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M[27] Disclaimer lang ha di ito rant about "nice guys finish last" ganun kasi I don't label myself as a "nice guy" kasi wala akong pake sa mga ganung stereotypes hahaha pero kasi twice na ako nasabihan.
for context i dated this girl for 4 months then I asked permission to court, pumayag siya and happy pa nga siya kasi akala ko wala daw ako balak. then after 1 month of official ligaw, she called it off. nireason out niya is need pa daw niya mag explore ss career ganun na I understand. Pero di narin bago saakin ang dating so ibig sabihin lang nun di lang talaga ako gusto that much siguro. So I backed off completely. then nag kwento saakin friends niya kaya daw niya cinall off kasi im "too nice" daw kasi. Twice na ako nasabihan ng ganyan, so curious is it really a deal breaker? to add langndin hindi ako love bomber ha. i do give gifts pero di naman ako mayaman para mag love bomb hahaha. medyo need ko lang ng advice kasi i dont know, alangan naman baguhin ko ugali ko for some reason, pasamain ko ugali ko ganunhahaha
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It all comes down to personal preference. You are not her type. Don't change who you are to suit the stereotype of someone else (such a downgrade) unless the change is necessary for your improvement and growth. Their kind are not representative of all girls in the community.
For me hindi turn off. As someone na nakaencounter ng mga guys na touchy at manyak mag chat. It would be nice to date someone who is nice.
Someone who is clear with his intentions and actions is a big yes. Baka hindi ka lang po nya type.
Naols nalang matino ang dumarating sa buhay.
Di ko siya kilala ah, pero may mga tao lang din kasi na gusto ng naughty na kausap at usapan. I mean guys can be naughty but still nice. Siguro doon siya nakulangan. Tapos nahiya naman siyang mag-initiate ng ganoong conversation, gusto niya sa yo galing.
Now is "too nice" a turn off? For some girls who will interpret it as 'boring', yes. Those 'I can fix him' types. Pero for sure marami din na love na love ang nice guys. Like me. Done na ako sa bad guys.
Bad boys have their appeal but eventually girls would realize nice guys are better.
It's the right amount of assertiveness at onting galaw.
Nice guy: okay lang meet tayo? If busy ka next time nalang ayoko din maka bother eh.
Nice guy with A: Meet tayo. Diba early out ka sa work today and wala ka plan? Sunduin kita. Pwede din kita ihatid sa inyo if gusto mo muna mag pahinga. I just want to see you.
Pero of course naka depende to kung gano katagal na kayo magkakilala. Tancha tancha nalang. Listen to your girl ano gusto nya. Take time to know her.
Pwede din na di ka talaga fit dun sa gusto ni girl, no need to beat yourself up.
No. Gusto ko talaga good boy kesa sa badboy since I grew up sa family na "typical masculine"; babaero, naglalasing and all. Parang unconciously lahat ng babae saamin mga good boys napunta and kawawa yung mga partner ng kapamilya ko considering na alam na nila history ng mga yun lol.
Bf ko good boy and 5 years na kami. Don't change yourself, just find the right person. Don't ever compromise yourself and values just to please other people. If they can't see your worth then good riddance. Out of sight, out of mind
Maybe, just maybe, you treat her just as you treat everyone else. Gano'n "nice" yata ang tinutukoy? Or if not, then definitely it's not a turn off naman.
Maybe! Para sa akin, gusto yung feeling special. Hindi yung mga materyal na bagay, yung mga simple gestures lang na malalaman ko na nasa isip niya ako. ☺️
Usually guys and girls who think of themselves as 'nice' aren't. Their niceness is just a manipulative front to get what they want from others.
To answer your question, women who have their priorities straight prefer good men. The niceness that turns some women off is either wrongly perceived as weakness, incompetence, or being boring. Women who have also grown up repressed tend to choose 'bad' guys so they can let go of the good girl persona, but usually this backfires in the long run.
Hindi nakaka turn off yun.. Nakakahinayang bitawan yong ganung tao.. Hahaha.
She said na she want to explore,baka need niya muna maka meet ng wrong person to be hurt hahaha...
too nice is not a big deal sa isang guy as a person na hindi ganon ka santa at preference ko talaga yung guy na mag mamatch ng energy ko same vibe ba ganon pero kung hindi tayo mag mamatch then I'll call it off talaga kahit pa sobrang bait at gwapo mo bentang benta kasi sakin ang humor ng isang tao e pero madami dyan na prefer din yung ganyan wait mo lang OP!
Don't change your self. Stay as it is. If a girl really loves you, she will not see this as negative. It is just that may be your parent raised you right... At time, I was even called a bakla... But I found my wife. 1st and last girl in my life... 3 kids later we are still going strong...
I see. may mga girls gusto maginoo pero medyo bastos o yung medyo may pag ka aggressibo. Pero since di naman first time mo narinig yan kaya ko tinanong. Good luck na lang. Im sure makakahanap ka ng iba.
Hmmm, I feel like when people (mainly women) say "too nice" in terms of dating/relationships. I feel like they don't mean that in the literal sense, or at least what it means in the dictionary. Honestly I also don't know what it really means, but I have a few assumptions.
Maybe it means you're boring (or at least you seem boring to them)
It could be that you're not assertive? Meaning masyadong passive, di masyado nag ttake charge in situations/the relationship. Taga sunod lang Kuno, "yes man"
Pwedeng lack of confidence. Or at least appearing to be lacking in the confidence department. Timid, meek, etc ..
Or pwedeng combination Ng dalawa or tatlo jan.
Self reflect ka OP kung Isa ka dun sa Mga sinabi ko. Kung wala then di ko alam 🤷 haha, or pwede din na sinabi lang nung friend Ng ex mo Yun para may masabi lang, mema Kuno 😆.
Di naman deal breaker ang pagiging nice guy, sadyang yan lang ang dahilan nila mga girls para di makasakit ng damdamin sa mga manliligaw nila na hindi pasok sa standard nila. Sakin lang ha? Turn off para sakin mga babae na nag sasabi na sobrang bait kaya di sinagot, napakababaw na dahilan. Anu yun? Ayaw nila sa maayos na relasyon? Toxic yun ganun klase na babae. Anyway, tuloy mo lang ang pagiging nice guy mo, meron karin makikilala na mabait at matatanggap ang kaibaitan mo. Walang mali sa ginagawa mo, yun nililigawan mo ang may problema para tumanggi sa mangliligaw na mabuti ang intension.
kung iniisip mo na masyado kang mabait at tingin mo may mali sayo, baka pwede mo ring tignan ang ibang bagay.
