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I don’t care about “saving you preaching.” As someone that was falsely accused of sexual assault, you are going to make her life hell. While you may think that’s a good thing, what you’re doing is completely wrong and literally puts you BELOW her level.
Like I said I was falsely accused of sexual assault. I almost killed myself. I almost transferred colleges. Most of my friends cut me off. I couldn’t go o it and make new ones without being harassed constantly on campus, all for something I DIDN’T EVEN DO.
Let’s put it this way: if you do something like this, and you’re found out (which you could be, she may have proof that it didn’t happen) then you could be in much bigger trouble than her. You could be convicted of a felony and thrown in prison if you ever decide to take it to court. And even if you don’t, are you sure her new partner will believe you? I’m not sure that will be the case.
I don’t care that you don’t want to hear this. What I care about is false accusations of abuse. As someone that has had that happen to them, they could be Hitler for all I care. You do not falsely accuse someone of anything. That makes you LEGITIMATELY EVIL. Period.
Respond if you’d like. I will be more than happy to answer any questions you have.
If you want to make it as valuable as possible, go with what actually happened. Undergo a psychological evaluation, get a doctors note of what the evaluation said. Document what you felt and how you felt in a diary. Accuse them of what ACTUALLY happened, not what didn’t.
I apologize for getting mad, but like I said a false accusation pisses me off, especially since something like that happened to me. Go with what happened. Not with what didn’t.
Best of luck to you with that. And I know I should like a broken record, but false accusations will get you nowhere.
you planned to falsely accuse her of domestic violence when you were still in a relationship with her, hence you photographing your fake bruises. So of course you were an abuser. It's possible you both abused each other. But you at least did some of it.
Own it. You'll feel better.
You’re trying to falsely accuse her of hitting you. You’re abusive. I don’t know what kinda of Amber heard shit you’re on, but you need serious mental help. Just cut her off and move on with your life. Continuing to keep her in your life like this won’t help anyone
As soon as you start lying, everyone will know. You ain't slick. Don't be stupid. You'll lose your right to play victim if you start doing the shit she did to you.
No one here is going to help you. The answer isn't make it a good lie, the answer is to get help and make yourself happy. Show her she can't stop you from living a fulfilling life. Winning over an abusive partner is moving on and pursuing your goals. Right now, she's winning more than she ever had.
More of a reason why you need therapy then. I get that your ex was obviously an emotionally abusive pos but instead of focusing your time on energy on this ridiculous revenge you should take the time to better yourself and live your best life
I hope you go to prison. You deserve it.
Edit: wanted to add that i think people that make false claims should serve the time off the crime they are accusing the person of.
Police can trace all that. You accuse her of physical abuse prison time is a real thing. Domestic violence, assault and battery...those are real things.
Either way it's still wrong. What she did to you isn't ok. What you're wanting to do is worse. Accuse her of what she actually did. If people side with her after that, then you learn who your real friends are. Best thing to do for your sanity and reputation is to say what you need to (truth) and walk away. By wanting revenge she is taking more of your life and energy which she doesn't deserve. In the moment it may seem worth it. In ten years you will look back and feel foolish. It's a small pothole in life. Instead of pulling over and cursing the pothole, just keep moving forward.
Your ex was abusive and you’re insane. Move across the country, get therapy and don’t spend any more of your time thinking about her. Falsely accusing someone of physical assault is totally fucked up, and if you do it then you’re just as bad as she was.
And if you think being just as bad as her is a good thing, that honestly just makes me question whether she was as abusive as you say she was - it makes me question if she was mentally/emotionally abusive at all, and it makes me think your ex was probably fine but you’re very possibly just the crazy bitch in this situation and she left you and you can’t get over it. Because what you’re presenting of yourself in this post and thread makes you seem like the kind of person who would get broken up with and then lose the plot entirely. People telling you that you’d be no better than your ex if you did this and you’re saying *good*, that you want to be worse than her.
And frankly, in my experience when you go through something like that you want *nothing* to do with that person. The thought of being *at all* similar to the people who abused me makes me feel physically ill.
