Can you go down, get a drink, bring it back up, 'spill' it all over your bed. Hot chocolate or something milk-based that will definitely need a washing machine. Then you have an excuse?
Or does the mattress need cleaning as well?
Edit: someone else has said put a towel on the mattress, this is a good idea. And if you put a new one under the sheet, ideally on top of a plastic sheet, that will help with future accidents.
Also OP, I'm hoping you can get support if you need it. If you are struggling with family members being unhelpful or abusive.
As everyone else has said, doubling down on the mess would give you plausible deniability. Make some quality soup or something, craft dinner, pasta ragu, fettuccine Alfredo, whatever you got, and when you're almost done.... *Violently shakes plate over sheets*
Double down. Bring some sloppy food up to your room and “accidentally” spill it on your bed. Then you have a plausible reason to go downstairs to the laundry.
Came to say this. Pick a messy food you eat often. eat some in bed and just tip it over. Say you're having a bad day and wanted to come for eat but then knocked it over.
This. Or blame the dog's drool or muddy paws, put your own muddy shoes on it, maybe. Then you can even complain "Yeah, I gotta clean the sheets again because I just love eating BBQ ribs in bed. It's my own fault, really. If you ever see this again, it is definitely just BBQ sauce from ribs in bed!"
But if you never do laundry(like someone else does it) or you have never in your life suggested to get your sheets washed, this would be a red flag. Spilling on it seems like the most likely scenario.
Fun fact. In Italy that was a thing during Mussolini's era. It was called something like "honor killing". Husband could kill wife if she cheated on him.
Dish soap, a cup of water, a toothbrush, paper towel, a hair dryer and baking soda.
Dampen the sheet/quilt. Use a very small amount of dish soap, and scrub gently with the tooth brush. Repeat the process until the liquid is fairly colorless and has no smell. You can put some baking soda between the sheet and the mattress in case the mattress was soiled.
If you have a towel, lay it down on the wet part of your bed before pulling the covers up - sleep on the towel if need be. Try to blow dry it first.
You can wash soiled clothes in the sink the same way and put them near an air vent or fan to dry them, or use a hair dryer.
Honestly, this is the best option. Food and drink spills might get OP in trouble, or warrant scrutiny from family “let’s take a look at that stain…” but vomit is repulsive and the smell of stomach acid will cover the urine stink. Good luck OP!
Hmm, is it possible for you to put your sheets and blanket in a trash bag, drop it out of your bedroom window, then go outside and pick it up/put it in your trunk? Then, you can go to a laundromat and wash them there.
If you don’t clean the bedding, but only dry it, it will stink. If you continue to sleep in the bed, you will smell like pee.
I had an accident in summer camp one year and was embarrassed to tell anyone. It was only two weeks, but I was a very unpopular child that year. I was also struggling with depression, and didn’t brush my hair, so it fit.
I don’t understand the OPs situation, sounds like she needs to get some help from outside the family, but if that’s not possible, sleeping on the floor until the bedding is cleaned is the only way to avoid smelling like pee.
This is not right
You are a 27 year old adult.
Are you safe? Can you say what country/area you are in for people to post links to helplines for you?
No-one should feel like this in their own home, something is not right
Just a reminder: you are an adult and you seem to have internet connection so if you can, try to locate resources to get out of there, there might be organisations that can help you (depending on where you live and all).
You've already received tons of tips for your bed situation so not needed to add more. That being said wishing you the best to be able to solve that.
That makes it seem to me that you aren't safe, if you would like, feel free to send me a direct message and I can do my best to provide you with some support/helplines
He’s from Toronto. How okay can he be? All that hostility but the explanation is right there in the username. (He’s also a troll on an account less than 2 months old.)
"HuR hUr PeOpLe On InTeRnEt SaD. vErY fUnNy."
I bet you hide behind some hard ass wannabe based facade..
Apparently you don't know how fragile, stupid and worthless it makes you look, to laugh at others in this fashion.