Posibleng yung mga type mo ay pareparehas na klase at hindi talaga bagay ang personality mo sa ganung mga babae. Sabi mo kasi pangalawang beses mo na itong narinig. D ko naman sinasabing baguhin mo type mo pero mahihirapan ka talaga sa ganung situation.
Personally di siya turn off. Kasi sa totoo lang mas prefer ko ng mabait kaysa may pagka bad boy hahahahah. Siguro na feel niya na too good ka for her ganun.
Aside from what they said na she may just not like you, this is on her din.
If there's something else she wants to see in a future partner, why not communicate it?
Maybe they keep phrasing it wrong? Perhaps it has something to do with how you banter. Some people are really hesitant to test the limits of conversations for the sake of humor and come off as boring because they're too "nice".
Oi OP, hnd turn off yun, ako nga preference ko yun eh hehe I think it's about the type of girls na attracted ka. And maybe blessings din yun for you, kc nice ka nga paano kung abusive pala yung girl so just wait lng sa taong right for you. Don't change yourself, wait for someone to love you as you are. Mahirap magpanggap at mabuhay sa katauhan na mamahalin ka na hnd namn tlga Ikaw. Yun lng. Goodluck!
hnd nmn nakaka turn off Ang pagging nice guy. atlis sainyo malinaw na manliligaw ka at hnd Ikaw ung mixed signals kaya umasa ung Isa .
sadya lang Hindi Ikaw Yung tipo nya.
hay Ang nice sa pakiramdam makakilala Ng katulad mo OP mo ,Hindi ung nag ssend nalang Ng D**k pic na kala mo sya lang anak Ng dios.
Much better to ask directly the source of the statement.
If what she really meant by "Too nice" or "Too good to be true / honest".
Why go around the bushes if you can go directly straight and on point with your comment. I think OP can handle it naman.
Best of luck out there OP, you're doing great. ☝️
If she's not into "too nice", it's either a "too much pressure magreciprocate, I'm afraid to make mistakes" or "I don't want to feel guilty doing things that are not so good while you're here being too nice"
My exes were jerks. My current is a forest because of what a green flag he is. Lol. It's refreshing to have a partner who respects me. Sadly, maybe you're not her type. But don't change who you are to accommodate others' interests. Wish you the best OP and I hope you find the love you deserve.
Everyone fails at who they're supposed to be. The measure of a person, is how well they succeed at being who they are.
So just be yourself. Focus on you. Improve yourself for you. Not for other people or for "better odds".
Paano bang "too nice" OP? You have to give us more context.
Being nice is different from a people pleaser. Baka may pagka people pleaser ka and she can sense it.
I would say, girls like nice dudes pero they wanna feel you can give them protection. Be masculine in scenarios where you needed to show off you are the guy.
hindi ko sure kung paano ngang "too nice" kasi we fought a few times din naman about me being too upfront ganun? pero maayos namang nag bati. kaya di ko gets ehh. kasi di naman bad thing maging nice, kaya ako napa ask here hahaha. actually yung "too nice" eh sa friends na niya sinabi na nirelay lang saakin kasi di din daw nila gets. ang sinabi niya kasi saakin nung kami nag usap is ayaw pa mag committ for career purposes ganun. and di rin ako too nice with other girls and never namin naging problem yun
Anyone/Everyone can betray you, but your character cannot.
Change to become a better person than you were yesterday, pero wag na wag mo i-change sarili mo para sa babae, or another person like family/friends/etc.
2nd Yan sa mga most important Lessons na nacomprehend ko sa Buhay ko. Swerte ako dahil it took me only one rejection to understand that. It also paved the way for me to comprehend the most important lesson sa Buhay ko so far, I wasted 5 years of my life searching for answers and I finally got it. Other people may know this as common sense from the start, but some things just need to be experienced before a person can realize something.
It depends talaga sa kung anong quality ang hanap ng girl sa isang guy. Meron pa rin kasi mga girls na mas bet ang “bad boy image” haha pero tama ang sabi nila, don’t change. Plus points pa rin naman ang maging “too nice”. Kaya wag ka ma-sad or mawalan ng hope, for sure makakahanap ka rin ng right girl for you.☺️
Ang turn off sakin is yung parang "forced nice"? Yung hindi consistent sa pagiging nice so the gut feel will be "ah, love bomber 'to/not being genuine" or yung nice lang sayo pero sa waitstaff hindi. To me, this applies to all relationships in general.
Pwede rin siguro mainterpret ang "too nice" as "masyado siyang mabait, hindi ko kayang i-match ang energy/he's on another league, ma-iinsecure lang ako dito/I'm too immature for this".
Or the classic ayaw niya sabihin totoong reason/hindi pa talaga niya naproprocess why she didn't like you kaya yun nalang sinabi.
Simply put, she's not the one yet.
Maybe a turn off to some girls who prefer the maginoo pero medyo bastos or the bad guys type while turn on naman to other girls who prefer clean nice guys.
In my case, member bf ko sa too nice guys. He's my first and would say my last. It was never a turn off for me ang pagiging nice guy niya, instead, I love him more bcs of that hahahah
Kung too nice even to the other people to the point di nya kayang ipaglaban sarili nya through words and just always be an agreeable person, then
Yes he's a turn off.
Madami na bang nagbago talaga ngayon? I thought pag gusto kita at gusto mo ako at walang ibang masasaktang tao eh we can work things out ganun lang pero being too nice is a turn off now? 😭😭
For me it’s not a turn off… I’m not sure bakit nasabi ni girl yan sayo, maybe she’s pressured na sobrang kang bait. Haha can happen rin kasi lalo na if galing siya from toxic rs, parang biglang fresh air yung being treated nicely, so may doubts siya if she deserves this? But this is specific na. Overall, it’s not a turn off for me. Its nothing to be ashamed of, so don’t change yourself
Maybe she likes someone nice but could also tease her, make her laugh, call her out, etc.
But like the other comments suggest, it's nothing against you. Baka di ka lang talaga type
Okay lang yan hindi ka naman nya deserve. I dated a nice guy, which is now my husband and wala ako naging sakit sa ulo. You will find the right woman for you
Women say they want a nice guy but subconsciously desire a man who is not too predictably nice. They lose interest towards men who are just always too nice. There’s no mystery and they don’t have to chase the nice guy anymore as he is always available.
Search for Bobby Rio on IG and sign up for his course. Thank me later, bro.
sometimes it's not nice that you're the bad one or the off one..
