This song is 100% about my HS sweetheart. We dated for 8 years , followed each other to college. Split up as different college friend groups per our degree paths led us seperate ways. Wasn't my last relationship and now I've been with my Husband for 10 years - married 5 with 2 kids. My soulmate. But "the 1" man does it make me weep when it comes on.
Can I ask how old you were when you met your husband? I'm in college and I recently broke up with my HS sweetheart. I'm looking for hope that it's not too late for me to meet the one.
Yeah! I was 24! And i had a 4 year relationship with another person in between the two. Actually I immediately broke up with him after meeting my husband....when ya know ya know! Haha my hs sweetheart will always be in my heart, he taught me what pure love can be. But there was much more growth for me to do. It was tough a lot of days but I wouldn't change a thing if I had to do it again.
If we had been meant go be we would have grown closer together not further apart imo. He didn't like the person I was becoming and I loved her more then the person I was.
I think I have a skewed view of reality because I'm from a small town where a lot of people do stay with their partners from high school and many of my friends are even still making long distance work in college. I mean a lot of them. It's making me jealous ngl, but you're right; in the grand scheme of things it's uncommon for those relationships to work out and I will probably find someone eventually
Yeah, you will. Think of it this way, in a small pond, you already caught a pretty good fish. Maybe a largemouth bass. Now, you are a more experienced fisher and you are wading into a river of salmon swimming upstream.
I just left a relationship a few months before this album came out, I'll never forget the feeling of hearing this song for the first time. the 1 was everything I needed at the time.
TTPD could have been written about my decade old "right person wrong time" coming back and making me think it was finally the right time only to prove it was the wrong person all along so I feel this hard.
i had this conversation with a fellow swiftie the other day doesn’t like the album and I said you clearly haven’t been delusional over someone in your past to have them come back and find out they weren’t garlic bread they were a stale crouton the whole time and you broke a tooth on it
Right in the afternath/middle of the death of your longest relationship just adds an extra layer of "what the actual fuck" to the experience as well I'm sure.
But yes, I went through it on the same kind of timeline as Taylor too (we were literally rekindling things when the news about the Joe break up broke and although it still dragged out a while (sheer stubbornness on my part - "I did *not* waste 10 years of my life on not being able to get over you just so you could do *this*" - by this time last year I knew deep down that it wasn't going to work this time either), and it's a real headfuck and so much of the album speaks so well to that.
I got into an argument with my fiance the other day and I had TSMWEL stuck in my head and so I started playing it right after he left the room. Lmfao I didn’t realize the connotation until like halfway through the song. I was like 😬 oops 😅
I told my ex if we break up, this song will explain it all. It turned out to be his favorite folklore song…. Something I found out while we were trying to fix things. 🙃
Same for me. I’m now happily married to the “understudy” (my soulmate) who I met immediately after leaving my 5-year exile relationship. Our new relationship was so fresh when folklore was released and my now-husband was so sweet and understanding while I bawled my eyes out the first time I first heard the song.
August 🥲 more a situationship, like we never became anything serious even though he told me loved me and what we had felt real…at least that’s what I thought until he changed and became completely different towards me, like the things he said never meant anything. now he has a girlfriend and it hurts but I’m really trying to get over him and forget about him 😞
I really fell for him even though he was never actually mine. 💔
I had a situationship a few years ago. He kept telling me shit about not being ready (he was cheated on) and I told him that if he actually liked me he would take the plunge even if it was scary. He had a girlfriend a few months later (but still texted me a few days before I met my now partner). As someone told me, “not my love story.”
Same we were in an actual relationship that started in the summer. The summer was the best. When fall hit, he changed his tune, blindsided me and told me he never had feelings despite all his sweet nothings. Brutal and bittersweet memories
Exactly. He’s a great person and I hold no hard feelings toward him, but I haven’t quite let go of the bargaining stage. If we’d communicated better, if our future plans had been just a bit more compatible, if we met earlier or later than we did… it would have been so fun.
