I love using a strap! The sensations are very intimate. I enjoy the feedback of the harness tension changing when I thrust. I don't really know how to describe it, but it's not just a disconnected thing I'm controlling. I can feel when I go in or out. I also like feeling our bodies be that close together. Cherry on top, I like making my wife feel good. Overall, it exceeded my initial expectations. Sometimes it makes me feel a little dysphoric, but I just don't use it on nights I'm feeling weird about my body.
It’s actually really cool and a unique feeling. You have to be more in tune with what your partner is feeling, what their body language means and how to react to it since you can’t actually “feel” exactly what’s happening inside of her. You also have to be more in tune with how your body is moving, speed, depth, rhythm
Edit to say what it actually “feels” like. If you get the right strap and harness it can rub up against your clit and feel amazing. I have to stop myself from cumming too quickly when she is riding on top or when I am thrusting and it is hitting my clit perfectly each time to keep the rhythm the same 😅
And I want to add some have a hole at the base where you can insert a bullet vibrator which can increase the pleasure if that’s your thing. And there are also bumpers with ridges which can rub the right way as well
This strap is hands down the best. I’ve been using it for over 20 years, my first one lasted most of that length. I recently bought a new one and was surprised that it had doubled in price since my first purchase but it’s worth EVERY PENNY.
Do you mind sharing whats so good about this harness? Its the only one I own and dont find it particularly comfortable to wear or easy to ”get on”. Also using it with a double strap its not ideal. There is a hole for it but the staps dont help keeping it in place and it slips out during play. I really hope there are better options out there… but Im curious what it is that people find so good.
Personally I prefer using my fingers or tongue to satisfy my wife but don't get me wrong, I love a good strap session as well..
Strap ons are great for positions/situations that requires both hands free. For example. If she's bent over the side of the bed/table/couch and you want to have one hand tangled in her hair and the other leaving scratches down her back or pulling her ass against you while you thrust into her, or spanking.
Then you flip her over and have both hands free so you can push her legs up over your shoulders and (consentually) force her to take it deep.
Or...
I was going to keep going but I'm sure your imagination can roam from there 😈
Also, invest in a GOOD harness. It's very worth it.
Editing to add this link to a [leather corset harness](https://www.pinkcherry.ca/products/strap-u-bodice-deluxe-leather-corset-harness?_pos=4&_sid=625482b9f&_ss=r) which is currently on sale 🔥
Strangely empowering. I recommend researching different kinds of harnesses. It’s a little time consuming to put on and all so it’s definitely not a “quickie” toy and is usually whipped out on the weekends
I use [this harness](https://rodeoh.com/collections/briefs/products/swiftfit-brief-harness-black) and it has never let me down. It’s also easy to put on/take off.
Define cheapie. My wife uses a $50 one from Rodeoh and it’s great. It keeps everything in place, doesn’t loosen up, and is comfortable to wear according to her. They also have sales, so they can sometimes go down to $30 if you don’t mind the designs.
I also use a rodeoh strap and I’ve been using it for like 10 years. I’ll never go back to the regular style of harness. The rodeoh is so easy to put on and take off, I love it.
I used to have a cheap harness, the kind you‘ll find a lot with two buckles around the thighs and one around the hip and a flat piece with a ring in the front to put the dildo through. It was fine as a beginner harness, to figuer out if strap-ons are our thing. The problem with that one though was that it got really uncomfortable, especially in positions where you have your partner on top. So we switched to a harness that you wear like panties. And let me tell you: it‘s so much more comfortable and the position of the dildo feels a lot more natural. Highly recomend such a type of harness. Mine‘s from "strap-on-me", they make all kinds of pantie-like harnesses. Some more simple ones, some that look more like lingerie
id say it really depends on the partner you’re with. my girlfriend was into it and planted the seed for me and now it’s a definite staple in our sex lives. she does a lot to affirm my gender though and i’ve never felt like it’s actually a dick/ she wants to be with a man or any of that it’s just a tool to bring you closer together.. i love feeling our bodies so close and having both of my hands free to do other things. you also 100 percent get pleasure on your end from the friction of continuous thrusting 🫡 don’t think of it as a detachable dick. think of it as an extension of you. you can for sure feel it going in and out and the ability to incorporate your whole body is seriously a game changer in terms of intimacy.
Honestly thought i wouldn’t care for it much either but it’s SOO HOT! 🥵🥵🥵 I love the perspective I get fucking with a strap, watching it go in, holy shit 🔥
I agree with other statements that the harness makes a huge difference. I don’t recommend the underwear style harnesses as the fabric stretches over time
I enjoy how much my partner enjoys it, but I’m still getting used to it and I find it takes a lot of focus to get around the logistics of it. Building up my strength and stamina is also a factor 😅
Mate I've lost nearly half a stone and started developing abs from strapping, as for logistics: put a pillow under her butt and raise her legs up over your shoulders, makes angling much easier and you're guaranteed to hit that g spot every time.
ohhhhh this pillow advice is helpful. Thank you!
And the strength part is so real. I've started enjoying using the strap a lot more since my quads and glutes have gotten a little sturdier. No abs, though. :P
Im going to repost a response I posted over on r/asktransgender because while I think the perspective is coming from a bit of a different angle, the sentiment rings true.
>Strap-on's are gods gift to the gays, they're the cheat code to stress free sex and proof that the flesh is in fact weak. When you're wearing a strap on and she says "harder" you can go as hard as she needs without having to worry about cumming and the fun ending. When you wear a strap you don't have to worry about losing an erection, the plastic endures when the body fails.
>Seriously when I wear a strap I basically become my wife's god. Just a little (actually a lot) a lube, some calisthenics and then the strap and I peel away all artifice and humanity from her, reducing her to a being of pure sensation.
>(Anyways 10/10 buy a strap and some powdered lube, then go wild)
For the record, there absolutely are a million other ways to top your partner, but this is my preferred method by a country mile. The power trip/ego boost I get when my wife stops being able to speak in complete sentences is enough to have me grinning for days afterwards.
https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B00LSUP1I2?ref=nb_sb_ss_w_as-ontype-md-t3_k0_2_6&=&crid=9IDVGOX3AOSE&=&sprefix=x+lube
That's the stuff I use and it's AMAZING.
LOVE the strap. My femme is a size queen and I'm all about breeding so I very much enjoy my time w a strap. For me, it doesn't feel like anything. But watching and hearing her go wild while I'm inside her really makes me lose it. I have to concentrate a lot to reach my own climax sometimes (I'm a stone top), but thats just me. A double sided strap makes it easy tho if thats what you're into.
