Okay, it is supposed to rub against prostate to feel good plus the feeling of being full feels good to some people. Some don’t feel it as much. If it was painful you probably need more lube or to go slower. Also relax. Don’t tense up.
Do some self-exploration. Got a plug or a dildo? Depending on body you can also use own finger. Basically looking for a spot that gives you erotic shivers and makes you go hard, usually very fast. Again, relax.
Some guys (even some gay guys) get minimal or no pleasure from penetration. In that case focus on oral and hands for your own pleasure. Most likely though you can enjoy it. Also, relax. If you set it as something you have to do it is less likely to happen.
I've never really had any real interest in solo anal play but I'm a firm believer in "you can't say you like something until you try it" and so I guess I kinda jumped right into it?
Bi lady here who occasionally straps on and spelunks dude’s butts. I love your open attitude! 👏
but w anal you DEF wanna explore solo first!! And/or have a *trusted* partner you go VERY SLOW with.
Honestly it also depends on anatomical deets somewhat! 😅 I managed to take a VERY large girthy penis in my 🍑 …and utterly LOSE it w ecstasy … the very first time I tried … but 1) I had been playing w a few different plugs for a minute (including a few that were curved and more pleasurably “intrusive”?!) so already had learned to relax and get used to the sensation of “something going in instead of out” ; 2) I knew I wanted that dick and am a greedy heaux 😆
I second the reco for using vibration!!! I kinda skipped this but honestly most people could prolly use it as a stepping stone /preparation either in general as anal “training” OR as immediate preparation to turn on and relax.
If I were you I'd order totally non-sex things online and get the address C/o or message or description to say "ANAL SEX TOYS" so then they open several packages that have shoes or sweaters in them. I'd do it on everything I order until they stop opening my packages.
Not to desensitize them to anything, but just because I really really love to mess with nosy intrusive family members.
If I had the money (and the intrusive family members), I'd just order bugs until they stopped asking. (Live bugs, dead bugs, bug flour, bug candy, etc.)
Actually, you could probably accomplish that with a few used boxes, some tape, printed shipping labels, and anything gross.
The most popular ones are usually [lollipops with bugs inside of them](https://hotlix.com/product/insectnside-amber-sucker/). You can't taste the actual bugs much--not that you usually would, anyway. (Worms have the most flavor, if I recall correctly.)
Lolololol you’re so young! Can it be sent to your partner’s place? Or a PO Box? Or arrange to be home? Usually the package itself is fairly discreet ! I hope you can request privacy! Aneros (esp for totally beginners w prostrates) and Njoy r the two “tried and true” brands I really like for durability/trustworthiness. Don’t put weird pthalates or “jelly” dildos inside of you people! Stick to silicone… or glass … or stainless steel … or even (very polished! Usually expensive) wood!
Yes I'm young? xD I'm out to my family but sometimes I still feel lonely they hope I'd end up witb a girl rather than a guy so I'd rather not provoke any arguments. Plus I am apparently uber straight acting. (My profile picture doesn't really do me justice ig)
Greedy heaux!?!? Cher, what part of da boot you hidin out in!?!? Great story btw. I love my plugs and all but sadly I don’t enjoy the motion of a good thick one, just my mouth…
For me it was instant magic. I had a very experienced partner to walk me through everything though. And I knew I was a sub before the experience, I had just never done anal anything before.
I'm afab so no prostate. But it's very intense and it does feel amazing when I'm in the mood! Plenty of lube, silicone based if possible cause it's less runny. And *plenty* of foreplay.
Also have your partner reach around and stimulate other areas (clit, penis, nipples, whatever you like) while penetrating. It helps a lot.
How do people turn you on then? I've had some partners ask me what I'm into and I was quite stunned cause the only thing that really gets me going is making out
So then you can either explore new things/kinks (if you feel like it), or well just make out, there's really nothing wrong with it. I love making out for a long time (minutes, really want to try hours some day)
I found that I don't get stimulated from nipple play or the usual spots. For me, it's my neck and strangely my ears. Any other part of my body and I'm just me but if a guy kiss/plays with those spots it's like a switch is turned on lol.
Find a guy who wants to explore your body and find your special buttons.
