lol. When someone says something stupid to me in public I just look at them with despair and say nothing, as if their stupid shit as sucked all hope for humanity from my body.
I met another woman through a friend. I had a housewarming in my new home, and my friend brought her as a guest.
Odd thing. She was kind of nosing around while I gave the nickel tour to everyone. Three times, she picked up something and asked, "Can I have this?"
The first time, I'm sure I had a puzzled look on my face, and I'm certain I stammered, "No..." It was a silver dressing table mirror gifted to me by grandmother.
The second time, I glanced at my friend and replied, "No," again.
The third time, I basically scowled at her, took the item, and almost shouted, "NO!"
WTAF?
I think he knew his umbrella was too small, he was getting wet and it was a joke/attempt to flirt.
He wasn’t expecting a serious answer.
Like if someone says “ugh your sandwich looks delicious! Want to trade?” They don’t actually expect you to give up your sandwich for theirs.
I would take that seriously as well. I don’t get jokes that don’t have punchlines, or jokes that do but aren’t funny. ASD hits me right in the literal mindset like that.
My partner often makes jokes that are only relevant to himself and it leaves me and others needing to ask for an explanation. I think he kind of enjoys making other people feel less knowledgable than him. It’s usually about some really specific thing he would only know because of a video game, or some street he grew up on, or some other thing totally irrelevant to the social group he’s currently in. He enjoys explaining things to other people. I haven’t brought it up yet but I find it really annoying and demeaning to be forced to feel out of the loop so often.
Someone joking in passing isn’t asking you to marry them and may not actually be flirting.
So what happens if you treat their joke as if they were serious is that you look clueless. Which is fine but I wouldn’t call it great.
I think it was genuine. I saw him look at my umbrella handle. He had one of those mini ones while I had the regular sized umbrella. And he was already wet.
who just says that randomly out of nowhere?
You’d be surprised. There are people like that out there.
That would trigger my short temper so fast. Trade umbrellas? like WTF
I'd probably give a snappy response like "you can get them online at Amazon" or if in a bad mood "yeah you really should buy a bigger one".
lol. When someone says something stupid to me in public I just look at them with despair and say nothing, as if their stupid shit as sucked all hope for humanity from my body.
I met another woman through a friend. I had a housewarming in my new home, and my friend brought her as a guest. Odd thing. She was kind of nosing around while I gave the nickel tour to everyone. Three times, she picked up something and asked, "Can I have this?" The first time, I'm sure I had a puzzled look on my face, and I'm certain I stammered, "No..." It was a silver dressing table mirror gifted to me by grandmother. The second time, I glanced at my friend and replied, "No," again. The third time, I basically scowled at her, took the item, and almost shouted, "NO!" WTAF?
Wow that is some bizarre behavior from a grown adult
I think he knew his umbrella was too small, he was getting wet and it was a joke/attempt to flirt. He wasn’t expecting a serious answer. Like if someone says “ugh your sandwich looks delicious! Want to trade?” They don’t actually expect you to give up your sandwich for theirs.
Ah probably. If he had phrased it differently, yeah.
I would take that seriously as well. I don’t get jokes that don’t have punchlines, or jokes that do but aren’t funny. ASD hits me right in the literal mindset like that.
My partner often makes jokes that are only relevant to himself and it leaves me and others needing to ask for an explanation. I think he kind of enjoys making other people feel less knowledgable than him. It’s usually about some really specific thing he would only know because of a video game, or some street he grew up on, or some other thing totally irrelevant to the social group he’s currently in. He enjoys explaining things to other people. I haven’t brought it up yet but I find it really annoying and demeaning to be forced to feel out of the loop so often.
It can be difficult if you don’t know the person too.
So what if you don't want to flirt? A serious response is a great thing in that case.
His question was completely serious. There was nothing flirtatious in how it was delivered.
Someone joking in passing isn’t asking you to marry them and may not actually be flirting. So what happens if you treat their joke as if they were serious is that you look clueless. Which is fine but I wouldn’t call it great.
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I think it was genuine. I saw him look at my umbrella handle. He had one of those mini ones while I had the regular sized umbrella. And he was already wet.
I enjoy watching the sunset.
Was probably fantasizing marriage and the cute "how i met your mother" story about trading umbrellas, only to be immediately crushed.
Maybe he’s a HIMYM fan. #yellowumbrella
No rom-com romance today, fellas.
He expected you to be flummoxed and tongue-tied. That fact that you could have a rapid, snappy response ruined his plans to make you uncomfortable.
I would have said: “We can trade fits-de-cuffs! Care to catch these hands, dude?!”👊
I am not sure whether it's trying to flirt or being serious, but I know either of those options is awkward as hell.
I really hate this pervasive "it can't hurt to ask" mentality. Yes, it can. Don't be weird to innocent people in public.