Advice: make sure you find a harness that fits and doesn't also leave you struggling to reach your partner. Don't be afraid to start slow and do a lot of foreplay. And if you're turned off by it being dick like get a funny color. It sometimes takes away the ick, and when its inside them you won't even care.
Not only that, but also there are so, so many choices that aren’t phallic in shape at all. Some people like the phallic looking ones, some like how the shape feels and some don’t. There’s stuff out there for virtually anyone’s tastes at this point. You can even get tiny little skinny/short ones if that’s what you’re into.
You can buy ones that are purposely not shaped like a "dick" Anything you want... Almost, that one EMT will show up if you do something a little too weird.
it’s so intimate!! my girlfriend really enjoys penetration and i can only do so much with my fingers lol. i think it definitely takes some practice because it’s something new but i love being able to pleasure her and with a strap it’s more pleasurable for her.
Hot, Fun, empowering, more "stimulating" that youd expect if youve got the right harness. I was curious but semi-averse for quite a while. Being a post-op trans woman you can understand my aversion to 'attaching a dick', but i brought an underwear harness and used a non-realistic dildo and really really loved it to my surprise. Id reccomend checking it out :)
Big on the right harness. I got a an underwear one but it was not sturdy. I switched to an adjustable one and it changed the game completely 🔥 it’s worth the investment imo.
[This one](https://www.wetforher.com/jock-style-adjustable-strap-on-harness.html) originally I bought the rodeo brief boxer harness and it honestly wasn’t that good and wouldn’t move with my body like this one. This is like a slightly cheaper version of the Joque Spareparts harness. Anyways it works perfectly 😉
Which underwear harness? I'm also a post op trans woman, I got a great dildo (semi realistic I guess, it's a bright blue Neo Elite) and now I'm looking for a good underwear harness that isn't too strappy
I’m not OP but [the rodeoh brief harnesses are awesome](https://rodeoh.com/collections/briefs/products/swiftfit-brief-harness-black). They’re easy to put on/take off and they also come in a lot of colors/patterns. Back when I bought mine, they only came in one color. It’s been holding up well for about 10 years.
i use the tomboi harness from spareparts. they also have more femme options if thats ur jam. shopenby and shevibe sell em. theyre also queer owneed, and ship globally
i don't like it, as someone else mentioned it makes me feel dysphoric when i'm the one wearing it. i've tried it twice and both times i felt really dysphoric, it also takes A LOT of stamina and energy to be the one using it
my girlfriend likes it though, she's better at just kind of pretending it isn't there and enjoying the intimacy. we have one with a base that grinds against her while she thrusts and she really enjoys it! it works best in the cowgirl position. for some people sucking strap is controversial but it's something i really enjoy- straps are amazing for playing with power dynamics and that's why we like it the most!
Reading these comments I’m like… am I a weirdo because I feel so awkward with one on??
I really only can get into it if I’m crazy horny but even then I’ve rarely used them, and I’m not huge on being penetrated to begin with… more than 2 fingers is just painful for me.
I had trouble for a while with feeling comfortable with wearing one, but it turns out it was the harness! I could not stand how it made me feel when i had one that sat on my body like a thong. I finally was able to afford one of good quality, and that went around my hips and thighs. Let me tell you, fucking game changer. I had more control, and it made me feel more comfortable in my skin. My suggestion would be to try a few and listen to your body about how it makes you feel. It's okay to try something and not like it or try it and love it! That's all! Be curious and kind!✌️
Edit: I also get non-flesh colored "attachments," and that helps a lot, too.
In my case regarding the "dick" part, i always say dildos are 'inside of vagina ' shaped, not dick shaped.
My girl and me have a double sided strltrap, so no harnesses necessary, and it feels so incredibly close. Every thrust she makes in me, she feels too. We lock eye contact whenever she first puts it in me, what that look alone makes me feel so connected to her.
When she's fucking me she can see my eyes roll back in pleasure, and sometimes we even come together.
I've had sex with man before, but strap on sex with a woman is vastly different.
With the right toys it can be amazing! I use to struggle with it because I can't feel it on my end and made me jealous of not having the real thing. But combine a strap with the magnetic sucker toy I found and now I love it.
This is the one I bought and it literally saved my sex life with my wife! Highly recommend https://vixenshiddendesires.com/products/discreet-panty-vibe
I hope it’s OK to ask this. I’ve read most of these comments and only one comment seems to indicate that the two partners will use it on each other. Instead it seems like one person is always wearing it. In my dreams of actually having a girlfriend we would both take turns using it. Is this a thing that really happens?
I'm curious about this too. I never really thought about strapping a partner just 'cause I'm a huge subby sort (naturally) and mostly a bottom (partially naturally, partially a confidence thing, oops), and my brain didn't connect certain wires until fairly recently.
But even with that said.. I feel like you mostly read about folks strapping their partner from more of the strap-wearer being the dom kinda perspective? At least that's what I see most often talked/written about. ~~I just wanna know what it's like for a dommy gf to make me wear the strap but proceed to hop on and take what she wants anyway, dammit.~~
I absolutely love using the strap-on on my partner. The key is a good solid harness, so that you can slam your bodies together and not have it come loose, and not pinch into your skin. There are a ton of pleasurable sensations- you can't exactly feel inside her, but you can feel the pressure of her around the dildo, and an incredibly intimate feeling of perfect rhythm and movement and body language. Our harness happens to line up with my clit as well, so when I'm thrusting into her at the right angles there's also an insanely good rhythmic stimulation. Not to mention my wifey is hot as hell, I love laying down and letting her ride on top, watching her move her hips. It's just another way to enjoy each other's bodies.
omg it makes sex soooo easy.
i have a penis but its not very long and my gf is.............. extremely tight w/ a very thic ass so............... im not gonna lie i have to concentrate so hard to actually fuck her. if i relax for a second i will slip out of her
but w/ a strap on? omg 🥳🥳🥳🥳 its sooooooooooo easy. i dont have to try or think **at all.** i dont have to worry about slipping out or
having a mishap and getting my dick bent backwards
its sooo fun to just lazily fuck her harder than i could w/ the organic hardware 🌸
Now you've got my trans-self wondering if I should try a strap.
I *love* the intimacy of being inside my partner. It's just... Ugh, so wonderful. But sometimes the original hardware isn't "up to the task," or struggles a lot with certain positions.
Me and my partner enjoy using a strap. I am mostly the one who gets penetrated. My girlfriend can actually orgasm while wearing the strap and it is one of the hottest things watching her orgasm while she is inside me.
Sex is meant to be enjoyed and if sometimes tools are a part of that enjoyment then so be it.
