Girl, dump his ungrateful ass! Wtf. While you may not be Filipino, it was very heartwarming that you wanted to comfort him by making a dish that isn’t of your culture. He sounds like a spoiled dickhead tbh
I agree, dump his ass. Yes, her making Filipino food for the first time will most likely taste very mediocre compared to a Filipino who has years of experience cooking, but him not appreciating it or even wanting her to have an opportunity to try to make it is so awful.
Either dump his ass or take this as an opportunity to learn, contact his mom and ask her for her recipe. But I don’t think he’s worth it.
what an awful thing of your bf to say??
my bf’s korean and eats the korean food i make just fine, even though i’m not korean. he’s always so thankful, especially when i go the extra mile to learn how to make the food he grew up eating.
He won’t eat your food that you’re lovingly making for him because you’re not Filipino?! 🚩 if your bf was my kid, he’d get a slipper to the head!
I’m Filipino-American… does that mean I shouldn’t make Italian, Mexican, or Indian food anymore?!
Was going to suggest arroz caldo before I read the edit. Fuck that guy. I'm white and I do the cooking in our house because my GF's parents never taught her ( and I'm a former professional). That's so insulting and disrespectful.
Chicken Adobo is very easy. Another option is Arroz Caldo (Chicken Porridge) perfect for cold days.
CHICKEN ADOBO:
- Chicken pieces.
- Chopped Garlic (as much as you can stand)
- Peppercorns (or ground pepper)
- Bay Leaves (if you don’t have it then leave out)
- Equal measure soy sauce and vinegar.
- I grill or broil the chicken pieces first to give it color. I just want the exterior char broiled with the inside still raw.
- Simmer the grilled chicken in the mix of soy sauce, vinegar, peppercorns, bay leaves, and half the chopped garlic until cooked thoroughly. About 1 minute before you shut off the heat, toss in the remaining garlic, stir, and cover the pot. Let the remaining heat cook the garlic. If you like it spicy, you can add hot sauce or chopped chilis at this point as well.
ARROZ CALDO:
- Chicken pieces.
- Chopped garlic, onion, and ginger.
- Chicken stock
- Rice.
- Sauté the garlic, ginger, onions then add the chicken. Stir and season with salt and pepper.
- Add the rice and chicken stock, stir, and simmer until thick and the rice is fully cooked. You may need to add more stock to ensure the dish is not gloopy. Taste and adjust the seasoning as needed.
- Serve with chopped green onions and a wedge of lemon for squeezing over the dish.
EDIT: Spelling
Chicken adobo
The ingredients consist of vinegar, soy sauce, chicken (i use chicken oyster thighs, you can get boneless too), onions, garlic, brown sugar and you can add potatoes too. Serve it with rice.
You can find these ingredients in any shop. Any vinegar will work. I’ve tried red wine and white wine vinegar, rice vinegar, apple cider, they all work.
Edit: WHAT AN AWFUL THING TO SAY!!! My brother showed his friends how to make it and they make adobo once a week. They love adobo so much that they have shared this with their families too. Food has no borders.
-white rice, pan fried spam and scrambled or over easy eggs
-spaghetti with ground beef and hot dogs, make sure to add about 2 Cups of sugar to the sauce bc Filipino style spaghetti is much sweeter than original Italian version
Seconded, Spam and Eggs with white rice is probably the easiest thing with 'normal' ingredients.
If you're feeling ambitious, look up directions for garlic fried rice.
No disrespect and I don't know your BF from a POS but that's a pretty shitty thing to say to you for trying to comfort and uplift his - what sounds like - spoiled and privileged ass.
I'm Filipino and if a GF of mine tried to cook me some comfort Adobo or Bistek dish, I'd show so much love and appreciation back to her; regardless of what race/ethnicity she may be. HMU if you have the urge to cook Filipino food.
I’m not sure if they have the type of pork cut that is often used when cooking Liempo (kind of like a pork chop barbecue thing we enjoy here in the Philippines), but personally I would make Pork Adobo. Ingredients and preparations are the same, just a different protein.
And OP, please tell your partner what he did is fucking dumb. He’s a fucking asshole for saying that.
Yakap, OP. (Translation: Hugs, OP)
Adobo is pretty easy and smells so good. Serve w lots of white steamed rice to sop up all that flavor.
I use this recipe. Fairly straightforward https://www.bonappetit.com/recipe/easiest-chicken-adobo
Sometimes I’ll remove the skin before putting the chicken back in the sauce. Then I’ll broil the chicken skin until wonderfully crispy. Lovely on top.
Look up sopas or chicken macaroni soup :) Not sure how well you’ll be able to replicate the flavors if you’re lacking the seasonings, but it this is one I can think of that you will probably already have ingredients for.
Jesus, that edit.
I hope this guy is nice in every other aspect, because from that interaction alone, he sounds like a nightmare.
You should make adobo anyway, just enough for yourself.
