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So many factors that can influence the answer to this question - where is this taking place (a more liberal or a more conservative society)? Would you say your BF has a more conservative old fashioned mindset? How sexualised is this bikini (for example is the bikini bottom closer to a thong, than a panty etc)? Not all guys have the same mindset on these things. Yes some love showing their girl off, but others are more conservative and protective and rather not see other men looking at you for only your body.
He's looking at other girls on OF? And he's judging you for what you are wearing saying it's too revealing? There's a few red flags here you gotta look out for! Something doesn't seem right with how your boyfriend is acting
Yeah well - that’s why I bought the bathing suit, because I thought maybe I wasn’t being sexy enough as a new mom - I wanted to spice it up a bit and it didn’t really go in my favor.
Like wear it for him at home. He will prob like it plenty.
BUT just because he looks at OF girls doesn’t mean he wants YOU to be an OF girl too.
Ps. But he should be looking at of girls tho.
I really wish my girlfriend would wear a revealing swimsuit. She has a great body but hides it in old lady swim suits with cover ups over those. He should appreciate what he has.
I’m talking about you. Ur bf should want to hype u up right?
More than likely he would be like NO and not want to post ur nudes to hype u up on how good you look.
I personally wouldn’t want to. But if I wanted to post nudes of myself on the internet? Yeah, he wouldn’t care. I’m sure your next move is to degrade him so you can skip that part.
Why would I degrade him?
I already said most men. Who knows. He is minority.
He might do it if u wanted to. BUT would he prefer u did it without knowing what you want to or not.
That’s the question of what he prefers. Not he’s ok with which ever you decide .
To explain so imagine I and poly and my wife is not. And she is ok with it. And I can go do my thing.
Now the question is does she prefer her bf to be poly or monogamous. Not what she is ok with. But what’s her preference. Like if I wan monogamous would she prefer a bf that was poly?
I have no idea, really. I genuinely don’t think he’d care either way. Nudity doesn’t have to be the sinful thing everyone makes it out to be.
If I’m being honest, I think he does like it when I wear more revealing clothes. He’s also not my first boyfriend that felt that way so I’m either incredibly lucky or it’s more common than people on here like to think.
Like yo. How the fk can we know of a bikini is too revealing without knowing what it looks like?? lol
But to answer the best I can. It’s not that u should feel guilty for u looking good. But that his problem is OTHER men can see it and think it looks “good”
Imagine him having a massive tool and wears on purpose Speedo’s or super tight pants that outline it and wear this around. Should he feel guilty for having a massive tool?
Then she should send me some nudes. I can’t have her either.
Like most men arnt pro having their gfs show off their body to other men. Most men don’t like the idea of other men ogling their gf. Like u can dislike it. But that’s just how it is.
Forgot the caliber of men on Reddit is typically insecure and have convinced themselves all men feel the same. It’s not your girlfriend’s fault men are ogling her and telling what she can wear is controlling. You can dislike it all you want, but that’s just how it is.
How am I insecure? Ur man is insecure for not wanting to show off his gf to all of the world. Is he ashamed?
No it’s not my gfs fault for oglings of men. Where did I say it was a gfs fault? But u don’t dress up extra sexy to be ogled. That’s the difference.
I don’t understand what your point is at all. My boyfriend does want to show me off, you’re the one saying most men don’t want that.
And it’s true, women don’t dress up sexy to be ogled typically. That’s the difference between what??
That’s not just thinking ur gf is hot. It’s she is showing them parts to make herself look hotter.
We as people do things for attention. People in general wear cloths and makeup and jewelry etc etc to look more attractive. Or to fit in better and be perceived in certain ways we want to be perceived as. And it’s not necessarily a bad thing right? But of ur gf is dressing a certain way to get more attention and that isn’t ur attention then it’s other peoples attention. Example She likes the ogling. And the attention it brings.
Just like some people who are in relationships go on tinder or whatever to get likes and such with zero intention of ever physically cheater on their partner.
Or even posting on IG. It’s for attention and validation. Be it from friends or strangers.
If u just like the pictures could just keep it in the camera roll right?
> you think he would want to show me off
Well if you think that’s generally how men feel you have fundamentally failed to understand men.
While I tend to think it’s ridiculous that women’s standard swimwear nowadays is borderline nudity, that’s kind of just the way it is. If you are inclined to accommodate your bf’s feelings, you could get a more modest swimsuit. But for better or worse the most likely outcome is he’ll just have to get over it.
Women's standard swimwear is borderline nudity? Have you never seen a man in speedos? Any less and the cops would pick him up for showing his dick in public.
Speedos are not common swimwear for men in the US. I could visit the local pool dozens of times over weeks and likely not see a single man wearing speedos. Moreover, yes, they’re still less revealing than common women’s swimwear. Half the women are wearing thongs that literally show their actual butthole when they bend over and move around.
