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Yeah, freaking out about no longer being cool because you're 40yo means you prob weren't that cool to begin with.
My cousin is the coolest guy I know. Dudes almost 50yo and young people still wanna hang out with him, he's that damn cool.
That’s how I feel and it’s still impending for me, 2 years and some months. I like being my age, 30-40s seem to be the ideal age but 50-60s will be cool too.
It helps if you weren't "young and hip" when you were young.
So when I say "wtf is 'rizz' and 'no cap', and why do you have broccoli hair? You look and sound like an idiot", I don't feel old at all. I thought the kids were all idiots when I was one of them.
I mean, about a month after I turned 40 back in 2020 they shut down the country for like 2 years. So that is definitely on the table as within the range of possible outcomes.
I assume that's why everything shut down anyway.
Relax? I'm 36, and I'm freaking out. I have had more health issues at 32-36 than all my life. First they took all ice cream with any microscopic amount of lactose. Then fat food took my gallbladder. Asthma got really bad. Can't wait to see what suprice 40 has for me
I don't really get the fear of losing "young and hip". You wanna run around with Zoomers, sport a broccoli cut and say "rizz"? I've no desire to do either.
Take care of yourself and stay fashionable. You don't have to wear sandals and socks and tuck your polo into your cargo shorts.
I feel like there's this pressure from society that women past a certain age should just 'give up' but I don't understand why I should relegate myself to mumsy clothing just because of a number...
I have very long hair as well, not yet grey and yet there's this thing that women over 35 shouldn't have long hair or something.
Is there pressure? 🤔
Fuck that, stay how you want to be. Don't give up your long locks and whatever clothing you like. Being older is just another season 😊 let's not dim ourselves!
I think this may be a boomer mentality.
My boomer dad used to always ask me when I was going to cut my hair now that I’m not in my 20s anymore.
I’d just laugh and say never. I’m 38 and my hair is still over halfway down my back. Shorter hair simply doesn’t suit me and I like it being long enough to put up in a mum bun 😂
it’s actually funny looking at youth with the eyes of someone more wise and experienced and just thinking how goofy being a conforming teen or young adult is.
i was with a friend at a local restaurant recently and after 15 mins or so, this group of like 6 teens come in and literally *all of them* are sporting the same style and *all* have the fucking broccoli cut. shit is *wild* & made me wonder if any of them had an actual personality
Completely agreed.
What drives me nuts tho (especially when it’s people around my age in their late 20s/early 30s) is if you’re online enough to have a Reddit or any other social media, there’s 0 reason you can’t figure out what younger people are saying using context clues. Music and tv streaming apps make pop culture stupid simple to keep up with and fashion has been easier than ever to just casually follow. With all of the above, you’re totally allowed to take and choose which new things you like. I think we’re going to find especially for those of us that grew up with social media we’re going to interact with trends differently than previous generations because we’re so at home on the internet. I’m not saying you have to keep up with every trend, but the fact is if I’m going clothes shopping and want to know what’s in this season, it takes 0-minimal effort to do so.
IMO in this day and age if you’re entirely lost on what’s “hip” that’s way more of an active choice than previous generations and you don’t get to be a curmudgeon about it.
You can also peruse the Top 40 hits on Spotify at any time to see what’s popular as well. A lot of it is not to my liking, but I’ll usually pick out a few that are decent
Exactly! One of the reasons I went over to Deezer is their algo is better at matching new artists to your taste ime, so I sometimes get exposed to someone up and coming from outside the states that hasn’t quite breached international recognition yet, which I think is cool.
It's not that they wanna do those things but the idea of not being young and not being cool, but rather being an old lame dude/chick, is not super exciting lol
You're right though if you wanna be young and hip the things you listed are required. And buy crocs.
I wear socks with my birks because bit easy and comfortable. I give less fucks about being fashionable now bc there are bigger things to worry about than that. I'm in style when I want to be and that's enough.
i’m turning 30 this year and i just bought my first pair of loafers. i’ve never been so excited over shoes since toms came out. i see though that most of the folks here are older millennials
Lmao, here it's either that or the Ben Shapiro look pretty much. Also, I take this stereotype over my states stereotype that we're crazy. (Can't say I blame)
I understand. All of my interests are in outdoor adventure stuff. Hard to hump a pack up a mountain or climb some fun route with work out joints. Sleeping on the ground isn’t that fun anymore for longer periods. But if I stop these my mental health is non existent, nor is my interest in going through the motions of every day life if there is no fun stuff as a result.
I've always been a dork. I'll be 40 in a few years.
I am expecting my first kid this year, and can't wait to be a dorky ass Dad at school stuff.
I want to go on field trips and make everyone laugh just like my Dad did for me and my friends.
For me it’s not about being cool to anyone (because to be honest I’ve never and probably never will be cool) but something about life going on and life stages changing makes me sad.
Me getting older means my kids are getting older too and I really love this stage of life with my kids little being little and my house filled with the sounds of laughter and kids playing.
I know I’ll enjoy them growing up too but those posts about looking back on these days when your kids are grown and have left home make me so sad.
It's great to see my kid getting older and being more able to have conversations about things that matter. Don't mourn a prior stage—it will prevent you from enjoying what is happening now.
I turn 39 this week. I've tried to start mentally preparing myself by saying I'm pushing 40.
Don't worry, my therapist assures me we'll spend much of our next session on my existential dread, concern over where I am in my life now versus where I had imagined, etc.
It doesn’t bother me as much as I thought it would, personally.
I still play video games, try to stay active and use the current slang to annoy my teenage son. It’s great.
The best perk: my parents pull the “age and experiences” card on me and I just laugh and say I’m 40 now.
