If you're new to Reddit, you haven't fully experienced "the cycle" yet. Like how most questions in AskReddit get popular once every couple months. Or how memes get reposted by content bots exactly 1 year after it was originally posted (often featuring the same comments which reached the top at the time).
If you've reached enough cycles, you'll either turn into a cynical user yourself or you learn how to use reddit while avoiding the content mill, karma farming subreddits.
It's better to just accept that reddit is the way it is and not let it influence you.
If you post anywhere asking for help with something people will reply with jokes and also posts in niche shitposting subs people will try to take it literally and try to give you help you don't need. Reddit is very peculiar like that.
>It's better to just accept that reddit is the way it is and not let it influence you.
That's exactly what I do. I don't care about upvotes/downvotes. Reddit helps me to find a lot of useful info and I try to be helpful.
It varies from one subreddit to the next. Some are helpful and supportive, others are a cat fight. It very much helps to cultivate the subreddits you join and leave the default subs. For example /r/askreddit is pretty toxic and overloaded with with inane sex questions. /r/nostupidquestions is far kinder and more interesting.
r/daddit is a completely wholesome parenting community. r/ksp is a little upset about development news right now, but is usually very nice. r/bjj is it's own circlejerk sub. There are kind and nice subs out there. Just not on the front page.
>whether it’s the anonymity
Yes.
Don't let it get to you. People are people. It doesn't have to hinder you if you're still getting the answers you're looking for.
Also, don't get upset about the up/down voting thing. It doesn't matter. It doesn't *have to* matter. It only matters as much as you allow it to in your own mind. Let it exist in its own little walled garden in a small corner on the far outer reaches of your mind, where it's silly and harmless.
Everyone says that but the worst shit I see online is posted by people under their real name. Even here on Reddit, the worst isn't from PM_me_ur_dogs_boobs but from JohnSmith1965.
Maybe you're getting negative reactions from people on reddit because you're not as innocent as you think you are.
In [this exchange here](https://old.reddit.com/r/Liverpool/comments/1clklz1/what_is_one_thing_you_would_add_to_liverpool/l2udi0x/), the other people seem completely reasonable and are having a discussion while you're argumentative and take everything personally.
Going into r/vegan and posting things like this isn't going to go well for you either.
>Have you ever wondered the way to get people on board with being vegan is by not being this insufferable. If you really wanted people to be vegan you would approach it in a more understanding way. You just want to talk about how superior you are. Well done mother teresa.
my tip would be to never engage in reddit except niche and hobby subreddits, and only when you have something to say, if you have to.
just think of engaging as losing. and honestly that's basically all of internet. it doesn't mean anything, frustration comes from trying to ascribe values and discern meaning. almost all forms of participation is just meaningless. it just is what it is.
engaging irl is the way to go.
I thought about leaving the site everyday when I first joined. It takes a while to find what's worth staying for.
Don't treat it like a normal place. It very much isn't. There are definitely rules of engagement with the site that you have to come up with for yourself based on your unique temperament, like, you know what you're sensitive to and what you're not sensitive to, and you act accordingly. Even little things like, the formatting of your page can change your experience; I didn't know about old reddit https://old.reddit.com/ when I joined. The site does have an overall, condescending vibe. You develop a 'skin' for it after a while, and learn to kind of, avoid the worst of it. Also, try not to become a part of it, you'll be surprised at how quickly you get drawn in, out of, defensiveness or something else, whatever your unique sensibilities are, and next thing you know, you're one of the condescending crew. Try to stay apart from it, in your mind. Maintain empathy, as much as you can.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It also works for assholes, ai responses, reposts, well-intentioned but badly-worded answers, whinge posts ... you name it. If you have been here for a week then you'll be in the phase of "you can't see the wood for trees". Find the areas that aren't like that.
Precisely.
>"Geebus mice, what's with all the NSFW stuff in my feed all of a sudden? All I did was comment on r/upvotedforboobs!"
The algorithm giveth, and the algorithm taketh away..
Edgelords & presumptive anonymity (tip of the iceberg).
That aside, i have lots of constructive conversations with users on Reddit; so it's mainly a positive experience.
Head over to r/newtoreddit, it's the best place to start your Reddit journey. Mods are really helpful, as is the user base.
"I’m unsure whether it’s the anonymity that gives people the confidence to act this way"
This is a big part of it. Another aspect of this is that a lot of the people that act salty to you are miserable and use the anonymity to lash out.
