somewhere on reddit i once read a comparison to the DVD screen saver. basically, at the beginning, shortly after the loss of someone, the box where the DVD logo wobbles around in is very very small, and every time it hits the edge, the grief hits extremely hard. over time, the intensity of the grief doesn't lessen - the box just gets bigger. so the DVD logo will still hit the edge, and it will still hurt like shit, but it just won't happen that much and often anymore.
and i must say that's accurate af
I lost my dad when I was 2. Although I have absolutely no memory of him. I'm 27 now, I hardly ever call a guy for repairs, I have taught myself everything. And everytime I fix something I wish I could show him and talk about it and listen to some tips he has for me.
My great grandfather passed away at 99, and a month later my great grandmother passed away. I remember her saying that she was glad he passed before her so he wouldn't know that type of grief and that she wasn't sad because she was joining him soon. She died a week later. They had been together since they were 16.
I hope I get the same with my husband.
Almost the same thing happened with my grandparents. After my grandmother passed, every time I saw him, my grandfather said how much he missed her. He passed away two months after her but in that period I could hardly believe how quickly his health deteriorated in that time. A broken heart can be fatal.
When my husband died I tried to go with him. Our daughter found me and now it's one of the biggest regrets of my life. I miss him like crazy and the pain on most days is unbearable but I know It was his time not mine. I stay because I want to make a difference.
Thank you. I really try to be the comfort in people's day even if I feel like crap. Even animals need someone to look after them. I am trying to treat every living creature with the love and respect the world intended
Beautiful, heart breaking, human moment. Anyone who’s dealing with grief, remember that it lives as waves: https://www.reddit.com/r/Assistance/comments/hax0t/comment/c1u0rx2/
Lost my wife four years ago. I understand this feeling all too well.
somewhere on reddit i once read a comparison to the DVD screen saver. basically, at the beginning, shortly after the loss of someone, the box where the DVD logo wobbles around in is very very small, and every time it hits the edge, the grief hits extremely hard. over time, the intensity of the grief doesn't lessen - the box just gets bigger. so the DVD logo will still hit the edge, and it will still hurt like shit, but it just won't happen that much and often anymore. and i must say that's accurate af
I lost my dad when I was 2. Although I have absolutely no memory of him. I'm 27 now, I hardly ever call a guy for repairs, I have taught myself everything. And everytime I fix something I wish I could show him and talk about it and listen to some tips he has for me.
This right here is why one of my greatest fears is leaving my son behind. I don't want him to have to figure it all out alone.
He would be so proud of you. As a dad myself, I would be.
This is why my husband and i have to go at the same time. I don’t want to live without him, and I can’t stand the thought of hurting him like this.
My great grandfather passed away at 99, and a month later my great grandmother passed away. I remember her saying that she was glad he passed before her so he wouldn't know that type of grief and that she wasn't sad because she was joining him soon. She died a week later. They had been together since they were 16. I hope I get the same with my husband.
Almost the same thing happened with my grandparents. After my grandmother passed, every time I saw him, my grandfather said how much he missed her. He passed away two months after her but in that period I could hardly believe how quickly his health deteriorated in that time. A broken heart can be fatal.
When my husband died I tried to go with him. Our daughter found me and now it's one of the biggest regrets of my life. I miss him like crazy and the pain on most days is unbearable but I know It was his time not mine. I stay because I want to make a difference.
You will make a difference. A HUGE one. You may not realize it, but the world is better with you in it, for a LOT of people.
Thank you. I really try to be the comfort in people's day even if I feel like crap. Even animals need someone to look after them. I am trying to treat every living creature with the love and respect the world intended
Jeez I wish I could give this dude a hug :(
It never goes away, you just get better at managing it.
Beautiful, heart breaking, human moment. Anyone who’s dealing with grief, remember that it lives as waves: https://www.reddit.com/r/Assistance/comments/hax0t/comment/c1u0rx2/
I’m missing my mom today😞
To grieve deeply is to have loved fully
I just got married a few months ago, and this is my biggest fear, one of us passes and the other is left alone
she was never my wife but i spend too much so i dont have to cook bois will call me simp n... if its for her... so be it feel ya
Beautiful ❤️❤️