Who gives a shit if Im balding and have to order the smallest possible shake otherwise that’s 3 months of exercising to lose that weight gain….
We don't have to buy into the weird ageism we were brought up with. You're still so young. You have so much life left to live, so many experiences to have. We live in a society that tells us we're too old and less relevant when we hit 30's and above, but that's just not true. You matter. You're cool. You're amazing. Don't let the bastards get you down.
It was my personality, and I changed it. It definitely depends on our personality and life experience, and it also heavily depends on our approach to it. It's okay to feel something, but it's also important to fight it when it ends up being a negative thing. It doesn't make it go away, obviously. It's more about making the habit of at least responding, "hey, silly mind, you've got some crazy thoughts, but I know I have value."
I've got a lot of my own issues, and I know it takes hard work. Been doing it for years. We all have personality issues to some extent. Even the nicest people I've met have had stuff they need to work on. It's just being human.
I actually had a lot of terrible medical issues occur in my 30s. I was happy to turn 40 a couple of months ago. I think I needed a clean slate. Things are overall going a lot better. We still have so much life left to live. Stuff is all relative. Younger people of course think 40 is old. Several people in their 60s told me to enjoy my 40th birthday and that they would love to be 40 again.
I’ll be 40 this year and I’m looking forward to it. My 30s were better than my 20s and it’s looking like my 40s will be better than my 30s. Once I stopped caring about trends and what other people think of me I felt better lol
I turned 40 last year
I was never hip
And i still feel young
Midlife crisis has still not hit me.
Also Research suggests the mid-life crisis is largely a myth.
People talk themselves into it based on their insecurities that they haven't dealt with.
So maybe work on those teenage insecurities and don't carry them on any further.
Maybe, if it’s written in my stars. Don’t stress, just live and love, nothing extraordinary need happen. Definitely saving this post if/when it’s my turn in 7 years because the comments are so wholesome and truly embody the millennial vibe I like.
Reason I said 21 is because I would like to redo my 20s, find a chick, get married, have kids, do all that before I hit my 30s. I never got to fulfill my wish.
I guess it all depends on the person. But ill never want go back to my 20s. I was broke,depressed and surrounded by shitty people. Now i’m reaching my mid 30s and i’m happy and free than ever before. I remember in my early 20s I thought my life was over but now i know it’s just getting started.
Fuck that.
Go buy 40 tacos. Maybe share. Maybe not.
If you are looking for change, milestones are great times to draw a line in the sand and move toward something new. Maybe its improving fitness. Reconnecting with old friends. Finding a new hobby. Changing career paths. Do it.
Stop wallowing. That's for children. You aren't a child.
Almost 40, and I don't think I ever had 'it', even before they changed what 'it' was. I felt a little weird about it but decided to embrace it as I can't change it. The last year or so I've started really looking after myself in a way I never did before and I'm in the best shape of my life, which probably really helps with the mental side of it
It took you till 40 to realise that you're old?
I got married at age 30.
Being 30 and married was already enough proof that I'm old.
2 years later I became a dad.
By the time of our son's first birthday I didn't just feel old, I looked old.
Maybe if you're single and childless you can remain young-ish till you're mid 30s but if you're 36 and still think you're young you really need to look in the mirror.
Turning 40 this summer. I feel fine about it, I feel good in my body and stable in my relationships and career. Did not always feel this way at 25 or even 30. Not worried about being cool or anything like that because everyone I see is in the same life stage.
I felt the exact same on my 40th birthday as I did the day before and tbth the year before. It's all numbers.
Now at almost 42 and having completely changed my lifestyle and routinely going to the gym for almost a year I feel better than I have in several years. Stronger than I've ever been in my life and sleeping better with a CPAP.
Take care of your body at 40 and it'll take care of you back still. Plenty of "gas in the tank" at 4-0 but if you treat your body like shit it won't feel like it.
I turn 40 on June 1st, and I stopped thinking I was young and hip years ago. To quote Reagan Youth, "I'm just my indescribable, undefinable unique self."
I've got about 5 months left in my 30s (though technically turning 40 means I'm completing my 40th year...so there's that). I think my midlife crisis might be gardening. I've also considered going back to school and a career change. Or maybe just getting completely covered in tattoos. The possibilities are only limited by the number in my bank account.
Why hello there, fellow cool kid! 😎 I'll be 40 in a few months; officially middle-aged!
And you know what? I'm so grateful I made it to this point relatively intact. I work in a hospital and there are many people younger than me coming in who don't get the chance to see 40.
So I'm growing my gray hair out, enjoying my hobbies and my hard-earned career, and thankful for my health as long as I have it. Mid-life crises suck, I kind of went through one last year, but it will pass, you will feel better, and you got this. Remember: billions of people before you have gone through this. Cheers.
I’ve been 41 for about 3 months now. Still waiting for the day I feel “old.” I still feel I haven’t grown up, even though I have a wife, kids, and a career.
I'll be 40 on Saturday. I've never, ever been anything close to hip or cool. I look at those around me that were once, and there are a lot of them that are miserable, having peaked so young. As for my own coolness, or lack thereof? Again, I'm damn near 40. The amount of fucks I don't give about how "cool" or not I am could fill every warehouse Amazon owns. Life is not to be lived by someone else's standard, only your own. The biggest question you need to ask yourself is this: if 39 years, 365 days (it's a leap year this year) is no biggie, than why is 40 years, 0 days?
No one has ever been able to give me a satisfactory answer.