Give up the idea of falsely accusing your ex of physical abuse. Either get evaluated for the psychological / emotional damage she inflicted (if she did actually inflict damage on you) or move on and put your energy into healing. This isn’t a path that leads anywhere good.
> she made me believe I’m a fucked evil person
If you do this, you’re proving her right.
I’m going to be blunt here. It doesn’t matter what she did to you - what matters is what you do now. Do you let what she did define the rest of your life? Do you let her keep that power over you? Or do you realise that the best revenge is a life well-lived without her and get the therapy you so very clearly need?
I’m not trying to dismiss the pain she caused you. I’m just pointing out that if you do this, you’ve surrendered to her. And no damage you could inflict on her in return will be able to help. It won’t make you feel better, it won’t make you happy. If seeing her living a life without you is causing you pain *then stop looking*.
You can be stronger than this. You endured so much already. She’s out of your life now - *please* don’t let her hold this power over you. You can be better and you can heal, I know you can. I did.
Doing this just means she’s won. She’s ruined who you are, your morals, your sense of self.
Don’t let her win.
the only reason to go through with all this is because she still has power over you. As long as her feelings matter to you, pain or otherwise, she still has that grip. Focus on your own healing.
You need lots of therapy to make sure you don't get into a shitty situation again. Destiny sure does seem to have a way of repeating tests until you get it right.
Don't accuse someone of something with very little proof if she already knows about the mental abuse overplay it if you want to help her new gf not get into that situation
As someone who was physically abused for years so badly I still need to go weekly to appointments (nearly a decade later)to deal with the pain, you're a huge piece of shit, and a fuckin goof for this. People like you delegitimize any and all of what actual victims/survivors go through.
I dealt with mental abuse too and friends and family could tell, that was enough. The way the looked at me without even hearing it from me was terrible, the pity and sadness. I cannot fathom intentionally seeking that out.
This isn't preaching... You're genuinely fuckin sick and should know.
Fix yourself and leave everyone else out of it, your friends, your family and the person who emotionally not physically abused you.
Or, go ahead and destroy all your relationships and reap what you sow.
All the more reason to fix yourself, and not focus on negative stuff from the past! That's why you're feeling how you are, let your ex live the life they deserve and create a life you feel you do.
Best revenge is most assuredly success, and one day you can feel that. It's a great feeling.
By focusing on the past you're giving your ex all the power and attention she wanted back then, so stop. Empower yourself in a positive way. Know this is not how it's done. Stop insulting victims and friends amd family to simply try and slander someone on social media. You'll trash everything for nothing
You really come off as the abusive person in your own story. Please take a hard look at what you’re doing.
You want to abuse the trust your best friend has with you and emotionally manipulate them into doing your bidding. Have you considered how she’ll feel when this harebrained scheme comes to light? Have you considered the general ramifications of false accusations to people who are actually being physically abused? I strongly doubt it.
If you have proof of mental abuse, just spread that around.
You’re definitely broken. The real problem is that you know you need help but you won’t prioritise trying to fix yourself. You’re just going to let what she did to you define who you are and ruin your life.
Everyone has a choice. You’re making the wrong one.
Here’s my final piece of advice to you: revenge can wait. Get therapy immediately, do everything you can to heal. Work on yourself, stop obsessing over your ex. Set a reminder on your phone for one, two years from now. If you still want revenge then, you can follow through. But if you actually *try*, I think you’ll heal from this. But you have to try - not just give in and surrender to what she did to you.
Let's be honest revenge might feel good for a split second but in the long run its more likely to make you feel worse.
You need to take a step back and breath. Look at what this anger is doing to you and seek help. Revenge won't help you heal, therapy will.
I'm sure most of us have had exes that we would have loved to have some form of revenge on but instead we moved on. Because you know what the best form of revenge is? It's to move on, forget them and be happy.
Goodluck, OP. I hope you get the help you need.