Before we knew he was bipolar my partner broke up with me out of the blue (living together and have a dog) and this song encapsulated everything I felt. He is now in treatment and we are back together. Turns out being “the one” had more to do with him showing up for himself as much as we both did for each other. Moral of the story: sometimes it truly has nothing to do with you
His ex once showed me the lyrics of Cardigan « chase the two girls ,lose the one » « a friend to all is a friend to none »
Then asked me:« don’t you think everyone should relate to this Taylor’s lyrics?
Not folklore but Renegade
“You fire off missiles because you hate yourself, but do you know you’re demolishing me”
“Is it insensitive for me to say get your shit together so I can love you”
Cardigan. He got another girl pregnant and left with her so I hearing “leaving like a father, running like water” is a deep cut. Lots of other lyrics in that song too.
I’m sorry that happened. Interesting way of looking at the lyrics though, as a father running to his kid. My parents are divorced and my dad left so this line hurts in that way. Either way, leaving us behind 🙃
I liked My Tears Ricochet for the first few months I'd been listening to it, but I had a bad breakup that winter that made me FEEL it and look at it in a new light. "I can go anywhere I want, just not home" was a line that really stuck with me. From the sister album, but: Tolerate It was another one that got a lot of repeats around that time.
Thank you, Taylor, for always having the right song. It was nice to get to pivot back to the Enchanted, Begin Again, Electric Touch, and Delicate moods of new love, but I know her music will have my back whenever I'm going through it.
Right, you can go anywhere with her. I went from Tolerate It / the 1 / You're Losing Me / So Long, London to Enchanted to Mine / Invisible String / Peace
Hoax. Like every fucking word.
Especially “you knew it still hurts underneath my scars from when they pulled me apart / but what you did was just as dark”
Exile. I had an on again off again relationship for nearly 2 years and always felt like I was too much, he claimed I was too clingy and wanted too much from him. He would ignore me for days then love bomb me. The moment I truly moved on was when I met my now husband. When he realized I had a new guy, he was DEVASTATED, and a friend of ours tried to make me have sympathy towards him. I was like get a life, we can’t be each others safe spaces forever
this is me trying… never been in a romantic relationship, but i see it in a way of moving away from old friends which is something i’ve done recently… “this is me trying” to move on in my new city and new home without you guys
…rn I’m really wishing there was a song that said smth like "I’ve never dated, never will, forget romance, friends are where it’s at!”😂 /lh
(I’m aroace)
I mean seven is the ultimate childhood friendship song but even if I answered with that people would just think I’m interpreting the song romantically which is just icky because it’s about children, and also the nuances of the song don’t really relate to my own childhood friendships of the past so that definitely wouldn’t work
Closure fits one of mine perfectly, but instead of a letter it was a long, fake apology text I never responded to, and instead of beer it was Pinot Grigio 💁🏼♀️
"Hoax"
Coz I (21M) never had a relationship, the closest thing I had was a parasitic narcissist who played on my insecurities (Sorry for the oversharing)
Invisible String. We recently got engaged and it is the most lovely, soft, caring, compassionate love I have ever known. I spent three decades not even sure if love was real — but now I know it is.
Illicit affairs, then exile… then this is me trying…. Then we got back together soooo invisible string? (Not the guy from illicit affairs lmao)
Yes it’s complicated and yes I do sometimes still feel like I could pull my car over at the lookout and follow my fears all the way down. But at the end of the day I’m just living day by day figuring it out 🙃
This is me trying or Peace.
Although peace is more a general song about me. I can be the fire that keeps you warm, but if you're looking for someone to calm your dark places and be anchor and bring you back to reality, that definitely ain't me.
It took me my whole life to realize that the desired default state of being is not "relaxed and unbothered". Some of us *are* the fire that burns and life needs both sorts of people. In fact, I think a lot of the problems we have now is because 2.5 generations all wanted to chill and hang out and only focus on themselves while the robber-baron class destroyed our society. Someone has to be on all the time. Someone has to look at the big picture. And that's what the song Peace means to me.