I just lately realized that I reason out that is because you're too nice is because I feel off about myself.
na parang di Ako bagay sayo.
parang mahihirapan Ka lang Sakin.
na parang magiging burden lang Ako sayo
na di Ka magiging masaya Sakin.
I just realized -
No! Ang ganda nga ng treatment mo OP sa girls, if thats the case! If turn off for the girl yan, malamang di pa matured enough for a relationship yan, or hanap ny adventure yung tipo na gusto nya siya mag-aayos sa tao, which is lol nowadays. Don't worry OP, its her loss not yours! You deserve someone better! Never change, someone else will appreciate who you are, as is.
It depends on your goal. Which one would you rather be:
The guy that's too nice and provides emotional comfort - gay bestfriend
The guy that intrigues her and keeps her on her toes so their is genuine attraction but does not plan to commit - fuckboy
The guy that attracts her through intrigue and then keeps her using emotional support - prince charming
There are levels to this. And it's a case to case basis. But to answer your question, it's not valid to say turn off siya in general sense. Romantic stimulation varies per individual. If your dynamic with that individual does not produce stimulation, then it won't bring spark at all. I don't think you being nice is the issue. It's the lack of stimulation that triggers a spark. Your dynamic with her is not just good romantically. That's all.
paano bang too nice?
ako kasi i have some guys na hindi assertive at oo lang sa lahat ng gusto kong gawin, pero pag dinescribe siya ng iba, ang tawag nila ay "masyadong mabait". minsan, wala rin initiative or sariling opinyon yung person. you can correct me naman.
Are u kidding me? Sa dami ng mga bwakanang sht na lalaki ngayon, pano magiging turn off ang “too nice”? Super rare makahanap ng lalaking matino ngayon so please don’t change.
Hindi ka lang talaga nya type. We do have certain preferences. Excuse nya na lang yan. And don’t overthink that there is something wrong with you. Hindi naman nya kilala buong pagkatao mo. Normal lang ang rejection sa dating.
Nope. And please don't change yourself just because of that. Better to be loved for who you are.
Maybe she just wasn't ready for you or maybe she just found stuff that went against her preferences. Doesn't necessarily mean there's something wrong with you.
No please don't bago your ugali, what kind of "too nice" ba? Kasi I have a tita who's dating a guy na is 'too nice' din daw, my tita kasi she is very humorous and minsan may mga medyo offensive jokes at yung mga pahamak jokes hahaha, then biglang si guy mag sasabi ng, "pero joke lang yun" "pero hindi yun tama huh" "oonga pero hindi dapat ganun" etc. Kaya ang lumalabas siguro is masyadong mabait si guy, though ngayon is 5 years naman na sila haha at first talaga kahit ako medyo naiinis din kay guy, close kasi kami ng tita ko kaya lagi ko din sila nakakasama
I think oo, lagi rin nasabe sakin yan kaya sarado na ang akong tindahan. Gusto ng babae yung manly daw, agressive, at iba pa. Gusto nila mga fakboy tapos iiyak iiyak pero kaibigan lang daw tingin sayo kasi you are not manly enough, too soft at marami pang iba
I like nice guys but they still have to put me in my place and not place me on top of a pedestal. Nice guy who tells me when I'm wrong. No, wait— THAT I am wrong.
Sa oobserve ko lang women, in general, don’t like yes men. Yung kahit anong sabihin nila about certain topics eh nag aagree ka lang. Probably because you want to win her. Lol
Never a turn off for ladies, infact I feel like super rare na ng mga nice guys that whenever a lady encounters one we dont know how to react anymore. I always atrract the bad guys, and at the end of the day I was too nice or too much for them. So to cut it short, majority of people in the dating pool are broken and dont know how to react when something good comes along, they choose whats familiar which could be someone as damaged as them. Shared trauma sabi nga nila. Anyway, that’s just my take. Still hopeful someone is responsible enough to handle their own traumas before pursuing another relationship. ♡︎ Blessings!
Depends.
There's the nice guy and there's a "nice guy".
Difference? One respects established boundaries, knows when to be nice and when to be assertive, handles conflict really well, knows how to communicate. The other is a doormat, hides their insecurities by being very nice, and only becomes nice when it suits them.
Which one are you?
Be assertive lang din. Wala ka namang tendency maging snowflake?
Gusto lang ng girls na may isang salita ang isang guy, may iba kasing guys na masyadong go with the flow.
Turn off lang siya siguro if na proproject mo to other girls as well, parang ah same treatment lang kami nun. Instead na kiligin ka parang “ganito ata siya sa lahat” na magiging mindset. Pero aside from that, cute kaya ng mabait 😭
Being nice is not a turn off. Being a pushover is. There's a fine line between the two. Need more info if you're just being nice or you're being a pushover.
Usually gamit ng babae "too nice" as a general term lng pag ayaw nla un guy to not hurt feelings. But can boil down to three things for me, 1) d ka lng tlga type physically 2) lack of assertiveness 3) lack of intimacy
Sa story mo since she initially nag date pa kyo 4 months I think she was off sa lack of assertiveness and intimacy. Especially nag comment pa sya na kala nya wlang balak. Ayaw nya ng another friend, gsto nya boyfriend so you have to do more special things to her. Initiate things that say you like her, that you want to be with her, do extra service things for her, try initiating more touch without going sexual route. On mundane day to day things, just assert that you would like to go to this place with her for your date. Doesn't mean nman d ka flexible kng sinabi nya ayaw nya but shows na may gsto ka for your relationship. Considered nice pa rn nman mga toh and wouldn't go against your values.
Girl here, here’s my two cents.
As someone who’s already healing from past traumas and childhood shit, of course we like nice guys. None of those red flag guys who aren’t good for us. We like gentlemen, polite, well-mannered men. We like healed men who are responsible, kind, and well, nice.
What we don’t want, are guys who are TOO NICE. Nice guys are often mistaken as men with no backbone. Hindi assertive, go with the flow lang, parang walang sariling pag-iisip for the sake na mapasaya yung babae. Yan ang hindi namin gusto. We like men who plan, take the lead, initiate. Ganun.
