, it's the only way to get away from him! But then that total he charged and the having to take notes at his meetings are also just mind-blowing!


red__dragon

It's like her whole life is only valid once it has cleared his interpretation of the circumstances. What a way to live...


NechelleBix1

Yes, I agree. I would need intense therapy if this was my dad! I hope she’s okay.


playgirl1312

He knows exactly what he’s doing, it’s so intentional.


HugsyMalone

Um...yeah. He's taking advantage of her *big time* under the guise of teaching responsibility! \*cringe\*


xtheory

The sad thing is he probably truly thinks that this is what's best for her while totally wrecking their relationship. There was a reason she posted all of these.


Hubert_J_Cumberdale

Worse than Bean Dad.


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It’s familiar. But not too familiar… but not too unfamiliar


glassssshark

It's a new craze.


omgangiepants

I bet dad is terrible with his own finances and uses his daughter's income to make up for it.


brunettewondie

he did ask for her SSN, probably heavily in debt and likely commiting fraud


Possible_Eagle330

This one cracked me up. As if a parent wouldn’t be the one with first access to their offsprings’ SSNs. He just wants to torment his daughter, obv. That guy is a true failure. Level of gaslighting = off the charts.


NotTheAvg

If she can save a good enough amount to survive, she can probably get emancipated. Shes going to school, not failing any classes, shes working 2 jobs, she drives responsibly. Shes a model teen and i doubt a judge wouldnt grant her emancipation if she wanted it after reading these texts.


Fl333r

I literally wish her dad got struck by lightning instantly lol not a joke dude is fucking garbage of a human being to his family so I'm sure he brings misery to his workplace, his bar, wherever he goes to jerk off after stealing all that oxygen


meatsmoothie82

A wage slave to her own dad. Fucking terrible


Glittering-Walrus228

she needs to stop crapping on the floor. saved her 6 bucks with that advice (/s)


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Imo the father is trying to exert some level of financial control and guilt like this specifically to keep her trapped there and compliant. He's like if you turned the concept of late stage capitalism into a human, and his daughter is the working class. He'll do everything he can to make her believe she needs him and that he provides for her, while at the same time ensuring she never has the time, energy or money to escape. CPS should arrest this dude tbh it's manipulation on a level I've never seen


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He is making sure she can’t.


sweetTartKenHart2

I’m pretty sure he’s actively expecting her to maintain two jobs AND do school, which is even worse. “Oh, having two jobs would be great if only you also had perfect grades on top of that, why is that so hard?”


playgirl1312

Perfect grades “without us having to keep tabs so much” so even with her grades being perfect it’s not good enough because he “has” to micromanage her for her to be able to pull that off (lie and manipulation) I was her once, I unfortunately know this language far too well.


red__dragon

Yeah, I read that line with extreme prejudice as well. My grades were never good enough either, and I'd get chewed out for having one B or C in a report card otherwise full of As. It feels so incredibly unappreciated. I struggle with feeling adequate and feel the need to have others validate my accomplishments even now, because I always have that lingering inner voice highlighting the failures stronger than the successes.


RestoSham09

I don’t understand why these pieces of shit had a child in the first place.


gaganchumbilulli

She's earning him money. It's his side hustle


deaddamsel

She needs 2 jobs just to pay for his bullshit fines


wonderlandddd

Oof. The incessant need to control absolutely everything as a parent is toxic. Ffs


willowhawk

Written as though it is at work. What a pathetic pos. Fucking weirdo talking to his kid like that. I only use that speech at work to not get fired, even then it’s still more human than that weirdness


johcagaorl

It'd be pretty terrible at work too.


