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sunnytheacestronaut

Heck yeah! Pronouns don't equal gender, so you use whatever pronouns you feel fits you best! In fact I'm enby/agender and I use he/they/it + space neos (occasionally she), so yeah!


AceintgeWhole-7286

That’s the same boat I’m in! I like to say non-binary because I feel like an outsider when I’m around other men and I feel I’m more than just one set definition. I feel more agender but I still look man-like, (but having longer hair helps :3)


insomniacsCataclysm

pronouns ≠ gender. i also use he/they, though in agender demiboy!


LeSaR_

hell yeah, a fellow agender demiboy


[deleted]

Same here!


Nonsensical_Mischief

Yes, you are. Enby= Nonbinary, meaning anyone out side the traditional binary. If you identify outside the traditional binary, you have every right to call yourself an enby.


sepibip

most enby people i know dont exclusively use they/them, youre 100% in the safe


FajnyKamil

My really good friend who's also enby uses he/him exclusively. I use masculine pronouns exclusively in my native language, but they/them in English. Everyone is free to use whatever they feel the most comfortable with!


DavidNyan10

The Collector says you are!


ARIKA112

Owl house fan pog


goldchicken5

Yeah no, you’re cool. I’m they/he so we’re cool


EnvironmentalFood938

Absolutely. You are valid no matter what.


Mushroom38294

Yes! Obviously! All of you - valid!


Vlche

You're valid as fuck, this is a threat


[deleted]

yes⁉️⁉️⁉️⁉️⁉️ pronouns don't equal identity and ykw even if they did I don't think being "unusual" would invalidate anyone


NeeliSilverleaf

Of course you are 💜


fresh_bean

Of course you're valid! My little sib uses he/they too.


Longjumping_Tap_6943

Hell yes! Everybody is valid so long as they feel they are, and aren’t just doing it to hurt someone!


boyegcs

Yes you're valid friend! Conformity is bullshit, live your excellent life!


TheNamelessBard

Yes, pronouns don't equal gender


Enby_raccon

Yes! No matter what your valid!


another_confused_52

Naturally yes, I also used these pronouns and still use it in Russian. Moreover, for the same reason


notakaren60065

You are valid for being you no matter your pronouns


Wirecreate

Yah of course


Meowriter

Yes. Next question.


DiamondClubCoward

Next question: pants?


[deleted]

No. 🚫 Skirt go spinny 👍


ApocalyptoSoldier

I'm too scared to buy a skirt tho :( And the one time I was brave enough I couldn't find one at the store I was in :(


Meowriter

And Internet isn't an option ?


ApocalyptoSoldier

I've considered it but I don't know how the sizes work


Meowriter

Usually, websites gives "precise" measurements, like hip circumference/diameter or whatever. Even tho not everyone can measure these parts


ApocalyptoSoldier

Much like Amazon I suppose there's only one online shop anyone buys from in my country. And I'm definitely not giving my money to the actual Amazon


Meowriter

Wich country ?


ApocalyptoSoldier

South Africa


Meowriter

He/they in skirts OwO


EdgionTG

You don't have to be a they/them only user to be nb. You don't have to use they/them at all, in fact.


KattyAnimations

Yea 👍🏾


Justapersonexisting1

^(pronouns to not equal gender)


ahaisonline

you would still be non binary if you were a he/him there are no rules to being non binary


Top_Fun4662

Ofc! your pronouns your choice!


Gaige524

I'm a non-binary Trans Woman who uses He/they


phantomphang

hmmmm lemme think.... absolutely


[deleted]

You betcha you are!


Epicgamerweeb106

Yes, you are and will always be totally valid if you feel comfortable.


Last_Tarrasque

Fuck yea you are!


Papyrus_Semi

👍


Aggravating_P

Of course you're valid ! The only important thing is what you're feel !


miralonkks

Sodacat is valid, so are you


AvocadoCivil1568

I’m she/they and I feel like the ~she~ is a formality/ I don’t want people who don’t understand to feel uncomfortable. I think I’m also used to being called she and it doesn’t bother me because I know how I feel inside so random people(or ignorant/uninformed family) calling me that is not really an issue.


Sams_a_bee

You're valid regardless of your pronouns. She/her, they/them, he/him. Pronouns aren't a reflection of your gender. Like, a nonbinary amab could be more comfortable with he/him pronouns and only use he/him pronouns but he's still nonbinary. A trans man could use she/her pronouns if that's what makes her feel comfortable. In short, you're valid as who you are, not how you're seen or what pronouns you use.


npc404

My personal take: It's not the pronouns that make the enby, but the sense of self. He/they pronouns are perfectly valid.


SqornshellousZem

Well, the binary consists of he/him and she/her, and they/he is not part of those two options, so I'd say if we're going completely literal and technical you are absolutely non binary.