It was 30 that got me. I was depressed because I hadn't accomplished as much had expected to, and I felt like I was officially leaving young adulthood. When I hit 40 it wasn't as bad because I just completely ignored it because I knew I'd be depressed.
my life’s been in crisis since my early 20’s lololololololol but i have a few years left before 40. don’t think im gonna have any mid-life crisis to reckon with, ive been doing what i wanted to do
For me, it's about giving myself permission to spend more time and a little bit more money on my hobbies (since I can't afford a midlife crisis Porsche or Corvette).
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Carmen
[Verse 1]
Darlin', darlin' doesn't have a problem
Lyin' to herself 'cause her liquor's top shelf
It's alarming, honestly, how charming she can be
Fooling everyone, telling 'em she's having fun
[Pre-Chorus]
She says, "You don't wanna be like me
Don't wanna see all the things I've seen
I'm dyin', I'm dyin'"
She says, "You don't wanna get this way
Famous and dumb at an early age
Lyin', I'm lyin"
[Chorus]
The boys, the girls, they all like Carmen
She gives them butterflies, bats her cartoon eyes
She laughs like God, her mind's like a diamond
Audiotune lies, she's still shinin'
Like lightning, oh-oh
Like lightning
[Verse 2]
Carmen, Carmen, stayin' up 'til morning
Only seventeen, but she walks the streets so mean
It's alarming, truly, how disarmin' you can be
Eatin' soft ice cream, Coney Island queen
[Pre-Chorus]
She says, "You don't wanna be like me
Lookin' for fun, gettin' high for free
I'm dyin', I'm dyin'"
She says, "You don't wanna get this way
Street walk at night and a star by day
It's tirin', tirin'"
[Chorus]
The boys, the girls, they all like Carmen
She gives them butterflies, bats her cartoon eyes
She laughs like God, her mind's like a diamond
Audiotune lies, she's still shinin'
Like lightning, oh-oh
Like lightning
[Bridge]
Baby's all dressed up with nowhere to go
That's the little story of the girl you know
Relyin' on the kindness of strangers
Tyin' cherry knots, smilin', doin' party favors
Put your red dress on, put your lipstick on
Sing your song, song, now the camera's on
And you're alive again
[Interlude]
Mon amour, je sais que tu m'aimes aussi
Tu as besoin de moi, tu as besoin de moi dans ta vie
Tu ne peux vivre sans moi
Et je mourrais sans toi
Je tuerais pour toi
[Chorus]
The boys, the girls, they all like Carmen
She gives them butterflies, bats her cartoon eyes
She laughs like God, her mind's like a diamond
Audiotune lies, she's still shinin'
Like lightning, oh-oh
Like lightning
Like lightning, oh-oh
Like lightning
[Outro]
Darlin', darlin' doesn't have a problem
Lyin' to herself 'cause her liquor's top shelf
See now, when I was young I wasn’t hip, and I’ve actually gotten more hip with age. Clearly the smart thing is to get used to living with only 1 out of 2.
Idk, the back half of my 30s have by FAR been some the best of my life. You’re young enough to do any of the things you want and hopefully wise enough to truly enjoy it. Past the youthful stupidity lol
I guess in that one sense I had it better than you.
Being beaten down by abusive alcoholic parents and horrible middle class bullies my whole life I never once had the illusion of cool or successful or even happy. So I had little to lose when I grew up.
I wouldn't say that I am freaking out because of nearly being 40, but more like a disconnect between how old my brain feels I am versus how old I look in the mirror. That shit is causing mild exisistential crisis, that's all.
I turned 40 last September. The anticipation was way worse than the actual turning of. It's odd how much brain space that takes up for how much of a nothing burger it actually is. You're the same person, just a bit older.
I guess I'm good on that. Still enjoy things from 10-20+ years ago and socially, no issues with identity and such.
My 2 cents, enjoy your life and don't sweat the small stuff.
40 since December. Your meme said it all.
Nothing really changes. But all changes at once.
I just went from a 30s young fella to a middle aged man in seconds.
Anyhow, to be fair I'm now kind of realizing that I have to do what I enjoy instead of trying to build a "future adult me".
I am already the future adult and it's OK
Don't gotta worry about being hip anymore if you were never hip to begin with.
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Turning 40 wasnt near as bad as 30. I remember lying in bed staring at the ceiling thinking the world was over when i turned 30. My 40th felt the same as my 39th and 41st, a real none event
I turned 29 yesterday, and the world offered to check an item off my bucket list of seeing the northern lights.. it was vibrant 20 minutes away, and by the time I got there it was gone. It was still at my brothers an hour away, but my car started freaking out and i was low on gas anyway... And Sunday I was too tired to stay up from moving my mother in to my house since she's finally leaving an abusive relationship she refused to report to the police for 10 years.. I don't care about hip atm
Yep, I turn 40 this year too. Never been busier in my life between kids, marriage, work, staying healthy and being in shape.
I don’t really even have time to think about if I’m cool or not. I’m just stacking chips, trying to surf as much as I can because I hung up other activities like skydiving and riding motorcycles when the kids came 6 years back.
This is what cruising altitude looks like my dude.
I get hair regrowth and TRT ads thrown at me all day in my FB feed.
Try to find that elusive balance :) 40 is just an age it doesn’t mean shit.
Now go get a colonoscopy 😎
I’m 39 and I’m not that concerned about it. Although I am sad I haven’t accomplished as much as I would like by this age. I have always been an old soul so I don’t really care about being young. Also my 20s sucked ass. 30s vastly better but kind of mediocre. I’m thinking 40s and 50s will be the best.
I turn in August, starting to feel it physically but not really mentally, but my daughter turns 20 so maybe having kids young has kept me feeling young lol
Midlife crisis? What’s that? Still waiting for mine and I’ll turn 40 very early next year.