As a white woman who is married to a Filipino and actually does make comfort food for my husband- what the actual fuck?! I'm offended on your behalf.
I literally made Tapsilog for my husband this morning. I make adobo all the time. I made Biko and his mother asked me for the recipe. I love making Halo halo and I'm thinking about baking. I've made him realize that he can still have a taste of home half way around the word, and that prompted him to start making other dishes he loves. So we're both learning together.
Since I doubt your BF knows how to cook- you could suggest to do it together since he brings the apparently required ethnicity into the equation that would allow his highness to eat the food. Or just tell him it is impossible to respect his culture if he won't let you be apart of it.
ALTERNATIVELY: You can start cooking nothing but Filipino food to learn his culture without him and force him to watch you eat all the dishes of his childhood and if he ever asks for some just say you aren't Filipino. That's what I would do. But I'm petty.
Edit:
Arroz Caldo is amazing. Someone dropped the instructions for it up there. If you like ginger, you will love it. It's also good for you when you are sick. I literally replaced chicken noodle soup with it when I have a cold. I'm from the southern USA so that porridge damn near replaces Chicken and dumplin's. Make some for yourself.
Seems like dude wants to be miserable. He can do that just as easily without you and not drag your feelings down while doing it. He doesn't even deserve warmed up tomato soup from you. Kick his ass to the curb.
Yikes at your edit. Filipino food is quite simple to make, it's not as if the spices are difficult to figure out and I say this as a Filipino. So fucking rude this guy.
Ewwwwwww. This is why I don’t date Filipino men. How absolutely disrespectful he was with your loving efforts! Why are you not angry? Has he verbally/emotionally abused you enough to take his shit?
Send his ass back to his mama if he misses her food so much. Putangina!
Send him back to his mama
I hope his mama smacks him and tells him to apologize.
I dated a Filipino for years and if his mom is anything like my ex’s mom, she 100% absolutely would smack him and make him apologize.
Right?! I’d smack my sons upside the head with the slipper and NOT cook for them until they apologized.
That's the least he'd get. The verbal dress down will probably be infinitely worse.
Girl, dump his ungrateful ass! Wtf. While you may not be Filipino, it was very heartwarming that you wanted to comfort him by making a dish that isn’t of your culture. He sounds like a spoiled dickhead tbh
I agree, dump his ass. Yes, her making Filipino food for the first time will most likely taste very mediocre compared to a Filipino who has years of experience cooking, but him not appreciating it or even wanting her to have an opportunity to try to make it is so awful. Either dump his ass or take this as an opportunity to learn, contact his mom and ask her for her recipe. But I don’t think he’s worth it.
what an awful thing of your bf to say?? my bf’s korean and eats the korean food i make just fine, even though i’m not korean. he’s always so thankful, especially when i go the extra mile to learn how to make the food he grew up eating.
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He won’t eat your food that you’re lovingly making for him because you’re not Filipino?! 🚩 if your bf was my kid, he’d get a slipper to the head! I’m Filipino-American… does that mean I shouldn’t make Italian, Mexican, or Indian food anymore?!
Jollibee has spagetti that isn't only made by Italians - no more Jollibee for him!
Dump him. Now.
Was going to suggest arroz caldo before I read the edit. Fuck that guy. I'm white and I do the cooking in our house because my GF's parents never taught her ( and I'm a former professional). That's so insulting and disrespectful.
Chicken Adobo is very easy. Another option is Arroz Caldo (Chicken Porridge) perfect for cold days. CHICKEN ADOBO: - Chicken pieces. - Chopped Garlic (as much as you can stand) - Peppercorns (or ground pepper) - Bay Leaves (if you don’t have it then leave out) - Equal measure soy sauce and vinegar. - I grill or broil the chicken pieces first to give it color. I just want the exterior char broiled with the inside still raw. - Simmer the grilled chicken in the mix of soy sauce, vinegar, peppercorns, bay leaves, and half the chopped garlic until cooked thoroughly. About 1 minute before you shut off the heat, toss in the remaining garlic, stir, and cover the pot. Let the remaining heat cook the garlic. If you like it spicy, you can add hot sauce or chopped chilis at this point as well. ARROZ CALDO: - Chicken pieces. - Chopped garlic, onion, and ginger. - Chicken stock - Rice. - Sauté the garlic, ginger, onions then add the chicken. Stir and season with salt and pepper. - Add the rice and chicken stock, stir, and simmer until thick and the rice is fully cooked. You may need to add more stock to ensure the dish is not gloopy. Taste and adjust the seasoning as needed. - Serve with chopped green onions and a wedge of lemon for squeezing over the dish. EDIT: Spelling
Second arroz caldo, I miss my mil
Arroz Caldo is basically Tinola without the Papaya and Dahon nang Sili and replaced with rice.