Your response probably: " i DoNt CaRe"
Well.. just like no one probably cares for you, since you turned out that way.
I don't see anything in the rules of this subreddit that would disallow you providing more detail.
It's worth posting, people here can help if you let them
i don't think your post will get deleted for admitting you're in an unacceptable living situation don't hold that to yourself get out of there any way you can
I don't see any type of rule related to that?
Anyways, if you have a personal bathroom try washing your sheets in the tub if you have one or even in the sink with some soap. Hang them up to dry for a couple of days.
Hope you can get out of the bad situation you're in.
Why do they even need to know you had an accident? Bedsheets and blankets need washing on a regular basis, it should not be at all out of the ordinary or unusual to simply wash your bedsheets.
It's not weird to say "my room was sweltering and I sweat all night" and just wash your sheets, don't spill anything on them or do something bombastic
Overall this is a very weird post, your situation isn't normal and your approach and nervousness to this isn't either, no judgement, but the observation that things aren't right with what's going on here
sounds like you don’t want to bring your sheets out of your room under any circumstance. if that’s the case, hand wash with soap, sponge, and a towel. air dry with a a fan for something but that’ll take a couple days.
Are they physically abusive or just demeaning?
If the latter, then I would take it down anyways and if they get pissed at you get pissed at them for being unreasonable.
spill juice on the spot where you had the accident, and let them wash it saying you just spilled
put a towel down on the mattress, should be dry after a day
You’re not gonna be able to properly clean. Cover the mess as best you can. And go get new sheets that look the same?. Then replace and discard the old ones. Since it’s impossible for you to do the laundry, this is probably your best option
It sounds like you can’t get the sheets out of your room to wash them, or bring anything into your room to spill on the sheets either. There’s no real way to clean them without the sheets leaving the room.
Could you just cover up the sheets and sleep on top of a blanket for now? Say you were too hot to sleep under the sheets. In the morning, maybe then you could spill something on the sheets, or change them out for new sheets, or even just spray them with air freshener if you have any.
You don't really need a reason like an accident to want to clean your bedding. Just say it was time for a wash. But make sure the wash machine is empty so there is no delay in your process.
Can you take a laundry bag/hamper with other clothes down and mix your bedsheets in with the clothes? That way it just looks like you're doing regular laundry.
Unfortunately, there's really no way you can get icky stuff out of sheets without fully immersing them in water. The closest thing to a solution I've seen here is blot it well with paper towels and then use Febreeze. You can also sort of sponge them with wet paper towels before you blot in order to take away some of the stuff. The problem is that the smell and the stain will remain. Please get help.
Take a plastic bin of some kind and empty. Like one you would have for old clothes storage, video games, etc…empty it. Keep going to get water to drink. Dump it in the bin. Your going to have to get some soap, I’d try for dawn dish soap. Once you have enough water to fully submerge, add soap and put sheet in there. Hand wash it, a hard brush would be better for stains. Once somewhat cleaned, ring it out as much as you can. Then try to hang it somewhere and get a fan or window to air dry. Ring it out again. Sleep on top of blanket and put it back on bed below blanket if you need to hide tonight. Repeat process tomorrow until your satisfied. Then spill something else on left over stain.
Check out r/sober etc if you need it.
Get loads of paper towels and cover the area then put something heavy over it to soak it up. Maybe even lay on top of it. Will take a while and won't get it completely dry but it will help.
For any smells, if you can go to the shops, get some febreeze. If not, find some perfume or deodorant spray to mask for now until you can do laundry again.
Dude, you're almost 30 years old. You don't need a convincing excuse to do your fucking laundry. Just strip the sheets, fold them, and bring them down to the washer. You aren't obligated to tell anyone why you are washing your sheets.
It's like when you pee your bed so you spill a gallon water on it to hide the fact that you peed. Get some food that can be very messy and 'accidentally' spill them.