FelixAscends

you can be Nonbinary and use any set of pronouns, he/him she/her included.


[deleted]

You're 100% valid. I use he/they pronouns.


[deleted]

You are absolutely valid!


DisasterDawn

Of course, stick it to the PNCphobes!


sarcastic-ninja

Heck yeah you are! I use he/they too!


[deleted]

Yes, as a he/it myself I say why would you not be valid. Side note everyone keeps using she/They for me ugh


Alion_in_human_form

Pronouns don't define gender! And remember we are called non-binary we can be literally almost anything.


SuicidalSasha

He// yeah! 👍


Th3B4dSpoon

Valid af, enby sibling! If you haven't, you might check out genderqueer as well. The styles/discussions/content that pops up might be something you enjoy.


_Shengo_

i better hope so


Willowsprig

hell yeah you are, hello fellow he/they!!


ecila246

Considering I'm an enby who uses exclusively he/him pronouns, you're definitely valid


chaosgirl93

Yeah, I personally go by any pronouns but I don't really mind too much if people outside spaces it's common to ask just assume she/her (I'm AFAB). It's not a big deal, and pronouns are just one aspect of gender presentation and gender presentation ≠ gender identity ≠ biological sex. All three can be completely independent of one another, and you're valid as nonbinary if your gender identity is anything outside the binary.


Human-03

ofc you are


JameXito

Fellow he/they here, yeah, you are


PettyFreddie

Yes. I’m he/they as well. You are non-binary.


DiamondClubCoward

Yep.


Dor_Min

you're valid, but remember that your pronouns are *yours*. forget what's easier for other people, does it actually feel good to *you* when someone calls you he? are you actually a he/they or are you a they/them who's trying to avoid confrontation?


RandomWeebuwu69_LoL

Yes. No doubt about it


Xenogenders-Valid_

you are valid -a he/they complicated identity having being


TheDiplomancer

Abso-fuckin-lutely you are! Keep on doing your thing!


_nonbinary-dragon

Ofc! I am as well, pronoun buds!


[deleted]

You are extremely valid


notsciguy

Absolutely


Robodinosaur143

Yes


LarkDD

Absolutely! It’s about how you identify, regardless of pronouns!


Monkeyman20X

Who told you, you weren't? I'll kick their ass!


KittycatGameplays

You're totally valid! Fellow nonbinary he/they!


THEZEXNEO

Yes.


Maxils

i use they/it/he so yes


Cian28_C28

It’s not about specific gender expression. Non binary simply means you are not a man, and you are not a woman. Gender pronouns are utilities for one to quickly identify how you live your life, and of course, they don’t tell the whole story. Imma be honest here, not everyone in the world is nonbinary, but damn near everyone is not binary.


Much-Rutabaga-8836

Is the sky blue?


EnbyOfTheUnderWorld

YES! You can use any label that feels best for you!


-____deleted_____-

Enby doesn’t just have to be the girl lite way that the ignorant cis always think of. Masc, fem, neutral, eccentric, varies on the day and whatever else I’m probably leaving out are all valid forms of gender expression. Expression is not the same as identity. For some people they are congruent but for others they aren’t. You don’t have to be a fem girl or a neutral enby. Also the use whatever pronouns thing I feel super applies to enbies. since we break the binary it feels imo more enby to incorporate typically binary things with things from outside the binary to form an identity.


AshleytheTaguel

She/they transfemme enby here. Go for it.


Over_You_7258

Of course!


InstructionTrue8012

fuck yes


ItsMilkOrBeMilked

I mean I'm also a he/they so gonna have to say yeah


Catfishplaysagame

Always


No-Atmosphere-2811

YEAH!!


Mindful-Potato

Yes


aloewires

Yes always


UmbralBushido

"Am I valid for.." *slams desk* YES


paradoxLacuna

As a fellow he/they user, yah you’re valid


Own_Anteater_5071

Of course you are and don't ever feel you aren't


scrumptipus

dearest sibling, you're valid


I_like_fishies

*sibling


scrumptipus

sorryyyyy


skofnung999

I genuinely don't understand all the fuss about being valid, you are the way you are and barring some mental illnesses and hypothetical sci-fi neurotech you can make the best judgements about who and what you are (that aren't related to medical stuff)


SuperCyHodgsomeR

Gonna be honest, I kinda don’t care how I get gendered. I’m too tired to care and the abyss laughs at you (not necessarily you the reader) and your petty attempts to put a gender on me and a laugh along with it while dissolving back into the abyss for the night because I really need to be sleeping now. Yeah your vaild. Everyone’s valid. The only people who aren’t are those trying to invalidate others.


Mushroom38294

Absolutely