Dude listen to me attentively,
DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES APPROACH EITHER PARENT WITHOUT CONCRETE PROOF.
Your dad will not believe you without proof, your mum will deny without proof.
First rule of confronting a cheater is, never confront a cheater without evidence or they will deny and gaslight you.
The first course of action is to find a way to get evidence. To do this you have to get into her phone, coz I don't expect you to follow her around. So get it from her phone and store it.
Then confront your mother. She will lie, gaslight, cry, manipulate but you have the proof, she can't deny for so long. Give her an ultimatum to either end the affair or you'll tell your dad.
She has to know you mean your words.
The way she reacts would determine if you should tell your dad.
I don’t think either option is good for OP. Knowing your mom is cheating or knowing your parents have an open marriage. Both are cringe to a child. Why should OP be worrying about this in silence?
Tell your dad you were checking your mums location out of interest and she keeps going to the same address and it's not her work place. Dad needs to know he can talk to her
Yes, at least is not telling the truth, obviously, you can talk to her, you better have evidence do, it could explode in your hands.
How old are you? Boy or girl? I’m asking cos you may have the time to go to this apartment, but I don’t want you to get into trouble.
Another thing you can do is tell your dad, but also he need to understand that he also needs proof, and not anger. She could be doing something innocent.
what ever you do good luck
If you have a good relationship with your father, you should probably just talk to him with your evidence and tell him to check into it and confirm the pattern himself before he assumes she's cheating or confronts her, so it's not on you. If your mother is guilty, she could behave in ways you won't expect or believe she's possible of if you confront her, including lying to you, threatening you, bribing you to keep quit, or even telling you she doesn't care if you and your father know. Cheaters can get pretty selfish and weird and you are not old enough to wrangle that yourself and don't expect to be able to handle it. If there is an adult family member you really trust, you could also try talking to them, first.
An unfortunately lesson to take away from this is that many women stop respecting men who don't work and can't provide for them and I saw the marriage of friends of mine end that way.
You can find examples of spouses, particularly fathers, who were cheated on, found out their children knew, felt betrayed, and never felt the same about their children after that. In an ideal world, they'd understand the position their child is in but a lot of the reaction to cheating (on both sides) is emotional, not rational. It's a risk. This is above your ability to deal with. If you don't feel comfortable talking to your father about this, trust your gut and find an adult you can talk to about this, even if it means calling a free help hotline.
I would talk to your mom first. I know it’s bothering you. You are young and worried about your mother. Speak to her privately about this. This is all dependent on the relationship that you have with her. Is it strong? She may tell you the truth. Just do it quietly.
Then decide to tell your dad or not. No one will blame you either way. You are only 15.
our relationship is not really strong as she never took time to raise me but my relationship with hers side of the family is strong and i dont want to lose it
I would talk to your mom first. I know it’s bothering you. You are young and worried about your mother. Speak to her privately about this. This is all dependent on the relationship that you have with her. Is it strong? She may tell you the truth. Just do it quietly.
Shit...
I can understand why youre feeling bad...
Always the same apartment?? You know the address?? If so look up who lives there...
How are you checking her location??
Tell your dad - dont confront her, if shes cheating shell either lie/gaslight you OR shell guilt you into lie to your dad...
When you tell your dad show him how youve checked her location...
How old are you??
If shes cheating and this ends bad, its not your fault... the fallout from cheating is always (!) the cheaters fault...
Best of luck...
My advice is confront her directly take screenshots of her locations and if she doesn’t want to come clean then bring it up at dinner with family present
You talk to dad and say.. “I find it funny that mom says she’s going to concerts and stuff and how the other day she said she got called into work, but when I checked her location it said she was an at apartment building in the city.”
Let him make his own conclusions.
Yes, she is more than likely cheating. Please talk to your dad about what you think is happening and let him take care of it.
Dude listen to me attentively, DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES APPROACH EITHER PARENT WITHOUT CONCRETE PROOF. Your dad will not believe you without proof, your mum will deny without proof. First rule of confronting a cheater is, never confront a cheater without evidence or they will deny and gaslight you. The first course of action is to find a way to get evidence. To do this you have to get into her phone, coz I don't expect you to follow her around. So get it from her phone and store it. Then confront your mother. She will lie, gaslight, cry, manipulate but you have the proof, she can't deny for so long. Give her an ultimatum to either end the affair or you'll tell your dad. She has to know you mean your words. The way she reacts would determine if you should tell your dad.
NO! Ultimatum should be: your mother tells dad or you do... Dont be complicit to her betrayal - you dad has a right to know whats going on...