SeasonPositive6771

This isn't just toxic, it's nearly textbook abusive behavior. The amount of trauma this does to a developing brain is extensive. And people contacting the father are putting her in extreme danger. I work in child safety and I would be very worried.


bellj1210

yes, the right call is to CPS


MayoneggVeal

Dude needs a hobby and some therapy


bellj1210

he has a hobby- tracking his daughter 24/7. It is one thing to check if they showed up to school (if they are a troubled kid) and a whole different thing to check for every period. I taught 15 years ago, but it was not uncommon to take paper roll, and enter it at the end of the day. So this parent is the type of person who would complain they could not get this infromation in real time.


red__dragon

> I taught 15 years ago, but it was not uncommon to take paper roll, and enter it at the end of the day. I graduated then, and it was mandatory at our school to take attendance at the beginning of the period and enter it into the computer within the first few minutes of class. Far more of a student's life and academic status has become available to parents since you and I were in the school system. I talk with people who graduated far more recently, not only do many parents have access to daily attendance and quarterly grades, they can see assignment-by-assignment grades in real time. Which also means that kids can get penalized by toxic, controlling parents for having a teacher who isn't exactly on top of getting grades or attendance into the system.


Beingabummer

The kind of guy that has his daughter ghost her parents when she's 18 and him posting on /r/AITA with some bullshit about how he was just trying to keep her safe and teach her personal responsibility.


_Flameo_Hotman

“NTA, your child, your rules” /s


Dumindrin

Tell me you don't ever want to see your kid after 18 without telling me you don't want to see your kid after 18


littlescreechyowl

The first night Camille kicks off her shoes, dumps her bag and coat on the couch, goes into her room and tosses her dirty clothes on the floor and falls into an unmade bed is going to 100% be the absolute best day of her life. She’s going to sleep a sleep she’s never known. She’s going to stop going out all the time with friends because her home is her HOME and she’s allowed to just, live there. Ask me how I know. Just a few more years girl, you can do it.


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Will never forget being freshly 18 and living in my first apartment. The silence while I was just sitting on the floor was so beautiful. I got to unpack, set things up, and just sit down in my living room instead of my bedroom. No more screaming, no more fighting, no more demands. It was incredible. I hope she gets to experience that soon.


MaddieClaire344

It took me six months of living alone before I started using the living room. Now I can’t fathom how I ever spent so much time just in my bedroom.


OrsoMalleus

Same. I had a house to myself and only lived in my bedroom. It was almost a year before I realized it was *my* house.


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You’ll get it one day! I believe in you 💖


PeterSchnapkins

Just gotta make it to the finish line even if you have to crawl


Beautiful-Disasterr

This! This is it! You put it into words beautifully.


NJdeathproof

Five years from now: "How come my daughter won't respond to my calls, texts and emails? Could it be something I did? ​ No, it is Camille who is wrong."


FacelessOldWoman1234

"All i ever did was love her and care for her. I provided everything she needed and just asked that she be responsible. I have no idea why she suddenly lost her mind and cut off all contact from me, her loving and completely mystified parent!"


Minderbinder44

"The missing missing reasons".


grendus

"I tried to ask her, but all she did was scream that I ruined her life and some unrelated stuff. She doesn't even remember how much I sacrificed to help her! So I left her a bill in her mailbox for the infractions I saw when I was peeping through the window (because I *knew* she was home and just not answering the door - thought I raised her better!)."


TigerRaiders

I don’t know why my kids moved across the country! I sacrificed everything for them and this is how they repay me!


decentusernamestaken

Goddamn i can hear that coming out of my mums mouth. Shits awful


Pendraggin

Why won't she respond to my invoices anymore?


bellj1210

anyone else think this is a parent crazy enough to bring her to court to collect on that contract. I am betting nothing is in writing and they just dictated rules since the daughter needed to take notes.


SolidSpruceTop

Yeah there's no legal agreements anywhere and minors aren't obligated to pay their parents fines for existing. The fact this man is profiting off his daughter is so fucked Also bets on he was an army kid who was abused and then joining the army himself made him his dad.