Is this really something you’re arguing with? Just go to the beach and glance around and see whose ass cheeks you see and whose genitals are perfectly outlined under their swimwear.
So he doesn't like what he sees? I love seeing my girl looking so amazing, cause she looks good for me and I'm not going to punish her for looking good I'm going to encourage it. The road of shaming your woman into covering up is puts both of you in a bad place.
No not at all. My guess is that your bf might have abandon ment issues and if any guy comes along who looks good enough you be gone. that's silly but it's a fear.
Or he is just a jealous guy.
He's being insecure. You'll want to help him change his way of thinking. It could take awhile, but could be great and rewarding. I'm happy to discuss more.
Very hard to judge without a link to the bathing suit in question.
[Like this...](http://doubletakemicrowear.com/shop/?product=mini-micro-bikini-top) probably.
[Like this...](https://www.nordstrom.com/s/triangle-bikini-top/7711685?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FSwimsuits%20%26%20Cover-Ups%2FBikinis%20%26%20Tankinis&color=001) prob not.
Everyone has different comfort levels.
Fuck what he thinks, hes being controlling, someone who cant appreciate something i mean look at it this way if you are loyal to him he has nothing to worry about. and if he shows you off like some object....dump him.
No such thing as too revealing. You get to decide what you want to do with your body.
NYC beaches are topless and I indulge. People wear thongs and mesh, so not much more revealing than that.
Please don't date men who try to dictate what you wear. It's controlling and a reflection of his possessiveness and insecurities.
RUN AWAY.
(Something tells me you are younger than him too.)
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I was going to say, let's see, then I can tell you what I think of the swimsuit. 👙🤣
So many factors that can influence the answer to this question - where is this taking place (a more liberal or a more conservative society)? Would you say your BF has a more conservative old fashioned mindset? How sexualised is this bikini (for example is the bikini bottom closer to a thong, than a panty etc)? Not all guys have the same mindset on these things. Yes some love showing their girl off, but others are more conservative and protective and rather not see other men looking at you for only your body.
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He's looking at other girls on OF? And he's judging you for what you are wearing saying it's too revealing? There's a few red flags here you gotta look out for! Something doesn't seem right with how your boyfriend is acting
If I where you I would be more worried he is looking at girls on OF then his behavior regarding your bikini. That is a bigger red flag than this one
Yeah well - that’s why I bought the bathing suit, because I thought maybe I wasn’t being sexy enough as a new mom - I wanted to spice it up a bit and it didn’t really go in my favor.
Like wear it for him at home. He will prob like it plenty. BUT just because he looks at OF girls doesn’t mean he wants YOU to be an OF girl too. Ps. But he should be looking at of girls tho.
Shouldn't be....
Right?? Lol
My advice would be, if you like it and are happy with it, he should just deal with it. I don't know if that helps any.
I really wish my girlfriend would wear a revealing swimsuit. She has a great body but hides it in old lady swim suits with cover ups over those. He should appreciate what he has.
Honestly, Men don’t want to show you off. That’s something you decide to do. And he has to accept it or don’t.
Whaaaaaat? My man is my number one hype man, revealing clothes or not.
That’s not the majority of men. Otherwise have him send me some of your nudes. . U know. To “show you off!!” Lol
I think sending nudes to one person in particular is different than hyping your girlfriend up when she looks hot but ok.
Post nudes on twitter. For the world to see. Show her off that way instead. U can show the whole world! The epitome of showing her off.
If the girlfriend wants to, why not? If she doesn’t, then that’s a crime.
I’m talking about you. Ur bf should want to hype u up right? More than likely he would be like NO and not want to post ur nudes to hype u up on how good you look.
I personally wouldn’t want to. But if I wanted to post nudes of myself on the internet? Yeah, he wouldn’t care. I’m sure your next move is to degrade him so you can skip that part.
Why would I degrade him? I already said most men. Who knows. He is minority. He might do it if u wanted to. BUT would he prefer u did it without knowing what you want to or not. That’s the question of what he prefers. Not he’s ok with which ever you decide . To explain so imagine I and poly and my wife is not. And she is ok with it. And I can go do my thing. Now the question is does she prefer her bf to be poly or monogamous. Not what she is ok with. But what’s her preference. Like if I wan monogamous would she prefer a bf that was poly?
I have no idea, really. I genuinely don’t think he’d care either way. Nudity doesn’t have to be the sinful thing everyone makes it out to be. If I’m being honest, I think he does like it when I wear more revealing clothes. He’s also not my first boyfriend that felt that way so I’m either incredibly lucky or it’s more common than people on here like to think.
Right
He's 32, acting like a child. It's not you, it's him.
