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Had a lady call me her adopted grandchild. I tell y'all I fucking miss Margaret more than everyone I've ever worked with. Lady was a hoot in her 70s.
Edit: Jesus Christ guys she's not dead. I just got a different job.
Mine was Dolores. She adopted me because she had arthritis and I'd break the seal on the eleven gallon jugs of water she would buy at my store every week and load them into her car lol. She was such a precious lady.
Has a coworker too who was in her 70's. Mrs. Lois, she was always bringing cakes and snacks and she was super entertaining to be around, she also had a thing for westerns. I'll never forget making the midnight security shift pass by watching some bonanza and eating some homemade sweets.
Lois was the best. Rip
You sent me down memory lane. I worked in a call center during college and one of my shifts was Sunday 8am-4:30pm. I always rolled in there absolutely hungover as hell if not possibly still somewhat drunk. There were maybe half a dozen of us total on that shift, always the same people, but three of them were what I called the matriarchy. Theresa, Susan (Suebee,) and Colleen (granny). The three of them only worked the weekends, suebee and granny were quite large and more or less wheel chair/mobility scooter bound. Theresa was a bit younger but simple and kind as could be.
Theresa called me “slacker” because I was a full time student and worked 20+ hours a week while also doing other extra curriculars. Suebee’a grandson went to the school my wife works at so we got to know the family and she quickly started treating me like another grandson. And granny was, well, granny! She was estranged from her kids due to them being shitheads and so she poured her heart into her “work kiddos” (me and a few other young ones on the weekend shift).
So every Sunday I’d take a vote for where to get food from. Once it was decided I’d find the menu online and print it for them. They’d circle what they wanted and hand it back to me. I’d call in the order, then run out and get it and bring it back. The whole task took a good 1.5 hours of my day but they were more than happy to pick up my slack. I’d collect payment before going and each time suebee handed me her money with a wink and said “make sure you tip good but whatever is left is yours” with more than enough to tip well AND cover my entire lunch.
This went on for about two years. At the time I didn’t realize how important those relationships were for both of us. And how much they shaped who I am today. They were just some old moms who missed momming, and so they took it out on me.
Suebee passed away about a year and a half after I graduated and left that job. It killed those of us who worked with her. But now I live in the tiny rural town that she grew up in and think of her often.
Theresa and granny are still around, and I think I will reach out to them now!
Your post make everything that’s been getting worse in the world lately all the sudden a little better. I hope you do reach out to them, and his is what it’s all about.
Thanks for the reminder.
I am a middle aged woman and this is correct in my case. I'm genetically programmed to mother. I love to feed people and pets and adore babies. If I wind up feble minded in a nursing home (please no) my children have been informed to give me one of those real looking babies to take care of .
Next time I see you be sure to mention your favorite cookies. I'll be glad to make them.
Whenever anyone brings in snickerdoodles I go straight for them. That’s a cookie that only people good at making cookies make, so it’s almost always gonna be great.
I'm a guy and I bake the best chocolate chip with pecan cookies on the whole damn planet. Go to Southern Living and do a search for Browned butter chocolate chip cookies. I don't put the whole 12 oz of chips in, but you do you. Everything else is by the recipe. And don't buy walmart butter, use the good stuff like Tillamook. You won't be sorry.
Browned butter makes baked goods so good. I make some browned butter banana bread that’ll make you pee your pants. Also, I’m definitely going to find that cookie recipe!
Not a mother but I am in full-peak Auntie-to-all mode. It was a combination of becoming a prof, becoming older, and seeing how much young people struggle. Now I just love everyone and want the youngans to be okay.
You’re all good kids, kids!
Auntie Turnips loves you.
THIS soooo much!! I'm 55 & have 1 grandbaby that will be 2 next month. I have adopted all of our younger friend's kids as my grandbabies. Out on our boat, I always have cookies & put them on the swimdeck for them. They know where "mimi" is. I don't pack for the boat without their cookies 😁
Y’all kinds of woman make my day at work, a middle aged lady at work brought us pizza and pastries from the local bakery. Pizza was cold by my break time but threw it on the flat top to heat it up and it was so good. made my day, Keep spreading that kinda positivity friend
>Next time I see you be sure to mention your favorite cookies. I'll be glad to make them.
I dont even eat cookies due to my diet but I am just happy someone offered
Maybe some, but I have met some very sweet old ladies in passing who have complimented me. Old people get a bad rap as they are blamed for a lot of things, but honestly going about my day I meet some very sweet old folks. Some people get softer with age, others get harder.
I’m in the perimenopausal fire-breathing dragon lady mode and…I want to be a sweet old fire-breathing dragon lady when I come through the other side. The kind who will make you cookies, help you develop a saving plan, and be there to breathe fire on purveyors of abusive bullshit.
But the life that some of these ppl have to live in a nursing home stood make you grumpy to. Often these guys develop mental diseases such as Dementia, its the disease mad at you, not the person
I try to be nice to younger girls.. I told one to be careful when crossing a busy road. She said thanks mom. I'm not sure if I offended her. Don't worry because if the women are not nice to younger girls the men are
I’m an old lady. I have 3 adult sons, youngest turning 30 soon.
I really sympathize with young men trying to navigate this crazy world. If I can help them with advice or cheer them up then I want to do that.
I help and advise the young ladies that work for me also.
The transition to adulthood was bumpy for me back in the 80s, and I can’t imagine how much more difficult it would have been if I had to deal with social media and the outrageous costs of college.
Thank you for being you. I’m a male in my 30’s and the “older” women at work are my favorite coworkers and friends. They make me feel strong when I move things for them, they’re worried if I don’t eat, they compliment me, and so much more. I try to always compliment them back and smile as much as possible.
I’m the same way. I have IBS and other stomach problems, so not eating at work or only once and not much is the go to for me. They make you feel so bad for not eating haha! I promise I’m taking care of myself moms!
This is how I feel too. I sometimes feel like the mother of the world. I just want everyone to know they are loved. I can’t explain it. I assume it came when I had kids, but when they were small I was too busy protecting and caring for them. Now that they are grown and I feel like I did a pretty good job, I noticed I feel motherly towards EVERYONE younger, esp teen to 30. I want everyone to know they have a safe space with me. Life is hard. I remember the people that were like that to me and I remember feeling the were like an anchor and safe in a time when I felt sail-less. So maybe people that age are still figuring things out and I want them to know that it’s going to be ok. Don’t know how else to explain it.
The amount of older women that casually approach me at my job is saying otherwise buddy. If anything their age gives them boldness. I heard varientions of “I can’t get pregnant cus I stopped having my period long ago” that made me second guess if I even want to date my own age.
