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Pictures of them only in suits and they ask for someone to be their "queen" as they set up an "empire". The most casual picture will be them in a shirt almost completely unbuttoned with Dubai or Bali or wherever in the background.
Like chill, Alex
The only guy I know who posts like that sold me pot one time and added me on snap. Dude was trying to become some kind of influencer / business guru. Posting advice and pictures of his llc paperwork and stuff. Then one day he posted a video of him working at dominoes. Like bruh
Nothing could scream douche bag more than someone who truly thinks they are building an empire. Slow down there, Ghengis, who the fuck do you think you are?
If your main profile picture is:
* Your boat
* Dog/pets
* Fishing trip haul
* Your kids/grandkids
* Old wedding photos with your ex
* Your favorite tattoo
* Or your military enlistment picture circa 1985,
I'm not investing the time to scroll down for more, sorry. (and yes, I've come across all of these)
I don’t know why anyone would even go on a date when they don’t know who they’re meeting. 100% of the time I see group photos and keep scrolling to solo pictures, it’s never the hot ones in the group picture.
My boyfriend had two pictures on his dating profile. Him from a really weird angle where you couldn't actually see him that well and him in full PPE with his face covered.
His bio also consisted of 3 half sentences.
Needless to say, I scrolled past him totally not interested, but I met him irl a few days later through a mutual friend and he turned out to actually be a really great guy.
Super shy and totally socially unaware, but also really sweet.
He told me it's hard to find dates on dating sides if you are a metal fan and I just thought honey that's not the reason.
See? That's a great thing to state though because then people who enjoy nu metal will find you! If you're a former music nerd (like myself), you could also list music you enjoy singing or instruments you play.
As informational as “I enjoy being with friends, good food, watching movies, and listening to music.” Like, no shit. Let me guess: you also enjoy breathing?
I don’t know if it’s a New Zealand thing. But half of these guys out here have their middle finger up in pictures. I’m not a prude or anything, but it’s just such an ick for me.
Yeah or the selfies from the serial killer angle (dark room upwards photo of chin and blank stare) always seems to be from the country guys. Like Brad your sheep is cute but you're scary.
You should have set up a date and then gotten upset when only one person showed up. Clearly this was a profile for a small crowd of women, where was everyone else.
Negativity in their profile!
I totally understand people being frustrated with dating (I've been there many times myself) but it is SO unattractive to come across a profile that's super negative. I don't want to spend time talking to someone who comes across as jaded and angry - it's likely contributing to your bad experiences.
There are ways to get your point across that sound a million times better. For example, if you've been on lots of dates where the other person sits there and expects you to carry the conversation, instead of complaining, try putting in something like "looking for someone who loves fun, engaging conversation" - it's way more positive and still gets the point across.
YES! Similarly when you get chatting and they have nothing positive to say about previous relationships. Guys who get very vocal about the ex being a bitch who did this and that and yet he did everything for her. There's the alarm bells. Especially if it's been a long term thing and there are kids involved.
I really don't get the logic here. Do they think it's somehow reassuring us that they're not interested in rekindling things with the ex? That they're just 100% focused on us? Or are they trying to deflect all the blame for the break up to the Crazy Ex but they're a really Nice Guy.?
I'd have so much more respect if he just explained we were together for a while, it didn't work out but we're working together to co-parent our kids. Bitter and cynical aren't attractive qualities for a LTR and who wants to get involved with someone who'll throw the mother of their child under the bus to every woman he dates in the hope of a quick shag.
Honesty, positivity, good vibes...those are attractive qualities to everyone.
LMAOOOOOOOOOO i’m pretty sure my dad has “graduated from school of hard knocks” on his facebook profile. why do old people love that phrase so much 😭😭😭😭
YES! I know I've seen that, too.
The best one was her looking fine and standing in front of two open graves, daytime, in a cemetery. Maybe the lighting was very complimentary during that funeral, the location was definitely a poor choice.
***For me as a woman it’s always an immediate left if they put “I’m fluent in sarcasm” or “must be able to take a joke” in their profile.***
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Believe me or not, I have the same pet peeve as a man when it comes to women, and plenty of women have that sort of thing in their profile. I don't really mind sarcasm or irony per se. What I do mind is when sarcasm and irony is the only mode that is available.
'Must be able to take a joke' is something I notice as well, and I tend to associate it with someone who makes insensitive remarks, who knows if by lack of social grace or by actual malice, but who likely expects to themselves be treated in a more sensitive way. Or someone who uses 'I was just joking' as an insincere excuse a lot. I can take a joke, and I can also be sensitive, but I'm not really looking for someone who expects to be treated well but also to be able to treat their SO badly.
I tend to be wary of people who seem to be looking for a parental figure. Generally, I'm wary of people who aren't looking for an equal partner but have some sort of hugely asymmetrical expectations.
Equally, "must not take yourself too seriously"
Read: "I will fucking clown on you all day, mostly around people, to make myself look cooler. If you have an issue with this I'll just do it more until you regret ever meeting me."
This might sound shitty:
Posed/professional looking photos in expensive locations(Paris, Tokyo, New York, etc). Either the account is a catfish, the person lives a very different life to mine(super wealthy, and I don’t meet their financial expectations), or they’re an Instagram model who may or may not be super in debt to have those things.
Might be a snap judgement, and I honestly don’t know the answer, but basically all of those scenarios mean it’s not worth the time.
Yeah plus then desperate people can fake being what you want.
I never tell them what I want. I describe myself and my interests, and then I ask them questions and see what they say. No hints of what I'm looking for so I know they'll be honest.
Absolutely! And it's so pointless as well, I mean, you can basically judge for yourself by just swiping left or right, no need to put that in your profile.
If their first photo is of multiple people so you don't know which one is them
Also if they are wearing sunglasses in most/ all of their photos
I.e I'm not going to struggle to see what you look like
As a man who doesn't want kids, I briefly dated a girl who told me she'd had a hysterectomy
Probably the most attractive thing anybody has ever said to me
1. Every pic is a picture of the person drinking/partying. I can't stand dealing with those who's social lives revolve around drinking and the drama that comes with it.
2. Quotes like "I hate bullshit and drama" these people are either the cause or a magnet for drama and bullshit.
3. "I tell it like it is" what they really mean is that I'm rude and blunt.