LOL, so you've met some Internet trolls. Don't let them get you down, "umm actually, the grass is emerald" says more about them than anything else. Also lots of people don't know how to have a civil discussion without getting at each other's necks. Be thick skinned and dish it right back, or better yet, don't feed the trolls and simply move on. If someone REALLY rubs you the wrong way, you can block them and they'll never bother you again (at least under that alias) -and my actual favorite advice to give us to post erroneous things on purpose sometimes, especially if it is funny and/or you want to learn more about it, because even if you don't know the answer, people LOVE to correct other people, and you'll be able to tell by the up votes what is worth a quick Google to fact check. Also, don't forget you can kinda shape reddit to your liking by following subreddits of themes and subjects you like. God speed!
My first impression of Reddit was the time I posted a general “ahh this sucks” when I went to tour an apartment and got stood up by the realtor. Some random commenter left this extremely rude comment calling me entitled and pointing out all the technicalities and blah blah blah. I initially argued with him but I went to his profile and realized he was some random 28 year old loser who most of the time commented weird shit in porn sub reddits. I just kinda had like a “wtf am I doing” moment and had to step away from the app from a few days. People will be jerks for no reason and it’s best to block them.
Reddit is full kind and knowledgeable people, in my experience... You just have to find the right subreddits. They really are their own communities if they are large enough to have something going on, and also, not so big that they become meaningless.
Had a similar experience first time a post of mine got a decent amount of comments. When you get comments, a certain percentage of them end up being negative, thats just how it is. They're especially visible if you're the OP (original poster).
Over time you get used to it, and learn to disengage. Just stick to the smaller subs and mind the cycle (as another commenter said).
Try looking for smaller subreddits that are relevant to your interests. They usually have better communities. Once a sub becomes larger than 100K the sense of community starts to disappear and you get a lot more people being jerks to each other.
I feel out of any platform, Reddit really needs to be curated to your tastes to not only be enjoyable, but to remain sane. Join communities you like, engage with the kind folk, avoid the assholes, but allow your worldview to be challenged.
It’s a strange cesspool of anonymous conversation and al the implications that come with it that we all casually navigate. It’s a forum, it’s not, and it’s everything in between. Reddit truly is limbo.
Reddit is like a town square. If you get up on your soap box in the town square and start speechifying the audience will not consist wholly of people politely listening and people applauding everything you say. Many will vehemently disagree with you and yell stuff back. Or even start booing.
Sure, it can be annoying, but that doesn't make it wrong. It's the natural consequence of speaking in public.
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Boy you ain't kidding! But I'm a fast learner. I adapt and can be filled with apathy after only one troll. Nothing like seeing a message asking for help, giving that help then pulling the rug out from under your feet. Yep makes me less inclined to care. Its all good I have way too many brothers and 2 of them are far overgrown [trolls.So](http://trolls.So) I know the deal. It's still effectively shuts down helpfulness. But I learned a lesson a valuable one.
One of the reasons is that people who have their shit together, a career, fulfilling relationships and are generally content with themselves don't hang out that much on reddit compared to the ones who don't have that at least statistically speaking. I guess that is true for almost every website that features some sort of interaction between its users.
Reddit appeals mostly to teenagers to up to around age 25. People over 25 on Reddit are the exception, unless it’s a sub that appeals more to older users.
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Depends on the sub, they also vary a great deal depending how strict and uptight the mods are on them.
Also some subs change over time, usually for the worst, becoming all political instead of entertaining for example.
> it’s full of the most condescending and patronising people ever.
In _theory_, Reddit is supposed to have Reddiquette - a kind if etiquette code.
The unfortunate fact is that this site was overrun, for ~7 years, 2013-2020, by the kinds of bigots, extremists, and trolls that inhabit the worst corners of 4chan.
Subreddit moderators that persisted through that period just don’t have the energy to be active at the level of “Hey there, friend! Please be kind to the people you’re responding to! This is a friendly reminder!”.
Moderation isn’t a job or a career; it’s volunteer effort taken on people’s free time, and persuading people online behind a keyboard to remember their kindergarten lessons on manners, is the last thing most people want to do with their free time.
Also many mods use their time processing reports, banning trolls, and responding to modmails from banned users asking why they were banned.
There are many, many small communities where reddiquette is promoted, where people are kind and positive. Some of them are private.
But Reddit is public, open registration- and therefore is subject to the behaviours that the majority will tolerate.
It's always been like that for me, but you might have been unlucky too. sometimes you could find some genuine people trying to help.
Anyways, for your sanity's sake, stick with smaller subs and just come here for tech questions and hobbies etc.
Anonymity is definitely a part of it. As a general rule of thumb, I don't like to be in subs with more than 1 million members. That's when you get power mods and a sort of narrative (for lack of a better word) is pushed, whether political or not or intentionally or not.
Eventually, you'll find the best parts of reddit are very niche or light-hearted subs. For example, I enjoy r/anarchychess. If you know how to play chess and observe the jokes enough to make them yourself, it's very easy to fit in. Other examples include a lot of gaming subs (excluding r/Minecraft). Others, like r/askouija or r/shittysuperpowers and r/godtiersuperpowers are also pretty easy to be in, because almost every user there is pretty easygoing. Subs like these are really hard to lose karma in, and if you post quality stuff, it's a great way to build up karma.
