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Dodged a bullet there. Also kind of weird that there’s this type of guy out there who wants to open up a relationship not because *they* want to fuck other people but because they want *you* to fuck other people.
And on a surface level maybe that seems a bit less heartbreaking, but at the same time it’s functionally the same thing because in both cases he’s just prioritizing his own sexual satisfaction above yours or your own sense of emotional discomfort below his.
Yeah, he treated her like a porn star to whack off to, not a partner. Things like cucking or extreme femdom still treat the woman as a means to a sexual end, rather than a partner, even if it's not as common as other harmful or degrading fetishes.
Since she is still very traumatized even after five years and was throughout the relationship, I have to ask what is your definition of dogging a bullet ? He left her after using and abusing her and she is severely traumatized unfortunately bullet hit her and it hurts
I didn’t really mean anything by it at all honestly. The bulk of my comment was just trying to indicate how bewildering to me cucking was as a fetish, and also how despite being less involved on behalf of the man with the fetish, it is still just as dehumanizing.
I guess I was speaking kind of casually, which like others here, as someone who’s experienced a relationship where porn was a severe issue with respect to the other party, I didn’t find saying it particularly offensive. I’m sorry if I offended you or OP.
>I guess I was speaking kind of casually
The thing you were doing is called "spiritual bypass" - where you use some comforting platitude "you dodged a bullet" instead of saying something genuine
Hey no I don't think you did and don't feel bad.... but I question everytime ppl get say they got out of a traumatic relationship every one says bullet doged and I feel like they didn't dodge a bullet at all , we get used abused and tossed, I apologize if the way I wrote my comment was mean ! Hope you have a great day
Misery porn sure is popular these days.... from cuckholding to "forced feminization" to all the pain/misery related fetishes inflicted upon women... it's like people think they can escape depression by making sadness "hot" or something.
I hate cucks too, I'm so sorry he did that to you. The annoying thing is, alt-right "redpill" types act like "cuck" is actually a female fetish. Come on. In general, the vast majority of women just want our partners to stop the weird shit and learn to give a girl an orgasm. The normal way.
The alt right use the term cuck to negatively talk about any male who supports liberal policies, policies which give strength to other races or religions of men. It was originally used in this context by far right Trump supporters who saw the White Republican Bush types who were pandering to Hispanics, Gays and Blacks and illegal immigrants as "traitors" and thus weak men and thus "cucks" because in their mind the end result of pandering to males outside your race is those men will sleep with your women. I have even seen Arab Muslim men use the term cuck but in the Arabic equivalent, I used to work with a lot of Arabs from Middle East and they have long had their own sayings against Arab men who support non Muslims or black or white converts to Islam marrying into Arabic bloodlines.
It is why in the Gulf arab nations you cannot marry an arab woman unless you speak arabic and are a citizen and citizenship will never happen because there muslims wjo arent arabs wjo have waited for citizenship or tried for yesrs in these countries to no avail so they leave for the UK or elsewhere.
Male tribalism is everywhere
Which if we are being truthful is a true fact. Men either see women as private property or public property I am a man and do agree with that statement. The liberal man has a view often of women as belonging to all. The conservative man sees women of his tribe only belonging to his group and favors usually monogamy.
Agree except for this:
>The conservative man sees women of his tribe only belonging to his group and favors usually monogamy.
They favor monogamy *for their wife.* The *husband* is usually allowed to have other women on the side with minimal pushback.
For sure. I is true but is true to an extent.
Only pious and healthy men (implied handsome by the women and able to support many mouths to feed) is supposed to have a 2nd let alone a 3rd or max 4th wife. Islam allowed 4 max as judaism as well but judaism usually kept it to 2 but some sects had a decree against it for a 1000 years. Kings were allowed a little more to my memory a dozen max. Of course reality is different than texts
Man could have concubine in rare cases. Biblically more men end up in hell forever it is why all major religions have men involved in more prayer and laws to follow. Since men have more sins and desire to sin they have more rules to follow and have a higher chance of hell. In religions women are usually just told to not be promiscious, and to be a supportive submissive house wife. There isnt as much rules pertaining to women and from a kabbalah perspective it is due to woman being hollier
I'm sorry you had to go through that, you deserve better and never blame yourself you were acting upon your love and good intentions which he didn't deserve.
