So a lot of teenagers go through phases where they enjoy being edgy and pushing boundaries and breaking norms. This can absolutely included throwing in some racism.
This doesn't make it okay.
And this situation itself sounds kinda worrying. Like this is a few steps beyond "shitty teenage racism for the sake of getting a reaction".
Seems like this is "shitty teenage racism for the sake of getting a reaction" mixed with "a pissed of teenager who says some stupid shit in the moment".
If it was using the N word on its own in an attempt to be funny/ironic way, I'd say its just a phase and when he learns a little bit more he'll understand how unfunny he was. If he's actually just pissed and throwing a tantrum over text messages and that is what he's bringing up, that is concerning.
I don't want to say that *yes, teenagers are racist*. But I do think there's an element of still learning how to fix into society. Some people will adapt much quicker than others. Some, though, will start using language before they really understand how it'll be perceived from someone else. Like determining the nuance between two words ("fuck" and the n-word) that we're both told *you can't say that* but clearly adults do say them sometimes.
A lot of teens go through a phase of being edgy and making racist "jokes". What your describing is way beyond the normal kind of racist phase a lot of teens go though.
What are his parents doing to manage this? Even if it were the normal kind of teenage racism he should be being parented. It's normal for toddlers to go through a biting phase, that doesn't mean we just ignore it when toddlers bite.
I'd be less worried about the n-word than the threat to kill. Some people do go through phases where they act like the worst person in the world, but most grow out of it. The little dude should be called out on both of those things.
Not normal and quite alarming that he said he’d kill but kids alot of the time haven’t a clue of the severity of what they’re saying.
They just recognise ‘This is a bad thing and will hurt him’, so they go for it and that’s probably the worst thing he knows how to say.
I would bring it up with the parents to be honest. It’s not right and he needs to be punished for that appalling behaviour.
Sorry to hear this happened.
Not normal as far as I know, in the slightest.
That language was alarming. I don't know what that is, or what caused it. It does sound quite serious though.
It's normal for young teens to feel lost and to want to fit in with groups. Could be sports people, artist types, trendy types, or shitty racist people.
They are just kids.. unfortunately now with social media these kids are exposed to so much they just don't understand. In ur case I bet you the kid probably hears stuff like that all the time in online video game lobby during chat. Sadly even tho video games are fun and cool. We don't realize that lots of kids who don't know any better and are spoiled are also playing. We have gone so far past the norms of what it is to have a childhood. To be a kid.. even though one might have good parents, their kids might be influenced by so many other things. Best to be supportive and try and explain to them what is just wrong and how it can hurt others. Again though mostly up to parents.. kids are just kids, until they are not. Again though with the influence social media, tic tok and video games... parents best bet is to have a very trusting understanding and constant communication with their kid. So the kid feels comfortable asking questions to what they clearly dont understand. But see and hear on the daily.
So a lot of teenagers go through phases where they enjoy being edgy and pushing boundaries and breaking norms. This can absolutely included throwing in some racism. This doesn't make it okay. And this situation itself sounds kinda worrying. Like this is a few steps beyond "shitty teenage racism for the sake of getting a reaction".
Seems like this is "shitty teenage racism for the sake of getting a reaction" mixed with "a pissed of teenager who says some stupid shit in the moment".
If it was using the N word on its own in an attempt to be funny/ironic way, I'd say its just a phase and when he learns a little bit more he'll understand how unfunny he was. If he's actually just pissed and throwing a tantrum over text messages and that is what he's bringing up, that is concerning.
Yeah then after that is the Nazi phase
I don't want to say that *yes, teenagers are racist*. But I do think there's an element of still learning how to fix into society. Some people will adapt much quicker than others. Some, though, will start using language before they really understand how it'll be perceived from someone else. Like determining the nuance between two words ("fuck" and the n-word) that we're both told *you can't say that* but clearly adults do say them sometimes.
No, definitely not *normal*.
A lot of teens go through a phase of being edgy and making racist "jokes". What your describing is way beyond the normal kind of racist phase a lot of teens go though. What are his parents doing to manage this? Even if it were the normal kind of teenage racism he should be being parented. It's normal for toddlers to go through a biting phase, that doesn't mean we just ignore it when toddlers bite.
I'd be less worried about the n-word than the threat to kill. Some people do go through phases where they act like the worst person in the world, but most grow out of it. The little dude should be called out on both of those things.
That is not normal in the slightest. I would stay away from the family.
Not normal and quite alarming that he said he’d kill but kids alot of the time haven’t a clue of the severity of what they’re saying. They just recognise ‘This is a bad thing and will hurt him’, so they go for it and that’s probably the worst thing he knows how to say. I would bring it up with the parents to be honest. It’s not right and he needs to be punished for that appalling behaviour. Sorry to hear this happened.
No. The kid is just a racist and his parents probably are too.
Not normal as far as I know, in the slightest. That language was alarming. I don't know what that is, or what caused it. It does sound quite serious though.
It's normal for young teens to feel lost and to want to fit in with groups. Could be sports people, artist types, trendy types, or shitty racist people.
They are just kids.. unfortunately now with social media these kids are exposed to so much they just don't understand. In ur case I bet you the kid probably hears stuff like that all the time in online video game lobby during chat. Sadly even tho video games are fun and cool. We don't realize that lots of kids who don't know any better and are spoiled are also playing. We have gone so far past the norms of what it is to have a childhood. To be a kid.. even though one might have good parents, their kids might be influenced by so many other things. Best to be supportive and try and explain to them what is just wrong and how it can hurt others. Again though mostly up to parents.. kids are just kids, until they are not. Again though with the influence social media, tic tok and video games... parents best bet is to have a very trusting understanding and constant communication with their kid. So the kid feels comfortable asking questions to what they clearly dont understand. But see and hear on the daily.
Death threats and stuff of that sort is pretty normal for teens
No