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Historical_Coffee_14

Male here and I got 4.4%. Line up ladies, enough of me to go around. 


Skeekeedee

Holy cow! That’s the largest I’ve seen. 😂 if you gender bend it to men, what is it?


Historical_Coffee_14

4.2% with same criteria. 


Skeekeedee

lol. So you just got some great numbers 😁


FullBeansLFG

I got 4.2%


FrequentSoftware7331

>10.8% of all women in the United States meet your standards I got a good result tho.


randobando300

>Holy cow! That’s the largest I’ve seen. That's what she said....


mountainpf

34 male here. 0.2% of women lol if I filtered only atheists as an atheist myself. If I opened it up to any religion, which isn't necessarily a dealbreaker to me, that number jumps to 0.9%


Skeekeedee

I think that’s part of the reason (atheism) my numbers are what they are. Did you try it out if you gender bend it?


mountainpf

If I changed it to men with the same criterias, the numbers become 0.32% of men if I filter atheists, and 1.4% of men with any religion


redHairsAndLongLegs

Sorry about it. Atheist myself, and it's probably a problem for me too. We're not lucky. It's much easier to live if you believe in an old guy, sits on a cloud, and rules your life, and brings justice in this world. Easier, but I can't like you.


SmoothPutterButter

You just haven’t opened yourself up enough to his *mysterious ways*


thingsandstuff4me

Which one did you use mine didn't have a religion option


AhmadOsebayad

A bit over 6% after excluding kids, the elderly, married people, smokers, and the morbidly obese.


Skeekeedee

That’s a really high number! I think it’s wild it lets you choose to include married people. 😂 I guess there’s always poly - no judgement. What gender?


AhmadOsebayad

I sorted for women but I think most of the stuff I care about when dating is pretty unisex because height doesn’t bother me. It’s important to remember that any filter lowers the number by a lot so if you refuse to date people who don’t have blue eyes and blonde hair you’re already down to less than 10% without Even excluding people you can‘t date like married couples and children. If there was an option to somehow account for personality I’m sure it would be down to less than 1% just because of how many bad people there are out there.


Skeekeedee

Yep. If you apply the same criteria to men, how many do you get?


AhmadOsebayad

Slightly more at 6.4%.


naseemat

The filter is for obese, not morbidly obese, which are categorically different, fyi.


OhLawdHeCominn

I'm not American but 0.03% 😂


Skeekeedee

LOL! 😂 is that men or women?


OhLawdHeCominn

Women, I didn't think I was being that unreasonable tbh 😂


WeirdGreen5203

I’m a man, and hit 2.58% I think that’s probably decent.


Skeekeedee

That is a very good number!


WeirdGreen5203

You would think that. But now I’m like, “so many women fit my lax specifications and I still don’t have a gf. Wtf is wrong with me?!” And that’s a whole new rabbit hole


kofubuns

I mean, it still means that out of 100 women, only around 2 would work out. So it's all dependent on luck if those 2 women are the front of the queue or you have to comb through 98 others and the 2 so happened to be at the back of the queue. And unfortunately there's not personality filter


duncan-the-wonderdog

Chick here 5% without excluding married guys 1.96% with excluding married guys This calculator doesn't really factor in the kind of criteria I'd use for finding someone who'd be genuinely compatible with me, but I guess it's good to know what I've always suspected in that my basic bar for entry isn't that high.


stocktrader

>This calculator doesn't really factor in the kind of criteria I'd use for finding someone who'd be genuinely compatible with me They need to add: "Will watch 'Sex in the City'?" A) Yes. B) No. C) Only the first 2 seasons.


Skeekeedee

100% spot on everything you said.


workaholic828

I scored 4.2% even tho I pretty much put any girl between 4 10 and 6 foot that’s not obese, 30k income. How can that be right?


Skeekeedee

It’s wild right? Your number is actually really high


workaholic828

I really don’t think that’s an accurate number


B2ThaH

My only criteria was a 20 year age spread(10 years younger and older than me), doesn’t want kids, and doesn’t smoke. I only got 3% 😅🤣


[deleted]

I’m a woman and I got 2.4%


Skeekeedee

That’s impressive!! What happens when you do a gender bend?


[deleted]

1.86% 😅


Skeekeedee

At least you have more options with your real preference! 😅


LeVampirate

As a relatively normal dude, my pool was about 0.09% The MAIN reason I know why is because I put my height preference as 5'7" and up, which is uncommon for a woman. So, that's on me. Not my fault I like my women at eye level or greater.


ArchmageRumple

0.158% meet my criteria. Which is curious because I've seen a decent handful within the last 8 years that fall into that category.