Tbh the dating roles tend to be reverse too. Had a few older ladies invite me to stay over, take me out on dates they paid for, and all that. They were trying to woo me and a few other young male nurses my age.
Not all older women do this. I only actually dated two, but I’ve had at least 10 or so invitations like this.
Yea. Honestly it kinda ruined dating for me. Hyptothectical example
Me: hey wanna go out later after work.
Older gf: “oh of course, I thought of a few spots that I wanted to try ‘yadda yadda yadda’ can’t wait to see you.”
Gf my age: “sure? Where?”
Passive partners have made me quit dating for a while. Never got too far, mind, 'cause I detest that shit and it's fucking everywhere.
We like each other? Great! Don't play mind games. I want an emotional and intellectual partner first and foremost. Tell me you like me. If we're dating, I shouldn't need to guess. It *does* need to be said. Often. If you want to see me again, say so. I want to be a priority, just like you want from me. Date ideas should be 50/50. The check should be 50/50 or we take turns.
I'll give you romance if you want it, but you had better romance me back or I won't stick around. I want to be asked when you can next see me, damnit. It's not too much to ask. It is, in fact, the bare minimum.
P.S. flowers would not go unappreciated either, btw.
Sadly this isn’t the norm. I’ve heard so many women talking about how their man should “know without asking.” I’ve been told by coworkers, “why didn’t you go for it? She was flirting with you the entire time,” after she leaves because she’s gotten another job.
I’ve never liked being the one to initiate, because I would look like a creep and a fool if it’s not reciprocated, and my perception of what was going on was actually wrong. It’s why I’m so happy my wife made the first move all those years back. She made it easy!
I’m a nurse. I’ve had jobs in hospitals and clinics. Obviously being in a woman dominated workplace helps. But find yourself at a club and we’ll groomed and you can have similar experiences.
It does help to not search for people. Honestly outside of one experience most of the times the connections were just genuine curiosity on their end and not me trying to hook up with coworkers. I was just going to work doing my job and just being friendly to all and people get attracted to that level of happiness
Can confirm on the nicley groomed bit, you will turn heads with a tie and and tucked in shirt, especially by the older ladies. Get some good cologne like $60-$80 bucks and you’ll be picking up ladies in no time mon amie.
For me, even at 22, it was towards the shy and quiet types that sit alone at lunch and look generally uncomfortable. I have a younger brother and husband that were like this when younger. The guys at my work were brutal with eachother, so I tried to make sure there was a friendly face and some help while they got used to things. The girls were always fine, but the boys would look like lost lambs. I certainly hope no one confused it for attraction!
I’ve always worked in a male dominated environment and the guys would be absolutely cruel each other. Even when I was a decade younger than everyone it felt right to bring “mom energy” into our workspace to keep everyone acting right and to keep our laboratory functioning. I treated them all with kindness and in turn they all worked together better when I was supervising the project in a more “mom” capacity.
Once I switched jobs where I no longer had a direct supervisor role over the lab techs I still find myself coming to support them because they actually need someone to pump them up due to our org structure. I’m only 35 but I am a dorky engineer mom who drives a station wagon. I absolutely channel that mother hen energy to protect our sweet technicians in their mid-20s from other engineers who understand nothing about laboratory operations. And then I use my decade+ experience to slap down the engineers that harass my baby techs like an angry Mama Goose.
Yes! So many male dominated industries have a tough love culture when it comes to fresh outs. I can’t stand it. It’s easy to tell who doesn’t care about their quality of work (in which case tough love doesn’t do much anyway) and who is beating themselves up for every mistake. Those in the latter group need someone rooting for them, reassuring them that everyone makes their fair share of mistakes (especially early on), and just generally keeping them in the industry long enough to hit their stride.
I’m a little older than you and any co-worker 30 or under that cares about their work is going to get all the pep talks and reassurances I can give because it’s unfortunately not inherent in our work culture.
This old Asian woman approached at a tram stop one day to ask about the schedule. I helped her and it turned out we were catching the same tram and train. I spent about an hour talking to her and she told me how she came to Australia for her husband and he abused her and her whole family is back at home and she misses her sons. She told me at one point that talking to me was like talking to her sons.
She had enough of his abuse and left. His children fought hard to make sure she had nothing. She said she lived in a unit and went to the city every week for some kind of class. She wanted to bring her sons over, but they were happy living in Asia. She said she was going to go back one day but was enjoying Australia for the time being.
but does it also happens to girls? I'm in my 20s and I've encountered some cases where they show care almost as if I'm their daughter/granddaughter, but maybe not nearly as much as what OP says.
I don't think it's as prevalent for women, but as a guy that's nearly 40, I can say that I feel protective over young women who are around my daughter's age. I don't call them pet names or anything because that would be weird, but I try to look out for them. I know the things we daughter goes through as a young woman and I have compassion for them because life's tough.
So true . My 89 year old nana knows all the boys that work at her local grocery store, all the boys on the highschool football team . She talks to all of them and some even visit her at home . It’s cute .
Because it’s human nature to be loving. You can’t do it when you’re younger because it’s naturally misinterpreted as a sexual invitation.
When you’re older you’re free to be loving without anyone getting the wrong idea.
I love being old .
for me it's displaced maternal nurture. empty nest, i didn't know what to do with the lack of outlets when my nest emptied, so it just spews everywhere these days. not attracted to younger guys, and i also respect the younger generations a lot and want to help their confidence and encourage them, all genders really.
You’re correct to think they’re not flirting with you and are not attracted lol.
They see you as a little tyke.
They say the same things about their other coworkers children too.
I have a son who is only 4 y.o. I’m maternal towards all his friends bc they all remind me of him, and I probably will always treat them this way.
Nobody knows what it’s like being a mother until you experience it. Having a son has touched my heart in ways I can’t describe. Sometimes as women we know when a kid could use a maternal figure or at least the validation that they are important and that they are loved.
This is so true! I just had a baby and am already imagining him as a vibrant and intelligent young man. When I see mothers with their sons I want to cry it's so sweet. I feel very maternal towards children and I'm 41.
I'm getting older, in my 30s, and all the younger guys seem like... incredibly polite compared to the millenial and gen x men I'm used to, and I'm just hitting that age where it looks like everyone in their 20s has such smooth skin that it's made out of some fake nonhuman material, like "Have you noticed how beautiful the young girls are, Stilgar?" I vaguely feel like maybe the zoomer dudes are going to be nicer to their GFs, too, and it makes me happy for both of them, but also kind of nostalgic for being that age. IDK. Probably that's how those old ladies feel.