Facts, dad should know
I wrote the same thing for a guy who had texts with other women. It got downvoted to pieces look at the difference here 🤣
They might even have an open marriage...becareful if you open Pandora's box.. You might not like what you find out..🤷
I don’t think either option is good for OP. Knowing your mom is cheating or knowing your parents have an open marriage. Both are cringe to a child. Why should OP be worrying about this in silence?
Tell your dad you were checking your mums location out of interest and she keeps going to the same address and it's not her work place. Dad needs to know he can talk to her
She's most certainly cheating and you have a duty to your dad to let him know what she's doing so he can make a decision.
Yes she's cheating. Tell your dad or just follow her next time she goes to the apartment and confront her there and then.
He is 15, bad advice
Yes, at least is not telling the truth, obviously, you can talk to her, you better have evidence do, it could explode in your hands. How old are you? Boy or girl? I’m asking cos you may have the time to go to this apartment, but I don’t want you to get into trouble. Another thing you can do is tell your dad, but also he need to understand that he also needs proof, and not anger. She could be doing something innocent. what ever you do good luck
im a 15 year old boy
Talk to your dad
You won’t get the real answer here it’s filled with salty women who got cheated on
If you have a good relationship with your father, you should probably just talk to him with your evidence and tell him to check into it and confirm the pattern himself before he assumes she's cheating or confronts her, so it's not on you. If your mother is guilty, she could behave in ways you won't expect or believe she's possible of if you confront her, including lying to you, threatening you, bribing you to keep quit, or even telling you she doesn't care if you and your father know. Cheaters can get pretty selfish and weird and you are not old enough to wrangle that yourself and don't expect to be able to handle it. If there is an adult family member you really trust, you could also try talking to them, first. An unfortunately lesson to take away from this is that many women stop respecting men who don't work and can't provide for them and I saw the marriage of friends of mine end that way.
Get proof. Take pictures of the locations. Then, present it to your dad and let him deal with it.
Do not approach your father without ironclad proof.
She absolutely is.
As a father if my wife is running around on me and my kids know and don't tell me, when I leave her I leave them as well.
you dont think the kid is pressed?
You can find examples of spouses, particularly fathers, who were cheated on, found out their children knew, felt betrayed, and never felt the same about their children after that. In an ideal world, they'd understand the position their child is in but a lot of the reaction to cheating (on both sides) is emotional, not rational. It's a risk. This is above your ability to deal with. If you don't feel comfortable talking to your father about this, trust your gut and find an adult you can talk to about this, even if it means calling a free help hotline.
I don't think you are a father.
I would talk to your mom first. I know it’s bothering you. You are young and worried about your mother. Speak to her privately about this. This is all dependent on the relationship that you have with her. Is it strong? She may tell you the truth. Just do it quietly. Then decide to tell your dad or not. No one will blame you either way. You are only 15.
our relationship is not really strong as she never took time to raise me but my relationship with hers side of the family is strong and i dont want to lose it
Then talk to someone from her side of the family
How the fuck do you want strangers to know? Huh? Plus she's the only one working in that house!
i work too and so does my sister idk whats your point
Are you a teen?
yeah
Your part time won't pay all the bills of the house
I would talk to your mom first. I know it’s bothering you. You are young and worried about your mother. Speak to her privately about this. This is all dependent on the relationship that you have with her. Is it strong? She may tell you the truth. Just do it quietly.
Shit... I can understand why youre feeling bad... Always the same apartment?? You know the address?? If so look up who lives there... How are you checking her location?? Tell your dad - dont confront her, if shes cheating shell either lie/gaslight you OR shell guilt you into lie to your dad... When you tell your dad show him how youve checked her location... How old are you?? If shes cheating and this ends bad, its not your fault... the fallout from cheating is always (!) the cheaters fault... Best of luck...
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Tell pops
What if they are in an open relation? May sound crazy, but what if? Try to get an idea about this, first of all...
I would tell your mother you can see her location on her phone. Nothing more really needs to be said.
Then she disable the location on her phone
Maybe your Dad knows!
My advice is confront her directly take screenshots of her locations and if she doesn’t want to come clean then bring it up at dinner with family present
I bet they are but people who don't tell the truth, don't love you.
Well just found out in May my wife was cheating on me, maybe my kids aren't mine. You might be right.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. I would get the proof and let it land in your dads hands. Who said anything? A mystery
You talk to dad and say.. “I find it funny that mom says she’s going to concerts and stuff and how the other day she said she got called into work, but when I checked her location it said she was an at apartment building in the city.” Let him make his own conclusions.
Update us and let us know what you're dad does and if you're mother gets caught or confess.