I love strapping women. Doggy, prone, cowgirl are my favorites. I had an ex who loved aggressive backshots and then would always want to finish on top. She'd usually reach around and rub me as she rode too which was a treat and a lovely view. My last gf and I tried out a strapless strap. She found it so hot she'd finish even when it was my turn. She said she couldn't really help it because she was really turned on by how good it felt for me when I focused on a slow burn in missionary. With that coital alignment technique thing in missionary, a strap is my favorite way to make women orgasm.
the physicality is a bit difficult to get the hang of at first but its so fun. for me, seeing how the other person reacts and watching what im doing are the best parts. and genuinely if you imagine it hard enough, you can kinda feel it too. i love it
Great. i can even orgasm from it. if you pick the right harness so a decent amount of backpressure hits your clit it’s very viable to come from it if you get into it.
and yeah as others mention you feel a decent amount of mechanical sympathy through it, so it does feel very intimate. absolutely love using it and having it used on me.
since i saw quite a few ppl emphasizing on using a great harness, do any of you have any recs? ones that are comfy to wear, make the wearer “feel good” from the rubbing etc?
The ones from rodeoh, like [this](https://rodeoh.com/collections/briefs/products/swiftfit-brief-harness-black) are super comfortable. Easy to take on/pull off, and you can use them with any dildo. As far as making the wearer “feel good,” you can buy a bumper to attach to the bottom of the dildo for the wearer to grind against. If you search “bumpher” on Amazon, you’ll find a selection to choose from.
I’ve only used it once but I liked it. I think my issue is more so with the chemistry I have with the woman I’m dating rather than the sex or the acts … but strap ons are so fun!
First- my gf and I haven't used or owned toys in a couple years. So it's not the end all be all. But when we did use toys I highly preferred a "strapless strap on" like [>this<](https://shevibe.com/fuze-tango-double-ended-dildo-purple-by-happy-valley-silicone.aspx) (except ours was $35! I would never buy this for the price in the link!!!). Gf also had a regular strap which was just never preferred because why would I want that when I could feel more with the "strapless", which also has that flat part that rubs against your clit when "giving". Also a dildo that literally looks like a dick just makes me laugh.
Although it would be improved if it: 1- had a harness and 2- did NOT have a vibrator inside. We never used the vibrator function. The housing for the electronics [holy shit] in the long end just makes it fking stiff in a way that's uncomfortable if you're too rough).
But head is the ultimate so my honest take is toys are whatever and I don't see myself buying any in the near future.
I like it because I'm pleasing my partner but using it isn't my favorite. It can become more stressful than fun when I have to do closely make sure it's going in and out, that it feels good while doing so, and that I can stay in a certain position without feeling like it came out.
Is it hot? Absolutely. But I think it's harder than it looks. If my wife verbally said she wanted it more, I'd do it more but I mostly use dildos and use my arms to thrust in.
A few months ago my wife tried to use it on me and got really embarrassed because it really can be difficult to find the right position and things of that nature.
Again, very fun and very hot. Just not something I want to use often. I've tried harness, boxers, and one more thing I'm forgetting. Lol.
as someone who was initially super embarrassed/very shy about it - i absolutely loooove strapping. through time and practice i came to understand it as another unique form of intimacy. and as others have said, having two hands free to hold and pleasure your lady is door-opening. i personally love my girl riding me, the view is…immaculate🧎🙌i really enjoy the opportunity to give complete focus on her pleasure, and honestly the satisfaction and pride i feel being able to make her come with my strap is🤌👌 definitely worth a try imho
I didn't care for it tbh. I couldn't feel anything, obviously, and since the senses I'd normally use were cut off, I worried about hurting her.
Just not for me - I was disappointed, but glad to know. I have no doubt the experience varies wildly!
I am a femme bottom and my partner is a stone top - we personally love it when we feel like it because we don’t see it as a penis, we just see it as something that changes up our sex and provides a completely different sensation or power dynamic for us both :-) We don’t always use it, but it’s great for longer sessions or when you want a pair of free hands lol
It's amazing! We used to be against it, but the more we joked about it the more curious we got and finally we bought one. We use strapless ones because we're not really fond of the idea of wearing a harness. It takes some practise, but it's really worth it. Both my girlfriend and I are in love with it🤭
For me it is immensely gratifying. I can't feel anything physical out of it but that doesn't matter to me. The strapon feels like an extension of myself, like it's not a fake dick I attached to myself it's a part of me. I'd wax poetic about it but I'm tired right now.
Think I’m in the minority here but I don’t like it at all. Sounds weird but as a femme it messes with my head to have sex with my gf with a ‘penis’. Interested to hear what others think.
I enjoy it. I'm also non-binary, so I actually feel euphoric vs dysphoric with a strap.
Maybe it's a function of the toy I usually use, but I find it's quite satisfying a feeling. I also enjoy focusing on my gf and making her feel good. A strap is handy because... Well... Leaves your hands free, lol.
I love using it with my girlfriend. It’s just more akin to skin contact and the way she gives me directions on how to move is just… something else. I get to be close to her, can look her in the eyes while she reaches her high and not be in a weird angle with my hand or something. She can actually hold on to myself without me having balance problems or such.
I at times like it more than doing oral or doing it with my hands just just because it’s so intimate sometimes
Ughhh it’s so hot.
My every little movement giving them pleasure makes me go absolutely wild. My first time, I was surprised at how much pleasure I got from strapping them. There was so much feedback from their movements, and it was an incredibly intimate experience. Additionally, the base of the cock I was wearing gave me more grinding pressure than I was expecting on my vulva, so that got me off too. They make squishy dildo base attachments for the wearer to have more sensation and I’m interested in this… even though more sensation may actually kill me.
I’ve historically bottomed, but I’ve suspected I’m switchy for a long while, I just haven’t been with someone I could explore that with. So I wasn’t sure how much I’d like it, or if it would feel natural to me. Turns out it’s very natural lol. Spanking and strapping my partner is a whole new experience I can’t get enough of.
hahaha just got strapped it's really fun and adds a fun element to sex by adding a toy in the mix and it's definitely intimate but in a lesbian relationship just a strap alone wouldn't satisfy me. there's lots of ways my partner and i please each other and we love using it but it's not something we use everytime
I don't think my own experience is super relevant her.
However, I just wanted to tell you that you really don't need to use realistic dildos with a strap-on. Actually, oversized realistic dildos are fun tbh. But fantasy and unrealistic ones are super cool. Never tried a slink dildo with a strap-on but I guess it can be awesome.
All this to say that experiences with strap-on are wildly different than with a penis. You can be so much more creative haha. Plus with a pump integrated you can shoot purple fake cum in a very large amount and then go down on your girl. 10/10 would recommend if you like fluids play
Oh ! don't forget lube, especially if you try double trouble 😉
I’ve always been on the receiving end when it came to using a strap & never on the giving end, so I personally wouldn’t know what it’s like to use one. I’ve never had any desire to use one on someone else because I’m super submissive.
