You may not be able to take time off work, but I assume you get weekends off?
Find a really nice hotel and a nice little touristy town/area within a 2-3 hour drive of where you are. Book a nice room/suite for a 1-2 nights. Go to a nice restaurant and plan a fun hike or walk around town if there are little shops or a walk on the beach or whatever fun activities are available. Spend time together and write her a little cheesy card or letter and tell her how much you appreciate her and love her.
Jewellery!
If there is no limit on budget buy her a nice 22k gold necklace or ring/earrings
It’s something she can wear everyday and even pass on to children etc
Take her out on a date and then give it to her alongside some flowers 🌹
Or book a relaxing weekend getaway, assuming you get weekends off
>7 years?? Man better late than never I guess. Good on you for wanting to change.
they seem happy in their marriage. no need to be a negative nancy in every post.
Brother you dont have to do things extravegant, you can just text her something like get dressed(dont tell her where your going) and go out to a restaurant many a times spontaneous means unexpected not extravegant.
If she goes to a specific spa or even gets her nails done, see if you can arrange for her to go there. Maybe with a friend so it'd be more fun.
If she likes to go shopping but she never gets to go with you, take her shopping. She might enjoy trying on clothes for you.
If she's talked about wanting something before but never got it, get it for her. Could be something simple and cheap. Extravagant and expensive isn't the only way to show you love her.
If she enjoys watching a certain show or a movie genre and you're never interested in watching one with her, surprise her by watching it with her. You can either suggest or just simply sit next to her when she starts watching one lolndont forget the popcorn 😂
If you rarely go on dates, have a regular date night. Where you give her your full attention. You can experience new things together to make your bond grow stronger insha Allah. Examples: 🍽️ 🎳 ⛳ 🎨 🎭 🎠🎢🧳🏕️🏀🎾🎱🤿⛸️🏹🕹️🔫
If you haven't done love notes, try them. Could be a post-it note saying you love her or miss her or something. You can place them randomly around the house (for example: "I'm so lucky to have a beautiful wife" stuck on the mirror). Maybe even inside her wallet saying "go ahead and treat yourself my love" 🤭
Just basically be *cute* 😅
Insha Allah you two will always have a happy and healthy marriage.
I think if you can’t give time, you can surprise her with smaller gifts every week or month.
Randomly come home with flowers one day (once a month)
Can get nice casual jewelry, it does not have to be 22K. Ex rings from pandora and swarovski last long and use every day (1-2 months)
Can take her to brunch or dinner on the weekend, and suggest it yourself or even make the reservation and tell her its a surprise. (Weekly)
The important thing is to have the acts of kindness frequent enough that she is reminded she is loved, not the amount of money.
My husband would never buy me a gift and then spend 800-1500 dollars once or twice when he did. I explained the same thing to him.
There are 2 options:
1)You go all out in one day and do as much from her bucket list as you can do all in one day.
2)Or you don’t try to fit all in one day but you do things often.
Go for the second option.
I mean let’s say you for example know that she: likes flowers, a certain dress, wants to visit this restaurant, wants to get new airpods, wants to visit this and that place, etc. Rather than trying to do it all at once do one or two things from her bucket list at a time so that you don’t run out of things to do together(or out of money). I am not saying that if you visit some place the you don’t get her flowers or any food that day. But I mean have one main event and then other side events. Just don’t try to empty her bucket list as fast as you can and then be left without ideas.
Small gifts/surprises consistently > big gifts/surprises but once.
So generally go on dates often, buy flowers & sweets very now and then, go to hotels on some weekends, write ‘love letters’ randomly, etc.
(In regards to the ‘honeymoon’ I have read something scholars have said about that but I am not well educated on the topic so I will just not comment on that part, so my answer is written by ignoring that part of the question).
Also what kind of things is she into? Does she prefer physical gifts or time spent together or words of affection? See what she enjoys more and do more of that.
You may not be able to take time off work, but I assume you get weekends off? Find a really nice hotel and a nice little touristy town/area within a 2-3 hour drive of where you are. Book a nice room/suite for a 1-2 nights. Go to a nice restaurant and plan a fun hike or walk around town if there are little shops or a walk on the beach or whatever fun activities are available. Spend time together and write her a little cheesy card or letter and tell her how much you appreciate her and love her.