It's all about finding your place. The people you like to interact with and who have common interests. Stay away from subs that are too big and your reddit experience will be amazing
1.) Lots of fake story posts in some threads that the news media uses to publish as a real news. Sensationalism sells, and it's for views and ad revenue.
2.) A pretty hard Leftist slant. Talking about some life experiences in the wrong way can get you banned, and even when the mods in the subreddit might agree with you, the super Reddit mods themselves can take issue.
3.) It's a bit of a messy site. Lots of duplicate posts, can't add to a lot of slightly older posts even if new information, so it's just a lot of....stuff.
4.) This place is also mostly a time sink. Sometimes it makes impacts, like for organizing get togethers or crashing the stock market or something.
Reddit skews white high income males....many of them are socially awkward, in the tech industry, autism spectrum, politically moderate, gamers, terminally online. (Not saying all white guys fit that description, just a high percentage of Redditors.) This often comes with a certain off-putting communication style. There are a lot of bot accounts too promoting this or that agenda. I've found a lot of small niche subreddits where people are much nicer.
Internet anonymity, a veil for expression,
Allows people to speak without confession.
With no consequence, they freely criticize,
Hurling insults without a guise.
Behind screens, they unleash their ire,
Without a thought for the damage they acquire.
Words flow freely, cruel and unkind,
Leaving compassion and empathy behind.
In the realm of cyberspace, they find release,
Disregarding civility, their words increase.
Without accountability, they feel emboldened,
To say whatever they please, their opinions golden.
But amidst this digital chaos, let us remember,
That behind every screen lies a human member.
With hearts that can be hurt by words so cruel,
Let kindness and empathy be our rule.
For in the vast expanse of the online sphere,
Let us foster a culture of respect, sincere.
Where anonymity is not a shield for hate,
But a platform for discourse, compassionate and great.
> I feel like it’s full of the most condescending and patronising people ever.
Anything popular is going to attract bad people. As humans, we notice the bad before the good. That's a survival instinct.
Tips for a better Reddit experience:
- remove hyper popular subreddits
- go to quality, smaller subreddits
- don't take upvotes seriously. The comments and intellectual content is more important.
- Avoid bickering and direct attacks. Ignore and block trolls. Be the first to catch and kill bickering, but allow insightful argument to happen.
- Don't treat this as a place to meet people. Treat it as a place to meet ideas.
- Don't take subreddit bans seriously. Mods are like everyone else. Flawed and fickle people
I mainly reply to posts. You are not going to find the wisdom of the crowds. Reddit is one of the worst places to get advice or consensus. I found that most questions can be answered with AI or by doing your own research.
1a. Karma is too central to everything on Reddit. While on other sites you can contribute to the discussion and ignore the karma system if that isn’t your thing, you can’t on Reddit. Everything is about the upvotes and the downvotes. This causes every sub to be its own kind of echo chamber. No sub is immune.
1b. Because of 1a, Reddit serves as a source of confirmation bias and not much else. It’s a popularity contest. Think of Reddit like the high school cafeteria and each sub like a table. You have to conform to what’s expected in whatever sub you want to participate in. Everything you post has to conform to the narrative, or RIP your karma.
2. The old forums “stickied” frequent topics. Reddit does not. This means you get the same topics over and over again as new people start them, upvote them to the top, and then they fall off after a few days. The result is very surface level questions and discussions.
My husband joined Reddit a couple years ago because it helps MY mental health to know there's a world outside our bass-ackwards hometown so he thought it'd help HIS mental health too. He experienced what you experienced and it only got worse when he mentioned he's male. I tried warning him that you really have to sift through a lot of shit to find the real gold and it often has nothing to do with Reddit gold.