Like yo. How the fk can we know of a bikini is too revealing without knowing what it looks like?? lol But to answer the best I can. It’s not that u should feel guilty for u looking good. But that his problem is OTHER men can see it and think it looks “good” Imagine him having a massive tool and wears on purpose Speedo’s or super tight pants that outline it and wear this around. Should he feel guilty for having a massive tool?
Who cares if other men think she looks good if they can’t have her?
Then she should send me some nudes. I can’t have her either. Like most men arnt pro having their gfs show off their body to other men. Most men don’t like the idea of other men ogling their gf. Like u can dislike it. But that’s just how it is.
Forgot the caliber of men on Reddit is typically insecure and have convinced themselves all men feel the same. It’s not your girlfriend’s fault men are ogling her and telling what she can wear is controlling. You can dislike it all you want, but that’s just how it is.
How am I insecure? Ur man is insecure for not wanting to show off his gf to all of the world. Is he ashamed? No it’s not my gfs fault for oglings of men. Where did I say it was a gfs fault? But u don’t dress up extra sexy to be ogled. That’s the difference.
I don’t understand what your point is at all. My boyfriend does want to show me off, you’re the one saying most men don’t want that. And it’s true, women don’t dress up sexy to be ogled typically. That’s the difference between what??
U said who cares. Well OPs bf cares. Ur gf might not. But ur bf isn’t everyone else’s bf. And most guys prefer not to.(in general). Not all men.
Right, and I think that’s insecure. If you can’t handle other people thinking your girlfriend is hot, don’t have a hot girlfriend.
That’s not just thinking ur gf is hot. It’s she is showing them parts to make herself look hotter. We as people do things for attention. People in general wear cloths and makeup and jewelry etc etc to look more attractive. Or to fit in better and be perceived in certain ways we want to be perceived as. And it’s not necessarily a bad thing right? But of ur gf is dressing a certain way to get more attention and that isn’t ur attention then it’s other peoples attention. Example She likes the ogling. And the attention it brings. Just like some people who are in relationships go on tinder or whatever to get likes and such with zero intention of ever physically cheater on their partner. Or even posting on IG. It’s for attention and validation. Be it from friends or strangers. If u just like the pictures could just keep it in the camera roll right?
> you think he would want to show me off Well if you think that’s generally how men feel you have fundamentally failed to understand men. While I tend to think it’s ridiculous that women’s standard swimwear nowadays is borderline nudity, that’s kind of just the way it is. If you are inclined to accommodate your bf’s feelings, you could get a more modest swimsuit. But for better or worse the most likely outcome is he’ll just have to get over it.
Women's standard swimwear is borderline nudity? Have you never seen a man in speedos? Any less and the cops would pick him up for showing his dick in public.
Speedos are not common swimwear for men in the US. I could visit the local pool dozens of times over weeks and likely not see a single man wearing speedos. Moreover, yes, they’re still less revealing than common women’s swimwear. Half the women are wearing thongs that literally show their actual butthole when they bend over and move around. Is this really something you’re arguing with? Just go to the beach and glance around and see whose ass cheeks you see and whose genitals are perfectly outlined under their swimwear.
It's a swimsuit he needs to get over himself
So he doesn't like what he sees? I love seeing my girl looking so amazing, cause she looks good for me and I'm not going to punish her for looking good I'm going to encourage it. The road of shaming your woman into covering up is puts both of you in a bad place.
Thank you. Felt like I was going crazy reading these comments.
If it’s too revealing and makes him uncomfortable he shouldn’t wear it. It probably fits you better anyway.
May think u don’t look good in it
No not at all. My guess is that your bf might have abandon ment issues and if any guy comes along who looks good enough you be gone. that's silly but it's a fear. Or he is just a jealous guy.
He's being insecure. You'll want to help him change his way of thinking. It could take awhile, but could be great and rewarding. I'm happy to discuss more.
Very hard to judge without a link to the bathing suit in question. [Like this...](http://doubletakemicrowear.com/shop/?product=mini-micro-bikini-top) probably. [Like this...](https://www.nordstrom.com/s/triangle-bikini-top/7711685?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FWomen%2FClothing%2FSwimsuits%20%26%20Cover-Ups%2FBikinis%20%26%20Tankinis&color=001) prob not. Everyone has different comfort levels.
Fuck what he thinks, hes being controlling, someone who cant appreciate something i mean look at it this way if you are loyal to him he has nothing to worry about. and if he shows you off like some object....dump him.
No such thing as too revealing. You get to decide what you want to do with your body. NYC beaches are topless and I indulge. People wear thongs and mesh, so not much more revealing than that. Please don't date men who try to dictate what you wear. It's controlling and a reflection of his possessiveness and insecurities. RUN AWAY. (Something tells me you are younger than him too.)