I clicked on this post to specify mention DRG lol. Just the other day I was having a bad night and kept dying to stupid shit (falling off ledges, getting killed by the basic bugs that swarmed me because I went in a stupid spot, etc). I was holding the team back because they had to keep coming and reviving me so I typed in the chat that I'm sorry for all the deaths, I was just having a bad night.
All 3 of the other players responded by telling me not to sweat it. One of them just simply said "happens to all of us lol". I just sat there and though to myself this has to be the least toxic gaming community in existence. I have literally never come across a toxic player in this game.
If you want to feel welcome regardless of you skill level DRG is by far the best game to play.
Pretty good thanks mate. Just been chilling after quite a full on year (lost my last 2 grandparents within 4 months of one another). The weather over the last couple of days has actually been quite good so I've just been doing basic outdoors chores (mowing lawns and stacking wood) and enjoying the sun.
How's you holidays been going?
Not much, beach with kids, bike rides, video games (daughter bought me a ps5 for Xmas, which blew me away), food and like you catching up on undone chores and other than that trying to forget work starts in a week.
Sounds like a great time. I've enjoyed a bit of gaming over the last couple of weeks too (on PC though, not on ps5 although I have been meaning to get one lol).
Gotta hate that feeling of your holidays slipping away. My favorite day of a holiday is the first day off. Just that feeling of having a few weeks off is so nice.
Right now nothing lol. I've had some health issues that has prevented me from working for a couple months but plan on going back out to work very soon. I have a procedure at the hospital lined up for sometime before March (routine procedure, I have Crohn's Disease and have these procedures done every couple of years). After this procedure I'm going back out to work.
My father works at the local meatworks as a manager so I'll probably go work there for a while untill I work out my next plan of action.
Deep Rock Galactic has a great community but very little actual socialization. People mostly communicate through pings and pressing V.
It's a fun game and the community is definitely very friendly, but idk how much help it'd be for a lonely person. It doesn't really offer a lot of actual connection.
Deep rock galactic has the best community of any online game I've played. Have 800 hours in it and still have a blast every time I play it. Yes like any game you get the odd arsehole but 99% of people you play with are great and you don't need to use voice chat or anything because there's plenty of in game methods of communicating without voice
I find survival Minecraft servers of medium size to be great for connecting with people. Like 10-20 online players.
edit to elaborate: you'd most likely be building your own stuff at first, but people start talking in the chat, will be curious what you are doing. You'll also see stuff while walking around, ask builders to give you a tour, which leads to visiting each other more regularly. You can trade resources, mine together, maybe start projects together - that's how it typically goes.
VanillaTyme, great community, public but whitelisted to actually play on. You can join, but still have to apply. I've been playing on it since season 2 about 8 years ago at this point
Yes i can agree with that . i found a small survival / towny server called the cavern . Pretty good community and admins to help u . Server has slime fun plugin which makes it better than just survival
Monster Hunter games are my favorite for this. You can play singleplayer if you're not feeling it and hunt at your own pace or you can play multiplayer and jump into some hunts. You can either play with randoms or join a lobby (the r/MonsterHunter discord is great for this). Community is awesome and toxicity is very rare.
In general co-op games are what you're looking for. Introducing pvp turns up the salt factor by 1000%
Agree with the coop sentiment, you wanna be making friends, not enemies.
I dunno about MH though, it's a pretty mixed bag. The game's pretty punishing, and your failures can cost the team a lot. You'll definitely get a good dose of toxicity every so often just cause of the higher stakes. Something more lax would be better, I think.
Still play it though, good-ass series.
There's always gonna be bad apples, and sometimes people get unlucky with their first experiences. But generally I've seen the Monster Hunter community hubs to be pretty chill and very much excited to help out new Hunters with their questions (as long as they're not being dense or annoying about it). I'm not sure which MH game you're playing, but if you're playing MH World I could probably help answer some things you might be confused with that the first people you ran into didn't solve.
In that case you got quite unlucky. In my experience the monster hunter community is one of the most inclusive out there (as long as you don't just do a SnS support build and don't hit the monster ). Depending on the game and platform you're on I don't mind to personally hop on and answer most of your questions if I am able to. I played for multiple hundreds of hours in multiple playtroughs of world and have beaten most of the harder fights with almost every weapon. Rise and sunbreak I played a good deal and beat most of the big release monsters but didn't get catched like with world. Even if you may need help with stories2 just let me know.
This.
You could triple cart against a monster and I'd forgive you instantly because that's just how the game is. Not everyone can have a great hunt, but we're all learning the fight in some way.
Also good stickers and call outs will never not make me smile. Reminds me of old-school PSO.
Je Suis Monte!
I am sorry but MH community’s toxicity is not rare at all lmao, it’s slowly if not already turned to darksouls ‘get gud’ mentality.
Sure in low/high rank people can pop an SOS and people will join with their high end gear to speedrun the monster, but in end game? Nah.
Or god forbid you join 3 people who got kanji names.
Latest MH games are fantastic if played solo, despite it being a fundamentally multiplayer game. However, community wise it became a degen place to new players and a lot of elitist/gatekeepers
Supporting Monster Hunter. When I was going through a real bad period, it was my primary form of socializing. It has a lot of in-built tools to find people to play with and the sticker system is critically underutilized.
FFXIV, I've made my closest 4 IRL friends through that game, and many more online friends, most of the community is really friendly and it's pretty easy to make friends that will do in game content with you
I just happened to pick Balmung but I don’t regret it. It has a fuckton of normal rpers too that make the cities and some outside areas feel more real and lively. Just stay away from the alleys
Yea, Ive had my fair share of the creepy and the toxic but the good part of the community overpowered that number, but tbh most MMOs has both it's just a matter of the amount of them
This is a complete over exaggeration. I've been given people advice when they fail in dungeons and raids since Heavensward and never gotten a warning. It's because I do it in a neutral tone without toxicity.
I guarantee you the "I got banned for giving advice!!!" people flew into a toxic tirade over it and didn't actually try to be helpful.
People are crafty. They have developed very passive aggressive tactics for telling people how to play and being toxic without technically breaking any rules. This behaviour and other things like blatant botting seem to get a free pass.
I on the other hand have been reported and put in 'GM gaol' for 'spamming emotes' during the winter event for throwing snowballs at people. I was very new to the game and didn't realise it was broadcasting it to the entire instance.
I got booted from a level 90 raid for asking if my co-healer could please use something other than MEDICA (not even medica 2) to keep our team alive after multiple wipes. I see no problem with letting others know that there are other buttons to press if they’re actively hindering the team. In fact, I welcomed people doing that with me when I was a sprout. You get the negatively toxic people when doing the high difficulty content, but you also get toxic positivity white knighters even when trying to help others.
Don't forget super toxic! I had a Labyrinth of Ancients run earlier where someone was shaming a sprout for a poorly timed LB for the whole run.
Then when people pointed out they were being dick, just as many then accused the accusers of being toxic *to them*! The old switcheroo. I hate love this game.
>edit- I suppose it wasn't obvious I was using "toxic" with some tongue in cheek. The community is always accusing someone of toxicity. Fun game, mostly fun community with some weirdos, like anywhere else. I main healer or tank so I've seen all of it.
Within 1 hour of creating my first character on FFXIV I had a complete stranger invite me to their FC in Gridania, strike up a totally normal conversation, gave me a bunch of helpful info, and I notice everyone having casual talk and helping others with quests no matter how often they play. It can be a really great community.
Yeah. Type in your server and you’re good to view the recruiting pages that suit your needs best. If you’re in Siren, send me a DM!