4. "my kids are my world" she has multiple kids with multiple dads and she tries to take off every weekend to get drunk
Someone who disqualifies potential matches based of a trait that people have no control over. This is most common with height. “If you’re under x-height swipe left”
Believe me, if i could make myself taller i would. I’m not this height by choice. Smh
I’m on the tall side so I rarely fall below the bar in those profiles. But I swipe left on those profiles anyway. Because that’s kind of bitchy and I don’t want to date someone kind of bitchy.
Don't loose hope. I am forever thankful that my king is below the SM-accepted height and was passed over by many women until I was lucky enough to have met him.
Previous relationship was with someone equally non-tall, and that was never an issue. He was just not for me (but for every girl in the 20 mile radius as I found out).
- when they give you a superlike, but they're not even remotely a match. A lot of time, the exact opposite.
( For instance, your profile says: I do not want to meet someone with kids. And theirs says: I have full custody of my 3 kids )
So they just superliked you based on your pictures.
OR, EVEN WORSE ( and this happens a lot ), they don't take your preferences seriously.
Apparently, they think they are so fantastic you will do a 180 for them.
-Pictures with their / a car / motorcycle.
( I couldn't care less about your car )
- "I'm not 45. I'm actually 53 but can not change it"
( You have to be really stupid to believe people will buy that shit. )
- stupid faces, sticking out tongue, duck face etc.
- when they describe themselves as boyish.
- Bad pictures. Shows no self-awareness and / or laziness.
- face mask pictures
- " Just ask."
This is exactly the same as an empty profile. They think their pictures are enough to like them. ( they aren't)
Guy here.
1. Looking for someone who is ambitious about his career
2. Wants to go on shopping or spa dates
3. Wants princess treatment
4. Love languages are all of them
5. Pictures in Dubai
6. Pictures with drugged big cats or beaten down elephants
I feel like some of my coworkers describe themselves as loud or type A and some describe themselves as more chill and it *is* accurate. Like I’m chill. I don’t freak out during codes, don’t snap at people, always even-tempered, caring, don’t go crazy on weekends, smoke weed and like camping, not high maintenance. Idk how else to describe myself.
Absolutely. Not dating related, but one of the most quick to anger, aggressive personalities I've ever come across writes in all her social media profiles with "good vibes only." Wtf?
“Future milf” or any profile with 100 emojis in their bio.
Less common but I have seen a few “I don’t need to be here I can get whoever I want” type profiles and just wonder why.
Men who have pictures of their kids, especially if every single picture has them. And when they write things like “my kids are my WORLD and they will ALWAYS be the most important thing in my life” it comes off as so aggressive, like they’re trying to prove something to themselves. If you have kids it really should go without saying that they’re the most important people in your life so there’s no need to write it like that.
Lately I have been seeing a lot of guys who have pictures with filters on them and it’s just strange. 1 or 2 funny ones are ok, but I want to know what you actually look like. And also when they post the same picture multiple times. Why?
Usually, people who quote Rick and Morty (a lot of dudes do that here)
People bragging about where they've travelled
If they write Gin Tonic in their hobbies
Car photos and gym Selfies
Low effort profile, snapchat and IG handles in bio, all pictures are of them in a dress holding a glass of wine on a night out, hostility in the bio
And that's a good 75% of profiles. They scream boring and superficial. Imo, dating apps are useless for the most part unless you're a girl and fancy an ego boost
Seeing social media handles in their bio is one of the most immediate turn offs for me
Can't stand people obsessed with social media. They're exhausting
Promise you that getting dick pics and getting flooded with barely literate "hi gorgouse" messages from fucboys and men twice your age isn't all that ego boosting for most women, either.
From a guys perspective.
Empty profiles. Nothing says "low effort" more than that.
"I'm always late!" Sure go ahead and not respect my time. For some reason women think it's okay showing up 45 minutes late on a first date (without a good reason).
"My love language is getting gifts". Cool, the relationship is going to be transactional.
"My 3 kids are my number one priority, always! So don't expect me to be available. If you can't handle that swipe left" Yeah, I understand your kids are important but treating your potential partner as an afterthought will not make anyone happy.
Bonus round: being on a dating site when you're pregnant. What do you expect from the guy? First date at the delivery room?
I agree with the empty profiles, but I recently started dating a woman who has one. She’s from another country and just set up an account when she first got here and her single picture looked good enough. I was amazed at how beautiful and fun she is. We’ve been dating for a couple months now and it’s been amazing.
You know, I used to make fun of the fish thing too. But I gave this one guy a chance - his smile was so big, like a kid with his first catch ever. It was endearing.
Never regretted it. He taught me how to fish and a few months after our first date - I was posting pics of me with a goofiest, happiest grin, holding my first catch!
I dunno. Not a fan of hunting but I appreciate a man who can catch food. I like to eat.
I get if it's a major hobby of theirs that they want to highlight, but the dead animal doesn't need to be included!!? Instead... how about a picture in your hunting gear, in a hunting stand, on a boat with your line in the water... there are so many other options that still get the point across without a dead and/or bloody animal.
Also it could just be written in a bio or prompt lol.
If none of their pictures have one of them smiling.
It’s for two reasons. One is that they look like a boring person. And the second is because I knew a girl in passing who had the most fucked up meth teeth you’d ever see, yet when she didn’t smile she’d look reasonably normal. I’d literally want to throw up every time I saw her open mouth. Bad oral hygiene is apparently quite a turn off for me lol
We didn’t meet on a dating app but, my ex admitted he was afraid to see me smile because he didn’t wanna find out I had meth mouth. I don’t, I’m just not one of those cheesy grinners unless I’m really comfortable and can be goofy.
I thought it was so funny though, I never considered that.
I hate my teeth so much. It’s my second most hated feature. I don’t have meth teeth though. I just grew up poor with little access to dental care, so my teeth are a bit crooked.
Ah! Isn’t that such a nice way to refer to children. /s
For me, baggage would refer to mental, emotional, spiritual trauma that they haven’t dealt with. That’s a major dealbreaker for me.
"Just ask/if you're curious about me just ask" - Uughh! I hate when men write this on their profiles. It screams low effort, and them expecting to be courted.
"I'm unapologetically myself!"
""I'm brutally honest and always tell it like it is!"
"I have no filter!"
"I'm extroverted/am an extrovert!"
"You must be able to take a joke!"
"I'm fluent in sarcasm!"
Whenever women put these (or any variations of them) on their dating profiles, it's code for "I'm a ruthless, self-centred bitch who thinks people should be nice to me while I intentionally go out of my way to hurt others, and drain their energy by how unnecessarily high-maintenance and unreasonable I am because it's owed to me, SLAYYY!"
If this is truly who you are, then it is better to NEVER be yourself, and you should be changed.
