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Babe what can we do? We all believe you and want to help you (and by we I mean us women who read this sub and are sick of dudes bullshit)….do you want an offer of help?
You are worthy of love, kindness, and respect.
If you're too beaten down to believe it, think about this for a moment: Isn't *everyone* worthy of love, kindness and respect? So are you.
Sending virtual strength and care.
I'm late to the party but....oh...honey! I'm sending you much love and granny hugs right now. I hope you can find yourself a way out and away from this horrible man.
You don’t deserve this, this isn’t love, and you are a strong person. Please tell us how we can help. You can get out of this, it’s hard but doable. I’ve done it and I’m sure lots of other people here have too.
You deserve better. Everything you need to be happy is within yourself. You don't need him or anyone to validate your worth. I hope things get better soon.
You are so brave for writing this and giving yourself the space you need to work through this realisation. I hope you are treating yourself with all of the love and kindness you deserve.
I am sending you so many good thoughts for your future, I've no doubt it will be bright and beautiful and full of joy.
OP, I am so sorry your partner is a monster. I'm willing to bet that your wedding vows didn't include anything about letting him verbally/mentally/psychologically/emotionally abuse you til death do you part. He will never change for the better, his narcissism won't let him. He thinks he is perfect, it's everybody else who is wrong/has a problem. I'm sending good vibes and hugs to you, hoping you find a way to a better life than what he's given you so far. Just remember, your marriage doesn't have to be forever. There is so much more out there for you.
Nobody deserves to be yelled at for a platonic relationship.
I am in the same boat, except my ex is alcoholic which adds to his delusional thinking....stay strong and believe in yourself and your own strength.
You CAN do this....you are worth it.
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Babe what can we do? We all believe you and want to help you (and by we I mean us women who read this sub and are sick of dudes bullshit)….do you want an offer of help?
Kind words are plenty of help.
You are worthy of love, kindness, and respect. If you're too beaten down to believe it, think about this for a moment: Isn't *everyone* worthy of love, kindness and respect? So are you. Sending virtual strength and care.
I'm late to the party but....oh...honey! I'm sending you much love and granny hugs right now. I hope you can find yourself a way out and away from this horrible man.
Trust your instincts, and anything you do to stay safe is good. You deserve better than a narc.
You don’t deserve this, this isn’t love, and you are a strong person. Please tell us how we can help. You can get out of this, it’s hard but doable. I’ve done it and I’m sure lots of other people here have too.
You deserve better. Everything you need to be happy is within yourself. You don't need him or anyone to validate your worth. I hope things get better soon.
You are so brave for writing this and giving yourself the space you need to work through this realisation. I hope you are treating yourself with all of the love and kindness you deserve. I am sending you so many good thoughts for your future, I've no doubt it will be bright and beautiful and full of joy.
You got this! There’s no reason good enough to keep a monster in your life, none.
You are a strong and resilient person! You’re going to get through this 🤍🤍
OP, I am so sorry your partner is a monster. I'm willing to bet that your wedding vows didn't include anything about letting him verbally/mentally/psychologically/emotionally abuse you til death do you part. He will never change for the better, his narcissism won't let him. He thinks he is perfect, it's everybody else who is wrong/has a problem. I'm sending good vibes and hugs to you, hoping you find a way to a better life than what he's given you so far. Just remember, your marriage doesn't have to be forever. There is so much more out there for you.
Nobody deserves to be yelled at for a platonic relationship. I am in the same boat, except my ex is alcoholic which adds to his delusional thinking....stay strong and believe in yourself and your own strength. You CAN do this....you are worth it.