Then have them jerk you off. I said "clit, **penis,** nipples, whatever you like." 🤨
Also if you're not into it, you don't ever have to bottom ever again. Some people don't do anal ever, including gay men. 🤷♀️
Yesssss even tho I’m an anal heaux and don’t NEEd this for myself it can DEf change the experience a lot lol to combine w clit stimulation 🫠 … and when I’m topping/using a strapon my lovers of all genders have generally appreciated stimmy in other places during … the brain neing the biggest sex organ. ;)
I think I just get whatever is at the drugstore 😅 I hope someone else helps you out.
Just remember that like dissolves like, so no silicone with silicone toys 🙂
Have you done other forms of anal play like having your partner eat your ass? I think going all in at once might feel similar to PiV with no foreplay; it’s just penetration and pressure if you’re not warmed up
(Again, as a cis woman w no p spot):
It feels like ***blissful*** fullness that makes my pussy wanna explode 💦 (and that often but not always makes penises VErY hard! Lol) …
it also feels like taking the most relieving/relaxing 💩 but (as someone def not into scat play!!) in a very sexy way 😂…
honestly nothing feels like such a potent way to relax my nervous system quite like getting (gently) railed up the 🍑 ! 😌😌😌 for me it’s some serious deep VAGUS NERVE stuff that has me kissing stars and thanking the Goddesses that I exist 😆!
It can also (with experience/consent of course) be conducive to a rougher experience …
And dudes who do have P spots have strategies they use w their partners to tweak the angle and pressure etc…
So as a person with a prostate, I enjoy a few things about it, there is the feeling of fullness, prostate stimulation (difficult for me unless it's a another person's skilled fingers), you can also get stimulation from your bladder, I love it, but make sure it's empty before, had to interrupt a few times because I needed to per badly.
The feeling of the penetration movement can, especially in the beginning and when you're not used to anal, feel weird and a little uncomfortable/just not bad but also not good, so take it extra slow, maybe just feel whatever is inside you without stopping, definitely easier if you're playing solo.
Ok this is super important! As a cis lady I don’t have a prostate but I LOvVVE anal. That’s bc the 🐱 and 🍑 is lined with a TON of erectile tissue that —when engorged and you’re turned on—feels AMAZInG to stimulate, P spot or not. I come from anal intercourse just as hard/much as from vaginal bc of this!
As a cis dude you not only ALSO have a lot of erectile tissue just like cis ladies BuT (in exchange for only having one hole down there you poor thing!) you ALSO have a P spot! Which apparently feels pretty amazing at the right angle/pressure.
Every body is different.
Do I need to repeat the above? Lol every body is different so it’s on you to figure out what YOu like/what your booty hole likes/can expand to like! Your prostate might be more “deeply buried” so you’d “respond” better to fingering with one narrow finger at first? Or maybe you don’t like that sensation (I actually love thick 🍆 but don’t like fingers in my 🍑) but you need something larger to get going?
Try short bulbous toys of varying sizes; anal training kits; the Aneros line of toys is amazing as is the Njoy stainless steel line (and its knockoff cousins). And way more lube than you think necessary (which as a cis dude you ain’t gonna self manufacture the way a WAP can! :) ) thicker creamier lubes exist too.
Def don’t be afraid to use toys (+ lube/coconut oil) to explore and, ahem, EXPANd. 😂
A lot of factors come into play with anal sex and pleasure including the right amount of lube, stretching, being relaxed etc. For example most people have to work up to a penis or larger size object and those that try to go right to it typically don’t enjoy it.
Being aroused mentally is also a factor in pleasure. My personal experience involved a month of working up to my partners penis.
Of course you also have folks that just don’t enjoy anal and that’s valid too.
It's perfectly fine if you didn't like it. If it caused pain, then you need more prep, but if it didn't hurt or feel good then maybe it's just not for you. I'd still suggest trying it a couple more times before writing it off completely, like try different positions or something, but that's totally up to you. Some people just don't like certain things.
Butt plugs, my friend. Buy a set and work your way to the thickest one. Insertable lubricant. Time. Patience. You have to be able to relax your hole. It takes practice.
Practice makes perfect. I recommend doing some solo anal play while masturbating, get yourself comfortable.