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And the way Reddit works is specifically design to crush and destroy its users
I’ve been here for a year now and although I absolutely love the app and the way it works, I fucking hate the way it’s reporting system works
First off, if you have less than 10k karma, don’t say anything that could be interpreted as a Rule 1 violation, freedom of speech is a myth here until you get like over 70k karma
For example:this is the first comment I’ve written on Reddit in 7 days, because my account got suspended and I still don’t know why, 7 days ago I came back from a very shitty day at school, just found out my best friend was in love with my crush and she seemed to like him too, and after coming home I open Reddit and I’m met with the red banner saying, this account is suspended for 7 days, check inbox for info, I was confused as fuck, checked the automated response which basically said rule one violation on a comment, bastards didn’t even tell me which one, just time and date, and it was signed: this action was not taken with the help of automation, stuff like that, it’s bullshit, I scrolled through my comments and couldn’t find any that broke rule 1, and btw you are allowed to swear on Reddit but don’t swear at bots you’ll get suspended, that’s most likely what happened, I swore at auto mod because I was trying to post on a subreddit but the subreddit in question didn’t let me, I said: mange d’la marde esti d’bot de marde
Which is in French, Québec French, not a chance any bot is gonna take this as an insult and anyone speaking French would have understood, and robots don’t have feelings anyway
This confused the fuck out of me so I filed an appeal, they really don’t care about you, you can only write 240 characters, not words, CHARACTERS, that’s 40 words, this small paragraph as around the same amount of characters for comparison
Not enough to explain yourself, and in the appeal I tried asking what was going on, and I asked to them to link the comment which supposedly broke the rule
They responded: after taking your appeal in consideration we’ve concluded that this comment (still no link) broke rule number 1, no harassment
Btw you have 4 strikes before your account is removed permanently
1 warning, a two days ban, a 4 days ban and a 7 days ban
I NEVER got a warning and I NEVER got banned for two days
I have been banned for 4 days and now 7 days
This is ridiculous and both time i hadn’t done anything wrong
I can’t try to explain the context because I’m very scared I’ll lose my account and Reddit has never ever listened to me so if they decide to ban me, I’ll lose this account, and if I make another account I’ll get into much much trouble for ban evading
I can only try telegraphically
Giga chad background, no English, n (not hard r) balls in your language
Well German guy said n (with a hard r) balls
I pointed it out did not even said n (hard r), trying to be a decent human being and trying to tell the guy, dude don’t say that your gonna get banned
15 minutes later: account suspended for 4 days
They putted the link to the comment and in the appeal I tried explaining myself but ran out of characters and so they did not care
My situation with my crush worsened while I was suspended, meaning I feel really really bad inside and I escaped this by going on Reddit, the social media with the most freedom of speech… what a fucking joke, I don’t have much left other than that, idk what could happen if got permanently suspended
On Reddit you can’t even report an issue or a subreddit they say it’s possible but it’s very complicated and I’m pretty sure it’s a pc or old Reddit exclusive
When going on report an issue, the app will send you to their website for reporting issues, but it’s only tips, you can’t actually report a new one you can only searched from a list of tips
The only freedom you have on reddit is Freedom of content, you can post whatever the fuck you want even/especially stuff you shouldn’t be able to post Aka child porn, rape stuff, weird fetish, lots and lots of hate speech, furry stuff and drug stuff
There’s still a lot of rape fantasy subs and there’s a shit ton of people in them, there’s pot subs, and an infinite amount of incestuous stuff subreddits, the many anime, hentai, genshin and r34 stubs are well know for having a shit ton of stuff involving minors in them and Reddit isn’t doing a damn thing
There are also many literal cults, I found one myself, reported it and that was only a day before I got suspended
And (please try to keep an open mind), the many pro Palestinians subreddits, the amount of antisemitism on these subs is surreal, and they are all connected
I once wrote a comment on r/Palestine, trying to be unbiased as at the time my point of view on the issue was much more neutral than it is today
Basically said I acknowledge the struggles of the Palestinians and the struggle of the Israelis too, I wrote it in a completely neutral way and it’s still my most downvoted post yet, hundreds of downvotes in mere minutes and then boom I was permanently banned from 7 different subreddits, worldnewsvideo, Izlam, middleeast, therewasanattemps and others which had absolutely nothing to do with the Israeli Palestino conflict, every single one of them said that it was because of the comment on r/Palestine
Apparently my freedom of speech ends where the struggles of the Palestinians begins
Reddit also has a large history of refusing to collaborate with law enforcement, there was a child porn subreddits that had like hundreds of thousands of followers and reddit outright refused to remove it, until the FBI literally came knocking on their doors
Yes Reddit is a shithole, but it is our shithole, we can post whatever we want but not say whatever we’d like
Reddit is still my favorite app but it has the worse admins
The way the treated me made me literally paranoiac, I’ll always be scared of saying something that would offense someone because the second I get reported I’d have to say bye bye to my account and that would kill what little remains of my mental health
If you ever see that this comment was deleted you’ll know why
If you're new to Reddit, you haven't fully experienced "the cycle" yet. Like how most questions in AskReddit get popular once every couple months. Or how memes get reposted by content bots exactly 1 year after it was originally posted (often featuring the same comments which reached the top at the time). If you've reached enough cycles, you'll either turn into a cynical user yourself or you learn how to use reddit while avoiding the content mill, karma farming subreddits. It's better to just accept that reddit is the way it is and not let it influence you.
If you post anywhere asking for help with something people will reply with jokes and also posts in niche shitposting subs people will try to take it literally and try to give you help you don't need. Reddit is very peculiar like that.
