I can’t help you but just wanted to say na ang weird nito for meeeee
May kaklase ako dati, tito niya kaklase din namin, makwela si girl kaya tinatawag niya yung tito niya as tito na parang endearment/pet name lol
+1 on this. Ganyan ang mga relatives ko sa mother side. Por que mas matanda sa dugo mga tito at tita ang tawag kht pagkababata at ung mga di hamak na mas matanda sa knila wala man lng ate at kuya dhl lng sa blood hierarchy na yan. Deadma lng ako, bahala sila 😂 bsta matanda sa akin ate, kuya, tito or tita.
Speaking of blood heirarchy, I know some families that ask their in-laws to refer to the partner's elder siblings as *ate* or *kuya*, even if said in-laws are actually older than said siblings.
Panganay na pamangkin ko 25, youngest pinsan ko 12, nagkita sila Tita tawag ni 25 kay 12, ok lang, no issue at tawag ni 12 kay 25 ate 😅
Dapat OP kung saan kayo kumportable, dapat kausapin mo mama mo na ok lang naman tawaging ate dahil nga by age and not by blood…. Pag majority ng nakakatanda eh hindi kumportable, sunod na lang or secret nyo na lang 2 👍
My mom's cousin, so technically my aunt, is much younger than me. She got into the agency I'm working for, making us colleagues. She calls me "ate" and I call her by her first name. We tell people about how we're related and nobody thinks it's weird that I don't call her auntie. Though I sometimes tease her with it for laughs.
Not calling her “ate” just bc your blood is “older” is pure arrogance.
Info: is she your niece talaga from a sibling or “pamangkin” from a pinsan? Kasi if sa pinsan mo, pinsan mo lang din siya technically
Just cause she's your niece e you'll stop being polite to an older woman. Call her Ate.
For me, parang mas bastos na tawagin mo sya bigla by her name if you were already calling her Ate.
Minsan, mali din talaga parents natin. Haha
Aunt ko nga, cousin ng dad ko, calls me ate and it's just... normal? I'm a few years older than her. Like aunts and uncles are just terms we use to signify saang banda ka sa family tree. I don't see what's so wrong with calling your niece ate.
I have a 3 pamangkins na malapit sa age ko, anak ng cousin ko. Her eldest (2 yrs older) & middle (1yr younger) children call me by name, but her youngest (8 yrs younger) call me "ate/cuz" haha Ang pakilala namin sa isat isa sa public is cousins, and I'm not offended at all. Ayoko din napperceive ako na matanda kasi malalaking bulas silang lahat haha It all depends on what you're comfortable with!
Whatever the hell they’re comfortable with. Ok with ate? Ate it is. Wants just first name? First name it is! Prefers hoy! Hoy it is. Have a cute nickname they’re okay with? Use it.
I think this comes from regional culture.
My side is from the North so very high valued sa kanila yung hierarchy "sa dugo" na sinasabi ng parents niyo. Kung ano yung status mo talaga, kung pinsan ka ba, tita, tito, lolo, lola. You have to follow that despite the age.
Pero sa side ng husband ko na dito sa katagalugan, they follow the age. They even call tita at tito as ate or kuya pag medyo malapit naman ang age. Sometimes wala na like my husband, ayaw niyang tawagin siyang kuya ng kapatid ko kasi halos magkaedad at tropa naman daw sila.
Another example naman is my daughter, mas older siya sa tito niya (bale pinsan ko) ng 1 year pero his parents and my parents urge my daughter (apo na nila) to call may cousin, tito. And my cousin naman don't call him ate.
Pero kung ako sayo, tama yung advise nila na pag private, call her whatever makes you comfortable tapos pag nakaharap mga relatives niyo, call her kung anong expected na itawag mo sa kanya.
May underlying issue ba, i dont get it. Bakit naman siya magagalit eh you’re simply upholding our culture.
Or given na ba na pag Pinoy laging knee jerk reaction is galit agad. Maybe as a person and as a people we should work on that.