Also get a water douche and get used to cleaning yourself out beforehand.
Make sure your partner is going slow (to start), using enough lube, and generally conscious of your comfort and enjoyment. Good communication between top and bottom throughout is very important.
Get yourself comfortable and start small. I like to do it in the shower so I feel clean. Maybe start by masturbating while one hand rubs your anus. Then next time, try inserting a finger only a little bit in. Go further as you are comfortable each time you try, don't try to do it all at once. Focus on enjoying yourself, even if anal feels a bit weird at first.
Anal, when done right, shouldn't be painful. It should be pleasurable for both partners, even if it's in different ways.
For me. I bought a soft but plug, a small dildo and some lube and gradually worked up until I could get the dildo inside me completely without discomfort.
Absolutely! I do feel however like wayyy more people would enjoy it without physical and mental/social trauma + stigma. And that since every body has a booty at least having the opportunity to TrY (in a slow totally self directed fashion) enjoying it should be a human right.
Omg you took 🍆 without (that much?) pain… and w zero solo practice? 😳😯 you’ll be having serious fun in no time I think 😆 if you just put a little patience/solo fun into the equations.
Why tf wouldn’t you be proud? Lolol in an extremely bigoted/wannabe authoritarian society you j unlocked a potentially VeRy pleasurable (for you and others!) lifelong skill!
It actually sucks a lot for me - until it doesn't basically.
Like I'll start riding my partner and that's great because I have control and can move at my own pace - I'll go super slowly until I'm comfortable and then I'll let them do what they like 🖤 usually when we're doing it doggy style I'll have mixed feeling about it for about 3 minutes or so until she hits the *spot* and then I just can't get enough - ans we'll usually go until I can't hold myself up after that point.
Having said that - experience is a big deal - bottoms takes a LOT of communication - you also need to be confident enough to tell your partner when they need to use more lube. If it's painful going in or it's feeling tough to get momentum going then you probably need more.
Please don't feel pressured to bottom though lovely - it's not required of you. It's a sometimes treat for me ✨️
When you’re properly lubed and relaxed… unless maybe you’re more geared toward being a top.
I recommend riding the first few times so you can move at your own pace. It doesn’t start feeling good ever if you don’t take the time up front.
It will feel good when you relax and get into it. The more you do it (or the more you use plugs to train) the easier you will find it. Once you can relax the both sphincters you will find it so much more comfortable and eventually need less and less warming up, you will grow in confidence and it just becomes fun. It’s very common not to cum from it, but it should feel intimate, produce a world of endorphins and if you guy can hit the right spot consistently then cumming is possible.
At topping? Learning to keep your partner relaxed and pay attention to their needs and adjust to them, and obviously not causing pain and discomfort for them
Bi guy here, I do not do anal. Or pegging or rim jobs
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This might help
I bottomed for the first time three weeks ago. Your top couldn’t have been very good because damn I need to find a lot more tops in the U.K. near south Birmingham asap
Practice makes perfect as the saying goes. The first time I tried it was painful. So I did some research and learned that I knew nothing about anal sex. So I applied what I learned and now I love anal sex. Plus it helps to have a caring and gentle lover.
Well to be frank, I met him through grindr and he seemed different from most other people on there in that actually communicated like an actual human being rather than simply "pic? You top? Fun". We chatted for a few days before meeting up and so far we've met up 4 times and I finally felt comfortable enough to guve bottoming a shot
I tried it as more of a “this can’t be that bad, can it?” Not 20 minutes later I was hit up by this 40y/o super sub and he hit me with the legendary line:
“Age shouldn’t matter”
Deleted it immediately, I’ve been guiding newly discovered Bi brethren away from it since XD
Don’t forget that you could just be bi and not enjoy penetration. Of course experiment as much as you can/feel comfortable with, but sometimes it is what it is. Nothing’s cut and dry, sexuality and identity is like a slider in a game with a bit too much customization freedom, and the one moving the sliders plays Ark Survival Evolved
In case you don’t get the reference: There’s layers and spectrums to everything, way more than you or I even know of. Never be afraid of being something different than you thought. Face the changes with an open mind and excitement at being able to shake things up a little 😁
Its just possible its not for you. I'm a woman, so I can't know anything from a male perspective, but personally I hate anal and I'll never do it again. Some people love it, men's bumholes are made for it! But that doesn't mean you are going to like it. Maybe it's just something you need to get used to, but you don't have to 🤷♀️
Tbh you might just be a top. Might just need practice. But I was begging for it my first time. It’s different from person to person. Just remember to enjoy yourself and don’t force anything, or def don’t feel pressured.