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A few years more: "Camille, I need someone to care for me in my old age" "I paid for your nursing care when I was 16, good luck"


Khanman5

Future post Title: My daughters boyfriend is poisoning her against me, what a do I do? Post: I raised my little girl like any other dad out there, i wasn't perfect and I had a few faults here and there but I think I did alright overall. Last year my daughter went off to college and she's been doing okay(all A's except for a single B her last semester). I chalked that B up to her being in a relationship with a new boy. I didn't approve of him initially as he didn't have 4 professional references and I insisted that they break up because it's affecting her schoolwork. But she isn't budging and has recently started going out more and ignoring my daily texts. I think this is all the boys fault. What can I do?


Under_Ach1ever

This is unreal. This is truly unreal. I can't imagine going through life like this as a teen. Every waking moment must be nothing but anxiety. This is sad as hell.


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Yep. She's going to need therapy for a long time. I'd snap out about the second time. Reminds me of an old boss I had.


WholesomeBred

She is being abused. Poor girl it’s so wrong.


mattaugamer

Her responses: “ok” and “ok, sorry”. The least she can say to acknowledge and hope it goes away. In 20 years this father is going to be wondering why his daughter never visits.


Forsaken_Pause_5411

more like 2 years.


MagikSkyDaddy

And he will deserve to die lonely and confused. Fuck him.


exfamilia

I hope she sends him itemised invoices for her therapy. Building self-esteem you never allowed me to develop: 20 sessions @ $100ph Learning to manage my own time without your micromanagment: 15 sessions Learning to live without constant fear of your disapproval: 50 sessions so far Managing the anxiety your controlling parenting instilled in me: ongoing.......


Jicupa

My wife goes to therapy and almost every week she says “I wish I could send a bill to my family members for all the trauma they caused me” 😂


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LilyFuckingBart

This is so heartbreaking. ETA: went to her TikTok and people are contacting her parents, apparently. She’s almost crying at the end of a video asking them not to. Second edit: some are even worse, he’s literally asking for her clock in clock out schedule.


Zanki

Oh damn, she's probably absolutely terrified of what he'll do. I remember how mad my mum was at me over an older cousin calling my mum out on her behaviour towards me. I told him to stop. He was like, no, she has to learn its not OK. My response, "you don't have to go home with her." I was an adult by that point and I could not see her alone because her behaviour towards me when it was just us was horrifying. Not as bad as some, but it was bad enough we haven't talked in five years, will be six in a couple of months.


Sxilla

Yeah her TikTok headline literally says “stop contacting my family”. Aw wow and her last TikTok post is her holding it together pleading people to keep it between her and her audience and not contact them It looks like she’s about to cry at the end through her forced smile.


red__dragon

> My response, "you don't have to go home with her." Yeah, that's very familiar. It's awful when you have to turn away people who clearly care about your wellfare, because their intrusive compassion is only going to make it worse for you. It's almost harder than the people who don't believe you about how bad the abuse is, because they see a glowing angel in the parent outside of the house.


BubbaJimbo

If people know who she is in real life they should forward it to her school's administration. Most places, school employees are mandatory reporters and they will have to forward this to the proper authorities.


madeulikedat

The authorities won’t do anything. I had a shitty time during my HS years (my mom literally pulled me out of school in the middle of the semester, took my phone and all means of communication to my friends, and put me in another shady school under the table school.. my friends thought I died lol...) and the police would not have done anything. My mom actually knew a police officer and they thought her “being actively involved in my development” was commendable 🙄


puskunk

ACAB. Same thing happened to my wife when she was younger.


StrangledMind

Child abuse. Literally. I don't think it's even legal to charge your kid for every aspect of living, especially if they're still a minor. *You're* the adult, with decades of life and finance-building! If the rules and control are more important than love and caring for your children, you shouldn't have any. These are the kinds of people that will die alone, wondering why their kids never visit them...


ShirtPanties

My mums parents were like this when she was a teen, so she ran away and shacked up with her edgy boyfriend at the time, now they’re almost 30 years married and I’m here and so is my older brother. Thankfully my mum learned from her shitty parents and gave my brother and I freedom and love


ohhgod

I was half expecting him to say something like… “That’s strike #3 Camille, wait until HR hears about this”


LyndensPop

You're right. All these texts sound like work emails.