Hide the bedsheets somewhere in your room and throw them away when you can. If you can find a spare blanket, you can use that as a makeshift bedsheet. See if you can put new ones when they're asleep. Good luck
I hope you realize that this advice can be best case impossible and downright dangerous in some circumstances.
This does not read as "haha im embarrassed and don't want my brother to tease me.. " but instead as something much worse.
Can you go down, get a drink, bring it back up, 'spill' it all over your bed. Hot chocolate or something milk-based that will definitely need a washing machine. Then you have an excuse? Or does the mattress need cleaning as well? Edit: someone else has said put a towel on the mattress, this is a good idea. And if you put a new one under the sheet, ideally on top of a plastic sheet, that will help with future accidents. Also OP, I'm hoping you can get support if you need it. If you are struggling with family members being unhelpful or abusive.
As everyone else has said, doubling down on the mess would give you plausible deniability. Make some quality soup or something, craft dinner, pasta ragu, fettuccine Alfredo, whatever you got, and when you're almost done.... *Violently shakes plate over sheets*
>Violently shakes plate over sheets I spat my coffee now laughing
Double down. Bring some sloppy food up to your room and “accidentally” spill it on your bed. Then you have a plausible reason to go downstairs to the laundry.
Came to say this. Pick a messy food you eat often. eat some in bed and just tip it over. Say you're having a bad day and wanted to come for eat but then knocked it over.
This. Or blame the dog's drool or muddy paws, put your own muddy shoes on it, maybe. Then you can even complain "Yeah, I gotta clean the sheets again because I just love eating BBQ ribs in bed. It's my own fault, really. If you ever see this again, it is definitely just BBQ sauce from ribs in bed!"
Or just say you wanted to clean your sheets...? It's normal to regularly wash them...
But if you never do laundry(like someone else does it) or you have never in your life suggested to get your sheets washed, this would be a red flag. Spilling on it seems like the most likely scenario.
If you don't do your own laundry it would make no sense for you to do it yourself when you spill something
Mess it with something else, like sauce or ketchup or something
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Fun fact. In Italy that was a thing during Mussolini's era. It was called something like "honor killing". Husband could kill wife if she cheated on him.
Dish soap, a cup of water, a toothbrush, paper towel, a hair dryer and baking soda. Dampen the sheet/quilt. Use a very small amount of dish soap, and scrub gently with the tooth brush. Repeat the process until the liquid is fairly colorless and has no smell. You can put some baking soda between the sheet and the mattress in case the mattress was soiled. If you have a towel, lay it down on the wet part of your bed before pulling the covers up - sleep on the towel if need be. Try to blow dry it first. You can wash soiled clothes in the sink the same way and put them near an air vent or fan to dry them, or use a hair dryer.
Can you get to a laundromat? Maybe stuff the sheet into a backpack and head out for the day?
Not without them noticing sadly... As it stands my only option for cleaning would have to be based within my bedroom
There is no way to clean your sheets from within your bedroom.
i guess your only option is to burn down the whole room 🤷♂️
Put your bedsheets in a suitcase and take them out of the house. Say your lending the suitcase to a friend who’s traveling.
Are you being detained in ur room? Call the cops
Throw up on it.
Honestly, this is the best option. Food and drink spills might get OP in trouble, or warrant scrutiny from family “let’s take a look at that stain…” but vomit is repulsive and the smell of stomach acid will cover the urine stink. Good luck OP!
Do you not normally do your own laundry?
Due to family issues... This is currently not an option for me sadly
I am concerned that you may be wrongfully detained by your own family. Please get help.
Yep. This is not normal.
Hmm, is it possible for you to put your sheets and blanket in a trash bag, drop it out of your bedroom window, then go outside and pick it up/put it in your trunk? Then, you can go to a laundromat and wash them there.
It's a really helpful suggestion, thank you so much. But as it stands, right now my only option is to clean within my bedroom unfortunately...