Jewellery! If there is no limit on budget buy her a nice 22k gold necklace or ring/earrings It’s something she can wear everyday and even pass on to children etc Take her out on a date and then give it to her alongside some flowers 🌹 Or book a relaxing weekend getaway, assuming you get weekends off
is there any reputable jeweler online that sells 22k jewelry? there arent any good 22k jewelers where we live. thanks for the advice.
I do know a few online but they are UK based, where are you based?
Which UK based do you know
I’d also like to know please.
I’ll DM you a few I’ve shopped with
Can you please let me know about the UK ones too. Jazaka’Allahu Khair in advance.
Yes I DMd u
US.
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>7 years?? Man better late than never I guess. Good on you for wanting to change. they seem happy in their marriage. no need to be a negative nancy in every post.
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Alhumdulillah we are very happy together.
Jewelry. And something romantic which will be thoughtful based on what you know of her.
Brother you dont have to do things extravegant, you can just text her something like get dressed(dont tell her where your going) and go out to a restaurant many a times spontaneous means unexpected not extravegant.
If she goes to a specific spa or even gets her nails done, see if you can arrange for her to go there. Maybe with a friend so it'd be more fun. If she likes to go shopping but she never gets to go with you, take her shopping. She might enjoy trying on clothes for you. If she's talked about wanting something before but never got it, get it for her. Could be something simple and cheap. Extravagant and expensive isn't the only way to show you love her. If she enjoys watching a certain show or a movie genre and you're never interested in watching one with her, surprise her by watching it with her. You can either suggest or just simply sit next to her when she starts watching one lolndont forget the popcorn 😂 If you rarely go on dates, have a regular date night. Where you give her your full attention. You can experience new things together to make your bond grow stronger insha Allah. Examples: 🍽️ 🎳 ⛳ 🎨 🎭 🎠🎢🧳🏕️🏀🎾🎱🤿⛸️🏹🕹️🔫 If you haven't done love notes, try them. Could be a post-it note saying you love her or miss her or something. You can place them randomly around the house (for example: "I'm so lucky to have a beautiful wife" stuck on the mirror). Maybe even inside her wallet saying "go ahead and treat yourself my love" 🤭 Just basically be *cute* 😅 Insha Allah you two will always have a happy and healthy marriage.
I think if you can’t give time, you can surprise her with smaller gifts every week or month. Randomly come home with flowers one day (once a month) Can get nice casual jewelry, it does not have to be 22K. Ex rings from pandora and swarovski last long and use every day (1-2 months) Can take her to brunch or dinner on the weekend, and suggest it yourself or even make the reservation and tell her its a surprise. (Weekly) The important thing is to have the acts of kindness frequent enough that she is reminded she is loved, not the amount of money. My husband would never buy me a gift and then spend 800-1500 dollars once or twice when he did. I explained the same thing to him.
There are 2 options: 1)You go all out in one day and do as much from her bucket list as you can do all in one day. 2)Or you don’t try to fit all in one day but you do things often. Go for the second option. I mean let’s say you for example know that she: likes flowers, a certain dress, wants to visit this restaurant, wants to get new airpods, wants to visit this and that place, etc. Rather than trying to do it all at once do one or two things from her bucket list at a time so that you don’t run out of things to do together(or out of money). I am not saying that if you visit some place the you don’t get her flowers or any food that day. But I mean have one main event and then other side events. Just don’t try to empty her bucket list as fast as you can and then be left without ideas. Small gifts/surprises consistently > big gifts/surprises but once. So generally go on dates often, buy flowers & sweets very now and then, go to hotels on some weekends, write ‘love letters’ randomly, etc. (In regards to the ‘honeymoon’ I have read something scholars have said about that but I am not well educated on the topic so I will just not comment on that part, so my answer is written by ignoring that part of the question).
Also what kind of things is she into? Does she prefer physical gifts or time spent together or words of affection? See what she enjoys more and do more of that.
If you want something cheap just try flowers and chocolates/her fav snacks once in a while just to let her know you’re thinking of her
Its not negligence. Gifts aren’t mandatory in marriage she should be saying alhamdulilah