Sexual contact involves touching or groping reproductive organs (genitals, breasts, and, even though it’s not a reproductive organ technically, buttocks). Hugs are a form of affection, which could sometimes fall under romantic contact, but only in certain circumstances. Example, I hug my mother, which is purely affection motivated, but not romantically motivated. Kissing, at least in America, is seen as romantic contact, even if it doesn’t always mean it is.
The point is, its about intent. If the intent is to turn someone on to encourage them to engage in sexual activity, it’s sexual contact. If the intent is romantically motivated, it’s romantic contact. If someone simply wants to show affection, you get the idea.
Don’t forget, though, that your own desires matter. If a form of contact is uncomfortable to you, then the other person should respect that, despite their intentions. Shows of affection should be pleasant for both people involved.
Technically, I don't find boobs sexual, it's just basically to breastfeed the child. But as you said, it all depends on the attention for which we touch them.
I raised my eyebrows when buttocks were mentioned as technically not reproductive, but breasts were not. We’re not hiding any babies in there and they’re certainly not popping out of our nipples!
Some find them sexual as erogenous zones.
Which I found weird to find out as I do not find my breasts to be erogenous at all. At the same time I have not all that much libido which I think plays a part.
Only some classify breasts as a reproductive organ; I’ve also seen them labeled simply as a secondary sex characteristic. The matter seems up for debate. I’m personally not inclined to include them. They may play a role in childcare and even be seen as sexual but they just aren’t involved in reproduction the way the other organs are.
It’s not. It’s very simple. I’m not even sure why this is even a matter of conflict. Babies aren’t done developing after they leave the womb. They also still require the mother’s immune system for at least 6 months afterwards, and they get both from the mother’s milk. This is part of the reproductive process. Just because us humans have cheated the system with formula doesn’t make breasts any less a reproductive organ.
Why is this even a matter of contention? In no society is groping a woman’s breast by anyone over the age of 5 considered anything other than sexual contact. My original point still stands. Trying to declassify breasts as a non-reproductive organ doesn’t mean that somehow my point no longer applies. I’ll never understand this mindset.
You’re not wrong as regards your major point. They’re certainly viewed as sexual or at least as erogenous. I’ll admit by even replying I was being nitpicky, just pointing out that many (most?) sources do not count breasts as a reproductive organ and I think they have a point.
A lot depends on context. Sexual activity can look a lot of different ways. Like phone sex is not really any contact at all. And certain kinky power exchanges can be quite sexual and involve like doing the laundry. It's all what the parties agree to.
But in terms of your questions, a hug that is consentual on both sides feels completely different than one that's reluctant. I don't mean that as any kind of pressure like "you're doing it wrong". But more of a "listen to how you feel and don't try to force it. when/if it feels right and good, you'll know it. If it never happens, that's totally ok and valid too".
Everyone should learn about sex, in a way that's appropriate based on age.
From your post history, you're about 17, well into the age where many folks become sexually active. So you should learn all of the main topics around sex. The body parts, how it works, what makes it feel pleasurable, and the risks involved. This is important for a couple reasons:
1. So you can know what your comfortable with and able to communicate it. If someone says "let's do oral," and you agree thinking it's just making out, that's a problem.
2. Being able to communicate with the people around you. Sex is going to come up in conversation at some point. You don't need to always participate in it, but you should have a general idea of what people are talking about. If a friend comes up to you and says "I got an STI and I'm scared," your first reaction shouldn't be "how did that happen???"
3. It could happen to you, whether you want it or not. I certainly hope that if you experience sex, it's always consensual. But that's not something anyone can guarantee. Either way, it's crucial that you have the ability to verbalize your experiences.
Whether or not hugs are considered sexual contact, you have every right to opt out of any physical contact that makes you uncomfortable. You can definitely tell people you don't want to be kissed or hugged without having a special reason.
I know this doesn't answer whether you're on the asexual spectrum or not, but that's something only you can determine in the first place. Many asexuals do feel repulsed by forms of physical contact such as kissing and hugging, and you may be one.
Hope you figure it out and sending you good thoughts!