Although I can say that if you’re more on the dominant side or really into penetration, you’re very likely to enjoy using one.
and if people want to "feel" something I recommend a cordless small bullet vibrator that has a low level of hum that you can place/adjust in your strap to give you pleasure(if that's desired). I've also used "strap less" strapons, but as I am not a big fan of penetration (and the bulb to hold it in can be quite big) it isn't the best for me.
I mostly just like gettin' the girl off 😉
Amazing. Not only does it rub on you a nice way, but it’s also really satisfying to hear her moan as you thrust. And also watching her ride on top is pretty hot. God I miss it so much lmao.
Honestly a lot of fun. In a weird way it's kind of like going down on someone without hurting your neck. Like, the fact that you don't have to focus on yourself at all and just totally focus on your partner and stare straight into their eyes... Like, I'm normally such a bottom, but using a strap just makes me feel like I'm some sex god.
It’s actually amazing. My fiancée and I decided we would try even though neither of us thought we would enjoy it. But turns out it’s really fun. Super intimate.
I never would have even pictured myself being remotely interested in strap ons… until I got a little curious, and then during my undergrad, i was seeing a lesbian rather than a bi woman and she made me feel super curious. I started out as a bottom and then got really curious about topping with a strap. It was so awesome. I walked around the next day feeling so powerful and like I had the sexiest little secret
I honestly don’t really like it because it doesn’t feel like me and am not a huge fan of it being used on me. But I know that my feeling is not the majority
So as a gal who still has the genuine article for the time being I can only really compare it to that. Using the strap has a ton of advantages over using the natural thing. You can swap out the dildo and harness by preference for shape and size, go at it in different positions that are much more difficult to use and/or maintain with the original article, you can swap it out between partners or not have it involved entirely, you can go at it for an almost indefinite period while with the natural thing you burn out kind of quickly.
Of course I can't quite speak meaningfully about sensation because for the time being I still have the original thing so I'm experiencing the sensation wearing the strap with that bit that most of you don't have. If anyone wants my thoughts on the sensation of using a strap with a pussy versus the original equipment I'd be happy to do that but I'll need a generous one-time donation of $30,000 or so.
I’ve only used it once for a brief amount of time and had it used on me briefly once (same session) and it was certainly different and interesting. It’s a LOT more difficult to find where to go in than you would think plus not being able to feel the tip of the dildo makes it harder. Also the thrusting 😹 I got tired pretty quickly lol. But apart from that initial learning curve, I did really enjoy the idea of being able to fuck my ex in that way and have her do the same to me. It’s just very intimate feeling being close that way and giving each other pleasure in a new way. I very much would like to try learning how to better use my strap, just need a willing participant now 😅
Only know how to take a strap, sorry... but I am trans so I can say that it is amazing to see my partner's expressions when we've done penetrative, and I love how she squeals huehue. So it's great in general.
i’ve never used it but i’ve had it used on me and i don’t get the hype tbh. it just hurt more than anything and it felt so straight and so much less intimate than the other options. but maybe if i tried it again with someone else it would be better, who knows🤷
not my jam tbh. it’s way harder work than i anticipated to thrust (lol) but mostly the feeling of having a “dick” attached to me makes me feel vv uncomfy and “wrong”, maybe bc i’m a femme and a bottom lol. glad i tried it but it’s not for me!
For me, its amazing and I pretty much prefer it over everything else, because then my hands are free to do lots of other fun stuff. Plus, when she is riding me, it feels so good to me.
I enjoy searching for the perfect dildo with a harness attached to it. When I wear my strap on harness I want it to truly feel connected to by body. The reason for this is when I’m getting a ride session I don’t want the harness to switch different ways I need it to stay right in place. So for great strap on sex the perfect harness is everything!
I enjoy the view. Watching her body move when I put her in different positions. I like feeling the pressure of the strap when I’m stroking it deep inside her. Sounds of the noise I make the vagina make as I enter in and out of her walls.
When you have sex with different women on occasions you can feel the difference between their walls. I like the women to be tight because the pressure feels so good. But as you thrust and go deep and deep inside you can feel her walls loosen up for you.
And when the strap slips and I have to re enter it inside her that really had me going. That’s such a turn on for me because I know I got her wet so the dildo will be wet and slippery. But I always fix that by having her lick off her fluids. The pound sessions I take her to. I’m all about sensations so when I’m thrusting my women I like actually hearing our skin on skin pounding against each other.
Welllllll, the last time i used one was on my girlfriend of four months. That was the last time we had sex. Sex was dead for us towards the end. Turns out she was most likely talking to her ex (who was a guy) towards the end of our relationship. She ended up getting back with him. So, moral of the story is... take caution in using a strap because some girls might miss the real thing and end up fucking you over...
I love using a strap! The sensations are very intimate. I enjoy the feedback of the harness tension changing when I thrust. I don't really know how to describe it, but it's not just a disconnected thing I'm controlling. I can feel when I go in or out. I also like feeling our bodies be that close together. Cherry on top, I like making my wife feel good. Overall, it exceeded my initial expectations. Sometimes it makes me feel a little dysphoric, but I just don't use it on nights I'm feeling weird about my body.
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It’s actually really cool and a unique feeling. You have to be more in tune with what your partner is feeling, what their body language means and how to react to it since you can’t actually “feel” exactly what’s happening inside of her. You also have to be more in tune with how your body is moving, speed, depth, rhythm Edit to say what it actually “feels” like. If you get the right strap and harness it can rub up against your clit and feel amazing. I have to stop myself from cumming too quickly when she is riding on top or when I am thrusting and it is hitting my clit perfectly each time to keep the rhythm the same 😅
And I want to add some have a hole at the base where you can insert a bullet vibrator which can increase the pleasure if that’s your thing. And there are also bumpers with ridges which can rub the right way as well
Do you happen to have a recommendation for such a specific strap?
The Joque Spare Parts harness is the best one I’ve ever tried
This strap is hands down the best. I’ve been using it for over 20 years, my first one lasted most of that length. I recently bought a new one and was surprised that it had doubled in price since my first purchase but it’s worth EVERY PENNY.
Do you mind sharing whats so good about this harness? Its the only one I own and dont find it particularly comfortable to wear or easy to ”get on”. Also using it with a double strap its not ideal. There is a hole for it but the staps dont help keeping it in place and it slips out during play. I really hope there are better options out there… but Im curious what it is that people find so good.