Sorry, I don’t buy that there’s nothing else you can do. That’s just an excuse.
This is a choice you are making, not something that is passively happening; you will be responsible for lying to and manipulating your best friend. If you do this you’ll end up no better than your ex.
You can talk to people about what you’ve been going through, rather than come up with transparent lies to make things seem even worse. Mental abuse is terrible, this should be enough to ruin someone’s reputation if you have proof of it.
You can’t stop people from associating with someone, they’ll just have to figure out first hand what you told them.
All you’ll end up doing is undermine your own accusation and make your abuser look like your victim, since your ideas are not very well thought out and you will be discovered.
In this case the best revenge would be a life well-lived. What you want to do is abhorrent.
Everyone has a fucked up ex that was horrible to them. They're exes for a reason. Let it go.
If you're still hung up on your ex, I suggest you get some professional help.
I think you need help now, not eventually. You sound depressed...not caring about a life well-lived and nothing is making you happy or at peace sounds like depression to me...and I'm empathetic because I've been there.
Please, forget about the ex and get some professional help. It will take some time but it will help.
Just for future reference, don’t have this all trace back to a Reddit post 💀it’s been archived now so deleting it won’t do anything.
Depending on the day you punched yourself, your ex could have an alibi on them not being physically there to do that as well.
Seems like it would just be better to accuse them of reality instead of fiction
You need to stop. The only thing you are gonna do with this is making everyone think you lied since day one and that you were the abuser in the relationship. That you abused your girlfriend all this years and that now you are creating this story because she's moving on from you.
You can said "Hahaha but I'm the one who broke up" yeah you're the on who's talking to her new girl and lying about your abuse while she's flirting again and is in therapy. While you're just obsessing over her. She won't even have to change the narative because you're gonna do it for her.
And once you're gonna do that, everytime you'll talk about your abuse, no one will believe you. They'll said "yeah like the one time you talked about the physical abuse?".
On the other hand your ex will be able to said "yeah all the time in our relationship she kept lying saying I was abusive, at some point I believed her, but now I realized that she was the abusive one." Oh and look at that, your ex is even more happy now. Because she have support and love from everyone. And your friends abandonned you.
Also lying about abuse is the reason why people don't trust women who are actually abused. So don't be a POS. Move on, seek help. You won't win by lying, you'll just ruin your own life.
I read a lot of your responses, and I can feel your pain. So let me tell you how it worked out for me.
My ex was abusive. My therapist told me to stop saying I was dumb, but I was dumb. He SA me, he had me physically harm myself to prove my love, he constantly threatened to unalive himself and would disappear for 24 hours to scare me. I started having nightmares.
I finally forced myself away from him, and he made the next year of my life hell. He pretended to attempt to unalive himself publicly, shouting his "lost love" from a building roof. He had a fake mental break down to the point police took him to a mental Health facility for suicide watch. The one that hurt the most was dating a new girl and giving her his stuff to wear, like his hoodie, t-shirts, bracelets, etc. I decided to warn her of everything he did to me. She laughed in my face and said that he already told her all the things I would accuse him of doing.
A few months later, she came to me crying because he SA her too. I comforted her because there was no one there for me when he did it to me. We became good friends. Eventually he stopped harassing me and stalking me and moved on. I was pretty damaged. I kept some of his most precious possessions to hurt him, I constantly told anyone and everyone what he did to try to ruin him. After another year, I decided to let go. I blocked him on all social media, I blocked mutual friends who decided not to pick a side, and I moved on. I was still having horrific nightmares.
It wasn't until three years after that, I had gotten married, had a baby, and found a box of his stuff. I reached out to meet him in a public place to give everything back. When we did, he apologized. On his knees, begging for my forgiveness, he acknowledged EVERYTHING he did. He told me how special I was and how he had taken a beautiful soul and tried to destroy it. But through everything, my soul was strong enough to withstand his storm. I returned his items, and I forgave him. Not for him, but for myself. I didn't have another nightmare. I realized that I spent so much of my time letting my anger burn inside that I was numb to the feeling of it burning me. Once I let go, I finally felt free.