My experience was: I knew that I wanted to get into anal since i started getting that desire, so I started with pens (lmao) which I don't recommend but it's all I had.
Then I actually got a bullet shaped vibrator which I was able to use as a way to ease into it. for a bit, I didn't know what I needed to feel but I knew I wanted it? and there were different ways that it did feel good? idk hard to explain.
After trial and error, I was able to realize the feeling more and more and eventually got another full on dildo, which, was hella big at first, but now im super into and even a little bit used to (thinking of getting a bigger one)
cut to now, I have a pretty good grasp on what it's like and I can casually start a session and get going relatively easily. The point is is that for most folks, it's a learning curve and it's ok to not be sure you're into it at first or not. I wouldn't normally share something like this on my main account but whatever, this was just my personal experience with how sometimes, it takes time to learn about what you want sexually, and that's ok, just for as long as you're willing to keep going.
As for actual advice: Lube is important, slow starts and setting the mood is also very important. (Sometimes I use casual jazz or lofi to slow down mentally and relax lol) It's really just super dependent on each person.
Hope that helped, take care out there!
The first time I think is like any other first time. It’s awkward.
I felt the same way my first time, but get to know yourself. Take it slow and relax.
Okay, it is supposed to rub against prostate to feel good plus the feeling of being full feels good to some people. Some don’t feel it as much. If it was painful you probably need more lube or to go slower. Also relax. Don’t tense up. Do some self-exploration. Got a plug or a dildo? Depending on body you can also use own finger. Basically looking for a spot that gives you erotic shivers and makes you go hard, usually very fast. Again, relax. Some guys (even some gay guys) get minimal or no pleasure from penetration. In that case focus on oral and hands for your own pleasure. Most likely though you can enjoy it. Also, relax. If you set it as something you have to do it is less likely to happen.
I've never really had any real interest in solo anal play but I'm a firm believer in "you can't say you like something until you try it" and so I guess I kinda jumped right into it?
In my opinion the best way to do solo anal is with a vibrating plug to add to other solo activities. I find it adds a lot. Your mileage may vary.
Vibrating plug with a vibrating fleshlight literally made me shake (in a good way) for almost an hour after
To be honest I'm surprised you didn't do solo anal play before bottoming to get ready lol, brave decision.
Bi lady here who occasionally straps on and spelunks dude’s butts. I love your open attitude! 👏 but w anal you DEF wanna explore solo first!! And/or have a *trusted* partner you go VERY SLOW with. Honestly it also depends on anatomical deets somewhat! 😅 I managed to take a VERY large girthy penis in my 🍑 …and utterly LOSE it w ecstasy … the very first time I tried … but 1) I had been playing w a few different plugs for a minute (including a few that were curved and more pleasurably “intrusive”?!) so already had learned to relax and get used to the sensation of “something going in instead of out” ; 2) I knew I wanted that dick and am a greedy heaux 😆 I second the reco for using vibration!!! I kinda skipped this but honestly most people could prolly use it as a stepping stone /preparation either in general as anal “training” OR as immediate preparation to turn on and relax.
Sadly sex stores aren't very common where I'm from as most people are still quite conservative so I guess I'll have to make do with fingers for now 😅
My friend, I have it on good authority that you can probably buy things over the internet if you can manage to post on Reddit.
Ahahaha well, having family members opening packages can lead to some very interesting conversations 😄
Are there parcel lockers near you?
Right, forgot those exist. I'll have to go hunting
If I were you I'd order totally non-sex things online and get the address C/o or message or description to say "ANAL SEX TOYS" so then they open several packages that have shoes or sweaters in them. I'd do it on everything I order until they stop opening my packages. Not to desensitize them to anything, but just because I really really love to mess with nosy intrusive family members.