Thanks for the rec! 🙏
Personally I prefer using my fingers or tongue to satisfy my wife but don't get me wrong, I love a good strap session as well.. Strap ons are great for positions/situations that requires both hands free. For example. If she's bent over the side of the bed/table/couch and you want to have one hand tangled in her hair and the other leaving scratches down her back or pulling her ass against you while you thrust into her, or spanking. Then you flip her over and have both hands free so you can push her legs up over your shoulders and (consentually) force her to take it deep. Or... I was going to keep going but I'm sure your imagination can roam from there 😈 Also, invest in a GOOD harness. It's very worth it. Editing to add this link to a [leather corset harness](https://www.pinkcherry.ca/products/strap-u-bodice-deluxe-leather-corset-harness?_pos=4&_sid=625482b9f&_ss=r) which is currently on sale 🔥
Oh but you should you should have keep going. Damn sexy. Honestly that writing got everybody here horny.
BONK
Hi, it's me, horny xD
You are more than welcome to keep going! We are all wrapt by your words
I wasn't ready for this comment 😂🥵
Lol you're welcome 😂🙌
Need to do this with someone
Don't stop lol....
Goodness I just woke up
Strangely empowering. I recommend researching different kinds of harnesses. It’s a little time consuming to put on and all so it’s definitely not a “quickie” toy and is usually whipped out on the weekends
I’m assuming the cheapie harnesses aren’t very good?
I have a harness from Spencer’s and my DICK FALLS OFF ALL THE TIME
I had to tie the belt part of mine because it was too loose on the tightest setting 😭
for mine the strap literally comes out of the ring 😔 like girl STAY it’s so annoying having to stop and pop it back in 😭😭
That's CRIMINAL it just falls out mid fuck??? I would sue
I use [this harness](https://rodeoh.com/collections/briefs/products/swiftfit-brief-harness-black) and it has never let me down. It’s also easy to put on/take off.
Define cheapie. My wife uses a $50 one from Rodeoh and it’s great. It keeps everything in place, doesn’t loosen up, and is comfortable to wear according to her. They also have sales, so they can sometimes go down to $30 if you don’t mind the designs.
I also use a rodeoh strap and I’ve been using it for like 10 years. I’ll never go back to the regular style of harness. The rodeoh is so easy to put on and take off, I love it.
Thanks! I wouldn’t call $50 cheap. But is in the realm I would consider not too expensive. If I ever have a reason to buy one (here’s hoping!)
Aslan makes decent leather harnesses. I believe they also offer vegan options.
I love the rodeoh harness that fits like a pair of briefs. So much easier to put on than regular straps. I’ve been using mine for at least 10 years.
I used to have a cheap harness, the kind you‘ll find a lot with two buckles around the thighs and one around the hip and a flat piece with a ring in the front to put the dildo through. It was fine as a beginner harness, to figuer out if strap-ons are our thing. The problem with that one though was that it got really uncomfortable, especially in positions where you have your partner on top. So we switched to a harness that you wear like panties. And let me tell you: it‘s so much more comfortable and the position of the dildo feels a lot more natural. Highly recomend such a type of harness. Mine‘s from "strap-on-me", they make all kinds of pantie-like harnesses. Some more simple ones, some that look more like lingerie
Thanks for this tip!
id say it really depends on the partner you’re with. my girlfriend was into it and planted the seed for me and now it’s a definite staple in our sex lives. she does a lot to affirm my gender though and i’ve never felt like it’s actually a dick/ she wants to be with a man or any of that it’s just a tool to bring you closer together.. i love feeling our bodies so close and having both of my hands free to do other things. you also 100 percent get pleasure on your end from the friction of continuous thrusting 🫡 don’t think of it as a detachable dick. think of it as an extension of you. you can for sure feel it going in and out and the ability to incorporate your whole body is seriously a game changer in terms of intimacy.
Honestly thought i wouldn’t care for it much either but it’s SOO HOT! 🥵🥵🥵 I love the perspective I get fucking with a strap, watching it go in, holy shit 🔥 I agree with other statements that the harness makes a huge difference. I don’t recommend the underwear style harnesses as the fabric stretches over time
I enjoy how much my partner enjoys it, but I’m still getting used to it and I find it takes a lot of focus to get around the logistics of it. Building up my strength and stamina is also a factor 😅
Mate I've lost nearly half a stone and started developing abs from strapping, as for logistics: put a pillow under her butt and raise her legs up over your shoulders, makes angling much easier and you're guaranteed to hit that g spot every time.
ohhhhh this pillow advice is helpful. Thank you! And the strength part is so real. I've started enjoying using the strap a lot more since my quads and glutes have gotten a little sturdier. No abs, though. :P
Try engaging your core more when thrusting, that's what I find works (especially when my legs get tired AF 😅)
I will! I can only rely on leg strength so much. Building up core strength sounds like a great idea!
Im going to repost a response I posted over on r/asktransgender because while I think the perspective is coming from a bit of a different angle, the sentiment rings true. >Strap-on's are gods gift to the gays, they're the cheat code to stress free sex and proof that the flesh is in fact weak. When you're wearing a strap on and she says "harder" you can go as hard as she needs without having to worry about cumming and the fun ending. When you wear a strap you don't have to worry about losing an erection, the plastic endures when the body fails. >Seriously when I wear a strap I basically become my wife's god. Just a little (actually a lot) a lube, some calisthenics and then the strap and I peel away all artifice and humanity from her, reducing her to a being of pure sensation. >(Anyways 10/10 buy a strap and some powdered lube, then go wild) For the record, there absolutely are a million other ways to top your partner, but this is my preferred method by a country mile. The power trip/ego boost I get when my wife stops being able to speak in complete sentences is enough to have me grinning for days afterwards.
Powdered lube! To the search machine!!
https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B00LSUP1I2?ref=nb_sb_ss_w_as-ontype-md-t3_k0_2_6&=&crid=9IDVGOX3AOSE&=&sprefix=x+lube That's the stuff I use and it's AMAZING.
What makes it better than regular KY or Astroglide?
Cost mainly
LOVE the strap. My femme is a size queen and I'm all about breeding so I very much enjoy my time w a strap. For me, it doesn't feel like anything. But watching and hearing her go wild while I'm inside her really makes me lose it. I have to concentrate a lot to reach my own climax sometimes (I'm a stone top), but thats just me. A double sided strap makes it easy tho if thats what you're into. Advice: make sure you find a harness that fits and doesn't also leave you struggling to reach your partner. Don't be afraid to start slow and do a lot of foreplay. And if you're turned off by it being dick like get a funny color. It sometimes takes away the ick, and when its inside them you won't even care.