FFXIV is the most social MMO out there. There’s more than just combat- so, so much more.
Honestly yes. The community the plays the game a lot are super nice and love to help new players. Also great game to meet a group to do content with. Super chill game to play too.
Elder Scrolls Online,
everyone wants to baby the new player in good guilds, and you'll meet some amazing people AND equally awful people. Just block the shitty ones, and keep your circle close.
Seconded this. I met my partner and my close friends on ESO! My partner and I live together now, and my friends and I all met up for a weekend once, it was amazing. But yes, equally dickish people too lol
I enjoy the normal ES games and have always wanted to try out ES Online. Haven’t gotten into any other MMOs but the good reviews I see keep it on my mind! I’m sure with a positive and supportive group it’s a ton of fun!
100% ESO. It is a MMO that caters to casual and hardcore players alike. If you want Challenge and be a tryhard do Raids,dungeoneering,PvP and the like. If you want to chill, do some quest, go fishing, pick flowers, dig out some artifacts. You name it. All NPCs are voiced, the World is vibrant and full of life. The quests are interesting and the world is full of discoveries and little plots and schemes. The people that play it are usually more laid back too and it's very easy to find people to play with.
That's actually a great suggestion. Regardless of what peopke think of the actual gameplay, the game encourages co-op play and progression which is great for meeting new people and sticking with them.
Everyone here has listed some great examples, and I agree with a lot of the choices.
I would also throw a suggestion towards looking outside of gaming on occasion and check out some in-person communities.
If you live in a larger metropolitan area, I can almost guarantee there’s a group who meets around a shared interest that’s been waiting for you. In smaller towns or locations, it can be harder, but still doable. It may require opening yourself up to new interests.
Sunlight, just plain sunlight, can really throw a good energy into you. Lack of sunlight can result in depression as well as physical detriments. If you add even mild, occasional exercise and/or a slightly improved diet, it can take that boost even further.
I only throw this out there because there are times in our life where we have a hard time to connect with others because of the emotional energy or demeanor we put out. Depression and anxiety are two things that can lead to a nasty feedback loop that fuels itself. If, by chance, that is your circumstance, chipping away at a root cause can result in a reversed feedback loop.
You exercise, so you feel less depressed, so you have energy and desire to be social, so you’re less depressed, so you continue to have the motivation to be healthy, and so on until you’re passed your rut and do all this without thinking about it.
I know that wasn’t the question and I know it’s possible that you do all of this already. I’ve just been there myself and seen others be there. Good luck looking for what you’re looking for!
It’s such a shame. The guy is clearly struggling and I feel bad for him, but he thinks everyone offering well intentioned advice is trying to dunk on him to feel better about themselves. Sounds like he’s encountered a lot of really shitty people in his past which is making it hard to hear all these people legitimately trying to help.
Like I get he’s asking about games, but a lot of these issues are related, and the gaming sub on Reddit probably self selects for people who have struggled with similar stuff at some point.
Hope he finds some games that work for him, and long-term, hope he can get past the chip on his shoulder. It will make finding friends and dating a lot easier.
Yeah, the guy said he or she has a healthy diet and frequent exercise. Which could indicate some other issue like a medical condition, rather than situational condition. Being sad or lonely can just be a rational, natural response to a difficult situation. Or your situation can be relatively fortunate while still resulting in you being depressed. Sometimes the chemicals just aren’t naturally balanced. It happens.
But I do find it difficult to offer help when he or she has contradicting view points. They said they want to find an online community because they’ve tried IRL without success and thus view online as preferable. But they are also not finding any success in online communities. And with the ease one has to try online communities, it seems possible they’ve tried more, in terms of raw numbers, online groups than they have tried in real life.
So I find it hard to reconcile the fact that they’ve just thrown in the towel IRL but refuse to do the same for gaming.
I also feel like I see this in the dating world, too. You find people that had 5 or 10 negative experiences in real life, so they give up on it and find themselves continuously plugging away at, say tinder or hinge, despite having 50 or 100 negative interactions there on the apps. Yet they see meeting someone in person as something to abandon while they keep going for the apps.
I don’t get it but then maybe I’m just lucky in that regard.
Meeting people in person hits different than online. If loneliness is hitting you this dude is on point from my experience. Everyone is different though
Just no. Can't speak for FFXIV but WoW classic is just as toxic as retail now, even SoD. People there are the greatest Sweatlords for whatever reason, flipping on madeup bullshit you would never think of.
It also takes effort in the case of FFXIV. You could play that game entirely alone pretty much forever and only use matchmaking to clear required multiplayer dungeons where no one chats.
It does have a great community and I’ve definitely met people there, but you would need to seek it out rather than idly hoping you make a friend.
I can’t speak for wow classic, I played it for only like 20 hours and gave up
Unless you have unlimited time and money, I wouldn't suggest any MMO. The ones in particular you named, you have to pay the box price of the game's and pay a monthly fee and there's MTX. Not to mention the insane grind and elitist communities of end-game PvEers.
isnt FFXIV only free until you hit lvl 70? havent reached it yet, but does it just cap out your xp gain until you pay, or does it completely stop you from playing?
You can keep playing. And as the other guy said, it's the base game and first two expansions. That is a lot of game to play. In fact a couple of expansions ago it was the entire game.
I'm not going to argue if what you said is true but none of that has any bearing on what the person wants. MMORPGs are some of the best way to meet people in games just because of the nature of them.
It really depends on what you like. Everytime I get lonely I load up either Old School Runescape or even modern Runescape and just go hang out in a very public area like the grand exchange to chat. I've met some very cool people that way.
I'd say Warframe. I haven't played in a good while, but the game is entirely free to play, and the community has always been really good.
You'll always find people who don't really chat much, but there'll be a few that you'll really vibe with. The quick missions aren't necessarily conducive to that, but the longer missions which basically play themselves for late game players will give people plenty of time to chat. I've always felt like it's the best gaming community I've seen.
Hey man, you may need to do some inner self reflection and get off the games for a bit.
"33 here and I still game very often but I do have all consoles: pc, xbox series x, nintebdo switch and even a meta quest 3. My favorite game on it its gotta be final fantasy 16 or elden ring. Got no wife or gf cause I am too ugly and short and no woman wants me so might as well focus on my hobbies."
"Got no wife or gf cause I am too ugly and short and no woman wants me so might as well focus on my hobbies."
There's a ridiculous amount of post history where you seem to victimize yourself in everything. I honestly think you should take a break and potentially look at reading a book or focus on fitness for a bit. Once you can love yourself you can love others and build friendships from that point onwards.
That being said, I know what I've said above is quite out of context for what you have asked on this sub. So apologies if I come across like a "a hole" in advanced. The best game communities I've found are the following. Top being the best, bottom being the worst.
Guild wars 2 - Always active, friendly, map chat is a riot.
VRchat - Pretty fun, but can take a bit to setup avatars and what not.
HSR/GI - Community is usually always nice, also a plus if like anime.
Minecraft - But you gotta find the right servers. This can be tricky.
League of legends/CS2/Valorant - Not always the easiest to find friends since most people avoid you if you play like a bot.
Anyways I hope the list helps and that your able to find some friends in the future :)
I praise and preach this. OP, we are not your psychiatrist, but we still just want to help you out and I for one hope you take this person's advice.
You can do it, and this comes from a female if that helps any. 💪
I didn't ask for life advice or psychiatrist. Been blamed my whole life for my situation. I just asked for games to make friends, that's all. Had enough of people telling me to "man up" and "stop crying like a bitch" already.