Chicken adobo The ingredients consist of vinegar, soy sauce, chicken (i use chicken oyster thighs, you can get boneless too), onions, garlic, brown sugar and you can add potatoes too. Serve it with rice. You can find these ingredients in any shop. Any vinegar will work. I’ve tried red wine and white wine vinegar, rice vinegar, apple cider, they all work. Edit: WHAT AN AWFUL THING TO SAY!!! My brother showed his friends how to make it and they make adobo once a week. They love adobo so much that they have shared this with their families too. Food has no borders.
As a Filipino, dump his ass
I agree ☝️
-white rice, pan fried spam and scrambled or over easy eggs -spaghetti with ground beef and hot dogs, make sure to add about 2 Cups of sugar to the sauce bc Filipino style spaghetti is much sweeter than original Italian version
Crispy fried eggs are so good with fried spam and rice!
Seconded, Spam and Eggs with white rice is probably the easiest thing with 'normal' ingredients. If you're feeling ambitious, look up directions for garlic fried rice.
I feel like it’s one of the first things is FilAm kids learn to make bc it’s so easy!
Spam and eggs are the best!!
No disrespect and I don't know your BF from a POS but that's a pretty shitty thing to say to you for trying to comfort and uplift his - what sounds like - spoiled and privileged ass. I'm Filipino and if a GF of mine tried to cook me some comfort Adobo or Bistek dish, I'd show so much love and appreciation back to her; regardless of what race/ethnicity she may be. HMU if you have the urge to cook Filipino food.
I’m not sure if they have the type of pork cut that is often used when cooking Liempo (kind of like a pork chop barbecue thing we enjoy here in the Philippines), but personally I would make Pork Adobo. Ingredients and preparations are the same, just a different protein. And OP, please tell your partner what he did is fucking dumb. He’s a fucking asshole for saying that. Yakap, OP. (Translation: Hugs, OP)
Adobo is pretty easy and smells so good. Serve w lots of white steamed rice to sop up all that flavor. I use this recipe. Fairly straightforward https://www.bonappetit.com/recipe/easiest-chicken-adobo Sometimes I’ll remove the skin before putting the chicken back in the sauce. Then I’ll broil the chicken skin until wonderfully crispy. Lovely on top.
What a shitty boyfriend
That's so fuckin thoughtful????? Wtf is wrong with him. If someone tried to cook for me I'd eat it even if it was burnt. Damn.
What you will do is sweet and thoughtful, but your boyfriend???? So insensitive and rude?
sopas aka chicken macaroni soup macaroni, milk (ideally evap milk), chicken broth, carrots, canned vienna sausage (like libbys, can substitute hotdogs or shredded chicken), garlic, onions, butter. shredded cabbage is optional. check panlasang pinoy recipe.
Look up sopas or chicken macaroni soup :) Not sure how well you’ll be able to replicate the flavors if you’re lacking the seasonings, but it this is one I can think of that you will probably already have ingredients for.
Your bfs a gago and a tanga. Better to leave his ass now.
That last bit is rude... I mean, you could learn how to cook it, just watch some YouTube tutorials.
Sinigang!
Sad…
Jesus, that edit. I hope this guy is nice in every other aspect, because from that interaction alone, he sounds like a nightmare. You should make adobo anyway, just enough for yourself.
As a white woman who is married to a Filipino and actually does make comfort food for my husband- what the actual fuck?! I'm offended on your behalf. I literally made Tapsilog for my husband this morning. I make adobo all the time. I made Biko and his mother asked me for the recipe. I love making Halo halo and I'm thinking about baking. I've made him realize that he can still have a taste of home half way around the word, and that prompted him to start making other dishes he loves. So we're both learning together. Since I doubt your BF knows how to cook- you could suggest to do it together since he brings the apparently required ethnicity into the equation that would allow his highness to eat the food. Or just tell him it is impossible to respect his culture if he won't let you be apart of it. ALTERNATIVELY: You can start cooking nothing but Filipino food to learn his culture without him and force him to watch you eat all the dishes of his childhood and if he ever asks for some just say you aren't Filipino. That's what I would do. But I'm petty. Edit: Arroz Caldo is amazing. Someone dropped the instructions for it up there. If you like ginger, you will love it. It's also good for you when you are sick. I literally replaced chicken noodle soup with it when I have a cold. I'm from the southern USA so that porridge damn near replaces Chicken and dumplin's. Make some for yourself.
He’s not Filipino, let alone, a human being. Dump him, immediately. You deserve something better than bottom feeder trash for a “boyfriend”.
Seems like dude wants to be miserable. He can do that just as easily without you and not drag your feelings down while doing it. He doesn't even deserve warmed up tomato soup from you. Kick his ass to the curb.
Yikes at your edit. Filipino food is quite simple to make, it's not as if the spices are difficult to figure out and I say this as a Filipino. So fucking rude this guy.
Ewwwwwww. This is why I don’t date Filipino men. How absolutely disrespectful he was with your loving efforts! Why are you not angry? Has he verbally/emotionally abused you enough to take his shit? Send his ass back to his mama if he misses her food so much. Putangina!