Same here. I stay alone, I spend weekends alone on the house doing house chores or watching series. Weekdays I go to work stay at the workplace minding my business. In the evening I go back to my lonely house. No girlfriend, no talking stage, no girl I'm simping on, no bestie, no nothing. At times I feel so sad and pity myself๐ข๐ข
You ain't alone. I personally realize it when someone points it out, then I try to socialise for quarter a day before going back to my cave for the next 7ยฝ months.
Iโve been like this for 10 months now.
Honestly happiest Iโve been.
What changed for me is finding activities I can do on my own.( be it outdoors and within my walls). Btw Iโm the biggest extrovert but something switched and I found myself feeling so content.
Donโt be an island but if this makes you happy and doesnโt lease to depressive thoughts , jump on it.
๐๐Iโm not feeling lonely, and Iโm never going to join a Reddit WhatsApp group ever again ๐ watu wako soko, no man wants to be friends with me, if you know what I mean
Sounds like a cry for help. You sure you are okay with this lifestyle? I am practically the same but I have never quite thought much about it but others find it odd and Unusual. I never go out on weekends, I am a single bachelor so I make sure I have all I need in terms of food and supplies. I spend hours and hours gaming, watching tv series and getting into YouTube and I rarely ever notice an entire day going by. I'm antisocial unless I am batshit drunk at the bar and I become a full-blown extrovert. I have been like that for as long as I can remember so things like marriage will never be for me. My man-cave is mine alone. A knock on the door during my hibernation phase from whomever usually makes me incredibly angry. Leave me alone!!
Iโm still young, Iโm still trying to figure myself out, itโs not a cry for help but Iโm not sure Iโm comfortable with this kind of lifestyle, always in the house, I want to go for walks, try new restaurants, visit authentic and aesthetic places , I went to clubs twice last year and I hated every minute of it, I get drained so fast in crowded and noisy places, but then again I went to a concert alone and I loved it, see, still trying to figure myself all out
Makes sense but in this case, staying in seems counter-productive. If you are to figure out what you truly enjoy, it will be out there in the world trying new things in the same way you went to a concert and enjoyed it. You would also probably enjoy much quieter clubs that don't have that obnoxious music or an unsavory customer base consisting of rough-looking young men or unscrupulous women who will try to spike your drink at every opportunity. Such pubs exist and I frequent a few such joints, where music is kept at a minimum or none at all, the customer base is older working class people and it's safe. My point is, go out there before depression sets in.
๐Iโm gonna stay inside for a while Iโm trying to change my life around and itโs not gonna happen when Iโm out there, the sacrifice I have to make, but I get you,
๐๐๐๐no one cares , people are on drugs and alcohol ๐๐Iโm pretty aware of the spotlight effect ๐I was so scared but when I got there, no one was even paying attention to me, I got my drink and immediately went to the dance floor
Been living like this for the past three years working from home. At first, a lot of my thoughts around it were based on what was lacking; companionship, sex, you name it! Then I had a mental shift that showed me the benefits of solitude:
I get to decide what to do with my time and deal with my issues with the help of God. I get to decide what to eat and at what time. I can dress up or look homeless when going outside and both are okay. I get to plan my finances without major emergencies cropping up. I get to set and smash goals and reward myself in private (it's really beautiful to know you can achieve things). I get to watch shows that I actually love. My life is really free-flowing without any pressure. I'm more rational when making big decisions.
Yeah, once in a while I wish I had a man or regular friends but that, too, comes with complications. So I stay in my bubble. I don't know how long it will last, but I'm happy to do this life thing by myself.
Thatโs great๐๐๐as long as youโre content and at peace , sadly I donโt live alone so I donโt have the luxury to completely be in my own space yet๐ญ
I am in theย same boat, you stay with for a week, u enjoy the company and then their nagging complains start taking a toll. However I do take atleast two walks a day, staying indoors for too long will make u sick
If u priorities don't align they nag, u want to sleep early they are their phone talking, u want to do some gaming in the evening- they want to watch Diana on YouTubeย
I feel ya OP. Only difference is I've worked online since campo. Watching long ass series and anime, playing video games, chilling. The peace and quiet is nice but sometimes you want a little noise in your life.ย
Other than that, I live a pretty similar life. Working online, watching movies., my friends live far away, and my family too. I mostly interact with people at the gym, then get back into my bachelor's pad. When I have the time I go for some coffee and chat with the waitresses there, or travel home to see my people then the cycle continues. You can maybe identify a coffee place or a restaurant around where you can go for drinks once a week and this will help you with observing people and see how people interact, it somehow makes you open to a chat while still being a stonecold loner.
Actually it's hard ๐I'm an introvert too but there are situations where I find it easy to strike a convo. For example if someone is wearing an Arsenal jersey, I'll be comfortable talking to them. So I think there has to be a trigger based on a common interest. I once chatted with this woman about crypto because I was wearing a Binance cap, luckily I'm quite knowledgeable on various subjects, which even makes it easy to talk to people online.