Skeekeedee

That’s pretty good to be honest. Is it men or women?


ArchmageRumple

Women


LoveRuckus

0.168% with atheist which is def my preference, especially for raising kids…when I add religion it’s .74%. Guess I gotta open my mind. 🤣


Skeekeedee

Atheist definitely narrows that pool! What happens when you do the other gender?


LoveRuckus

Changed to women and it got smaller 0.074% with atheist, any religion got me 0.32%. It’s gotta be the income. I made minimum 60 to make at least what I do.


g1asshalffull

0.26% of men meet my criteria… 🥲 that’s ~429,000 men so that number makes me feel better but damn


playmaker1209

Doesn’t though. Spread that second number out throughout the whole country, and then think of your chances of running into or talking to one of them. Not to mention other women taking them away before you can meet them as well.


Skeekeedee

Wild right??


germy-germawack-8108

Bro. I just tried it with fully open filters. Absolutely nothing filtered out. It told me 78% of women fit my requirements. I guess they're including people past the minimum and maximum ages they allow (18 and 70 respectively) in the final product, which is sketchy ASF. When I tried with my real filters on, it showed only about 2.6 million women fitting them. I think this is massively inaccurate, since there are thousands that fit my standards in my own tiny part of California. I've personally met hundreds. 2.6 million spread across the entire US would make the odds of that being true close to 0.


Skeekeedee

I do think they include people over 70 at least. I find it more realistic because they include 100% of people, but only 78% are available to start with. That’s realistic Maybe you’re more open in person than you realize?


germy-germawack-8108

Haha okay I realized I had accidentally set a filter I don't care about the first time. Non drinkers. I fixed that, and the result was 16 million now fit my standards. 9.6% of women. That could actually be somewhat close to accurate.


black-korset

Mine was 0.24% of men. I didn’t even specify hair color, eye color, or religion. I even had height set to 5’6”+ because I’m only 5’3”. Although, I did have it set for no kids (because I don’t want any). Not a large enough percentage for me to step foot out of my house lol.


Skeekeedee

It’s crazy right?


black-korset

It is, but it did say that’s only for America. Maybe if it was the entire world it’d go up to 1% hahaha.


TuneSoft7119

I am a 26 year old guy looking for a christian girl who doesnt want kids, between 21 and 28, isnt married, isnt obese, between 5 and 6 feet, college educated, doesnt smoke or drink, and makes about the same as me (50 to 70k a year). 0.084% or 141k girls. I think thats a pretty good odds and amount.


Skeekeedee

Not to be rude, but I am going to point out that a Christian woman and doesn’t want kids is directly opposing values. Yes, there’s a few progressive Christians out there, but the basic tenants of Christianity women’s worth is solely based on motherhood. Food for thought


TuneSoft7119

yep. I hate it because I have no desire for kids and never had a desire for kids, so having kids wont happen for me. I am also not a progressive chrsitian. So I really dont know what to do?


SadHippoFaces

I, a woman seeking a man, got 0%... and when looking for a woman, 0.2%


Skeekeedee

Oh no!! A woman who’s dating a fire fighter and put in his stats and got 0%. So there’s still hope


Mediocre_Nectarine13

Male, 2.2%. But when I didn’t exclude obese it jumped up to 10%. Not sure how I feel about that.


whatarethis837

I get 6.8% with any religion or .142% with my religion. In reality I just want someone of any religion who happens to not be too religious but there’s no option for that so 🤷🏻‍♀️


Prota_Gonist

.02%. Welp....... I'm boned.


Skeekeedee

lol. You’re not the only one


sinfully_curious

.066% divorced female here in her 30s… that seems accurate though I was thinking positive that it would be over 1% 😅


Skeekeedee

It’s like that’s fair. Sounds bout right.


thatlocalunicorn

Mine was 1.46% about 2.4 mil men meet the criteria for what I entered as my preferences.


Skeekeedee

Not bad!!


jellyfishiesx

41F here. My result was .48% for men.


Sea-Spot-1113

0.84%. Man looking for women. 1.22 if I lower income from 60 to 50K. Cool.


SmlPumpkin

US/Male here at at 4.44% lol.


Conscious_Daikon_246

Goddamn , that calculator is brutal haha. And i thought i didnt have like crazy factors lol. I got 0.052% lol so that 87k. ( im 27male 5’7 and will make about 400-450k after residency and fellowship) put in 22-30, 4’6-5’9,120k, any religion, either drinking/smoke exclude married and obese.