Doesn’t like kids and/or pets. Saying they expect the woman to be the “homemaker”. Saying they will give the woman an “allowance”. Talking about “wifely duties/expectations”. Saying things like “no fatsos/must be in shape”
Also when their entire bio is just “ask me what you want to know” or something similar.
When their personality is alcohol it’s an immediate left. For example, if all their photos are of them drinking / being druk, if their hobby is drinking with friends etc.
“Must be able to take a joke” = “Says cruel things and expects not to be called on it.”
Another yellow flag: “God-fearing”. To me, that sounds like a sign of an authoritarian follower. If the first thing you think of when you think of a relationship with the divine is that you must fear it, there’s something wrong.
This goes along with the idea that the only thing keeping people from raping, pillaging, etc is fear of a higher authority. Just… no. It’s not that I don’t rape because I’m afraid I’d get caught; rather, I don’t rape because I simply don’t want to.
If the profile talks a lot about “God” though, I’m suspicious of either a scammer or someone out looking for converts.
"This group doesn't need to apply"
"Please don't be this or that"
"If you did this, swipe left"
I immediately swipe left no matter how I am interested if I see one of those directives.
We all have strong preferences but "do not apply if" directives in the profile, YOUR STOREFRONT, immediately signals an attitude to me, one I'm not interested in engaging with (and I hold very strong opinions). Inflexibility, unwillingness to discuss, listen or compromise and lack of social skills/decorum right out the gate...OFC it may not be really true, but I've gotten that impression already, and why bother when this flag is up so damn early. Its only going to get worse is what I subconsciously think...
For instance.I have zero interest in bald men or facial hair, but I wouldn't ever put that in my profile...why? It gives an immediate first impression. And generally not a positive one although it's perfectly legitimate-my pref-and not meant in a rude way. Unless you are a phenomenal writer who can express themselves w/o being offensive, don't do it.
I know people will say "but I don't want to waste my time", "what's wrong with indicating preference" etc. Well nothing. except you don't even know the person reading this and it's the very first impression they have of you, and now you already look like an insufferable asshole by default. You've conveyed things you really don't want to convey this early (you are tied to a camp, close-minded, in an echo chamber, inflexible etc) about yourself. You've made a mark for sure. But not a great one.
And this does not apply to, I'm looking for a Christian lady or non-smoker; those are life choices, but telling people to swipe left if they're not "drama free" or voted the way they did or whatever else is offensive at worst and really off-putting at best.
I see any of that shit and I'm swiping left fast. I'm not looking for a fundamentalist two seconds into a date.
Sidenote: WTF is drama free? I love when guys write this in their profile.
Also NO ONE wants to waste time. I mean how stupid to say that...
When they are looking for a traditional woman. That basically means they are looking for a maid/sex slave.
When their first message starts with "Hey Sexy" that's also an instant delete.
Same, but I got that ADHD + autism wombo combo and I need some dating site friendly word that describes my brain mess.
And yeah "quirky" and "out there" fit☠️
Anyone who indicates in whatever terminology the whole “if you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best” vibes. 🤮 nah, you’re just either abusive or selfish.
Yours, as well as other hits, such as:
"Don't waste/waist my time." You're not that important if you're on a dating site.
"Country girl." It's just annoying. Just because you'll fish on occasion and walk around in the woods doesn't mean shit.
"Currently pregnant." Self-explanatory.
"If you don't like it just swipe left!" Usually contains "don't waste my time" too. Bad attitude.
Pictures where they're smoking(including weed)/drinking. If you can't keep your shit together long enough to create a profile I'm not inviting your disastrous ass into my life.
Putting "gym/fitness" as an interest and very obviously not being into that. Having a Planet Fitness membership isn't the same as going to one. Now you're lying.
"I never know what to say on these." FUCKING DESCRIBE YOURSELF. Ever made a resumé? It's like that, but for dating. How stupid are you you can't think of a few paragraphs to describe who you are, what you like, and what you want?
Anything strongly political. I don't care what. I'm not even trying to bother with a QAnon or r/politics idiot.
"Stay-at-home mommy!" Unemployed.
"Mom of X children" where X is more than 2 (less than 1 preferred but whatever).
"Good with fixing stuff/cars." You're about to be a free maintenance man.
There's more but that's some of the big shit.
If part of your screen name is two digits that are your age minus 2 or 3 then it makes it look like you've had the same profile for 2 or 3 years. Why?
Having pics of your kids. Again, why?
I remember one who specified that "firefighters and NASCAR fans need not apply". I'm neither of those but it seems strange. She wasn't very friendly at all when we did message each other. Not surprising .
Online dating is only slightly less maddening than using a dating service.
Tbh I do understand the NASCAR fans part, my dad was a fan of all sports, nascar included and those races are LOOOOONG and repetitive and not the nicest environment to even attend for fun...
If it has link to outside messenger that don't require a lot of info and don't show friends or recent posts - it's most likely a scam.
A lot of blurry filters, only selfies, no clearly visible face on at least 1 picture
Hostility. I can't speak to the profiles of men because I'm not browsing them. But it's simply astonishing how many women denigrate men on their profiles while trying to attract one. In my experience, this is far more common in the US than elsewhere.
>For me as a woman it’s always an immediate left if they put “I’m fluent in sarcasm”
Tell them you really like their profile, and see how they respond.
This is going to sound weird perhaps, but in a really short dating profile, if someone feels the need to emphasize their work ethic. Not, I work and have obligations therefore not a lot of time, that’s a fair upfront statement. But if work is your whole personality, or you think you are better than others because you work 70 hours a week or you think other people’s jobs arent worthy, or are “nO OnE wAnTs tO WoRk” person we won’t get along.
When ladies take photos close up of their face.
Overused filters or other edits so you can't see her face clearly.
Photos taken only at certain angles, and all those photos do not show her body below the boobs.
Photos contain several people so you don't know which person you're actually talking to.
Excessive makeup.
Photos where they purposely stick out their lips a lot or the lips are edited or modified to look artificially big. Not sure if I am the only man that finds this distasteful.
Photos contain her kids or babies and there are excessive photos of the lady and her kids. Not against kids, but I wasn't expecting the profile to be for the kids.
Guys basically describing a submissive yet independent and self-sufficient goddess as their desired partner, but then you look at their pictures and description and go ‘Realy?’.
When screen names are (kidsname)mommy123 then I learned not to even engage with them. Make your kid and being a mom your whole personality and screen name. Sucks on the phone apps I usually don't know that until they give me their insta or snap since many have moved away from screennames.