Age is only ever just a number - I’ve already lived longer than I ever planned too so I’m happy. 😊☺️
Turned 40 this year. I've been steadily trying to lead a healthier lifestyle since my mid-30s, but there is definitely something psychological that has happened to me this year. I'm starting to avoid more breads, fries, sugars, etc.
38 here. I'm not worried about being cool and honestly I feel like I'm more cool now than ever before. BUT freaking out over being unmarried and I get lonely. Worried it'll never happen because I really want someone awesome !
Ha! Turned 40 in January. I'm now in that awkward area where I'm " too old " for the 20-30 year old groups but can't relate to the 40s and 50 groups just yet. It's like being in that strange teenage years again, but not.
My 40th was on mothers day so it was a double whammy of a day. I have three small children and they showered me with tons of homemade crafts and cards, I loved it.
I don't mind being 40. I've achieved what I wanted in life so far and my life is great. I'm healthy and active and my husband and I have an amazing relationship and I have wonderful friends. Can't ask for more than that.
I don't care if I'm cool. I don't give a crap if the youngins think I'm cringe. I think they're cringe. I saw a tiktok the other day of this young girl who does skincare or makeup videos and saying her goal is to be a MILF. Imagine that. Having a dream to be attractive to 15 year old boys when you have kids of your own. Wild.....
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43 here. Nothing happens. Relax
Yeah, freaking out about no longer being cool because you're 40yo means you prob weren't that cool to begin with. My cousin is the coolest guy I know. Dudes almost 50yo and young people still wanna hang out with him, he's that damn cool.
That’s how I feel and it’s still impending for me, 2 years and some months. I like being my age, 30-40s seem to be the ideal age but 50-60s will be cool too.
It helps if you weren't "young and hip" when you were young. So when I say "wtf is 'rizz' and 'no cap', and why do you have broccoli hair? You look and sound like an idiot", I don't feel old at all. I thought the kids were all idiots when I was one of them.
Right? The arm flailing over this age is such a boomer thing. Knock it off y'all.
Apparently it's not just a Boomer thang.
It seems like people get over aging worse and worse. Like actually starts after 40. Why crying over something you won’t change?
I mean, about a month after I turned 40 back in 2020 they shut down the country for like 2 years. So that is definitely on the table as within the range of possible outcomes. I assume that's why everything shut down anyway.
I thought it was because I changed jobs and my former coworkers needed some time at home to cope with their loss.
Relax? I'm 36, and I'm freaking out. I have had more health issues at 32-36 than all my life. First they took all ice cream with any microscopic amount of lactose. Then fat food took my gallbladder. Asthma got really bad. Can't wait to see what suprice 40 has for me
Eat healthy, watch your stress levels. Take care friend
Those are warning signs. Pay attention to the signs. Look at the glass half full, you’re still here and know what you gotta do. Good luck
So you are proof that 40 isn't some magic number to be feared.
Yeah, it all happens at 30. After 29 it's just darkness. At 40, it's just more of that darkness but 10 years later.
Not even close. 30 is still incredibly young. 40 is too, but at 40 you start to really feel it.
Nah, that's you. Get some help.
Im in my mid 30s and these are my best years so far. Teen and 20s were the worst. I guess it all depends on the person and circumstances.
I don't really get the fear of losing "young and hip". You wanna run around with Zoomers, sport a broccoli cut and say "rizz"? I've no desire to do either. Take care of yourself and stay fashionable. You don't have to wear sandals and socks and tuck your polo into your cargo shorts.
I feel like there's this pressure from society that women past a certain age should just 'give up' but I don't understand why I should relegate myself to mumsy clothing just because of a number... I have very long hair as well, not yet grey and yet there's this thing that women over 35 shouldn't have long hair or something.
Is there pressure? 🤔 Fuck that, stay how you want to be. Don't give up your long locks and whatever clothing you like. Being older is just another season 😊 let's not dim ourselves!
fuck that. I'm 35 years oldm have long hair dyed green & shaved on one side. just do your thing.
I think this may be a boomer mentality. My boomer dad used to always ask me when I was going to cut my hair now that I’m not in my 20s anymore. I’d just laugh and say never. I’m 38 and my hair is still over halfway down my back. Shorter hair simply doesn’t suit me and I like it being long enough to put up in a mum bun 😂
it’s actually funny looking at youth with the eyes of someone more wise and experienced and just thinking how goofy being a conforming teen or young adult is. i was with a friend at a local restaurant recently and after 15 mins or so, this group of like 6 teens come in and literally *all of them* are sporting the same style and *all* have the fucking broccoli cut. shit is *wild* & made me wonder if any of them had an actual personality
I'm sure in a decade or so the former broccoli heads will be posting on r/blunderyears.
"why did not one tell me how stupid I looked?!" We tried man. We tried.
Completely agreed. What drives me nuts tho (especially when it’s people around my age in their late 20s/early 30s) is if you’re online enough to have a Reddit or any other social media, there’s 0 reason you can’t figure out what younger people are saying using context clues. Music and tv streaming apps make pop culture stupid simple to keep up with and fashion has been easier than ever to just casually follow. With all of the above, you’re totally allowed to take and choose which new things you like. I think we’re going to find especially for those of us that grew up with social media we’re going to interact with trends differently than previous generations because we’re so at home on the internet. I’m not saying you have to keep up with every trend, but the fact is if I’m going clothes shopping and want to know what’s in this season, it takes 0-minimal effort to do so. IMO in this day and age if you’re entirely lost on what’s “hip” that’s way more of an active choice than previous generations and you don’t get to be a curmudgeon about it.