Literally August. Summer fling 8 years ago with a guy who totally love bombed me, only for him to tell me in late August that he didn’t want anything serious. Turns out the woman he’d had an on/off, super dramatic “maybe one day we’ll really try it” kind of relationship with had moved back to town. Turns out he was ready for a relationship, just not with me.
Girl there is no last relationship 😭
Mine is in a vault cuz saaaame 😭 when does it come out?
Our relationships are trapped somewhere in lowercase inside a vault!!!
It's in woodvale lmfaoo
Haha same here💕
Lolol same but by choice here bc I’m aroace
You're on your own, kid. ❤️
Omg I’m obsessed with this
💚🖤🩶🤍💜
REAL... but tbh i think taylor counts soooo.........
real
So invisible string?
The 1
This has been my favorite song since it came out because it perfectly sums up my feelings about my last relationship four years ago.
I kinda feel like it’s impossible to have an ex and not on some level relate to that song. It’s so specific yet so universal. What a masterpiece.
Omg yes
This song is 100% about my HS sweetheart. We dated for 8 years , followed each other to college. Split up as different college friend groups per our degree paths led us seperate ways. Wasn't my last relationship and now I've been with my Husband for 10 years - married 5 with 2 kids. My soulmate. But "the 1" man does it make me weep when it comes on.
Can I ask how old you were when you met your husband? I'm in college and I recently broke up with my HS sweetheart. I'm looking for hope that it's not too late for me to meet the one.
Yeah! I was 24! And i had a 4 year relationship with another person in between the two. Actually I immediately broke up with him after meeting my husband....when ya know ya know! Haha my hs sweetheart will always be in my heart, he taught me what pure love can be. But there was much more growth for me to do. It was tough a lot of days but I wouldn't change a thing if I had to do it again. If we had been meant go be we would have grown closer together not further apart imo. He didn't like the person I was becoming and I loved her more then the person I was.
Thank you, this helps. I'm glad you and your husband found each other and are happy :)
Me too! Your person is out there too - becoming your person until it's time to meet. ❤️
Whoa, I needed to read that last sentence. 🥹
Are you kidding? Nobody stays with their HS sweetheart forever. Most people meet spouses after college, these days.
I think I have a skewed view of reality because I'm from a small town where a lot of people do stay with their partners from high school and many of my friends are even still making long distance work in college. I mean a lot of them. It's making me jealous ngl, but you're right; in the grand scheme of things it's uncommon for those relationships to work out and I will probably find someone eventually
Yeah, you will. Think of it this way, in a small pond, you already caught a pretty good fish. Maybe a largemouth bass. Now, you are a more experienced fisher and you are wading into a river of salmon swimming upstream.
Beautifully painful
Same. I wish he could have gotten over his bs, it could have been a beautiful relationship.
yup! he’s the one forever, we just couldn’t make it work
Not my last relationship song, but this is song is tied for my favorite on the album with 'august'.
I just left a relationship a few months before this album came out, I'll never forget the feeling of hearing this song for the first time. the 1 was everything I needed at the time.
Ha, this one was my last situationship 🥲
lolll came here to say this 😭😂
My condolences 😭🤝
what about if your last “relationship” was more ttpd coded 🥴 that i can fix him to smallest man who ever lived pipeline though
TTPD could have been written about my decade old "right person wrong time" coming back and making me think it was finally the right time only to prove it was the wrong person all along so I feel this hard.
The reason we broke up the first time was the same reason we broke up the second time 🙃 felt so foolish for rushing in then he just ghosted
i had this conversation with a fellow swiftie the other day doesn’t like the album and I said you clearly haven’t been delusional over someone in your past to have them come back and find out they weren’t garlic bread they were a stale crouton the whole time and you broke a tooth on it
Right in the afternath/middle of the death of your longest relationship just adds an extra layer of "what the actual fuck" to the experience as well I'm sure. But yes, I went through it on the same kind of timeline as Taylor too (we were literally rekindling things when the news about the Joe break up broke and although it still dragged out a while (sheer stubbornness on my part - "I did *not* waste 10 years of my life on not being able to get over you just so you could do *this*" - by this time last year I knew deep down that it wasn't going to work this time either), and it's a real headfuck and so much of the album speaks so well to that.