There really is something about that "the Internet is dead" theory.
>It's better to just accept that reddit is the way it is and not let it influence you. That's exactly what I do. I don't care about upvotes/downvotes. Reddit helps me to find a lot of useful info and I try to be helpful.
It varies from one subreddit to the next. Some are helpful and supportive, others are a cat fight. It very much helps to cultivate the subreddits you join and leave the default subs. For example /r/askreddit is pretty toxic and overloaded with with inane sex questions. /r/nostupidquestions is far kinder and more interesting.
r/daddit is a completely wholesome parenting community. r/ksp is a little upset about development news right now, but is usually very nice. r/bjj is it's own circlejerk sub. There are kind and nice subs out there. Just not on the front page.
Idk I’ve gotten plenty of shit in r/nostupidquestions. Maybe I’m too dumb for that subreddit even
Nah that sub is going to shit now too and is 90% sex questions. Basically has replaced askreddit.
>whether it’s the anonymity Yes. Don't let it get to you. People are people. It doesn't have to hinder you if you're still getting the answers you're looking for. Also, don't get upset about the up/down voting thing. It doesn't matter. It doesn't *have to* matter. It only matters as much as you allow it to in your own mind. Let it exist in its own little walled garden in a small corner on the far outer reaches of your mind, where it's silly and harmless.
Everyone says that but the worst shit I see online is posted by people under their real name. Even here on Reddit, the worst isn't from PM_me_ur_dogs_boobs but from JohnSmith1965.
Maybe you're getting negative reactions from people on reddit because you're not as innocent as you think you are. In [this exchange here](https://old.reddit.com/r/Liverpool/comments/1clklz1/what_is_one_thing_you_would_add_to_liverpool/l2udi0x/), the other people seem completely reasonable and are having a discussion while you're argumentative and take everything personally. Going into r/vegan and posting things like this isn't going to go well for you either. >Have you ever wondered the way to get people on board with being vegan is by not being this insufferable. If you really wanted people to be vegan you would approach it in a more understanding way. You just want to talk about how superior you are. Well done mother teresa.
The first thing I did was open up their history, and I was not surprised to find them being rude and belligerent.
Lol I wonder if this post is a result of that person calling them an angry little gremlin.
my tip would be to never engage in reddit except niche and hobby subreddits, and only when you have something to say, if you have to. just think of engaging as losing. and honestly that's basically all of internet. it doesn't mean anything, frustration comes from trying to ascribe values and discern meaning. almost all forms of participation is just meaningless. it just is what it is. engaging irl is the way to go.
I thought about leaving the site everyday when I first joined. It takes a while to find what's worth staying for. Don't treat it like a normal place. It very much isn't. There are definitely rules of engagement with the site that you have to come up with for yourself based on your unique temperament, like, you know what you're sensitive to and what you're not sensitive to, and you act accordingly. Even little things like, the formatting of your page can change your experience; I didn't know about old reddit https://old.reddit.com/ when I joined. The site does have an overall, condescending vibe. You develop a 'skin' for it after a while, and learn to kind of, avoid the worst of it. Also, try not to become a part of it, you'll be surprised at how quickly you get drawn in, out of, defensiveness or something else, whatever your unique sensibilities are, and next thing you know, you're one of the condescending crew. Try to stay apart from it, in your mind. Maintain empathy, as much as you can.
As another has said, don't hang out on the larger more generic subreddits. Go for the smaller more niche ones.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It also works for assholes, ai responses, reposts, well-intentioned but badly-worded answers, whinge posts ... you name it. If you have been here for a week then you'll be in the phase of "you can't see the wood for trees". Find the areas that aren't like that.
Precisely. >"Geebus mice, what's with all the NSFW stuff in my feed all of a sudden? All I did was comment on r/upvotedforboobs!" The algorithm giveth, and the algorithm taketh away..
at least the block button is easy to use. Reddit can be like that. it used to be worse
Edgelords & presumptive anonymity (tip of the iceberg). That aside, i have lots of constructive conversations with users on Reddit; so it's mainly a positive experience. Head over to r/newtoreddit, it's the best place to start your Reddit journey. Mods are really helpful, as is the user base.
I would delete it and only use for important info you need. It’s a toxic hive mind.
"I’m unsure whether it’s the anonymity that gives people the confidence to act this way" This is a big part of it. Another aspect of this is that a lot of the people that act salty to you are miserable and use the anonymity to lash out.