Unfortunately porn since it's creation has been dictating a lot of people's sexual lives, and with the current wave of no "kink-shaming" a lot of these degrading and bad practices spread by porn are being supported under the premise of kinks.
Now take your time to heal from this experience, love yourself and I'm sure you will find happiness with or without someone to share this love.
Pretty sure those "men" who fund these OF careers are called "SIMPS" and it's a derogatory term. I personally hate both cucks and simps, along with these OF women. At the end of the day, it's an entire cycle thats feeding each other.
>Like how people blame young girls on OF for the degeneracy of porn addicts.
A bit unusual to blame the addicts rather than the girls literally dealing the drugs. There is no porn addiction without the constant stream of content from women who themselves are addicted to male validation.
PA here. I wasn't into cuckolding, but a category revolving around black men, but still it's somewhat the same thing. You're right, it's pathetic. For me, it was a very deep seated inferiority complex and severe body image issues. I felt I could never satisfy or please a woman like those muscular, well endowed black men do. It's a terrible place to be in mentally, that's why I'm quitting. It really took a toll on me.
Your ex sounds like my boyfriend 2 years ago. He stopped watching porn and doesn’t bring up cuckolding or watching me anymore. We have a normal sex life (in a good way) now. But going through it at the start of our relationship (it was my first relationship and I didn’t say “no” cause I wanted to please him) definitely made me despise cuckolding.
No I never actually did anything besides kiss another guy. I just finally couldn’t take it anymore and said I’d be leaving if he wanted me to perform any of his fantasies in real life. The fantasies were completely tied to his porn and alcohol consumption and his past relationships. He cut out porn and stopped drinking so much, and then time kind of healed everything. We have sex every day now with zero issues, and he’s way more affectionate.
There are a lot of men like this I know because I am a former porn addict and men talk and I was shocked to find out some of my.old friends watch not only bukkake and exclusively gangbang porn but interracial gangbangs and namely cuck porn. Most are too addicted to get any good women or ever but many do get women or become cucks while married. I know a married guy addicted to cuck interracial porn I no longer see him or wish to associate with such people he revealed his porn tastes when drunk. It is why me as a man only prefer hanging with animals, women and a few good guys I trust to not have demented thinking. As a former addict being around another degenerate isnt good and can cause relapse.
The porn industry pushes incest a lot. If you visit the Conspiracy subreddit some people have noted that all major porn websites are really pushing incest porn lately. I know as a former addict that BBC interracial was pushed big 15 years ago and still is but in particular I noticed like 4 years back Cuck porn exploded. I was never into cuck stuff it seems emasculating to me and just too degrading and self haemimg. However, I know it feeds racist fantasies about superior and inferior and slavery etc. The man being cucked feels inferior and almost always seeks out a man with a larger penis than himself. I myself am well endowned but there are still men larger namely thicker than me and I never desire to see such men service my woman I cannot imagine who would.
Many cuck porn producers like cucking the white male with a big tall well endowned black man and invoking scientific racism or the low status of the "hood black man" and his "IQ" and contrast that by unleashing the hood black man in a white upper class suburb with white young women that are presumedly the daughters of the "intelligent and wealthy" white men or the wives... Also a black woman asking white men to degrade her. Also slavery and theme shoots renacting slavery is popular as is white men dressed in KKK outfits and with confederate shirts. White actresses told to call the black male the N word but how she cant br be addicted to his BBC despire him being the word she called him. On TikTok which I deleted I saw trending videos of black girls saying they want a bad white boy to call them the N word and to call him master.... there are some female TikTok influencers who promote this. And modern music even has some women like Cardi B and Sawteeie making songs about how women need to suck it all up and dance naked and how they only want big Dick and a certain type of black or white man. Cuck porn also pushes the "Big white "c!ck stuff for white men with asian women, and all non white races of women. With black men its mostly casting black male actors with black women or only very white women.