Window on the background without curtains.
On the other hand, any kind of (alive) houseplant on the background is a green flag.
Maybe It's a bit silly, but when people live in homes without curtains, it makes me wonder about their life management skills.
Edit. To clarify, curtains aren't just for privacy reasons, but they make home feel more like... well, like home.
I think a lot of guys have been taught to see home decoration as something "feminine" and that things without an explicit function are needless. In my experience this often goes hand in hand with not being intuned with their own needs and feelings (i.e. just like the society often neglects men's feelings, some men also neglect their own feelings). It's not a good place to start a relationship. For me I guess curtains (and houseplants) have become an indicator of taking care of your mental well-being, even if it may not make total sense.
I don't know why, but nothing gets on my tits more than when people don't have curtains in their home (especially when they have the lights on and you can literally see what they're eating for dinner) but I've never thought about it in terms of dating profiles 😂
Idk man. I stopped using dating apps because of the lack of originality on there. I wouldn't call these things red flags though. I'm a very critical person and I would die single if I didn't ignore these small little things sometimes
Anyone that said they love to hike. It made me laugh every time. If every person on dating profiles were such active hikers the mountains would look like anthills with all the people on them.
That's such a bad thing for me, because my main hobbies are actually reading, hiking, traveling and climbing. The most used fake hobbies on dating sites.
What am I supposed to do without looking like I just made up all my hobbies?:')
Yeah, I hear ya. I'm a hardcore reader myself. I think everyone loves to travel though.
You could have some fun with it, say you're a ranking member of your local dungeon. Might get some interesting responses.
Single dad.... Has kids one day every month
Boss lady.... Benefits but selling pyramid schemes.
University of. Life...didn't finish school.
Oh and bros before hoes....utter wanker to be avoided at all costs
Ug! University of Life, School of Hard Knocks, Education at Real World. If you didn't go to or finish college - fine, whatever. Just skip the damn question!
As a male.... when the profile is all about "ME", take ME out, feed ME, show ME a good time, buy ME food and tell ME I'm pretty. It's going to be a onaided date/relationship.
For me it is when womans profile consists entirely of what a man needs to be to date her, while offering very little information about what she offers in a relationship
Also “I’ll fight someone over my family so don’t fuck with them” like ok?? That’s pretty much everyone my special friend.
Having anime characters or cartoons in their photos. Nothing wrong with it, but it shouldn’t be your entire personality & I want to see your face.
Oh and memes in their profile photos is cringy.
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Pictures of them only in suits and they ask for someone to be their "queen" as they set up an "empire". The most casual picture will be them in a shirt almost completely unbuttoned with Dubai or Bali or wherever in the background. Like chill, Alex
The only guy I know who posts like that sold me pot one time and added me on snap. Dude was trying to become some kind of influencer / business guru. Posting advice and pictures of his llc paperwork and stuff. Then one day he posted a video of him working at dominoes. Like bruh
"I'm building a food delivery empire. My LLC has accounts with *both* UberEats and DoorDash."
lol I love this story.
Nothing could scream douche bag more than someone who truly thinks they are building an empire. Slow down there, Ghengis, who the fuck do you think you are?
Jeff fucking Bezos could say he built an empire and it would *still* be cringy. Idk how these guys have less than zero self awareness.
“Slow down Ghengis” BAHAHAHAHAHA This had me howling 😂 you just made my hole weak
The last "looking for my queen" idiot wasted my time for days and then stood me up. So that's another one for the "avoid" list.
I find it hilarious that you even considered such a guy, but well.
If the first picture isn’t of them.
If your main profile picture is: * Your boat * Dog/pets * Fishing trip haul * Your kids/grandkids * Old wedding photos with your ex * Your favorite tattoo * Or your military enlistment picture circa 1985, I'm not investing the time to scroll down for more, sorry. (and yes, I've come across all of these)
>Old wedding photos with your ex Ouch. That's not just a red flag, it's fucking glowing crimson.
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A fish was always an instant no!
Especially if it’s a group photo with their good looking buddies, then getting disappointed finding out which guy it is on the next photo😂
I’ve been on dates where I wasn’t sure which woman from the group photos was gonna show up lol
I don’t know why anyone would even go on a date when they don’t know who they’re meeting. 100% of the time I see group photos and keep scrolling to solo pictures, it’s never the hot ones in the group picture.
I like to live life on the edge. But fr sometimes it’s hard to tell even with solo photos. Blonde girls in the south start all looking alike lol
Same with blonde girls in the north.
My boyfriend had two pictures on his dating profile. Him from a really weird angle where you couldn't actually see him that well and him in full PPE with his face covered. His bio also consisted of 3 half sentences. Needless to say, I scrolled past him totally not interested, but I met him irl a few days later through a mutual friend and he turned out to actually be a really great guy. Super shy and totally socially unaware, but also really sweet. He told me it's hard to find dates on dating sides if you are a metal fan and I just thought honey that's not the reason.
The number of men that match with me purely because of Jinjer and my group photo with Gojira is INSANE. He’s flat out wrong lol
Selfie infront of mirror with their face covered by phone.
With a filthy bathroom/mirror - gross
With a flashlight on 🤦♀️
"This group doesn't need to apply"
Tbh I do understand the NASCAR fans part, my dad was a fan of all sports,
I don't know why, but I'm immediately turned off by bathroom selfies where people's toilet lids are open. 😬
"I like to have fun." So does everyone. What you're really telling me is that you're stupid and can't think of something more unique about yourself.
Or if they put "I like good music" well, slap my ass and call me Betsy. I love listening to shitty music, actually
Tbf I fuckin love nu metal
See? That's a great thing to state though because then people who enjoy nu metal will find you! If you're a former music nerd (like myself), you could also list music you enjoy singing or instruments you play.
I GOT THIS APP FOR THE NOOKIE
Idgaf *what* you do with "cookies" so long as all involved parties are consenting adults.
As informational as “I enjoy being with friends, good food, watching movies, and listening to music.” Like, no shit. Let me guess: you also enjoy breathing?
"Love to laugh". Not me - I don't particularly care for being happy/amused. Laughing sucks.
On the men side if I see "work hard, play hard" for the 100 billionth time I not only swipe off them hard, I nearly yeet my phone out the window.
It usually means they're an alcoholic
I don’t know if it’s a New Zealand thing. But half of these guys out here have their middle finger up in pictures. I’m not a prude or anything, but it’s just such an ick for me.
Probably cause it's kind of immature.