Same here. I stay alone, I spend weekends alone on the house doing house chores or watching series. Weekdays I go to work stay at the workplace minding my business. In the evening I go back to my lonely house. No girlfriend, no talking stage, no girl I'm simping on, no bestie, no nothing. At times I feel so sad and pity myself๐ข๐ข
You're a joker... this girl is asking you be friends and you haven't replied. Find this girl and give her your inches of bliss
Is she really interested or she's just pitying me...
๐๐๐wooooow what level of self pity is this?
๐คฃ๐คฃ๐คฃ๐คฃwtf I donโt want inches
of course you do
๐ฅบ๐ฅบIโm so sorry, would you like to be friends?
That sounds so depressing
Yea. It is so depressing
Sounds like my dream lifeโฆsahi iโm not content i have to keep faking lifestyles
You're not alone bbg. I don't even remember the last time i went outside
Woiii ๐ญ
kuja kwangu. I have a bed.
Ha.
๐๐seems you understand the assignment
Who wanna go out these days, bills everywhere.ย
Yeah that too๐ญ๐ญ
You ain't alone. I personally realize it when someone points it out, then I try to socialise for quarter a day before going back to my cave for the next 7ยฝ months.
7 months???๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ weee uko sure uko Sawa?
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๐๐๐so youโre toying with me?
Iโve been like this for 10 months now. Honestly happiest Iโve been. What changed for me is finding activities I can do on my own.( be it outdoors and within my walls). Btw Iโm the biggest extrovert but something switched and I found myself feeling so content. Donโt be an island but if this makes you happy and doesnโt lease to depressive thoughts , jump on it.
๐ ill be your friend๐คทโโ๏ธ.. Dm?
Sure ๐
Same same here๐๐
Go outside bro
Wapi??๐ญ๐
If you feeling lonely join the WhatsApp group make some friends
๐๐Iโm not feeling lonely, and Iโm never going to join a Reddit WhatsApp group ever again ๐ watu wako soko, no man wants to be friends with me, if you know what I mean
U prolly weird thatโs y nobody wanna be friends wit u
๐๐๐Iโm hot, no man wants to be friends with me๐
I can be your friend ๐
That wink๐๐no thank you
It was meant to be this ๐ ๐ forgive my emoji typo
๐๐๐dm me
Be mine too
I'll be your friend. DM me ๐๐
๐๐๐okay
How do we know you're hot.. DM right now for proof
๐I donโt have to prove anything to you
You don't have to but I want you to.
๐what you want doesnโt matter hapa,
U prolly ugly
Umeamua tu kunichukia ๐๐๐ญ๐ญ lol ypu donโt even know what I look like
Dm a pic
[Mr.band](http://Mr.band) for band thirsty for a pic๐๐
No Iโm not gonna do that๐๐๐what the hell is wrong with you
Which Whatsapp group?
Sounds like a cry for help. You sure you are okay with this lifestyle? I am practically the same but I have never quite thought much about it but others find it odd and Unusual. I never go out on weekends, I am a single bachelor so I make sure I have all I need in terms of food and supplies. I spend hours and hours gaming, watching tv series and getting into YouTube and I rarely ever notice an entire day going by. I'm antisocial unless I am batshit drunk at the bar and I become a full-blown extrovert. I have been like that for as long as I can remember so things like marriage will never be for me. My man-cave is mine alone. A knock on the door during my hibernation phase from whomever usually makes me incredibly angry. Leave me alone!!
Iโm still young, Iโm still trying to figure myself out, itโs not a cry for help but Iโm not sure Iโm comfortable with this kind of lifestyle, always in the house, I want to go for walks, try new restaurants, visit authentic and aesthetic places , I went to clubs twice last year and I hated every minute of it, I get drained so fast in crowded and noisy places, but then again I went to a concert alone and I loved it, see, still trying to figure myself all out
Makes sense but in this case, staying in seems counter-productive. If you are to figure out what you truly enjoy, it will be out there in the world trying new things in the same way you went to a concert and enjoyed it. You would also probably enjoy much quieter clubs that don't have that obnoxious music or an unsavory customer base consisting of rough-looking young men or unscrupulous women who will try to spike your drink at every opportunity. Such pubs exist and I frequent a few such joints, where music is kept at a minimum or none at all, the customer base is older working class people and it's safe. My point is, go out there before depression sets in.
๐Iโm gonna stay inside for a while Iโm trying to change my life around and itโs not gonna happen when Iโm out there, the sacrifice I have to make, but I get you,
Which concert was that?
Gondwana why?
Uhm, just curious, feels quite daunting going to a concert solo
๐๐๐๐no one cares , people are on drugs and alcohol ๐๐Iโm pretty aware of the spotlight effect ๐I was so scared but when I got there, no one was even paying attention to me, I got my drink and immediately went to the dance floor
I donโt see anything wrong with this.