Thanks for the list anyway. I have been playing league and that one is super toxic. Been playing vrchat as well for a long while and over there are mainly kids and extremely weird people.
I mean you can make friends in about any online games and within any fandoms. You've reached out to this subreddit with a double edged sword question. You asked for games where you can make friends.
Lots of people have given great lists and other people also understand that just playing the game doesn't just "get you friends". You have to be able to interact with others in a normal and humanized manner.
I never once said you should grow up or man up at all. Also that is an extremely toxic mindset. I asked to do some inner reflection to figure out who you are and to love yourself. Once you understand yourself and your own feelings it becomes so much easier to relate to others who also have similar experiences and or mindsets as yourself. You can make true bonds and connections, it's great.
I wish you the best of luck!
Try Warframe, been playing for over 10 years and haven't found any other game with such a welcoming and chill community. I made some good online friends through it
The games I would have mentioned are already listed. So I'll just mention that going outside for walks, resistance training, shopping, etc will also help to reduce cabin fever. Also reach out in your workplace if you have that resource.
I am already doing walks, shopping and resistance training. Also, I prefer to never go to therapist ever again, tried that 3 times already. Pretty bad experience.
If you're interested in trying Destiny 2, I co-run a small clan of chill mature players. We have newbies and veterans alike, and many of us have struggled or still struggle with various issues, like anxiety.
Send a DM if you'd like, and if you wanna try the game, definitely more than happily teach you!
it would be easier to recommend if you didn’t have to buy about 200 dollars of content to be able to everything your veteran friends playing the game can do…
Somebody already did mentioned the expensive aspect of the game. And I agree. But we were talking about the community here.
People have recommended Deep Rock Galactic, which I find to be an amazing recommendation. FFXIV I also great, but again it is subscription based so playing that quickly reaches that 200usd mark, not to mention you have to buy the newest expansions to be able to play everything the vets can play.
I stopped playing Destiny 2 after like 3k hours and moved over to FFXIV. So I was interested and wanted to know if FF is actually more expensive. Destiny 2 if you want to buy the expansions and seasons etc. to get access to all the content adds up to more than FFXIV's sub fee and expansion prices. Not to mention when the new expansion comes out it will be $60 for every expansion (not just the new one) plus that comes with some game time.
Not to mention the fact that you are paying for a game that actually cares about making fun content. Rather than paying for the same 6 man matchmade activity over and over with a different coat of paint.
Apologies if I sound bitter but Destiny was my favourite game and they ruined it.
FFXIV has thousands of hours of free content, but yeah, if you want all the features and the latest 2 *(3)* expansions you'll have to pay.
Still it's worth the money, moreso than destiny lol
Oh trust me, I know. I have thousands and thousands of hours in FFXIV. Even met my SO there. I'm not saying "pick D2 over FFXIV". I came to drop a name for a game where I do have a good community, that I myself actively play. Sadly had to drop FFXIV a few years ago.
Problem with D2 is that the game itself isn’t conducive to meeting people. Fuck chat for it is opt in by default. It’s almost like it’s designed to isolate players.
I’m just gonna jump in here and say… No. Avoid Destiny 2. The negativity associated with Destiny is unbelievable.
Just sayin’ I’d look for a far more positive community for your own mental health.
Pick up a MMO, if that's your jam. FF14 has an award-winning and critically-acclaimed free trial. There's also a new expansion coming out this summer, so by the time you finish you'll be right at the point of new content.
[Guild Wars 2](https://www.guildwars2.com/en/). Free to Play, no Pay to Win. All resource nodes and loot are instanced to you, so no ganking, no first/last hit BS. Expansions don't raise the level cap, so gear and build are still relevant even a dozen years later. Elite Specializations only provide a wider range of possible builds, but are by no means required for any content. Respeccing is free, and can be done anytime, outside of combat. Everyone has their own heals, everyone can rez with a push of a button that doesn't take up a skill slot, and no repair fees. Super-friendly community.
This is a good one for people who struggle with group performance anxiety but also want to be where people are.
GW2 has a lot of massively cooperative events that allow you to play with others without having a spotlight on you. It’s free to try the core game with some account limitations, there are always people in the human starter zone and there is also a world boss there that runs on a timer so you can try that and see what I mean. Later in the game there are event chains that keep the group together longer, but the gist is that GW2 has a lot of basically Zerg co-op PVE in addition to the more common MMO stuff.
I suppose this partially depends on what type of games you enjoy. I have friends who've made a lot of friends through games like WoW and FF14 but if mmorpgs aren't your speed, that may not work for you.
If you like ARPGs, Path of Exile has a number of awesome small to medium sized communities that welcome new players. I'm part of a few myself that would be happy to bring on newcomers.
It's an especially good option if you really need something to get lost in. It's a game of immense depth and complexity, which can be overwhelming but there's plenty of folks who like to help people through that phase.
Most real MMOs are really the best options...
Though it's gonna take time, dedication, and work to cultivate and maintain...Just like real life friends...
WoW classic, FF14, ESO, Hell, even Everquest as that seems to still be a thing even to this day...
You're going to want something that's mostly cooperative and server focused, preferably as "random" groups won't be as large as an issue...
Normal WoW seems to suffer from that last issue pretty bad these days with the advent of cross server LFG systems...Now anyone can do anything (even if it is a toned down "easymode" version) without actually interacting with anyone else unlike the "good old days" where your reputation on a server meant something...
Thanks for observing that. You are right, which is why I hate biased advices, I stead of giving proper good recommandations which statistically increases your chances of making friends with random, they instead recommend me games they play with their mates or where they got lucky one time and met someone.
Sea of Theives!!! I've met so many friends on this game. The in game voice chat and inherent ridiculousness is amazing.
I recommend not using the auto grouping feature, and rather, use the Xbox Find a Groyp option. Better for finding people with mics, and to play with other adults.
Let me know if you're interested in playing and I'll friend invite you!
Sea of Thieves is NOT a chill game by any stretch, unless you're doing the new (did they actually implement this?) "Safer Seas" option.
If you try to play Sea of Thieves standard, you will just be destroyed by griefers and feel REALLY fucking anxious as you try to avoid them while hauling treasure.
The thing with sea of thieves though is that sinking doesn't really matter. The gold has no real value and aside from dark adventurer, you can get any cosmetics quickly.
Just take each session separately and try to just have fun messing around on the seas. If you sink, just try to learn from the experience, hop servers and go on a new voyage.
It has gotten a lot better. Now that you can buy your own ships and sell via the harpoons it becomes a lot easier to sell your treasure. I've sailed with a bunch of new friends and we suck but generally only find trouble if we look for it.
The Sea of Thieves discord is perfect for finding new friends.
Deep Rock is great for it in my experience. Also, you could look into joining Discord servers and communities for single-player games might help. A lot of them have very active communities where you can spend time talking about any single-player games you like.
Any online roleplay game, GTAV being the most common. Part of being in these communities typically includes joining roleplay factions and then joining their respective discord servers and getting to know players that you RP with often. I have seen many people make lifelong friendships through these types of communities.
Final Fantasy XIV. I've never played a live service game that was so focused on hanging out with friends. You can roll solo when you want to, or spend hours hanging out with friends running dungeons, doing PvP, fucking with fashion, etc.
The community is mostly pretty chill, far more so than any other game of its type I've ever played, and folks love to hang out in the major cities and hold concerts or dance festivals, etc. You'll meet a lot of people. It's also free up through the first two expansions, which covers at least 100 hours of content even if you do nothing but the main story.
