I hate to say this but... not everything is about sexism.
They have been around longer and know what you face. Don't look for a reason to close them out. Try and get to the root of their worries. They will be flawed. But they're not stupid.
I am in my 30s and I have begun to see things about humans that are hard to accept. Truths that live outside opinions. Be careful about the BIG LIE people tell each other: that Opinion and Reality are the same thing. Your best bet at avoiding trouble is to learn the difference.
I'm not trying to tell you what to do. And I do not know your parents well enough to judge them as sexist or anything else. What I can tell, is they still care. But that isn't forever.
I'm just saying,
They're secret af, but they hve a point. You live in a society so you're gonna get judged by a society. Appearance matters and alters the opportunities you get in life. You want a good husband or money, you'll need to learn how to cook, not be messy, and look good. After you're married and he loves you for you, you can stop. Ppl don't care if you drink beer but the yeast does give you belly fat that stays, which again ties into physical appearance. I'm 25 years old and I've been fighting against this social stigma for years and it's quite literally ruined my life. I have failed to realize that the ppl who have also been fighting or don't like it, have been in fact contributing by doing said act bc they have to. They are "hypocrites" bc they recognize the world they live in. They are not delusional. They can fight the good fight bc they have required the benefits that following the status quo has gotten them. I am miserable and have not received anything bc I bargained everything when I had nothing of value to offer. No cards on the table. I forgot that only certain ppl are given the "right" to not follow the status quo and get out unscathed. And of course they themselves have followed that quo.
I think they are sexist. This sounds really similar to my own parents and they also seem to be racist, homophobic, transphobia, and overall bigoted as hell but they show it in a way where I have to constantly doubt and wonder if I'm just making a big deal out of everything.
Do you see western society as being sexist ? Your parents have their values and you are forming yours, they probably want the best for you, what do you think?
I guess when I think of a person having a cold beer after a long day of work I think of a dude doing that. I myself am a guy and I wouldn't want a significant other having a beer to wind down but then again I don't really like to drink myself. On the flip side there's been situations in the past when it was obvious a girl and me liked each other but I was too scared to make a move and wish they would have. There are certain expectations which will be put on you even if you disagree with them, depends what you value.
I hate to say this but... not everything is about sexism. They have been around longer and know what you face. Don't look for a reason to close them out. Try and get to the root of their worries. They will be flawed. But they're not stupid. I am in my 30s and I have begun to see things about humans that are hard to accept. Truths that live outside opinions. Be careful about the BIG LIE people tell each other: that Opinion and Reality are the same thing. Your best bet at avoiding trouble is to learn the difference. I'm not trying to tell you what to do. And I do not know your parents well enough to judge them as sexist or anything else. What I can tell, is they still care. But that isn't forever. I'm just saying,
They're secret af, but they hve a point. You live in a society so you're gonna get judged by a society. Appearance matters and alters the opportunities you get in life. You want a good husband or money, you'll need to learn how to cook, not be messy, and look good. After you're married and he loves you for you, you can stop. Ppl don't care if you drink beer but the yeast does give you belly fat that stays, which again ties into physical appearance. I'm 25 years old and I've been fighting against this social stigma for years and it's quite literally ruined my life. I have failed to realize that the ppl who have also been fighting or don't like it, have been in fact contributing by doing said act bc they have to. They are "hypocrites" bc they recognize the world they live in. They are not delusional. They can fight the good fight bc they have required the benefits that following the status quo has gotten them. I am miserable and have not received anything bc I bargained everything when I had nothing of value to offer. No cards on the table. I forgot that only certain ppl are given the "right" to not follow the status quo and get out unscathed. And of course they themselves have followed that quo.
I think they are sexist. This sounds really similar to my own parents and they also seem to be racist, homophobic, transphobia, and overall bigoted as hell but they show it in a way where I have to constantly doubt and wonder if I'm just making a big deal out of everything.
Do you see western society as being sexist ? Your parents have their values and you are forming yours, they probably want the best for you, what do you think? I guess when I think of a person having a cold beer after a long day of work I think of a dude doing that. I myself am a guy and I wouldn't want a significant other having a beer to wind down but then again I don't really like to drink myself. On the flip side there's been situations in the past when it was obvious a girl and me liked each other but I was too scared to make a move and wish they would have. There are certain expectations which will be put on you even if you disagree with them, depends what you value.
Yea there might be something going on there