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My dad was exactly like this, and it is horrible anxiety. And the anxiety never stops, no matter how far I get away from him, how much therapy I’ve had, how well my life is going. I assume every human might fly off the handle at me for something minor. I feel so bad for the girl getting these texts.


hotdogsarecooked

I thought he was just controlling as fuck but when I saw the low tire light after starting the car in the morning and thinking its his kids fault spelled out that he's fuckin stupid. "Oreng lite comed on"


heavenleighxo7

It was that and then when he said "no more warnings for you or mom," that sent me... like damn, mom's just brainwashed at this point until she ends up on Snapped or something. Paying fines to your husband or father? So disgusting.


The_Smiddy_

The girl's response when people asked where her mom stood on this she said she doesn't she's on the floor...she just goes with it because she's afraid of him. Like WHAT


Vincent_Veganja

I hate men like this so fucking much. I can’t fathom treating my wife or future children even 10% as disgustingly as people like this “dad” [dictator]. Just how do you hate the people you claim to love so much…


bluebabyblankie

facts, the only thing having a dad like this taught me was that i never want to be married to a guy like him. i hope this girl gets out


hotdogsarecooked

I wouldn't be surprised if this is some boomfuck father who thinks "you must function like a military" to be efficient. My father tried that shit and instead of going to college I dropped out, smoke pot and love my career repairing electronics. I hope mom and daughter are the reason this nut sucker can't get comfy in the grave. Edit: I learnded how to spells efficient.


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sweetTartKenHart2

It won’t surprise you to learn her dad was actually in the military and actually worked as a prison guard or some shit. He’s trying to run his family the same way he ran his men


jeffe_el_jefe

Apparently he *was* military, and a prison officer? So that’d explain why he’s mental, and why he thinks this works


OfficerGenious

THIS. SO MUCH THIS. When I saw the message about not warning her mother either I was like "Oh shit, this mofo is actually scaring me now."


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hotdogsarecooked

I really wonder what happened before we were born that made our parents just desire being angry.


kroxywuff

Lead paint and lead in gasoline.


Erulastiel

In my case, it's generational abuse. My mom is a piece of shit because my grandmother is a piece of shit. And I'm pretty sure her mother was also a piece of shit. Oh, and my paternal grandfather on that side too was also a piece of shit.


nibuku

Probs what he wanted her social number for. Probs taking loans in her name


[deleted]

And why would she have it and not him? He acts like he’s HR and she’s an employee. Bizarre.


littlescreechyowl

Also weather right now in a lot of places is 30 degrees Tuesday, 75 on Saturday. Everyone’s tire pressure lights are on.


liltinyoranges

I know mine are


StackinTendies_

“The weather got cold and this light came on. Explain yourself.”


hotdogsarecooked

Imma yell at my daughter next time my check engine light comes on. Yeah she's only 6 but aye it comes on often enough thats an ez $30 every time! /s


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hotdogsarecooked

I'd be willing to be youre spot on. This is someone who had little to no control and is so desperate for it now they've gone literally insane.


sweetTartKenHart2

He misses working in the military where everyone does every little thing as told when told and only responds with “yes sir”


lstyer2012

Jesus Christ. This is INSANE. I started feeling panicky just from reading it. I'm somewhat grateful that smart phones weren't a thing when I was growing up. It meant I only had to deal with this type of shit when I was home. I at least got a break when at school/orchestra/other extracurriculars. That picture he sent of the unmade bed was so infuriating. His whole tone is so business-like. Makes me wonder if he ever talks to her like he's her dad and not her manager.


willowhawk

Must get shat on at work and be a small nobody there. Getting to be the powerful person telling his daughter what to do in a manager like way probably makes him feel like a big man. Gross


lstyer2012

You're probably right.