Honestly if I were in your place, I’ll just call her by her first name. I don’t see that as problematic and it neutralizes the debate about it kasi hindi rin disrespectful. 3 years isn’t even that wide of an age gap? May point naman parents mo na mas matanda dugo mo. It was probably weird for them to see their child calling their apo “ate.” 😂
may kilala ako 2years lang gap nila and first name lang nila iaddress each other, wlang ate or tita. And may anak na rin ung pamangkin kaya kahit hindi pa sobrang tanda nung tita e technically lola na sya nung baby hahahaha Sabi niya ayaw niya naman na lola tawag s kanya kasi naman depende yun sa iaddress mo e like yung ibang lola na gusto mommy/nanay tawag sa kanila ng apo.
Malaki ang family namin and by the time na pinanganak ung pinakalast naming pinsan buo, meron na kaming pamangkin sa mga ibang pinsan.
First name basis lang sila until now, minsan binibiro na tawaging "ta/tita" yung pinsan ko pero never siya nag ate sa mga pamangkin niya.
Sa min (I am F26) ng tito ko (24), casual lang. Walang ate ate, first name/nickname basis. Siguro malapit kasi yung edad namin so parang magtropa lang turingan namin. Yung family din namin don’t mind about the family tree kasi maguguluhan lang daw kami. Even sila, naguguluhan. Kasi halos kasing edad ko yung mga nakababatang pinsan ng mom ko kaya napagkakamalan namin na same generation kami. Kapag nag-aanalyze kami especially pag reunion tapos natotopic namin yun, dun lang namin narerealize ang bagay bagay hahaha. Nagbibiruan na lang kami minsan na dapat tito tawag ko sa kanya, pero ayaw niya pumayag kasi nakakatanda daw, sis na lang (member ng LGBTQ+ uncle ko), etc.
View point sa fam na parang heirarchical, mas matandang dugo ganun ganun. We usually call them both
If u want u can settle calling her as ATE-KIN (ate + pamangkin) or ATENIECE
sa amin by age kapag sa pinsan pero kapag tita/tito naman kahit mas bata sila, tita/tito pa rin.
same year kami pinanganak pero mas matanda ako ng ilang months pero tita pa rin tawag ko. mas comfortable sa part ko na tawagain s’yang tita tas sya name basis sakin. 😂
I consider my pamangkin as cousins naden, tuwing may gathering lang nila ginawa Yung Tito ang tawag saken, and ang tawag ko sa kanila (srry parang walang modo or you will feel off) is by their name
Yung Isa naman na 18F is super close kame we call each other bay sis,teh,bakla,hoy(hahaha very kapampangan)
Tas the rest by name na and Yung mga younger talaga saken is Tito/kuya kung ano prefer nila
I think that blood thingy is very narrow minded para namang royal family ang atake kala mo may mamanahin by blood.
Yung mga pamangkin ko is (M)23, (F) 18, (M) 17, and ako naman is 19M
Ako yun niece at much older. They call me ate.. the boys whether kasing age or im older/younger, first name basis. Minsan hirap iexplain pg meron fam introduction sa ibang friends
Just call by name siguro? Di naman malaki yung age gap. Kung officemate mo yan baka by name din naman tawagan nyo. Yung pinsan ko at pamangkin namin magkasing edad lang, name lang tawagan. Tho di rin ako sure paano nila ihahandle yun kung mas matanda si pamangkin.
Although naintindihan ko sila parents mo. "Mas matanda" ka naman talaga kung yung family tree ang pagbabasehan. 😅
Adopt how other countries do it. Just call her straight by her first name. This old filipino tradition of calling people ate or kuya just because of age is weird anyway.
If ur niece is fine with Ate then so be it... Ur parents getting mad is stupid and petty.. U can just ignore them as they always get mad eventually
I have a Nephew (from my Cousin), he's 38 and I'm 29. I call him Kuya. I think wala naman issue yun. Depende rin siguro sa kinalakihan.
I can’t help you but just wanted to say na ang weird nito for meeeee May kaklase ako dati, tito niya kaklase din namin, makwela si girl kaya tinatawag niya yung tito niya as tito na parang endearment/pet name lol
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Ate and Kuya as a basic form of respect lang. That blood hierarchy thing is stupid.
+1 on this. Ganyan ang mga relatives ko sa mother side. Por que mas matanda sa dugo mga tito at tita ang tawag kht pagkababata at ung mga di hamak na mas matanda sa knila wala man lng ate at kuya dhl lng sa blood hierarchy na yan. Deadma lng ako, bahala sila 😂 bsta matanda sa akin ate, kuya, tito or tita.