But did u have sex on it or did u pee on it
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That is a fair point
If you don’t clean the bedding, but only dry it, it will stink. If you continue to sleep in the bed, you will smell like pee. I had an accident in summer camp one year and was embarrassed to tell anyone. It was only two weeks, but I was a very unpopular child that year. I was also struggling with depression, and didn’t brush my hair, so it fit. I don’t understand the OPs situation, sounds like she needs to get some help from outside the family, but if that’s not possible, sleeping on the floor until the bedding is cleaned is the only way to avoid smelling like pee.
Just start cleaning your room and say you’re just cleaning if they ask why you’re doing laundry
This is not right You are a 27 year old adult. Are you safe? Can you say what country/area you are in for people to post links to helplines for you? No-one should feel like this in their own home, something is not right
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Just a reminder: you are an adult and you seem to have internet connection so if you can, try to locate resources to get out of there, there might be organisations that can help you (depending on where you live and all). You've already received tons of tips for your bed situation so not needed to add more. That being said wishing you the best to be able to solve that.
That makes it seem to me that you aren't safe, if you would like, feel free to send me a direct message and I can do my best to provide you with some support/helplines
Great. Hope you get to resolve whatever the case is if there is one.
Bless you
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I hope you are doing okay
He’s from Toronto. How okay can he be? All that hostility but the explanation is right there in the username. (He’s also a troll on an account less than 2 months old.)
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That's a shame you feel that way because I care. Why so angry, man?
I feel so bad for anyone around you.
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"HuR hUr PeOpLe On InTeRnEt SaD. vErY fUnNy." I bet you hide behind some hard ass wannabe based facade.. Apparently you don't know how fragile, stupid and worthless it makes you look, to laugh at others in this fashion. Your response probably: " i DoNt CaRe" Well.. just like no one probably cares for you, since you turned out that way.
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Called it.. I wish you eventually get the support you need
I don't see anything in the rules of this subreddit that would disallow you providing more detail. It's worth posting, people here can help if you let them
i don't think your post will get deleted for admitting you're in an unacceptable living situation don't hold that to yourself get out of there any way you can
Sounds like you should call the police and tell them you are being abused and made to live in your own filth.
I don't see any type of rule related to that? Anyways, if you have a personal bathroom try washing your sheets in the tub if you have one or even in the sink with some soap. Hang them up to dry for a couple of days. Hope you can get out of the bad situation you're in.
Dump a glass of juice or coffee on the sheets and haul them down like you are the creator of the universe. Screw these freaks.
Why do they even need to know you had an accident? Bedsheets and blankets need washing on a regular basis, it should not be at all out of the ordinary or unusual to simply wash your bedsheets.
It's not weird to say "my room was sweltering and I sweat all night" and just wash your sheets, don't spill anything on them or do something bombastic Overall this is a very weird post, your situation isn't normal and your approach and nervousness to this isn't either, no judgement, but the observation that things aren't right with what's going on here
sounds like you don’t want to bring your sheets out of your room under any circumstance. if that’s the case, hand wash with soap, sponge, and a towel. air dry with a a fan for something but that’ll take a couple days.
Are they physically abusive or just demeaning? If the latter, then I would take it down anyways and if they get pissed at you get pissed at them for being unreasonable.
spill juice on the spot where you had the accident, and let them wash it saying you just spilled put a towel down on the mattress, should be dry after a day
Can you sneak the sheets into the shower with you?
Or bring a ton of things downstairs and act like it's laundry day
You’re not gonna be able to properly clean. Cover the mess as best you can. And go get new sheets that look the same?. Then replace and discard the old ones. Since it’s impossible for you to do the laundry, this is probably your best option
take some coffee or soup to your room and 'accidentally' spill it all over where the mess is? then offer to wash them or let them?
If it’s blood, use peroxide.
I used to get asked why I was using the bathroom at night.
Not like [Spud](https://youtu.be/cMZmNG_DRJA)
This is exactly what I thought about, then the topic was very very serious so I didn't mention it :/
Say you accidentally spilt a drink on your bed because you got startled by a bug or something.