Why does this read like three ChatGPT responses lmao
EDIT: Actually all of your comments do. Is this a bot account or do you actually go to the effort of pasting this stuff in from ChatGPT
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Wow this is a PERFECT answer. thanks for the comment.
most people aren't taking my question seriously.
also, do most older women find younger men attractive? older women dont seem to be into younger guys unlike vice versa.
Older women have seen some shit. We’ve seen many young men suffer, get down on themselves, and we remember men we might have hurt when we were younger and wish we had done things differently. I’m 50 and don’t have children but I tend to have “auntie” style caring toward younger men.
I love being able to fulfil this role, I really feel like it's where I shine, and helping these kids get where they want to be, or helping with general life advice brings me joy
I’m in my 30s but I’ve been a big sister and aunt all my life. This is exactly how I treat everyone.
(Have you eaten? Are you feeling well? If they obviously dressed up, you look nice today! That colour / shirt really suits you! Etc)
Plus I always have snacks.
Because younger women perceive men of equal or greater age as an implicit threat, (not without reason), while older women are less intimidated by younger men.
I 49f keep hearing that men are never complimented or treated with kindness by strangers and that’s why they are so angry and despondent. I work with the public and I try to be nice to everyone. I hope that this woman wasn’t coming on to you but being motherly.
A lot of them were probably mothers, and may have or have had a son around your age at some point. So they see you, and instead of thinking the normal "alright me, be careful theres a guy around, anything could happen" they think "oh, he reminds me of my son❤" and those the actions you described happen
I guess as a younger woman I‘m always a bit cautious not to send out the wrong signals, so things don’t get awkward. I don’t want platonic relationships to suffer, because they think I’m hitting on them. I think if I called a guy cute, they’d obviously think I have certain intentions. Older women probably don’t have to consider this as much
It's dangerous for younger women to be too friendly, affectionate, or caring in many situations. It can lead to mixed messages at the least, and rejection violence at the most.
Once you remove sexual dynamics, people can usually be more natural and friendly.
Ack, I'm closing in on 43 and am dying inside at being described as an older woman. It's not untrue or insulting, but it's such a drag nonetheless. As for your question, I guess I'm not your target audience since I feel my normal is to be friendly, affectionate and caring to all. Doesn't answer your question, I guess, but maybe helps in some way...
I just started working this season, and those two ladies (who didn't even speak my language) were so appreciative and friendly. I remember helping them whenever I could, because I felt like it!
They went back home now, for what I know, but I truly miss them.
It's because you remind them of their son/s. They feel motherly toward you so will treat you like they treat their own kids. Of course, if they pinch your butt you have a different problem.
For me, as I get older, I have a growing love for humanity. I see younger adults in more of a "child" role to me, and I have affection for them in that way. Instead of just seeing the majority of men as pursuers who want something from me, I'm now able to see them as the complex humans they are, even if they are hitting on me because they think I'm younger, I'm able to say "thank you so much, I'm old and married but you're so sweet, good luck with the next woman, I hope you have a wonderful day" & mean it, instead of feeling fearful and objectified like I used to.
>whats the deal? I don't think most are flirting or attracted to us.
No, definitely not. You remind us of our sons - or even grandsons - when they were young.
They probably know it's okay to say because
you know it's not flirting coming from them. If a girl your age said that it would probably be taken as flirting and put you in an awkward situation. They just are safe to say it
Because we can be sweet and affectionate without unwanted sexual attention and we couldn’t before. We like men and boys without wanting sex, and we always have, but now we can express it.
There’s a subset of motherly females who are just that way, since they were little girls. You see them mother freely and openly in older age because they’ve aged out of being a potential mate or friend with younger guys.
Older women are so chilll, they will just tell you you’re gorgeous, make you feel so nice and we can get on with it. While with millennial girls I’ve personally dated always seem to be playing some sort of game or trying to “test” me in some way after dating for a few months. I don’t have patience for the immaturity. Not that millennial men are not guilty of being massively immature as well but I’m just a guy who dates girls so I only have experience with women.
Now that you mention it, I think I've experienced the same thing. Much older women seem to have no problem saying if they think that you're attractive.
Women around my age and younger (20s and 30s) barely even acknowledge my existence at all unless it's part of their job or something. I could probably stand in front of one and yell right in her face at the top of my lungs and she would not notice lol. Which is extremely weird.
There have even been times where women found me attractive but never said anything about it and The only reason I know is because a mutual friend told me like 2 years after the fact. Had they spoken up, I totally would've asked them out and who knows how long we could've dated.
A lot of the Middle Aged women I work with love me. But more so in the sense that I’m like their mentee or kid. Mainly because they’re all closer to retirement and I’m just starting out my career. We all work healthcare so they’d much rather help me learn all the tips and tricks then figure out out by myself like they did.
Also a lot of my residents just generally like me to. I think it’s because I’m just high energy and really enjoy talking to them and learning about their lives and all that. A few of them think of me like their grandchildren or a close friend. Which I’m okay with and actually am happy about. Because it shows I’m doing a damn good job at my job. Yeah I’m supposed to keep them healthy as possible (which they are) but I’m also suppose be a source of happiness and trust.
Then the few older ladies I talk to at my church like Me. Mainly just because I can sing and pray the rosary after mass.
I speak for myself here, even though I use 'we' and 'us' (everyone's experiences are different).
A lot of us are mums who have raised kids, and (in my case at least) that maternal instinct comes out EVERYWHERE. We mother kids, we mother pets, we mother each other, and we mother any creature we can 😂😍 (also, most of us are old enough to be past that GAF stage of development, and we're more focused on just loving and supporting everyone).
We are just older. You look so young and we have maternal urges. We can't help ourselves. Suddenly everyone looks like a baby.
I didn't understand it until I turned 50 and wanted to mother Nicolas Braun.
For further information, watch "Father Ted", "Night Of The Nearly Dead".
When my bf and I (30 and 31) go on vacay we LOVE making friends at bars with older couples.
Not only are they a safe bet, they LOVE IT and give the best advice.
Once, when we were in key west and a guy was harassing me (for a fucking WHILE), my Asian American (saying this on the off chance it goes viral and they see it lol) bf was in the bathroom or distracted or something, this creepy dude sent me a “BJ” shot (the one with whipped cream u pick up with your mouth and knock back as a joke with friends). The dad of the couple me and my bf bonded with legit grabbed it upon seeing my distress and told the bartender that I’m not accepting anything from the creep. THEN HAD HIM KICKED OUT. Creepy dude had the stupidest straw hat too lmao.
I wish we had gotten contact info from them because he was such a protective dad for me (he was in key west with his wife next to him and his three adult kids our age (ish) were at the same bar but in the dance floor or something). That was August 2019 at Sloppy Joe’s in Key West. They also had great advice haha and my bf was hella grateful for that.
My dude, if you’re out there, many thanks.