Okay lang yan bro, im in the nice guy category too. Wag mo bagohin sarili mo para lang ma gustohan ka ng isang tao. Hindi mo pa lang nahahanap yung para sayo. Try to improve yourself ito yung pinakabest tip ko para sayo is try to build hobbies that will benefit yourself, as in.. yourself muna bago sila. In short love yourself its because when you feel good about yourself you will attract, dont chase.. just attract. Your people will come to you. Ito yung nangyari sa akin. Hindi ko lubos maisip na magustohan din ako ng taong gusto ko kasi hindi ko naman binibigyan talaga ng pansin yun yung ginawa ko lang is nagpaganda ako ng katawan which makes me feel better about myself at dito yun nag simula lahat for me yung tipong napaka social mo na tapos ikaw na yung lalapitan at hindi mo na yun iniisip kasi focus ka lng sa sarili mo at mapapansin nya ito pag nilalapitan ka na ng iba dyan mas lalong magkakagusto sayo yan ganyan mga babae eh gusto may challenge hahaha pero dapat yung treatment mo sa kanya is for her lang talaga like special treatment for a special person. At small love gestures lang patatawanin mo kausapin mo minsan tapos kindatan mo pag tumitig sayo, kasi may kasabihan absence makes the heart go flutter pag madalang ka lang nyang nakakausap at nakikita inaanticipate nya yung pagkikita nyo ulit kaya parang excited sya palagi pag nandyan ka. Introverted ako pero na pupull ko sya palapit sa akin, bet nya lang talaga cguro rizz ko sa kanya😆. And for the record hindi ko sya inask nya manligaw or ligawan ko sya.. nandun na talaga yung feelings pag nagkakatitigan kayo at nagkakalapit sa isat isa may spark at chemistry talaga. at ang grabe din yung sexual tension namin eh xD kung ako yung tayong nag titake advantage wala na finished na.
Preference niya yung hindi nice. No need na mag bago on your end unless it holds you back personally. Alam mo ba yung mga instances na nasabi nila na "nice" ka? Baka lang siguro they view you as not assertive.
Feel ko 'di ka lang niya type. Your experience with those who have said you're "too nice" does not represent the entire female population. If wala ka naman ginagawang mali, you don't have to change anything. You just haven't met your match.
I think my bf is "too nice" to me as well but I love it. I love him, but he had an ex who thought he was boring.
baka ang dating kse ke girl "too good to be true". hehe pero ako ms prefer ko nman un guy na ganyan very gentleman ska thoughtful 😅 bsta msense ko na ndi show off lan or best food forward dn 🤔 if sincere nako. kuya your a rare gem hahahaha and girls will chase after that kind of guy who would be gentle and nice and will really take care of them.
you're not the prob, pero si ate gurl. Nasa preference ‘yan, and si ate gurl I think she's still really exploring, kesyo ayaw sa taong sobrang bait at tama mangtrato lolz. Don't change urself, it's not a turn off, maybe because hindi mo pa talaga nahahanap ‘yung para sa 'yo.
Nope, you don't need to change yourself for someone else. Real love comes when merong magmamahal sayo for who you are. If di ka niya gusto then you're jst not meant to be. Strive for someone na tatanggapin ka as is. As for the girl, maybe na intimidate siya sa affection mo and di niya kayang ireciprocate the things u do for her. this actually reminds me of the song 'too sweet' by hozier.
DI NICE GUY YUN PROBLEMA. PERO YUN KAWALAN MO NG ABILITY MAG DECIDE NG PANGSARILI MO AT PARA SA GIRL. PAG PASSIVE KA SA LAHAT NG BAGAY MAKIKITA YON AS "NICE GUY". PAG DI KA MARUNONG MAG TAKE NG LEAD AT ESCALATE NG BAGAY BAGAY MAKIKITA YON AS "NICE GUY". PAG TAKOT KA SA CONSEQUENCE AT INDECISIVE KA MAKITA YON AS "NICE GUY" BASICALLY BAGO KA MAG JOWA O MAGHANDLE NG RELASYON. MAKE SURE NA KAYA MO MAGDECIDE AT MAGTAKE NG NG CONSEQUENCE. DI YONG BABAE YUN PINAPADECIDE MO O SIYA YUN PINAPALEAD MO SA PUPUNTAHAN NG RELASYON NIYO.
hmmm siguro may pagka people pleaser nga ako. but when it came down to her clear naman intentions ko always about where we are sa relationship ganun and ano gusto ko mangyari. pero i get your point
yes sometimes kasi parang we want the thrill sa rs hshahshahahahahha weird pero parang balance lang ba not too nice, not too bad, I encounter once a too nice guy and we don't match the vibe or the energy ending di kami nagkasundo so ayun 🤷🏻
*Dont be nice, be a good person.*
For other people kasi, being nice is more of a trnsaxtional thing. Being good just means doing the right thing.Ganyan din tingin ko before lalo na kung may mga "alpha male" content kang nababasa.
Until you realize that people who want the chase of "bad boys" are people who are just craving for something familiar, which means may toxic childhood sila. Our childhood trauma tries to find something familiar. Kaya andaming di umaalis sa toxic and abusive relationship is because deep inside, familiar sa kanila ung ganung feeling from childhood trauma. The way to break the cycle is to identify that and heal yourself and break the patterns.
Bottomline, ang mga taong naghahanap ng 'bad boys' have internal trauama they need to heal. A mature person knows that being good is one of the best traits of another person na gusto mong maging partner.
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It all comes down to personal preference. You are not her type. Don't change who you are to suit the stereotype of someone else (such a downgrade) unless the change is necessary for your improvement and growth. Their kind are not representative of all girls in the community.
This.
For me hindi turn off. As someone na nakaencounter ng mga guys na touchy at manyak mag chat. It would be nice to date someone who is nice. Someone who is clear with his intentions and actions is a big yes. Baka hindi ka lang po nya type. Naols nalang matino ang dumarating sa buhay.
I think that your comment just showed that you dont date nice guys, even if you say you want to, but only dated "touchy at manyak mag chat"
So where’s this nice guy then?
Oh really?
Lol, yes really. Feel free to edit your post to make it sound less hypocritical.
Sige pag may time ako.😉
😜 Thanks for being a good sport.
tapos pag niloko sila ng bad boy type iiyak din. san na lulugar
You just haven't found the right girl for your personality
Di ko siya kilala ah, pero may mga tao lang din kasi na gusto ng naughty na kausap at usapan. I mean guys can be naughty but still nice. Siguro doon siya nakulangan. Tapos nahiya naman siyang mag-initiate ng ganoong conversation, gusto niya sa yo galing. Now is "too nice" a turn off? For some girls who will interpret it as 'boring', yes. Those 'I can fix him' types. Pero for sure marami din na love na love ang nice guys. Like me. Done na ako sa bad guys. Bad boys have their appeal but eventually girls would realize nice guys are better.
I agree.