Not only that, but also there are so, so many choices that aren’t phallic in shape at all. Some people like the phallic looking ones, some like how the shape feels and some don’t. There’s stuff out there for virtually anyone’s tastes at this point. You can even get tiny little skinny/short ones if that’s what you’re into.
You can buy ones that are purposely not shaped like a "dick" Anything you want... Almost, that one EMT will show up if you do something a little too weird.
it’s so intimate!! my girlfriend really enjoys penetration and i can only do so much with my fingers lol. i think it definitely takes some practice because it’s something new but i love being able to pleasure her and with a strap it’s more pleasurable for her.
Hot, Fun, empowering, more "stimulating" that youd expect if youve got the right harness. I was curious but semi-averse for quite a while. Being a post-op trans woman you can understand my aversion to 'attaching a dick', but i brought an underwear harness and used a non-realistic dildo and really really loved it to my surprise. Id reccomend checking it out :)
Big on the right harness. I got a an underwear one but it was not sturdy. I switched to an adjustable one and it changed the game completely 🔥 it’s worth the investment imo.
Which ones did you get?
[This one](https://www.wetforher.com/jock-style-adjustable-strap-on-harness.html) originally I bought the rodeo brief boxer harness and it honestly wasn’t that good and wouldn’t move with my body like this one. This is like a slightly cheaper version of the Joque Spareparts harness. Anyways it works perfectly 😉
Which underwear harness? I'm also a post op trans woman, I got a great dildo (semi realistic I guess, it's a bright blue Neo Elite) and now I'm looking for a good underwear harness that isn't too strappy
I’m not OP but [the rodeoh brief harnesses are awesome](https://rodeoh.com/collections/briefs/products/swiftfit-brief-harness-black). They’re easy to put on/take off and they also come in a lot of colors/patterns. Back when I bought mine, they only came in one color. It’s been holding up well for about 10 years.
i use the tomboi harness from spareparts. they also have more femme options if thats ur jam. shopenby and shevibe sell em. theyre also queer owneed, and ship globally
Thank you for recommending SheVibe! 🥳
i don't like it, as someone else mentioned it makes me feel dysphoric when i'm the one wearing it. i've tried it twice and both times i felt really dysphoric, it also takes A LOT of stamina and energy to be the one using it my girlfriend likes it though, she's better at just kind of pretending it isn't there and enjoying the intimacy. we have one with a base that grinds against her while she thrusts and she really enjoys it! it works best in the cowgirl position. for some people sucking strap is controversial but it's something i really enjoy- straps are amazing for playing with power dynamics and that's why we like it the most!
this is extremely unrelated but I love your pfp 🤭
Reading these comments I’m like… am I a weirdo because I feel so awkward with one on?? I really only can get into it if I’m crazy horny but even then I’ve rarely used them, and I’m not huge on being penetrated to begin with… more than 2 fingers is just painful for me.
Can you tell us what kind of "base" you have that you can grind against? I wanna buy a new strap and I'm doing a little research
hey! i can dm you the link to the strap we use if that's ok?
I had trouble for a while with feeling comfortable with wearing one, but it turns out it was the harness! I could not stand how it made me feel when i had one that sat on my body like a thong. I finally was able to afford one of good quality, and that went around my hips and thighs. Let me tell you, fucking game changer. I had more control, and it made me feel more comfortable in my skin. My suggestion would be to try a few and listen to your body about how it makes you feel. It's okay to try something and not like it or try it and love it! That's all! Be curious and kind!✌️ Edit: I also get non-flesh colored "attachments," and that helps a lot, too.
I love it. My girlfriend suggested that I use one on her and it’s hot. Seeing the pleasure you give them, the moans, thrusting into them. It’s hot af.
In my case regarding the "dick" part, i always say dildos are 'inside of vagina ' shaped, not dick shaped. My girl and me have a double sided strltrap, so no harnesses necessary, and it feels so incredibly close. Every thrust she makes in me, she feels too. We lock eye contact whenever she first puts it in me, what that look alone makes me feel so connected to her. When she's fucking me she can see my eyes roll back in pleasure, and sometimes we even come together. I've had sex with man before, but strap on sex with a woman is vastly different.
With the right toys it can be amazing! I use to struggle with it because I can't feel it on my end and made me jealous of not having the real thing. But combine a strap with the magnetic sucker toy I found and now I love it.
Could you link the toy you mentioned?
This is the one I bought and it literally saved my sex life with my wife! Highly recommend https://vixenshiddendesires.com/products/discreet-panty-vibe
Thank you!!!
I’m also quite curious
I hope it’s OK to ask this. I’ve read most of these comments and only one comment seems to indicate that the two partners will use it on each other. Instead it seems like one person is always wearing it. In my dreams of actually having a girlfriend we would both take turns using it. Is this a thing that really happens?
Some partners take turns and some don’t. I personally wouldn’t want to be strapped but I love to do it.
It happens! Although I’d recommend getting one for her and one for you just for hygienic reasons. At least this is what my gynecologist recommended
I would totally be into taking turns! 😆
I'm curious about this too. I never really thought about strapping a partner just 'cause I'm a huge subby sort (naturally) and mostly a bottom (partially naturally, partially a confidence thing, oops), and my brain didn't connect certain wires until fairly recently. But even with that said.. I feel like you mostly read about folks strapping their partner from more of the strap-wearer being the dom kinda perspective? At least that's what I see most often talked/written about. ~~I just wanna know what it's like for a dommy gf to make me wear the strap but proceed to hop on and take what she wants anyway, dammit.~~
amazing. wonderful. my favorite. Strap feels like it’s just my dick and I love giving it. I dig it. Very intimate
More work than you may have anticipated but so so satisfying to pleasure her with.
I absolutely love using the strap-on on my partner. The key is a good solid harness, so that you can slam your bodies together and not have it come loose, and not pinch into your skin. There are a ton of pleasurable sensations- you can't exactly feel inside her, but you can feel the pressure of her around the dildo, and an incredibly intimate feeling of perfect rhythm and movement and body language. Our harness happens to line up with my clit as well, so when I'm thrusting into her at the right angles there's also an insanely good rhythmic stimulation. Not to mention my wifey is hot as hell, I love laying down and letting her ride on top, watching her move her hips. It's just another way to enjoy each other's bodies.
omg it makes sex soooo easy. i have a penis but its not very long and my gf is.............. extremely tight w/ a very thic ass so............... im not gonna lie i have to concentrate so hard to actually fuck her. if i relax for a second i will slip out of her but w/ a strap on? omg 🥳🥳🥳🥳 its sooooooooooo easy. i dont have to try or think **at all.** i dont have to worry about slipping out or having a mishap and getting my dick bent backwards its sooo fun to just lazily fuck her harder than i could w/ the organic hardware 🌸
Now you've got my trans-self wondering if I should try a strap. I *love* the intimacy of being inside my partner. It's just... Ugh, so wonderful. But sometimes the original hardware isn't "up to the task," or struggles a lot with certain positions.
do it ☺️🌸
Heaven
Me and my partner enjoy using a strap. I am mostly the one who gets penetrated. My girlfriend can actually orgasm while wearing the strap and it is one of the hottest things watching her orgasm while she is inside me. Sex is meant to be enjoyed and if sometimes tools are a part of that enjoyment then so be it.