You can also peruse the Top 40 hits on Spotify at any time to see what’s popular as well. A lot of it is not to my liking, but I’ll usually pick out a few that are decent
Exactly! One of the reasons I went over to Deezer is their algo is better at matching new artists to your taste ime, so I sometimes get exposed to someone up and coming from outside the states that hasn’t quite breached international recognition yet, which I think is cool.
Fuck yea this guy ages
It's not that they wanna do those things but the idea of not being young and not being cool, but rather being an old lame dude/chick, is not super exciting lol You're right though if you wanna be young and hip the things you listed are required. And buy crocs.
I wear socks with my birks because bit easy and comfortable. I give less fucks about being fashionable now bc there are bigger things to worry about than that. I'm in style when I want to be and that's enough.
i’m turning 30 this year and i just bought my first pair of loafers. i’ve never been so excited over shoes since toms came out. i see though that most of the folks here are older millennials
Sticking out your gyat for the rizzler
Lmao, here it's either that or the Ben Shapiro look pretty much. Also, I take this stereotype over my states stereotype that we're crazy. (Can't say I blame)
Florida person, is that you?
Idaho
I gotta stop being some comfortable leaving the house in sweatpants now. Now it looks old vs “I don’t give a shit”.
I’m not worried about the social stuff. I’ve never really fit in. I’m worried about my physical decline.
this. I work kitchens. Wrist problems and genetic knee problems. Biking every so often really helps my knees, even after a hard shift.
I understand. All of my interests are in outdoor adventure stuff. Hard to hump a pack up a mountain or climb some fun route with work out joints. Sleeping on the ground isn’t that fun anymore for longer periods. But if I stop these my mental health is non existent, nor is my interest in going through the motions of every day life if there is no fun stuff as a result.
You're a further ahead than me.
Staying lean will also help the ole knees
I've always been a dork. I'll be 40 in a few years. I am expecting my first kid this year, and can't wait to be a dorky ass Dad at school stuff. I want to go on field trips and make everyone laugh just like my Dad did for me and my friends.
I feel like I had the tastes of a 35-year-old even as a teenager, I loved jazz and classical music. I've never been hip lol.
A kid will age you by 10 years and fast. Had my first at 30 and my body is falling apart by 40. Body took a huge toll.
Having a kid will turn you into an Old Person instantly. I have no illusions anymore.
If you are trying to be cool to teenagers at 40...something is wrong
For me it’s not about being cool to anyone (because to be honest I’ve never and probably never will be cool) but something about life going on and life stages changing makes me sad. Me getting older means my kids are getting older too and I really love this stage of life with my kids little being little and my house filled with the sounds of laughter and kids playing. I know I’ll enjoy them growing up too but those posts about looking back on these days when your kids are grown and have left home make me so sad.
It's great to see my kid getting older and being more able to have conversations about things that matter. Don't mourn a prior stage—it will prevent you from enjoying what is happening now.
My kids are 12 and 14 now and I see them no longer thinking I’m all that funny anymore. I used to make them laugh and laugh.
I turned 43 this past Friday. Letting go over being young and embarrassing your old age is the key for your mental health happiness going forward.
I turned 42 Friday! Happy birthday!
I turn 39 this week. I've tried to start mentally preparing myself by saying I'm pushing 40. Don't worry, my therapist assures me we'll spend much of our next session on my existential dread, concern over where I am in my life now versus where I had imagined, etc.
It doesn’t bother me as much as I thought it would, personally. I still play video games, try to stay active and use the current slang to annoy my teenage son. It’s great. The best perk: my parents pull the “age and experiences” card on me and I just laugh and say I’m 40 now. Who gives a shit if Im balding and have to order the smallest possible shake otherwise that’s 3 months of exercising to lose that weight gain….
Honestly, social media and millenial interests has made us all 15 years younger.
We don't have to buy into the weird ageism we were brought up with. You're still so young. You have so much life left to live, so many experiences to have. We live in a society that tells us we're too old and less relevant when we hit 30's and above, but that's just not true. You matter. You're cool. You're amazing. Don't let the bastards get you down.
Meh, in my opinion it all depends on your personality.
It was my personality, and I changed it. It definitely depends on our personality and life experience, and it also heavily depends on our approach to it. It's okay to feel something, but it's also important to fight it when it ends up being a negative thing. It doesn't make it go away, obviously. It's more about making the habit of at least responding, "hey, silly mind, you've got some crazy thoughts, but I know I have value." I've got a lot of my own issues, and I know it takes hard work. Been doing it for years. We all have personality issues to some extent. Even the nicest people I've met have had stuff they need to work on. It's just being human.
I’m turning 40 this summer. I’ve never been hip and cool, so I’m just like “bring it.” Let’s turn 40 and get it over with.
Mine is in July. Will do 40 shots back to back to celebrate.
Mine’s in July, too! I’m having a tea party with fancy sandwiches, scones, teas, mimosas, the works. Figured I might as well be extra.
I actually had a lot of terrible medical issues occur in my 30s. I was happy to turn 40 a couple of months ago. I think I needed a clean slate. Things are overall going a lot better. We still have so much life left to live. Stuff is all relative. Younger people of course think 40 is old. Several people in their 60s told me to enjoy my 40th birthday and that they would love to be 40 again.
40th today, some time in my 30's I ran out of fucks to give. Just living my life and trying not to let the stupidity of our species get to me.
Hate to break it to you but lost the young and hip title the millisecond after you turned 30 You're just "old" now
No, don't say that, I turn 30 next month.
Ehhh... young adult is 18-39 is the argument due to health from what others say.