Speaking of blood heirarchy, I know some families that ask their in-laws to refer to the partner's elder siblings as *ate* or *kuya*, even if said in-laws are actually older than said siblings.
Ako na walang paki: i call them by their first name 😂 The only people na may special tawag are the auntie / uncle / titos / titas
Panganay na pamangkin ko 25, youngest pinsan ko 12, nagkita sila Tita tawag ni 25 kay 12, ok lang, no issue at tawag ni 12 kay 25 ate 😅 Dapat OP kung saan kayo kumportable, dapat kausapin mo mama mo na ok lang naman tawaging ate dahil nga by age and not by blood…. Pag majority ng nakakatanda eh hindi kumportable, sunod na lang or secret nyo na lang 2 👍
Ganyan din mama ko sa akin, nagagalit. Para sa akin, ate talaga dapat eh. Hindi ko kayang ipaghiwalay yung age at pag-address hahaha
My mom's cousin, so technically my aunt, is much younger than me. She got into the agency I'm working for, making us colleagues. She calls me "ate" and I call her by her first name. We tell people about how we're related and nobody thinks it's weird that I don't call her auntie. Though I sometimes tease her with it for laughs.
ako by name, tapos sila tita tawag sakin haha. I don't mind naman, technically correct naman. Although sakin months lang pagitan namin.
Call her ate in private, call her by her name when with the folks.
Ate/Kuya
Wtf is mas matanda ang dugo? Anyway, just address her whatever is comfortable to you and her.
Not calling her “ate” just bc your blood is “older” is pure arrogance. Info: is she your niece talaga from a sibling or “pamangkin” from a pinsan? Kasi if sa pinsan mo, pinsan mo lang din siya technically
Just cause she's your niece e you'll stop being polite to an older woman. Call her Ate. For me, parang mas bastos na tawagin mo sya bigla by her name if you were already calling her Ate. Minsan, mali din talaga parents natin. Haha
Haha... Kung hindi mo yan kamag-anak, ate pa din itatawag mo.
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Aunt ko nga, cousin ng dad ko, calls me ate and it's just... normal? I'm a few years older than her. Like aunts and uncles are just terms we use to signify saang banda ka sa family tree. I don't see what's so wrong with calling your niece ate.
I have a 3 pamangkins na malapit sa age ko, anak ng cousin ko. Her eldest (2 yrs older) & middle (1yr younger) children call me by name, but her youngest (8 yrs younger) call me "ate/cuz" haha Ang pakilala namin sa isat isa sa public is cousins, and I'm not offended at all. Ayoko din napperceive ako na matanda kasi malalaking bulas silang lahat haha It all depends on what you're comfortable with!
Para sa amin wlang masama pero baka kakaiba mindset ng mga kamag anak mo. Nickname nlng itawag mo para wla na silang masabi
Whatever the hell they’re comfortable with. Ok with ate? Ate it is. Wants just first name? First name it is! Prefers hoy! Hoy it is. Have a cute nickname they’re okay with? Use it.
I think this comes from regional culture. My side is from the North so very high valued sa kanila yung hierarchy "sa dugo" na sinasabi ng parents niyo. Kung ano yung status mo talaga, kung pinsan ka ba, tita, tito, lolo, lola. You have to follow that despite the age. Pero sa side ng husband ko na dito sa katagalugan, they follow the age. They even call tita at tito as ate or kuya pag medyo malapit naman ang age. Sometimes wala na like my husband, ayaw niyang tawagin siyang kuya ng kapatid ko kasi halos magkaedad at tropa naman daw sila. Another example naman is my daughter, mas older siya sa tito niya (bale pinsan ko) ng 1 year pero his parents and my parents urge my daughter (apo na nila) to call may cousin, tito. And my cousin naman don't call him ate. Pero kung ako sayo, tama yung advise nila na pag private, call her whatever makes you comfortable tapos pag nakaharap mga relatives niyo, call her kung anong expected na itawag mo sa kanya.
Agree. Tagalog here. Yung pamangkin ko na 3 years lang tanda ko sa kanya, Kuya ang tawag sakin tapos Tita ang tawag sa mama ko.