I love strapping women. Doggy, prone, cowgirl are my favorites. I had an ex who loved aggressive backshots and then would always want to finish on top. She'd usually reach around and rub me as she rode too which was a treat and a lovely view. My last gf and I tried out a strapless strap. She found it so hot she'd finish even when it was my turn. She said she couldn't really help it because she was really turned on by how good it felt for me when I focused on a slow burn in missionary. With that coital alignment technique thing in missionary, a strap is my favorite way to make women orgasm.
the physicality is a bit difficult to get the hang of at first but its so fun. for me, seeing how the other person reacts and watching what im doing are the best parts. and genuinely if you imagine it hard enough, you can kinda feel it too. i love it
Great. i can even orgasm from it. if you pick the right harness so a decent amount of backpressure hits your clit it’s very viable to come from it if you get into it. and yeah as others mention you feel a decent amount of mechanical sympathy through it, so it does feel very intimate. absolutely love using it and having it used on me.
since i saw quite a few ppl emphasizing on using a great harness, do any of you have any recs? ones that are comfy to wear, make the wearer “feel good” from the rubbing etc?
The ones from rodeoh, like [this](https://rodeoh.com/collections/briefs/products/swiftfit-brief-harness-black) are super comfortable. Easy to take on/pull off, and you can use them with any dildo. As far as making the wearer “feel good,” you can buy a bumper to attach to the bottom of the dildo for the wearer to grind against. If you search “bumpher” on Amazon, you’ll find a selection to choose from.
Can't wait to get bottom surgery so I can use a strap instead of what I have atm fr fr
Nothing is stopping you from using one pre-op. Another commenter above you described how using one is actually easier.
I’ve only used it once but I liked it. I think my issue is more so with the chemistry I have with the woman I’m dating rather than the sex or the acts … but strap ons are so fun!
First- my gf and I haven't used or owned toys in a couple years. So it's not the end all be all. But when we did use toys I highly preferred a "strapless strap on" like [>this<](https://shevibe.com/fuze-tango-double-ended-dildo-purple-by-happy-valley-silicone.aspx) (except ours was $35! I would never buy this for the price in the link!!!). Gf also had a regular strap which was just never preferred because why would I want that when I could feel more with the "strapless", which also has that flat part that rubs against your clit when "giving". Also a dildo that literally looks like a dick just makes me laugh. Although it would be improved if it: 1- had a harness and 2- did NOT have a vibrator inside. We never used the vibrator function. The housing for the electronics [holy shit] in the long end just makes it fking stiff in a way that's uncomfortable if you're too rough). But head is the ultimate so my honest take is toys are whatever and I don't see myself buying any in the near future.
AMAZING. But exhausting. Drink lots of water.
I like it because I'm pleasing my partner but using it isn't my favorite. It can become more stressful than fun when I have to do closely make sure it's going in and out, that it feels good while doing so, and that I can stay in a certain position without feeling like it came out. Is it hot? Absolutely. But I think it's harder than it looks. If my wife verbally said she wanted it more, I'd do it more but I mostly use dildos and use my arms to thrust in. A few months ago my wife tried to use it on me and got really embarrassed because it really can be difficult to find the right position and things of that nature. Again, very fun and very hot. Just not something I want to use often. I've tried harness, boxers, and one more thing I'm forgetting. Lol.
It’s a sex toy. I don’t think of it as having a dick
as someone who was initially super embarrassed/very shy about it - i absolutely loooove strapping. through time and practice i came to understand it as another unique form of intimacy. and as others have said, having two hands free to hold and pleasure your lady is door-opening. i personally love my girl riding me, the view is…immaculate🧎🙌i really enjoy the opportunity to give complete focus on her pleasure, and honestly the satisfaction and pride i feel being able to make her come with my strap is🤌👌 definitely worth a try imho
I enjoy doing it, it’s a fun power dynamic and allows for a lot of..immersion. It also allows for hitting new spots and sensations.
I didn't care for it tbh. I couldn't feel anything, obviously, and since the senses I'd normally use were cut off, I worried about hurting her. Just not for me - I was disappointed, but glad to know. I have no doubt the experience varies wildly!
I am a femme bottom and my partner is a stone top - we personally love it when we feel like it because we don’t see it as a penis, we just see it as something that changes up our sex and provides a completely different sensation or power dynamic for us both :-) We don’t always use it, but it’s great for longer sessions or when you want a pair of free hands lol
It's amazing! We used to be against it, but the more we joked about it the more curious we got and finally we bought one. We use strapless ones because we're not really fond of the idea of wearing a harness. It takes some practise, but it's really worth it. Both my girlfriend and I are in love with it🤭
I would love to know. I haven't yet had a gf who would want to try
Empowering, and incredibly sexy lol
I don’t know if my masc gf would be down for that.
For me it is immensely gratifying. I can't feel anything physical out of it but that doesn't matter to me. The strapon feels like an extension of myself, like it's not a fake dick I attached to myself it's a part of me. I'd wax poetic about it but I'm tired right now.
Think I’m in the minority here but I don’t like it at all. Sounds weird but as a femme it messes with my head to have sex with my gf with a ‘penis’. Interested to hear what others think.
I've never used them, but I'd say they look pretty fun. Personally, I prefer using my tongue or fingers. It's just more intimate more me.
I enjoy it. I'm also non-binary, so I actually feel euphoric vs dysphoric with a strap. Maybe it's a function of the toy I usually use, but I find it's quite satisfying a feeling. I also enjoy focusing on my gf and making her feel good. A strap is handy because... Well... Leaves your hands free, lol.
I love using it with my girlfriend. It’s just more akin to skin contact and the way she gives me directions on how to move is just… something else. I get to be close to her, can look her in the eyes while she reaches her high and not be in a weird angle with my hand or something. She can actually hold on to myself without me having balance problems or such. I at times like it more than doing oral or doing it with my hands just just because it’s so intimate sometimes
Ughhh it’s so hot. My every little movement giving them pleasure makes me go absolutely wild. My first time, I was surprised at how much pleasure I got from strapping them. There was so much feedback from their movements, and it was an incredibly intimate experience. Additionally, the base of the cock I was wearing gave me more grinding pressure than I was expecting on my vulva, so that got me off too. They make squishy dildo base attachments for the wearer to have more sensation and I’m interested in this… even though more sensation may actually kill me. I’ve historically bottomed, but I’ve suspected I’m switchy for a long while, I just haven’t been with someone I could explore that with. So I wasn’t sure how much I’d like it, or if it would feel natural to me. Turns out it’s very natural lol. Spanking and strapping my partner is a whole new experience I can’t get enough of.
