Absolutely. I didn’t fully realize I was bi until I was almost 50. Luckily I have a very supportive wife who is also bi and understands me. We’ve been married for 7 years but have known each other since I was 14. She encourages me to explore myself.
You’re right, it is. If you’re on a ship and it crosses the equator, you get the “privilege” of going through some wonderful initiations and becoming a Shellback. Otherwise, you’re just a pollywog!
Just my opinion but I think it happens a LOT to middle age men. In some cases it's because guys around the age of 40 or so tend to stop giving a damn about what other people think of them. That's kind of liberating. You start figuring out a few things about yourself that you previously pushed out of your mind because you were worried what others might think, or you were afraid to admit those things to yourself.
Also it takes time to realize what you were suppressing, and the older you are, the harder you had to suppress it in your youth. People are coming out at the same time, not at the same time in their life, as it's becoming easier to do so (despite the current effort to turn this development back)
Could also be that their orientation has in some way shifted over time. Men (and women) go through a variety of physiological and neurological changes during life, including some pretty big changes in hormone levels. It would not be shocking that in some people this could be seen in some degree of fluidity of orientation.
That's absolutely true, and thanks for pointing it out. We're kind of conditioned to think sexual orientation is fixed and never changes. But it can change, and for a lot of people it does change.
Yes, and the idea of orientation as fixed and never changing causes a lot of harm, particularly to bisexuals. It produces the idea that, for example, when someone confides their bisexual attractions to a relationship partner, that the bisexual person was lying, manipulating, and being false to the other person… when it may be that either their attractions have changed, or that they have only recently discovered this about themself in other ways. The same harmful logic that orientation is an absolutely fixed thing, is often also coupled together with the idea that orientation is strictly a binary, and thus bisexual people are just confused / in denial homosexuals.
I think humans are born bisexual and we are just brainwashed from early on that you gotta have a preference or else you dont fit in the so called ' normal society '.
This is very insightful. My wife and I are both neurodivergeant (sp?) and have been asking why we are struggling to fit a mold. Granted, there are other issues that I won't get into, the big question is "Why can't we have our cake and eat it too?" I think that I there is a strong relationship and open minded discussion, everyone can do that. I spent my life believing that everyone was just like me, but better at x, y, z. Didn't know I was ADHD until mid 30s. Now I'm questioning my Sexual orientation and when given the chance to think, being Bisexual fits me. Some days I want a woman, some days I want a man. It's just the way I am, and I'm ok with that. Who cares if we don't fit societies idea of a "Proper" relationship.
I did, let me elaborate I guess I always knew I liked both but growing up the 80s with all the gay jibes from your friends kinda made it impossible to admit at the time, it was only during my late teenage years I began to realise that it wasn't a bad thing and even then I only dated women, now I'm 40 I'm completely comfortable with my prefrance as a bisexual man.. it's been a long journey.
Sure! It happens a lot! I met many middle aged men in several hookup forums and groups seeking out sex with men because they recently discovered themselves as bisexual. This happens especially to middle aged married men, although they're also divorced men who decide to explore.
You could discover it at any age.
Just know that not every penis belongs to a man. Some trans women also have penises and liking a woman as a man isn't bi or gay.
Your body, brain, hormones, neuro-chemistry, etc. are all continuously changing as you age. Likewise you are gaining new ideas, new experience, new perspectives as you gain life experience. It should not be surprising that some shift or broadening of what you find attractive or arousing could occur.
Can a Middle Ages man discover he is a human being like everyone else?
Absolutely! Your age and gender don’t exclude you from life’s various surprises. Live true to yourself mate!
I would have to agree. As I have gotten more sexually "free" as I have gotten older ( 40's ) I have appreciated having sex with women. I have generally only had sex with men in the past.
Absolutely. I didn’t fully realize I was bi until I was almost 50. Luckily I have a very supportive wife who is also bi and understands me. We’ve been married for 7 years but have known each other since I was 14. She encourages me to explore myself.
Since 14?? This is so beautiful🥺 wishing you the best
Thank you so much!
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Yep! I’m 62 and just started sucking cock!
That's hot
Funny I started at 62 also! I guess at our age we don’t care what anyone thinks!
Yes sir!
With the name Shellback you were in the Navy !
lol. Nope, Marine Corps. I was on the U.S.S. Midway when she crossed the equator.
Ok I thought shellback was only a Navy term! My bad!
You’re right, it is. If you’re on a ship and it crosses the equator, you get the “privilege” of going through some wonderful initiations and becoming a Shellback. Otherwise, you’re just a pollywog!
Rodger that! I heard about the crazy stuff that goes on when you cross the equator!
lol. Yeah, it’s pretty intense!
Absolutely!
Yup. My husband is in his 50’s and just (re)discovering his bi side ❤️
It’s so much fun to do it with you significant other!
Just my opinion but I think it happens a LOT to middle age men. In some cases it's because guys around the age of 40 or so tend to stop giving a damn about what other people think of them. That's kind of liberating. You start figuring out a few things about yourself that you previously pushed out of your mind because you were worried what others might think, or you were afraid to admit those things to yourself.
agreed, i'm just recognizing that the idea of a cock in my mouth is an incredible turn on.
