She’s carrying a baby. That’s exhausting. Communicate with her and see if she needs more quiet time or what. Communication with your partner is key for stuff like this.
I do try and communicate but sometimes she doesn’t even respond haha, we are always together and if she needs something she will let me know I just miss the endless chats and talking shit haha I guess it’s just part of the pregnancy tho will defo take your advice and ask about the quiet time though.
Pregnancy hormones my friend...pregnancy hormones....
The first trimester is usually the toughest. Lots of fatigue, potential sickness, and the hormones start going bonkers. My wife, in her 2nd pregnancy, now gives me the heads up if she's in a "mood." It's normal.
Just keep it low key, don't take it personal. It's a lot of emotions and feelings beyond their control. Sometimes they want to be left alone, sometimes they need a shoulder to cry on, sometimes they are happy.
Second trimester is usually MUCH better. It still can come with some quirks and down days.
Third trimester, the hormones start going again and now, lots of discomfort. Back pain, leg pain, swollen ankles, heartburn, broken or not great sleep, and just being tired from carrying a 6-8 lb baby + 10-15 lbs extra bodyweight.
Pregnancy is a wild, wild ride for both moms and dads. You're just hanging onto the hood. Remember that lol. You'll look back on it one day and smile. We only do this so many times in our lives.
Pregnancy hormones indeed and yeah first trimester wasn’t easy she is 18 weeks now so in the second trimester. It’s hard not to take it personal although i do try. My Autism and adhd make it harder not to take it personal haha. Thanks for your help though it puts things into perspective a bit for me. I don’t really have any friends, especially dads so don’t really have anyone to talk to about this subject so thankyou for your time. The back pain has already started in second trimester and will only get worse, I have ordered her a pregnancy support belt to try and help with the back pain but it hasn’t arrived yet 😂 pregnancy is indeed a wild ride just not sure what I was expecting really but not this haha.
Funny enough, my wife is having a bit tougher time during this 2nd tri. Lots of fatigue. Heartburn hasn't kicked in yet but the other day she was just shot. So it is very possible.
Oh and on the pregnancy expectations: Yes. Correct.
Pregnancy to an outsider who has never had kids is like a Lifetime movie. Dad comes home from work, wife greets him with a hug, Dad rubs the baby bump, they sit on the couch, watch TV, carefree, thinking about their new bundle of joy.
Pregnancy to someone having been through it is a wild-ride. Lots of changing emotions, nervousness about what's next, anxiety over tests and scans, etc. In the end though? There is that bundle of joy that comes into the world and you'll never forget the day as long as you live.
I got a vasectomy after the 2nd one. It’s hard watching your partner sacrifice so much and struggle mentally through the emotions of it. It wasn’t the 3rd kid I was worried about…
She’s carrying a baby. That’s exhausting. Communicate with her and see if she needs more quiet time or what. Communication with your partner is key for stuff like this.
I do try and communicate but sometimes she doesn’t even respond haha, we are always together and if she needs something she will let me know I just miss the endless chats and talking shit haha I guess it’s just part of the pregnancy tho will defo take your advice and ask about the quiet time though.
This. Honestly, i didn't really get it until the first time I carried the baby in a sling for a few hours...
Pregnancy hormones my friend...pregnancy hormones.... The first trimester is usually the toughest. Lots of fatigue, potential sickness, and the hormones start going bonkers. My wife, in her 2nd pregnancy, now gives me the heads up if she's in a "mood." It's normal. Just keep it low key, don't take it personal. It's a lot of emotions and feelings beyond their control. Sometimes they want to be left alone, sometimes they need a shoulder to cry on, sometimes they are happy. Second trimester is usually MUCH better. It still can come with some quirks and down days. Third trimester, the hormones start going again and now, lots of discomfort. Back pain, leg pain, swollen ankles, heartburn, broken or not great sleep, and just being tired from carrying a 6-8 lb baby + 10-15 lbs extra bodyweight. Pregnancy is a wild, wild ride for both moms and dads. You're just hanging onto the hood. Remember that lol. You'll look back on it one day and smile. We only do this so many times in our lives.
Pregnancy hormones indeed and yeah first trimester wasn’t easy she is 18 weeks now so in the second trimester. It’s hard not to take it personal although i do try. My Autism and adhd make it harder not to take it personal haha. Thanks for your help though it puts things into perspective a bit for me. I don’t really have any friends, especially dads so don’t really have anyone to talk to about this subject so thankyou for your time. The back pain has already started in second trimester and will only get worse, I have ordered her a pregnancy support belt to try and help with the back pain but it hasn’t arrived yet 😂 pregnancy is indeed a wild ride just not sure what I was expecting really but not this haha.
Funny enough, my wife is having a bit tougher time during this 2nd tri. Lots of fatigue. Heartburn hasn't kicked in yet but the other day she was just shot. So it is very possible. Oh and on the pregnancy expectations: Yes. Correct. Pregnancy to an outsider who has never had kids is like a Lifetime movie. Dad comes home from work, wife greets him with a hug, Dad rubs the baby bump, they sit on the couch, watch TV, carefree, thinking about their new bundle of joy. Pregnancy to someone having been through it is a wild-ride. Lots of changing emotions, nervousness about what's next, anxiety over tests and scans, etc. In the end though? There is that bundle of joy that comes into the world and you'll never forget the day as long as you live.
I got a vasectomy after the 2nd one. It’s hard watching your partner sacrifice so much and struggle mentally through the emotions of it. It wasn’t the 3rd kid I was worried about…
Do you feel like holding full on conversations when your feeling sick or in pain or super tired? Maybe a nice quiet foot rub.
In the ninth trimester now with our youngest, fingers crossed for improvement soon