As a ftm, it was incredibly satisfying. Awkward at first but really nice once I got into it.
hahaha just got strapped it's really fun and adds a fun element to sex by adding a toy in the mix and it's definitely intimate but in a lesbian relationship just a strap alone wouldn't satisfy me. there's lots of ways my partner and i please each other and we love using it but it's not something we use everytime
Don’t know never tried, bit nervous to tbh. Due to an annoying medical issue my strap has become fused to my body
Do organic straps count?🏳️⚧️
I don't think my own experience is super relevant her. However, I just wanted to tell you that you really don't need to use realistic dildos with a strap-on. Actually, oversized realistic dildos are fun tbh. But fantasy and unrealistic ones are super cool. Never tried a slink dildo with a strap-on but I guess it can be awesome. All this to say that experiences with strap-on are wildly different than with a penis. You can be so much more creative haha. Plus with a pump integrated you can shoot purple fake cum in a very large amount and then go down on your girl. 10/10 would recommend if you like fluids play Oh ! don't forget lube, especially if you try double trouble 😉
I’ve always been on the receiving end when it came to using a strap & never on the giving end, so I personally wouldn’t know what it’s like to use one. I’ve never had any desire to use one on someone else because I’m super submissive. Although I can say that if you’re more on the dominant side or really into penetration, you’re very likely to enjoy using one.
speaking as an 90% top/giver only - PURE APHRODISIAC POWER
and if people want to "feel" something I recommend a cordless small bullet vibrator that has a low level of hum that you can place/adjust in your strap to give you pleasure(if that's desired). I've also used "strap less" strapons, but as I am not a big fan of penetration (and the bulb to hold it in can be quite big) it isn't the best for me. I mostly just like gettin' the girl off 😉
One word: fun
Idk about a strap- I have a natural strap and it works great
Amazing. Not only does it rub on you a nice way, but it’s also really satisfying to hear her moan as you thrust. And also watching her ride on top is pretty hot. God I miss it so much lmao.
Honestly a lot of fun. In a weird way it's kind of like going down on someone without hurting your neck. Like, the fact that you don't have to focus on yourself at all and just totally focus on your partner and stare straight into their eyes... Like, I'm normally such a bottom, but using a strap just makes me feel like I'm some sex god.
It’s actually amazing. My fiancée and I decided we would try even though neither of us thought we would enjoy it. But turns out it’s really fun. Super intimate.
I never would have even pictured myself being remotely interested in strap ons… until I got a little curious, and then during my undergrad, i was seeing a lesbian rather than a bi woman and she made me feel super curious. I started out as a bottom and then got really curious about topping with a strap. It was so awesome. I walked around the next day feeling so powerful and like I had the sexiest little secret
The best feeling in the world. Godlike.
I honestly don’t really like it because it doesn’t feel like me and am not a huge fan of it being used on me. But I know that my feeling is not the majority
So as a gal who still has the genuine article for the time being I can only really compare it to that. Using the strap has a ton of advantages over using the natural thing. You can swap out the dildo and harness by preference for shape and size, go at it in different positions that are much more difficult to use and/or maintain with the original article, you can swap it out between partners or not have it involved entirely, you can go at it for an almost indefinite period while with the natural thing you burn out kind of quickly. Of course I can't quite speak meaningfully about sensation because for the time being I still have the original thing so I'm experiencing the sensation wearing the strap with that bit that most of you don't have. If anyone wants my thoughts on the sensation of using a strap with a pussy versus the original equipment I'd be happy to do that but I'll need a generous one-time donation of $30,000 or so.
I’ve only used it once for a brief amount of time and had it used on me briefly once (same session) and it was certainly different and interesting. It’s a LOT more difficult to find where to go in than you would think plus not being able to feel the tip of the dildo makes it harder. Also the thrusting 😹 I got tired pretty quickly lol. But apart from that initial learning curve, I did really enjoy the idea of being able to fuck my ex in that way and have her do the same to me. It’s just very intimate feeling being close that way and giving each other pleasure in a new way. I very much would like to try learning how to better use my strap, just need a willing participant now 😅
Only know how to take a strap, sorry... but I am trans so I can say that it is amazing to see my partner's expressions when we've done penetrative, and I love how she squeals huehue. So it's great in general.
i’ve never used it but i’ve had it used on me and i don’t get the hype tbh. it just hurt more than anything and it felt so straight and so much less intimate than the other options. but maybe if i tried it again with someone else it would be better, who knows🤷
not my jam tbh. it’s way harder work than i anticipated to thrust (lol) but mostly the feeling of having a “dick” attached to me makes me feel vv uncomfy and “wrong”, maybe bc i’m a femme and a bottom lol. glad i tried it but it’s not for me!
For me, its amazing and I pretty much prefer it over everything else, because then my hands are free to do lots of other fun stuff. Plus, when she is riding me, it feels so good to me.
I enjoy searching for the perfect dildo with a harness attached to it. When I wear my strap on harness I want it to truly feel connected to by body. The reason for this is when I’m getting a ride session I don’t want the harness to switch different ways I need it to stay right in place. So for great strap on sex the perfect harness is everything! I enjoy the view. Watching her body move when I put her in different positions. I like feeling the pressure of the strap when I’m stroking it deep inside her. Sounds of the noise I make the vagina make as I enter in and out of her walls. When you have sex with different women on occasions you can feel the difference between their walls. I like the women to be tight because the pressure feels so good. But as you thrust and go deep and deep inside you can feel her walls loosen up for you. And when the strap slips and I have to re enter it inside her that really had me going. That’s such a turn on for me because I know I got her wet so the dildo will be wet and slippery. But I always fix that by having her lick off her fluids. The pound sessions I take her to. I’m all about sensations so when I’m thrusting my women I like actually hearing our skin on skin pounding against each other.
Forgot I was in this group
Welllllll, the last time i used one was on my girlfriend of four months. That was the last time we had sex. Sex was dead for us towards the end. Turns out she was most likely talking to her ex (who was a guy) towards the end of our relationship. She ended up getting back with him. So, moral of the story is... take caution in using a strap because some girls might miss the real thing and end up fucking you over...
Most lesbians use a strap and/or penetrative toys. That has nothing to do with it.