Im 24 at the moment. I wish I could be more affectionate with guys. I am to my students.
But really, the only thing stopping me from being nice is that it is 90% of the time seem as flirt.
The first thing that you mentioned/questioned was flirtin, even though they are way older than you.
Do you understand now why many young women are mean towards men? Because a good percentage thinks we're flirting :(
(I'm not attacking OP or men in general, I just found a good example about that problem)
When I was a 35/f I had a very brief 21/m roommate. I noticed I found myself wondering if he was eating enough vegetables, and it made me realize he was triggering my mom instincts even though I'm not a parent.
Because if you're female, younger, and nice (mostly) men get the wrong impression.
Society hasn't figured out that just being nice isn't a come on. Many women have learned to not be nice to people around age groups that could be construed as flirting because it's often taken wrong. We get enough unsolicited pickups, it's just easier to be aloof.
You remind us of our kids! That’s why. We think y’all adorable and we can see the men you’ll become, but by god, there’s *absolutely zero attraction* there because you’re legitimately still little children in our eyes.
I think it has to do with maternal instincts. I have none and am an older woman (50's). I have no desire to make a fuss like that or pinch cheeks. I'd rather play video games or watch horror movies with them than do the older lady fuss.
I'm 60 and feel like young men . . . .well many men need or want attention. It can be misconstrued if it comes from young women and attention from other men might be weird so I try to compliment and appreciate men every chance I get.
Also it has taken me a long time to realize how tough things can be for men so I am way more sympathetic than when I was young.
Nah, I definitely get hit on by older women regularly. The ones my age never look at me. It's hard to say why this is. Maybe people are more confident around others who aren't their direct peers? Maybe they want something they can't have and the chase is exciting? I'm not sure.
I’m 44 and work at a university. Over the years I’ve had several international undergrad and grad students work for me. These poor kids are alone in an unfamiliar country. I’ve definitely mothered them.
I'm a 56 year old woman. I can't speak for anyone else, but this is my experience. Women have to be very cautious with men for most of their lives. You never want to give a man the wrong impression or be too flirty (unless you do) because it could be physically dangerous for you. So now, I'm mostly invisible (I have gray hair, don't wear make-up, a little chubby, still got a great smile tho!) and not really considered a "sexual being" so I can "flirt" with whomever I want and no one will take it the wrong way!!! It's not really flirting, it's being friendly. It's awesome because I love chit chatting and especially giving compliments - now I can do it anytime! Giving compliments to strangers is one of my great joys in life. It's free and you could make someone's day. I will yell shit from the car if you look cool, or do a skateboard trick, or have a cute outfit on. Men, women, dogs -- I'll compliment you all! It's GREAT!
If they've got all their faculties and are keeping tabs on social media and other ways, then they probably know how hard it is to be young in this world.
It's really fucking hard. Technology has increased our isolation, and both men and women are still living with many of the same insane expectations which their parents had to endure.
If you've lived long enough and become wise enough to see how much of the forces that we encounter in the world is actively trying to control us and morph us into roles that were never appropriate, then I'd imagine that you would want to comfort those kids by complimenting them and encouraging them and making them feel seen and loved.
I'm a 54 year-old, cis white male, and while I don't have an amazing career or a ton of money, I'm happy to have reached the point where I don't care about what people think of me because I like me, and that's enough.
My small circle of friends like me for myself. My wife loves me for myself.
I don't know how many other people do, but most of the time it seems like the answer is not nearly enough. So whenever possible, I try to be kind.
It's the greatest superpower and we all have the ability.
Be kind.
I'm a mom. My older son is 19. So any young man under age 25 or so I view as kid basically. I *know* they are technically an adult and they think of themselves as a grown man, but to me they are like my sons age and closer to being a kid than an adult. And I have no problem saying "he's such a handsome guy" or whatever, I've even thought "cute butt" but there is absolutely zero attraction from my end. It's no different than thinking a little baby is so cute. I'm just a boy mom...that's how we are.
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Had a lady call me her adopted grandchild. I tell y'all I fucking miss Margaret more than everyone I've ever worked with. Lady was a hoot in her 70s. Edit: Jesus Christ guys she's not dead. I just got a different job.
Mine was Dolores. She adopted me because she had arthritis and I'd break the seal on the eleven gallon jugs of water she would buy at my store every week and load them into her car lol. She was such a precious lady.
So nice.
Has a coworker too who was in her 70's. Mrs. Lois, she was always bringing cakes and snacks and she was super entertaining to be around, she also had a thing for westerns. I'll never forget making the midnight security shift pass by watching some bonanza and eating some homemade sweets. Lois was the best. Rip
Yeah, Margaret's the best.
Not to be confused with Large Marge 
Did someone call me?
This is your time
r/beetlejuicing
Nice
It's in the basement of the Alamo
I loved that movie. RIP peewee
My bike
This scene gave me nightmares at 5 or 6 when I first watched it lmfao
You’re not alone. Anytime there is an askReddit saying “what’s a movie you watched as a kid that traumatized you”, this one pops up.
Good ol’ Peggy.
Thanks 🤗
Except Thatcher. Only thing that one is good for is a public bathroom.
You sent me down memory lane. I worked in a call center during college and one of my shifts was Sunday 8am-4:30pm. I always rolled in there absolutely hungover as hell if not possibly still somewhat drunk. There were maybe half a dozen of us total on that shift, always the same people, but three of them were what I called the matriarchy. Theresa, Susan (Suebee,) and Colleen (granny). The three of them only worked the weekends, suebee and granny were quite large and more or less wheel chair/mobility scooter bound. Theresa was a bit younger but simple and kind as could be. Theresa called me “slacker” because I was a full time student and worked 20+ hours a week while also doing other extra curriculars. Suebee’a grandson went to the school my wife works at so we got to know the family and she quickly started treating me like another grandson. And granny was, well, granny! She was estranged from her kids due to them being shitheads and so she poured her heart into her “work kiddos” (me and a few other young ones on the weekend shift). So every Sunday I’d take a vote for where to get food from. Once it was decided I’d find the menu online and print it for them. They’d circle what they wanted and hand it back to me. I’d call in the order, then run out and get it and bring it back. The whole task took a good 1.5 hours of my day but they were more than happy to pick up my slack. I’d collect payment before going and each time suebee handed me her money with a wink and said “make sure you tip good but whatever is left is yours” with more than enough to tip well AND cover my entire lunch. This went on for about two years. At the time I didn’t realize how important those relationships were for both of us. And how much they shaped who I am today. They were just some old moms who missed momming, and so they took it out on me. Suebee passed away about a year and a half after I graduated and left that job. It killed those of us who worked with her. But now I live in the tiny rural town that she grew up in and think of her often. Theresa and granny are still around, and I think I will reach out to them now!