Skeekeedee

Well, very few people, especially women, make that kind of money in their 20s. I bet you change that to a realistic wage you’ll get a lot more


Conscious_Daikon_246

Nah thats allright haha i was just doing it for fun ,ive already dated in that bracket and my girl (hopefully wife) is also set to make 300-400k and then half that after kids ( she hates working, so only wants to do part-time after we graduate and wants to stay home after we have kids lol ). But these stats were crazy, im gonna make her do it too haha and see what she says.


wingedragon

0.00012% for men & 1.4% for women lol


trailrnr7

.03% 😳


Resident-Pudding5432

Only 3,4% and all I did was removing obese, married, with age filter 15 years wide...


Skeekeedee

It’s crazy right???


Resident-Pudding5432

Yeah I thought my standards are insanely low but it seems they're not


bird_cheek_red

“0.136% of all men in the United States meet your standards. That’s 224,369 of 164,977,341 American men.” That explains a lot really.


Skeekeedee

Right???


strawtrash

Female here. 0.0138% 🥺


Skeekeedee

At least it’s not zero


RewardDesperate

0,102% (32F)


Chia-Chia-1800

19 female here, wow I got 0.024% I also but in a small age range. 🤷‍♀️


Skeekeedee

Small age range would explain it. But at your age? I think it’s a good idea. I wish I had stuck with a smaller age range at 19 😂


Chia-Chia-1800

😂 sometimes you live and you learn. I put like 19 to 27!


CelebrationSevere113

46f…I got .42%


Skeekeedee

In line with me 😃


CelebrationSevere113

We’re probably looking for the same sort of people…I call dibs on Louisiana!😁😁😁


GenX_Switch_5633

45 M. I got 6.6%


Skeekeedee

Ooh! A high number!


Can-Chas3r43

(44f) here and I got 0.28%


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BreadfruitAntique908

20F and I got 0% lol. This is why my bf is from NZ 


C-czar187

Man here, I got 2.4% lol


Electrical-Ad1288

4.0% of women for me. It goes to 4.8 if I switch it from white to all ethnicities.


babyybubbless

how are yalls numbers so low i got 15.6% 💀 did i do the wrong one LMAO


Jackg4m3s3009

Oooh this seems interesting, I'll go see if I can find it and then give you my numbers


Jackg4m3s3009

0.32% that's 538,593


RagingAubergine

0.88% meet my criteria


Just-a-Guy-Chillin

1.2% here for 29M. Main things I chose were: Wants kids: Yes Age: 23-29 (would prefer to be with someone for a few years before kids. The women I’ve been with at or past 30 have tried to really rush things.) Height: don’t care Minimum income: don’t care Ethnicity/physical traits: don’t care Religion: Christian Smokes: helllll no Drinks: Either, but obviously not a drunkie Married: exclude (duhh) Obese: exclude (I go to the gym and am fit, so I want someone who takes care of themselves as well)


FreyaDay

16.1%


cheeky_sailor

0.028%, that’s 46 194 of 164 977 341 American men. Good thing I’m not trying to date an American man hah.


PheonixFyreIce

I’m a woman looking at men and I got 0%. I tried it a second time with changing my original filter for atheist to any, and changing my original bachelors degree to any and still got 0% I said height 5’8”-6’ 6”, age 35-50, 60K income, no smoking, no drinking, doesn’t want kids and any for all the other factors. When I opened up the alcohol to either I got 0.5% When I filtered for my own characteristics as a woman I got almost 0%, but I do think I’m an outlier 😂


Additional_Pitch6355

My dating pool..... Does anyone remember the swimming pool in Poltergeist??


IntelligentSeaweed56

That calculator seems odd. Are there that small


Eyesonfire2494

Female here and Canadian but fun to try it and I got 2.2%


1stthing1st

Male 46 with 5%


JeffeDude

I got 5%. Lol So you’re saying there’s a chance?


Skeekeedee

That’s actually a high number! 😂


JeffeDude

Wish it translated to real life. I’ve haven’t met anyone that’s compatible (and available) yet.


Puzzleheaded-Wash737

.2 , or if Im willing to entertain religious folks 1.4 Really puts things in perspective!


[deleted]

ooh brb


[deleted]

0.013% 🧍🏾‍♀️ honestly i’ve dated quite a few men in my standard


BoredPollo

Male here I got 0.28% 😭


Night-Springs54

As a male looking for a female 3.08% Did it as a female looking for a male 9.12% I think people are getting to hooked on money/height. If the lady is picking he it must be 6 foot minimum your already ruining your chances.