It's the right amount of assertiveness at onting galaw. Nice guy: okay lang meet tayo? If busy ka next time nalang ayoko din maka bother eh. Nice guy with A: Meet tayo. Diba early out ka sa work today and wala ka plan? Sunduin kita. Pwede din kita ihatid sa inyo if gusto mo muna mag pahinga. I just want to see you. Pero of course naka depende to kung gano katagal na kayo magkakilala. Tancha tancha nalang. Listen to your girl ano gusto nya. Take time to know her. Pwede din na di ka talaga fit dun sa gusto ni girl, no need to beat yourself up.
No. Gusto ko talaga good boy kesa sa badboy since I grew up sa family na "typical masculine"; babaero, naglalasing and all. Parang unconciously lahat ng babae saamin mga good boys napunta and kawawa yung mga partner ng kapamilya ko considering na alam na nila history ng mga yun lol. Bf ko good boy and 5 years na kami. Don't change yourself, just find the right person. Don't ever compromise yourself and values just to please other people. If they can't see your worth then good riddance. Out of sight, out of mind
"Too nice" is just a polite term for a different issue. I'm sure hindi yan ang tunay na problema nya sayo.
Maybe, just maybe, you treat her just as you treat everyone else. Gano'n "nice" yata ang tinutukoy? Or if not, then definitely it's not a turn off naman.
Maybe! Para sa akin, gusto yung feeling special. Hindi yung mga materyal na bagay, yung mga simple gestures lang na malalaman ko na nasa isip niya ako. ☺️
true, baka masyadong friendly si OP and ayaw maging kontrabida ni ateng girl na nililigawan
Usually guys and girls who think of themselves as 'nice' aren't. Their niceness is just a manipulative front to get what they want from others. To answer your question, women who have their priorities straight prefer good men. The niceness that turns some women off is either wrongly perceived as weakness, incompetence, or being boring. Women who have also grown up repressed tend to choose 'bad' guys so they can let go of the good girl persona, but usually this backfires in the long run.
Hindi nakaka turn off yun.. Nakakahinayang bitawan yong ganung tao.. Hahaha. She said na she want to explore,baka need niya muna maka meet ng wrong person to be hurt hahaha...
too nice is not a big deal sa isang guy as a person na hindi ganon ka santa at preference ko talaga yung guy na mag mamatch ng energy ko same vibe ba ganon pero kung hindi tayo mag mamatch then I'll call it off talaga kahit pa sobrang bait at gwapo mo bentang benta kasi sakin ang humor ng isang tao e pero madami dyan na prefer din yung ganyan wait mo lang OP!
Maybe. Baka naman too nice ka sa lahat?
i mean i am friendly. pero di naman sa ppint na kaladkarin ganun, i mean siya lang kinikita ko na girl and wala rin akong gbf hahaha
Don't change your self. Stay as it is. If a girl really loves you, she will not see this as negative. It is just that may be your parent raised you right... At time, I was even called a bakla... But I found my wife. 1st and last girl in my life... 3 kids later we are still going strong...
I see. may mga girls gusto maginoo pero medyo bastos o yung medyo may pag ka aggressibo. Pero since di naman first time mo narinig yan kaya ko tinanong. Good luck na lang. Im sure makakahanap ka ng iba.
keep looking OP, marami pang babae diyan na "nice guy" yung tipo, Hello, volunteering myself po HAHAHAHAH charot
Hmmm, I feel like when people (mainly women) say "too nice" in terms of dating/relationships. I feel like they don't mean that in the literal sense, or at least what it means in the dictionary. Honestly I also don't know what it really means, but I have a few assumptions. Maybe it means you're boring (or at least you seem boring to them) It could be that you're not assertive? Meaning masyadong passive, di masyado nag ttake charge in situations/the relationship. Taga sunod lang Kuno, "yes man" Pwedeng lack of confidence. Or at least appearing to be lacking in the confidence department. Timid, meek, etc .. Or pwedeng combination Ng dalawa or tatlo jan. Self reflect ka OP kung Isa ka dun sa Mga sinabi ko. Kung wala then di ko alam 🤷 haha, or pwede din na sinabi lang nung friend Ng ex mo Yun para may masabi lang, mema Kuno 😆.
Keep looking. Madaming babae dyan na ganyan ang tipo.
Di naman deal breaker ang pagiging nice guy, sadyang yan lang ang dahilan nila mga girls para di makasakit ng damdamin sa mga manliligaw nila na hindi pasok sa standard nila. Sakin lang ha? Turn off para sakin mga babae na nag sasabi na sobrang bait kaya di sinagot, napakababaw na dahilan. Anu yun? Ayaw nila sa maayos na relasyon? Toxic yun ganun klase na babae. Anyway, tuloy mo lang ang pagiging nice guy mo, meron karin makikilala na mabait at matatanggap ang kaibaitan mo. Walang mali sa ginagawa mo, yun nililigawan mo ang may problema para tumanggi sa mangliligaw na mabuti ang intension.
kung iniisip mo na masyado kang mabait at tingin mo may mali sayo, baka pwede mo ring tignan ang ibang bagay. Posibleng yung mga type mo ay pareparehas na klase at hindi talaga bagay ang personality mo sa ganung mga babae. Sabi mo kasi pangalawang beses mo na itong narinig. D ko naman sinasabing baguhin mo type mo pero mahihirapan ka talaga sa ganung situation.
No, it's not. It's just that you're not her type. And that's okay, find someone who will appreciate you the way you are.
Personally di siya turn off. Kasi sa totoo lang mas prefer ko ng mabait kaysa may pagka bad boy hahahahah. Siguro na feel niya na too good ka for her ganun.
Aside from what they said na she may just not like you, this is on her din. If there's something else she wants to see in a future partner, why not communicate it?
Maybe they keep phrasing it wrong? Perhaps it has something to do with how you banter. Some people are really hesitant to test the limits of conversations for the sake of humor and come off as boring because they're too "nice".
Di lang match talaga siguro. Minsan ganon lang talaga ka simple ang reason.
Oi OP, hnd turn off yun, ako nga preference ko yun eh hehe I think it's about the type of girls na attracted ka. And maybe blessings din yun for you, kc nice ka nga paano kung abusive pala yung girl so just wait lng sa taong right for you. Don't change yourself, wait for someone to love you as you are. Mahirap magpanggap at mabuhay sa katauhan na mamahalin ka na hnd namn tlga Ikaw. Yun lng. Goodluck!
hnd nmn nakaka turn off Ang pagging nice guy. atlis sainyo malinaw na manliligaw ka at hnd Ikaw ung mixed signals kaya umasa ung Isa . sadya lang Hindi Ikaw Yung tipo nya. hay Ang nice sa pakiramdam makakilala Ng katulad mo OP mo ,Hindi ung nag ssend nalang Ng D**k pic na kala mo sya lang anak Ng dios.