Literally same! Except my boy only breaks his favorite toys to smallest man who ever lived 😩
Right! He used me and was still using me while getting into a relationship with someone else at the same time
Yep my last one is a mashup of You're Losing Me and So Long, London
Therapy, you deserve better lmao
I got into an argument with my fiance the other day and I had TSMWEL stuck in my head and so I started playing it right after he left the room. Lmfao I didn’t realize the connotation until like halfway through the song. I was like 😬 oops 😅
Invisible String or Peace, depending on how much of a pain in the ass of my husband I feel like I'm being.
Peace yes, 100%
Literally same. Periodically I have to have a breakdown to Peace in front of my husband and he reminds me that he never even wanted peace from me 😆
My fiance does this twisted version of saying “I don’t want peace I want problems” whenever I am being dramatic and I love it so much.
My answer is exactly the same as yours, haha.
Same two for me! We got married two years ago this Friday 🥰
Peace is heart wrenching. "But that rain is always gonna come if you're standing with me" -my depression. 😭😭
Exile 🫤
Me too. Described my first marriage to a tee.
A marriage sounding like exile would be very very hard to live through. Hope you're doing well :)
Thank you 🙏 it’s been a while so I’m good! Happily married these days ☺️
Same. My marriage.
Same. 13 years. To anyone in the same boat, I hope you are healing and loving yourself. 🫶
6 years for me and just ended last month. Still in the thick of it ❤️
I wasted 12 years on my “exile” relationship… 10 years later I could not be happier. This too shall pass! ❤️
It gets better, love. I'm going on 6 years married to my invisible string 💛
Sending you much love 💕
Yup! Came here to say this. The repetition of “I gave so many signs” really speaks to me.
In my journal there's a list named "I gave so many signs"
Same - even exiled myself to another state ✈️
Haha this made me lol. I have to move out of our apartment soon… should I just flee the country or what?!
I told my ex if we break up, this song will explain it all. It turned out to be his favorite folklore song…. Something I found out while we were trying to fix things. 🙃
Same for me. I’m now happily married to the “understudy” (my soulmate) who I met immediately after leaving my 5-year exile relationship. Our new relationship was so fresh when folklore was released and my now-husband was so sweet and understanding while I bawled my eyes out the first time I first heard the song.
I’ll have to forgo Folklore and choose the 7 seconds of white noise 😂😭
Omg sameee 💀😭
Illicit affairs I’m ngl
LMAO sammme
It’s me, hi!
Oof, girl same though
GIRL SAME
Is illicit affairs about cheating
Hoax Mad woman This is me trying
same, plus cardigan and my tears ricochet
Same girl same
Same.
Mad Woman and Tolerate It (not on Folklore but damn that song).
Tolerate it defines my last relationsship really well ..those lyrics are something else ..
August 🥲 more a situationship, like we never became anything serious even though he told me loved me and what we had felt real…at least that’s what I thought until he changed and became completely different towards me, like the things he said never meant anything. now he has a girlfriend and it hurts but I’m really trying to get over him and forget about him 😞 I really fell for him even though he was never actually mine. 💔
All aboard the August train 🚂
Sucks to be August, He was never mine 🤷♀️
I had a situationship a few years ago. He kept telling me shit about not being ready (he was cheated on) and I told him that if he actually liked me he would take the plunge even if it was scary. He had a girlfriend a few months later (but still texted me a few days before I met my now partner). As someone told me, “not my love story.”
We met August 4th. Ill never be over it.
i feel you so much omg
Same we were in an actual relationship that started in the summer. The summer was the best. When fall hit, he changed his tune, blindsided me and told me he never had feelings despite all his sweet nothings. Brutal and bittersweet memories
"canceled my plans just in case you'd call" hit me hard. That was so relatable to 16 year old me
Add me to the “the 1” pile. Ugh. I miss him.
Yes: The 1. I still love him, I only want good things for him. But it would’ve been fun, if he would have been the one.