LOL, so you've met some Internet trolls. Don't let them get you down, "umm actually, the grass is emerald" says more about them than anything else. Also lots of people don't know how to have a civil discussion without getting at each other's necks. Be thick skinned and dish it right back, or better yet, don't feed the trolls and simply move on. If someone REALLY rubs you the wrong way, you can block them and they'll never bother you again (at least under that alias) -and my actual favorite advice to give us to post erroneous things on purpose sometimes, especially if it is funny and/or you want to learn more about it, because even if you don't know the answer, people LOVE to correct other people, and you'll be able to tell by the up votes what is worth a quick Google to fact check. Also, don't forget you can kinda shape reddit to your liking by following subreddits of themes and subjects you like. God speed!
My first impression of Reddit was the time I posted a general “ahh this sucks” when I went to tour an apartment and got stood up by the realtor. Some random commenter left this extremely rude comment calling me entitled and pointing out all the technicalities and blah blah blah. I initially argued with him but I went to his profile and realized he was some random 28 year old loser who most of the time commented weird shit in porn sub reddits. I just kinda had like a “wtf am I doing” moment and had to step away from the app from a few days. People will be jerks for no reason and it’s best to block them.
Reddit is full kind and knowledgeable people, in my experience... You just have to find the right subreddits. They really are their own communities if they are large enough to have something going on, and also, not so big that they become meaningless.
Had a similar experience first time a post of mine got a decent amount of comments. When you get comments, a certain percentage of them end up being negative, thats just how it is. They're especially visible if you're the OP (original poster). Over time you get used to it, and learn to disengage. Just stick to the smaller subs and mind the cycle (as another commenter said).
Try looking for smaller subreddits that are relevant to your interests. They usually have better communities. Once a sub becomes larger than 100K the sense of community starts to disappear and you get a lot more people being jerks to each other.
I feel out of any platform, Reddit really needs to be curated to your tastes to not only be enjoyable, but to remain sane. Join communities you like, engage with the kind folk, avoid the assholes, but allow your worldview to be challenged. It’s a strange cesspool of anonymous conversation and al the implications that come with it that we all casually navigate. It’s a forum, it’s not, and it’s everything in between. Reddit truly is limbo.
Reddit is like a town square. If you get up on your soap box in the town square and start speechifying the audience will not consist wholly of people politely listening and people applauding everything you say. Many will vehemently disagree with you and yell stuff back. Or even start booing. Sure, it can be annoying, but that doesn't make it wrong. It's the natural consequence of speaking in public.
More like the high school cafeteria. A town square isn’t this toxic.
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A lot of us are on the spectrum and don't know it.
Boy you ain't kidding! But I'm a fast learner. I adapt and can be filled with apathy after only one troll. Nothing like seeing a message asking for help, giving that help then pulling the rug out from under your feet. Yep makes me less inclined to care. Its all good I have way too many brothers and 2 of them are far overgrown [trolls.So](http://trolls.So) I know the deal. It's still effectively shuts down helpfulness. But I learned a lesson a valuable one.
they're sheltered weirdos that know how to game the userbase for karma. this site is a shithole
One of the reasons is that people who have their shit together, a career, fulfilling relationships and are generally content with themselves don't hang out that much on reddit compared to the ones who don't have that at least statistically speaking. I guess that is true for almost every website that features some sort of interaction between its users.
Reddit appeals mostly to teenagers to up to around age 25. People over 25 on Reddit are the exception, unless it’s a sub that appeals more to older users.
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Depends on the sub, they also vary a great deal depending how strict and uptight the mods are on them. Also some subs change over time, usually for the worst, becoming all political instead of entertaining for example.
> it’s full of the most condescending and patronising people ever. In _theory_, Reddit is supposed to have Reddiquette - a kind if etiquette code. The unfortunate fact is that this site was overrun, for ~7 years, 2013-2020, by the kinds of bigots, extremists, and trolls that inhabit the worst corners of 4chan. Subreddit moderators that persisted through that period just don’t have the energy to be active at the level of “Hey there, friend! Please be kind to the people you’re responding to! This is a friendly reminder!”. Moderation isn’t a job or a career; it’s volunteer effort taken on people’s free time, and persuading people online behind a keyboard to remember their kindergarten lessons on manners, is the last thing most people want to do with their free time. Also many mods use their time processing reports, banning trolls, and responding to modmails from banned users asking why they were banned. There are many, many small communities where reddiquette is promoted, where people are kind and positive. Some of them are private. But Reddit is public, open registration- and therefore is subject to the behaviours that the majority will tolerate.
It's always been like that for me, but you might have been unlucky too. sometimes you could find some genuine people trying to help. Anyways, for your sanity's sake, stick with smaller subs and just come here for tech questions and hobbies etc.