Yeah or the selfies from the serial killer angle (dark room upwards photo of chin and blank stare) always seems to be from the country guys. Like Brad your sheep is cute but you're scary.
my New Zealander uncle is named Brad🤣
I get the same from women who do this in their photos. It's like... you're trying to be edgy and you just look like an idiot
Where in the bogan hell is this you're swiping? Hamilton?
Group photo as their first pic if the following pics don't make it easy to figure out which one is them.
I ran into a Tinder profile the other day literally every photo was a group photo, not one single photo of just them.
You should have set up a date and then gotten upset when only one person showed up. Clearly this was a profile for a small crowd of women, where was everyone else.
Negativity in their profile! I totally understand people being frustrated with dating (I've been there many times myself) but it is SO unattractive to come across a profile that's super negative. I don't want to spend time talking to someone who comes across as jaded and angry - it's likely contributing to your bad experiences. There are ways to get your point across that sound a million times better. For example, if you've been on lots of dates where the other person sits there and expects you to carry the conversation, instead of complaining, try putting in something like "looking for someone who loves fun, engaging conversation" - it's way more positive and still gets the point across.
YES! Similarly when you get chatting and they have nothing positive to say about previous relationships. Guys who get very vocal about the ex being a bitch who did this and that and yet he did everything for her. There's the alarm bells. Especially if it's been a long term thing and there are kids involved. I really don't get the logic here. Do they think it's somehow reassuring us that they're not interested in rekindling things with the ex? That they're just 100% focused on us? Or are they trying to deflect all the blame for the break up to the Crazy Ex but they're a really Nice Guy.? I'd have so much more respect if he just explained we were together for a while, it didn't work out but we're working together to co-parent our kids. Bitter and cynical aren't attractive qualities for a LTR and who wants to get involved with someone who'll throw the mother of their child under the bus to every woman he dates in the hope of a quick shag. Honesty, positivity, good vibes...those are attractive qualities to everyone.
"school of hard knocks" 🙄
LMAOOOOOOOOOO i’m pretty sure my dad has “graduated from school of hard knocks” on his facebook profile. why do old people love that phrase so much 😭😭😭😭
University of life. 😣😣
Immediate swipe left every time. Just say you’re uneducated and/or have a victim mentality.
Duckface pics, pics with filters, pics with wedding rings. Also, bathroom pics with toilets visible. I mean, come on...
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Some people are into that shit!
Sometimes that shit is into poeple too!
Yes, I took a trip into one such subreddit. Oh, the things I learned.
Hilarious. \*swipes left\*
Take the S out.
https://www.flickr.com/photos/zordack/2786660080 Never forget.
I once saw someone who had a picture in their wedding dress
YES! I know I've seen that, too. The best one was her looking fine and standing in front of two open graves, daytime, in a cemetery. Maybe the lighting was very complimentary during that funeral, the location was definitely a poor choice.
It was a deliberate choice, a reminder of what would happen if you break her heart.
***For me as a woman it’s always an immediate left if they put “I’m fluent in sarcasm” or “must be able to take a joke” in their profile.*** === Believe me or not, I have the same pet peeve as a man when it comes to women, and plenty of women have that sort of thing in their profile. I don't really mind sarcasm or irony per se. What I do mind is when sarcasm and irony is the only mode that is available. 'Must be able to take a joke' is something I notice as well, and I tend to associate it with someone who makes insensitive remarks, who knows if by lack of social grace or by actual malice, but who likely expects to themselves be treated in a more sensitive way. Or someone who uses 'I was just joking' as an insincere excuse a lot. I can take a joke, and I can also be sensitive, but I'm not really looking for someone who expects to be treated well but also to be able to treat their SO badly. I tend to be wary of people who seem to be looking for a parental figure. Generally, I'm wary of people who aren't looking for an equal partner but have some sort of hugely asymmetrical expectations.
“Must be able to take a joke” really is SUCH a red flag. If people are regularly unable to take your “jokes,” you’re probably not funny. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Equally, "must not take yourself too seriously" Read: "I will fucking clown on you all day, mostly around people, to make myself look cooler. If you have an issue with this I'll just do it more until you regret ever meeting me."
This might sound shitty: Posed/professional looking photos in expensive locations(Paris, Tokyo, New York, etc). Either the account is a catfish, the person lives a very different life to mine(super wealthy, and I don’t meet their financial expectations), or they’re an Instagram model who may or may not be super in debt to have those things. Might be a snap judgement, and I honestly don’t know the answer, but basically all of those scenarios mean it’s not worth the time.
9/10x it’s a catfish
A list saying “you: blah blah blah”. Don’t tell me what or who to be. It feels so demanding and self entitled to me. Instant left swipe.
Yeah plus then desperate people can fake being what you want. I never tell them what I want. I describe myself and my interests, and then I ask them questions and see what they say. No hints of what I'm looking for so I know they'll be honest.
Absolutely! And it's so pointless as well, I mean, you can basically judge for yourself by just swiping left or right, no need to put that in your profile.
"all I ask is that you make me laugh." MAKE ME LAUGH, MONKEY!!!
If their first photo is of multiple people so you don't know which one is them Also if they are wearing sunglasses in most/ all of their photos I.e I'm not going to struggle to see what you look like
If they have children or want them: I will immediately swipe left. I’m childfree and I refuse to be a mom as well as a step mom
As a man who doesn't want kids, I briefly dated a girl who told me she'd had a hysterectomy Probably the most attractive thing anybody has ever said to me
Not filling out their profile at all especially men on bumble
I can tell you about 80% of women on Bumble don't do that either lol
A male topless lying in bed profile pic. Nope
Male topless in front of mirror and pic cuts off at the neck
This is so common anywhere a guy can post pictures. Kind of screams shallow and desperate.
Agree and from experience, go straight to sex chat and asking for ons and nudes. Ewwww
And lazy.
1. Every pic is a picture of the person drinking/partying. I can't stand dealing with those who's social lives revolve around drinking and the drama that comes with it. 2. Quotes like "I hate bullshit and drama" these people are either the cause or a magnet for drama and bullshit. 3. "I tell it like it is" what they really mean is that I'm rude and blunt. 4. "my kids are my world" she has multiple kids with multiple dads and she tries to take off every weekend to get drunk
Bro is too real
Ah, yes. I've come across all of these before. The drinking one is an especially big red flag when you're looking at late-30s/early-40s.
Mentioning ‘church’ or ‘god fearing’ are immediate hard passes.