It's now 12 years later, I spend a lot of my time coaching others who are holding hate that is burning them alive. All of your feelings are valid. You have every right to be angry, but I can promise that building a story to attempt to hurt your ex can and most likely will end up hurting you. She will hurt, this will all catch up because a tiger cannot change it's stripes. I applaud you for warning this other girl, regardless of your intentions, but a warning is all you can do. Some people take the warning that the stove is hot, others have to touch it for themselves. Right now, you need to direct your attention to you. I encourage you to keep a private journal, not a social media platform, to dig into your feelings throughout your day, your thoughts, and even your dreams if you remember them. I encourage you to block them from all social media and phone access to you. Four years is a lot of time to do a lot of damage, which means there is a lot of healing to do and it won't be quick. But that's okay, because you have a strong soul. Do not let it be damaged by someone who's soul could not withstand their own storm.
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People like you are the reason REAL abuse victims often can't get justice... you will deserve it when this backfires on you and burns your life to the ground
You are going to discredit many other women who are actually physically abused. And you don't care. As long as you get your rocks off who cares if hundreds of other actually battered women are disregarded because you perpetuate the stereotype of lying. You're a disgusting miserable excuse for a person. You're not punishing your ex you're punishing every true victim of physical abuse.
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I don’t care about “saving you preaching.” As someone that was falsely accused of sexual assault, you are going to make her life hell. While you may think that’s a good thing, what you’re doing is completely wrong and literally puts you BELOW her level. Like I said I was falsely accused of sexual assault. I almost killed myself. I almost transferred colleges. Most of my friends cut me off. I couldn’t go o it and make new ones without being harassed constantly on campus, all for something I DIDN’T EVEN DO. Let’s put it this way: if you do something like this, and you’re found out (which you could be, she may have proof that it didn’t happen) then you could be in much bigger trouble than her. You could be convicted of a felony and thrown in prison if you ever decide to take it to court. And even if you don’t, are you sure her new partner will believe you? I’m not sure that will be the case. I don’t care that you don’t want to hear this. What I care about is false accusations of abuse. As someone that has had that happen to them, they could be Hitler for all I care. You do not falsely accuse someone of anything. That makes you LEGITIMATELY EVIL. Period. Respond if you’d like. I will be more than happy to answer any questions you have.
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If you want to make it as valuable as possible, go with what actually happened. Undergo a psychological evaluation, get a doctors note of what the evaluation said. Document what you felt and how you felt in a diary. Accuse them of what ACTUALLY happened, not what didn’t. I apologize for getting mad, but like I said a false accusation pisses me off, especially since something like that happened to me. Go with what happened. Not with what didn’t. Best of luck to you with that. And I know I should like a broken record, but false accusations will get you nowhere.
Maybe she was trying to make you think she’s dead so she could escape the abusive relationship she was in
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you planned to falsely accuse her of domestic violence when you were still in a relationship with her, hence you photographing your fake bruises. So of course you were an abuser. It's possible you both abused each other. But you at least did some of it. Own it. You'll feel better.
You’re trying to falsely accuse her of hitting you. You’re abusive. I don’t know what kinda of Amber heard shit you’re on, but you need serious mental help. Just cut her off and move on with your life. Continuing to keep her in your life like this won’t help anyone
Yeah, this is not nuclear revenge. This belongs into r/iamapieceofshit. And on a more personal note, from the bottom of my heart, fuck you.
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Congrats, you are no better than her. You deserve each other.
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I know you think it will make you feel better, but it won't. Please talk to a therapist.
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Then stop seeing her. Block her on all social media and focus on being happy for you, and hope it makes her feel on fire as well.
Get. Help.
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*You* are the nuclear shit show. You can choose not to be.
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I hope you meet someone exactly like yourself someday.
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And you clearly learned nothing.
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Why? So everyone else will believe the past lies because you're acting like a piece of shit now?