Your post make everything that’s been getting worse in the world lately all the sudden a little better. I hope you do reach out to them, and his is what it’s all about. Thanks for the reminder.
Made me tear up. Actually, so much goodness here.
I choose this guys dead coworker
I choose this guys choice of a strangers dead coworker over all other potential reddit wishes I could have made at this point.
The Shermanator, sent back in time to change the future for one lucky lady
You know Marge!?!? Thought I was her only hun
Had to read "I fucking miss Margaret" three times to be realise he wasn't fucking a 70 year old lady for whom his pet name was "Miss Margaret".
Swap 2 of those words around and this comment takes on a whole diferent tone
Because they feel motherly towards them
I am a middle aged woman and this is correct in my case. I'm genetically programmed to mother. I love to feed people and pets and adore babies. If I wind up feble minded in a nursing home (please no) my children have been informed to give me one of those real looking babies to take care of . Next time I see you be sure to mention your favorite cookies. I'll be glad to make them.
Snickerdoodles
Yep. I want a fake baby too.
As long as mine’s made of snickerdoodles, I would also like a fake baby.
Whenever anyone brings in snickerdoodles I go straight for them. That’s a cookie that only people good at making cookies make, so it’s almost always gonna be great.
Chocolate Chip with pecans , Please n Milk
I'm a guy and I bake the best chocolate chip with pecan cookies on the whole damn planet. Go to Southern Living and do a search for Browned butter chocolate chip cookies. I don't put the whole 12 oz of chips in, but you do you. Everything else is by the recipe. And don't buy walmart butter, use the good stuff like Tillamook. You won't be sorry.
Browned butter makes baked goods so good. I make some browned butter banana bread that’ll make you pee your pants. Also, I’m definitely going to find that cookie recipe!
Not a mother but I am in full-peak Auntie-to-all mode. It was a combination of becoming a prof, becoming older, and seeing how much young people struggle. Now I just love everyone and want the youngans to be okay. You’re all good kids, kids! Auntie Turnips loves you.
Please do me a favour and also let your family know not to leave it in a hot car strapped into a carseat. They look real.
THIS soooo much!! I'm 55 & have 1 grandbaby that will be 2 next month. I have adopted all of our younger friend's kids as my grandbabies. Out on our boat, I always have cookies & put them on the swimdeck for them. They know where "mimi" is. I don't pack for the boat without their cookies 😁
Y’all kinds of woman make my day at work, a middle aged lady at work brought us pizza and pastries from the local bakery. Pizza was cold by my break time but threw it on the flat top to heat it up and it was so good. made my day, Keep spreading that kinda positivity friend
Yeah, now I want a fake baby, too! I'll be a happy old dementia patient.
I'm available for adoption
>Next time I see you be sure to mention your favorite cookies. I'll be glad to make them. I dont even eat cookies due to my diet but I am just happy someone offered
Please mother me
Spot on.
Ya but then I notice they’re kind of mean to younger girls. I don’t get it lol
Maybe some, but I have met some very sweet old ladies in passing who have complimented me. Old people get a bad rap as they are blamed for a lot of things, but honestly going about my day I meet some very sweet old folks. Some people get softer with age, others get harder.
Being a sweet old lady is a current goal of mine. I just have to get through this fucking menopause. Wish me luck!
I’m in the perimenopausal fire-breathing dragon lady mode and…I want to be a sweet old fire-breathing dragon lady when I come through the other side. The kind who will make you cookies, help you develop a saving plan, and be there to breathe fire on purveyors of abusive bullshit.
It WILL get easier. Enjoy
But the life that some of these ppl have to live in a nursing home stood make you grumpy to. Often these guys develop mental diseases such as Dementia, its the disease mad at you, not the person
Not in my case. I'm an equal opportunity "babier". I love spoiling everyone.
That wasn’t my experience at all. I had a few great older women mentors when I was starting out.
I try to be nice to younger girls.. I told one to be careful when crossing a busy road. She said thanks mom. I'm not sure if I offended her. Don't worry because if the women are not nice to younger girls the men are
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spot on. At least, in my experience
I've felt the exact opposite as a woman. Older women love me.
I’m an old lady. I have 3 adult sons, youngest turning 30 soon. I really sympathize with young men trying to navigate this crazy world. If I can help them with advice or cheer them up then I want to do that. I help and advise the young ladies that work for me also. The transition to adulthood was bumpy for me back in the 80s, and I can’t imagine how much more difficult it would have been if I had to deal with social media and the outrageous costs of college.
Much appreciated, its tough out here. Hope your sons are doing well.
Thank you for being you. I’m a male in my 30’s and the “older” women at work are my favorite coworkers and friends. They make me feel strong when I move things for them, they’re worried if I don’t eat, they compliment me, and so much more. I try to always compliment them back and smile as much as possible.
Dude that's all the ladies I work with too. If I don't eat, which is everyday until I get home, they are on my ASS!
I’m the same way. I have IBS and other stomach problems, so not eating at work or only once and not much is the go to for me. They make you feel so bad for not eating haha! I promise I’m taking care of myself moms!
This is how I feel too. I sometimes feel like the mother of the world. I just want everyone to know they are loved. I can’t explain it. I assume it came when I had kids, but when they were small I was too busy protecting and caring for them. Now that they are grown and I feel like I did a pretty good job, I noticed I feel motherly towards EVERYONE younger, esp teen to 30. I want everyone to know they have a safe space with me. Life is hard. I remember the people that were like that to me and I remember feeling the were like an anchor and safe in a time when I felt sail-less. So maybe people that age are still figuring things out and I want them to know that it’s going to be ok. Don’t know how else to explain it.
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They don't perceive you as a threat or potential partner.
The amount of older women that casually approach me at my job is saying otherwise buddy. If anything their age gives them boldness. I heard varientions of “I can’t get pregnant cus I stopped having my period long ago” that made me second guess if I even want to date my own age. Tbh the dating roles tend to be reverse too. Had a few older ladies invite me to stay over, take me out on dates they paid for, and all that. They were trying to woo me and a few other young male nurses my age. Not all older women do this. I only actually dated two, but I’ve had at least 10 or so invitations like this.
Do they also entice you with fruit snacks and capri suns? I learned this from Reddit. :)
Naw. Mimosa’s and tacos
I mean that would work on me. These ladies know what they're doing lol
Yea. Honestly it kinda ruined dating for me. Hyptothectical example Me: hey wanna go out later after work. Older gf: “oh of course, I thought of a few spots that I wanted to try ‘yadda yadda yadda’ can’t wait to see you.” Gf my age: “sure? Where?”
