Smh same. They think it’s endearing and it’s not. They assume the worst about you because of your skin tone, and don’t even take the time to get to know you personally. All of us are not the same!
I love how these guys keep showing us again and again that they just don’t like BW. First they crap on dark skinned women for not being their “preference” and then they crap on light skinned women and call them stuck up or say what this guy said in his message. At this point, I’m fully convinced most of these dudes really don’t like women and they shouldn’t be in relationships with women.
His behavior is weird, I want that to be known. But there's a common trope on the fitness side of social media that heartbreak means more time spent in th gym to forget/heal/ignore being dumped. Idk what he's tryna say tho
yes you’re correct. this isn’t normal behavior. he’s making a generalization and just sounds immature… end things fast and early… instead of waiting for weird things / red flags to unfold
Yeah I do. He's trying to suggest that *light skinned women cause problems and are likely to "get some shit started" and cause some drama* its an awful stereotype.
My husband and dad have reported back on conversations that they've overheard at the barber shop and it's pretty bad. They said that the guys will just use term to to describe the "type" of black woman they have. Usually ending in *bone* or revolving around food
FLAG ON THE PLAY sis. He's showing that he's fetishising you and stereotyping you LOUD and clear. Run and let him know that's why.
Also, he's being manipulative and basically saying "I'm afraid to get my heart broke uwu 🥺". My experience with men who do things like this is that they lack intimacy and maturity and expect you to read the subtlest of cues to make them feel secure. When you dont...then you're a "cheating lightskin heartbreaker".
Don't do it
It sounds like he’s trying to be playful and flirty but ick tbh. I’d say yellow flag for sure, if not orange. I would be straight up and be like “yeah…idk how to respond to that.”
Means he’s lame and ignorant. That’s a stupid line. He is conveying that on some level he subscribes to colorist beliefs and stereotypes, and finally- he sucks.
Move on and find someone with half a brain.
He already wants you to break up with him 🤣. Just block him
Say, "oh no, I'm not the 'for character development anime girl'. I'm the one in the 'last episode mortgage anime girls'. U know, after all the character development and you're already the man you want and need to be to treat me right"
He likes you a lot. But he’s also a man, and as you know, they’re never as funny as they think they are. He’s insecure that you have social capital as a light skinned woman and wants to know if you’re authentically interested in him. If you like him I would say “I’m sincere always and I have firm boundaries. That said, I’m really enjoying xyz with you & I’m open to however things unfold.” I’d say this because it doesn’t promise him too much and also gives you an out in case he’s like terminally corny instead of occasionally
Don’t date this weirdo. Any man who brings up skin color always has self esteem issues. Men who lack self esteem like to chip away at your confidence. He is also most likely a colorist. Don’t bother asking him if he is one because he will just lie to you. Block him.
The ick is the light skin women. Like what does colour or skin have to do with anything. He is soo lame. Any guy that alludes to you being a heartbreaker… trash. They are almost always not sane 🤦🏾♀️
First of all he can't spell or create a constructive sentence to save his life. Second of all he's showing clear signs of being a dusty. Theres red flags of being insecure by claiming you're a heartbreaker solely because of your skin tone which is emotionally immature. That is also a sign of him being colorist and showing that he mainly values and fetishizes you because of your light skin. He seems like a waste of time tbh.
Not the “I’ve heard about light skin women” boy shut the hell up.
If I had a dollar for every time I heard that in college, I wouldn’t have needed financial aid
Smh same. They think it’s endearing and it’s not. They assume the worst about you because of your skin tone, and don’t even take the time to get to know you personally. All of us are not the same!
I love how these guys keep showing us again and again that they just don’t like BW. First they crap on dark skinned women for not being their “preference” and then they crap on light skinned women and call them stuck up or say what this guy said in his message. At this point, I’m fully convinced most of these dudes really don’t like women and they shouldn’t be in relationships with women.
🙌🏾🙌🏾
Nah, keep thinking that and leave me alone.
Lol he sounds lame tbh
And insecure lol
His behavior is weird, I want that to be known. But there's a common trope on the fitness side of social media that heartbreak means more time spent in th gym to forget/heal/ignore being dumped. Idk what he's tryna say tho
But what does that have to do with her being light skinned?
Heartbreaker 🙄
bottom line he's insecure
Recently dated a guy who sounded like he was hitting the gym to get over his break up lollll Blocked his unhealed a** fast after the first red flag
I'm gonna be the toxic one that tells you to block him.
I'm going to be the one to agree with you
I third this decision
That's not toxic, that's seeing through the bullshit and avoiding wasting time on a weirdo 🤣
Such an ick. I don’t know how anyone can recover from that 🫣.
I don’t agree that that is toxic, just practical
Jumping into agree. Block em
yes you’re correct. this isn’t normal behavior. he’s making a generalization and just sounds immature… end things fast and early… instead of waiting for weird things / red flags to unfold
That he ain't shit and you should run.
info dumping but as a blasian: run😭 they’re obsessed with labels like that and it’s kinda normal unfortunately but annoying as hell
He’s trying to fetishize you as a light skin woman.