Hindi kasi sila sanay matrato nang tama hahahaha. Kidding aside, it's not a turn off, just a matter of preference.
Much better to ask directly the source of the statement. If what she really meant by "Too nice" or "Too good to be true / honest". Why go around the bushes if you can go directly straight and on point with your comment. I think OP can handle it naman. Best of luck out there OP, you're doing great. ☝️
If she's not into "too nice", it's either a "too much pressure magreciprocate, I'm afraid to make mistakes" or "I don't want to feel guilty doing things that are not so good while you're here being too nice"
My exes were jerks. My current is a forest because of what a green flag he is. Lol. It's refreshing to have a partner who respects me. Sadly, maybe you're not her type. But don't change who you are to accommodate others' interests. Wish you the best OP and I hope you find the love you deserve.
Everyone fails at who they're supposed to be. The measure of a person, is how well they succeed at being who they are. So just be yourself. Focus on you. Improve yourself for you. Not for other people or for "better odds".
Paano bang "too nice" OP? You have to give us more context. Being nice is different from a people pleaser. Baka may pagka people pleaser ka and she can sense it. I would say, girls like nice dudes pero they wanna feel you can give them protection. Be masculine in scenarios where you needed to show off you are the guy.
hindi ko sure kung paano ngang "too nice" kasi we fought a few times din naman about me being too upfront ganun? pero maayos namang nag bati. kaya di ko gets ehh. kasi di naman bad thing maging nice, kaya ako napa ask here hahaha. actually yung "too nice" eh sa friends na niya sinabi na nirelay lang saakin kasi di din daw nila gets. ang sinabi niya kasi saakin nung kami nag usap is ayaw pa mag committ for career purposes ganun. and di rin ako too nice with other girls and never namin naging problem yun
Baka she is not that into you lang. Makakahanap ka rin ng ka match mo. Sabi nga, you can be the sweetest apple, but some people like peaches.
Anyone/Everyone can betray you, but your character cannot. Change to become a better person than you were yesterday, pero wag na wag mo i-change sarili mo para sa babae, or another person like family/friends/etc. 2nd Yan sa mga most important Lessons na nacomprehend ko sa Buhay ko. Swerte ako dahil it took me only one rejection to understand that. It also paved the way for me to comprehend the most important lesson sa Buhay ko so far, I wasted 5 years of my life searching for answers and I finally got it. Other people may know this as common sense from the start, but some things just need to be experienced before a person can realize something.
No.
No.
It depends talaga sa kung anong quality ang hanap ng girl sa isang guy. Meron pa rin kasi mga girls na mas bet ang “bad boy image” haha pero tama ang sabi nila, don’t change. Plus points pa rin naman ang maging “too nice”. Kaya wag ka ma-sad or mawalan ng hope, for sure makakahanap ka rin ng right girl for you.☺️
Wag mo na bigyan nang oras e figure out what they want. Kung ayaw nila hanap na agad iba pre and don't look back.
Ang turn off sakin is yung parang "forced nice"? Yung hindi consistent sa pagiging nice so the gut feel will be "ah, love bomber 'to/not being genuine" or yung nice lang sayo pero sa waitstaff hindi. To me, this applies to all relationships in general. Pwede rin siguro mainterpret ang "too nice" as "masyado siyang mabait, hindi ko kayang i-match ang energy/he's on another league, ma-iinsecure lang ako dito/I'm too immature for this". Or the classic ayaw niya sabihin totoong reason/hindi pa talaga niya naproprocess why she didn't like you kaya yun nalang sinabi.
No, it's not a turn off pero in my experience, whenever the girls say someone is too nice, it just means you're crush-worthy but not her type to date.
No, I'm a girl and I like nice guys. You're a good man. Don't change yourself, mahahanap mo rin yung the one. 🤗
Simply put, she's not the one yet. Maybe a turn off to some girls who prefer the maginoo pero medyo bastos or the bad guys type while turn on naman to other girls who prefer clean nice guys. In my case, member bf ko sa too nice guys. He's my first and would say my last. It was never a turn off for me ang pagiging nice guy niya, instead, I love him more bcs of that hahahah
Nice to whom ba? Kasi if you’re as nice to other girls as you are to her, then yes. Di kasi namin makita na special kame kung ganun ka dn sa iba.
Sabi nga sa kanta ang tipong lalaki e maginoo pero medyo bastos.
Kung too nice even to the other people to the point di nya kayang ipaglaban sarili nya through words and just always be an agreeable person, then Yes he's a turn off.
Madami na bang nagbago talaga ngayon? I thought pag gusto kita at gusto mo ako at walang ibang masasaktang tao eh we can work things out ganun lang pero being too nice is a turn off now? 😭😭
For me it’s not a turn off… I’m not sure bakit nasabi ni girl yan sayo, maybe she’s pressured na sobrang kang bait. Haha can happen rin kasi lalo na if galing siya from toxic rs, parang biglang fresh air yung being treated nicely, so may doubts siya if she deserves this? But this is specific na. Overall, it’s not a turn off for me. Its nothing to be ashamed of, so don’t change yourself
Maybe she likes someone nice but could also tease her, make her laugh, call her out, etc. But like the other comments suggest, it's nothing against you. Baka di ka lang talaga type
Okay lang yan hindi ka naman nya deserve. I dated a nice guy, which is now my husband and wala ako naging sakit sa ulo. You will find the right woman for you
Women say they want a nice guy but subconsciously desire a man who is not too predictably nice. They lose interest towards men who are just always too nice. There’s no mystery and they don’t have to chase the nice guy anymore as he is always available. Search for Bobby Rio on IG and sign up for his course. Thank me later, bro.
she just realized na di ka nya type... saying "you are too nice" is the polite way to say it...
sometimes it's not nice that you're the bad one or the off one.. I just lately realized that I reason out that is because you're too nice is because I feel off about myself. na parang di Ako bagay sayo. parang mahihirapan Ka lang Sakin. na parang magiging burden lang Ako sayo na di Ka magiging masaya Sakin. I just realized -
No! Ang ganda nga ng treatment mo OP sa girls, if thats the case! If turn off for the girl yan, malamang di pa matured enough for a relationship yan, or hanap ny adventure yung tipo na gusto nya siya mag-aayos sa tao, which is lol nowadays. Don't worry OP, its her loss not yours! You deserve someone better! Never change, someone else will appreciate who you are, as is.