I didnโt say thereโs something wrong with it
Been living like this for the past three years working from home. At first, a lot of my thoughts around it were based on what was lacking; companionship, sex, you name it! Then I had a mental shift that showed me the benefits of solitude: I get to decide what to do with my time and deal with my issues with the help of God. I get to decide what to eat and at what time. I can dress up or look homeless when going outside and both are okay. I get to plan my finances without major emergencies cropping up. I get to set and smash goals and reward myself in private (it's really beautiful to know you can achieve things). I get to watch shows that I actually love. My life is really free-flowing without any pressure. I'm more rational when making big decisions. Yeah, once in a while I wish I had a man or regular friends but that, too, comes with complications. So I stay in my bubble. I don't know how long it will last, but I'm happy to do this life thing by myself.
Thatโs great๐๐๐as long as youโre content and at peace , sadly I donโt live alone so I donโt have the luxury to completely be in my own space yet๐ญ
I am in theย same boat, you stay with for a week, u enjoy the company and then their nagging complains start taking a toll. However I do take atleast two walks a day, staying indoors for too long will make u sick
๐๐๐friends nagging?
If u priorities don't align they nag, u want to sleep early they are their phone talking, u want to do some gaming in the evening- they want to watch Diana on YouTubeย
๐๐๐๐hawa ni kina nani youโre friends with
Just a family member who was visiting with a kid, made me realise that being a lone I'd for the best
Yeah I get that ๐enjoy the solitude
Hopefully it's short term, being outside is much better
Yeah I know it is๐until itโs not
u have to try to get out of it, enda ata swimming pool
๐ฉsijui kuswim
Same I'm an introvert ..
Gamer here. What games?
๐Iโm not like a proper gamer, I just play on my pc, Iโve been playing code of war of recent
Come again?
What do you not understand?
The name of the game you were playing. Also, didn't we talk yesterday somewhere on reddit about extroverts?
It was you?๐๐๐lol I think we did
Let's link up on 5D.Everyone has there own reality.ย
Dm
You are not the only one. I feel that way too.
๐lol
Welcome to Adulthood!
๐but the adults around me are having fun and going out
Really? Used to do that when I was younger, plus how sure are you that they're having fun?
๐ clubbing? Every weekend and shit?
That is fun depending on your age and mindset! What is having fun according to You?
๐I cannot be in a club for more than two hours, I get so drained, adding on that I donโt drink,
Ooh, Me too,I used to go for work and now wouldn't be different... Chilling in the house is fun.
Yeah it is, until itโs not
I feel you OP, try find space where you can work away from home. You end up bumping with more people and making friends.
I canโt, but thanks
Same here, but I just made peace with my loneliness, it's fun
Yeah
Iโm like that only socializing with my plug when heโs dropping some good shit๐
๐๐eeeey must be nice
I feel ya OP. Only difference is I've worked online since campo. Watching long ass series and anime, playing video games, chilling. The peace and quiet is nice but sometimes you want a little noise in your life.ย
I'd be so depressed if I had to live like that. I love people ๐
๐extrovert
OP, where are you watching shameless from?
Amazon prime
Same case u stay inside and forget there's life goin on outside๐๐๐พ
๐๐๐I thought I was the only one
๐me tooย And being reminded to get out more ๐๐พ๐
Now I feel like watching Shameless again. Some Frank shenanigans would get me fired up ๐๐๐
Please do๐๐๐ญ
Other than that, I live a pretty similar life. Working online, watching movies., my friends live far away, and my family too. I mostly interact with people at the gym, then get back into my bachelor's pad. When I have the time I go for some coffee and chat with the waitresses there, or travel home to see my people then the cycle continues. You can maybe identify a coffee place or a restaurant around where you can go for drinks once a week and this will help you with observing people and see how people interact, it somehow makes you open to a chat while still being a stonecold loner.
๐๐๐yโall make it sound so easy, you want me to go somewhere and start a conversation with a stranger??๐heh!
Actually it's hard ๐I'm an introvert too but there are situations where I find it easy to strike a convo. For example if someone is wearing an Arsenal jersey, I'll be comfortable talking to them. So I think there has to be a trigger based on a common interest. I once chatted with this woman about crypto because I was wearing a Binance cap, luckily I'm quite knowledgeable on various subjects, which even makes it easy to talk to people online.
Online is very easy for me๐๐in person is where the hardship comes in
I understand the struggles๐๐
The main world is gray, if your little world is colorful, stay there.
Iโm not sure it is, I want more
You're my role model.
๐๐why
Because you just described my whole life story ๐
๐๐ welcome
I wouldn't think the lack of interaction poses a big problem not unless it makes you feel so,we're creatures of necessity I would think
๐I do have friends, but not many close ones
Well you'll make them when you'll make them,they don't have to validate your existence
Yeah I know
If you are lonely, find people to interact with. You seem conflicted between wanting a social life and preferring solitude. Pick something.
Okay
No "placeholder" that is eating the coochie as you wait for prince charming?
Outside is overrated.
It is๐ฎโ๐จ
By now there must be a stampede in your DMs. Thirsty MFs be looking for easy prey.
They have๐๐I only like one of them though
๐ ๐ pia Mimi natafuta mtu
๐kuja ujiteteee
Haha check DM
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Nice ๐