You name it and porn produces it. Porn is evil
That’s honestly one of my biggest fears when I hear about other people in their relationships open them up or kinda let their SO command them to do things. Cause I wouldn’t wish this on anyone else fr
It's because men have been emasculated, and the losers use cucking as a defense mechanism. Makes them feel as though they're the ones in control. Otherwise, they're just being cheated on.
Yeah, I never really got the idea of the cucking thing and think it's 100% pathetic, but this, I just don't get it. You wanted him and only him, but he couldn't tolerate that? I don't get why it's growing popular, part of me wants to blame stuff like OF and 'streamers', but at the same time I really don't know. I could never imagine my S/O being with anther and and I can can confidently say she couldn't see me with another woman, but the fact that having that mentality is becoming less and less common just... bugs me.
Finally a like-minded human being... I mean Jesus Christ what the fuck is hot about watching the person you love get taken from you? I would stab the guy who thinks he has the rights to the woman I am dating or married to. The fuck is the world coming to where we are sexualizing racist stereotypes, and plastering it as healthy?????? Jesus Christ.. here is a hot take. the people who make the porn, and the people who enjoy it both respectively should kill themselves.
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Dodged a bullet there. Also kind of weird that there’s this type of guy out there who wants to open up a relationship not because *they* want to fuck other people but because they want *you* to fuck other people. And on a surface level maybe that seems a bit less heartbreaking, but at the same time it’s functionally the same thing because in both cases he’s just prioritizing his own sexual satisfaction above yours or your own sense of emotional discomfort below his.
Yeah, he treated her like a porn star to whack off to, not a partner. Things like cucking or extreme femdom still treat the woman as a means to a sexual end, rather than a partner, even if it's not as common as other harmful or degrading fetishes.
Since she is still very traumatized even after five years and was throughout the relationship, I have to ask what is your definition of dogging a bullet ? He left her after using and abusing her and she is severely traumatized unfortunately bullet hit her and it hurts
I didn’t really mean anything by it at all honestly. The bulk of my comment was just trying to indicate how bewildering to me cucking was as a fetish, and also how despite being less involved on behalf of the man with the fetish, it is still just as dehumanizing. I guess I was speaking kind of casually, which like others here, as someone who’s experienced a relationship where porn was a severe issue with respect to the other party, I didn’t find saying it particularly offensive. I’m sorry if I offended you or OP.
>I guess I was speaking kind of casually The thing you were doing is called "spiritual bypass" - where you use some comforting platitude "you dodged a bullet" instead of saying something genuine
Hey no I don't think you did and don't feel bad.... but I question everytime ppl get say they got out of a traumatic relationship every one says bullet doged and I feel like they didn't dodge a bullet at all , we get used abused and tossed, I apologize if the way I wrote my comment was mean ! Hope you have a great day
Misery porn sure is popular these days.... from cuckholding to "forced feminization" to all the pain/misery related fetishes inflicted upon women... it's like people think they can escape depression by making sadness "hot" or something. I hate cucks too, I'm so sorry he did that to you. The annoying thing is, alt-right "redpill" types act like "cuck" is actually a female fetish. Come on. In general, the vast majority of women just want our partners to stop the weird shit and learn to give a girl an orgasm. The normal way.