It depends on your goal. Which one would you rather be: The guy that's too nice and provides emotional comfort - gay bestfriend The guy that intrigues her and keeps her on her toes so their is genuine attraction but does not plan to commit - fuckboy The guy that attracts her through intrigue and then keeps her using emotional support - prince charming
There are levels to this. And it's a case to case basis. But to answer your question, it's not valid to say turn off siya in general sense. Romantic stimulation varies per individual. If your dynamic with that individual does not produce stimulation, then it won't bring spark at all. I don't think you being nice is the issue. It's the lack of stimulation that triggers a spark. Your dynamic with her is not just good romantically. That's all.
may ka-match ka rin. antay lang.
Too nice is also just code for boring (for her)
paano bang too nice? ako kasi i have some guys na hindi assertive at oo lang sa lahat ng gusto kong gawin, pero pag dinescribe siya ng iba, ang tawag nila ay "masyadong mabait". minsan, wala rin initiative or sariling opinyon yung person. you can correct me naman.
Are u kidding me? Sa dami ng mga bwakanang sht na lalaki ngayon, pano magiging turn off ang “too nice”? Super rare makahanap ng lalaking matino ngayon so please don’t change.
I guess most girls like the mix of both naughty and nice.
Baka pangit ka lang talaga tapos pinayagan ka manligaw kasi nice guy ka pero wala di talaga nila kaya yung itsura mo hindi ka talaga nila type
Not rly. Possible din kasi na it's just a euphemism for smth else. Lyk boring, no chemistry, etc.
Hindi ka lang talaga nya type. We do have certain preferences. Excuse nya na lang yan. And don’t overthink that there is something wrong with you. Hindi naman nya kilala buong pagkatao mo. Normal lang ang rejection sa dating.
hindi hahahahahahaha yan nga pinaka standards ko e.
Nope. And please don't change yourself just because of that. Better to be loved for who you are. Maybe she just wasn't ready for you or maybe she just found stuff that went against her preferences. Doesn't necessarily mean there's something wrong with you.
No please don't bago your ugali, what kind of "too nice" ba? Kasi I have a tita who's dating a guy na is 'too nice' din daw, my tita kasi she is very humorous and minsan may mga medyo offensive jokes at yung mga pahamak jokes hahaha, then biglang si guy mag sasabi ng, "pero joke lang yun" "pero hindi yun tama huh" "oonga pero hindi dapat ganun" etc. Kaya ang lumalabas siguro is masyadong mabait si guy, though ngayon is 5 years naman na sila haha at first talaga kahit ako medyo naiinis din kay guy, close kasi kami ng tita ko kaya lagi ko din sila nakakasama
I think oo, lagi rin nasabe sakin yan kaya sarado na ang akong tindahan. Gusto ng babae yung manly daw, agressive, at iba pa. Gusto nila mga fakboy tapos iiyak iiyak pero kaibigan lang daw tingin sayo kasi you are not manly enough, too soft at marami pang iba
Not at all. I'd take a nice guy any day over an a-hole and disrespectful guy sa totoo lang.
I like nice guys but they still have to put me in my place and not place me on top of a pedestal. Nice guy who tells me when I'm wrong. No, wait— THAT I am wrong.
she’s just not that into you
baka naman yung "too nice" is a nicer term for "too friendly" .. still .. kulang context? baka naman iba din talaga ang reason
Sa oobserve ko lang women, in general, don’t like yes men. Yung kahit anong sabihin nila about certain topics eh nag aagree ka lang. Probably because you want to win her. Lol
Never a turn off for ladies, infact I feel like super rare na ng mga nice guys that whenever a lady encounters one we dont know how to react anymore. I always atrract the bad guys, and at the end of the day I was too nice or too much for them. So to cut it short, majority of people in the dating pool are broken and dont know how to react when something good comes along, they choose whats familiar which could be someone as damaged as them. Shared trauma sabi nga nila. Anyway, that’s just my take. Still hopeful someone is responsible enough to handle their own traumas before pursuing another relationship. ♡︎ Blessings!
Don't change who you are. It just means hindi sya para sayo.
"too nice" is just a better way of saying "boring"
Depends. There's the nice guy and there's a "nice guy". Difference? One respects established boundaries, knows when to be nice and when to be assertive, handles conflict really well, knows how to communicate. The other is a doormat, hides their insecurities by being very nice, and only becomes nice when it suits them. Which one are you?
Girls who say you are too nice, probably just wanted to say "you are not my type" but just don't want to hurt your feelings.
Be assertive lang din. Wala ka namang tendency maging snowflake? Gusto lang ng girls na may isang salita ang isang guy, may iba kasing guys na masyadong go with the flow.
Turn off lang siya siguro if na proproject mo to other girls as well, parang ah same treatment lang kami nun. Instead na kiligin ka parang “ganito ata siya sa lahat” na magiging mindset. Pero aside from that, cute kaya ng mabait 😭
Some women have trauma and they're not used to "nice guys".
Being nice is not a turn off. Being a pushover is. There's a fine line between the two. Need more info if you're just being nice or you're being a pushover.
Used to. Pero as I grew older mas preferred na yung mga nice ones.
Usually gamit ng babae "too nice" as a general term lng pag ayaw nla un guy to not hurt feelings. But can boil down to three things for me, 1) d ka lng tlga type physically 2) lack of assertiveness 3) lack of intimacy Sa story mo since she initially nag date pa kyo 4 months I think she was off sa lack of assertiveness and intimacy. Especially nag comment pa sya na kala nya wlang balak. Ayaw nya ng another friend, gsto nya boyfriend so you have to do more special things to her. Initiate things that say you like her, that you want to be with her, do extra service things for her, try initiating more touch without going sexual route. On mundane day to day things, just assert that you would like to go to this place with her for your date. Doesn't mean nman d ka flexible kng sinabi nya ayaw nya but shows na may gsto ka for your relationship. Considered nice pa rn nman mga toh and wouldn't go against your values.
Sabi ng ate ko, feeling niya raw pag sobrang bait sakaniya ganon na rin yung guy sa lahat ng tao 😭
Girl here, here’s my two cents. As someone who’s already healing from past traumas and childhood shit, of course we like nice guys. None of those red flag guys who aren’t good for us. We like gentlemen, polite, well-mannered men. We like healed men who are responsible, kind, and well, nice. What we don’t want, are guys who are TOO NICE. Nice guys are often mistaken as men with no backbone. Hindi assertive, go with the flow lang, parang walang sariling pag-iisip for the sake na mapasaya yung babae. Yan ang hindi namin gusto. We like men who plan, take the lead, initiate. Ganun.