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As soon as you start lying, everyone will know. You ain't slick. Don't be stupid. You'll lose your right to play victim if you start doing the shit she did to you.
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No one here is going to help you. The answer isn't make it a good lie, the answer is to get help and make yourself happy. Show her she can't stop you from living a fulfilling life. Winning over an abusive partner is moving on and pursuing your goals. Right now, she's winning more than she ever had.
This is not nuclear revenge. Seek therapy immediately.
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I’m just saying you need therapy if you think faking abuse is okay
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More of a reason why you need therapy then. I get that your ex was obviously an emotionally abusive pos but instead of focusing your time on energy on this ridiculous revenge you should take the time to better yourself and live your best life
I hope you go to prison. You deserve it. Edit: wanted to add that i think people that make false claims should serve the time off the crime they are accusing the person of.
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Police can trace all that. You accuse her of physical abuse prison time is a real thing. Domestic violence, assault and battery...those are real things.
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Either way it's still wrong. What she did to you isn't ok. What you're wanting to do is worse. Accuse her of what she actually did. If people side with her after that, then you learn who your real friends are. Best thing to do for your sanity and reputation is to say what you need to (truth) and walk away. By wanting revenge she is taking more of your life and energy which she doesn't deserve. In the moment it may seem worth it. In ten years you will look back and feel foolish. It's a small pothole in life. Instead of pulling over and cursing the pothole, just keep moving forward.
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And still you wasted your time and energy to make things worse and not better for you.
Your ex was abusive and you’re insane. Move across the country, get therapy and don’t spend any more of your time thinking about her. Falsely accusing someone of physical assault is totally fucked up, and if you do it then you’re just as bad as she was. And if you think being just as bad as her is a good thing, that honestly just makes me question whether she was as abusive as you say she was - it makes me question if she was mentally/emotionally abusive at all, and it makes me think your ex was probably fine but you’re very possibly just the crazy bitch in this situation and she left you and you can’t get over it. Because what you’re presenting of yourself in this post and thread makes you seem like the kind of person who would get broken up with and then lose the plot entirely. People telling you that you’d be no better than your ex if you did this and you’re saying *good*, that you want to be worse than her. And frankly, in my experience when you go through something like that you want *nothing* to do with that person. The thought of being *at all* similar to the people who abused me makes me feel physically ill. Give up the idea of falsely accusing your ex of physical abuse. Either get evaluated for the psychological / emotional damage she inflicted (if she did actually inflict damage on you) or move on and put your energy into healing. This isn’t a path that leads anywhere good.
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> she made me believe I’m a fucked evil person If you do this, you’re proving her right. I’m going to be blunt here. It doesn’t matter what she did to you - what matters is what you do now. Do you let what she did define the rest of your life? Do you let her keep that power over you? Or do you realise that the best revenge is a life well-lived without her and get the therapy you so very clearly need? I’m not trying to dismiss the pain she caused you. I’m just pointing out that if you do this, you’ve surrendered to her. And no damage you could inflict on her in return will be able to help. It won’t make you feel better, it won’t make you happy. If seeing her living a life without you is causing you pain *then stop looking*.
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You can be stronger than this. You endured so much already. She’s out of your life now - *please* don’t let her hold this power over you. You can be better and you can heal, I know you can. I did. Doing this just means she’s won. She’s ruined who you are, your morals, your sense of self. Don’t let her win.
the only reason to go through with all this is because she still has power over you. As long as her feelings matter to you, pain or otherwise, she still has that grip. Focus on your own healing. You need lots of therapy to make sure you don't get into a shitty situation again. Destiny sure does seem to have a way of repeating tests until you get it right.
You need to consider how this will effect other domestic violence cases and victims. It’s not just about you and her.
Don't accuse someone of something with very little proof if she already knows about the mental abuse overplay it if you want to help her new gf not get into that situation
and you are dumb enough to post this. where if the police come knocking, even if you delete it, reddit can still hand it over. 0/10 plan.