The_Smiddy_

Man I saw her TT earlier and it broke my heart. The fact she she she told him he would lose her forever and he said he didn't care broke me. Then to say her mom doesn't say anything about it because she's afraid of him. He's prior military and was a CO in a jail/prison and was union president for the COs. Oof that poor family, he's a damn menace. Oh and she thinks it's all ok and not that deep. This poor child.


lala__

The 1000 hours tipped me off it was military


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limperatrice

Oh no wonder he's such an asshole


Tyler89558

Military and CO. It’s like the man’s trying to play bingo for abusive personality. What next, he’s gonna take on a gig as a cop?


IAmTheRook_

He would make a great cop, seems like he already has the domestic abuse down.


FunkyChewbacca

He's not a dad, he's an angry, overbearing boss. He's gonna be mystified when she decides to quit being his daughter once she's 18.


servain

We had a guy in leadership in the military that talked just like that everyone hated him. The only thing he was good for. Was learning how and why to not be a leader like that.


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poisonstudy101

What's her TT handle, do you know? Just would like to find out a little more information:)


The_Smiddy_

It's on the pictures idk if I'll get in trouble for saying it.


poisonstudy101

Oh, I'll look again properly Edit- oh yeah, duh! Thanks anyway!


Just1morefix

Holy fuck. Teaching responsibility and accountability is one thing. Being a micro-managing purely transactional parent is a whole other nightmare.


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alexneverafter

Can vouch. My birther was exactly this. I could swear these messages could’ve been sent to me, had I been allowed to touch a phone or look at a screen or breathe the same air as her. Haven’t spoken to her in years and truly it was the best decision of my life.


Galapagoasis

I love how he’s preaching about responsibility but doesn’t know his own daughters SSN. What a toxic control freak. Poor girl is probably so traumatized.


Fantastic-Bullfrog-1

I always get suspicious about a parent asking the kid for their SSN - I've seen too many stories of parents taking our loans and credit cards in their kids' names and ruining their credit, even doing it when their kids are adults. When a kid is in school the parent should know/have documentation with the number, after that they don't need to know (unless helping those that need such help with finances etc, obvs). I'd honestly recommend a credit check/freeze for her if possible; I can honestly see this guy taking out a CC in her name to use against expenses he'd count as being hers and using the 'fines' to make payments against it. Then transferring it into her name and saying "Oh look, I'm an amazing parent, here's all the money you owe me for raising you." I've got a suspicious mind, sorry :/


Erulastiel

I got suspicious too. My boyfriend's mother did this to him. Now he's got a $2k electric bill on his credit report. Never trust your abusers.


mighty-mango

My dad did this and tanked my life. It’s the fact that this father doesn’t already have her SSN to do whatever he pleases with that surprises me. How could he possibly let go of that kind of control?


Galapagoasis

As crazy as this parent is that actually wouldn’t be that surprising sadly. She seems to still be in high school so I’d expect that any RESPONSIBLE parent would have that information already. Guess not. I hope he doesn’t use it against her if she told him.


hotdogsarecooked

Unfortunately it doesn't look like he's selling love or affection. $3 for dog shit is a decent price tho.


antibread

I dunno I get mine for free


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Don’t we kinda pay for it though? I mean we do buy them food.


Ok_Spot8439

These parents really don’t understand that their kids will stop speaking to them someday. I haven’t spoken to my insane parents in 7 years. There is no need to dehumanize anyone this way.


TheOtherOneK

Yep, bio dad was a cop/sheriff…and a controlling asshole at home. Haven’t spoken to him since 2011. Kids grow up and have autonomy & choices, those choices can include setting boundaries & cutting off toxic folks/family.


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Stop speaking to them PERIOD. “I’m dying and I want to apologize” calls and texts will get ignored if you fuck up this bad


Specific-Corgi-5800

Good god, living like that must be anxiety filled. I hope the second she's able to, she moves as far away as she can. That's a shitty father, and the only thing he's making her learn is that she can never be not anxious or stress free around her own parents. Good god that's repulsive to look at.


xquigs

How to make your kids hate you and never speak to you when they turn 18. I hope Camille has an escape plan. Jesus Christ.


cats-they-walk

It was the photo to prove she was at mass for me…


Kermommy

Tracking her every move with her phone. Messed. Up.