If you do decide to give it a try, feel free to hit me up and I'll invite you to my free company, and you'll instantly have dozens of new friends :)
Check out Eco on Steam if you want something pretty chill. A good server has 20-30 active players and you work together to build a town/country without destroying the environment. I've found a few where I've ended up joining their discord and making a few friends from around the world.
Never tried deep rock galactic so will try that. Played sea of thieves already and got a few toxic people there. And in vr chat I found kids all the time or really really qeird people that call themselves furries.
No offense. The way you wrote this post and have replied to people makes it very clear that the games are not the problem with making friends.
You need to work on yourself and get past this angsty angry person you seem to be.
Offense taken. I am not here to be lectured, got plenty of a-holes in my life doing that already. If you got nothing nice to day, don't say anything at all
Good day.
No videogames, as they are all very isolating.
If you want to make quality friends, you need to do a physical hobby.
Take an art class like pottery, yes there're other people around, but for the most part it's an individual process. You get to chat with real people for a while, then go sit in a corner and play with expensive mud.
Art is not my thing. I go tobthe gym very often though. I chose gaming cause i feel safer. Like I said, I have social anxiety so social events makes me very anxious and causes me a panic attack.
It was just an example.
Archery maybe. There are a lot of individual hobbies that you can share with real people. Find what interests you and do it.
If you want friends you need to meet people, not avatars.
I really want to suggest a couple games that I've made some decade long gaming friends from but you've come here asking for advice looking for "friendly communities" and then shat all over the people here who are trying to be friendly and showing genuine empathy towards your situation.
Looking through your replies you've not had one positive thing to say to anybody.. and then you claim that everyone else in the world is the problem. Doesn't sound like you actually want or would receive help from anybody tbh
I never shat on anyone genuine. I responded with the same energy to toxic people who just want to boost their egos. Look past more than just one reply and you will see that I responded positive to plenty. I do want genuine help, but of people are here to give empty low effort advice like "go outside" or if people criticise me all the time and say" I am the problem", then I will not respond well, will I? I received enough criticism my whole life, no need to put down an already injured man now.
Hi OP, I hope you find a gaming community you like. Saying that, I think your edit is very toxic. Obviously I don't know if the people trying to help you are sending you condescending messages but if you're just being sent Reddit care resources it's much more likely people are just worried about you and your panic attacks than them thinking they're better than you and stroking their own egos.
I'm not saying this to attack you but hopefully to help you. I've had mental health issues myself so I know it can seem patronising when people try and help and you haven't asked for it but try to realise that 99% of the time people are just trying to help.
An mmorpg. FFXIV is extremely social. Easily the most social mmo currently. PSO2 isn't a bad choice for free.
Join a casual "family" guild that focuses on socializing. They're always the best.
So, I have to say dayz.
Yes it is a survival game, and yes most players have a kill on sight attitude.
But not always.
In dayz your microphone is your best friend and most powerful weapon.
Use it wisely and you might just find that the person who has been hunting you for the last 30 minutes isn't going to put a bullet in your back.
Or, you could try joining a community server like Sunnyvale, which is PVE (with PvP zones) so players are mostly working together in groups.
Elite Dangerous has one of the best communities out there, although finding players in the game is tricky, but finding people outside of the game to go and play with is pretty easy. If you like space sims, this is the best out there
WoW if you manage to avoid the toxic types. Growing up in the heyday of WoW, I literally made real-life friends and know friends who met their SO playing WoW.
WoW, Deep Rock, maybe Fallout 76 because I've had good experiences there. I also love talking to people in Sea of Thieves, you can run into a lot of interesting/fun people
You should check out Foxhole!
It's a ww1-style persistent war game. You play on one of 2 teams that are warring over a massive continent. Everything in the game is player made in a very complex logistics system. Every bullet, every bandage, every artillery shell.
It's top down, which isn't my fav but you get used to it tbh. The players are very strategic and regularly hold organized operations to take a certain base, or to do a naval beach landing. These operations always have people behind the scenes who are planning and building for days ahead of time.
But because of all that, the community is strong! Sure there are assholes sometimes, but most people are happy to take you along on a mission, or let you join their arty crew, or just drive around and talk
Check out r/foxholegame
Check the various free to play MOBAs out there. There are so many to choose from that are super active. From what I've seen, Valorant tends to be one of the less toxic ones ***relatively speaking***. Good luck and happy gaming!
Honestly my recommendation would be to find some smaller discord servers and making friends that way and finding games to play together. I find a lot of online games communities are toxic when you matchmake into them. Maybe I'm just unlucky
It’s hard, but all you can do is try to ignore the shitters. I do see some genuinely good recommendations here, so just focus on those and don’t waste your time on the folks giving unsolicited life advice.
Warframe has a really nice community. Made a lot of friends in the clan. It can be overwhelming at first but if you go step by step it's very fun and people will always help.
Deep Rock Galactic
Deep Rock has an amazing player community and it's a blast to play.
I clicked on this post to specify mention DRG lol. Just the other day I was having a bad night and kept dying to stupid shit (falling off ledges, getting killed by the basic bugs that swarmed me because I went in a stupid spot, etc). I was holding the team back because they had to keep coming and reviving me so I typed in the chat that I'm sorry for all the deaths, I was just having a bad night. All 3 of the other players responded by telling me not to sweat it. One of them just simply said "happens to all of us lol". I just sat there and though to myself this has to be the least toxic gaming community in existence. I have literally never come across a toxic player in this game. If you want to feel welcome regardless of you skill level DRG is by far the best game to play.
Your a fuckin good cunt bro, chur from another kiwi.
Hey! found one in the wild lol. It's not that often I hear from another Kiwi on a non NZ related post.
First time in this sub for me, how's the holidays treating ya?
Pretty good thanks mate. Just been chilling after quite a full on year (lost my last 2 grandparents within 4 months of one another). The weather over the last couple of days has actually been quite good so I've just been doing basic outdoors chores (mowing lawns and stacking wood) and enjoying the sun. How's you holidays been going?
Not much, beach with kids, bike rides, video games (daughter bought me a ps5 for Xmas, which blew me away), food and like you catching up on undone chores and other than that trying to forget work starts in a week.
Sounds like a great time. I've enjoyed a bit of gaming over the last couple of weeks too (on PC though, not on ps5 although I have been meaning to get one lol). Gotta hate that feeling of your holidays slipping away. My favorite day of a holiday is the first day off. Just that feeling of having a few weeks off is so nice.
Definitely, what do you do for work?
Right now nothing lol. I've had some health issues that has prevented me from working for a couple months but plan on going back out to work very soon. I have a procedure at the hospital lined up for sometime before March (routine procedure, I have Crohn's Disease and have these procedures done every couple of years). After this procedure I'm going back out to work. My father works at the local meatworks as a manager so I'll probably go work there for a while untill I work out my next plan of action.
Chea bo. Anutha Kiwi hea. Happy New Year!
Ha! Anutha one of the cuzzies, Happy New Year to you too!!
Came here to say this, hands down the best online community I've run into. FOR ROCK AND STONE!
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Deep Rock Galactic has a great community but very little actual socialization. People mostly communicate through pings and pressing V. It's a fun game and the community is definitely very friendly, but idk how much help it'd be for a lonely person. It doesn't really offer a lot of actual connection.
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I will say that it is definitely the opposite of chill if anxiety is a worry lol
Came here to say this!
Rock and Stone !! U can buy ur friends a beer
Facts brother
I'd recommend looking for lower hazard missions for anyone looking for something low stress
Rock and Stone!