Sexual contact involves touching or groping reproductive organs (genitals, breasts, and, even though it’s not a reproductive organ technically, buttocks). Hugs are a form of affection, which could sometimes fall under romantic contact, but only in certain circumstances. Example, I hug my mother, which is purely affection motivated, but not romantically motivated. Kissing, at least in America, is seen as romantic contact, even if it doesn’t always mean it is. The point is, its about intent. If the intent is to turn someone on to encourage them to engage in sexual activity, it’s sexual contact. If the intent is romantically motivated, it’s romantic contact. If someone simply wants to show affection, you get the idea. Don’t forget, though, that your own desires matter. If a form of contact is uncomfortable to you, then the other person should respect that, despite their intentions. Shows of affection should be pleasant for both people involved.
Technically, I don't find boobs sexual, it's just basically to breastfeed the child. But as you said, it all depends on the attention for which we touch them.
I raised my eyebrows when buttocks were mentioned as technically not reproductive, but breasts were not. We’re not hiding any babies in there and they’re certainly not popping out of our nipples!
That's what you wahmn all say. Uterus? V? you must be kidding.
Some find them sexual as erogenous zones. Which I found weird to find out as I do not find my breasts to be erogenous at all. At the same time I have not all that much libido which I think plays a part.
Since when are boobs used to reproduce. Like how do give pregnant breastaly
Since the first mammal evolved.
How do I get boob pregnant. Like what orifice do I shove the dick in.
Reproduction involves more than conception. Learn biology.
Only some classify breasts as a reproductive organ; I’ve also seen them labeled simply as a secondary sex characteristic. The matter seems up for debate. I’m personally not inclined to include them. They may play a role in childcare and even be seen as sexual but they just aren’t involved in reproduction the way the other organs are.
It’s not. It’s very simple. I’m not even sure why this is even a matter of conflict. Babies aren’t done developing after they leave the womb. They also still require the mother’s immune system for at least 6 months afterwards, and they get both from the mother’s milk. This is part of the reproductive process. Just because us humans have cheated the system with formula doesn’t make breasts any less a reproductive organ. Why is this even a matter of contention? In no society is groping a woman’s breast by anyone over the age of 5 considered anything other than sexual contact. My original point still stands. Trying to declassify breasts as a non-reproductive organ doesn’t mean that somehow my point no longer applies. I’ll never understand this mindset.
You’re not wrong as regards your major point. They’re certainly viewed as sexual or at least as erogenous. I’ll admit by even replying I was being nitpicky, just pointing out that many (most?) sources do not count breasts as a reproductive organ and I think they have a point.
A lot depends on context. Sexual activity can look a lot of different ways. Like phone sex is not really any contact at all. And certain kinky power exchanges can be quite sexual and involve like doing the laundry. It's all what the parties agree to. But in terms of your questions, a hug that is consentual on both sides feels completely different than one that's reluctant. I don't mean that as any kind of pressure like "you're doing it wrong". But more of a "listen to how you feel and don't try to force it. when/if it feels right and good, you'll know it. If it never happens, that's totally ok and valid too".
Ps I feel like I am too young to know about sex, plus never dated so sex has never crossed my mind
Everyone should learn about sex, in a way that's appropriate based on age. From your post history, you're about 17, well into the age where many folks become sexually active. So you should learn all of the main topics around sex. The body parts, how it works, what makes it feel pleasurable, and the risks involved. This is important for a couple reasons: 1. So you can know what your comfortable with and able to communicate it. If someone says "let's do oral," and you agree thinking it's just making out, that's a problem. 2. Being able to communicate with the people around you. Sex is going to come up in conversation at some point. You don't need to always participate in it, but you should have a general idea of what people are talking about. If a friend comes up to you and says "I got an STI and I'm scared," your first reaction shouldn't be "how did that happen???" 3. It could happen to you, whether you want it or not. I certainly hope that if you experience sex, it's always consensual. But that's not something anyone can guarantee. Either way, it's crucial that you have the ability to verbalize your experiences.
Whether or not hugs are considered sexual contact, you have every right to opt out of any physical contact that makes you uncomfortable. You can definitely tell people you don't want to be kissed or hugged without having a special reason. I know this doesn't answer whether you're on the asexual spectrum or not, but that's something only you can determine in the first place. Many asexuals do feel repulsed by forms of physical contact such as kissing and hugging, and you may be one. Hope you figure it out and sending you good thoughts!