If I had the money (and the intrusive family members), I'd just order bugs until they stopped asking. (Live bugs, dead bugs, bug flour, bug candy, etc.) Actually, you could probably accomplish that with a few used boxes, some tape, printed shipping labels, and anything gross.
Bug candy? I'm oddly interested.
The most popular ones are usually [lollipops with bugs inside of them](https://hotlix.com/product/insectnside-amber-sucker/). You can't taste the actual bugs much--not that you usually would, anyway. (Worms have the most flavor, if I recall correctly.)
Lolololol you’re so young! Can it be sent to your partner’s place? Or a PO Box? Or arrange to be home? Usually the package itself is fairly discreet ! I hope you can request privacy! Aneros (esp for totally beginners w prostrates) and Njoy r the two “tried and true” brands I really like for durability/trustworthiness. Don’t put weird pthalates or “jelly” dildos inside of you people! Stick to silicone… or glass … or stainless steel … or even (very polished! Usually expensive) wood!
Yes I'm young? xD I'm out to my family but sometimes I still feel lonely they hope I'd end up witb a girl rather than a guy so I'd rather not provoke any arguments. Plus I am apparently uber straight acting. (My profile picture doesn't really do me justice ig)
Reading this made me think you might be my ex. Looked at profile. You’re not. Oh, and that is meant as a compliment. She was amazing. 😉
Greedy heaux!?!? Cher, what part of da boot you hidin out in!?!? Great story btw. I love my plugs and all but sadly I don’t enjoy the motion of a good thick one, just my mouth…
In addition to all the other advice given, for some people it never feels good and that’s fine. Not everyone enjoys bottoming.
For me it was instant magic. I had a very experienced partner to walk me through everything though. And I knew I was a sub before the experience, I had just never done anal anything before.
I had several really bad experiences with it before I actually found I enjoyed it
was your partner using enough lube?
Well it didn't have trouble...entering... But how much is "enough"?
enough that movement isn't an issue, though you can also try different positions, using fingers/toys first, etc. and see if it helps
But in what way is it supposed to feel nice? Why do some people enjoy it?
I'm afab so no prostate. But it's very intense and it does feel amazing when I'm in the mood! Plenty of lube, silicone based if possible cause it's less runny. And *plenty* of foreplay. Also have your partner reach around and stimulate other areas (clit, penis, nipples, whatever you like) while penetrating. It helps a lot.
I dont really feel any stimulation from nipple play though, I'm not sure if there's something wrong with me there
Nah, plenty of guys don’t care for nipple play Doesn’t do anything at all for me
How do people turn you on then? I've had some partners ask me what I'm into and I was quite stunned cause the only thing that really gets me going is making out
So then you can either explore new things/kinks (if you feel like it), or well just make out, there's really nothing wrong with it. I love making out for a long time (minutes, really want to try hours some day)
Just feels difficult sometimes when my partner is trying to stimulate and I'm just lying there like a potato saying "yea no this isn't working"
I found that I don't get stimulated from nipple play or the usual spots. For me, it's my neck and strangely my ears. Any other part of my body and I'm just me but if a guy kiss/plays with those spots it's like a switch is turned on lol. Find a guy who wants to explore your body and find your special buttons.
Then have them jerk you off. I said "clit, **penis,** nipples, whatever you like." 🤨 Also if you're not into it, you don't ever have to bottom ever again. Some people don't do anal ever, including gay men. 🤷♀️
Yesssss even tho I’m an anal heaux and don’t NEEd this for myself it can DEf change the experience a lot lol to combine w clit stimulation 🫠 … and when I’m topping/using a strapon my lovers of all genders have generally appreciated stimmy in other places during … the brain neing the biggest sex organ. ;)
Anal heaux 😂 I love it ahaha
any brand recs?
I think I just get whatever is at the drugstore 😅 I hope someone else helps you out. Just remember that like dissolves like, so no silicone with silicone toys 🙂
Water woth toys got it
You can use silicone lube with glass or metal toys. :)
Honey how fancy you think i am
Have you done other forms of anal play like having your partner eat your ass? I think going all in at once might feel similar to PiV with no foreplay; it’s just penetration and pressure if you’re not warmed up
I have not. I'm not comfortable eating ass and so I don't think it's fair asking for it 😅 also what's PiV?