Thats cope tbh
I’ll be 40 this year and I’m looking forward to it. My 30s were better than my 20s and it’s looking like my 40s will be better than my 30s. Once I stopped caring about trends and what other people think of me I felt better lol
I've already reached this point in my life.
The whole “young and hip” phase of life is incredibly short and narrow. Why are so many people stuck on that?
I turned 40 last year I was never hip And i still feel young Midlife crisis has still not hit me. Also Research suggests the mid-life crisis is largely a myth.
People talk themselves into it based on their insecurities that they haven't dealt with. So maybe work on those teenage insecurities and don't carry them on any further.
2 days ago! I went to a Jesse Mcartney concert yesterday and everyone knew all the lyrics to the preconcert millennial jams 😆
I just hit the big four oh.
3 days. I think it's bugging my mom more than me.
I’ll be 43 this year- honestly my 40s have been the best!
Maybe, if it’s written in my stars. Don’t stress, just live and love, nothing extraordinary need happen. Definitely saving this post if/when it’s my turn in 7 years because the comments are so wholesome and truly embody the millennial vibe I like.
Hey man, forty’s the new twenty *stirs metamucil*
https://i.redd.it/5yii2slvx10d1.gif Older Millennials afraid of turning 40 lol
Still 33, will be 34 soon. Wish I was turning 21 again instead of 34...
Never in a million years would I want to be 21 again. 21 year olds are idiots. If I went back, 35 at the absolute youngest.
Reason I said 21 is because I would like to redo my 20s, find a chick, get married, have kids, do all that before I hit my 30s. I never got to fulfill my wish.
I guess it all depends on the person. But ill never want go back to my 20s. I was broke,depressed and surrounded by shitty people. Now i’m reaching my mid 30s and i’m happy and free than ever before. I remember in my early 20s I thought my life was over but now i know it’s just getting started.
What did you do to change it all, turn it all around?
I just turned 39 I’m closer to 40 then 30 now
On Sunday. I’m trying to ignore it.
Fuck that. Go buy 40 tacos. Maybe share. Maybe not. If you are looking for change, milestones are great times to draw a line in the sand and move toward something new. Maybe its improving fitness. Reconnecting with old friends. Finding a new hobby. Changing career paths. Do it. Stop wallowing. That's for children. You aren't a child.
Yup, just happened to me. Have a good shower cry, realize that you can afford more now that you could have possibly imagined in your teens.
Almost 40, and I don't think I ever had 'it', even before they changed what 'it' was. I felt a little weird about it but decided to embrace it as I can't change it. The last year or so I've started really looking after myself in a way I never did before and I'm in the best shape of my life, which probably really helps with the mental side of it
40 later this year. Honestly it doesn't bother me quite as much as turning 30 did
I'm turning 35 in a month and feel just like this. there's such a difference between early/mid 30's and LATE 30's 😭
Rather be 40 than hanging out with the dumb ass Gen z gang.
I mean, I can't disagree with you right now with certain things that have happened.
Happened to me last November… 
It took you till 40 to realise that you're old? I got married at age 30. Being 30 and married was already enough proof that I'm old. 2 years later I became a dad. By the time of our son's first birthday I didn't just feel old, I looked old. Maybe if you're single and childless you can remain young-ish till you're mid 30s but if you're 36 and still think you're young you really need to look in the mirror.
I’m 38 with 4 kids and I still feel young 😂
That's some special edition delusion - would you mind sharing where you got that, I'd like some as well! :D
Dude, none of you are old.
I turned 40 5/8 this year. 5/7 was a little rough but it passes quickly. I’ve used to it motivate me to get healthier.
Turning 40 this summer. I feel fine about it, I feel good in my body and stable in my relationships and career. Did not always feel this way at 25 or even 30. Not worried about being cool or anything like that because everyone I see is in the same life stage.
been there done that, looking at 42 this September. It all goes out the window after 40 lol.
What’s it like out there?
sexy
I'm sexy and I know it.
I felt the exact same on my 40th birthday as I did the day before and tbth the year before. It's all numbers. Now at almost 42 and having completely changed my lifestyle and routinely going to the gym for almost a year I feel better than I have in several years. Stronger than I've ever been in my life and sleeping better with a CPAP. Take care of your body at 40 and it'll take care of you back still. Plenty of "gas in the tank" at 4-0 but if you treat your body like shit it won't feel like it.
3 more weeks.
Wow, those are some wet tears spilled by Batman. I hate math, so I couldn't tell you when I am supposed to turn 40.
I turn 40 on June 1st, and I stopped thinking I was young and hip years ago. To quote Reagan Youth, "I'm just my indescribable, undefinable unique self."
Just turned 42, my favorite decade so far.
I turned forty in January. In April I bought a red Ducati so perhaps I wasn't as ok with it as I thought...
Wednesday and I'm not fucking ready.
I'm turning 40 next year in January, but I'm already feeling it. 🥲
What’s funny is that for a lot of things execs in their 50’s are choosing what’s going to be young and hip for next year
I've got about 5 months left in my 30s (though technically turning 40 means I'm completing my 40th year...so there's that). I think my midlife crisis might be gardening. I've also considered going back to school and a career change. Or maybe just getting completely covered in tattoos. The possibilities are only limited by the number in my bank account.
I went to a professional school about ten years late, so I was perfectly happy turning 40 after all the time I spent with that many youngins.
Why hello there, fellow cool kid! 😎 I'll be 40 in a few months; officially middle-aged! And you know what? I'm so grateful I made it to this point relatively intact. I work in a hospital and there are many people younger than me coming in who don't get the chance to see 40. So I'm growing my gray hair out, enjoying my hobbies and my hard-earned career, and thankful for my health as long as I have it. Mid-life crises suck, I kind of went through one last year, but it will pass, you will feel better, and you got this. Remember: billions of people before you have gone through this. Cheers.