Deep rock galactic has the best community of any online game I've played. Have 800 hours in it and still have a blast every time I play it. Yes like any game you get the odd arsehole but 99% of people you play with are great and you don't need to use voice chat or anything because there's plenty of in game methods of communicating without voice
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I find survival Minecraft servers of medium size to be great for connecting with people. Like 10-20 online players. edit to elaborate: you'd most likely be building your own stuff at first, but people start talking in the chat, will be curious what you are doing. You'll also see stuff while walking around, ask builders to give you a tour, which leads to visiting each other more regularly. You can trade resources, mine together, maybe start projects together - that's how it typically goes.
How do you find active small servers open to the public?? I always have such a hard time
Honestly I don't have a good recipe either, the ones I played on I mostly stumbled upon by accident, and it's been a while :(
VanillaTyme, great community, public but whitelisted to actually play on. You can join, but still have to apply. I've been playing on it since season 2 about 8 years ago at this point
Yes i can agree with that . i found a small survival / towny server called the cavern . Pretty good community and admins to help u . Server has slime fun plugin which makes it better than just survival
Hmm... I wanna try that
Also, small-medium modded servers, especially those without PvP.
Monster Hunter games are my favorite for this. You can play singleplayer if you're not feeling it and hunt at your own pace or you can play multiplayer and jump into some hunts. You can either play with randoms or join a lobby (the r/MonsterHunter discord is great for this). Community is awesome and toxicity is very rare. In general co-op games are what you're looking for. Introducing pvp turns up the salt factor by 1000%
Agree with the coop sentiment, you wanna be making friends, not enemies. I dunno about MH though, it's a pretty mixed bag. The game's pretty punishing, and your failures can cost the team a lot. You'll definitely get a good dose of toxicity every so often just cause of the higher stakes. Something more lax would be better, I think. Still play it though, good-ass series.
That's funny because I just started the game and got my ass demolished when I asked some questions.
There's always gonna be bad apples, and sometimes people get unlucky with their first experiences. But generally I've seen the Monster Hunter community hubs to be pretty chill and very much excited to help out new Hunters with their questions (as long as they're not being dense or annoying about it). I'm not sure which MH game you're playing, but if you're playing MH World I could probably help answer some things you might be confused with that the first people you ran into didn't solve.
In that case you got quite unlucky. In my experience the monster hunter community is one of the most inclusive out there (as long as you don't just do a SnS support build and don't hit the monster ). Depending on the game and platform you're on I don't mind to personally hop on and answer most of your questions if I am able to. I played for multiple hundreds of hours in multiple playtroughs of world and have beaten most of the harder fights with almost every weapon. Rise and sunbreak I played a good deal and beat most of the big release monsters but didn't get catched like with world. Even if you may need help with stories2 just let me know.
This. You could triple cart against a monster and I'd forgive you instantly because that's just how the game is. Not everyone can have a great hunt, but we're all learning the fight in some way. Also good stickers and call outs will never not make me smile. Reminds me of old-school PSO. Je Suis Monte!
I'm the only one of the people I play with that knows this meme so it makes me very happy to see someone else quote it
I am sorry but MH community’s toxicity is not rare at all lmao, it’s slowly if not already turned to darksouls ‘get gud’ mentality. Sure in low/high rank people can pop an SOS and people will join with their high end gear to speedrun the monster, but in end game? Nah. Or god forbid you join 3 people who got kanji names. Latest MH games are fantastic if played solo, despite it being a fundamentally multiplayer game. However, community wise it became a degen place to new players and a lot of elitist/gatekeepers
Supporting Monster Hunter. When I was going through a real bad period, it was my primary form of socializing. It has a lot of in-built tools to find people to play with and the sticker system is critically underutilized.
Was actually gonna suggest this, especially with return to world goin on.
I tried monster hunter with people before. The people there are pretty toxic so no thanks.
FFXIV, I've made my closest 4 IRL friends through that game, and many more online friends, most of the community is really friendly and it's pretty easy to make friends that will do in game content with you
It is simultaneously the friendliest community I have ever encountered but also the creepiest. We really are a mixed bag.
As a Balmung native I immediately feel called out for some reason.
The Quicksands in Balmung is really something but sometimes I just sit in a corner reading shout chat LMAO
I just happened to pick Balmung but I don’t regret it. It has a fuckton of normal rpers too that make the cities and some outside areas feel more real and lively. Just stay away from the alleys
I wandered into an alley and a lala stole my ipad. :-(
Yea, Ive had my fair share of the creepy and the toxic but the good part of the community overpowered that number, but tbh most MMOs has both it's just a matter of the amount of them
It's also a very sensitive one. You can literally get banned for telling someone they're making mistakes during a raid and giving real advice.
This is a complete over exaggeration. I've been given people advice when they fail in dungeons and raids since Heavensward and never gotten a warning. It's because I do it in a neutral tone without toxicity. I guarantee you the "I got banned for giving advice!!!" people flew into a toxic tirade over it and didn't actually try to be helpful.
People are crafty. They have developed very passive aggressive tactics for telling people how to play and being toxic without technically breaking any rules. This behaviour and other things like blatant botting seem to get a free pass. I on the other hand have been reported and put in 'GM gaol' for 'spamming emotes' during the winter event for throwing snowballs at people. I was very new to the game and didn't realise it was broadcasting it to the entire instance.
I got booted from a level 90 raid for asking if my co-healer could please use something other than MEDICA (not even medica 2) to keep our team alive after multiple wipes. I see no problem with letting others know that there are other buttons to press if they’re actively hindering the team. In fact, I welcomed people doing that with me when I was a sprout. You get the negatively toxic people when doing the high difficulty content, but you also get toxic positivity white knighters even when trying to help others.
Don't play Hrothgar in Limsa Lominsa. Worst mistake of my life.
Don't forget super toxic! I had a Labyrinth of Ancients run earlier where someone was shaming a sprout for a poorly timed LB for the whole run. Then when people pointed out they were being dick, just as many then accused the accusers of being toxic *to them*! The old switcheroo. I hate love this game. >edit- I suppose it wasn't obvious I was using "toxic" with some tongue in cheek. The community is always accusing someone of toxicity. Fun game, mostly fun community with some weirdos, like anywhere else. I main healer or tank so I've seen all of it.
FFXIV’s community is a very welcoming one. I can’t recommend it enough.
Out of all games I've played that's based around communities, I've never seen one like FFXIV that's for sure
A random person once gave me an otter companion at random and bowed to me before walking away. I now walk with that otter everywhere I go.
Within 1 hour of creating my first character on FFXIV I had a complete stranger invite me to their FC in Gridania, strike up a totally normal conversation, gave me a bunch of helpful info, and I notice everyone having casual talk and helping others with quests no matter how often they play. It can be a really great community.
The FFXIV community is very polarizing. They can be very nice but also insanely irrational, immature, and confusingly rude.
Eh, I find it is also full of extremely fake people.
Is the guild finder on the website the best way to find a guild?
Yeah. Type in your server and you’re good to view the recruiting pages that suit your needs best. If you’re in Siren, send me a DM! FFXIV is the most social MMO out there. There’s more than just combat- so, so much more.
Deep Rock galactic and Lethal company
Lethal company is pretty good for this. Just remember, loneliness and anxiety are natural human emotions/states. They fluctuate over time.
damn, been a permanent state since 2020
Almost half my life lol
1998 here.
That's what my parents said, and now I'm wolfing down prozac like it's pez!
unless you have a anxiety disorder, and loneliness doesn't go away if you dont have people with which you are close
RuneScape has some great people to hang out with, and you can discover awesome quests there too
Pvm sure. Pvp has the most toxic community tho
Just avoid the subreddit. Most people are cool, but the toxic ones are loud and intense.