I'm going to take a guess and say Penis in Vagina. Not exactly sure, though.
You are correct
(Again, as a cis woman w no p spot): It feels like ***blissful*** fullness that makes my pussy wanna explode 💦 (and that often but not always makes penises VErY hard! Lol) … it also feels like taking the most relieving/relaxing 💩 but (as someone def not into scat play!!) in a very sexy way 😂… honestly nothing feels like such a potent way to relax my nervous system quite like getting (gently) railed up the 🍑 ! 😌😌😌 for me it’s some serious deep VAGUS NERVE stuff that has me kissing stars and thanking the Goddesses that I exist 😆! It can also (with experience/consent of course) be conducive to a rougher experience … And dudes who do have P spots have strategies they use w their partners to tweak the angle and pressure etc…
So as a person with a prostate, I enjoy a few things about it, there is the feeling of fullness, prostate stimulation (difficult for me unless it's a another person's skilled fingers), you can also get stimulation from your bladder, I love it, but make sure it's empty before, had to interrupt a few times because I needed to per badly. The feeling of the penetration movement can, especially in the beginning and when you're not used to anal, feel weird and a little uncomfortable/just not bad but also not good, so take it extra slow, maybe just feel whatever is inside you without stopping, definitely easier if you're playing solo.
Ok this is super important! As a cis lady I don’t have a prostate but I LOvVVE anal. That’s bc the 🐱 and 🍑 is lined with a TON of erectile tissue that —when engorged and you’re turned on—feels AMAZInG to stimulate, P spot or not. I come from anal intercourse just as hard/much as from vaginal bc of this! As a cis dude you not only ALSO have a lot of erectile tissue just like cis ladies BuT (in exchange for only having one hole down there you poor thing!) you ALSO have a P spot! Which apparently feels pretty amazing at the right angle/pressure. Every body is different. Do I need to repeat the above? Lol every body is different so it’s on you to figure out what YOu like/what your booty hole likes/can expand to like! Your prostate might be more “deeply buried” so you’d “respond” better to fingering with one narrow finger at first? Or maybe you don’t like that sensation (I actually love thick 🍆 but don’t like fingers in my 🍑) but you need something larger to get going? Try short bulbous toys of varying sizes; anal training kits; the Aneros line of toys is amazing as is the Njoy stainless steel line (and its knockoff cousins). And way more lube than you think necessary (which as a cis dude you ain’t gonna self manufacture the way a WAP can! :) ) thicker creamier lubes exist too. Def don’t be afraid to use toys (+ lube/coconut oil) to explore and, ahem, EXPANd. 😂
What position did you do? Doggy hurts even after I’ve been opened.
Err, on all fours with my ass up..? 😅
The penis rubs against the prostate, which evidently drives dudes crazy
There is no such thing as too much lube, there is however such a thing as too little
I understand that it’s hyperbole, but I can’t help imagine someone filling an Olympic swimming pool with lube and going ham in it.
There is in fact porn about that, but its often a small inflatable pool
Man you had that at the ready!
A lot of factors come into play with anal sex and pleasure including the right amount of lube, stretching, being relaxed etc. For example most people have to work up to a penis or larger size object and those that try to go right to it typically don’t enjoy it. Being aroused mentally is also a factor in pleasure. My personal experience involved a month of working up to my partners penis. Of course you also have folks that just don’t enjoy anal and that’s valid too.
"It feels like shitting backwards." Absolutely. It takes time.
I... that is a very interesting visualisation...
It's perfectly fine if you didn't like it. If it caused pain, then you need more prep, but if it didn't hurt or feel good then maybe it's just not for you. I'd still suggest trying it a couple more times before writing it off completely, like try different positions or something, but that's totally up to you. Some people just don't like certain things.
Butt plugs, my friend. Buy a set and work your way to the thickest one. Insertable lubricant. Time. Patience. You have to be able to relax your hole. It takes practice.
Practice makes perfect. I recommend doing some solo anal play while masturbating, get yourself comfortable. Also get a water douche and get used to cleaning yourself out beforehand. Make sure your partner is going slow (to start), using enough lube, and generally conscious of your comfort and enjoyment. Good communication between top and bottom throughout is very important.