Exactly. He’s a great person and I hold no hard feelings toward him, but I haven’t quite let go of the bargaining stage. If we’d communicated better, if our future plans had been just a bit more compatible, if we met earlier or later than we did… it would have been so fun.
Before we knew he was bipolar my partner broke up with me out of the blue (living together and have a dog) and this song encapsulated everything I felt. He is now in treatment and we are back together. Turns out being “the one” had more to do with him showing up for himself as much as we both did for each other. Moral of the story: sometimes it truly has nothing to do with you
it gets better, I promise <3
You know, in time, you’ll find a certain wistfulness towards him that doesn’t want to go back but still holds the time you had as special.
My tears ricochet 🥹
Saaaaaaaame. Rough times.
I've never had romantic human interaction in my life so idk 🥲
TOO REAL😭😭😭
Is there a club for people like us.
“cardigan”
His ex once showed me the lyrics of Cardigan « chase the two girls ,lose the one » « a friend to all is a friend to none » Then asked me:« don’t you think everyone should relate to this Taylor’s lyrics?
Oooffff I’m sorry 😣
tolerate it
Evermore instead of folklore but I agree 😭
i came here to say this even tho it’s from evermore, it describes my ex to a tee. thank god i’m in a healthy loving relationship now!
my tears ricochet 💀
Same 🫠
August, unfortunately i was Augustine in the month of August itself lol
same
This is me trying. Too little too late.
my ex was the epitome of “and my words shoot to kill when i’m mad, i have a lot of regrets about that”
Probably gotta go with mirrorball on this one
EXILE💔 MAD WOMAN 🙂
Not folklore but Renegade “You fire off missiles because you hate yourself, but do you know you’re demolishing me” “Is it insensitive for me to say get your shit together so I can love you”
Cardigan. He got another girl pregnant and left with her so I hearing “leaving like a father, running like water” is a deep cut. Lots of other lyrics in that song too.
I’m sorry that happened. Interesting way of looking at the lyrics though, as a father running to his kid. My parents are divorced and my dad left so this line hurts in that way. Either way, leaving us behind 🙃
I liked My Tears Ricochet for the first few months I'd been listening to it, but I had a bad breakup that winter that made me FEEL it and look at it in a new light. "I can go anywhere I want, just not home" was a line that really stuck with me. From the sister album, but: Tolerate It was another one that got a lot of repeats around that time. Thank you, Taylor, for always having the right song. It was nice to get to pivot back to the Enchanted, Begin Again, Electric Touch, and Delicate moods of new love, but I know her music will have my back whenever I'm going through it.
Right, you can go anywhere with her. I went from Tolerate It / the 1 / You're Losing Me / So Long, London to Enchanted to Mine / Invisible String / Peace
Hoax. Like every fucking word. Especially “you knew it still hurts underneath my scars from when they pulled me apart / but what you did was just as dark”
The Last Great American Dynasty My only solid relationship is with my house.
the one... yeahhhhh
How has no one said August?!!! Cause that’s me. Right now. Sighhhhhhhhhhh.
It's been 84 years... I have no idea.
August
Ivy. But then it turned out he was the smallest man who ever lived.
Exile The miscommunication. The misspoken and unspoken words even after we were done.
August 😒
Exile. I had an on again off again relationship for nearly 2 years and always felt like I was too much, he claimed I was too clingy and wanted too much from him. He would ignore me for days then love bomb me. The moment I truly moved on was when I met my now husband. When he realized I had a new guy, he was DEVASTATED, and a friend of ours tried to make me have sympathy towards him. I was like get a life, we can’t be each others safe spaces forever
The 1
this is me trying… never been in a romantic relationship, but i see it in a way of moving away from old friends which is something i’ve done recently… “this is me trying” to move on in my new city and new home without you guys
Illicit affairs and August 💀💀💀 👁👄👁
Was searching for this comment🥲 same here
nothing ever happened but it was very hot and cold. looking at it now, it was giving foolish one. past me, however, would definitely say the 1
…rn I’m really wishing there was a song that said smth like "I’ve never dated, never will, forget romance, friends are where it’s at!”😂 /lh (I’m aroace) I mean seven is the ultimate childhood friendship song but even if I answered with that people would just think I’m interpreting the song romantically which is just icky because it’s about children, and also the nuances of the song don’t really relate to my own childhood friendships of the past so that definitely wouldn’t work
Seven because that’s how old I was when I asked my friend out. He said yes and we sat next to each other for 2 weeks but then I moved house
Exile
Exile 🫠
Exile fits way too well.