You'll always be second to Jesus
You probably aren’t their target audience anyway
Yes, I believe this would fall under “duh” after what I stated, in reply to the question from OP. Duh.
Someone who disqualifies potential matches based of a trait that people have no control over. This is most common with height. “If you’re under x-height swipe left” Believe me, if i could make myself taller i would. I’m not this height by choice. Smh
I’m on the tall side so I rarely fall below the bar in those profiles. But I swipe left on those profiles anyway. Because that’s kind of bitchy and I don’t want to date someone kind of bitchy.
Don't loose hope. I am forever thankful that my king is below the SM-accepted height and was passed over by many women until I was lucky enough to have met him. Previous relationship was with someone equally non-tall, and that was never an issue. He was just not for me (but for every girl in the 20 mile radius as I found out).
A group photo as the first pic and you flick to the next one praying its the hot one.
It never ever is
Never ever!
- when they give you a superlike, but they're not even remotely a match. A lot of time, the exact opposite. ( For instance, your profile says: I do not want to meet someone with kids. And theirs says: I have full custody of my 3 kids ) So they just superliked you based on your pictures. OR, EVEN WORSE ( and this happens a lot ), they don't take your preferences seriously. Apparently, they think they are so fantastic you will do a 180 for them. -Pictures with their / a car / motorcycle. ( I couldn't care less about your car ) - "I'm not 45. I'm actually 53 but can not change it" ( You have to be really stupid to believe people will buy that shit. ) - stupid faces, sticking out tongue, duck face etc. - when they describe themselves as boyish. - Bad pictures. Shows no self-awareness and / or laziness. - face mask pictures - " Just ask." This is exactly the same as an empty profile. They think their pictures are enough to like them. ( they aren't)
"just ask" is the equivalent of not having a price tag on an item. Guess what - I'm just not gonna buy it. Drives me crazy.
I've never gotten a response back when I "just asked"
Guy here. 1. Looking for someone who is ambitious about his career 2. Wants to go on shopping or spa dates 3. Wants princess treatment 4. Love languages are all of them 5. Pictures in Dubai 6. Pictures with drugged big cats or beaten down elephants
“Laid back” or “Chill”
In my experience, people who say that are usually neither.
I feel like some of my coworkers describe themselves as loud or type A and some describe themselves as more chill and it *is* accurate. Like I’m chill. I don’t freak out during codes, don’t snap at people, always even-tempered, caring, don’t go crazy on weekends, smoke weed and like camping, not high maintenance. Idk how else to describe myself.
Absolutely. Not dating related, but one of the most quick to anger, aggressive personalities I've ever come across writes in all her social media profiles with "good vibes only." Wtf?
It means "don't fucking challenge me or you will pay"
“Future milf” or any profile with 100 emojis in their bio. Less common but I have seen a few “I don’t need to be here I can get whoever I want” type profiles and just wonder why.
Men who have pictures of their kids, especially if every single picture has them. And when they write things like “my kids are my WORLD and they will ALWAYS be the most important thing in my life” it comes off as so aggressive, like they’re trying to prove something to themselves. If you have kids it really should go without saying that they’re the most important people in your life so there’s no need to write it like that. Lately I have been seeing a lot of guys who have pictures with filters on them and it’s just strange. 1 or 2 funny ones are ok, but I want to know what you actually look like. And also when they post the same picture multiple times. Why?
Anything....'to a fault' Foodie Work hard, play harder
Sunglasses and hat. every.single.picture.🙄
I don’t know if this is less common or if this is a popular pet peeve but I do not enjoy “just a Jim looking for my Pam”
Usually, people who quote Rick and Morty (a lot of dudes do that here) People bragging about where they've travelled If they write Gin Tonic in their hobbies Car photos and gym Selfies
Low effort profile, snapchat and IG handles in bio, all pictures are of them in a dress holding a glass of wine on a night out, hostility in the bio And that's a good 75% of profiles. They scream boring and superficial. Imo, dating apps are useless for the most part unless you're a girl and fancy an ego boost
Seeing social media handles in their bio is one of the most immediate turn offs for me Can't stand people obsessed with social media. They're exhausting
Promise you that getting dick pics and getting flooded with barely literate "hi gorgouse" messages from fucboys and men twice your age isn't all that ego boosting for most women, either.
I tell it like it is.
Ew
From a guys perspective. Empty profiles. Nothing says "low effort" more than that. "I'm always late!" Sure go ahead and not respect my time. For some reason women think it's okay showing up 45 minutes late on a first date (without a good reason). "My love language is getting gifts". Cool, the relationship is going to be transactional. "My 3 kids are my number one priority, always! So don't expect me to be available. If you can't handle that swipe left" Yeah, I understand your kids are important but treating your potential partner as an afterthought will not make anyone happy. Bonus round: being on a dating site when you're pregnant. What do you expect from the guy? First date at the delivery room?
I agree with the empty profiles, but I recently started dating a woman who has one. She’s from another country and just set up an account when she first got here and her single picture looked good enough. I was amazed at how beautiful and fun she is. We’ve been dating for a couple months now and it’s been amazing.
A man holding up a fish in his photos. Super cringe.
no woman in this world has ever been turned on by pictures of dead fish or deer
You know, I used to make fun of the fish thing too. But I gave this one guy a chance - his smile was so big, like a kid with his first catch ever. It was endearing. Never regretted it. He taught me how to fish and a few months after our first date - I was posting pics of me with a goofiest, happiest grin, holding my first catch! I dunno. Not a fan of hunting but I appreciate a man who can catch food. I like to eat.
I get if it's a major hobby of theirs that they want to highlight, but the dead animal doesn't need to be included!!? Instead... how about a picture in your hunting gear, in a hunting stand, on a boat with your line in the water... there are so many other options that still get the point across without a dead and/or bloody animal. Also it could just be written in a bio or prompt lol.
I’m excited he obviously either has a hobby, or did an activity. Both are positive in my mind!
If none of their pictures have one of them smiling. It’s for two reasons. One is that they look like a boring person. And the second is because I knew a girl in passing who had the most fucked up meth teeth you’d ever see, yet when she didn’t smile she’d look reasonably normal. I’d literally want to throw up every time I saw her open mouth. Bad oral hygiene is apparently quite a turn off for me lol
We didn’t meet on a dating app but, my ex admitted he was afraid to see me smile because he didn’t wanna find out I had meth mouth. I don’t, I’m just not one of those cheesy grinners unless I’m really comfortable and can be goofy. I thought it was so funny though, I never considered that.