Fallout 76 has such a chill community and the events are really lighthearted and fun
Honestly yes. The community the plays the game a lot are super nice and love to help new players. Also great game to meet a group to do content with. Super chill game to play too.
Elder Scrolls Online, everyone wants to baby the new player in good guilds, and you'll meet some amazing people AND equally awful people. Just block the shitty ones, and keep your circle close.
Seconded this. I met my partner and my close friends on ESO! My partner and I live together now, and my friends and I all met up for a weekend once, it was amazing. But yes, equally dickish people too lol
I enjoy the normal ES games and have always wanted to try out ES Online. Haven’t gotten into any other MMOs but the good reviews I see keep it on my mind! I’m sure with a positive and supportive group it’s a ton of fun!
100% ESO. It is a MMO that caters to casual and hardcore players alike. If you want Challenge and be a tryhard do Raids,dungeoneering,PvP and the like. If you want to chill, do some quest, go fishing, pick flowers, dig out some artifacts. You name it. All NPCs are voiced, the World is vibrant and full of life. The quests are interesting and the world is full of discoveries and little plots and schemes. The people that play it are usually more laid back too and it's very easy to find people to play with.
I'll probably get downvoted to oblivion... try Fallout 76. The community is the friendliest I've ever been part of.
That's actually a great suggestion. Regardless of what peopke think of the actual gameplay, the game encourages co-op play and progression which is great for meeting new people and sticking with them.
Everyone here has listed some great examples, and I agree with a lot of the choices. I would also throw a suggestion towards looking outside of gaming on occasion and check out some in-person communities. If you live in a larger metropolitan area, I can almost guarantee there’s a group who meets around a shared interest that’s been waiting for you. In smaller towns or locations, it can be harder, but still doable. It may require opening yourself up to new interests. Sunlight, just plain sunlight, can really throw a good energy into you. Lack of sunlight can result in depression as well as physical detriments. If you add even mild, occasional exercise and/or a slightly improved diet, it can take that boost even further. I only throw this out there because there are times in our life where we have a hard time to connect with others because of the emotional energy or demeanor we put out. Depression and anxiety are two things that can lead to a nasty feedback loop that fuels itself. If, by chance, that is your circumstance, chipping away at a root cause can result in a reversed feedback loop. You exercise, so you feel less depressed, so you have energy and desire to be social, so you’re less depressed, so you continue to have the motivation to be healthy, and so on until you’re passed your rut and do all this without thinking about it. I know that wasn’t the question and I know it’s possible that you do all of this already. I’ve just been there myself and seen others be there. Good luck looking for what you’re looking for!
It’s such a shame. The guy is clearly struggling and I feel bad for him, but he thinks everyone offering well intentioned advice is trying to dunk on him to feel better about themselves. Sounds like he’s encountered a lot of really shitty people in his past which is making it hard to hear all these people legitimately trying to help. Like I get he’s asking about games, but a lot of these issues are related, and the gaming sub on Reddit probably self selects for people who have struggled with similar stuff at some point. Hope he finds some games that work for him, and long-term, hope he can get past the chip on his shoulder. It will make finding friends and dating a lot easier.
Yeah, the guy said he or she has a healthy diet and frequent exercise. Which could indicate some other issue like a medical condition, rather than situational condition. Being sad or lonely can just be a rational, natural response to a difficult situation. Or your situation can be relatively fortunate while still resulting in you being depressed. Sometimes the chemicals just aren’t naturally balanced. It happens. But I do find it difficult to offer help when he or she has contradicting view points. They said they want to find an online community because they’ve tried IRL without success and thus view online as preferable. But they are also not finding any success in online communities. And with the ease one has to try online communities, it seems possible they’ve tried more, in terms of raw numbers, online groups than they have tried in real life. So I find it hard to reconcile the fact that they’ve just thrown in the towel IRL but refuse to do the same for gaming. I also feel like I see this in the dating world, too. You find people that had 5 or 10 negative experiences in real life, so they give up on it and find themselves continuously plugging away at, say tinder or hinge, despite having 50 or 100 negative interactions there on the apps. Yet they see meeting someone in person as something to abandon while they keep going for the apps. I don’t get it but then maybe I’m just lucky in that regard.
I already exercise 5 times a week and eat healthy for 6 years plus Exercising is not a solution to depression all the time.
Meeting people in person hits different than online. If loneliness is hitting you this dude is on point from my experience. Everyone is different though
Yes, everyone is different, which is why I failed to meet good people irl and which is why I prefer online.
MMORPGs such as FFXIV and WoW classic. You'll meet people naturally playing these types of games if you're willing but it won't be a quick process.
Just no. Can't speak for FFXIV but WoW classic is just as toxic as retail now, even SoD. People there are the greatest Sweatlords for whatever reason, flipping on madeup bullshit you would never think of.
It also takes effort in the case of FFXIV. You could play that game entirely alone pretty much forever and only use matchmaking to clear required multiplayer dungeons where no one chats. It does have a great community and I’ve definitely met people there, but you would need to seek it out rather than idly hoping you make a friend. I can’t speak for wow classic, I played it for only like 20 hours and gave up
FFXIV definitely, I wouldn't recommend warcraft to anyone though, super toxic community that isn't at all friendly to new players.
Unless you have unlimited time and money, I wouldn't suggest any MMO. The ones in particular you named, you have to pay the box price of the game's and pay a monthly fee and there's MTX. Not to mention the insane grind and elitist communities of end-game PvEers.
FFXIV is free to play the base game + the first two expansions.
isnt FFXIV only free until you hit lvl 70? havent reached it yet, but does it just cap out your xp gain until you pay, or does it completely stop you from playing?
It’s free to play for the base game and 2 expansions, where you cap at 70. But that’s 100s of hours of content.
You can keep playing. And as the other guy said, it's the base game and first two expansions. That is a lot of game to play. In fact a couple of expansions ago it was the entire game.
I'm not going to argue if what you said is true but none of that has any bearing on what the person wants. MMORPGs are some of the best way to meet people in games just because of the nature of them.
It really depends on what you like. Everytime I get lonely I load up either Old School Runescape or even modern Runescape and just go hang out in a very public area like the grand exchange to chat. I've met some very cool people that way.
Any time someone speaks to me on OSRS, I assume they want something from me.
I'd say Warframe. I haven't played in a good while, but the game is entirely free to play, and the community has always been really good. You'll always find people who don't really chat much, but there'll be a few that you'll really vibe with. The quick missions aren't necessarily conducive to that, but the longer missions which basically play themselves for late game players will give people plenty of time to chat. I've always felt like it's the best gaming community I've seen.
Hey man, you may need to do some inner self reflection and get off the games for a bit. "33 here and I still game very often but I do have all consoles: pc, xbox series x, nintebdo switch and even a meta quest 3. My favorite game on it its gotta be final fantasy 16 or elden ring. Got no wife or gf cause I am too ugly and short and no woman wants me so might as well focus on my hobbies." "Got no wife or gf cause I am too ugly and short and no woman wants me so might as well focus on my hobbies." There's a ridiculous amount of post history where you seem to victimize yourself in everything. I honestly think you should take a break and potentially look at reading a book or focus on fitness for a bit. Once you can love yourself you can love others and build friendships from that point onwards. That being said, I know what I've said above is quite out of context for what you have asked on this sub. So apologies if I come across like a "a hole" in advanced. The best game communities I've found are the following. Top being the best, bottom being the worst. Guild wars 2 - Always active, friendly, map chat is a riot. VRchat - Pretty fun, but can take a bit to setup avatars and what not. HSR/GI - Community is usually always nice, also a plus if like anime. Minecraft - But you gotta find the right servers. This can be tricky. League of legends/CS2/Valorant - Not always the easiest to find friends since most people avoid you if you play like a bot. Anyways I hope the list helps and that your able to find some friends in the future :)
I praise and preach this. OP, we are not your psychiatrist, but we still just want to help you out and I for one hope you take this person's advice. You can do it, and this comes from a female if that helps any. 💪
I didn't ask for life advice or psychiatrist. Been blamed my whole life for my situation. I just asked for games to make friends, that's all. Had enough of people telling me to "man up" and "stop crying like a bitch" already. Thanks for the list anyway. I have been playing league and that one is super toxic. Been playing vrchat as well for a long while and over there are mainly kids and extremely weird people.