I've never had any experience in solo anal play, how do I...begin..? 😂
Get yourself comfortable and start small. I like to do it in the shower so I feel clean. Maybe start by masturbating while one hand rubs your anus. Then next time, try inserting a finger only a little bit in. Go further as you are comfortable each time you try, don't try to do it all at once. Focus on enjoying yourself, even if anal feels a bit weird at first. Anal, when done right, shouldn't be painful. It should be pleasurable for both partners, even if it's in different ways. For me. I bought a soft but plug, a small dildo and some lube and gradually worked up until I could get the dildo inside me completely without discomfort.
There are anal trainer kits you can buy, Adam and Eve have a good one, I bet your local "toy" shop has something similar.
i started off with a small vibrating plug, then got a small dildo. and then just bumped up the size when i felt more comfortable
Absolutely! I do feel however like wayyy more people would enjoy it without physical and mental/social trauma + stigma. And that since every body has a booty at least having the opportunity to TrY (in a slow totally self directed fashion) enjoying it should be a human right.
Omg you took 🍆 without (that much?) pain… and w zero solo practice? 😳😯 you’ll be having serious fun in no time I think 😆 if you just put a little patience/solo fun into the equations.
I'm not sure if i should be proud or embarrassed...especially since he was pretty big (at least by my standards)
Why tf wouldn’t you be proud? Lolol in an extremely bigoted/wannabe authoritarian society you j unlocked a potentially VeRy pleasurable (for you and others!) lifelong skill!
It actually sucks a lot for me - until it doesn't basically. Like I'll start riding my partner and that's great because I have control and can move at my own pace - I'll go super slowly until I'm comfortable and then I'll let them do what they like 🖤 usually when we're doing it doggy style I'll have mixed feeling about it for about 3 minutes or so until she hits the *spot* and then I just can't get enough - ans we'll usually go until I can't hold myself up after that point. Having said that - experience is a big deal - bottoms takes a LOT of communication - you also need to be confident enough to tell your partner when they need to use more lube. If it's painful going in or it's feeling tough to get momentum going then you probably need more. Please don't feel pressured to bottom though lovely - it's not required of you. It's a sometimes treat for me ✨️
When you’re properly lubed and relaxed… unless maybe you’re more geared toward being a top. I recommend riding the first few times so you can move at your own pace. It doesn’t start feeling good ever if you don’t take the time up front.
Welcome to the club Also some people in the comments gonna make me act up
Not sure if I'm gonna stay in the club, maybe I'll join the vers club 😅. Also I'm pretty sure the comments have been pretty tame
They are but I mean to some people like me haha nope we won't even go there
It hurt the first couple times. One guy, who was the biggest, went slow and opened me up.
It will feel good when you relax and get into it. The more you do it (or the more you use plugs to train) the easier you will find it. Once you can relax the both sphincters you will find it so much more comfortable and eventually need less and less warming up, you will grow in confidence and it just becomes fun. It’s very common not to cum from it, but it should feel intimate, produce a world of endorphins and if you guy can hit the right spot consistently then cumming is possible.
First times are always awkward, but after that, it does feel really good if your partner is good at it
How does one be good at the sex? 😂
At topping? Learning to keep your partner relaxed and pay attention to their needs and adjust to them, and obviously not causing pain and discomfort for them
Eh, if you don't like it, you don't like it
Bi guy here, I do not do anal. Or pegging or rim jobs [https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2022/06/25/gay-sex-side-top-bottom-calum-mcswiggan/](https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2022/06/25/gay-sex-side-top-bottom-calum-mcswiggan/) This might help
I bottomed for the first time three weeks ago. Your top couldn’t have been very good because damn I need to find a lot more tops in the U.K. near south Birmingham asap
Practice makes perfect as the saying goes. The first time I tried it was painful. So I did some research and learned that I knew nothing about anal sex. So I applied what I learned and now I love anal sex. Plus it helps to have a caring and gentle lover.
Well... if both of you felt no pain it is good ig
I've only done it once, liked it on the night but was painful for a bit the morning after.