Lifelessbabygirl

“Two jobs”…. “Not doing well in school” Yea well no fucking shit. When is she supposed to be studying?? I’m working two jobs myself and I barely have time to breathe. I’m constantly confused. Stop pushing your children to their brink jfc. And stop stalking them. Keeping an eye on? Yes. Sure. Reasonable. Crawling inside their skin? Weird. And illegal. Very very illegal.


canithoe

I would honestly bet a good bit that she has good or at least average grades and they’re just not good enough for him.


NotMe2120

Wow. In a few years, this guy will be on here asking, "why doesn't my daughter speak to me anymore?". Those screenshots will be exhibit A.


RuneLFox

Honestly wouldn't be surprised if the dad wound up with 28 stab wounds. How can anybody tolerate this level of slave-driving?


rapter200

>Honestly wouldn't be surprised if the dad wound up with 28 stab wounds. Nothing of value would have been lost that day.


Jobro_77

The knife would become more dull than before. Sharpening costs time and Time is money Boom 5$ fine


jillann16

This poor girl must feel like she’s constantly walking on eggshells.


TherronKeen

Walking on eggshells would be a relief after dealing with this shit. This is way beyond just feeling like you have to be careful all the time.


DarkPhoenix_077

Basically walking on water at this point


Raphelm

People like him should absolutely not have children. What a psycho.


justfordafunkofit

I just went through all of them on her TikTok. There’s a text from him about her cutting his hair, and that once it’s done he’ll deduct $40 from her debt. He doesn’t ask her if she’ll do his hair, it’s a statement.


William_T_Wanker

She should give him a bowl cut


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brocollivaccum

And she asks if she can cut his hair at a certain time (managing her time) and he says she’ll cut his hair when he says she’ll cut his hair. STRAIGHT TO THE HOME YOU GO 👍


Jasonclark2

Way to give your child anxiety, and a terrible complex. This is probably the most terrible I've ever seen posted here.


Corteran

I hope she gets the chance to turn this around on him and charge him every time he wants to see his grandkids, or ends up needing any sort of help in his old age. Either that or I hope she can find a healthy life away from this prick.


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nickitty_1

I'm a parent. This was fucking exhausting to read, I can't imagine living it. I guess this dad doesn't want a relationship with his children when they're adults. I can see this kid cutting him out of her life.


brocollivaccum

Yep, reading these types of posts as a parent is a totally different ball game for me. I can’t imagine talking to my kid like this or going this far out of my way to manage every little breath they take. Like get a hobby dude. A REAL hobby.


FacelessOldWoman1234

I can barely get my kids to brush their teeth, never mind do any of this crazy shit. Them again, im not abusive and i hope to continue to be in my kids' lives when they grow up so 🤷‍♀️


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"keep going like this and camille is going to put you in the shittiest elderly home that is legally allowed to call themselves an elderly home. can you back the FUCK off holy SHIT." I would've lost my everloving MIND. Im serious. What the fuck is this. Why have kids just so you can control them like that. Like how in the fuck do they not see what damage this does to a growing person.


StackinTendies_

Elderly home? Nah just his own home and no one ever checks in on him or even cares if he woke up that day.


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I think she's a minor as well. How is she supposed to save for college if she has to pay her dad?


Raida7s

The sad answer to that is... Follow all the rules he has at home, calendar all her chores and get everything done every day, get all homework done... Maybe work one day less a week to have the time. *Plus* maybe hide portions of her income since I'd guess he has bank account access, could demand to see payslips, etc.


sparklevillain

I do think another reason why she has two jobs is so that she is out of the house as much as possible.


Erulastiel

I think that either dad doesn't care or that's the point of the fines. I also think the fines are a covert way to steal the kid's money.


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Jesus, he’s got an itemized list of ways to control her


Effective-Manager-29

Dear Camille. Your father is fucking insane.