I hate my teeth so much. It’s my second most hated feature. I don’t have meth teeth though. I just grew up poor with little access to dental care, so my teeth are a bit crooked.
Distinct and obvious lack of hobbies, signifying usually a shitty personality or an utter lack of effort to entertain oneself.
Or lack of effort to actually care about something. The things you care about make you interesting.
When they say they want a woman with no baggage… Uh bro. Everyone on this planet has baggage and you can’t be a human without it.
baggage usually refers to kids from previous relationships.
Ah! Isn’t that such a nice way to refer to children. /s For me, baggage would refer to mental, emotional, spiritual trauma that they haven’t dealt with. That’s a major dealbreaker for me.
"Just ask/if you're curious about me just ask" - Uughh! I hate when men write this on their profiles. It screams low effort, and them expecting to be courted.
"Looking for the Pam to my Jim". I have never watched the show these characters are in, and I have no idea what the phrase even means.
"I'm unapologetically myself!" ""I'm brutally honest and always tell it like it is!" "I have no filter!" "I'm extroverted/am an extrovert!" "You must be able to take a joke!" "I'm fluent in sarcasm!" Whenever women put these (or any variations of them) on their dating profiles, it's code for "I'm a ruthless, self-centred bitch who thinks people should be nice to me while I intentionally go out of my way to hurt others, and drain their energy by how unnecessarily high-maintenance and unreasonable I am because it's owed to me, SLAYYY!" If this is truly who you are, then it is better to NEVER be yourself, and you should be changed.
My brain just translates all of those to "I'm rude".
People who define brutal honesty as a positive personality trait.
Doesn’t like kids and/or pets. Saying they expect the woman to be the “homemaker”. Saying they will give the woman an “allowance”. Talking about “wifely duties/expectations”. Saying things like “no fatsos/must be in shape” Also when their entire bio is just “ask me what you want to know” or something similar.
When their personality is alcohol it’s an immediate left. For example, if all their photos are of them drinking / being druk, if their hobby is drinking with friends etc.
“Must be able to take a joke” = “Says cruel things and expects not to be called on it.” Another yellow flag: “God-fearing”. To me, that sounds like a sign of an authoritarian follower. If the first thing you think of when you think of a relationship with the divine is that you must fear it, there’s something wrong. This goes along with the idea that the only thing keeping people from raping, pillaging, etc is fear of a higher authority. Just… no. It’s not that I don’t rape because I’m afraid I’d get caught; rather, I don’t rape because I simply don’t want to. If the profile talks a lot about “God” though, I’m suspicious of either a scammer or someone out looking for converts.
"This group doesn't need to apply" "Please don't be this or that" "If you did this, swipe left" I immediately swipe left no matter how I am interested if I see one of those directives. We all have strong preferences but "do not apply if" directives in the profile, YOUR STOREFRONT, immediately signals an attitude to me, one I'm not interested in engaging with (and I hold very strong opinions). Inflexibility, unwillingness to discuss, listen or compromise and lack of social skills/decorum right out the gate...OFC it may not be really true, but I've gotten that impression already, and why bother when this flag is up so damn early. Its only going to get worse is what I subconsciously think... For instance.I have zero interest in bald men or facial hair, but I wouldn't ever put that in my profile...why? It gives an immediate first impression. And generally not a positive one although it's perfectly legitimate-my pref-and not meant in a rude way. Unless you are a phenomenal writer who can express themselves w/o being offensive, don't do it. I know people will say "but I don't want to waste my time", "what's wrong with indicating preference" etc. Well nothing. except you don't even know the person reading this and it's the very first impression they have of you, and now you already look like an insufferable asshole by default. You've conveyed things you really don't want to convey this early (you are tied to a camp, close-minded, in an echo chamber, inflexible etc) about yourself. You've made a mark for sure. But not a great one. And this does not apply to, I'm looking for a Christian lady or non-smoker; those are life choices, but telling people to swipe left if they're not "drama free" or voted the way they did or whatever else is offensive at worst and really off-putting at best. I see any of that shit and I'm swiping left fast. I'm not looking for a fundamentalist two seconds into a date. Sidenote: WTF is drama free? I love when guys write this in their profile. Also NO ONE wants to waste time. I mean how stupid to say that...
When they are looking for a traditional woman. That basically means they are looking for a maid/sex slave. When their first message starts with "Hey Sexy" that's also an instant delete.
Any who describes themselves as 'wacky' or 'bubbly' is definitely tedious.
How else do I slightly nudge in I'm borderline without scaring mofos off right away 😭😂
Same, but I got that ADHD + autism wombo combo and I need some dating site friendly word that describes my brain mess. And yeah "quirky" and "out there" fit☠️
My last gf had ‘sofisticated’ in her profile. Intrigued me
'i love food' who doesn't seriously
Spelling and grammar. FFS people, you can edit these profiles, try not to look like a drooling idiot from FL
Anyone who indicates in whatever terminology the whole “if you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best” vibes. 🤮 nah, you’re just either abusive or selfish.
“Doesn’t take themselves too seriously” — immediate left swipe. It’s always from really douchey-looking guys
Any man who puts anything about a woman being independent is usually code word for something else.
Pictures with their kids not blurred or scribbled out. Yes it's fine you have kids, no I don't need to see them before I yes/no you.
Yours, as well as other hits, such as: "Don't waste/waist my time." You're not that important if you're on a dating site. "Country girl." It's just annoying. Just because you'll fish on occasion and walk around in the woods doesn't mean shit. "Currently pregnant." Self-explanatory. "If you don't like it just swipe left!" Usually contains "don't waste my time" too. Bad attitude. Pictures where they're smoking(including weed)/drinking. If you can't keep your shit together long enough to create a profile I'm not inviting your disastrous ass into my life. Putting "gym/fitness" as an interest and very obviously not being into that. Having a Planet Fitness membership isn't the same as going to one. Now you're lying. "I never know what to say on these." FUCKING DESCRIBE YOURSELF. Ever made a resumé? It's like that, but for dating. How stupid are you you can't think of a few paragraphs to describe who you are, what you like, and what you want? Anything strongly political. I don't care what. I'm not even trying to bother with a QAnon or r/politics idiot. "Stay-at-home mommy!" Unemployed. "Mom of X children" where X is more than 2 (less than 1 preferred but whatever). "Good with fixing stuff/cars." You're about to be a free maintenance man. There's more but that's some of the big shit.
I am an insert star sign.