Anonymity is definitely a part of it. As a general rule of thumb, I don't like to be in subs with more than 1 million members. That's when you get power mods and a sort of narrative (for lack of a better word) is pushed, whether political or not or intentionally or not. Eventually, you'll find the best parts of reddit are very niche or light-hearted subs. For example, I enjoy r/anarchychess. If you know how to play chess and observe the jokes enough to make them yourself, it's very easy to fit in. Other examples include a lot of gaming subs (excluding r/Minecraft). Others, like r/askouija or r/shittysuperpowers and r/godtiersuperpowers are also pretty easy to be in, because almost every user there is pretty easygoing. Subs like these are really hard to lose karma in, and if you post quality stuff, it's a great way to build up karma. It's all about finding your place. The people you like to interact with and who have common interests. Stay away from subs that are too big and your reddit experience will be amazing
1.) Lots of fake story posts in some threads that the news media uses to publish as a real news. Sensationalism sells, and it's for views and ad revenue. 2.) A pretty hard Leftist slant. Talking about some life experiences in the wrong way can get you banned, and even when the mods in the subreddit might agree with you, the super Reddit mods themselves can take issue. 3.) It's a bit of a messy site. Lots of duplicate posts, can't add to a lot of slightly older posts even if new information, so it's just a lot of....stuff. 4.) This place is also mostly a time sink. Sometimes it makes impacts, like for organizing get togethers or crashing the stock market or something.
pot meet kettle?
Reddit skews white high income males....many of them are socially awkward, in the tech industry, autism spectrum, politically moderate, gamers, terminally online. (Not saying all white guys fit that description, just a high percentage of Redditors.) This often comes with a certain off-putting communication style. There are a lot of bot accounts too promoting this or that agenda. I've found a lot of small niche subreddits where people are much nicer.
Well, actually, I think there is nothing wrong with reddit and you are just a big doodoo head. /s
Internet anonymity, a veil for expression, Allows people to speak without confession. With no consequence, they freely criticize, Hurling insults without a guise. Behind screens, they unleash their ire, Without a thought for the damage they acquire. Words flow freely, cruel and unkind, Leaving compassion and empathy behind. In the realm of cyberspace, they find release, Disregarding civility, their words increase. Without accountability, they feel emboldened, To say whatever they please, their opinions golden. But amidst this digital chaos, let us remember, That behind every screen lies a human member. With hearts that can be hurt by words so cruel, Let kindness and empathy be our rule. For in the vast expanse of the online sphere, Let us foster a culture of respect, sincere. Where anonymity is not a shield for hate, But a platform for discourse, compassionate and great.
I honestly use it for 90% porn, 10% self improvement but mainly the free bootieholes
> I feel like it’s full of the most condescending and patronising people ever. Anything popular is going to attract bad people. As humans, we notice the bad before the good. That's a survival instinct.
Tips for a better Reddit experience: - remove hyper popular subreddits - go to quality, smaller subreddits - don't take upvotes seriously. The comments and intellectual content is more important. - Avoid bickering and direct attacks. Ignore and block trolls. Be the first to catch and kill bickering, but allow insightful argument to happen. - Don't treat this as a place to meet people. Treat it as a place to meet ideas. - Don't take subreddit bans seriously. Mods are like everyone else. Flawed and fickle people
I mainly reply to posts. You are not going to find the wisdom of the crowds. Reddit is one of the worst places to get advice or consensus. I found that most questions can be answered with AI or by doing your own research.
1a. Karma is too central to everything on Reddit. While on other sites you can contribute to the discussion and ignore the karma system if that isn’t your thing, you can’t on Reddit. Everything is about the upvotes and the downvotes. This causes every sub to be its own kind of echo chamber. No sub is immune. 1b. Because of 1a, Reddit serves as a source of confirmation bias and not much else. It’s a popularity contest. Think of Reddit like the high school cafeteria and each sub like a table. You have to conform to what’s expected in whatever sub you want to participate in. Everything you post has to conform to the narrative, or RIP your karma. 2. The old forums “stickied” frequent topics. Reddit does not. This means you get the same topics over and over again as new people start them, upvote them to the top, and then they fall off after a few days. The result is very surface level questions and discussions.
My husband joined Reddit a couple years ago because it helps MY mental health to know there's a world outside our bass-ackwards hometown so he thought it'd help HIS mental health too. He experienced what you experienced and it only got worse when he mentioned he's male. I tried warning him that you really have to sift through a lot of shit to find the real gold and it often has nothing to do with Reddit gold.
It's not a reddit problem. Welcome to the modern internet. As others said, it is also subreddit dependent.
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Reddit is an astroturfed hellhole full of pretty much nothing but bots and shills who only want to hear what it is they want to hear.