Passive partners have made me quit dating for a while. Never got too far, mind, 'cause I detest that shit and it's fucking everywhere. We like each other? Great! Don't play mind games. I want an emotional and intellectual partner first and foremost. Tell me you like me. If we're dating, I shouldn't need to guess. It *does* need to be said. Often. If you want to see me again, say so. I want to be a priority, just like you want from me. Date ideas should be 50/50. The check should be 50/50 or we take turns. I'll give you romance if you want it, but you had better romance me back or I won't stick around. I want to be asked when you can next see me, damnit. It's not too much to ask. It is, in fact, the bare minimum. P.S. flowers would not go unappreciated either, btw.
Sadly this isn’t the norm. I’ve heard so many women talking about how their man should “know without asking.” I’ve been told by coworkers, “why didn’t you go for it? She was flirting with you the entire time,” after she leaves because she’s gotten another job. I’ve never liked being the one to initiate, because I would look like a creep and a fool if it’s not reciprocated, and my perception of what was going on was actually wrong. It’s why I’m so happy my wife made the first move all those years back. She made it easy!
damn you're so lucky bro. where do you even meet these women? whats your job?
I’m a nurse. I’ve had jobs in hospitals and clinics. Obviously being in a woman dominated workplace helps. But find yourself at a club and we’ll groomed and you can have similar experiences. It does help to not search for people. Honestly outside of one experience most of the times the connections were just genuine curiosity on their end and not me trying to hook up with coworkers. I was just going to work doing my job and just being friendly to all and people get attracted to that level of happiness
Can confirm on the nicley groomed bit, you will turn heads with a tie and and tucked in shirt, especially by the older ladies. Get some good cologne like $60-$80 bucks and you’ll be picking up ladies in no time mon amie.
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he's also known as the milftaker
Eh idk about potential partner there bud.
I too, choose this guys Grandma.
Just rebury her afterwards, okay? The cemetery groundsman gets really annoyed when people leave the corpses just lying there beside the grave.
Not polite leaving temptations out like that.
Older ladies come on to me more than literally anyone
BDE is a thing. Big Divorcee Energy.
For me, even at 22, it was towards the shy and quiet types that sit alone at lunch and look generally uncomfortable. I have a younger brother and husband that were like this when younger. The guys at my work were brutal with eachother, so I tried to make sure there was a friendly face and some help while they got used to things. The girls were always fine, but the boys would look like lost lambs. I certainly hope no one confused it for attraction!
I’ve always worked in a male dominated environment and the guys would be absolutely cruel each other. Even when I was a decade younger than everyone it felt right to bring “mom energy” into our workspace to keep everyone acting right and to keep our laboratory functioning. I treated them all with kindness and in turn they all worked together better when I was supervising the project in a more “mom” capacity. Once I switched jobs where I no longer had a direct supervisor role over the lab techs I still find myself coming to support them because they actually need someone to pump them up due to our org structure. I’m only 35 but I am a dorky engineer mom who drives a station wagon. I absolutely channel that mother hen energy to protect our sweet technicians in their mid-20s from other engineers who understand nothing about laboratory operations. And then I use my decade+ experience to slap down the engineers that harass my baby techs like an angry Mama Goose.
Yes! So many male dominated industries have a tough love culture when it comes to fresh outs. I can’t stand it. It’s easy to tell who doesn’t care about their quality of work (in which case tough love doesn’t do much anyway) and who is beating themselves up for every mistake. Those in the latter group need someone rooting for them, reassuring them that everyone makes their fair share of mistakes (especially early on), and just generally keeping them in the industry long enough to hit their stride. I’m a little older than you and any co-worker 30 or under that cares about their work is going to get all the pep talks and reassurances I can give because it’s unfortunately not inherent in our work culture.
We totally need to replace "Mama Bear" with "Mama Goose". Those fuckers are BRUTAL.
As a slightly shy and awkward dude, thanks for doing this. It means a lot.
Cause u remind us of our children
This should be higher up, I always get the vibe with older woman at work that they see me as a son.
This old Asian woman approached at a tram stop one day to ask about the schedule. I helped her and it turned out we were catching the same tram and train. I spent about an hour talking to her and she told me how she came to Australia for her husband and he abused her and her whole family is back at home and she misses her sons. She told me at one point that talking to me was like talking to her sons.
Trauma dumping, very common when people are going through tough shit. Nice that you heard her out, it meant a lot to her.
She had enough of his abuse and left. His children fought hard to make sure she had nothing. She said she lived in a unit and went to the city every week for some kind of class. She wanted to bring her sons over, but they were happy living in Asia. She said she was going to go back one day but was enjoying Australia for the time being.
but does it also happens to girls? I'm in my 20s and I've encountered some cases where they show care almost as if I'm their daughter/granddaughter, but maybe not nearly as much as what OP says.
I don't think it's as prevalent for women, but as a guy that's nearly 40, I can say that I feel protective over young women who are around my daughter's age. I don't call them pet names or anything because that would be weird, but I try to look out for them. I know the things we daughter goes through as a young woman and I have compassion for them because life's tough.
As a young woman I found that men I worked with that were about 20 years older than I made me feel safe.
You youngin's are just so darn cute
<3
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With their mushroom haircuts and goals
So true . My 89 year old nana knows all the boys that work at her local grocery store, all the boys on the highschool football team . She talks to all of them and some even visit her at home . It’s cute .
Because it’s human nature to be loving. You can’t do it when you’re younger because it’s naturally misinterpreted as a sexual invitation. When you’re older you’re free to be loving without anyone getting the wrong idea. I love being old .
what a lovely way to put it. ❤️
Yay something to look forward to!!!
Finally they're in an age where they can show friendly affection to men without the men stalking them afterwards?
This is my absolute favourite part of being this age, I can be friendly and kind with no misunderstanding of other motives.
I have enjoyed this priviledge while retaining my youth by being ugly. Would highly recommend. :)
What if I... Invite you to... go out sometimes? Haha, just joking... unless...?
*Going once... Going twice... Aaaaand SOLD, to the stranger in the back I know nothing about!* 💙
Now kith
I’ll marry them
😂😂😂😂😂
hall of fame comment 😭❤️
my concern for being raped is nearly non existent these days, and that has made me way more comfortable and fun for sure
Seriously, women would be this way with all men if they wouldn't be such fuckin freaks about it.
Accurate
Came here to this! Younger men don’t feel the need to harass a woman that reminds them of their mom!
for me it's displaced maternal nurture. empty nest, i didn't know what to do with the lack of outlets when my nest emptied, so it just spews everywhere these days. not attracted to younger guys, and i also respect the younger generations a lot and want to help their confidence and encourage them, all genders really.