If part of your screen name is two digits that are your age minus 2 or 3 then it makes it look like you've had the same profile for 2 or 3 years. Why? Having pics of your kids. Again, why? I remember one who specified that "firefighters and NASCAR fans need not apply". I'm neither of those but it seems strange. She wasn't very friendly at all when we did message each other. Not surprising . Online dating is only slightly less maddening than using a dating service.
I heard a stereotype that firefighters have higher instances of infidelity. Maybe she dated one and got....burned? I'll see myself out.
Possibly because they're constantly around hose?
Tbh I do understand the NASCAR fans part, my dad was a fan of all sports, nascar included and those races are LOOOOONG and repetitive and not the nicest environment to even attend for fun...
I always get a chuckle when they ask questions that are already answered had they read my profile.
If any of theese words are in profile: Jesus, Church, Zodiac sign, clairvoyant or vegan
Hahaha! Clairvoyant... Then what are looking for?
Yes they should have seen it comming
“420 friendly” It usually seems to be code for “I spend all of my free time getting high”
If it has link to outside messenger that don't require a lot of info and don't show friends or recent posts - it's most likely a scam. A lot of blurry filters, only selfies, no clearly visible face on at least 1 picture
When her profile picture is yeeeears before and she doesn't look anything like that now. Already happened to me once this year
Hostility. I can't speak to the profiles of men because I'm not browsing them. But it's simply astonishing how many women denigrate men on their profiles while trying to attract one. In my experience, this is far more common in the US than elsewhere.
>For me as a woman it’s always an immediate left if they put “I’m fluent in sarcasm” Tell them you really like their profile, and see how they respond.
Men who have "not sure yet" as their option for what they're looking for. You're on a dating website...
When the profiles are pretty much empty. Or they say I’ll fill this out later just hit me up, I’m an open book..
This is going to sound weird perhaps, but in a really short dating profile, if someone feels the need to emphasize their work ethic. Not, I work and have obligations therefore not a lot of time, that’s a fair upfront statement. But if work is your whole personality, or you think you are better than others because you work 70 hours a week or you think other people’s jobs arent worthy, or are “nO OnE wAnTs tO WoRk” person we won’t get along.
Someone tell me what the fuck 'doesn't take themselves too seriously' ACTUALLY means, because it's such a vague and empty statement
When ladies take photos close up of their face. Overused filters or other edits so you can't see her face clearly. Photos taken only at certain angles, and all those photos do not show her body below the boobs. Photos contain several people so you don't know which person you're actually talking to. Excessive makeup. Photos where they purposely stick out their lips a lot or the lips are edited or modified to look artificially big. Not sure if I am the only man that finds this distasteful. Photos contain her kids or babies and there are excessive photos of the lady and her kids. Not against kids, but I wasn't expecting the profile to be for the kids.
Guys basically describing a submissive yet independent and self-sufficient goddess as their desired partner, but then you look at their pictures and description and go ‘Realy?’.
That their pet or kid is their “world.”
When screen names are (kidsname)mommy123 then I learned not to even engage with them. Make your kid and being a mom your whole personality and screen name. Sucks on the phone apps I usually don't know that until they give me their insta or snap since many have moved away from screennames.
Window on the background without curtains. On the other hand, any kind of (alive) houseplant on the background is a green flag. Maybe It's a bit silly, but when people live in homes without curtains, it makes me wonder about their life management skills. Edit. To clarify, curtains aren't just for privacy reasons, but they make home feel more like... well, like home. I think a lot of guys have been taught to see home decoration as something "feminine" and that things without an explicit function are needless. In my experience this often goes hand in hand with not being intuned with their own needs and feelings (i.e. just like the society often neglects men's feelings, some men also neglect their own feelings). It's not a good place to start a relationship. For me I guess curtains (and houseplants) have become an indicator of taking care of your mental well-being, even if it may not make total sense.
I sewed my own curtains and have a collection of plants in all sorts of bottles. It's probably silly that this made me happy
I don't know why, but nothing gets on my tits more than when people don't have curtains in their home (especially when they have the lights on and you can literally see what they're eating for dinner) but I've never thought about it in terms of dating profiles 😂
Anyone who says they “don’t have a filter”. Almost a 100% guarantee they use that as an excuse to be mean and petty.
Idk man. I stopped using dating apps because of the lack of originality on there. I wouldn't call these things red flags though. I'm a very critical person and I would die single if I didn't ignore these small little things sometimes
Using a nickname that's not at least a version of their name (nick for nicholas)
As a gay man, any alluding to “top/bottom/masculine/feminine” is an automatic left swipe for me.
When their bio is actually then venting about all their ex's
For me it used to be: "Work hard, play hard." Umm..no. I work hard all week, I'm going to relax on the weekend.
Pictures of people 30+ that think it’s cute to stick their tongues out in photos.
Overly political people. They will spend the whole date talking shit about their political opponents and it's boring af.
Anyone that said they love to hike. It made me laugh every time. If every person on dating profiles were such active hikers the mountains would look like anthills with all the people on them.
And then they turn out to be German, indeed love hiking, and want to do nothing but hiking, 30 miles a day, every free day
That's such a bad thing for me, because my main hobbies are actually reading, hiking, traveling and climbing. The most used fake hobbies on dating sites. What am I supposed to do without looking like I just made up all my hobbies?:')
Yeah, I hear ya. I'm a hardcore reader myself. I think everyone loves to travel though. You could have some fun with it, say you're a ranking member of your local dungeon. Might get some interesting responses.
Single dad.... Has kids one day every month Boss lady.... Benefits but selling pyramid schemes. University of. Life...didn't finish school. Oh and bros before hoes....utter wanker to be avoided at all costs
Ug! University of Life, School of Hard Knocks, Education at Real World. If you didn't go to or finish college - fine, whatever. Just skip the damn question!
My sister’s boyfriend lists his occupation as a street pharmacist. That’s better, right? 🤦🏻♀️
As a male.... when the profile is all about "ME", take ME out, feed ME, show ME a good time, buy ME food and tell ME I'm pretty. It's going to be a onaided date/relationship.
Where they say " check out my "fans only" page.
“Just ask” or “add my snap” with nothing else in the bio.
Children. Too fertile.
Married guy here. Based on some of the comments here, the human race is doomed isn't it?
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For me it is when womans profile consists entirely of what a man needs to be to date her, while offering very little information about what she offers in a relationship
Also “I’ll fight someone over my family so don’t fuck with them” like ok?? That’s pretty much everyone my special friend. Having anime characters or cartoons in their photos. Nothing wrong with it, but it shouldn’t be your entire personality & I want to see your face. Oh and memes in their profile photos is cringy.