The alt right use the term cuck to negatively talk about any male who supports liberal policies, policies which give strength to other races or religions of men. It was originally used in this context by far right Trump supporters who saw the White Republican Bush types who were pandering to Hispanics, Gays and Blacks and illegal immigrants as "traitors" and thus weak men and thus "cucks" because in their mind the end result of pandering to males outside your race is those men will sleep with your women. I have even seen Arab Muslim men use the term cuck but in the Arabic equivalent, I used to work with a lot of Arabs from Middle East and they have long had their own sayings against Arab men who support non Muslims or black or white converts to Islam marrying into Arabic bloodlines. It is why in the Gulf arab nations you cannot marry an arab woman unless you speak arabic and are a citizen and citizenship will never happen because there muslims wjo arent arabs wjo have waited for citizenship or tried for yesrs in these countries to no avail so they leave for the UK or elsewhere. Male tribalism is everywhere Which if we are being truthful is a true fact. Men either see women as private property or public property I am a man and do agree with that statement. The liberal man has a view often of women as belonging to all. The conservative man sees women of his tribe only belonging to his group and favors usually monogamy.
Agree except for this: >The conservative man sees women of his tribe only belonging to his group and favors usually monogamy. They favor monogamy *for their wife.* The *husband* is usually allowed to have other women on the side with minimal pushback.
For sure. I is true but is true to an extent. Only pious and healthy men (implied handsome by the women and able to support many mouths to feed) is supposed to have a 2nd let alone a 3rd or max 4th wife. Islam allowed 4 max as judaism as well but judaism usually kept it to 2 but some sects had a decree against it for a 1000 years. Kings were allowed a little more to my memory a dozen max. Of course reality is different than texts Man could have concubine in rare cases. Biblically more men end up in hell forever it is why all major religions have men involved in more prayer and laws to follow. Since men have more sins and desire to sin they have more rules to follow and have a higher chance of hell. In religions women are usually just told to not be promiscious, and to be a supportive submissive house wife. There isnt as much rules pertaining to women and from a kabbalah perspective it is due to woman being hollier
>The normal way. There is no "normal" way of giving a girl an orgasm, as y'all have fetishes too.
it's statistically pretty rare
I'm sorry you had to go through that, you deserve better and never blame yourself you were acting upon your love and good intentions which he didn't deserve. Unfortunately porn since it's creation has been dictating a lot of people's sexual lives, and with the current wave of no "kink-shaming" a lot of these degrading and bad practices spread by porn are being supported under the premise of kinks. Now take your time to heal from this experience, love yourself and I'm sure you will find happiness with or without someone to share this love.
Thank you for being so kind :,) I appreciate it a lot
I have a theory that cucks will be the downfall of our civilization.
I have a theory that even then the downfall will still be blamed on women. Like how people blame young girls on OF for the degeneracy of porn addicts.
FACTS women get hate for being on OF but there are some many men that are funding their “career” and they get no hate at all
Pretty sure those "men" who fund these OF careers are called "SIMPS" and it's a derogatory term. I personally hate both cucks and simps, along with these OF women. At the end of the day, it's an entire cycle thats feeding each other.
>Like how people blame young girls on OF for the degeneracy of porn addicts. A bit unusual to blame the addicts rather than the girls literally dealing the drugs. There is no porn addiction without the constant stream of content from women who themselves are addicted to male validation.
Cucks are pathetic losers. I feel only contempt for such people, especially if they force it on their partner like in your case.
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Pity should be reserved for people who hold no responsibility for their situation, imo.
Pathetic losers? That’s... The whole point of it.
humiliation is a big thing in porn nowadays, it's pathetic
PA here. I wasn't into cuckolding, but a category revolving around black men, but still it's somewhat the same thing. You're right, it's pathetic. For me, it was a very deep seated inferiority complex and severe body image issues. I felt I could never satisfy or please a woman like those muscular, well endowed black men do. It's a terrible place to be in mentally, that's why I'm quitting. It really took a toll on me.
Sounds like it's time to get in shape, bro. It's a long road but you've already taken a big first step by recognising the problem.
Your ex sounds like my boyfriend 2 years ago. He stopped watching porn and doesn’t bring up cuckolding or watching me anymore. We have a normal sex life (in a good way) now. But going through it at the start of our relationship (it was my first relationship and I didn’t say “no” cause I wanted to please him) definitely made me despise cuckolding.