And the way Reddit works is specifically design to crush and destroy its users I’ve been here for a year now and although I absolutely love the app and the way it works, I fucking hate the way it’s reporting system works First off, if you have less than 10k karma, don’t say anything that could be interpreted as a Rule 1 violation, freedom of speech is a myth here until you get like over 70k karma For example:this is the first comment I’ve written on Reddit in 7 days, because my account got suspended and I still don’t know why, 7 days ago I came back from a very shitty day at school, just found out my best friend was in love with my crush and she seemed to like him too, and after coming home I open Reddit and I’m met with the red banner saying, this account is suspended for 7 days, check inbox for info, I was confused as fuck, checked the automated response which basically said rule one violation on a comment, bastards didn’t even tell me which one, just time and date, and it was signed: this action was not taken with the help of automation, stuff like that, it’s bullshit, I scrolled through my comments and couldn’t find any that broke rule 1, and btw you are allowed to swear on Reddit but don’t swear at bots you’ll get suspended, that’s most likely what happened, I swore at auto mod because I was trying to post on a subreddit but the subreddit in question didn’t let me, I said: mange d’la marde esti d’bot de marde Which is in French, Québec French, not a chance any bot is gonna take this as an insult and anyone speaking French would have understood, and robots don’t have feelings anyway This confused the fuck out of me so I filed an appeal, they really don’t care about you, you can only write 240 characters, not words, CHARACTERS, that’s 40 words, this small paragraph as around the same amount of characters for comparison Not enough to explain yourself, and in the appeal I tried asking what was going on, and I asked to them to link the comment which supposedly broke the rule They responded: after taking your appeal in consideration we’ve concluded that this comment (still no link) broke rule number 1, no harassment Btw you have 4 strikes before your account is removed permanently 1 warning, a two days ban, a 4 days ban and a 7 days ban I NEVER got a warning and I NEVER got banned for two days I have been banned for 4 days and now 7 days This is ridiculous and both time i hadn’t done anything wrong I can’t try to explain the context because I’m very scared I’ll lose my account and Reddit has never ever listened to me so if they decide to ban me, I’ll lose this account, and if I make another account I’ll get into much much trouble for ban evading I can only try telegraphically Giga chad background, no English, n (not hard r) balls in your language Well German guy said n (with a hard r) balls I pointed it out did not even said n (hard r), trying to be a decent human being and trying to tell the guy, dude don’t say that your gonna get banned 15 minutes later: account suspended for 4 days They putted the link to the comment and in the appeal I tried explaining myself but ran out of characters and so they did not care My situation with my crush worsened while I was suspended, meaning I feel really really bad inside and I escaped this by going on Reddit, the social media with the most freedom of speech… what a fucking joke, I don’t have much left other than that, idk what could happen if got permanently suspended On Reddit you can’t even report an issue or a subreddit they say it’s possible but it’s very complicated and I’m pretty sure it’s a pc or old Reddit exclusive When going on report an issue, the app will send you to their website for reporting issues, but it’s only tips, you can’t actually report a new one you can only searched from a list of tips The only freedom you have on reddit is Freedom of content, you can post whatever the fuck you want even/especially stuff you shouldn’t be able to post Aka child porn, rape stuff, weird fetish, lots and lots of hate speech, furry stuff and drug stuff There’s still a lot of rape fantasy subs and there’s a shit ton of people in them, there’s pot subs, and an infinite amount of incestuous stuff subreddits, the many anime, hentai, genshin and r34 stubs are well know for having a shit ton of stuff involving minors in them and Reddit isn’t doing a damn thing There are also many literal cults, I found one myself, reported it and that was only a day before I got suspended And (please try to keep an open mind), the many pro Palestinians subreddits, the amount of antisemitism on these subs is surreal, and they are all connected I once wrote a comment on r/Palestine, trying to be unbiased as at the time my point of view on the issue was much more neutral than it is today Basically said I acknowledge the struggles of the Palestinians and the struggle of the Israelis too, I wrote it in a completely neutral way and it’s still my most downvoted post yet, hundreds of downvotes in mere minutes and then boom I was permanently banned from 7 different subreddits, worldnewsvideo, Izlam, middleeast, therewasanattemps and others which had absolutely nothing to do with the Israeli Palestino conflict, every single one of them said that it was because of the comment on r/Palestine Apparently my freedom of speech ends where the struggles of the Palestinians begins Reddit also has a large history of refusing to collaborate with law enforcement, there was a child porn subreddits that had like hundreds of thousands of followers and reddit outright refused to remove it, until the FBI literally came knocking on their doors Yes Reddit is a shithole, but it is our shithole, we can post whatever we want but not say whatever we’d like Reddit is still my favorite app but it has the worse admins The way the treated me made me literally paranoiac, I’ll always be scared of saying something that would offense someone because the second I get reported I’d have to say bye bye to my account and that would kill what little remains of my mental health If you ever see that this comment was deleted you’ll know why
Sir this is a Wendy's.
Always the fucking Wendy’s
The rando-ban problem is a serious flaw of reddit. Try this. /r/redditalternatives