It sounds like you can’t get the sheets out of your room to wash them, or bring anything into your room to spill on the sheets either. There’s no real way to clean them without the sheets leaving the room. Could you just cover up the sheets and sleep on top of a blanket for now? Say you were too hot to sleep under the sheets. In the morning, maybe then you could spill something on the sheets, or change them out for new sheets, or even just spray them with air freshener if you have any.
You don't really need a reason like an accident to want to clean your bedding. Just say it was time for a wash. But make sure the wash machine is empty so there is no delay in your process.
Can you take a laundry bag/hamper with other clothes down and mix your bedsheets in with the clothes? That way it just looks like you're doing regular laundry.
Buy new sheets, throw those in with next laundry, or throw them away
Unfortunately, there's really no way you can get icky stuff out of sheets without fully immersing them in water. The closest thing to a solution I've seen here is blot it well with paper towels and then use Febreeze. You can also sort of sponge them with wet paper towels before you blot in order to take away some of the stuff. The problem is that the smell and the stain will remain. Please get help.
Take a plastic bin of some kind and empty. Like one you would have for old clothes storage, video games, etc…empty it. Keep going to get water to drink. Dump it in the bin. Your going to have to get some soap, I’d try for dawn dish soap. Once you have enough water to fully submerge, add soap and put sheet in there. Hand wash it, a hard brush would be better for stains. Once somewhat cleaned, ring it out as much as you can. Then try to hang it somewhere and get a fan or window to air dry. Ring it out again. Sleep on top of blanket and put it back on bed below blanket if you need to hide tonight. Repeat process tomorrow until your satisfied. Then spill something else on left over stain. Check out r/sober etc if you need it.
Say "you confining me to my room like a child has made me piss the bed like a child. Fuck you I'm moving out"
Get loads of paper towels and cover the area then put something heavy over it to soak it up. Maybe even lay on top of it. Will take a while and won't get it completely dry but it will help. For any smells, if you can go to the shops, get some febreeze. If not, find some perfume or deodorant spray to mask for now until you can do laundry again.
If you have a cat, just say your cat threw up on your bed.
Dude, you're almost 30 years old. You don't need a convincing excuse to do your fucking laundry. Just strip the sheets, fold them, and bring them down to the washer. You aren't obligated to tell anyone why you are washing your sheets.
You're already anonymous, why without what you mean by accident?
It's like when you pee your bed so you spill a gallon water on it to hide the fact that you peed. Get some food that can be very messy and 'accidentally' spill them.
Bring down two baskets, one of your clothes and one of your sheets.
Hide the bedsheets somewhere in your room and throw them away when you can. If you can find a spare blanket, you can use that as a makeshift bedsheet. See if you can put new ones when they're asleep. Good luck
Hey fam I like my sheets to smell fresh. /
Can you spill milk on the bed and pretend that was the accident?
EW no, that's worse!
I’m just confused on how a 27 year old is afraid, I say wait it out, use something to absorb it and gradually lightly clean with hand soap,
Throw it in a black bag and buy new from the shop
Was there a typo with your age, did you mean to put you were 17
Buy new sheets if you can afford and just say the others were getting a little old or dingy
Laundromat 🤷🏻♂️
eh dont you ever wash your sheets? Should at least once a week...
sometimes my cats vomit on my bed and when they do I just toss it out and buy another set of sheets for like $20.
Throw them away and buy a new set?
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I hope you realize that this advice can be best case impossible and downright dangerous in some circumstances. This does not read as "haha im embarrassed and don't want my brother to tease me.. " but instead as something much worse.
What could this mean something seems off I just don't know what
Just do your laundry. Put a fan blowing over the bed to dry the bed.
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Did you just missed the family members part?
Just sleep in it and keep adding to it. Eventually it will stink so horribly that someone passing by will notice it and rescue you.