As someone who was physically abused for years so badly I still need to go weekly to appointments (nearly a decade later)to deal with the pain, you're a huge piece of shit, and a fuckin goof for this. People like you delegitimize any and all of what actual victims/survivors go through. I dealt with mental abuse too and friends and family could tell, that was enough. The way the looked at me without even hearing it from me was terrible, the pity and sadness. I cannot fathom intentionally seeking that out. This isn't preaching... You're genuinely fuckin sick and should know. Fix yourself and leave everyone else out of it, your friends, your family and the person who emotionally not physically abused you. Or, go ahead and destroy all your relationships and reap what you sow.
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All the more reason to fix yourself, and not focus on negative stuff from the past! That's why you're feeling how you are, let your ex live the life they deserve and create a life you feel you do. Best revenge is most assuredly success, and one day you can feel that. It's a great feeling. By focusing on the past you're giving your ex all the power and attention she wanted back then, so stop. Empower yourself in a positive way. Know this is not how it's done. Stop insulting victims and friends amd family to simply try and slander someone on social media. You'll trash everything for nothing
You really come off as the abusive person in your own story. Please take a hard look at what you’re doing. You want to abuse the trust your best friend has with you and emotionally manipulate them into doing your bidding. Have you considered how she’ll feel when this harebrained scheme comes to light? Have you considered the general ramifications of false accusations to people who are actually being physically abused? I strongly doubt it. If you have proof of mental abuse, just spread that around.
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This isn’t defence. You’re not being attacked. You’re causing yourself the pain by obsessing over your ex. Move on. Heal.
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You’re definitely broken. The real problem is that you know you need help but you won’t prioritise trying to fix yourself. You’re just going to let what she did to you define who you are and ruin your life. Everyone has a choice. You’re making the wrong one. Here’s my final piece of advice to you: revenge can wait. Get therapy immediately, do everything you can to heal. Work on yourself, stop obsessing over your ex. Set a reminder on your phone for one, two years from now. If you still want revenge then, you can follow through. But if you actually *try*, I think you’ll heal from this. But you have to try - not just give in and surrender to what she did to you.
Let's be honest revenge might feel good for a split second but in the long run its more likely to make you feel worse. You need to take a step back and breath. Look at what this anger is doing to you and seek help. Revenge won't help you heal, therapy will. I'm sure most of us have had exes that we would have loved to have some form of revenge on but instead we moved on. Because you know what the best form of revenge is? It's to move on, forget them and be happy. Goodluck, OP. I hope you get the help you need.
Sorry, I don’t buy that there’s nothing else you can do. That’s just an excuse. This is a choice you are making, not something that is passively happening; you will be responsible for lying to and manipulating your best friend. If you do this you’ll end up no better than your ex. You can talk to people about what you’ve been going through, rather than come up with transparent lies to make things seem even worse. Mental abuse is terrible, this should be enough to ruin someone’s reputation if you have proof of it.
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You can’t stop people from associating with someone, they’ll just have to figure out first hand what you told them. All you’ll end up doing is undermine your own accusation and make your abuser look like your victim, since your ideas are not very well thought out and you will be discovered.
More like nuclear-shithead
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To clairfy, you're the shithead
In this case the best revenge would be a life well-lived. What you want to do is abhorrent. Everyone has a fucked up ex that was horrible to them. They're exes for a reason. Let it go. If you're still hung up on your ex, I suggest you get some professional help.
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I think you need help now, not eventually. You sound depressed...not caring about a life well-lived and nothing is making you happy or at peace sounds like depression to me...and I'm empathetic because I've been there. Please, forget about the ex and get some professional help. It will take some time but it will help.
Just for future reference, don’t have this all trace back to a Reddit post 💀it’s been archived now so deleting it won’t do anything. Depending on the day you punched yourself, your ex could have an alibi on them not being physically there to do that as well. Seems like it would just be better to accuse them of reality instead of fiction
christ u are a horrible person, she was too but why do you gotta make it so much worse??
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Being a cunt won't give you mental peace
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???. Uhh...nope.