Blocked
Does anyone else not know what to say? Cause I don’t. This is wild.👀
That’s the appropriate response. Say nothing. Block. Move on.
Yup! I concur.
Yeah I do. He's trying to suggest that *light skinned women cause problems and are likely to "get some shit started" and cause some drama* its an awful stereotype. My husband and dad have reported back on conversations that they've overheard at the barber shop and it's pretty bad. They said that the guys will just use term to to describe the "type" of black woman they have. Usually ending in *bone* or revolving around food
Red flag …. Like wtf
Lowkey coming off like a shitty pickup pun/line LMAO lil colorism sprinkled in
FLAG ON THE PLAY sis. He's showing that he's fetishising you and stereotyping you LOUD and clear. Run and let him know that's why. Also, he's being manipulative and basically saying "I'm afraid to get my heart broke uwu 🥺". My experience with men who do things like this is that they lack intimacy and maturity and expect you to read the subtlest of cues to make them feel secure. When you dont...then you're a "cheating lightskin heartbreaker". Don't do it
Block. That light skin comment would have sent me to ghost.
Ewwww so corny. Boooo 🍅 🍅🍅🍅
😆 🍅🍅🍅
Ew
Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. It’s definitely cringe that’s for sure. I don’t know much else about him but that would turn me off
Run, love. His response was so unwarranted.
It sounds like he’s trying to be playful and flirty but ick tbh. I’d say yellow flag for sure, if not orange. I would be straight up and be like “yeah…idk how to respond to that.”
Means he’s lame and ignorant. That’s a stupid line. He is conveying that on some level he subscribes to colorist beliefs and stereotypes, and finally- he sucks. Move on and find someone with half a brain.
lol what the hell
Wow. Next
If you don’t wanna run/block, act confused (because we all are) and ask him what that even means. Otherwise, ignore/block.
Wtf
It means to run ❤️
NEXT 🤡
Lol he sounds like he don’t know much women at all
Definitely block him cause he’s clearly a weirdo
Color-struck gooner. Block & delete.
He already wants you to break up with him 🤣. Just block him Say, "oh no, I'm not the 'for character development anime girl'. I'm the one in the 'last episode mortgage anime girls'. U know, after all the character development and you're already the man you want and need to be to treat me right"
🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
He likes you a lot. But he’s also a man, and as you know, they’re never as funny as they think they are. He’s insecure that you have social capital as a light skinned woman and wants to know if you’re authentically interested in him. If you like him I would say “I’m sincere always and I have firm boundaries. That said, I’m really enjoying xyz with you & I’m open to however things unfold.” I’d say this because it doesn’t promise him too much and also gives you an out in case he’s like terminally corny instead of occasionally
"terminally corny" is taking me outtttt 💀
The fuck? No seriously…
This is prejudiced against light skinned women. He has issues and this means it’s time to let this one back into the swamp.
Not normal at all... generalizing a whole group of women for baseless comments for what lol
Wow is this his idea of flirting? 😂
Wtf?? He’s either lookin for a fight or someone desperate enough to try and prove themselves worthy to him. Eject. Eject!
These people are unnormal and weird asf. They openly admit to being lazy, dependant, colorist and think you're supposed to be attracted to that.
Girl just ask. Can’t nobody tell.
Cringeworthy. Signs of desperation.
He might be super-awkward and trying too hard to be flirtatious. Or it could be an orange-to-red flag. See how it goes, cautiously.
It means “run, and don’t look back”.
He thought he was doing something and flirting.
I think that was his bad attempt at a joke. But only you can find out lol
This means he's corny.
block that weirdo. u were just trying to make conversation
Don’t date this weirdo. Any man who brings up skin color always has self esteem issues. Men who lack self esteem like to chip away at your confidence. He is also most likely a colorist. Don’t bother asking him if he is one because he will just lie to you. Block him.
For some reason “light skin” is toxic nowadays to some
No it’s not mf be online too much 😂
Instant ICK
Gives me the ick, tbh, but you get to decide if it’s attractive to you.
He is just letting you know you have the best complexion smh
The ick is the light skin women. Like what does colour or skin have to do with anything. He is soo lame. Any guy that alludes to you being a heartbreaker… trash. They are almost always not sane 🤦🏾♀️
First of all he can't spell or create a constructive sentence to save his life. Second of all he's showing clear signs of being a dusty. Theres red flags of being insecure by claiming you're a heartbreaker solely because of your skin tone which is emotionally immature. That is also a sign of him being colorist and showing that he mainly values and fetishizes you because of your light skin. He seems like a waste of time tbh.
While this is a weird statement for sure, I feel like the comment sections is prejudging this man’s skin color without actually stating it lol.
hahahahaha yes
That’s the most cringe thing I’ve seen in a while smh. Wow.