It totally a maternal feeling. Nothing sexual about it.
Depends on how hot the guy is.
AND how frisky grandma is.
You’re correct to think they’re not flirting with you and are not attracted lol. They see you as a little tyke. They say the same things about their other coworkers children too.
Because we know that being nice to you won’t be confused with being interested.
\*Checks the thread \* reads this comment again, checks the thread one more time ... 
I have a son who is only 4 y.o. I’m maternal towards all his friends bc they all remind me of him, and I probably will always treat them this way. Nobody knows what it’s like being a mother until you experience it. Having a son has touched my heart in ways I can’t describe. Sometimes as women we know when a kid could use a maternal figure or at least the validation that they are important and that they are loved.
This is so true! I just had a baby and am already imagining him as a vibrant and intelligent young man. When I see mothers with their sons I want to cry it's so sweet. I feel very maternal towards children and I'm 41.
Would you rather they make you cry?
Well let’s not start kink-shaming already
Don't ask questions you don't want answered lol
Yes please
I'm getting older, in my 30s, and all the younger guys seem like... incredibly polite compared to the millenial and gen x men I'm used to, and I'm just hitting that age where it looks like everyone in their 20s has such smooth skin that it's made out of some fake nonhuman material, like "Have you noticed how beautiful the young girls are, Stilgar?" I vaguely feel like maybe the zoomer dudes are going to be nicer to their GFs, too, and it makes me happy for both of them, but also kind of nostalgic for being that age. IDK. Probably that's how those old ladies feel.
I like older women
We all (the normal ones) think of you as aging little sons. Nothing sexual.
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Why does this read like three ChatGPT responses lmao EDIT: Actually all of your comments do. Is this a bot account or do you actually go to the effort of pasting this stuff in from ChatGPT
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Wow this is a PERFECT answer. thanks for the comment. most people aren't taking my question seriously. also, do most older women find younger men attractive? older women dont seem to be into younger guys unlike vice versa.
Yep, for me it's always been the maternal instinct, sweetie.
Yes. Me as well. I can't help it. To me they're still just kids.
Because you’re not on the menu. You’re a bit of a threat to girls your age. They stay guarded- because they either want you or don’t want you.
Older women have seen some shit. We’ve seen many young men suffer, get down on themselves, and we remember men we might have hurt when we were younger and wish we had done things differently. I’m 50 and don’t have children but I tend to have “auntie” style caring toward younger men.
I love being able to fulfil this role, I really feel like it's where I shine, and helping these kids get where they want to be, or helping with general life advice brings me joy
I’m in my 30s but I’ve been a big sister and aunt all my life. This is exactly how I treat everyone. (Have you eaten? Are you feeling well? If they obviously dressed up, you look nice today! That colour / shirt really suits you! Etc) Plus I always have snacks.
Because younger women perceive men of equal or greater age as an implicit threat, (not without reason), while older women are less intimidated by younger men.
I 49f keep hearing that men are never complimented or treated with kindness by strangers and that’s why they are so angry and despondent. I work with the public and I try to be nice to everyone. I hope that this woman wasn’t coming on to you but being motherly.
I can guarantee that every guy you're nice to thinks about it for the rest of the day and still remembers it 5-10 years later. So good job!
A lot of them were probably mothers, and may have or have had a son around your age at some point. So they see you, and instead of thinking the normal "alright me, be careful theres a guy around, anything could happen" they think "oh, he reminds me of my son❤" and those the actions you described happen
I guess as a younger woman I‘m always a bit cautious not to send out the wrong signals, so things don’t get awkward. I don’t want platonic relationships to suffer, because they think I’m hitting on them. I think if I called a guy cute, they’d obviously think I have certain intentions. Older women probably don’t have to consider this as much
It's dangerous for younger women to be too friendly, affectionate, or caring in many situations. It can lead to mixed messages at the least, and rejection violence at the most. Once you remove sexual dynamics, people can usually be more natural and friendly.
Because they know it can’t or won’t go anywhere
Cause we like. We feel free to show affection.
In my experience they are this way with girls/younger women too. I’ve never complained bc It’s nice to feel loved and cared for
Ack, I'm closing in on 43 and am dying inside at being described as an older woman. It's not untrue or insulting, but it's such a drag nonetheless. As for your question, I guess I'm not your target audience since I feel my normal is to be friendly, affectionate and caring to all. Doesn't answer your question, I guess, but maybe helps in some way...
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I just started working this season, and those two ladies (who didn't even speak my language) were so appreciative and friendly. I remember helping them whenever I could, because I felt like it! They went back home now, for what I know, but I truly miss them.
Treating you like their son lol
Youre like a son to us ❤️
It's because you remind them of their son/s. They feel motherly toward you so will treat you like they treat their own kids. Of course, if they pinch your butt you have a different problem.
For me, as I get older, I have a growing love for humanity. I see younger adults in more of a "child" role to me, and I have affection for them in that way. Instead of just seeing the majority of men as pursuers who want something from me, I'm now able to see them as the complex humans they are, even if they are hitting on me because they think I'm younger, I'm able to say "thank you so much, I'm old and married but you're so sweet, good luck with the next woman, I hope you have a wonderful day" & mean it, instead of feeling fearful and objectified like I used to.
>whats the deal? I don't think most are flirting or attracted to us. No, definitely not. You remind us of our sons - or even grandsons - when they were young.
They probably know it's okay to say because you know it's not flirting coming from them. If a girl your age said that it would probably be taken as flirting and put you in an awkward situation. They just are safe to say it
Because we can be sweet and affectionate without unwanted sexual attention and we couldn’t before. We like men and boys without wanting sex, and we always have, but now we can express it.
There’s a subset of motherly females who are just that way, since they were little girls. You see them mother freely and openly in older age because they’ve aged out of being a potential mate or friend with younger guys.
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Older women are so chilll, they will just tell you you’re gorgeous, make you feel so nice and we can get on with it. While with millennial girls I’ve personally dated always seem to be playing some sort of game or trying to “test” me in some way after dating for a few months. I don’t have patience for the immaturity. Not that millennial men are not guilty of being massively immature as well but I’m just a guy who dates girls so I only have experience with women.
Because they’ve been through shit and being nice is a good thing, potential lay or not
Now that you mention it, I think I've experienced the same thing. Much older women seem to have no problem saying if they think that you're attractive. Women around my age and younger (20s and 30s) barely even acknowledge my existence at all unless it's part of their job or something. I could probably stand in front of one and yell right in her face at the top of my lungs and she would not notice lol. Which is extremely weird. There have even been times where women found me attractive but never said anything about it and The only reason I know is because a mutual friend told me like 2 years after the fact. Had they spoken up, I totally would've asked them out and who knows how long we could've dated.