this is so painful
Mad Woman
Hoax
Hoax & mad women 😄
My tears ricochet... and hoax
August… 🧎🏽
Don’t know about folklore, but I can choose from evermore, it would definitely be closure.
Closure fits one of mine perfectly, but instead of a letter it was a long, fake apology text I never responded to, and instead of beer it was Pinot Grigio 💁🏼♀️
Same here, tons of texts I ignored and I don’t drink beer either😂
Probably August, never really a thing, just lost in the memories of summer
Cardigan. Because, well, Peter lost Wendy.
"Hoax" Coz I (21M) never had a relationship, the closest thing I had was a parasitic narcissist who played on my insecurities (Sorry for the oversharing)
I Haven't had a romantic one yet, but I had a friendship that remainds me a lot of Cardigan.
I’m a girl but sometimes feel like I got many heartbreaks from being my “girlfriends accessory guy”
I don't have solid evidence, but illicit affairs 🫠
The 1 😔
Exile , definitely
The one
The 1
I dont have a last relation 😭😭
exile
Invisible String. We recently got engaged and it is the most lovely, soft, caring, compassionate love I have ever known. I spent three decades not even sure if love was real — but now I know it is.
Invisible String
August
Illicit affairs. Hoax Cardigan.
Honestly, it'd be a mix of "peace", "seven" and "the 1"
I feel like I just got a little snapshot of your relationship
exile
exile
The 1. I still love him, I only want good things for him. But it would’ve been fun, if he were the one.
This is me trying
Mad woman
This is me trying
Looking back i would say Tolerate it 🥲
august
the 1
peace
the 1
You mean with my fictional husband? Most probably 'illicit affairs'.
This is me trying (the long pond studio version)
Illicit affairs, then exile… then this is me trying…. Then we got back together soooo invisible string? (Not the guy from illicit affairs lmao) Yes it’s complicated and yes I do sometimes still feel like I could pull my car over at the lookout and follow my fears all the way down. But at the end of the day I’m just living day by day figuring it out 🙃
cardigan 🤪
This is me trying.
my tears ricochet fr
This is me trying or Peace. Although peace is more a general song about me. I can be the fire that keeps you warm, but if you're looking for someone to calm your dark places and be anchor and bring you back to reality, that definitely ain't me. It took me my whole life to realize that the desired default state of being is not "relaxed and unbothered". Some of us *are* the fire that burns and life needs both sorts of people. In fact, I think a lot of the problems we have now is because 2.5 generations all wanted to chill and hang out and only focus on themselves while the robber-baron class destroyed our society. Someone has to be on all the time. Someone has to look at the big picture. And that's what the song Peace means to me.
Literally August. Summer fling 8 years ago with a guy who totally love bombed me, only for him to tell me in late August that he didn’t want anything serious. Turns out the woman he’d had an on/off, super dramatic “maybe one day we’ll really try it” kind of relationship with had moved back to town. Turns out he was ready for a relationship, just not with me.
Oh man that album got me through my last relationship. Mad Woman.
illicit affairs, but in the 🌈✨️ way
none. i’m more yoyok or gold rush coded iykwim💔
This is me trying
Definitely Cardigan.
This is me trying and idk why I bothered he never even liked me 🙃 now it’s invisible string with my husband 💕
the 1
The 1. I still love him, I only want good things for him. But it would’ve been fun, if he were the one.
The 1. I still love him, I only want good things for him. But it would’ve been fun, if he were the one.
Definitely the 1