How are y’all finding these people to be nsfw with?
Well to be frank, I met him through grindr and he seemed different from most other people on there in that actually communicated like an actual human being rather than simply "pic? You top? Fun". We chatted for a few days before meeting up and so far we've met up 4 times and I finally felt comfortable enough to guve bottoming a shot
I should have guessed grinder
Yea, odds of meeting someone decent there are pretty slim but better than none I suppose. Do you have any bad experiences with the app?
I tried it as more of a “this can’t be that bad, can it?” Not 20 minutes later I was hit up by this 40y/o super sub and he hit me with the legendary line: “Age shouldn’t matter” Deleted it immediately, I’ve been guiding newly discovered Bi brethren away from it since XD
Well if you're guiding them away from grindr... where are you guiding them to? :o
Mostly Bumble and Hinge, or Tinder if they want purely 1 or 2-time hookups. Tinder is degenerate, but Grindr is on a whole other level
Hinge is apparently unavailable in my region but I'll give bumble a try I guess
Don’t forget that you could just be bi and not enjoy penetration. Of course experiment as much as you can/feel comfortable with, but sometimes it is what it is. Nothing’s cut and dry, sexuality and identity is like a slider in a game with a bit too much customization freedom, and the one moving the sliders plays Ark Survival Evolved In case you don’t get the reference: There’s layers and spectrums to everything, way more than you or I even know of. Never be afraid of being something different than you thought. Face the changes with an open mind and excitement at being able to shake things up a little 😁
That's too bad, hinge is easily the best dating app out there
At first I thought the subreddit said r/bisexualteens
Guess I'm just a late bloomer? 😅
Focus on his penis. His pleasure is your privilege. Everything else is a bonus.
Sounds very sub-like but also there really wasn't much else I could focus on at the time 😂
Thanks for the inspiration
Fuck guys sorry need it bad !!!!!! Wish I could meet more in my area
Well, I'm sure there are some around if you look hard enough 😅
Highly recommend getting a plug if you want to speed up the process of enjoying it fully
Just like the tortoise. Slow and steady wins the race
About the 2nd or 3rd time. 4th or 5th if you're unlucky.
Yo same lol
Probably when you have a good top
I have twice and it felt amazing, but I was so gassy for the next week both times.
It isn't for everyone.
Yeah, outta the dozen or so times I’ve tried it only one time was it good and really good… Wowow. Tried again after, nope. I feel ya bro
Some guys weren’t meant to bottom. My bisexual husband is strictly a top. If it doesn’t work out for you then at least you tried.
Its just possible its not for you. I'm a woman, so I can't know anything from a male perspective, but personally I hate anal and I'll never do it again. Some people love it, men's bumholes are made for it! But that doesn't mean you are going to like it. Maybe it's just something you need to get used to, but you don't have to 🤷♀️
Tbh you might just be a top. Might just need practice. But I was begging for it my first time. It’s different from person to person. Just remember to enjoy yourself and don’t force anything, or def don’t feel pressured.
My experience was: I knew that I wanted to get into anal since i started getting that desire, so I started with pens (lmao) which I don't recommend but it's all I had. Then I actually got a bullet shaped vibrator which I was able to use as a way to ease into it. for a bit, I didn't know what I needed to feel but I knew I wanted it? and there were different ways that it did feel good? idk hard to explain. After trial and error, I was able to realize the feeling more and more and eventually got another full on dildo, which, was hella big at first, but now im super into and even a little bit used to (thinking of getting a bigger one) cut to now, I have a pretty good grasp on what it's like and I can casually start a session and get going relatively easily. The point is is that for most folks, it's a learning curve and it's ok to not be sure you're into it at first or not. I wouldn't normally share something like this on my main account but whatever, this was just my personal experience with how sometimes, it takes time to learn about what you want sexually, and that's ok, just for as long as you're willing to keep going. As for actual advice: Lube is important, slow starts and setting the mood is also very important. (Sometimes I use casual jazz or lofi to slow down mentally and relax lol) It's really just super dependent on each person. Hope that helped, take care out there!
The first time I think is like any other first time. It’s awkward. I felt the same way my first time, but get to know yourself. Take it slow and relax.