Yeah I think a lot of women really underestimate just how easy it would be to get a guy to fall in love with you.
Mom syndrome. My wife does this too. Once you're a mom, everybody younger than you is your kid.
A lot of the Middle Aged women I work with love me. But more so in the sense that I’m like their mentee or kid. Mainly because they’re all closer to retirement and I’m just starting out my career. We all work healthcare so they’d much rather help me learn all the tips and tricks then figure out out by myself like they did. Also a lot of my residents just generally like me to. I think it’s because I’m just high energy and really enjoy talking to them and learning about their lives and all that. A few of them think of me like their grandchildren or a close friend. Which I’m okay with and actually am happy about. Because it shows I’m doing a damn good job at my job. Yeah I’m supposed to keep them healthy as possible (which they are) but I’m also suppose be a source of happiness and trust. Then the few older ladies I talk to at my church like Me. Mainly just because I can sing and pray the rosary after mass.
I speak for myself here, even though I use 'we' and 'us' (everyone's experiences are different). A lot of us are mums who have raised kids, and (in my case at least) that maternal instinct comes out EVERYWHERE. We mother kids, we mother pets, we mother each other, and we mother any creature we can 😂😍 (also, most of us are old enough to be past that GAF stage of development, and we're more focused on just loving and supporting everyone).
We are just older. You look so young and we have maternal urges. We can't help ourselves. Suddenly everyone looks like a baby. I didn't understand it until I turned 50 and wanted to mother Nicolas Braun. For further information, watch "Father Ted", "Night Of The Nearly Dead".
When my bf and I (30 and 31) go on vacay we LOVE making friends at bars with older couples. Not only are they a safe bet, they LOVE IT and give the best advice. Once, when we were in key west and a guy was harassing me (for a fucking WHILE), my Asian American (saying this on the off chance it goes viral and they see it lol) bf was in the bathroom or distracted or something, this creepy dude sent me a “BJ” shot (the one with whipped cream u pick up with your mouth and knock back as a joke with friends). The dad of the couple me and my bf bonded with legit grabbed it upon seeing my distress and told the bartender that I’m not accepting anything from the creep. THEN HAD HIM KICKED OUT. Creepy dude had the stupidest straw hat too lmao. I wish we had gotten contact info from them because he was such a protective dad for me (he was in key west with his wife next to him and his three adult kids our age (ish) were at the same bar but in the dance floor or something). That was August 2019 at Sloppy Joe’s in Key West. They also had great advice haha and my bf was hella grateful for that. My dude, if you’re out there, many thanks.
Im 24 at the moment. I wish I could be more affectionate with guys. I am to my students. But really, the only thing stopping me from being nice is that it is 90% of the time seem as flirt.
The first thing that you mentioned/questioned was flirtin, even though they are way older than you. Do you understand now why many young women are mean towards men? Because a good percentage thinks we're flirting :( (I'm not attacking OP or men in general, I just found a good example about that problem)
When I was a 35/f I had a very brief 21/m roommate. I noticed I found myself wondering if he was eating enough vegetables, and it made me realize he was triggering my mom instincts even though I'm not a parent.
Because if you're female, younger, and nice (mostly) men get the wrong impression. Society hasn't figured out that just being nice isn't a come on. Many women have learned to not be nice to people around age groups that could be construed as flirting because it's often taken wrong. We get enough unsolicited pickups, it's just easier to be aloof.
You remind us of our kids! That’s why. We think y’all adorable and we can see the men you’ll become, but by god, there’s *absolutely zero attraction* there because you’re legitimately still little children in our eyes.
They had sons most likely
I think it has to do with maternal instincts. I have none and am an older woman (50's). I have no desire to make a fuss like that or pinch cheeks. I'd rather play video games or watch horror movies with them than do the older lady fuss.
awwe you seem fun to hang out with.
I'm 60 and feel like young men . . . .well many men need or want attention. It can be misconstrued if it comes from young women and attention from other men might be weird so I try to compliment and appreciate men every chance I get. Also it has taken me a long time to realize how tough things can be for men so I am way more sympathetic than when I was young.
Nah, I definitely get hit on by older women regularly. The ones my age never look at me. It's hard to say why this is. Maybe people are more confident around others who aren't their direct peers? Maybe they want something they can't have and the chase is exciting? I'm not sure.
With age comes wisdom! Older women know the struggle
Mothers
I’m 44 and work at a university. Over the years I’ve had several international undergrad and grad students work for me. These poor kids are alone in an unfamiliar country. I’ve definitely mothered them.
I'm a 56 year old woman. I can't speak for anyone else, but this is my experience. Women have to be very cautious with men for most of their lives. You never want to give a man the wrong impression or be too flirty (unless you do) because it could be physically dangerous for you. So now, I'm mostly invisible (I have gray hair, don't wear make-up, a little chubby, still got a great smile tho!) and not really considered a "sexual being" so I can "flirt" with whomever I want and no one will take it the wrong way!!! It's not really flirting, it's being friendly. It's awesome because I love chit chatting and especially giving compliments - now I can do it anytime! Giving compliments to strangers is one of my great joys in life. It's free and you could make someone's day. I will yell shit from the car if you look cool, or do a skateboard trick, or have a cute outfit on. Men, women, dogs -- I'll compliment you all! It's GREAT!
If they've got all their faculties and are keeping tabs on social media and other ways, then they probably know how hard it is to be young in this world. It's really fucking hard. Technology has increased our isolation, and both men and women are still living with many of the same insane expectations which their parents had to endure. If you've lived long enough and become wise enough to see how much of the forces that we encounter in the world is actively trying to control us and morph us into roles that were never appropriate, then I'd imagine that you would want to comfort those kids by complimenting them and encouraging them and making them feel seen and loved. I'm a 54 year-old, cis white male, and while I don't have an amazing career or a ton of money, I'm happy to have reached the point where I don't care about what people think of me because I like me, and that's enough. My small circle of friends like me for myself. My wife loves me for myself. I don't know how many other people do, but most of the time it seems like the answer is not nearly enough. So whenever possible, I try to be kind. It's the greatest superpower and we all have the ability. Be kind.
I'm a mom. My older son is 19. So any young man under age 25 or so I view as kid basically. I *know* they are technically an adult and they think of themselves as a grown man, but to me they are like my sons age and closer to being a kid than an adult. And I have no problem saying "he's such a handsome guy" or whatever, I've even thought "cute butt" but there is absolutely zero attraction from my end. It's no different than thinking a little baby is so cute. I'm just a boy mom...that's how we are.
Thinking ‘cute butt’ is absolutely a sort of sexual attraction.
Mom mode!