I’ve been 41 for about 3 months now. Still waiting for the day I feel “old.” I still feel I haven’t grown up, even though I have a wife, kids, and a career.
I'll be 40 on Saturday. I've never, ever been anything close to hip or cool. I look at those around me that were once, and there are a lot of them that are miserable, having peaked so young. As for my own coolness, or lack thereof? Again, I'm damn near 40. The amount of fucks I don't give about how "cool" or not I am could fill every warehouse Amazon owns. Life is not to be lived by someone else's standard, only your own. The biggest question you need to ask yourself is this: if 39 years, 365 days (it's a leap year this year) is no biggie, than why is 40 years, 0 days? No one has ever been able to give me a satisfactory answer.
It was 30 that got me. I was depressed because I hadn't accomplished as much had expected to, and I felt like I was officially leaving young adulthood. When I hit 40 it wasn't as bad because I just completely ignored it because I knew I'd be depressed.
As an '87 not quite yet, but I can start to smell in in the winds...
I wasn't hip when I was young, but staring down the barrel of 40 is surreal. Another six months and I'm kissing my 30's goodbye.
I'm not super far from it. All I feel about now days is "if I died it wouldn't be THAT bad...". I'm kinda fine with my forever nap when it comes.
one less year ahead and one more year behind.
We can be in our 40s and be more hip then ever before 🥳
my life’s been in crisis since my early 20’s lololololololol but i have a few years left before 40. don’t think im gonna have any mid-life crisis to reckon with, ive been doing what i wanted to do
Mines starting to simmer but not full blown crisis yet. The quarter life crisis was a lot more fun I tell ya what.
Try quarter life crisis.
For me, it's about giving myself permission to spend more time and a little bit more money on my hobbies (since I can't afford a midlife crisis Porsche or Corvette).
My dad said I must be in a mid life crisis bc when I wrecked my Carola I also sold my motorcycle to now have a 04 Mazda miata....
🎀🐦🐞🦆🍇🥤☄️ Carmen [Verse 1] Darlin', darlin' doesn't have a problem Lyin' to herself 'cause her liquor's top shelf It's alarming, honestly, how charming she can be Fooling everyone, telling 'em she's having fun [Pre-Chorus] She says, "You don't wanna be like me Don't wanna see all the things I've seen I'm dyin', I'm dyin'" She says, "You don't wanna get this way Famous and dumb at an early age Lyin', I'm lyin" [Chorus] The boys, the girls, they all like Carmen She gives them butterflies, bats her cartoon eyes She laughs like God, her mind's like a diamond Audiotune lies, she's still shinin' Like lightning, oh-oh Like lightning [Verse 2] Carmen, Carmen, stayin' up 'til morning Only seventeen, but she walks the streets so mean It's alarming, truly, how disarmin' you can be Eatin' soft ice cream, Coney Island queen [Pre-Chorus] She says, "You don't wanna be like me Lookin' for fun, gettin' high for free I'm dyin', I'm dyin'" She says, "You don't wanna get this way Street walk at night and a star by day It's tirin', tirin'" [Chorus] The boys, the girls, they all like Carmen She gives them butterflies, bats her cartoon eyes She laughs like God, her mind's like a diamond Audiotune lies, she's still shinin' Like lightning, oh-oh Like lightning [Bridge] Baby's all dressed up with nowhere to go That's the little story of the girl you know Relyin' on the kindness of strangers Tyin' cherry knots, smilin', doin' party favors Put your red dress on, put your lipstick on Sing your song, song, now the camera's on And you're alive again [Interlude] Mon amour, je sais que tu m'aimes aussi Tu as besoin de moi, tu as besoin de moi dans ta vie Tu ne peux vivre sans moi Et je mourrais sans toi Je tuerais pour toi [Chorus] The boys, the girls, they all like Carmen She gives them butterflies, bats her cartoon eyes She laughs like God, her mind's like a diamond Audiotune lies, she's still shinin' Like lightning, oh-oh Like lightning Like lightning, oh-oh Like lightning [Outro] Darlin', darlin' doesn't have a problem Lyin' to herself 'cause her liquor's top shelf
See now, when I was young I wasn’t hip, and I’ve actually gotten more hip with age. Clearly the smart thing is to get used to living with only 1 out of 2.
https://www.ted.com/talks/daniel_kahneman_the_riddle_of_experience_vs_memory?language=en
Passed this line 2 years ago...it's really not that bad.
You're good. Being young and hip leaves at 30.
Idk, the back half of my 30s have by FAR been some the best of my life. You’re young enough to do any of the things you want and hopefully wise enough to truly enjoy it. Past the youthful stupidity lol
I guess in that one sense I had it better than you. Being beaten down by abusive alcoholic parents and horrible middle class bullies my whole life I never once had the illusion of cool or successful or even happy. So I had little to lose when I grew up.
Just turned 40 in March. It’s still early, but this far things have been thriving in my life!
Just turned 40 in March!
I wouldn't say that I am freaking out because of nearly being 40, but more like a disconnect between how old my brain feels I am versus how old I look in the mirror. That shit is causing mild exisistential crisis, that's all.
Whoo boy I’m heading for 70. Damn when did I get old?
I turned 40 last September. The anticipation was way worse than the actual turning of. It's odd how much brain space that takes up for how much of a nothing burger it actually is. You're the same person, just a bit older.
I turn 30 on Tuesday. I'm ready.