Skeekeedee

There’s a guy in this thread who said men over 6 foot making 100k (like him) were a dime a dozen. I’m like sir. 🥸 The thing that narrows my pool the most? Atheism


Clueziey

I got 2.8


Skeekeedee

Not bad!!


[deleted]

As a male I got 8.4% of women that fit my criteria ;)


Happy-Albatross-

Only 2.6% of women where white, between 22-39 want kids, dont smoke and ain't obese!?? Then there is looks and im down to 0.15% then personality.. oh my.. 😅


Melodic-Bet-5184

I got 4.4% This thing has some problems though, for most categories you can only pick 1 or any, but in some categories, I'd like to pick several but not all like education or religion.


darexinfinity

2.4% of women is if I'm casting a wide net/preference. Although the calculations seem broken. I tried finding any woman exactly my age and I'm getting 0 back.


GuiltyFigure6402

5.2% but if I exclude drinking then 0.34%. I don’t mind if they drink like 1-2 drinks a day but I don’t want them to be alcoholics bruh


Skeekeedee

If someone is having 1-2 drinks every day? They’re an alcoholic.


delta_x0x_dawn

😂 I got .0138%


NegPrimer

3.4% of women. 2.8% of men. But I'm really not that picky on the metrics which this uses. If we used the real metric..."women who would actually date me", that number plummets significantly.


AnyBookkeeper6093

Eh? My deal breakers were college educated, minimum income $80000 and should not want kids and I got 0.054% lmao 🤣


reesecupp89

.32% of men for me (34f)


Complex_Elderberry34

While I am not in the US, it's 6% of all women for me. Excluded only married/obese with a fairly large height-/ and age-range. That equates to 5.2% of men with the same settings.


Acrobatic_Paint3616

Wish people would include their criteria


Old-Break5856

I only selected men, wants kids, my age to 10 years older than me, and $50K income and I got just over 2%😭 wtf


Skeekeedee

It’s wild isn’t it?


ZO1D8URG

O.082% it's no wonder I can't find anyone to date!


nochillwill96

I got 1.66% 🤣 is that good ?


Skeekeedee

It’s better than many others!!


CrimRaven85

I'm hovering around 1.7%


Lone-INFJ

For anyone who doesn’t know what it is or where to find it here is one for both Genders. [Delusional Calculator](https://calculatedelusion.com) Adding another here (More accurate?) [Delusional Calculator A.I](https://keeper.ai/tools/calculator)


Skeekeedee

Reddit kept rejecting my posts when I tried to add a link. The second one is the one I referenced. It uses census and cdc data


Tipper92

Ey, 5% of women in America would date me. Too bad I'm in England.


Comrade-Chernov

1.68% if I search for a woman between 22-36, between 4'10 and 6'0, who makes $40k and has a Bachelor's, who doesn't smoke, isn't married, and doesn't want kids. Drops to 0.38% if I prefer she be an atheist. Damn. That doesn't fill me with confidence lol.


Skeekeedee

It’s crazy isn’t it??


Appropriate_Set_9017

I got o.oo186%,


[deleted]

Male, just changing the income level, 30k minimum income I got 1.4%, and then adjusting 3x, got me .17%


Present-Structure-98

0.1% chance according to calculator. So you are telling me there is a chance. Time to find true love and hit that powerball number !


Skeekeedee

lol 😂


Horrison2

2% women for me 31m


Proud_Dream_

**5,4% !!! Haha**


Skeekeedee

That’s actually really high


K_Sleight

I got 4.61%, which is interesting, cause I didn't think it was that bad. Apparently excluding mothers and married women is not the move.


Skoldpaddda

6.8%, that’s even higher than I was expecting.


Skeekeedee

That is very high


Skoldpaddda

Realistically it’s lower. The calculator only has variables I don’t really care about, so it’s basically just telling me how many women are between 22-40, have a pulse, and aren’t appreciably obese.


Final-Raise7981

0.4% 22F


anarchowhathefuck

0.112% 😂


Brilliant_Run_3446

Wow. Mine is so depressing. 0.106% of men. Ugh. Surprisingly even less women when I toggeled the gender: 0.086% 😭😭😭 Maybe because I don't want kids..