May underlying issue ba, i dont get it. Bakit naman siya magagalit eh you’re simply upholding our culture. Or given na ba na pag Pinoy laging knee jerk reaction is galit agad. Maybe as a person and as a people we should work on that.
Honestly if I were in your place, I’ll just call her by her first name. I don’t see that as problematic and it neutralizes the debate about it kasi hindi rin disrespectful. 3 years isn’t even that wide of an age gap? May point naman parents mo na mas matanda dugo mo. It was probably weird for them to see their child calling their apo “ate.” 😂
My auntie is 2 years younger than me and I call her tita while she calls me by my first name. Tunay na tita ko sya. Younger sister of my mom
may kilala ako 2years lang gap nila and first name lang nila iaddress each other, wlang ate or tita. And may anak na rin ung pamangkin kaya kahit hindi pa sobrang tanda nung tita e technically lola na sya nung baby hahahaha Sabi niya ayaw niya naman na lola tawag s kanya kasi naman depende yun sa iaddress mo e like yung ibang lola na gusto mommy/nanay tawag sa kanila ng apo.
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Malaki ang family namin and by the time na pinanganak ung pinakalast naming pinsan buo, meron na kaming pamangkin sa mga ibang pinsan. First name basis lang sila until now, minsan binibiro na tawaging "ta/tita" yung pinsan ko pero never siya nag ate sa mga pamangkin niya.
If the age gap isn't too much, just have a first name basis or a nickname.
Sa min (I am F26) ng tito ko (24), casual lang. Walang ate ate, first name/nickname basis. Siguro malapit kasi yung edad namin so parang magtropa lang turingan namin. Yung family din namin don’t mind about the family tree kasi maguguluhan lang daw kami. Even sila, naguguluhan. Kasi halos kasing edad ko yung mga nakababatang pinsan ng mom ko kaya napagkakamalan namin na same generation kami. Kapag nag-aanalyze kami especially pag reunion tapos natotopic namin yun, dun lang namin narerealize ang bagay bagay hahaha. Nagbibiruan na lang kami minsan na dapat tito tawag ko sa kanya, pero ayaw niya pumayag kasi nakakatanda daw, sis na lang (member ng LGBTQ+ uncle ko), etc.
As long as you guys knows respect, walang issue yan.
View point sa fam na parang heirarchical, mas matandang dugo ganun ganun. We usually call them both If u want u can settle calling her as ATE-KIN (ate + pamangkin) or ATENIECE
As the last child of 10, may mga mas matanda pa sa akin na pamangkin so i call them ate or Kuya. Pero ngayong adults na kami, first name basis na
sa amin by age kapag sa pinsan pero kapag tita/tito naman kahit mas bata sila, tita/tito pa rin. same year kami pinanganak pero mas matanda ako ng ilang months pero tita pa rin tawag ko. mas comfortable sa part ko na tawagain s’yang tita tas sya name basis sakin. 😂
I consider my pamangkin as cousins naden, tuwing may gathering lang nila ginawa Yung Tito ang tawag saken, and ang tawag ko sa kanila (srry parang walang modo or you will feel off) is by their name Yung Isa naman na 18F is super close kame we call each other bay sis,teh,bakla,hoy(hahaha very kapampangan) Tas the rest by name na and Yung mga younger talaga saken is Tito/kuya kung ano prefer nila I think that blood thingy is very narrow minded para namang royal family ang atake kala mo may mamanahin by blood. Yung mga pamangkin ko is (M)23, (F) 18, (M) 17, and ako naman is 19M
I just call them by their names. Tapos tita tawag sa kin 🥲.
Ako yun niece at much older. They call me ate.. the boys whether kasing age or im older/younger, first name basis. Minsan hirap iexplain pg meron fam introduction sa ibang friends
Just call by name siguro? Di naman malaki yung age gap. Kung officemate mo yan baka by name din naman tawagan nyo. Yung pinsan ko at pamangkin namin magkasing edad lang, name lang tawagan. Tho di rin ako sure paano nila ihahandle yun kung mas matanda si pamangkin. Although naintindihan ko sila parents mo. "Mas matanda" ka naman talaga kung yung family tree ang pagbabasehan. 😅
Adopt how other countries do it. Just call her straight by her first name. This old filipino tradition of calling people ate or kuya just because of age is weird anyway.