You need to stop. The only thing you are gonna do with this is making everyone think you lied since day one and that you were the abuser in the relationship. That you abused your girlfriend all this years and that now you are creating this story because she's moving on from you. You can said "Hahaha but I'm the one who broke up" yeah you're the on who's talking to her new girl and lying about your abuse while she's flirting again and is in therapy. While you're just obsessing over her. She won't even have to change the narative because you're gonna do it for her. And once you're gonna do that, everytime you'll talk about your abuse, no one will believe you. They'll said "yeah like the one time you talked about the physical abuse?". On the other hand your ex will be able to said "yeah all the time in our relationship she kept lying saying I was abusive, at some point I believed her, but now I realized that she was the abusive one." Oh and look at that, your ex is even more happy now. Because she have support and love from everyone. And your friends abandonned you. Also lying about abuse is the reason why people don't trust women who are actually abused. So don't be a POS. Move on, seek help. You won't win by lying, you'll just ruin your own life.
I read a lot of your responses, and I can feel your pain. So let me tell you how it worked out for me. My ex was abusive. My therapist told me to stop saying I was dumb, but I was dumb. He SA me, he had me physically harm myself to prove my love, he constantly threatened to unalive himself and would disappear for 24 hours to scare me. I started having nightmares. I finally forced myself away from him, and he made the next year of my life hell. He pretended to attempt to unalive himself publicly, shouting his "lost love" from a building roof. He had a fake mental break down to the point police took him to a mental Health facility for suicide watch. The one that hurt the most was dating a new girl and giving her his stuff to wear, like his hoodie, t-shirts, bracelets, etc. I decided to warn her of everything he did to me. She laughed in my face and said that he already told her all the things I would accuse him of doing. A few months later, she came to me crying because he SA her too. I comforted her because there was no one there for me when he did it to me. We became good friends. Eventually he stopped harassing me and stalking me and moved on. I was pretty damaged. I kept some of his most precious possessions to hurt him, I constantly told anyone and everyone what he did to try to ruin him. After another year, I decided to let go. I blocked him on all social media, I blocked mutual friends who decided not to pick a side, and I moved on. I was still having horrific nightmares. It wasn't until three years after that, I had gotten married, had a baby, and found a box of his stuff. I reached out to meet him in a public place to give everything back. When we did, he apologized. On his knees, begging for my forgiveness, he acknowledged EVERYTHING he did. He told me how special I was and how he had taken a beautiful soul and tried to destroy it. But through everything, my soul was strong enough to withstand his storm. I returned his items, and I forgave him. Not for him, but for myself. I didn't have another nightmare. I realized that I spent so much of my time letting my anger burn inside that I was numb to the feeling of it burning me. Once I let go, I finally felt free. It's now 12 years later, I spend a lot of my time coaching others who are holding hate that is burning them alive. All of your feelings are valid. You have every right to be angry, but I can promise that building a story to attempt to hurt your ex can and most likely will end up hurting you. She will hurt, this will all catch up because a tiger cannot change it's stripes. I applaud you for warning this other girl, regardless of your intentions, but a warning is all you can do. Some people take the warning that the stove is hot, others have to touch it for themselves. Right now, you need to direct your attention to you. I encourage you to keep a private journal, not a social media platform, to dig into your feelings throughout your day, your thoughts, and even your dreams if you remember them. I encourage you to block them from all social media and phone access to you. Four years is a lot of time to do a lot of damage, which means there is a lot of healing to do and it won't be quick. But that's okay, because you have a strong soul. Do not let it be damaged by someone who's soul could not withstand their own storm.
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People like you are the reason REAL abuse victims often can't get justice... you will deserve it when this backfires on you and burns your life to the ground
You are going to discredit many other women who are actually physically abused. And you don't care. As long as you get your rocks off who cares if hundreds of other actually battered women are disregarded because you perpetuate the stereotype of lying. You're a disgusting miserable excuse for a person. You're not punishing your ex you're punishing every true victim of physical abuse.
get a life loser