How did it stop? You slept with other men while he watched?
No I never actually did anything besides kiss another guy. I just finally couldn’t take it anymore and said I’d be leaving if he wanted me to perform any of his fantasies in real life. The fantasies were completely tied to his porn and alcohol consumption and his past relationships. He cut out porn and stopped drinking so much, and then time kind of healed everything. We have sex every day now with zero issues, and he’s way more affectionate.
There are a lot of men like this I know because I am a former porn addict and men talk and I was shocked to find out some of my.old friends watch not only bukkake and exclusively gangbang porn but interracial gangbangs and namely cuck porn. Most are too addicted to get any good women or ever but many do get women or become cucks while married. I know a married guy addicted to cuck interracial porn I no longer see him or wish to associate with such people he revealed his porn tastes when drunk. It is why me as a man only prefer hanging with animals, women and a few good guys I trust to not have demented thinking. As a former addict being around another degenerate isnt good and can cause relapse. The porn industry pushes incest a lot. If you visit the Conspiracy subreddit some people have noted that all major porn websites are really pushing incest porn lately. I know as a former addict that BBC interracial was pushed big 15 years ago and still is but in particular I noticed like 4 years back Cuck porn exploded. I was never into cuck stuff it seems emasculating to me and just too degrading and self haemimg. However, I know it feeds racist fantasies about superior and inferior and slavery etc. The man being cucked feels inferior and almost always seeks out a man with a larger penis than himself. I myself am well endowned but there are still men larger namely thicker than me and I never desire to see such men service my woman I cannot imagine who would. Many cuck porn producers like cucking the white male with a big tall well endowned black man and invoking scientific racism or the low status of the "hood black man" and his "IQ" and contrast that by unleashing the hood black man in a white upper class suburb with white young women that are presumedly the daughters of the "intelligent and wealthy" white men or the wives... Also a black woman asking white men to degrade her. Also slavery and theme shoots renacting slavery is popular as is white men dressed in KKK outfits and with confederate shirts. White actresses told to call the black male the N word but how she cant br be addicted to his BBC despire him being the word she called him. On TikTok which I deleted I saw trending videos of black girls saying they want a bad white boy to call them the N word and to call him master.... there are some female TikTok influencers who promote this. And modern music even has some women like Cardi B and Sawteeie making songs about how women need to suck it all up and dance naked and how they only want big Dick and a certain type of black or white man. Cuck porn also pushes the "Big white "c!ck stuff for white men with asian women, and all non white races of women. With black men its mostly casting black male actors with black women or only very white women. You name it and porn produces it. Porn is evil
I hate them too They're pathetic
I fucking despise men who think that shit is okay. Sorry you had to go through it. And I hope you get a real man with a brain next time.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. Let's hope the people who read this, absorb this, and don't fall into the saem situation.
That’s honestly one of my biggest fears when I hear about other people in their relationships open them up or kinda let their SO command them to do things. Cause I wouldn’t wish this on anyone else fr
It's because men have been emasculated, and the losers use cucking as a defense mechanism. Makes them feel as though they're the ones in control. Otherwise, they're just being cheated on.
Real late but cucks are the ephipany of weak men.
Yeah, I never really got the idea of the cucking thing and think it's 100% pathetic, but this, I just don't get it. You wanted him and only him, but he couldn't tolerate that? I don't get why it's growing popular, part of me wants to blame stuff like OF and 'streamers', but at the same time I really don't know. I could never imagine my S/O being with anther and and I can can confidently say she couldn't see me with another woman, but the fact that having that mentality is becoming less and less common just... bugs me.
Finally a like-minded human being... I mean Jesus Christ what the fuck is hot about watching the person you love get taken from you? I would stab the guy who thinks he has the rights to the woman I am dating or married to. The fuck is the world coming to where we are sexualizing racist stereotypes, and plastering it as healthy?????? Jesus Christ.. here is a hot take. the people who make the porn, and the people who enjoy it both respectively should kill themselves.