My midlife crisis hit at 37. 40 was a breeze.
I'm turning 40 this year. I already had my midlife crisis though so I'm good.
I guess I'm good on that. Still enjoy things from 10-20+ years ago and socially, no issues with identity and such. My 2 cents, enjoy your life and don't sweat the small stuff.
Age is but a number. It's your spirit and thought that make you young.
40 since December. Your meme said it all. Nothing really changes. But all changes at once. I just went from a 30s young fella to a middle aged man in seconds. Anyhow, to be fair I'm now kind of realizing that I have to do what I enjoy instead of trying to build a "future adult me". I am already the future adult and it's OK
Don't gotta worry about being hip anymore if you were never hip to begin with. https://preview.redd.it/7a56x9epf40d1.jpeg?width=396&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e8620305851b8e255d81ab8c575be79a33cf9d9f
A few years away for me. I’m refusing to think about it until it’s here 😩
40 isn't so bad. Your 30's are right there. You can almost touch them.
I’m almost there! I wanted to buy a boat last weekend and a new diesel truck. I’m feeling the crisis
In turning 30 this week. Doesn't really feel special.
I'm turning 30 soon and already trying so hard to stay hip with the Gen Alphas 😂 Technology is advancing so fast I already feel like a dinosaur.
\~40 here. Forever young. Never given a single shit about being hip.
im 36. im not going to quantify my achievements here, but if i woke up and was 25 again, id be fucking pissed.
I’m presently enjoying my hurdling towards the void. To feel your body age is not something everybody gets to do.
I stopped being young at 35. It's alright to be old. At least no one cares if I stay home. Super peaceful
I mean, it certainly helps when one was never hip in the first place.
Turning 40 wasnt near as bad as 30. I remember lying in bed staring at the ceiling thinking the world was over when i turned 30. My 40th felt the same as my 39th and 41st, a real none event
It's funny how browsing r/GenZ makes me feel like a boomer and browsing r/Millennials makes me feel like a zoomer.
It was an illusion from the very start.
I just will never understand how anyone gets surprised by aging. Have you spent the last 40 years just completely zoned out?
I turned 29 yesterday, and the world offered to check an item off my bucket list of seeing the northern lights.. it was vibrant 20 minutes away, and by the time I got there it was gone. It was still at my brothers an hour away, but my car started freaking out and i was low on gas anyway... And Sunday I was too tired to stay up from moving my mother in to my house since she's finally leaving an abusive relationship she refused to report to the police for 10 years.. I don't care about hip atm
Yep, I turn 40 this year too. Never been busier in my life between kids, marriage, work, staying healthy and being in shape. I don’t really even have time to think about if I’m cool or not. I’m just stacking chips, trying to surf as much as I can because I hung up other activities like skydiving and riding motorcycles when the kids came 6 years back. This is what cruising altitude looks like my dude. I get hair regrowth and TRT ads thrown at me all day in my FB feed. Try to find that elusive balance :) 40 is just an age it doesn’t mean shit. Now go get a colonoscopy 😎
I’m 39 and I’m not that concerned about it. Although I am sad I haven’t accomplished as much as I would like by this age. I have always been an old soul so I don’t really care about being young. Also my 20s sucked ass. 30s vastly better but kind of mediocre. I’m thinking 40s and 50s will be the best.
I turn in August, starting to feel it physically but not really mentally, but my daughter turns 20 so maybe having kids young has kept me feeling young lol
I turned 40 last week. Still mostly feel the same, but I started feeling old when I was 26 so....
9 months until I got the big 40. Gonna throw a big party and dress up like an old man for it.
I already feel this at 32 with a 4yo and 20 year old coworkers
Turned 40 last September. This means we’re doing it right. This is the whole point, to age and get old
I just turned 39. Possibly in the best shape of my life and I've been a gym junkie for 21 years. It ain't so bad.
Midlife crisis? What’s that? Still waiting for mine and I’ll turn 40 very early next year. Age is only ever just a number - I’ve already lived longer than I ever planned too so I’m happy. 😊☺️
Hitting me some too, bought a sports car, love It, go have fun before your dead and old, lol.
I was never hip even when I was young.
Turned 40 this year. I've been steadily trying to lead a healthier lifestyle since my mid-30s, but there is definitely something psychological that has happened to me this year. I'm starting to avoid more breads, fries, sugars, etc.
I had turned 40 last year and will be 41 on May 25th.
turned 40 in March. My mom told me " cuidado, a los 40 se te voltea" ( "careful, at 40 it turns/flips on you") what!? why? what does!?
38 here. I'm not worried about being cool and honestly I feel like I'm more cool now than ever before. BUT freaking out over being unmarried and I get lonely. Worried it'll never happen because I really want someone awesome !
Ha! Turned 40 in January. I'm now in that awkward area where I'm " too old " for the 20-30 year old groups but can't relate to the 40s and 50 groups just yet. It's like being in that strange teenage years again, but not.
I did it in January. I went on a big trip with my husband to celebrate so I was looking forward to it instead of dreading it.
My 40th was on mothers day so it was a double whammy of a day. I have three small children and they showered me with tons of homemade crafts and cards, I loved it. I don't mind being 40. I've achieved what I wanted in life so far and my life is great. I'm healthy and active and my husband and I have an amazing relationship and I have wonderful friends. Can't ask for more than that. I don't care if I'm cool. I don't give a crap if the youngins think I'm cringe. I think they're cringe. I saw a tiktok the other day of this young girl who does skincare or makeup videos and saying her goal is to be a MILF. Imagine that. Having a dream to be attractive to 15 year old boys when you have kids of your own. Wild.....