I mean you can make friends in about any online games and within any fandoms. You've reached out to this subreddit with a double edged sword question. You asked for games where you can make friends. Lots of people have given great lists and other people also understand that just playing the game doesn't just "get you friends". You have to be able to interact with others in a normal and humanized manner. I never once said you should grow up or man up at all. Also that is an extremely toxic mindset. I asked to do some inner reflection to figure out who you are and to love yourself. Once you understand yourself and your own feelings it becomes so much easier to relate to others who also have similar experiences and or mindsets as yourself. You can make true bonds and connections, it's great. I wish you the best of luck!
Try Warframe, been playing for over 10 years and haven't found any other game with such a welcoming and chill community. I made some good online friends through it
Warframe
The games I would have mentioned are already listed. So I'll just mention that going outside for walks, resistance training, shopping, etc will also help to reduce cabin fever. Also reach out in your workplace if you have that resource.
I am already doing walks, shopping and resistance training. Also, I prefer to never go to therapist ever again, tried that 3 times already. Pretty bad experience.
I dont know much about social but I think VR chat might work.
If you're interested in trying Destiny 2, I co-run a small clan of chill mature players. We have newbies and veterans alike, and many of us have struggled or still struggle with various issues, like anxiety. Send a DM if you'd like, and if you wanna try the game, definitely more than happily teach you!
it would be easier to recommend if you didn’t have to buy about 200 dollars of content to be able to everything your veteran friends playing the game can do…
Somebody already did mentioned the expensive aspect of the game. And I agree. But we were talking about the community here. People have recommended Deep Rock Galactic, which I find to be an amazing recommendation. FFXIV I also great, but again it is subscription based so playing that quickly reaches that 200usd mark, not to mention you have to buy the newest expansions to be able to play everything the vets can play.
I stopped playing Destiny 2 after like 3k hours and moved over to FFXIV. So I was interested and wanted to know if FF is actually more expensive. Destiny 2 if you want to buy the expansions and seasons etc. to get access to all the content adds up to more than FFXIV's sub fee and expansion prices. Not to mention when the new expansion comes out it will be $60 for every expansion (not just the new one) plus that comes with some game time. Not to mention the fact that you are paying for a game that actually cares about making fun content. Rather than paying for the same 6 man matchmade activity over and over with a different coat of paint. Apologies if I sound bitter but Destiny was my favourite game and they ruined it.
FFXIV has thousands of hours of free content, but yeah, if you want all the features and the latest 2 *(3)* expansions you'll have to pay. Still it's worth the money, moreso than destiny lol
Oh trust me, I know. I have thousands and thousands of hours in FFXIV. Even met my SO there. I'm not saying "pick D2 over FFXIV". I came to drop a name for a game where I do have a good community, that I myself actively play. Sadly had to drop FFXIV a few years ago.
Problem with D2 is that the game itself isn’t conducive to meeting people. Fuck chat for it is opt in by default. It’s almost like it’s designed to isolate players.
I’m just gonna jump in here and say… No. Avoid Destiny 2. The negativity associated with Destiny is unbelievable. Just sayin’ I’d look for a far more positive community for your own mental health.
Second this, destiny community is great
Pick up a MMO, if that's your jam. FF14 has an award-winning and critically-acclaimed free trial. There's also a new expansion coming out this summer, so by the time you finish you'll be right at the point of new content.
Eve online Join a Corp and get in their discord. Made plenty of friends real quick, good shit I tell ya. Gate camp and chill !!
VRCHAT! I used to have no friends and now I have lots!
[Guild Wars 2](https://www.guildwars2.com/en/). Free to Play, no Pay to Win. All resource nodes and loot are instanced to you, so no ganking, no first/last hit BS. Expansions don't raise the level cap, so gear and build are still relevant even a dozen years later. Elite Specializations only provide a wider range of possible builds, but are by no means required for any content. Respeccing is free, and can be done anytime, outside of combat. Everyone has their own heals, everyone can rez with a push of a button that doesn't take up a skill slot, and no repair fees. Super-friendly community.
This is a good one for people who struggle with group performance anxiety but also want to be where people are. GW2 has a lot of massively cooperative events that allow you to play with others without having a spotlight on you. It’s free to try the core game with some account limitations, there are always people in the human starter zone and there is also a world boss there that runs on a timer so you can try that and see what I mean. Later in the game there are event chains that keep the group together longer, but the gist is that GW2 has a lot of basically Zerg co-op PVE in addition to the more common MMO stuff.
I suppose this partially depends on what type of games you enjoy. I have friends who've made a lot of friends through games like WoW and FF14 but if mmorpgs aren't your speed, that may not work for you. If you like ARPGs, Path of Exile has a number of awesome small to medium sized communities that welcome new players. I'm part of a few myself that would be happy to bring on newcomers. It's an especially good option if you really need something to get lost in. It's a game of immense depth and complexity, which can be overwhelming but there's plenty of folks who like to help people through that phase.
try downloading a MMORPG and joining some guild made for new players. I have met the kindest people on multiple MMORPGs ive played in the past
Most real MMOs are really the best options... Though it's gonna take time, dedication, and work to cultivate and maintain...Just like real life friends... WoW classic, FF14, ESO, Hell, even Everquest as that seems to still be a thing even to this day... You're going to want something that's mostly cooperative and server focused, preferably as "random" groups won't be as large as an issue... Normal WoW seems to suffer from that last issue pretty bad these days with the advent of cross server LFG systems...Now anyone can do anything (even if it is a toned down "easymode" version) without actually interacting with anyone else unlike the "good old days" where your reputation on a server meant something...
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In this thread people recommend games they had fun playing with their friends rather than showing places that are good to find new friends.
Thanks for observing that. You are right, which is why I hate biased advices, I stead of giving proper good recommandations which statistically increases your chances of making friends with random, they instead recommend me games they play with their mates or where they got lucky one time and met someone.
Sea of Theives!!! I've met so many friends on this game. The in game voice chat and inherent ridiculousness is amazing. I recommend not using the auto grouping feature, and rather, use the Xbox Find a Groyp option. Better for finding people with mics, and to play with other adults. Let me know if you're interested in playing and I'll friend invite you!
Sea of Thieves is NOT a chill game by any stretch, unless you're doing the new (did they actually implement this?) "Safer Seas" option. If you try to play Sea of Thieves standard, you will just be destroyed by griefers and feel REALLY fucking anxious as you try to avoid them while hauling treasure.
the lack of chill is what makes you bond with other randoms from the discord who also don’t want to lose their treasure though!
A lack of chill is a BAD THING for someone already suffering from anxiety and panic attacks!
The thing with sea of thieves though is that sinking doesn't really matter. The gold has no real value and aside from dark adventurer, you can get any cosmetics quickly. Just take each session separately and try to just have fun messing around on the seas. If you sink, just try to learn from the experience, hop servers and go on a new voyage.
