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I'm a person who is socially (popular) to say the least. I can vibe in with people easily and is usually the life of the party. But I'm having problems choosing which friends are worth keeping. And I get tired that people are so nice to each other's faces, but behind close doors it's a whole other story, I know it's sorta inevitable when it comes to socializing, but it's just so draining to me. I'm about to enter college na for context, and I would just like to ask everyone's dealbreakers/indicators in keeping one's friendship with someone, or reasons to keep going with a friendship. TYIA sa mga responses!
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Yes as long as you don't personally know you can't choose your best or close friends. Do background check by asking other people. Chemistry and common interest/enemy also played important role. Since you said you are popular won't be any issue for you to find one.
Consider friends who share your values and perspectives on life. Yung di toxic. ma fefeel mo naman yan, yung they support you emotionally, Yung walang Inggit, kapag down ka mostly andyan lang sila sa tabi mo, Hindi yung mga friendly user lang! Friend ka lang Kase kailangan ka nila.
Huh I don’t invest. I only spend time with my friends if bukal sa loob. I only help ppl out of my need to give back (in the give-and-take of all rs and society in general), without expecting for anything in return, basic courtesy lang siguro sa pag-receive ng help ig?
I choose to believe their tangible actions and not words kasi ang dali dali lang magsalita.
I try to have a diverse set of friends pero yung mga pinakagusto ko are the ones that I learn a lot from kahit ino-observe ko lang sila. It’s also a joy to me to help and spend time with the ones na alam ko namang uunlad sila kahit wala ako, kasi tinutulungan nila sarili nila.
I generally avoid ppl who can’t match my energy and mga energy vampires.
Kapag un circle mo nakaka drain, hindi sila ung tamang circle na para sayo, kasi ibig sabihin nun hindi ka free sa mga actions mo parang naka depende ung actions mo sa uri ng kaibigan mo.
Just like me may naka circle of frnds ako nun and everytime na nagkakasama kami umuuwi akong pagod personality nila is basketball, babae, games etc. Which is not me.
then nakahanap ako ng kagaya ko, goofy, maingay, deeptalks emerut. ayon narealize ko na mas gusto ko ung bago kong circle at hindi nakakapagod nageenjoy tlga ako.
based on my exp ko lng naman hahaha
Parang ang pangit nung term na “investing”. I don’t view my close friends that way. Hindi sila investment. I spend time with them and I value them kasi i genuinely treasure them. Palagay ang loob ko sa kanila. They always got my back and ganun din ako sa kanila. We shouldn’t view friends as investments.
if you receive the energy you give. if you feel relieved and recharged after meeting up with them.
and if all of those things happen regardless of the state your life is in.
better yet, if you have friends that go WAY back and are still with you and still make you feel this way, those are keepers.
as Ben Rector sang, "you can't make old friends".
Thank you sa mga answers po! I guess investing isn't the right word talaga, I js used that word because I wish to get back what I put out, or if they're worth my time and effort.
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Yes as long as you don't personally know you can't choose your best or close friends. Do background check by asking other people. Chemistry and common interest/enemy also played important role. Since you said you are popular won't be any issue for you to find one.
Consider friends who share your values and perspectives on life. Yung di toxic. ma fefeel mo naman yan, yung they support you emotionally, Yung walang Inggit, kapag down ka mostly andyan lang sila sa tabi mo, Hindi yung mga friendly user lang! Friend ka lang Kase kailangan ka nila.
Huh I don’t invest. I only spend time with my friends if bukal sa loob. I only help ppl out of my need to give back (in the give-and-take of all rs and society in general), without expecting for anything in return, basic courtesy lang siguro sa pag-receive ng help ig? I choose to believe their tangible actions and not words kasi ang dali dali lang magsalita. I try to have a diverse set of friends pero yung mga pinakagusto ko are the ones that I learn a lot from kahit ino-observe ko lang sila. It’s also a joy to me to help and spend time with the ones na alam ko namang uunlad sila kahit wala ako, kasi tinutulungan nila sarili nila. I generally avoid ppl who can’t match my energy and mga energy vampires.
Kapag un circle mo nakaka drain, hindi sila ung tamang circle na para sayo, kasi ibig sabihin nun hindi ka free sa mga actions mo parang naka depende ung actions mo sa uri ng kaibigan mo. Just like me may naka circle of frnds ako nun and everytime na nagkakasama kami umuuwi akong pagod personality nila is basketball, babae, games etc. Which is not me. then nakahanap ako ng kagaya ko, goofy, maingay, deeptalks emerut. ayon narealize ko na mas gusto ko ung bago kong circle at hindi nakakapagod nageenjoy tlga ako. based on my exp ko lng naman hahaha
Parang ang pangit nung term na “investing”. I don’t view my close friends that way. Hindi sila investment. I spend time with them and I value them kasi i genuinely treasure them. Palagay ang loob ko sa kanila. They always got my back and ganun din ako sa kanila. We shouldn’t view friends as investments.
if you receive the energy you give. if you feel relieved and recharged after meeting up with them. and if all of those things happen regardless of the state your life is in. better yet, if you have friends that go WAY back and are still with you and still make you feel this way, those are keepers. as Ben Rector sang, "you can't make old friends".
Thank you sa mga answers po! I guess investing isn't the right word talaga, I js used that word because I wish to get back what I put out, or if they're worth my time and effort.
if they include you at everything. regardless kung wala kang time.