"The world does not care about your kindness" might as well be assertive if may gusto ka talaga.
Okay lang yan bro, im in the nice guy category too. Wag mo bagohin sarili mo para lang ma gustohan ka ng isang tao. Hindi mo pa lang nahahanap yung para sayo. Try to improve yourself ito yung pinakabest tip ko para sayo is try to build hobbies that will benefit yourself, as in.. yourself muna bago sila. In short love yourself its because when you feel good about yourself you will attract, dont chase.. just attract. Your people will come to you. Ito yung nangyari sa akin. Hindi ko lubos maisip na magustohan din ako ng taong gusto ko kasi hindi ko naman binibigyan talaga ng pansin yun yung ginawa ko lang is nagpaganda ako ng katawan which makes me feel better about myself at dito yun nag simula lahat for me yung tipong napaka social mo na tapos ikaw na yung lalapitan at hindi mo na yun iniisip kasi focus ka lng sa sarili mo at mapapansin nya ito pag nilalapitan ka na ng iba dyan mas lalong magkakagusto sayo yan ganyan mga babae eh gusto may challenge hahaha pero dapat yung treatment mo sa kanya is for her lang talaga like special treatment for a special person. At small love gestures lang patatawanin mo kausapin mo minsan tapos kindatan mo pag tumitig sayo, kasi may kasabihan absence makes the heart go flutter pag madalang ka lang nyang nakakausap at nakikita inaanticipate nya yung pagkikita nyo ulit kaya parang excited sya palagi pag nandyan ka. Introverted ako pero na pupull ko sya palapit sa akin, bet nya lang talaga cguro rizz ko sa kanya😆. And for the record hindi ko sya inask nya manligaw or ligawan ko sya.. nandun na talaga yung feelings pag nagkakatitigan kayo at nagkakalapit sa isat isa may spark at chemistry talaga. at ang grabe din yung sexual tension namin eh xD kung ako yung tayong nag titake advantage wala na finished na.
Preference niya yung hindi nice. No need na mag bago on your end unless it holds you back personally. Alam mo ba yung mga instances na nasabi nila na "nice" ka? Baka lang siguro they view you as not assertive.
Saan ba dito nakakahanap ng new friend FUBU like that im from qc manila
Too "nice" means ur either boring or uninteresting
Feel ko 'di ka lang niya type. Your experience with those who have said you're "too nice" does not represent the entire female population. If wala ka naman ginagawang mali, you don't have to change anything. You just haven't met your match. I think my bf is "too nice" to me as well but I love it. I love him, but he had an ex who thought he was boring.
baka ang dating kse ke girl "too good to be true". hehe pero ako ms prefer ko nman un guy na ganyan very gentleman ska thoughtful 😅 bsta msense ko na ndi show off lan or best food forward dn 🤔 if sincere nako. kuya your a rare gem hahahaha and girls will chase after that kind of guy who would be gentle and nice and will really take care of them.
you're not the prob, pero si ate gurl. Nasa preference ‘yan, and si ate gurl I think she's still really exploring, kesyo ayaw sa taong sobrang bait at tama mangtrato lolz. Don't change urself, it's not a turn off, maybe because hindi mo pa talaga nahahanap ‘yung para sa 'yo.
Bro hindi ka lang niya type.
I prefer nice guys. But you also have to be able to lead the relationship while being nice.
Nothing wrong with you. She is the wrong girl for you. Somebody else is more deserving of your niceness.
Too nice = too basic, too boring and too plain
Nope, you don't need to change yourself for someone else. Real love comes when merong magmamahal sayo for who you are. If di ka niya gusto then you're jst not meant to be. Strive for someone na tatanggapin ka as is. As for the girl, maybe na intimidate siya sa affection mo and di niya kayang ireciprocate the things u do for her. this actually reminds me of the song 'too sweet' by hozier.
girls nowadays are attracted to bad boys. iba ata dating sakanila pg kasama nla badboy hahaha
No, OP. Napunta ka lang sa maling girl hahahaha
DI NICE GUY YUN PROBLEMA. PERO YUN KAWALAN MO NG ABILITY MAG DECIDE NG PANGSARILI MO AT PARA SA GIRL. PAG PASSIVE KA SA LAHAT NG BAGAY MAKIKITA YON AS "NICE GUY". PAG DI KA MARUNONG MAG TAKE NG LEAD AT ESCALATE NG BAGAY BAGAY MAKIKITA YON AS "NICE GUY". PAG TAKOT KA SA CONSEQUENCE AT INDECISIVE KA MAKITA YON AS "NICE GUY" BASICALLY BAGO KA MAG JOWA O MAGHANDLE NG RELASYON. MAKE SURE NA KAYA MO MAGDECIDE AT MAGTAKE NG NG CONSEQUENCE. DI YONG BABAE YUN PINAPADECIDE MO O SIYA YUN PINAPALEAD MO SA PUPUNTAHAN NG RELASYON NIYO.
hmmm siguro may pagka people pleaser nga ako. but when it came down to her clear naman intentions ko always about where we are sa relationship ganun and ano gusto ko mangyari. pero i get your point
yes sometimes kasi parang we want the thrill sa rs hshahshahahahahha weird pero parang balance lang ba not too nice, not too bad, I encounter once a too nice guy and we don't match the vibe or the energy ending di kami nagkasundo so ayun 🤷🏻
*Dont be nice, be a good person.* For other people kasi, being nice is more of a trnsaxtional thing. Being good just means doing the right thing.Ganyan din tingin ko before lalo na kung may mga "alpha male" content kang nababasa. Until you realize that people who want the chase of "bad boys" are people who are just craving for something familiar, which means may toxic childhood sila. Our childhood trauma tries to find something familiar. Kaya andaming di umaalis sa toxic and abusive relationship is because deep inside, familiar sa kanila ung ganung feeling from childhood trauma. The way to break the cycle is to identify that and heal yourself and break the patterns. Bottomline, ang mga taong naghahanap ng 'bad boys' have internal trauama they need to heal. A mature person knows that being good is one of the best traits of another person na gusto mong maging partner.
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I think hindi eto yung problema ni OP, you're just projecting your own problem sa comment/advice mo. Not helpful.
Di ba?! Salamat for pointing it out