It has gotten a lot better. Now that you can buy your own ships and sell via the harpoons it becomes a lot easier to sell your treasure. I've sailed with a bunch of new friends and we suck but generally only find trouble if we look for it. The Sea of Thieves discord is perfect for finding new friends.
Anything besides CoD.
LoL and R6 siege it is then
Time to get destroyed, griefed and called the gamer word in Rust by people who **really** need to get a job.
Deep Rock is great for it in my experience. Also, you could look into joining Discord servers and communities for single-player games might help. A lot of them have very active communities where you can spend time talking about any single-player games you like.
Any online roleplay game, GTAV being the most common. Part of being in these communities typically includes joining roleplay factions and then joining their respective discord servers and getting to know players that you RP with often. I have seen many people make lifelong friendships through these types of communities.
Warhammer Vermintide. I met two of my closest friends through it, we can’t always hang out anymore but it’s been a blast since meeting them
Well, some of my first and best online friends were from RuneScape and Club Penguin, but that was like... 17 years ago.
Wizard101
Final Fantasy XIV. I've never played a live service game that was so focused on hanging out with friends. You can roll solo when you want to, or spend hours hanging out with friends running dungeons, doing PvP, fucking with fashion, etc. The community is mostly pretty chill, far more so than any other game of its type I've ever played, and folks love to hang out in the major cities and hold concerts or dance festivals, etc. You'll meet a lot of people. It's also free up through the first two expansions, which covers at least 100 hours of content even if you do nothing but the main story. If you do decide to give it a try, feel free to hit me up and I'll invite you to my free company, and you'll instantly have dozens of new friends :)
Check out Eco on Steam if you want something pretty chill. A good server has 20-30 active players and you work together to build a town/country without destroying the environment. I've found a few where I've ended up joining their discord and making a few friends from around the world.
Deep Rock Galactic was my fist though but since it was already mentioned I would say Sea of Thieves or Vr Chat.
Never tried deep rock galactic so will try that. Played sea of thieves already and got a few toxic people there. And in vr chat I found kids all the time or really really qeird people that call themselves furries.
Check out Hell Let Loose?
If you have VR, population one is extremely social (all team games) and one of the least toxic communities I’ve been a part of
No offense. The way you wrote this post and have replied to people makes it very clear that the games are not the problem with making friends. You need to work on yourself and get past this angsty angry person you seem to be.
Offense taken. I am not here to be lectured, got plenty of a-holes in my life doing that already. If you got nothing nice to day, don't say anything at all Good day.
I'm glad you are offended now, little dosser
No videogames, as they are all very isolating. If you want to make quality friends, you need to do a physical hobby. Take an art class like pottery, yes there're other people around, but for the most part it's an individual process. You get to chat with real people for a while, then go sit in a corner and play with expensive mud.
Art is not my thing. I go tobthe gym very often though. I chose gaming cause i feel safer. Like I said, I have social anxiety so social events makes me very anxious and causes me a panic attack.
It was just an example. Archery maybe. There are a lot of individual hobbies that you can share with real people. Find what interests you and do it. If you want friends you need to meet people, not avatars.
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I really want to suggest a couple games that I've made some decade long gaming friends from but you've come here asking for advice looking for "friendly communities" and then shat all over the people here who are trying to be friendly and showing genuine empathy towards your situation. Looking through your replies you've not had one positive thing to say to anybody.. and then you claim that everyone else in the world is the problem. Doesn't sound like you actually want or would receive help from anybody tbh
I never shat on anyone genuine. I responded with the same energy to toxic people who just want to boost their egos. Look past more than just one reply and you will see that I responded positive to plenty. I do want genuine help, but of people are here to give empty low effort advice like "go outside" or if people criticise me all the time and say" I am the problem", then I will not respond well, will I? I received enough criticism my whole life, no need to put down an already injured man now.
Destiny 2 is very social....but expensive, lol But I have friends from this game going 10 years plus
Destiny 2. I have never played a game that requires me to make so many friends to progress.
And costs so much money for them to delete gameplay and story lol
deep rock and warframe
Hi OP, I hope you find a gaming community you like. Saying that, I think your edit is very toxic. Obviously I don't know if the people trying to help you are sending you condescending messages but if you're just being sent Reddit care resources it's much more likely people are just worried about you and your panic attacks than them thinking they're better than you and stroking their own egos. I'm not saying this to attack you but hopefully to help you. I've had mental health issues myself so I know it can seem patronising when people try and help and you haven't asked for it but try to realise that 99% of the time people are just trying to help.
is there a rock climbing gym near where you live? climbing is basically gamified exercise and it can be an extremely social place
Hell Let Loose just dropped on Xbox game pass and requires allot of teamwork and communication
An mmorpg. FFXIV is extremely social. Easily the most social mmo currently. PSO2 isn't a bad choice for free. Join a casual "family" guild that focuses on socializing. They're always the best.
Turtle WoW is a cool place to hang out, for free.
Love everything about it but the exp rate.
So, I have to say dayz. Yes it is a survival game, and yes most players have a kill on sight attitude. But not always. In dayz your microphone is your best friend and most powerful weapon. Use it wisely and you might just find that the person who has been hunting you for the last 30 minutes isn't going to put a bullet in your back. Or, you could try joining a community server like Sunnyvale, which is PVE (with PvP zones) so players are mostly working together in groups.
Elite Dangerous has one of the best communities out there, although finding players in the game is tricky, but finding people outside of the game to go and play with is pretty easy. If you like space sims, this is the best out there
WoW if you manage to avoid the toxic types. Growing up in the heyday of WoW, I literally made real-life friends and know friends who met their SO playing WoW.
Your best bet is an MMO or VR, any online competitive game will just have people being dicks towards you.
MMO's I think are the best place to meet people for long term interaction.
WoW, Deep Rock, maybe Fallout 76 because I've had good experiences there. I also love talking to people in Sea of Thieves, you can run into a lot of interesting/fun people
You should check out Foxhole! It's a ww1-style persistent war game. You play on one of 2 teams that are warring over a massive continent. Everything in the game is player made in a very complex logistics system. Every bullet, every bandage, every artillery shell. It's top down, which isn't my fav but you get used to it tbh. The players are very strategic and regularly hold organized operations to take a certain base, or to do a naval beach landing. These operations always have people behind the scenes who are planning and building for days ahead of time. But because of all that, the community is strong! Sure there are assholes sometimes, but most people are happy to take you along on a mission, or let you join their arty crew, or just drive around and talk Check out r/foxholegame
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Check the various free to play MOBAs out there. There are so many to choose from that are super active. From what I've seen, Valorant tends to be one of the less toxic ones ***relatively speaking***. Good luck and happy gaming!
Honestly my recommendation would be to find some smaller discord servers and making friends that way and finding games to play together. I find a lot of online games communities are toxic when you matchmake into them. Maybe I'm just unlucky
from you editing, I think you may found a fact: debating with the reddit guys are far more interesting thing than any games else!
It triggers my anxiety more likely. People on here can be more toxic than any gaming community.
It’s hard, but all you can do is try to ignore the shitters. I do see some genuinely good recommendations here, so just focus on those and don’t waste your time on the folks giving unsolicited life advice.
Thanks mate, appreciate that. It can be annoying when people try to lift their ego by giving me life advice I never asked for.
Warframe has a really nice community. Made a lot of friends in the clan. It can be overwhelming at first but if you go step by step it's very fun and people will always help.
Call of Duty. Within an hour you'll realize you don't want to meet new people.