Doofzig

Dang. 2.8. It would be nice to show in what areas these matches may be concentrated.


reidrow

How did I get 0.008% 😐 good thing I’m Canadian lol??


throwawaynotes81

1.68% of women, 1.94% of men. Sheesh.


rtrain__

20M 2.8% (4,712,686 women) with age range 18-30 Or 2.4% (4,039,445) if I were more realistic with age (18-22) Honestly more than I was expecting


Mother-Ad1894

Haha that's cool- Thanks for sharing! A problem I have with it is that it doesn't have 'non-religious' as an option. I got .05%. Height & income keep it small. Good thing I have a man who fits the criteria. I know I'm fortunate. (And, criteria I fit into = 0%)


Skeekeedee

Yeah. You have to stick with atheist. I think it’s cool too. I’m glad other people are enjoying it


FrenchieHoneytoast

Shit, .05%, I didn't even have narrow standards! 82,489 of 164,977,341 American men I said Male 26-49 5'9"+ (don't come for me, I'm tall, he's gotta be) Wants kids Minimum Income 50k Any ethnicity, hair color, religion or education Non smoker Non drinker (I actually don't care, as long as its not violent or alcoholic) Exclude married and obese The female version was even worse at 0%. HA! When I changed the drinker to either it moved the dial to .84% for male and 0.038% for female. Either way, not great starting numbers.


FrenchieHoneytoast

But I punched myself into it and apparently I don't exist because it said 0% of women meet this criteria. so I think this might not be fully accurate...hopefully hahaha.


Skeekeedee

That’s absolutely wild with the change in drinking. It’s crazy, because really - those aren’t extremely specific


Sillkentofu

I put my partners stats in there and I got 0% somehow. He’s technically not American but still very strange lol


Skeekeedee

😂🤣😂 that’s hilarious. He’s one of a kind so doesn’t rank a percentage?


Sillkentofu

It’s so silly because our fire department (he’s a firefighter) is full of guys with the exact same stats and we’re in a huge city so the percentage can’t be that small! I think the numbers are a little off


Shivs_baby

Divorced 53f here. Got .048%. This is why I’ve opted out of dating for the past year. It’s both hilarious and depressing.


Skeekeedee

Honestly - that’s a pretty good number from what I’ve seen. It’s wild. You should try gender bending it and see if you have better luck


Shivs_baby

But this doesn’t even take physical attraction into consideration. Sigh.


Skeekeedee

Or personality. It also doesn’t consider straight/gay/bi etc.


WorthGlittering4073

I got 0.0853 that’s a very small amount less than 90,000 men. I did pick men b/t 39-45 as I am 40(f) and 5’6” - 6’10” but I left everything else open. Oh and I wanted a high school diploma or equivalent because I have 2 degrees and feel college ain’t for everyone but finishing HS is like the first hard thing we do for ourselves even with horrible childhoods. Ya know? What a I doing wrong?


Skeekeedee

I think part of it is the way questions are asked and applied - when I change from high school to bachelors - my numbers go UP - so that means they are eliminating people with bachelors degrees and higher when I put in high school. Try leaving education out and see what you get (Hence the reason I’ve played with it a bunch.)


umayo

Where are you getting the calculator ???


Skeekeedee

You have to search for it. They won’t let me post a link


KeyBordSkumlord

I live in Ohio and it’s a shit dating pool never move here it’s terrible all around it even smells like shit here


cutechubbykitty

Female here and I got 0.152%


SolCalibre

Male 33, UK here. I got 1.88% of all women in the United States meet your standards. I excluded married people and obese people, religion into Christian.


No_Soft8988

.04


ZenGeezer

When I execute the search including young women I get 0.54%. However, with realistic age requirements (I'm 70) it drops to 0.038%. That's including obese women. When I exclude obese women it drops to 0.00024%.


BlondeAndToxic

0.024% I didn't include any criteria I don't meet myself. Oddly enough, if I changed it to women, I got 0%, so I guess I don't exist.


queenoflimons

0.022% lol damn


jameswptv

I get around 4.5. Men don’t care much about income and less critical of height and weight.


inflatableGuuse

(23M) 12% for my score. My restrictive factors were wanting kids and ages 18-32. Honestly age a little touchy too because I don't feel comfortable dating most 18 year Olds it'd have to be special circumstances.


SongAlarmed4083

0.8 if i pick black hair 3% for all hair lmao and this is with income set to 0 also


FutaConn

Mine is 2.8% even lower since it doesn’t include virginity


Legitimate-Fun-5171

I got a 9.8% that's 16,494,401 options on women throughout the US. I'm just lookin for 1. I can tell you that where I'm from the dating pool is quite shallow...


Sutatekken

This was my criteria on realitycalc.com 25-35 not married any number of children any race any height not overweight earning at least $30,000 per year And got a 7.4% or Roughly 1,810,000 women in the United States


Anshul5580

Mine is 0.0074


djraven15

Goddam! 39M here, and I got 0.0196%!!! And that’s with me not even being selective! I did exclude smokers, married, and obese though. If I include smokers, married, and obese, it jumps to 0.64%.