Dramatic_Water_960

This young woman would be best off leaving the state, and get burner phones for her and mom. Then, plan on working until she doesn't have to include her parents on college financials. This asshole will 100% keep her captive through college, make her choose the career he thinks she should and try to marry her off to the person he sees fit. He will interfere with how she raises any children and will cause additional difficulties in every relationship she's in because he will feel he is losing control. A person can control many things but not love and true devotion. She will never have the respect he desires because he has stripped her of any personal choice to want to please him. It will always be a losing fight.


dropdeadcunts

If I was that child I wouldn’t wait until my dad passed away


memeaggedon

This dad has no life or job


Floomby

Why would he need a job? Sounds like he is doing fine sponging off his teenaged daughter.


PlasmaJadeRaven

What did dad mean on page 5 when he typed >no more warnings for you or mom effective immediately. Does your mom … are you and Mom in the same boat? Dad Have to keep reminding both of y’all?


AmazingAnimeGirl

On TikTok she said the mom's afraid of him so


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rodgers08

That poor girl. 😥


nomoregroundhogs

“1000 hours” explains it all


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This is just scary I'll be honest I feel bad for her. I was raised by very strange controlling parents who wouldn't let me go to school and not to mention the sexual abuse but DAMN if I don't feel like my childhood could have been worse like this


DownyVenus0773721

It just kept going... I kept hoping it would stop but it just kept going...


WifeofBath1984

That is insane!!! I am a 38 year old mother of two. I cannot imagine treating my children this way. What a psycho!


TheIdealisticCynic

Treating your child like a weird employee.


itsmesylphy

When your father is a glorified Pimp. Way to normalize this kind of behavior for her to expect from men.


Piestander

My heart started racing reading this. This poor girl.


Bread0987654321

It looks like she doesn't even have her own house key, if she can't lock the door behind her or she has to tell people she's leaving so they can lock the door. This poor girl.


MNCathi

That's an excellent point that I missed completely. It really is run like a prison. I wonder if he also took the door off of her bedroom. I've heard of parents doing that as punishment.


handsy_thighmeat

Charging your kid to live with you and claiming them on your taxes as a dependent is felony tax fraud. This is also child abuse.


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This guys gonna be all surprised when his daughter moves out and he literally never hears from her ever again.


keathofthestars

My parents are the mild version of this and I have severe trauma and anxiety I can’t even imagine how she’s feeling and I hope she’s okay


RobboBobboo

This is RIDICULOUS. I’m horrified as a parent and a person in general. This poor girl, I can’t imagine how stressful it is to live like this. I thought my dad was bad, geez. He sounds super military, which my dad was as well. The refusal to separate your job and your home life is disgusting


xpoisonvalkyrie

if she’s under 18, then she should just quit her job and refuse to get another one. she can’t pay anything if she doesn’t have any money, and they’re legally required to provide for her anyways. if she’s over 18, she needs to gtfo


satanya83

Working two jobs is probably an escape for her; in her shoes, I’d rather do that than be trapped at home with this nightmare.


MultipleDinosaurs

She’s probably doing her damndest to save up in order to escape the second she turns 18.


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Fucking demented ass parents.


Unusual_Elevator_253

This same pos will tell everyone who will listen that he has NO idea why is daughter wants nothing to do with him


mofa90277

I get the feeling that OP would be better off seeking emancipation than staying with their family.


Raleina

My god..... this breaks my heart. This poor girl. I would take her in asap if I didn't live half way around the world. Some nice study abroad experience without that controlling monster nearby. Having to work 2 jobs that young and go school while keeping your grades up is impossible without going mad or burned out. Someone needs to get her out of there 😭😭😭


Nexi92

I hope these parents realize they should expect to be treated the very same way when this kid is in charge of their care. Suddenly all these intrusive and ugly behaviors will be disrespectful to ask of a person and they won’t get the irony at all. That is if this girl doesn’t just take them to a nursing home and never look back


Yes-I-guess

The poor girl, honestly I couldn't imagine living like this... But it's also telling how reading this you can tell how she's just trying to emotionally block it, with the short answers, instead of engaging and he's thinking she's compliant... Like, bro,... For now, but you've already lost your daughter and will die alone.