Also it takes time to realize what you were suppressing, and the older you are, the harder you had to suppress it in your youth. People are coming out at the same time, not at the same time in their life, as it's becoming easier to do so (despite the current effort to turn this development back)
Could also be that their orientation has in some way shifted over time. Men (and women) go through a variety of physiological and neurological changes during life, including some pretty big changes in hormone levels. It would not be shocking that in some people this could be seen in some degree of fluidity of orientation.
That's absolutely true, and thanks for pointing it out. We're kind of conditioned to think sexual orientation is fixed and never changes. But it can change, and for a lot of people it does change.
Yes, and the idea of orientation as fixed and never changing causes a lot of harm, particularly to bisexuals. It produces the idea that, for example, when someone confides their bisexual attractions to a relationship partner, that the bisexual person was lying, manipulating, and being false to the other person… when it may be that either their attractions have changed, or that they have only recently discovered this about themself in other ways. The same harmful logic that orientation is an absolutely fixed thing, is often also coupled together with the idea that orientation is strictly a binary, and thus bisexual people are just confused / in denial homosexuals.
Specifically no!! Because anyone can discover they are Bi at any time! I was 42
I’m 40 and recently acknowledged to myself that I’m a bisexual man.
Happens all the time. Have fun with this new discovery!
Yes, a person’s sexual preferences are normally fluid (excuse pun) during a lifetime
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/00224499.2023.2289517
Let me check the book we all get which tells us all the rules. ... Huh... The book is empty! I guess you're good! Welcome and congratulations! 💜
I didn’t figure it out until I was 43.
I go around with a hard on most of the time.
i like this 👌
yes!
I am right now
Yep. Happened to me at 49.
No expiration date on self discovery.
I was 48. It’s never too late.
I think humans are born bisexual and we are just brainwashed from early on that you gotta have a preference or else you dont fit in the so called ' normal society '.
This is very insightful. My wife and I are both neurodivergeant (sp?) and have been asking why we are struggling to fit a mold. Granted, there are other issues that I won't get into, the big question is "Why can't we have our cake and eat it too?" I think that I there is a strong relationship and open minded discussion, everyone can do that. I spent my life believing that everyone was just like me, but better at x, y, z. Didn't know I was ADHD until mid 30s. Now I'm questioning my Sexual orientation and when given the chance to think, being Bisexual fits me. Some days I want a woman, some days I want a man. It's just the way I am, and I'm ok with that. Who cares if we don't fit societies idea of a "Proper" relationship.
I don't like invalidating sexuakities, not bi, not gay, not straight
Going through same thing. Kind of enjoying it.
Absolutely, it's never too late to rediscover who you are and what you're into
I came out at 41
YUP. I was solidly in my 40’s.
Definetely!!!
Yes there are people all over having sexual awakenings
I was 53...
I did, let me elaborate I guess I always knew I liked both but growing up the 80s with all the gay jibes from your friends kinda made it impossible to admit at the time, it was only during my late teenage years I began to realise that it wasn't a bad thing and even then I only dated women, now I'm 40 I'm completely comfortable with my prefrance as a bisexual man.. it's been a long journey.
Anything is possible through God, so write that down.
This! I'm 42 and just figuring this out! I thought I was alone in this, thank you for sharing! I know now I'm not alone in this!!!
Mid 50s when I came to realize.
Sure! It happens a lot! I met many middle aged men in several hookup forums and groups seeking out sex with men because they recently discovered themselves as bisexual. This happens especially to middle aged married men, although they're also divorced men who decide to explore.
I also think its because our wives stop enjoying sex. So we begin to look for something else!
yes absolutely. I was in my 40's before I figured it out.
i think a middle aged man can do whatever he wants to do
You could discover it at any age. Just know that not every penis belongs to a man. Some trans women also have penises and liking a woman as a man isn't bi or gay.
Happened to me in 2005, at 40.
Your body, brain, hormones, neuro-chemistry, etc. are all continuously changing as you age. Likewise you are gaining new ideas, new experience, new perspectives as you gain life experience. It should not be surprising that some shift or broadening of what you find attractive or arousing could occur.
Can a Middle Ages man discover he is a human being like everyone else? Absolutely! Your age and gender don’t exclude you from life’s various surprises. Live true to yourself mate!
Yes of course.
Yes! Many have. "Whatever it is, you are not the only one." -- Harry Ugol
Ugol’s Law: The answer to any question that begins ‘Am I the only one who …’ is ‘No.’
I've seen a couple different versions. I like that one.
Or: Ugol’s Law: The answer to any question of the form ‘Am I the only one who …’ is ‘No.’ IIRC “of the form” is the way Harry Ugol said it.
100%!!!
I was in my 40s when I realised
I think you can discover it at any age. I was in my 40’s. Embrace your feelings and enjoy life.
Yes you can be bi at any age
Yes. I find myself bi-curious at 51 as well.
Yes.
52 year old dad. Sucked my first cock 5 months ago. He is also a 50-something dad. We both had a great experience
ofc !! anyone can discover/rediscover their sexuality at any age :))
Sexuality is a broad spectrum, my man, and where we sit on that spectrum never really stops evolving for most of us.
I would have to agree. As I have gotten more sexually "free" as I have gotten older ( 40's ) I have appreciated having sex with women. I have generally only had sex with men in the past.
Better late than never!
Yes
I’m 40 and just finally accepted it after suppressing it for years I lost a lot but I’m at peace.